This is so helpful to me, every time I fell I hesitate to go back to confession especially in a short period of time , I feel discouraged and a shame of my weakness and I say to myself what’s the point of going to confession but this video is a blessing to me, it encourages me to keep going to confession and I’m starting to feel the great love of God for sinners, thank you very much father and thank God for the sacraments of reconciliation , God bless.
A very clear, concise and insightful guide to going to the Sacrament of Confession. The graces and blessings received by the penitent in this Sacrament are huge. Thank you very much Fr Bartunek for this very helpful information
i did not turn away from the church I just stopped going.. never liked going to confession found it a frightening experience walking into a dark small box a piece of wood sliding back when the priest ready with just a very dim light on his side. never knowing what to say never feeling I had done anything so awful that I needed to tell a stranger . I have not been to confession in over nearly 30 years and with that communion as well. sometime I feel like going to church but have not done so. I had hope now that we are all these years down the line (I made confession age 7yrs) that reconciliation would have become part of the Mass. A part of which would ask the congregation to speak to god about their sins and a absolution given to the people seems more grown up and without the dark box sindrome more in keeping with directly speaking to God (who already knows what one has done that might be wrong) But no change has taken place and I still feel fear so I do not go either
Dark box syndrome: in Vienna, austria, in st. Stephans dome there is a small room where you can choose to either seat on table, face to face with priest, or one can kneel. I norrmally choose to seat because of kneeproblems and the confession becomes a conversation where one can unload everything. Much easier. It is probably only a matter of asking/looking around to find the right parish with the right priest. Dont give up. I had a similar long walk until I found the right place. It is worth it. All the best.
Thank you, Father for this talk. Due to lack of priests, may i know how can i go to regular confession which i believe is at least once a month? Than you for this talk.
It's not guilt or shame that prevents me from going. It's the line I have to wait in. The line is always long and slow and I have zero patience. It's a sorry excuse. But it's kept me from going for years.
while helpful, it's not helpful. my obstacle to confession is time. I have to find a specific block of time. We have four masses, why not 3 confession times?
To face up to shameful behaviour is to experience regret, humiliation and remorse. That is unpleasant. Some priests worsen those feelings and you can’t predict how they will respond. That is why I have stayed away. If only there were more who followed the example of the father of the prodigal son.
Doesn't feel the same at all for me but it probably is just me . But when you can feel something taken place in the confession we'll I don't really have the answer for it but I don't feel it without going
I don’t go to formal priest confession because I do not feel God’s Grace from a priest. Their only guidance is say 5 Hail Mary’s and 10 Our Father’s. I feel God’s Grace every night when I confess my daily sins. It is so much more effective to immediately repent instead of waiting. It is man who developed confession with a priest - not God. I once confessed a sin to a nun.
You're right it was a man who developed confession but you're wrong in saying it wasn't God. Confession has existed since Jesus gave the authority to the Apostles to forgive sins. You are still allowed to repent (in fact it is absolutely necessary) of your sins before going to confession, that's the point of a daily examination of conscience. You come from a place of pride and embarrassment (I do too, especially when I was a Protestant) that keeps you away from the lord in the Sacrament he made. I'll leave you with a quote dating from 203 A.D. by Tertullian of Carthage on confession: "Yet most men either shun this work, as being a public exposure of themselves, or else defer it from day to day. I presume (as being) more mindful of modesty than of salvation; just like men who, having contracted some malady in the more private parts of the body, avoid the privity of physicians, and so perish with their own bashfulness." [Repentance Chapter 10]
GL- I don’t go because I look for guidance and all I get is to say 5 Hail Marys and 10 Our Fathers which does nothing for me. I want to change, be a different person.
@@lattem2141 That's respectable and you are definitely ahead of most people who just do it out of habit. Can I suggest you make an appointment with a Priest that you like and ask him if he can become your spiritual director? the job of a spiritual director is to make you a better person and to help you grow your connection with God in a one on one setting. Confession isn't necessarily mean't to do this (although the Priest should give you brief counseling on your sins and how to fix them, at least my Priest does), instead it's supposed to distribute the Sacrament by absolving you of your sins. There shouldn't be anything else in confession besides you listing your sins, the priest giving you council and a penance (this is important), and then the absolution and finally it should end with you walking out and doing your penance. The Penance (like you said "five Our Father's or "3 Hail Mary's", sometimes more sometimes less) the Priest gives you isn't mean't to be your counseling, it's supposed to be something you don't necessarily want to do, like a punishment, but you freely do anyways to sacrifice something (in this case your time) to God. Penance isn't necessarily supposed to make you a better person, although it can, it's instead supposed to let you give something to God as a sacrifice. The origins of Penance go all the way back to the Early Church, when people who committed grave sins might have to do ridiculously long amounts of penance (sometimes for years) to be let back into communion with the Church, they were already forgiven by God when they repented and confessed their sins, but for the body of believers to see they were truly sorry, they were given a Penance to fulfill. Getting a spiritual director can help you get pastoral counseling on everything you need, and it can be a one on one conversation to help you understand how to grow further in the spiritual life. You should look into it further so you can discern it better (because I am not qualified to help you any further, im just some guy) there is probably some good youtube videos on how to get a spiritual director. May God bless both of us and keep us on the narrow path to salvation!
I'll leave you with a quote dating from 203 A.D. by Tertullian of Carthage on confession: "Yet most men either shun this work, as being a public exposure of themselves, or else defer it from day to day. I presume (as being) more mindful of modesty than of salvation; just like men who, having contracted some malady in the more private parts of the body, avoid the privity of physicians, and so perish with their own bashfulness." [Repentance Chapter 10]
And Jesus said to the Apostle’s whose so ever sin’s you forgive are forgiven - if this is not confession I don’t know what is. Please leave your man made protestant CULT and come home.
"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” confession usually starts with the sign of the cross an bless me father for I have sinned.. . (In my experience) You've heard the phrase open your heart? Think of it as keeping your mind open to the possibility that Jesus loves you so much somehow someway he is present within the confessional with you and the priest who has taken holy orders. Any questions I'd invite you to pray on Mathew 18-20. Hope this helps god bless
Because going to confession is not taught in the Bible.. We confess ONLY to Jesus 1John 1:9 not to some god-man calling himself a priest.. We also do not ask Mary this or that either, we do not bow down to idols as well.. Jesus stated that we ask the Father in HIS name and whatever we ask, God will do it for us.. He did NOT say to ask Mary.. People I would suggest that you read the Bible for yourself instead of listening to blind people telling you what to do or you going to walk around blinded..
You are right on every point!! I left the Catholic Church many years ago because it was a man made cult! They hold people through fear. Salvation is through Jesus Christ alone - no other name!!
This is so helpful to me, every time I fell I hesitate to go back to confession especially in a short period of time , I feel discouraged and a shame of my weakness and I say to myself what’s the point of going to confession but this video is a blessing to me, it encourages me to keep going to confession and I’m starting to feel the great love of God for sinners, thank you very much father and thank God for the sacraments of reconciliation , God bless.
A very clear, concise and insightful guide to going to the Sacrament of Confession. The graces and blessings received by the penitent in this Sacrament are huge. Thank you very much Fr Bartunek for this very helpful information
Why doesn't this video not have more views? Saving this in my playlist to show to my kids for better confession and a better Easter.
Probably the annoying background music.
This was a wonderful teaching on the Sacrament of Reconciliation. Thank you.
Thank you good words.
Thank you. I'm glad to see RC Spirituality putting out content more frequently.
Thank you Fr John. I so needed to hear this. I will now go to Confession more regularly. 🙏🏻
That was excellent Fr. John. Thank you for taking the time to enlighten us!
Thanks to God for this enlightenment 🙏
WOW, thank you SO much, all the best from Vienna / Austria
i did not turn away from the church I just stopped going.. never liked going to confession found it a frightening experience walking into a dark small box a piece of wood sliding back when the priest ready with just a very dim light on his side. never knowing what to say never feeling I had done anything so awful that I needed to tell a stranger . I have not been to confession in over nearly 30 years and with that communion as well. sometime I feel like going to church but have not done so. I had hope now that we are all these years down the line (I made confession age 7yrs) that reconciliation would have become part of the Mass. A part of which would ask the congregation to speak to god about their sins and a absolution given to the people seems more grown up and without the dark box sindrome more in keeping with directly speaking to God (who already knows what one has done that might be wrong) But no change has taken place and I still feel fear so I do not go either
Dark box syndrome: in Vienna, austria, in st. Stephans dome there is a small room where you can choose to either seat on table, face to face with priest, or one can kneel. I norrmally choose to seat because of kneeproblems and the confession becomes a conversation where one can unload everything. Much easier. It is probably only a matter of asking/looking around to find the right parish with the right priest. Dont give up. I had a similar long walk until I found the right place. It is worth it.
All the best.
your not alone, ask the holy spirit to help you. God knows what’s in your heart.
Thank you ❤🕊
Thank you, Father for this talk. Due to lack of priests, may i know how can i go to regular confession which i believe is at least once a month? Than you for this talk.
So good and at the right time
It's not guilt or shame that prevents me from going. It's the line I have to wait in. The line is always long and slow and I have zero patience. It's a sorry excuse. But it's kept me from going for years.
Make an appointment with a priest.
I don’t mind going to confession. To the contrary it is necessary for Me for a healthy life.
Confession is said to be a form of Exorcism. The Sacrament washes the soul clean in the Blood of the Lamb (Christ).
while helpful, it's not helpful. my obstacle to confession is time. I have to find a specific block of time. We have four masses, why not 3 confession times?
Obstacle is priorities. Finding/making the time is easy if priorities are in order.. God, family, work/play.
Thank you. 15:09
Make an appointment.
To face up to shameful behaviour is to experience regret, humiliation and remorse. That is unpleasant. Some priests worsen those feelings and you can’t predict how they will respond. That is why I have stayed away. If only there were more who followed the example of the father of the prodigal son.
Kneel at the side of your bed ,,and confess your sins to Almighty God and ask the Holy Spirit to enlighten u... Only God can forgive
Doesn't feel the same at all for me but it probably is just me . But when you can feel something taken place in the confession we'll I don't really have the answer for it but I don't feel it without going
I don’t go to formal priest confession because I do not feel God’s Grace from a priest. Their only guidance is say 5 Hail Mary’s and 10 Our Father’s. I feel God’s Grace every night when I confess my daily sins. It is so much more effective to immediately repent instead of waiting. It is man who developed confession with a priest - not God. I once confessed a sin to a nun.
You're right it was a man who developed confession but you're wrong in saying it wasn't God. Confession has existed since Jesus gave the authority to the Apostles to forgive sins. You are still allowed to repent (in fact it is absolutely necessary) of your sins before going to confession, that's the point of a daily examination of conscience.
You come from a place of pride and embarrassment (I do too, especially when I was a Protestant) that keeps you away from the lord in the Sacrament he made.
I'll leave you with a quote dating from 203 A.D. by Tertullian of Carthage on confession:
"Yet most men either shun this work, as being a public exposure of themselves, or else defer it from day to day. I presume (as being) more mindful of modesty than of salvation; just like men who, having contracted some malady in the more private parts of the body, avoid the privity of physicians, and so perish with their own bashfulness." [Repentance Chapter 10]
Also confessing your sins to a nun is fine, but the nun can't give you absolution since she isn't a successor of the Apostles.
GL- I don’t go because I look for guidance and all I get is to say 5 Hail Marys and 10 Our Fathers which does nothing for me. I want to change, be a different person.
@@lattem2141 That's respectable and you are definitely ahead of most people who just do it out of habit. Can I suggest you make an appointment with a Priest that you like and ask him if he can become your spiritual director? the job of a spiritual director is to make you a better person and to help you grow your connection with God in a one on one setting.
Confession isn't necessarily mean't to do this (although the Priest should give you brief counseling on your sins and how to fix them, at least my Priest does), instead it's supposed to distribute the Sacrament by absolving you of your sins. There shouldn't be anything else in confession besides you listing your sins, the priest giving you council and a penance (this is important), and then the absolution and finally it should end with you walking out and doing your penance.
The Penance (like you said "five Our Father's or "3 Hail Mary's", sometimes more sometimes less) the Priest gives you isn't mean't to be your counseling, it's supposed to be something you don't necessarily want to do, like a punishment, but you freely do anyways to sacrifice something (in this case your time) to God. Penance isn't necessarily supposed to make you a better person, although it can, it's instead supposed to let you give something to God as a sacrifice. The origins of Penance go all the way back to the Early Church, when people who committed grave sins might have to do ridiculously long amounts of penance (sometimes for years) to be let back into communion with the Church, they were already forgiven by God when they repented and confessed their sins, but for the body of believers to see they were truly sorry, they were given a Penance to fulfill.
Getting a spiritual director can help you get pastoral counseling on everything you need, and it can be a one on one conversation to help you understand how to grow further in the spiritual life. You should look into it further so you can discern it better (because I am not qualified to help you any further, im just some guy) there is probably some good youtube videos on how to get a spiritual director.
May God bless both of us and keep us on the narrow path to salvation!
Weird, at every confession I go to, we talk with the priest about the things I'm going through. 🤔 @@lattem2141
Go straight to God
Only one mediator Between
God and people
The man Christ Jesus!
I'll leave you with a quote dating from 203 A.D. by Tertullian of Carthage on confession:
"Yet most men either shun this work, as being a public exposure of themselves, or else defer it from day to day. I presume (as being) more mindful of modesty than of salvation; just like men who, having contracted some malady in the more private parts of the body, avoid the privity of physicians, and so perish with their own bashfulness." [Repentance Chapter 10]
Jesus said to the apostles "Those whose sins you forgive, they are forgiven; for those who sins you retain, they are retained'.....John 20: 21-23
That long beginning is not necessary with the freaky music
I agree, SO annoying. Hard to concentrate on the video !
We are to confess our sins to God, not a human being. No where in the Bible is there a confession box.
And Jesus said to the Apostle’s whose so ever sin’s you forgive are forgiven - if this is not confession I don’t know what is. Please leave your man made protestant CULT and come home.
Nowhere in the New covenant is confession made to a priest . The only priest we can confess our sins to is the God Priest Jesus Christ. 1 John 2.
"For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.” confession usually starts with the sign of the cross an bless me father for I have sinned.. . (In my experience) You've heard the phrase open your heart? Think of it as keeping your mind open to the possibility that Jesus loves you so much somehow someway he is present within the confessional with you and the priest who has taken holy orders. Any questions I'd invite you to pray on Mathew 18-20. Hope this helps god bless
Pray to God for forgiveness of sin. Confessing to a priest is not biblical. God forgives sin.
Jesus gave priests the "power to forgive sins". "Whose sins you shall forgive will be forgiven; those that you retain will be retained."
Because going to confession is not taught in the Bible.. We confess ONLY to Jesus 1John 1:9 not to some god-man calling himself a priest.. We also do not ask Mary this or that either, we do not bow down to idols as well.. Jesus stated that we ask the Father in HIS name and whatever we ask, God will do it for us.. He did NOT say to ask Mary..
People I would suggest that you read the Bible for yourself instead of listening to blind people telling you what to do or you going to walk around blinded..
You are right on every point!! I left the Catholic Church many years ago because it was a man made cult! They hold people through fear. Salvation is through Jesus Christ alone - no other name!!
‘Whose sins you shall forgive, they are forgiven them. Whose sins you shall retain, they are retained.’
Be abuse it is all a scam
Intelligent people don´t go to confession because they know, it´s humbug and there is no point in feeding the arrogance of the priests.