Birth should be special | Florence Wilcock | TEDxNHS
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 ก.พ. 2023
- Florence Wilcock begins her TEDxNHS talk like no other. Reflecting on her years of clinical and personal experience, she shares stories, challenges the status quo, and most importantly, makes us smile, to uncover what is truly important about this life-changing experience.
Trigger warning: Birth loss, birth trauma. Florence is a consultant obstetrician working in NHS maternity services and specialises in improving women’s experience of maternity care and working with midwives to support women with personalised birth preferences. Florence is also a lead obstetrician for perinatal mental health, has a joint clinic with perinatal mental health colleagues and a member of her local Maternity Voice Partnership.
As a member of the London Maternity Clinical Network. Florence was responsible for bringing the innovative ‘Whose Shoes’ developed by Gill Phillips to Maternity, and running a series of these workshops piloted across London in 2014. As a result she co-founded #MatExp with Gill Phillips; a grassroots movement of women, families and staff caring for them working together to improve maternity services. Florence also produces the podcast TheObsPod to demystify obstetrics and help both maternity staff and families going through maternity care understand a bit more about the role of the obstetrician.
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@theobspod This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I started birthing my babies at home, undisturbed in my room. They have been the most blissful births! I believe the way a mother brings her baby into this world makes a huge impact on humanity….women are meant to protect birth.
The title says it all. What a wonderful wise and empathetic talk from someone so informed and experienced. We need to really review how we view and approach birth. Thank you 😍
This feels a lot like the discussion about the education system. One size fits all, industrial, antiquated. After decades of improvements the human was forgotten in the process.
Couldn’t agree more ❤ it’s great that consultants like you exist in the world to challenge the status quo and improve things for everyone. Will never be able to thank you enough for the likewise cathartic and reparative second birth you gave me too ❤ you listened to and supported me with my wishes. I felt heard and I mattered too. That meant everything! Thank you thank you thank you.
"neither baby vs mother nor safety and test baby and mother to help promote safe birth and positive birth for as many mothers and babies as possible thank you"
Thank you allot💗💗💗
Fantastic, thanks so much Florence. Yes, absolutely, perception of control is the key. All obstetricians should see and listen to this TED talk, 10 times if necessary, until it sinks in.
Am raising 3 hands, standing on both feet with you Florence for supporting women in a free and positive birth experience
I feel like this is important:
women shouldn't be giving birth on their backs. It actually is dangerous when you think about it. Women should either be on their sides or they should be squatting.
say wot??!!
It's on par with taking a sh*t.
You should be propped up. Just for a different kind of piece of sh*t.
Absolutely. Squatting, kneeling, on all fours… these positions allow for optimal pelvic opening and give baby the best space to move down and out. Laying on one’s back actually reduces the pelvic opening by up to 30% and cause cause a greater risk of complications. Birth is a primal, natural, physiological event. You dont see other mammals birth their young in the lithotomy position for a reason. It’s not natural nor instinctual. And certainly comes with its own risks.
I really wanted to squat with my second birth but with both children my instinct was to lie on my side but I have birth on my back. It hurt too much to do anything but be on my side. Not sure how to give birth that way.
I hope to do a birthing pool if I have a third
@@Sp00nie yes i totally agree with you, i did home birth, the moment of pushing the baby out, my feeling told my body to move a few position from standing, to doggy then end up to kneeling. its all natural. its so amazing. "every women is made to give birth" one doula once said
Best TEDx Talk ever! THANK YOU!!!
Both your birth experiences echo mine. Sadly 10 years on from my first born's arrival I am still on a high dose of anti-depressants and was diagnosed with PTSD and have had PND twice (even though my 2nd child's birth was in stark contrast to my 1st child's). I don't think I will ever get past the horror of those 36 hours and then the days that followed in hospital. I had no specific plan or an expectation it would be easy (my Mum had me as a footling breech..ouch!) but I was let down, ignored and given unbalanced information. Give me Florence Fluff anyday!
"if we all club together IMAGINE how POWERFUL that would be" !! Yes!!!
Florence, thank you so much for this amazing talk.
Anyone ever noticed that in the thumbnails for TEX Talks videos, they have the speaker with their arms in the air in some fashion? This is the first I've seen where it's been the legs! lol ; )
Really informative
Thx!
Very important topic!
Spot on. Love this. Lucky to have had a very positive experience birthing at home… out of guidance supported by your home birth team. It does feel very much us & them and like I was fighting the system. Having later been hospitalized under O&G care for a complication, I still don’t quite understand what happened - consulting seems like a skill set which is less well exercised in O&G to other medical professions. Often not taking time to explain and ensure understanding, assuming consent because of professional qualification.
Her opening to her talk....
There's a lot more to it than how you put it. Sometimes lithotomy position has been the catalyst for women to avoid instrumental deliveries or ending in theatre.
This is great!!
This is powerful
It is so refreshing that she makes her students join this challenge. We can change the future generations with simple education!
Xtremely interesting
I would have been scared to be home during birth. I think the anxiety would’ve transferred to my baby. I would love to see like a sort of spa environment. Dim lights, soft music, aromatherapy, other ways of pain, relief, but of course a big warm tub. I didn’t have, my mom with me or my grandma’s. I think if you’re part of a big family may be homebirth would make sense.
Your dreams are manifesting as we speak.
Excuse me can you tell me where these TEDX TALKS are implemented
I wish that the lithotomy position could be outlawed. For birth, at least.
C/Section exceeds 30% of total births because women are allowed to choose the mode of delivery. Some have legitimate reasons, others are very questionable reasons for elective sections.
Even in labour, a woman can choose to end everything and go for Section. The same way they can choose to decline care, some have had fresh intrauterine deaths, compromised outcomes for both mother and baby.
Gud 2 think a bout x
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Thank you for sharing your personal powerful birth experiences and giving voice to how important the care women receive is to be listened to, heard and having choices for a special birth. I love your stories and appreciate how you honor what physicians and midwives feel and experience, and how together we must all honor women and their choices including safe home birth. Yes time for everyone to be BRAVE like you!
Nicee another educational weedioo
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Well subjectivity it might be to some I'm sure, but objectively it's just a common occurrence. Humans are animals after all and animals breed and give birth.
Yes, trauma is normal in giving birth therefore we should continue to let women be mentally and physically be traumatized. Then let women be scared of giving birth. And then there will be no births. Let the human race end because you can't be empathetic. Like everything in society, we build and make things better.
"It's a common occurrence anyways." If suffering is a common occurrence, something should be done.
For example, that is why we have prisons, to keep criminals away. Or murder would be a common occurrence.
I assume you're a man who expects women to take the abuse that is given to them "because that's what men do".
Well, it doesn't have to be that way.
She’s wild for that opening 😂😂😂
Science has come along way.
I have to delete my watch history after seeing this
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When girls see me they do same thing.
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Thank you for avoiding the term birthing people! We are pregnant women and mothers❤.
You can't vote Democrat and then complain about being called a birthing person.
Regardless of who you are, you deserve autonomy and rights during pregnancy and birth, and fyi, women and mothers are people too
@@aiyokai7332 Y'all deserve rights to abortions, too. But you're all cash cows for the government.
I think the terms "pregnant people or people who give birth" is asinine. Women and only women have female reproductive organs and are the only one of the sexes that can give birth.
Not all people who give birth are women
She's getting lippy with us
I am amazed that Mother Nature managed to convince womankind childbirth is a great experience. But she also managed to convince mankind dating is worth the hassle, so I should have expected no less. Without our gullibility, we'd all be extinct by now.
Having a birth at home is same as driving a car without seat belt: everything will be fine, until something happens, and then it's too late. The 5-6 litres of blood can be lost in a few minutes if a major blood vessel breaks. There's hurry even in hospital if something unexpected happens...
That is why you have an experienced midwive with you who can go for the doctor if needed.
Yes, there remains a (low) risk - but so does birth in a hospital.
While at the same time risk for trauma is very, very high in hospital.
And trauma is no little thing - it is a deep, deep wound hurting mother, baby and their family - having a livelong impact.
As Florence points out: we need both: safety AND experience - both matter for survival, and for a "good "start"
@@sandra.helianthusa life outweighs trauma in my scale. There's also very small risk of accident in traffic even with no seat belt, but when it happens, you wish you had the belt. Same goes with those birth emergencies. No obstetric/gynecologist supports home births, as they've seen what could happen if you're unlucky. I think everyone has a right to play with their own life, but risking baby's life too in unethical. I'm not saying the emotional trauma means nothing, but life in invalueable.
@@Foreignmonk34 I don't agree that it is not supported by doctors. There are countries where it is well organized and the midwives closely connected to the hospital, working hand in hand.
It is possible to accomodate both: mom and baby.
I 100% agree with the talk, because that's what the talk is about: to FIND ways that better work as they do now, accomodating moms too.
@@sandra.helianthus Ok. What if there is a sudden major bleeding during birth? You can easily bleed 1-2 litres in one minute, so you'll have none left after 5 mins. If you don't get into the operating room in that time you're out. Incidents like that can't be predicted, major bleed doesn't give any signs before it happens. Who takes the responsibility, if the mother and child dies due to that incident and maybe could have been saved in they've been in hospital.
@@Foreignmonk34 Besides... Listen to what you are saying: birthing at home is unethical? Really?
It is what woman do since millions of years: have babies and welcone them in their home. And woman around the world do till today.
There is nothing unethical about that. Period.
To have the possibility of todays medicine to save children and moms who sometimes wouldn't survive the ordeal is wonderful and should be put in use. But it is an ADDITIONAL treat - and should happen with the focus on a wholesome childbirth and not on creating birthing machines who have to function within a medial industry.
We can do better.
but its necessary to abort babies. and tge taxpayers should pay for it. its essential healthcare
WTF?
Birth is terrible. Let's end this world, please.
This is why I’m single.
Birthing people have fallen further than the Catholic Church.
Single is the way my guy.
@detroitschampion I retired from dating at 40. Saw it coming at 36. Highly recommend retirement. I love it.
What?
@madelynnhass1353 pay me if you need explaining.
@@giftedgreen2152 It's amazing, isn't it? No one telling you what or how to live your life. No crocodile tears, etc. I love it.
How can one consider herself special for being able to do what a cow does for longer and involing greater pain?
When you can do it let me know ! 🤪Not all women take drugs during labor!😂It’s not for everyone. I would go it again without drugs for the 3rd time.
@@SpIcYMoReNa I can say the same : when you can push with 80 at your chest let me know. Also, let's have a moment of silence for all the other mamels that have to do this by their own and without any painkillers. Maybe that's why indians worship cows more than women, they have longer pregnancies xD
So entitled. Look at the mom who gave birth in a collapsed building in turkey. That story is amazing.
You should be ashamed of this comment. No need to compare,
I’m sure that mother would have loved to be at a hospital.
😅i agree people are more entitleted these days
load of rubbish... everyone in a hospital is a patient and exposed lmfao... it's about safety and expedience, not personal comfort.... I mean if the system is subpar, find a trusted midwife and give birth in your bathtubs lol
Almost every woman that's lived has given birth. It's literally one of the most common, least special events that occur
Says a man who didn't drown in the amniotic fluid in the uterus of a dying mother.
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Haven't watched the whole video, but come on now. You're right objectively, but subjectively it is incredibly special.
It is common, yes. However it
IS extraordinary.
It's a pretty bad a**. Name something you can do more incredible than growing and giving life to another human.
@@ChukwubuDike which is nothing special. There's 7 billion people on the planet. Lots of people made it.
You should write that on your next mothers day card, Dwight Schrute!
Nothing special about it.
Thank you.
Then I guess we should just stop giving birth then🤷♀️
@@honestgenz4413 You say that as if it's a threat lmao. Please stop breeding.
@@j0ellyfish Are you one of those people that believe that humans should be extinct?
@@honestgenz4413 Are you one of those people that believe human babies are special?
...wtf ?!