Her thinking this child will "heal" her, is just a gross thing for her to believe. Child isn't even here yet, and it is being assigned the job of fixing this mess. She is in for a big surprise.
Babies don’t fix problems, they bring issues to the forefront and intensify them. You are so exhausted and emotional for months, years if you nurse for a while after. It’s only going to get harder on Trisha, and they are only going to get worse if they don’t do some severe therapy now and throughout postpartum.
For real. I have bipolar, adhd and ptsd. My daughter is 5 now. It only became bearable at about 4. Babies and toddlers are hellish for neurotypicals, let alone those with illnesses. I almost gave her up for adoption cause I thought she deserved better. The difference is that I knew it would be a struggle and didn't look at my kid like a magic cure for my sadness. Feel so sad for this baby she's having.
100%. Also natural child birth does the same thing. I had flashbacks the entire time and had no idea that would happen. It messed me up for months until I got some help.
@@nicholebeasley88 I feel you. I'm only two years in. This is such a hard job when you are a good mom. You must be doing something right if you have trouble thinking of yourself the way we have to! I have to remember if I don't take care of myself I can't take care of my son as well as I want to. Remember that Mama 😉 💜
its scary af that shes having a child.... i was raised by 2 women with borderline who refused to admit they were sick, i went through years of abuse. Its very hard, to be raised by someone who is not mentally stable (which Trisha..isnt). While i hope with all my heart she will get her shit together for the sake of the child, I am very very skeptical
Similar situation here. I hope Trisha will get some positive influences and a community of help to stay balanced so she can support this child. She supports the child - not the other way around!
I think that’s a better thing to do than to leave your child alone, I had a nanny for twelve years because of my disability and we are like siblings now. I think it’s a great thing imo, but we all know that Trisha doesn’t know shit about taking care of kids
Yep. I am a child of a narcissist. It is shit hard coz you are made responsible for your parents emotions, relationships and problems. Been a scapegoat all my life until i said enough is enough and went no contact. Best decision i have ever made. Trisha will get a cold shower once her child grows up, realises all her bullshit and decides to go no contact. But Trisha will never get it, narcissists will never get it.
@@SpiritDragoness being an only child to a narcissistic mother really messed me up but I’m almost glad that my mother couldn’t have more kids after me. I’d never wish the way I was treated on anyone else .
@@emmett_tobias same. My mother wanted another child, but she straight away said that she will give birth but i will have to take care of it. she straight away said she wants nothing to do with the responsibility of raising a kid but in her mind it seemed ok to give birth and to forcibly put that responsibility onto another child. Luckily she miscarried before the 12th week of pregnancy. When i was pregnant, my mother died. I was sad but happy at the same time, coz now i didn't have to think of any excuses to tell my child, why she can go and visit one grandma but not the other. Her death made it easier to explain and i don't have to lie. I hate lying coz i have been doing it so long to survive the relationship with my mother. I don't want to have to lie to my child. When my mother died, i had the weirdest mix of emotions (i had no contact for the last 4 years of her life. The relationship was already dead). On one hand i felt sad, she was my mother after all, but i also felt joy coz "the witch is dead" and can't hurt me no more, the nightmare is over, and also guilt for feeling that way. I was gaslighted so long that i was already gaslighting myself. And the cptsd that followed was a nightmare... I had blocked out all the unmet emotions and pain just so that i could function for so many years, i was not allowed to have my own emotions coz my mother couldn't deal with them... When she died, they were all released like a avalanche. It was a hard time for me to recover. Still struggling with cptsd, but doing better now. Now trying to find out who am I, what do i like and what is it that i really want. I hope you are doing better now. And have found your way in this world. And hope you have a good support system, friends.
You cannot use your child to "heal yourself". That is something Trisha needs to do on her own, preferably before having a child, but obviously that ship has sailed. My heart breaks for this kid.
She’s driving, and paying more attention to recording, than being a safe driver. Her unborn child is already in danger. So are the other people driving on the road, motor/bicyclists, and pedestrians.
I hate it when people drive and vlog or text and drive. If I know one of my friends, parents or boyfriend is driving I will not text or call them. I'm a very paranoid person and I get so scared when someone vlogs when driving or does anything and driving.
I’m ten minutes into the video and watching those bits gives me so much anxiety. If Trisha feels comfortable talking/recording in the car that’s fine but PLEASE do it when the car is stopped. I’m freaking out even more by the minute 😭
I think she got pregnant for all the wrong reasons. She wanted to try to lock in Moses bc she’s not secure in the marriage, her channels were/are dying so she’s not making enough money to keep up with her lifestyle she thinks having a family channel will fix that, she’s been struggling with mental health for quite awhile now…all these things that having a child isn’t going to fix. It’s only going to make things more difficult. 🥺
I hate that there's no laws for parents exploiting there kids on TH-cam. It makes me so sad. I have 3 children and I cant imagine ever putting them on show like that, these TH-cam kids need a normal life I feel so sorry for them and I hope they genuinely drag all there parents through court when they get to 18.
@@queenbee9326 they definitely do! I cant even imagine living in America for reasons like this 🤪 There's plenty of family pages in Australia, like anywhere, but I feel like the American channels and the ones with the real big following I wonder if someone can get a worldwide petition going to change the policy on TH-cam and hold parents accountable by law for exploiting there children (throw em all in jail I say 😂🤪)
Yeah I’m really hoping in the next decade, we will see a lot of these kids stand up and drag their parents as well! That’s the only way anything is going to change for future kids.
When you have a child, your whole world revolves around raising them and loving them and being the best parent you can be for them. They are your first priority, always! Think about Dolly and Bonnie, they are your babies and you would do anything for them. That’s what motherhood is like. Not constantly making it about you and your needs. Your babies come first. That’s something I hope Trisha realizes when the little one arrives. If not, that’s gonna be a problem I’m afraid. Because if you already have a messed up mental health, think about those sleepless nights and having to get up every two hours in the beginning. You will be exhausted. So the basics need to be ready now, not using her child as a means to improve yourself. It will always be about someone else instead of this baby and that’s how trauma begins. Poor baby girl
My interpretation of Trisha's "I want to protect her" thinking is that she wants to protect her daughter from the gross messed-up shit she went through as a child. But Trisha doesn't realize nor put the pieces together that putting her kid on a family channel is exploiting. That or she doesn't want to admit that having a family channel is fucked up because she is self-centered and wants this to be about her envisions for a "perfect" childhood (to make up for her own one).
I don't even believe her childhood was as "traumatic " as she tries to make it seem. She has always does and says whatever it takes to try and get attention. And yes, she's made money, but she will never be famous in real life. Only known on TH-cam. Not famous.
I thought the same exact thing when I seen she made a family channel literally just MONTHS AFTER saying she hated family channels and would never have one and look at her now **rolls eyes** It's really sick and sad that she thinks having a baby is going to "fix her". If anything a child makes things more complicated and difficult! She's in for a very rude awakening when the baby comes, that's for sure!
if there's ONE weirdo watching a child online, that's already enough reason to stop exposing the child - and, having MILLIONS of followers, there's going to be a lot more than one. I really can't understand how these people don't think about this before posting their children online.
Non binary people can be girly. They can be manly. That said, trisha “came out” as a pregnant cis woman a while ago, so we can stop pretending she’s trans. Being girly doesn’t invalidate being non binary though.
@@Jordan-nw4sj Im not pretending anyone is trans im simply calling people by what pronouns they'd like to be called. Because I have basic human decency even if I dont like the person.
having children can be triggering and specially hard for people with childhood trauma and untreated mental issues. so this ideia that the baby will "heal" trisha is SO concerning, omg. I'm worried for this child upbringing.
Not to mention Trisha has said before on frenemies that she will not be having kids so she doesn’t care too much about her long term health. This all seems very spontaneous and impulsive to me. Worried for the baby.
Like it's just never good when you're having a child to meet an emotional need of yours. It's so scary to know all this. I wish she'd spend the next year offline focusing on herself and family.
I posted this as a reply, but I think its really important: Children have a way of triggering or uncovering the parents' past trauma (I know from experience). It's not their fault, but it is our obligation to not pass our faults onto our children, break generational cycles of emotional and physical abuse, and not project our feelings.
Although unfortunate, I remember when people at least had the security that she would not be able to have children because that would have taken up all of her time for self improvement. What a plot twist.
The more I listen to her the more it sounds like she wants her daughter to live the life she's always wanted. I understand she has childhood trauma and as someone who has one myself, I always say I won't be a parent unless I know I can be a better parent than the one I had but having a child because you want to heal through that child is alarming. It's a lot of pressure on the child and it's suffocating to be in that environment. It couldn't be good for her well because there's so much room for disappointment if it turns out the child didn't follow through with the perfect picture she already has for them. What's worse is the child won't understand it's wrong until their adulthood and by then it's too late. She definitely should talk to her therapist about it. I just hope she won't be the kind of parent who tells their child how her life was and overly tells their child how lucky they are. I mean, the child may still be lucky and be grateful but the parent shouldn't be the one forcing it on them, it should be something the child realises on their own.
A child is not for our own needs but we are supposed to be there for the child’s needs. Need to be loved, accepted, learn boundaries, gain independence. If the baby is moody then you can’t get mad if the baby is not soothing you. Age 3 they assert their independence and use the word no a lot. Then they do it at age 13 again. If the child is sad you have to let them have feelings and not brush it away. Many parents won’t address feelings so we stuff them down or eat etc.
I hope she knows mother hood isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a beautiful thing don’t get me wrong but it’s also hurtful, scary, lonely, sad and disappointing sometimes. She is in for a treat. 😊
Everyone was dead set that I was having girl, and I mean EVERYONE. I had even convinced myself and yet the first thing I bought was an airplane onesie, at my baby shower I drank out of the blue cup only to find out I was having a boy. I don’t think it would have mattered either way, I ended up with my baby girl just over a year later and I love her just as much. I just think people build up what boys and girls are in their head, wether it is stereotyping that boys should do this and girls should do that, or the reverse of if they do this they they must be _____. When they come out I don’t think it really matters how you dress them or what they choose to play with as long as they are allowed to explore the world around them. Both my kids love cars and dinosaurs and super heroes but they have their own interests too. Either way you have your challenges and joys, and honestly it is different from child to child no matter what gender they are. We need to let go of expectations because we are never going to be ready and just enjoy the brand new baby coming into our lives 💖
Yes!! It really doesn't matter at all what their biological gender is as long as they are healthy and are loved. Gender norms are just SO dumb, anyway. Ready for us to finally get past them as a society so people can just be themselves regardless.
You can not choose what you’re going to have!!As a mother of two I would get asked, “oh what do you want?” OR “What are you hoping for?” A baby. A healthy happy baby. As for the feeling of gender, that’s in your head. I never knew I was having girls. But you have a 50/50 chance of being right I guess.
I have two boys and when I talk about wanting a third everyone says “going for that girl, right?!?” No. Absolutely not. My two boys are enough, they are perfect, and I don’t want a third because I’m disappointed I didn’t get a girl. I want another child because I feel called to it, want a larger family, and can support it. It has nothing to do with wanting my kid to have specific genitals. If I have a girl, cool. If I have another boy, also cool. I won’t actually know what gender my children are until they are old enough to tell me anyway, so why tf would I be so obsessed with birthing a specific set of genitals? Idk, the topic just infuriates me.
My mom taught me not to say anything if I don’t have anything nice to say ... and I don’t have anything nice to say about the topic of Trisha having a baby so I’m just gonna sit here with my lips zipped and watch you talk LMFAO
19 and a mum here partner works full time I juggle an 11 month old, a home and an education and I tell you if I manage a shower and at least one meal its been a good day really hope trisha knows what they are in for and how demanding this is going to be
As a new mom, I don’t expect or want my child to heal me. I want to be open about my past when she’s ready to hear it and show her how I overcome it. I want her to know she’s in a safe space always with me to share her traumas and struggles.
i will never forget the story i was told of someone who grew up being told by their mother that he “saved her life” “gave her a reason to live” “her purpose” “her angel” “her healer” to the extent of telling her child that she’d been depressed, became suicidal & attempted suicide shortly before the day she found out she was pregnant with them. they spent their childhood & adolescence plagued with anxiety and the belief that if they ever made a mistake or didn’t live up to an ideal of “angelic” perfection and care for all of her emotions that their mother could take her life or attempt to again
When I first found out I was pregnant I was convinced that I was having a boy, everyone around me told me it was a boy, and she ended up being a girl! I felt like I “mourned” the little boy I had named and made up a life for in my mind. After having her I realize that being a “girl-mom” is perfect for me.🥰
When Trisha talks I always feel like she's in the moment trying to figure out how she's feeling. Like when she was explaining how she felt about having a girl she looked so disconnected. Like a bad actor trying to get their emotion across. Like idk. I don't believe her. Like she's reading a script in her head.
Can't say I'm surprised. We knew all this was going to happen. When you said she wanted to play dress up with her child( like the baby is some kind of toy) it made a chill run down my spine. Because it's Trisha. If I heard anyone else say it I'd be a bit less scared. And can she keep her hands on the steering wheel?
I was raised by a woman with the same disorders as Trisha. I really hope that Ethan and Hila will be there to support this baby because I know that I wouldn’t have survived my teenage years without the support of my aunts and uncles who knew how insane my mother was and chose to put up with her in order to give me a better life
i understand this 100% but kids end up paying for their parents mistakes it's not everyone else job aunt and uncles included because the parent wasn't ready to be parent. Trisha did sooo much to Ethan and Hila and Hilas wholeee family. Fuck Trisha and bless that baby
"All I want to do is protect her..." you know, like driving and crying while pregnant with her, putting her on the internet without her consent, gender typing her before she's born, and expecting she'll somehow be able to heal my trauma without considering that giving birth and raising her will be the hardest thing I'll ever do. You know, protect her!!
She talks about dressing her up and "girly things," and like Adam said, she kind of dismisses even the mention of gender identity altogether. She claimed to be LGBT+ and now she's not interested all of a sudden? Sus.
I've been worried for this child because she's honestly having it for selfish needs, she's not thinking for the future of this child that's what I think anyways
Because you asked Adam, I have 3 children. I was correct on all 3 genders. My last pregnancy the technician at the ultrasound asked if I wanted to know the gender? I said I did not, but felt in my heart that it was a boy. She raised her eyebrows and shook her head as in nope. 😡 Anyhow at a stress level ultrasound they confirmed it was a girl, week 38, told me she was close to 10 lbs!!! I ended up having an emergency -c section, all happened in minutes and I was put under in seconds. I woke up after some minor complications, we were both fine and healthy thank God. However she was a HE!!! 😳... Weighed 6lbs 4 ounces. It took 24 hours to come up with a name as we didn't feel," Ella" was the right fit for this beautiful tiny little guy. Had to send my family out for clothes to bring my beautiful baby home in. All I packed was pink and a size that was more in line with the 10lb prediction they had reported as the delivery got close.Also our two previous children were over 8lbs 😊. "Cooper" 💕 turned 16 in January , he is doing great. My children are the greatest joy of my life. I would never ask or hope for them to heal my self esteem or childhood issues, as trisha is saying. Her words sound both neglectful and selfish . I feel like she severely misunderstands the importance of her role in the child's life. This is the most important responsibility she will ever have and her focus is way off in this make it all about her world!?? I really hope she wakes up to reality soon!
I'm just saying, when a lot of us heard this news, we all had a list of worries that would come of this. Some were calling us overdramatic or "it's not our place to judge" and while I agree, but we've seen how Trisha is. We've seen what she's capable of doing just for views and attention. This honestly scares us for the child more than Trisha. Who knows what she'll do to this child when she's involved in another scandal or controversy? It may not be our place to judge, but she can't stop us from worrying about the possibilities.
When my son was first born, my husband and I were borderline mentally breaking from the lack of sleep and stress and recovery from childbirth. I can't imagine if I was already struggling with mental health, how amplified that would be. I pray for her and her baby, I know how hard it can be. Heck I'm 2 years in and some days are like 🤯🤯
I am a human trafficking survivor. When I was rescued and being treated in hospital I found out I was pregnant. I was pretty much a child myself. For ME (I can only speak for me) having my daughter helped heal my trauma in a way (I have D.I.D) from everything . But to think your child will heal all your trauma is insane. Yes it can help in ways but not all. The best thing a parent can do is get therapy and help heal yourself. That way you can be better for your child. That is what I have been doing all these years.
I’m really sorry to hear you had to experience that trauma but I’m so happy to hear the positivity that came from your daughter. Sending you both big hugs from here ✨
my parents thought I would have a little girl and I told them "well now you jinxed it, I'll end up having a boy" I was right. at 11 weeks they told me my little Flynn was a boy. (now Flynn was picked no matter what the gender) while my parents were hopeful that he would have been a girl we were all still very excited.
as someone with bpd it absolutely terrifies me, we are not stable people unless we get TONS of therapy, even then it is part of our LITERAL PERSONALITY to be unstable still and lash out. i could never have a child until i knew i was as stable as possible, even then im afraid of the stress getting to me and snapping and emotionally abusing my child. she definitely will, like it sounds awful but i know how BPD works, without the proper therapy we say and do things that we aren’t aware are emotionally abusive in the moment because it’s truly how we feel but still are regardless. she’s just so clearly not in the right place to be having a child and she’s actually part of why i’m so serious about getting help and being better i never ever wanna turn into trisha
Here’s the thing- I’m all for wanting to give your kiddo a different childhood than you had. If you weren’t able to go on vacations as a kid and you’re excited to take your kid places, or you didnt have the money to get brand new clothes and you’re excited to give your kiddo that. There’s a huge difference between that and using a kid to “fix” your own childhood trauma. Kids aren’t responsible for healing your trauma or a tool to fix or have you relive your childhood. About the gender thing ive been saying for months I bet money that at least by the time that baby is a year old Trisha will be a “Christian” conservative mommy vlogger. She’s always had right winged/conservative views when it didn’t suit her to say differently publicly. I can see her switching because that will get her views/clicks/support from a certain side of the internet. It’s why she’s back peddling on the religious stuff and gender stuff.
Completely unrelated, but I just love Adam and the Community his channel made. In every video I watch I always scan the comments and it makes me laugh or smile just seeing how positive it is. Give yourself and others a round of applause because I think this is one of the best communities I've had the honor of being apart of. I don't throw that around lightly but I really do feel very invited and since I'm coming up on my first year as a "Mucker", with just two months to go, I am happy to be here.
Omg Adam YES - I watched it and thought the same thing. I have even been trying to be like honestly scale back my criticism a bit too. You nailed it. AND you are also calling it about kids who have been COMPLETELY exploited !!! This is my number one hated thing not just on YT like the top of my list besides kids getting abused!! Why is this shit legal ? You can’t show kids now on YT in certain capacities but families are still able to? Ugh I could rant for days on this …..
i think my reaction to that title would probs be along the lines of she is scared to raise a daughter in a world that often treats women like shit or as inferior
I believe that expectant mothers have such a range of emotions regarding the birth of their child or their future together. The difference is that most people don't publicise this to millions of people?! Like wtf
When you asked what is your first thought about why she would be afraid to have a daughter my immediate thought was she.s afraid of feeling jealous of her own daughter
Trisha fuels people who think gender is a phase etc....it's really frustrating as a non binary person. I feel like she wants to use labels as and when it suits her rather than being genuine
I think a lot of narcissists have this notion that they can relive their own childhood through their own kid. My father did this to me - it got to the point that I was afraid to express any kind of interest in anything for fear of having it hijacked and used against me later on. He ruined my interest in many sports, science, piano, reading. Even as young as 10-11, saying I was changing what I wanted to do as a career or something, would bring irrational anger and criticism from him. He wanted a redo and thought I was his shot. I deal with so many mental issues it’s ridiculous, I’ve been in therapy since I was 8, I’m 23 now. Still healing. Prayers for everyone with abusive parents. Prayers for this child. Side note, If anyone has trouble sleeping I’m starting this channel as ambient noise and meditation music, also nature sounds. I use it to sleep, has helped tremendously. I don’t have any uploads yet but they’re coming in the next few weeks if you wanna subscribe for later.
The vlogging and driving scares me. I feel like she is too distracted. She talks a lot with her hands, there are moments where they’re not even on the wheel. I hope she stops soon, especially with a baby in the car.
She wants to show herself and Moses at home raising the baby in order to finally win the argument with Ethan Klein from Frenemies. She is that shallow. Sad but true, even though I had a glimmer of hope for a while, there.
I believe if you have childhood trauma you need to heal, go to therapy and heal that inner child in you that was broken before you bring a child into this world. I know someone who was abused as a child and he had kids and he is not a good dad. He's very mean to his kids. You need to heal before you bring a little one into this world. That's just my opinion 🤷♀️
WHO HAS A CHILD FOR AESTHETICS - Mis girl is going to be thoroughly disappointed playing ‘dress up’ with her daughter when she spits up every feed 💞🧚🏽♂️
@BanquetOfTheLeviathan As a mom myself, no. I have never once in my life wanted to be a parent just for the aesthetic and that should never be anyones reason for having a child. Also who said anything about the government💀 Did I miss something ?
I'm a mother of both a girl and boy, I'm no "influencer" or "youtuber" my son aged 6 says all the time he wants to be a TH-camr and show his Minecraft and roblox videos. I feel terrible saying no. I told him when he's 16 he can. I'm so against children on TH-cam. I don't mean that in a bad way but I have my 6 year old saying he doesn't need school cause he's going to be on TH-cam. I'm all for that and support TH-cam. Sure most of my screen time is listening to tea channels and true crime. I will support my son in everything, but he needs education 1st, And "family" channels exploiting children I just can't get behind. Especially children that are so young and have no voice or awareness of what's really going on. My biggest fear even uploading my kids pictures on even Instagram is who will and can get access to their pics, the dark Web, and seedy humans scare me gaining access to my children's image
My abusive narcissistic manipulative aunt told my mom that the only reason she was having kids was so “there would be someone in the world who had to love me” and I get big vibes of that from Trisha… yikes
I may be a bad person for thinking this, but my first thought when I heard Trisha was scared for having a baby girl I genuinely thought: Because she will be jealous that she will take up Moses attention? Like it was with the cats? I may be way too jaded to ever think well of Trisha, especially after they opened up a family channel.
Healing has to start on your own. You cannot count on a baby to make that step happen. That is not what Parenthood is about... That's worrisome to have a child and to think that... Babies need genuine love not to be a tool for healing an adult..
Well to answer your first question, I would think Trisha would be worried to have a daughter because she's worried about protecting her from abuse and assault but that says alot about my own upbringing and life so we'll see what Trish says 😆
Narcissists and those that demonstrate narcissistic tendencies clinically see their children as a commodity and a reflection of themselves. I am genuinely worried for this child.
I think Trish and the whole gender thing is just her trolling and 100% for clicks and views. As Trish herself has said, it doesn't matter if it's positive or negative, just as long as she's being talked about 🙄
The fact that Trish has made it clear that they identify as nonbinary yet they had a party about the gender of their child makes me chuckle and roll my eyes at the same time. I absoulty detest parties that celbrate in this way cause I find it odd and uncomfortable. But for someone to say nonbinary and then have a party where the focal point is gender of their own child seems a bit counterintuitive. To each their own but I will not ever have a celebration or a reveal party nor attend one of friends or family with the intent of telling those around me what parts my child will be coming into the world with.
ALSO, can trisha please not vlog literally while actively driving, like ya hear the signals and shit and its like girl. That's not safe. Please don't do this with a baby in the back
I love that creators like you, Adam, and others have such a hard stance on family channels and continuously call them out for it! A german creator did a video on family channels/mommy bloggers once, where she talked about how she was able to find out where the child went to school, her after school schedule etc (ofc without sharing it in the video), just from the information the mom shared. Scary stuff.
I believe I and my 5 other siblings were supposed to be those babies who were made to "heal" my mother and be her rebound. In the end there is 7 of us, 6 of us were taken in to foster care system as a child. Children are not some characters in some stupid game, they are living beings and they should be respected as such. I have years worth of trauma because of the things I had to go through and at this point I'm afraid for the baby that is yet to born. I really do hope Trisha doesn't reflect her own childhood on to her child, nor make the child a puppet for her game.
Unpopular opinion but I don’t think she’s ever been pregnant and she’s doing this to “lose” the baby for attention and sympathy and because NO ONE can question her on it.
I think she has a lot of stuff she needs to work out w herself before she brings a child in her life but I also don’t know her personally but from an outside perspective she seems like she has a lot of healing to do for her self
I had my baby in 2020, my first and only child. Everyone was asking me do you want a boy or a girl I always said I don't care if what the gender of my baby is I just want to meet them. I had a girl, and everybody was screaming excited I was just happy to have a name for my daughter. I never cared about the baby's gender just if he or she was healthy. I was also abused by my father as a child physically and mentally I don't want to heal through my child, but I want to play and be there for her and give her the childhood every kid needs and should have. don't put your issues on your child instead help them when they have issues and be there when they need you. sorry for the long post I hope everyone has a good night or day.
Like obviously major events like having a child, getting married or losing a loved one can transform you as a person, however, to preemptively expect it?? Like that baby is going to have their own life and their sole purpose shouldn’t be for your character development.
yes having a child may help you heal parts of your inner child but to put so much pressure on your unborn child to heal all of you is unrealistic and setting your child up for failure. it’s not your child’s job to fix you. it’s your job to have done work on yourself (and to continue to work on yourself) to ensure your child has the best possible life that you can provide for them.
Her thinking this child will "heal" her, is just a gross thing for her to believe. Child isn't even here yet, and it is being assigned the job of fixing this mess. She is in for a big surprise.
Shes in for a huge shook I have a kid it's not easy
@@washingtonfootballfan1553 Exactly. It is tough and a lot of work.
I completely agree, she already has so many unrealistic expectations for this baby, and I genuinely can't see it going anywhere but south
I just started watching the video but couldn't help reading your comment. Does she really think a baby will fix her?! Yikes. That really scares me. 😬
Oh no😶 I just clicked on the video.
Did she really say that?! That she's expecting her child to heal her?
That poor kid is being born with two whole jobs. 1. To “heal” her mother and 2. To bring income for their family via the family channel.
How sadly true your statement. I agree 😔
Exactly. Two jobs too many.
100%
Man, does she even get dental??
3. Be trishas doll
I'm not even religious and I'm praying for this baby
Same sis 😂
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Exactly… ☹️
Right?!! Everyone pray to every god of every religion for this baby 🤣 !!
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as someone who was raised w the responsability and idea of healing their parent, im scared for the kid. truly. it fucks you up so bad in so many ways
Yes it does. I understand.
I 1000% agree I'm healing now and I'm a parent. I'm so paranoid of repeating behaviors and scarring my own. Generational trauma is too real
same here.
@@tawnyew recognising it exists is a huge step forward. Wishing you continued healing.
Babies don’t fix problems, they bring issues to the forefront and intensify them. You are so exhausted and emotional for months, years if you nurse for a while after. It’s only going to get harder on Trisha, and they are only going to get worse if they don’t do some severe therapy now and throughout postpartum.
Exactly, I have a feeling she is going to be having PPD so bad she may end up institutionalized again.
This is so incredibly true. Parenthood takes a huge toll on your mental health. I'm 5 years in and still struggle.
For real. I have bipolar, adhd and ptsd. My daughter is 5 now. It only became bearable at about 4. Babies and toddlers are hellish for neurotypicals, let alone those with illnesses. I almost gave her up for adoption cause I thought she deserved better. The difference is that I knew it would be a struggle and didn't look at my kid like a magic cure for my sadness. Feel so sad for this baby she's having.
100%. Also natural child birth does the same thing. I had flashbacks the entire time and had no idea that would happen. It messed me up for months until I got some help.
@@nicholebeasley88 I feel you. I'm only two years in. This is such a hard job when you are a good mom. You must be doing something right if you have trouble thinking of yourself the way we have to! I have to remember if I don't take care of myself I can't take care of my son as well as I want to. Remember that
Mama 😉 💜
its scary af that shes having a child.... i was raised by 2 women with borderline who refused to admit they were sick, i went through years of abuse. Its very hard, to be raised by someone who is not mentally stable (which Trisha..isnt). While i hope with all my heart she will get her shit together for the sake of the child, I am very very skeptical
I hope you’re doing better now 💜
I am so sorry 😢
Single mom with schizophrenia, so I feel you there.
Similar situation here. I hope Trisha will get some positive influences and a community of help to stay balanced so she can support this child. She supports the child - not the other way around!
@@maryamtara2934 thank you
Having flashbacks to Trisha criticizing Ethan over having a nanny... just, craziness lmao
I think that’s a better thing to do than to leave your child alone, I had a nanny for twelve years because of my disability and we are like siblings now. I think it’s a great thing imo, but we all know that Trisha doesn’t know shit about taking care of kids
I completely lost interest in this Trisha child drama but....I can't wait to see what she'll say about that.
Someone as insecure as Trisha wouldn't be able to have a nanny for their child. She'd be accusing Moses left and right of cheating.
It’s a very scary thing when narcissists have children.
Yep
Yep. I am a child of a narcissist. It is shit hard coz you are made responsible for your parents emotions, relationships and problems. Been a scapegoat all my life until i said enough is enough and went no contact. Best decision i have ever made. Trisha will get a cold shower once her child grows up, realises all her bullshit and decides to go no contact. But Trisha will never get it, narcissists will never get it.
@@SpiritDragoness being an only child to a narcissistic mother really messed me up but I’m almost glad that my mother couldn’t have more kids after me. I’d never wish the way I was treated on anyone else .
@@emmett_tobias same. My mother wanted another child, but she straight away said that she will give birth but i will have to take care of it. she straight away said she wants nothing to do with the responsibility of raising a kid but in her mind it seemed ok to give birth and to forcibly put that responsibility onto another child. Luckily she miscarried before the 12th week of pregnancy. When i was pregnant, my mother died. I was sad but happy at the same time, coz now i didn't have to think of any excuses to tell my child, why she can go and visit one grandma but not the other. Her death made it easier to explain and i don't have to lie. I hate lying coz i have been doing it so long to survive the relationship with my mother. I don't want to have to lie to my child.
When my mother died, i had the weirdest mix of emotions (i had no contact for the last 4 years of her life. The relationship was already dead). On one hand i felt sad, she was my mother after all, but i also felt joy coz "the witch is dead" and can't hurt me no more, the nightmare is over, and also guilt for feeling that way. I was gaslighted so long that i was already gaslighting myself. And the cptsd that followed was a nightmare... I had blocked out all the unmet emotions and pain just so that i could function for so many years, i was not allowed to have my own emotions coz my mother couldn't deal with them... When she died, they were all released like a avalanche. It was a hard time for me to recover. Still struggling with cptsd, but doing better now. Now trying to find out who am I, what do i like and what is it that i really want.
I hope you are doing better now. And have found your way in this world. And hope you have a good support system, friends.
Some parents are very toxic. I'm sorry for what you went through.
You cannot use your child to "heal yourself". That is something Trisha needs to do on her own, preferably before having a child, but obviously that ship has sailed. My heart breaks for this kid.
She’s driving, and paying more attention to recording, than being a safe driver.
Her unborn child is already in danger. So are the other people driving on the road, motor/bicyclists, and pedestrians.
She absolutely better not do that with her child in the back of the car …. This is concerning
I hate it when people drive and vlog or text and drive. If I know one of my friends, parents or boyfriend is driving I will not text or call them. I'm a very paranoid person and I get so scared when someone vlogs when driving or does anything and driving.
And she's doing this while being upset and crying! The nerve and lack of caution for her baby and ALL OF THE OTHER DRIVERS. It's maddening.
I’m ten minutes into the video and watching those bits gives me so much anxiety. If Trisha feels comfortable talking/recording in the car that’s fine but PLEASE do it when the car is stopped. I’m freaking out even more by the minute 😭
She was watching the road not the camera
I think she got pregnant for all the wrong reasons. She wanted to try to lock in Moses bc she’s not secure in the marriage, her channels were/are dying so she’s not making enough money to keep up with her lifestyle she thinks having a family channel will fix that, she’s been struggling with mental health for quite awhile now…all these things that having a child isn’t going to fix. It’s only going to make things more difficult. 🥺
I honestly can't imagine her having a child to be honest that kind of is a scary thought. Is Trisha in therapy?
I hate that there's no laws for parents exploiting there kids on TH-cam. It makes me so sad.
I have 3 children and I cant imagine ever putting them on show like that, these TH-cam kids need a normal life I feel so sorry for them and I hope they genuinely drag all there parents through court when they get to 18.
Ikr?
I couldn’t agree more. You folks in California need to get your legislators to write a law protecting these kids.
@@queenbee9326 they definitely do! I cant even imagine living in America for reasons like this 🤪
There's plenty of family pages in Australia, like anywhere, but I feel like the American channels and the ones with the real big following
I wonder if someone can get a worldwide petition going to change the policy on TH-cam and hold parents accountable by law for exploiting there children (throw em all in jail I say 😂🤪)
I don't even publish pictures of my kido on facebook.
Yeah I’m really hoping in the next decade, we will see a lot of these kids stand up and drag their parents as well! That’s the only way anything is going to change for future kids.
When you have a child, your whole world revolves around raising them and loving them and being the best parent you can be for them. They are your first priority, always!
Think about Dolly and Bonnie, they are your babies and you would do anything for them.
That’s what motherhood is like. Not constantly making it about you and your needs. Your babies come first.
That’s something I hope Trisha realizes when the little one arrives. If not, that’s gonna be a problem I’m afraid. Because if you already have a messed up mental health, think about those sleepless nights and having to get up every two hours in the beginning.
You will be exhausted. So the basics need to be ready now, not using her child as a means to improve yourself. It will always be about someone else instead of this baby and that’s how trauma begins. Poor baby girl
I love this comment. You put it perfectly I don’t even need to comment my own 10/10
Absolutely! Well said.
Best way to explain it, i love this comment
My interpretation of Trisha's "I want to protect her" thinking is that she wants to protect her daughter from the gross messed-up shit she went through as a child. But Trisha doesn't realize nor put the pieces together that putting her kid on a family channel is exploiting. That or she doesn't want to admit that having a family channel is fucked up because she is self-centered and wants this to be about her envisions for a "perfect" childhood (to make up for her own one).
I don't even believe her childhood was as "traumatic " as she tries to make it seem. She has always does and says whatever it takes to try and get attention. And yes, she's made money, but she will never be famous in real life. Only known on TH-cam. Not famous.
I thought the same exact thing when I seen she made a family channel literally just MONTHS AFTER saying she hated family channels and would never have one and look at her now **rolls eyes** It's really sick and sad that she thinks having a baby is going to "fix her". If anything a child makes things more complicated and difficult! She's in for a very rude awakening when the baby comes, that's for sure!
Yeah Bht see if you’re constantly over protecting your child due to your traumas DO NOT HELP EITHER. It will make the child run from you
if there's ONE weirdo watching a child online, that's already enough reason to stop exposing the child - and, having MILLIONS of followers, there's going to be a lot more than one. I really can't understand how these people don't think about this before posting their children online.
Not to mention Trish does enough fetish content that she promotes through her channel, does she really think the audiences won’t mix?
Waiiiiiiiittttt. Trisha claims she “has always been girly”? Was this before and after she claimed to be non binary?
remember she also came out as a trans man couple of years ago
you can be really feminine and still be nonbinary
Non binary people can be girly. They can be manly.
That said, trisha “came out” as a pregnant cis woman a while ago, so we can stop pretending she’s trans. Being girly doesn’t invalidate being non binary though.
@@Jordan-nw4sj Im not pretending anyone is trans im simply calling people by what pronouns they'd like to be called. Because I have basic human decency even if I dont like the person.
@@Starlightdreams02 I didn’t @ you, did I? I’m just saying to call Trisha was she wants to be called, a cis woman. Cause I’m also a decent person.
When those family-channel kids grow up, they will "easily" make millions of dollars simply by telling what really happened in their childhood.
having children can be triggering and specially hard for people with childhood trauma and untreated mental issues. so this ideia that the baby will "heal" trisha is SO concerning, omg. I'm worried for this child upbringing.
Not to mention Trisha has said before on frenemies that she will not be having kids so she doesn’t care too much about her long term health. This all seems very spontaneous and impulsive to me. Worried for the baby.
Like it's just never good when you're having a child to meet an emotional need of yours. It's so scary to know all this. I wish she'd spend the next year offline focusing on herself and family.
I posted this as a reply, but I think its really important: Children have a way of triggering or uncovering the parents' past trauma (I know from experience). It's not their fault, but it is our obligation to not pass our faults onto our children, break generational cycles of emotional and physical abuse, and not project our feelings.
👍Phillip Larkin: This Be The Verse
Although unfortunate, I remember when people at least had the security that she would not be able to have children because that would have taken up all of her time for self improvement.
What a plot twist.
But then she learned about certain types of fertility treatments and that was a game changer for all the wrong reasons
The more I listen to her the more it sounds like she wants her daughter to live the life she's always wanted. I understand she has childhood trauma and as someone who has one myself, I always say I won't be a parent unless I know I can be a better parent than the one I had but having a child because you want to heal through that child is alarming. It's a lot of pressure on the child and it's suffocating to be in that environment. It couldn't be good for her well because there's so much room for disappointment if it turns out the child didn't follow through with the perfect picture she already has for them. What's worse is the child won't understand it's wrong until their adulthood and by then it's too late. She definitely should talk to her therapist about it. I just hope she won't be the kind of parent who tells their child how her life was and overly tells their child how lucky they are. I mean, the child may still be lucky and be grateful but the parent shouldn't be the one forcing it on them, it should be something the child realises on their own.
Amen
"all these fun things, like dressing her up and perfoming" ....yeah so she REALLY just sees this CHILD as a doll....
A child is not for our own needs but we are supposed to be there for the child’s needs. Need to be loved, accepted, learn boundaries, gain independence. If the baby is moody then you can’t get mad if the baby is not soothing you. Age 3 they assert their independence and use the word no a lot. Then they do it at age 13 again. If the child is sad you have to let them have feelings and not brush it away. Many parents won’t address feelings so we stuff them down or eat etc.
I hope she knows mother hood isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a beautiful thing don’t get me wrong but it’s also hurtful, scary, lonely, sad and disappointing sometimes. She is in for a treat. 😊
Everyone was dead set that I was having girl, and I mean EVERYONE. I had even convinced myself and yet the first thing I bought was an airplane onesie, at my baby shower I drank out of the blue cup only to find out I was having a boy. I don’t think it would have mattered either way, I ended up with my baby girl just over a year later and I love her just as much. I just think people build up what boys and girls are in their head, wether it is stereotyping that boys should do this and girls should do that, or the reverse of if they do this they they must be _____.
When they come out I don’t think it really matters how you dress them or what they choose to play with as long as they are allowed to explore the world around them. Both my kids love cars and dinosaurs and super heroes but they have their own interests too. Either way you have your challenges and joys, and honestly it is different from child to child no matter what gender they are. We need to let go of expectations because we are never going to be ready and just enjoy the brand new baby coming into our lives 💖
Yes!! It really doesn't matter at all what their biological gender is as long as they are healthy and are loved. Gender norms are just SO dumb, anyway. Ready for us to finally get past them as a society so people can just be themselves regardless.
You can not choose what you’re going to have!!As a mother of two I would get asked, “oh what do you want?” OR “What are you hoping for?”
A baby. A healthy happy baby.
As for the feeling of gender, that’s in your head. I never knew I was having girls. But you have a 50/50 chance of being right I guess.
I have two boys and when I talk about wanting a third everyone says “going for that girl, right?!?” No. Absolutely not. My two boys are enough, they are perfect, and I don’t want a third because I’m disappointed I didn’t get a girl. I want another child because I feel called to it, want a larger family, and can support it. It has nothing to do with wanting my kid to have specific genitals. If I have a girl, cool. If I have another boy, also cool. I won’t actually know what gender my children are until they are old enough to tell me anyway, so why tf would I be so obsessed with birthing a specific set of genitals? Idk, the topic just infuriates me.
My mom taught me not to say anything if I don’t have anything nice to say ...
and I don’t have anything nice to say about the topic of Trisha having a baby so I’m just gonna sit here with my lips zipped and watch you talk LMFAO
Speak up. The more society calls out toxicity, abuse and injustice the sooner they will end.
@@abcefg4504 if it was my opinion about Trisha, it would be a 50 part video series. lmfao
I'm worried too. After viewing how Moses couldn't take control over the H3 situation, who's going to advocate for that child in the household?
19 and a mum here partner works full time I juggle an 11 month old, a home and an education and I tell you if I manage a shower and at least one meal its been a good day really hope trisha knows what they are in for and how demanding this is going to be
oh lord that’s about to be me 30 weeks pregnant with Twins
As a new mom, I don’t expect or want my child to heal me. I want to be open about my past when she’s ready to hear it and show her how I overcome it. I want her to know she’s in a safe space always with me to share her traumas and struggles.
I just love Adam so much, watching his videos make me feel like I'm sitting and gossiping with him. Sometimes forget we're not actually friends 😂
i will never forget the story i was told of someone who grew up being told by their mother that he “saved her life” “gave her a reason to live” “her purpose” “her angel” “her healer” to the extent of telling her child that she’d been depressed, became suicidal & attempted suicide shortly before the day she found out she was pregnant with them. they spent their childhood & adolescence plagued with anxiety and the belief that if they ever made a mistake or didn’t live up to an ideal of “angelic” perfection and care for all of her emotions that their mother could take her life or attempt to again
When I first found out I was pregnant I was convinced that I was having a boy, everyone around me told me it was a boy, and she ended up being a girl! I felt like I “mourned” the little boy I had named and made up a life for in my mind. After having her I realize that being a “girl-mom” is perfect for me.🥰
When Trisha talks I always feel like she's in the moment trying to figure out how she's feeling. Like when she was explaining how she felt about having a girl she looked so disconnected. Like a bad actor trying to get their emotion across. Like idk. I don't believe her. Like she's reading a script in her head.
making dinner with adam in the background is so comforting. your videos have such a cozy and friendly feel to them and i love that ❤️
oooh what are you making !
Can't say I'm surprised. We knew all this was going to happen. When you said she wanted to play dress up with her child( like the baby is some kind of toy) it made a chill run down my spine. Because it's Trisha. If I heard anyone else say it I'd be a bit less scared. And can she keep her hands on the steering wheel?
I was raised by a woman with the same disorders as Trisha. I really hope that Ethan and Hila will be there to support this baby because I know that I wouldn’t have survived my teenage years without the support of my aunts and uncles who knew how insane my mother was and chose to put up with her in order to give me a better life
i understand this 100% but kids end up paying for their parents mistakes it's not everyone else job aunt and uncles included because the parent wasn't ready to be parent. Trisha did sooo much to Ethan and Hila and Hilas wholeee family. Fuck Trisha and bless that baby
"All I want to do is protect her..." you know, like driving and crying while pregnant with her, putting her on the internet without her consent, gender typing her before she's born, and expecting she'll somehow be able to heal my trauma without considering that giving birth and raising her will be the hardest thing I'll ever do. You know, protect her!!
Word. She’s such a hypocrite.
What is gender typing?
@@yawnssss6225 I read that as: Projecting what gender the baby is and what you want it to be.
I could by wrong though. 🤷♂️
She talks about dressing her up and "girly things," and like Adam said, she kind of dismisses even the mention of gender identity altogether. She claimed to be LGBT+ and now she's not interested all of a sudden? Sus.
@@wrldtrvlrable Very on brand for her though.
Stuck in a Lyft to my parents! And you pop up like clockwork:) you have perfect timing . You always post when I need entertainment the most :)
I've been worried for this child because she's honestly having it for selfish needs, she's not thinking for the future of this child that's what I think anyways
Because you asked Adam, I have 3 children. I was correct on all 3 genders. My last pregnancy the technician at the ultrasound asked if I wanted to know the gender? I said I did not, but felt in my heart that it was a boy. She raised her eyebrows and shook her head as in nope. 😡 Anyhow at a stress level ultrasound they confirmed it was a girl, week 38, told me she was close to 10 lbs!!!
I ended up having an emergency -c section, all happened in minutes and I was put under in seconds. I woke up after some minor complications, we were both fine and healthy thank God. However she was a HE!!! 😳... Weighed 6lbs 4 ounces. It took 24 hours to come up with a name as we didn't feel," Ella" was the right fit for this beautiful tiny little guy. Had to send my family out for clothes to bring my beautiful baby home in. All I packed was pink and a size that was more in line with the 10lb prediction they had reported as the delivery got close.Also our two previous children were over 8lbs 😊. "Cooper" 💕 turned
16 in January , he is doing great. My children are the greatest joy of my life. I would never ask or hope for them to heal my self esteem or childhood issues, as trisha is saying. Her words sound both neglectful and selfish .
I feel like she severely misunderstands the importance of her role in the child's life. This is the most important responsibility she will ever have and her focus is way off in this make it all about her world!??
I really hope she wakes up to reality soon!
Ugh I just got to the part of your video where you mentioned that she said she will never have a nanny. Poor baby.
@@pattyo4703 You replied to my very long comment. It is a great comment so I wanted to make you aware so others can see it.
her baby is gonna ask for a refund
It’s gonna be like a real life Matilda situation
I'm just saying, when a lot of us heard this news, we all had a list of worries that would come of this. Some were calling us overdramatic or "it's not our place to judge" and while I agree, but we've seen how Trisha is. We've seen what she's capable of doing just for views and attention. This honestly scares us for the child more than Trisha. Who knows what she'll do to this child when she's involved in another scandal or controversy? It may not be our place to judge, but she can't stop us from worrying about the possibilities.
I hope the child gets a good nanny.
When my son was first born, my husband and I were borderline mentally breaking from the lack of sleep and stress and recovery from childbirth. I can't imagine if I was already struggling with mental health, how amplified that would be. I pray for her and her baby, I know how hard it can be. Heck I'm 2 years in and some days are like 🤯🤯
Thanks for keeping up with her for me. My nosy self hates to give her views. Love you bby queen !
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That shirt + messy hair = EVERYTHING
I am a human trafficking survivor. When I was rescued and being treated in hospital I found out I was pregnant. I was pretty much a child myself. For ME (I can only speak for me) having my daughter helped heal my trauma in a way (I have D.I.D) from everything . But to think your child will heal all your trauma is insane. Yes it can help in ways but not all. The best thing a parent can do is get therapy and help heal yourself. That way you can be better for your child. That is what I have been doing all these years.
I’m really sorry to hear you had to experience that trauma but I’m so happy to hear the positivity that came from your daughter. Sending you both big hugs from here ✨
💔 I'm truly sorry for what you had to endure. Your heart is strong and so are you! Blessings ♡
@@noblevictory2200 thank you so much 🥰
@@rebeccatomlin3916 I always call her my angel baby she is my good that came from horror. Thank you for being so sweet. Hugs back 🤗
my parents thought I would have a little girl and I told them "well now you jinxed it, I'll end up having a boy" I was right. at 11 weeks they told me my little Flynn was a boy. (now Flynn was picked no matter what the gender) while my parents were hopeful that he would have been a girl we were all still very excited.
Aren’t we all, Adam. Aren’t we all…
Exactly what I was thinking lol
Poor kid.
That girl is going to have a hard life....
as someone with bpd it absolutely terrifies me, we are not stable people unless we get TONS of therapy, even then it is part of our LITERAL PERSONALITY to be unstable still and lash out. i could never have a child until i knew i was as stable as possible, even then im afraid of the stress getting to me and snapping and emotionally abusing my child. she definitely will, like it sounds awful but i know how BPD works, without the proper therapy we say and do things that we aren’t aware are emotionally abusive in the moment because it’s truly how we feel but still are regardless. she’s just so clearly not in the right place to be having a child and she’s actually part of why i’m so serious about getting help and being better i never ever wanna turn into trisha
You're assuming she's actually pregnant.
I wasn't gonna be the one to say this.. but I've been thinking it
Here’s the thing- I’m all for wanting to give your kiddo a different childhood than you had. If you weren’t able to go on vacations as a kid and you’re excited to take your kid places, or you didnt have the money to get brand new clothes and you’re excited to give your kiddo that. There’s a huge difference between that and using a kid to “fix” your own childhood trauma. Kids aren’t responsible for healing your trauma or a tool to fix or have you relive your childhood.
About the gender thing ive been saying for months I bet money that at least by the time that baby is a year old Trisha will be a “Christian” conservative mommy vlogger. She’s always had right winged/conservative views when it didn’t suit her to say differently publicly. I can see her switching because that will get her views/clicks/support from a certain side of the internet. It’s why she’s back peddling on the religious stuff and gender stuff.
Completely unrelated, but I just love Adam and the Community his channel made. In every video I watch I always scan the comments and it makes me laugh or smile just seeing how positive it is. Give yourself and others a round of applause because I think this is one of the best communities I've had the honor of being apart of. I don't throw that around lightly but I really do feel very invited and since I'm coming up on my first year as a "Mucker", with just two months to go, I am happy to be here.
Hope youre having a good one today Adam, i hope youre doing a bit better! Thanks for always brightening up my days
Omg Adam YES - I watched it and thought the same thing. I have even been trying to be like honestly scale back my criticism a bit too. You nailed it. AND you are also calling it about kids who have been COMPLETELY exploited !!! This is my number one hated thing not just on YT like the top of my list besides kids getting abused!! Why is this shit legal ? You can’t show kids now on YT in certain capacities but families are still able to? Ugh I could rant for days on this …..
Is Trisha still seeing a therapist??? This is so scary. The pressure on the child and the need to protect could be to an unhealthy level
i think my reaction to that title would probs be along the lines of she is scared to raise a daughter in a world that often treats women like shit or as inferior
My mom had my siblings and I to "heal" her relationship and childhood trauma. She regrets it so much now because we did not help her at all.
I may be wrong but wasn’t Trisha criticizing the the McBroom family for exploiting their kids
I believe that expectant mothers have such a range of emotions regarding the birth of their child or their future together. The difference is that most people don't publicise this to millions of people?! Like wtf
When you asked what is your first thought about why she would be afraid to have a daughter my immediate thought was she.s afraid of feeling jealous of her own daughter
Trisha fuels people who think gender is a phase etc....it's really frustrating as a non binary person. I feel like she wants to use labels as and when it suits her rather than being genuine
love how you were like my camera died because i've been talking sm, followed up by "but i'm not gonna stopppp" HAHAHAAHHAHA honestly mood
Idk why but the thumbnail sent me 😂 Adam, looking gorj as usual
I think a lot of narcissists have this notion that they can relive their own childhood through their own kid. My father did this to me - it got to the point that I was afraid to express any kind of interest in anything for fear of having it hijacked and used against me later on. He ruined my interest in many sports, science, piano, reading. Even as young as 10-11, saying I was changing what I wanted to do as a career or something, would bring irrational anger and criticism from him. He wanted a redo and thought I was his shot. I deal with so many mental issues it’s ridiculous, I’ve been in therapy since I was 8, I’m 23 now. Still healing. Prayers for everyone with abusive parents. Prayers for this child.
Side note, If anyone has trouble sleeping I’m starting this channel as ambient noise and meditation music, also nature sounds. I use it to sleep, has helped tremendously. I don’t have any uploads yet but they’re coming in the next few weeks if you wanna subscribe for later.
Yaaaaasssss, you always provide the content at the best time ♥️
What Trisha is wanting to do is try to live through her own child and that not okay. Trisha should be ashamed of herself
The vlogging and driving scares me. I feel like she is too distracted. She talks a lot with her hands, there are moments where they’re not even on the wheel. I hope she stops soon, especially with a baby in the car.
She wants to show herself and Moses at home raising the baby in order to finally win the argument with Ethan Klein from Frenemies. She is that shallow. Sad but true, even though I had a glimmer of hope for a while, there.
It also screams inner misogyny too. I know she wouldn’t be saying this shit if she was having a boy
was hoping i’d see someone say this. she wanted to be a # boymom so bad
I believe if you have childhood trauma you need to heal, go to therapy and heal that inner child in you that was broken before you bring a child into this world. I know someone who was abused as a child and he had kids and he is not a good dad. He's very mean to his kids. You need to heal before you bring a little one into this world. That's just my opinion 🤷♀️
WHO HAS A CHILD FOR AESTHETICS - Mis girl is going to be thoroughly disappointed playing ‘dress up’ with her daughter when she spits up every feed 💞🧚🏽♂️
@BanquetOfTheLeviathan As a mom myself, no. I have never once in my life wanted to be a parent just for the aesthetic and that should never be anyones reason for having a child. Also who said anything about the government💀 Did I miss something ?
I'm a mother of both a girl and boy, I'm no "influencer" or "youtuber" my son aged 6 says all the time he wants to be a TH-camr and show his Minecraft and roblox videos. I feel terrible saying no. I told him when he's 16 he can. I'm so against children on TH-cam. I don't mean that in a bad way but I have my 6 year old saying he doesn't need school cause he's going to be on TH-cam. I'm all for that and support TH-cam. Sure most of my screen time is listening to tea channels and true crime. I will support my son in everything, but he needs education 1st, And "family" channels exploiting children I just can't get behind. Especially children that are so young and have no voice or awareness of what's really going on. My biggest fear even uploading my kids pictures on even Instagram is who will and can get access to their pics, the dark Web, and seedy humans scare me gaining access to my children's image
My abusive narcissistic manipulative aunt told my mom that the only reason she was having kids was so “there would be someone in the world who had to love me” and I get big vibes of that from Trisha… yikes
I may be a bad person for thinking this, but my first thought when I heard Trisha was scared for having a baby girl I genuinely thought: Because she will be jealous that she will take up Moses attention? Like it was with the cats?
I may be way too jaded to ever think well of Trisha, especially after they opened up a family channel.
Healing has to start on your own. You cannot count on a baby to make that step happen. That is not what Parenthood is about...
That's worrisome to have a child and to think that...
Babies need genuine love not to be a tool for healing an adult..
We will never ever feel sorry for her.
Well to answer your first question, I would think Trisha would be worried to have a daughter because she's worried about protecting her from abuse and assault but that says alot about my own upbringing and life so we'll see what Trish says 😆
Narcissists and those that demonstrate narcissistic tendencies clinically see their children as a commodity and a reflection of themselves. I am genuinely worried for this child.
If she gets post-partum depression, is there someone prepared to take her phone away from her?
God that is terrifying to think about with her
I think Trish and the whole gender thing is just her trolling and 100% for clicks and views. As Trish herself has said, it doesn't matter if it's positive or negative, just as long as she's being talked about 🙄
The fact that Trish has made it clear that they identify as nonbinary yet they had a party about the gender of their child makes me chuckle and roll my eyes at the same time. I absoulty detest parties that celbrate in this way cause I find it odd and uncomfortable. But for someone to say nonbinary and then have a party where the focal point is gender of their own child seems a bit counterintuitive. To each their own but I will not ever have a celebration or a reveal party nor attend one of friends or family with the intent of telling those around me what parts my child will be coming into the world with.
Omg Adam!! LOVE THE SHIRT!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️
Greetings from Miami! Haven’t watched yet but I agree with the title whole heartedly.
Trish has so much internalized misogyny it is not even funny.
ALSO, can trisha please not vlog literally while actively driving, like ya hear the signals and shit and its like girl. That's not safe. Please don't do this with a baby in the back
Adam you’re GLOWING bestie. I totally agree with the family channel opinion. 💕
Trisha needs to talk about this in therapy, not on TH-cam.
I love that creators like you, Adam, and others have such a hard stance on family channels and continuously call them out for it! A german creator did a video on family channels/mommy bloggers once, where she talked about how she was able to find out where the child went to school, her after school schedule etc (ofc without sharing it in the video), just from the information the mom shared. Scary stuff.
YOUR MAKEUP IS SLAYINGGGGG.
I believe I and my 5 other siblings were supposed to be those babies who were made to "heal" my mother and be her rebound. In the end there is 7 of us, 6 of us were taken in to foster care system as a child. Children are not some characters in some stupid game, they are living beings and they should be respected as such. I have years worth of trauma because of the things I had to go through and at this point I'm afraid for the baby that is yet to born.
I really do hope Trisha doesn't reflect her own childhood on to her child, nor make the child a puppet for her game.
Unpopular opinion but I don’t think she’s ever been pregnant and she’s doing this to “lose” the baby for attention and sympathy and because NO ONE can question her on it.
I think she has a lot of stuff she needs to work out w herself before she brings a child in her life but I also don’t know her personally but from an outside perspective she seems like she has a lot of healing to do for her self
I had my baby in 2020, my first and only child. Everyone was asking me do you want a boy or a girl I always said I don't care if what the gender of my baby is I just want to meet them. I had a girl, and everybody was screaming excited I was just happy to have a name for my daughter. I never cared about the baby's gender just if he or she was healthy. I was also abused by my father as a child physically and mentally I don't want to heal through my child, but I want to play and be there for her and give her the childhood every kid needs and should have. don't put your issues on your child instead help them when they have issues and be there when they need you. sorry for the long post I hope everyone has a good night or day.
i am nonbinary and it has always bugged me how trisha never really seemed to look into different gender labels/learn about the community at all :/
Like obviously major events like having a child, getting married or losing a loved one can transform you as a person, however, to preemptively expect it?? Like that baby is going to have their own life and their sole purpose shouldn’t be for your character development.
I give her two months until the thinks the baby is annoying and she is overwhelmed...
She needs to heal herself FOR her baby, not through them.
yes having a child may help you heal parts of your inner child but to put so much pressure on your unborn child to heal all of you is unrealistic and setting your child up for failure. it’s not your child’s job to fix you. it’s your job to have done work on yourself (and to continue to work on yourself) to ensure your child has the best possible life that you can provide for them.