IMPORTANT THINGS I REGRET NOT STARTING IN MY EARLY 20s: 5 THINGS I WOULD FOCUS ON IN MY 20s

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  • IMPORTANT THINGS I REGRET NOT STARTING IN MY EARLY 20s: 5 THINGS I WOULD FOCUS ON IN MY 20s
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  • @Dani-mr2im
    @Dani-mr2im ปีที่แล้ว +409

    Notes:
    1) Be disciplined.
    2) Find something you are good at and be passionate about it.
    3) Do not settle:set your boundaries and standards.
    4) Passive Income: monetize your interests.
    5) Build and maintain solid friendships.

    • @nthatisimphale
      @nthatisimphale ปีที่แล้ว +9

      You're a lifesaver😍😍
      I was lazy to write and then I came across this comment

    • @Lerato114
      @Lerato114 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you. I was looking for this.

  • @queenkaili3243
    @queenkaili3243 ปีที่แล้ว +148

    I’m almost 23. I think a lot of Gen-Z unhappiness and depression about life comes from social media. The constant comparisons, seeing people your age lightyears ahead of you. It’s exhausting. I recently deleted all socials except TH-cam and have started pouring into myself, my finances and goals. I love that you added making friendships to this list… I’ve been so focused on my own success that I haven’t really made any friends.

    • @chanela.7786
      @chanela.7786 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I felt that, had to step away cause it really is a distraction but you also have to understand that it’s also a mirage and most of the people on there aren’t even really living the lives they’re portraying themselves to be. But I always remind myself that comparison is the thief of joy and just because one has something doesn’t mean the same won’t happen to you

  • @byesialater
    @byesialater ปีที่แล้ว +127

    needed this video so bad!! discipline is something i really need to work on. now that im finally recovering from my mental health issues, i’m trying to get my life together and obtain the lifestyle that ive always desired. my lack of discipline tends to get in the way of that, but im starting to realize that im wasting my potential by sitting around doing nothing and doubting myself. i need to really start believing in myself and putting in the work to see results. your channel is such a blessing, thank you so much for this video! 💕💕

  • @milkhomie4582
    @milkhomie4582 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I don’t have any friends and sometimes I like it this way. No drama and no one to backstab you.

  • @gennyfrmdablocc
    @gennyfrmdablocc ปีที่แล้ว +105

    Great video ! I’m 23 now when I was 20 I moved to a new city and have been trying to make friends ever since 😅 I finally realized that I need to be focused on my goals and being disciplined and things will fall into place

  • @AbbysBandwidth-ABW
    @AbbysBandwidth-ABW ปีที่แล้ว +136

    I'm so glad I built the level of discipline I have now since the age of 19... I'm 21 a medical student with atleast 2yrs more to become a doctor and despite my limited time as a student doctor I'm growing an online brand, running a small food business in school to increase my finances and building healthy habits and my dream body by going to the gym consistently...not wasting time on relationships that's time wasting I can't reduce my standards no matter what cus I know I deserve that and all this I do with nothing but discipline

  • @graceHumphreyy
    @graceHumphreyy ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Finding something you're good at and enjoy doing and making money from it, is something I wish I knew much earlier than I did!

  • @sj2222
    @sj2222 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I’m 22 and feel like I wasted so many years, but it makes sense that I’ve been starting to focus on my goals this past year and believing in my self to pursue them.

  • @christopherreed3019
    @christopherreed3019 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I totally agree...20s is a very important and pivotal time in a persons like. it will influence the way you see life and if could negatively or positively influence your quality of life afterwards. I started smoking marijuana when I was 25. Worst decision I ever made. I became addicted to it. it changed me. i became lazy. Was kicked out of medical school because i failed my class because I rarely studied but spent my time smoking weed. I went back to medical school and glory be to God, I finally graduated. But I paid for my addictions. I wasted 8 years of my life addicted to weed. I had pseudo psychosis due to my addiction. However, God had mercy on me. I dont smoke anymore. I have been 9 years somber. I am mentally better...Not 100 percent..but about 90 percent better...so I am grateful. Guys, listen to her..your 20s is a very critical point in your life. ...very critical

  • @purpleviolet9046
    @purpleviolet9046 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    For me I hate to admit it but I wastes so many years addicted to social media. It really is taking a toll on me and I want to have a better life. I want hobbies, a second job, save money/disciplined and make meaningful relationships and friends. I’m not innocent and I’ve done bad things like the last person, and sometimes I have resentment but I’m working on it slowly but surely 🙏🏾

  • @simplysabrina5294
    @simplysabrina5294 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Today is my 21st birthday. Perfect timing 💕

    • @chisomchukwuma3906
      @chisomchukwuma3906 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Happy Birthday 🎉

    • @asibelle422
      @asibelle422 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Happy Birthday! I would focus on self love if I was 21 again.

  • @cherryivana1129
    @cherryivana1129 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I’m 22 rn and I’m honestly failing at everything in life. I don’t know where to start in life career wise, I live with my Nigerian parents and still dealing with toxic situations from childhood (I distance myself often) that truly affects my self confidence and self esteem , and I don’t want a big girl job. Rn it’s been a negative shift and I’ve changed for the worse especially after covid. Hopefully when I turn 23 I’m able to change my name for a while Fresh start. I don’t mind the cost. At 20, I definitely was on a better track in life than how I was at 21 during this time of last year and right now.

    • @adeola9091
      @adeola9091 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sending you love 💖

    • @cherryivana1129
      @cherryivana1129 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@adeola9091 thank you so much 🥺🥺

    • @Inspo_Haven
      @Inspo_Haven ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Someday sooner than you expect things will begin to fall in place for you 💕for now,breathe and know tough days don’t last

    • @TheLuscious97
      @TheLuscious97 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Find joy in the things you can control and the little things that work. Make the best of what you have now.
      You’ll definitely be alright 💕

    • @jaylove9739
      @jaylove9739 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same

  • @kj8767
    @kj8767 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Thank you for that segment about passive income. I'm 19 and I have a lot of passive income ideas that I've been wanting to try, but I feel hesitant to go for them because sometimes I doubt my ideas. This gave me the extra push I needed.

    • @bern8378
      @bern8378 ปีที่แล้ว

      Please share some with me. Thank you

  • @ezichimdivine2874
    @ezichimdivine2874 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I’m turning 20 by July and I really do feel pressure and I struggle with anxiety too. Thank you for sharing, Lucy❤️

    • @ezichimdivine2874
      @ezichimdivine2874 ปีที่แล้ว

      @lucybenson3 I can't find the link

    • @euniceegbu5616
      @euniceegbu5616 ปีที่แล้ว

      Mine is next month. I feel the same way too! I’m glad I saw this video!

    • @I_buprofen
      @I_buprofen ปีที่แล้ว

      You’ll be fine honey, set a few goals for yourself each day and try hard to accomplish them, even if its 2 or 3 goals. The gratification that comes with it will make you feel the urge to do more and more.
      Remember, there’s will be times you’ll not accomplish them. Thats ok. Don’t beat yourself up. Start afresh each day with the aim of wanting more for yourself in life.

  • @egar_chizzy
    @egar_chizzy ปีที่แล้ว +8

    The way i quickly run to TH-cam anytime i see a notification from you is so so different❤

  • @Desrayyy_
    @Desrayyy_ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I started journaling in 2019 and my life has changed internally and externally ❤ slow steps will still get you far

  • @r.m1249
    @r.m1249 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I don't usually comment on videos but I wanted to tell you that your channel has already helped me a lot to grow as a person and give me a new perspective on things and I thank you very much for helping people to be better
    ps: i apologize if i didn't wrote well cuz English isn't my first language

    • @bukolaessien7352
      @bukolaessien7352 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your English is perfect

    • @taiwoakinnigba
      @taiwoakinnigba ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You're English is quite good. You can get better.😊

  • @immagrande6254
    @immagrande6254 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    You are a brilliant woman and I hope many young women listen to this ! I wish I could have someone like you when I was younger (I am 27), love you

  • @aminaakfaye3695
    @aminaakfaye3695 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Spent 80% of the time just looking at how elegant you’re and how very well kept the whole video is ❤️❤️❤️

  • @angelc1288
    @angelc1288 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am 19 soon to be 20 in 6 days. I am starting to take more risks on my life. (good risks) I got myself into college and I trust that the universe will guide me to my dream job. I have been moving in silence for a bit. I needed to watch this video.

  • @uchechinwanosike4458
    @uchechinwanosike4458 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I agree totally with that friendship part❤

  • @didiash
    @didiash ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Dont confuse passive income for side hustles. Passive income comes from investments what you described was side hustles

  • @Leslieee.14
    @Leslieee.14 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Hi Lucy, I really admire you and appreciate your content. The advices you give us are practically amazing. Please drop a podcast, I would love to follow and binge listen to it. Soooo helpful that I could reflect in every sentence you utter. I could cry. Thank you!

  • @GoodnessIsrael
    @GoodnessIsrael ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Discipline over everything! Fr

  • @BCBeautystores
    @BCBeautystores ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I can't tell how God uses you but its great.. Each video you make speaks to me Directly... God continue to bless you... Much Love❤❤.. This year of my 20s has been going great.. I have been taking the bold steps in achieving mine goals and dreams...🌹🌹🌹

  • @vianvii
    @vianvii ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m so glad i found you, I’m turning 20 soon so i have much to learn. Listing to your advice you give feel like having an older sibling watching over me 💓

  • @OfficialPageantPolice
    @OfficialPageantPolice ปีที่แล้ว

    it's never easy to be displined however with time you can develop the habit.

  • @chisomsam-obasi2673
    @chisomsam-obasi2673 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Gosh Lucy we think alike and I’ll really love to meet you. Everything you said is so spot on and I was literally just having the same conversation with my mentor few days ago. May God keep directing us and giving us wisdom. Well done girl, I really love your channel

  • @kaybeescoop8066
    @kaybeescoop8066 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The only issue with not settling is that eventually, you develop a perpetual pattern of not wanting to "settle." So 1 partner turns into 2, and 2 eventually turns into 4, and so on until eventually you're incapable of settling. No one ever is good enough. Dopamine is like any other drug, it's dose dependent. The more you have, the more you need. Before you realize, you've built up an egregious body count just looking for the next feel good.

  • @yetundeadeshina3231
    @yetundeadeshina3231 ปีที่แล้ว

    Most inspiring for me is the part were you spoke about having a liking to something "career" that people will take unserious but you totally love..so so true cos I have a degree and I'm selling food and drinks online and sometimes I don't remember I'm actually doing something I enjoy so much,not as profitable right but has so much potential..can't wait to unleash my potentials in this and so many more

  • @adelekeoluwapelumi4908
    @adelekeoluwapelumi4908 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Lucy for words on wisdom

  • @vivianbiachomebulo987
    @vivianbiachomebulo987 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Lucy thank you to be realistic with us

  • @tluxetluxe8258
    @tluxetluxe8258 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Firstborn energy love it great advice...

  • @mbaligama8189
    @mbaligama8189 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You look absolutely stunning Lucy, wow.

  • @Girlypopnails
    @Girlypopnails 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is great video!😇

  • @PrincessPercie
    @PrincessPercie ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love this video! Can you please do a video on different forms of passive income as a young person

    • @_abee
      @_abee ปีที่แล้ว

      Awww yes please
      Please do

  • @Thephenomenalore
    @Thephenomenalore ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much, your videos always leave me journaling 😢

  • @christianaoriyomi1439
    @christianaoriyomi1439 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love how you talk. I listened all through, thanks for this I needed it. Does Better help as an app?

  • @happinessalerah1809
    @happinessalerah1809 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's always like Lucy has me in mind when making her videos 😅😊.
    I so much relate with the 5 points you talked about in this video.
    Speaking of Discipline and taking action; I love cooking but I'm always talking myself down on beginning my business, I'll always say I don't have the resources, space, time and capital to start. Like you have said "Start Now!!!" and I will 😊😊.
    Thank you Lucy 🥰❤️.

  • @bibianokonkwo5782
    @bibianokonkwo5782 ปีที่แล้ว

    We loved it!!!❤❤❤❤ esp the friends part

  • @suikasidikatu7213
    @suikasidikatu7213 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Lucy thank you big sister ❤

  • @stellaawo
    @stellaawo ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Lucyyyy
    I love you so freaking muchhh❤
    I always check out for your videos
    I'm still working on the discipline part and It's tough😢

  • @precious9222
    @precious9222 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Starts at 4:00

  • @abbyponce3860
    @abbyponce3860 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’m almost 23

  • @enhlentuli
    @enhlentuli ปีที่แล้ว

    I took so much from this! Thanks for sharing 🙏🏾

  • @Global_financialGirl
    @Global_financialGirl ปีที่แล้ว

    Big sister Lucy thank you for this timeless information.

  • @sportstrivia24
    @sportstrivia24 ปีที่แล้ว

    I feel like this is my favorite one of your videos 😊

  • @chinenyeokonkwo3188
    @chinenyeokonkwo3188 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for sharing this piece ❤️❤️

  • @chanela.7786
    @chanela.7786 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m 23 and I graduated from college a year ago and had been struggling for depression for the longest time. I still have yet to find an actual full time job within my field but have gotten side hustles related to it but really want to relocate to another city to get more opportunities but I can’t afford to. I’ll be turning 24 later this year and for the longest time I felt all these pressures to accomplish all these big things but I’m just trying to give myself grace and not compare myself to other people but it feels exhausting especially when you’re dealing with family that doesn’t understand what you’re going through

    • @pearloseia
      @pearloseia ปีที่แล้ว

      You will be fine, love. Everything will fall into place at the right time❤️

    • @simranpunia9863
      @simranpunia9863 ปีที่แล้ว

      You’re gonna make it, don’t worry❤

  • @naanaserwaaa-xe2sk
    @naanaserwaaa-xe2sk ปีที่แล้ว

    I loved it everything was giving big sister vibes🥹🥰
    Thank you❤️

  • @dooseabege
    @dooseabege ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks for the tips as always ❤

  • @efuasenchery3
    @efuasenchery3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love the advice! Definitely sharing!🙏🏿💃🏿

  • @Melissa-fm9bx
    @Melissa-fm9bx ปีที่แล้ว

    Everything happens in divine timing & order.

  • @Billy33753
    @Billy33753 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love this video

  • @kaitlynojo924
    @kaitlynojo924 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Such good big sis advice❤

  • @ChinnyIvy
    @ChinnyIvy ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Lucy, everything is so true.
    Thank you for this insight

  • @jemsmoyo6339
    @jemsmoyo6339 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is amazing thank uuu

  • @solomonvictoria5432
    @solomonvictoria5432 ปีที่แล้ว

    Always on point!

  • @kutloanoloretta6967
    @kutloanoloretta6967 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you sis ❤️

  • @crystallove1869
    @crystallove1869 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What you said doesn’t make sense, I love your videos and I’ve been following you for a while but the 1-3 close friends I don’t really agree with. I could have 3 close friends and meet another person just because I have 3 close friends doesn’t mean I can’t be close to another friend. Friendship doesn’t work like that, I feel like sometimes not expected you get close to people of the energy, vibe, personality. And then u said if you lose one close friend they can be replaced that’s not how friendship works, you can’t pick the percings your close to. I don’t know if I’m making sense but friendship is based on a lot of things especially close friendship .

  • @Christoglow84
    @Christoglow84 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Lucy 😌❤️

  • @TheSunshineOluoha
    @TheSunshineOluoha ปีที่แล้ว

    Enjoyed it!

  • @hetdavy3390
    @hetdavy3390 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very insightful! The best! Make a video for 30s. I turned 30 this year🎉🎉😊

  • @niyahpia
    @niyahpia ปีที่แล้ว

    Girl you look so good in video🥰

  • @pearlnarh7584
    @pearlnarh7584 ปีที่แล้ว

    Loved it❤

  • @Alliyah-le
    @Alliyah-le ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank You, this is great advice.

  • @abigailamoah5555
    @abigailamoah5555 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoyed this nd I would love to hv more of this content. Thanks for sharing

  • @VicksStyles
    @VicksStyles ปีที่แล้ว

    i agree with you tbh💕💖❤passive income is important

  • @tolanimary
    @tolanimary ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love you so much sis❤

  • @Rashidah688
    @Rashidah688 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for this video

  • @Global_financialGirl
    @Global_financialGirl ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoyed this video❤

  • @valeriearthur5151
    @valeriearthur5151 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I literally enjoy watching you everytime😊 we hope to learn more from you

  • @isabellamurungi4366
    @isabellamurungi4366 ปีที่แล้ว

    Unfortunately, I can't afford any paying therapy session.

  • @beegirlzone
    @beegirlzone ปีที่แล้ว

    I will soon be 22 and it looks like I'm failing at everything I try to do, I started selling snails but not getting sales, I have been doing TH-cam for a while but I don't know what's happening, I'm now torn apart between choosing a career path. I love media but I am a graduate of Genetics and Biotechnology, I definitely need someone to talk to.

    • @Tunmhise
      @Tunmhise ปีที่แล้ว

      If you truly love media, it doesn't matter what you studied. You can start online and dedicate more to your TH-cam. Definitely at first, it will cost you, that's one thing to consider...but if you really love it. Go for it and commit everything to God.

  • @bibianokonkwo5782
    @bibianokonkwo5782 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you Lucy❤❤❤❤

  • @immabrite
    @immabrite ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello Lucy love your look❤

  • @talkwithtemi990
    @talkwithtemi990 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Lucy benson

  • @TheCityofGodd
    @TheCityofGodd ปีที่แล้ว

    Educative 💯

  • @ivy256
    @ivy256 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    thanks sis Lucy ur advice is really making impact in my life ❤

  • @onyi__
    @onyi__ ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Where’s your wristwatch from?😍😍😍😍😍😍

  • @ccleavemebe4790
    @ccleavemebe4790 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this video

  • @olasehindeglory9031
    @olasehindeglory9031 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    4th here 😍 I love your videos….😊

  • @iamsharongibson
    @iamsharongibson ปีที่แล้ว

    Not in this life & not in the life to come 😂…..Word 💯💯💯, I totally agree! I even get panic attacks when I see people with a lot of friends 😅, like wooooooa, your life is at risk 😂. Thanks for another video Lucy ❤❤! Love you 😘

  • @naomib3804
    @naomib3804 ปีที่แล้ว

    Really thought this was Breeny. Thumbnail fooled me

  • @minenhleminenhle5744
    @minenhleminenhle5744 ปีที่แล้ว

    Part 2 babes 😘

  • @Omotayo.Adeyemi
    @Omotayo.Adeyemi ปีที่แล้ว

    LUCY BENSON ✊✊✊✊✊✊

  • @Claraberl
    @Claraberl 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are beautiful

  • @Naababy2003
    @Naababy2003 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why didn’t I find this early 😭😭

  • @TheCelaccytv
    @TheCelaccytv ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you LUcy❤❤❤❤

  • @nthatisimphale
    @nthatisimphale ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How old is Lucy guys?🙈

  • @danixlle
    @danixlle ปีที่แล้ว +4

    BetterHelp is terrible!

    • @Voiceless_visionary
      @Voiceless_visionary ปีที่แล้ว

      Why ?

    • @danixlle
      @danixlle ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Voiceless_visionary the therapists are not always actually licensed and they sell your data

  • @jacquelinenyingchia2761
    @jacquelinenyingchia2761 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤

  • @NatashaEze
    @NatashaEze ปีที่แล้ว

  • @Trecyonambele
    @Trecyonambele ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @jemimahakange
    @jemimahakange ปีที่แล้ว

    😊❤️❤️

  • @ainaaina5449
    @ainaaina5449 ปีที่แล้ว

    Any one to teach me how to make money???😢

  • @abbyponce3860
    @abbyponce3860 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hate my life

  • @estherdee3686
    @estherdee3686 ปีที่แล้ว

    First here

  • @lovenelsondede
    @lovenelsondede ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm 22, This video is just what i need rn, to be honest i've been doing alot of thinking, especially about discipline and relationship. Thanks alot for putting this video out there, was really everything i needed to hear, so helpful indeed🥰💓