Loneliness will kill you

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  • เผยแพร่เมื่อ 7 พ.ย. 2024

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  • @spinglasshydra
    @spinglasshydra 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    There's an enormous difference between "loneliness" and "wanting to be be left alone" is a world of difference; however, Daniel, you're at an age where the difference between the two are seen as the same complex identity. People do become programmed into a circumstance that's habitual between where there isn't something, as much as there is becoming something that's not seemingly the same as when your comfortable by yourself. Not everyone is built the same way, each and every time, but it's much more nuanced and subtle for the 'Sigma Male Empath' (like yourself Daniel). Happiness is a "mental construct" and it requires a lot of talent on your part to understand exactly what you're attempting to say.
    The company you keep, will also determined how much validation you'll need from other people. People often ask me something similar, which is as similar to, "Aren't you lonely?" I will say that I'm not in the least bit "alone" or "lonely" just because others happen to construct from other people's conclusions. I always make sure I have a choice to either engage, or, disengaging with others which is not a humongous "need". I don't need validation or praise from other's. In my Psychiatric Practice I establish these boundaries, in which, your contact with others can become needless; however, this is apart of "the balance" everyone needs, but it's still my decision. It's nobody else's problem, except for what you will seem to need to make of it.
    BTW: This is not either a male or female experience, but instead it's contextualized by what your personal definitions might be. Remember, your at an age where creating "social constructs" are up to you.... !!!! Everything is determined by who and what you seem to make of it. Know yourself first and then balance everything out later in life, because a "derailment" can create a negative habit. It's extremely easy to fall into a category of complacency, except for who and what you can determine of how much is too much.
    Just remember, these are two extremes found in human nature, so balance is always been the key. Your level of mental health will always determination exactly how proportional with how much you either "need", or, "don't need" others ― Always remember, there are "red-flags" which should always be raised when someone thinks they "need" you. If a girlfriend, boyfriend, or somewhere in between then they'll say, they "need" you ― RUN LIKE HELL.... !!!!
    Whenever anyone either says or hears the term "need" then just run away, because it's a trap. I've been married for over 25 years and we both are practicing Psychiatrists, who have our offices at home, so we always let each other know, "I need time to myself", so there are very few conflicts, because we respect each other's space. My wife specializes with Childhood Sexual Abuse (CSA) and sometimes she, or, I need to let steam go off. I designed a space that has terrific sound quality, but we both feels we need time to play some angry music and scream at the walls. While this sounds strange to many people, we both need this outlet. We made this into a healthy relationship, but if, you're wondering what your partner is doing every hour ― Then that's your problem and not theirs. It requires honesty without the fear of offending the other, because it's a simple fact. Be honest always and forever.... !!!!
    We can enjoy other people, but we never "need" others in our life's trajectory ― If this is how you think, then you'll manufacture "failure" for yourself. Most people aren't equipped with positive reinforcement abilities, so they don't always congratulate you, or offer their best wishes for you ― Breaking habits are always a necessary skill and a healthy mind always needs time by yourself and not always with someone, because you'll eventually feel suffocated.
    "Loneliness" is completely avoidable, and you don't need to spending 10 years at Stanford, Harvard, or Yale University's to earn an M.D. with a Ph.D. to understand this concept.
    Ciao, Daniel..... !!!!

  • @Pencilcurater05_
    @Pencilcurater05_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Another banger Daniel; Wow, never would I’ve thought I’d be looking up to a teenager like you, I’ve been watching your videos for a while as they are motivating me more than ever. Thank you for your hard work. Keep it up.

    • @DanielRuizz12
      @DanielRuizz12  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you bro that means a lot

  • @JurassicBlueberries
    @JurassicBlueberries 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are a passionate young man , thumbs up (again).

  • @greefire_
    @greefire_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    But also introverts do exist and it’s not and illness nor bad in any way, it’s just the diversity of life. And introverts don’t get their energy from social contact, they loose it. That’s just science. But ofc they need friends too, just not for energy. introverts don’t want to be lonely, they just need some alone time and that’s perfectly normal

  • @paulmoreno6279
    @paulmoreno6279 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy Memorial Day from Palm Beach Florida to my awesome and amazing guy

  • @cylon5741
    @cylon5741 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Why not do something outdoors with friends which does not involve tobacco, alcohol, illegal drugs, or something stupid-dangerous? Is going to summer camp an option?
    The teen hormone changes can cause an emotional rollercoaster, so no matter what you think you "know", do not hurt yourself (or anyone else).
    You will find your place and do good things. I don't think people need leaders so much as they need exemplars, but you do you.

    • @DanielRuizz12
      @DanielRuizz12  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I completely agree about drugs and all that stuff I don’t do any of that but thank you for saying this because I should have said this and been more clear in my video. The time you spend with people should be quality time not drugs, illegal or stupid stuff. But I did not say to to that I just said go do something so you don’t get so bored with your life

    • @cylon5741
      @cylon5741 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@DanielRuizz12 Peer pressure can easily entice someone your age to do things out of character or outright illegal. A group of teenagers can get into big trouble real quick. These are friendly comments, and you will do you no matter what anyone types. If you go to college, it will be an entirely different experience. Be well, do well.

  • @greefire_
    @greefire_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Good message but also not everyone’s goals are lonely. People can have goals in for example sports teams or the goal to make friends . You are speaking about your own situation, you can’t generalize that to the whole world with such general language

  • @dannieto1453
    @dannieto1453 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    where are you?

  • @NoFaceExplain
    @NoFaceExplain 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    eyy king, if U wanna scale ur yt and personal brand just hit me up, I'll make some fire shorts for ya

  • @greefire_
    @greefire_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This!!

  • @tomdimartino7361
    @tomdimartino7361 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Boring...