How I Stopped Lying to Myself

Hi, Jeff Munn, Creating Extraordinary Futures.
I want to delve deeper in this week's subscriber video on the notion of lying to ourselves. I'll share a bit about how I lied to myself and why I think I did that.
For many years, I had a deep desire and felt a sense that someday I was going to be a coach and help people make significant changes in their lives. I wanted to help them see deeper aspects of themselves and understand how our human software really works. But I kept putting it off. I kept convincing myself that I was happy enough with what I was currently doing. From the outside, everything seemed great. I was doing interesting work and getting paid well.
At one point, I began to suspect something. I thought I was being rational about when the right time was to leave. And in some ways, I was. But where I wasn't being rational was in convincing myself that I was happy staying. I remember a moment when I decided to continue in my current role until retirement. I told myself that I was having enough of an impact, that I was happy enough, and that I liked the people I worked with enough to enjoy a really good job with good pay and high-level responsibilities.
But when I made that decision, I felt a bodily sense of resignation. I realized something was wrong. It wasn't sustainable. I'm wondering if you've ever had a moment like that. It's often the first glimpse of the truth. My mind can convince me of many things, but my body doesn't lie. There's a tension that shows up, revealing the true story of what you're giving up.
It's ironic because, at the same time, when we try to step into something bigger, our body tells us it's dangerous and scary. But there's a difference between true fear and excitement-the feeling of being on the edge and about to learn something new. That kind of fear can be a pointer, part of the roadmap, leading you to the next thing. There will be a voice saying, "Nope, you cannot," and "How dare you think you can." It's helpful to get support to discern whether that voice is real or just a protective part of you trying to keep you safe.
Reflect on how your life has gone when you've listened to that voice and when you've ignored it and done it anyway. If you want to explore this deeper, consider whether those thoughts are real or just historical constructs from your childhood that are obsolete now.
There's much to explore and discern around whether you are happy, lying to yourself, and what the next step is for you. I'm happy to discuss any or all of this with you anytime. Feel free to reach out. I hope you have a great weekend exploring these thoughts, and I'll see you next time.