If he really just needed a second to save in a no-pause game, its not usually too urgent to wait a moment. They just worked towards a goal that whole time and don't want to lose that progress. If they need a minute to save, give a timeframe, say "okay you have 4 minutes to save and meet me in the kitchen." Take a few seconds to treat them like a person and find a solution where you both win. If theyre still not cooperating, then you move on to the next step.
And if he would have explained that the first time she asked I'm sure she would have said ok. The point is to have a response to obey first. Ok Mom, yes ma'am. May I pause it and go help. I won't to get to a point we're I can save it. Or mom is there enough time I can reach the save point I really don't won't to lose my progress.
@@michaelbaker5812 you as a grown adult can't say give me a minute, let me finish my thought on this email and I'll be right there? Most Adults don't communicate well because they weren't given the skills to as a child.
Ha ha your child has been messed up to the point which you are not going to be able to fix. Cross your fingers and hope that they grow up and see that they need to be more in control of their emotions.
RIDICULOUS. This type of mealy mouthed "parenting" is why we have children growing up with entitlement issues. Staying calm is great, but setting a minimal punishment and then allowing them to earn it back??? What kind of an example does that set? When they are adults, they will not be getting that kind of experience. You are not properly preparing them for adulthood. Consequences need to be firm and memorable so they don't want them to happen again. Earning a privilege or trust back is a separate issue "after" the consequence is done, not before.
I agree with you. I think this is fine when they are in the training stages. After they get the hang of it. I think the privilege of earning time back should be eliminated.
How is this living in the real world? This is going to teach your kid that this is how things are delt with in the real world it is nothing even close to this. Time to come back to reality people.
If he really just needed a second to save in a no-pause game, its not usually too urgent to wait a moment. They just worked towards a goal that whole time and don't want to lose that progress. If they need a minute to save, give a timeframe, say "okay you have 4 minutes to save and meet me in the kitchen." Take a few seconds to treat them like a person and find a solution where you both win. If theyre still not cooperating, then you move on to the next step.
Yes, which is why I decided to comment on this video. All people deserve and need transition time, kids especially.
And if he would have explained that the first time she asked I'm sure she would have said ok. The point is to have a response to obey first.
Ok Mom, yes ma'am. May I pause it and go help. I won't to get to a point we're I can save it. Or mom is there enough time I can reach the save point I really don't won't to lose my progress.
@@Kay.4892 They are kids in the moment, you should not expect a kid to say something that some grown adults can’t even relay.
@@michaelbaker5812 you as a grown adult can't say give me a minute, let me finish my thought on this email and I'll be right there? Most Adults don't communicate well because they weren't given the skills to as a child.
@@Kay.4892 thinking about what to write to finish up an email can be said, and the skills were half - assed by strictness and arguments
Thank you !
Good strategies thank you
This helped me thank you for this video
thanks for the video
I can imagine the teenage one going very bad... if they are like a few seconds or a minute let them save
My child just got expelled from school does she have behavioral issues
Ha ha your child has been messed up to the point which you are not going to be able to fix. Cross your fingers and hope that they grow up and see that they need to be more in control of their emotions.
Yes she might but it’s never to late you just need to find the right strategies to handle her behaviours
RIDICULOUS.
This type of mealy mouthed "parenting" is why we have children growing up with entitlement issues. Staying calm is great, but setting a minimal punishment and then allowing them to earn it back??? What kind of an example does that set? When they are adults, they will not be getting that kind of experience. You are not properly preparing them for adulthood. Consequences need to be firm and memorable so they don't want them to happen again. Earning a privilege or trust back is a separate issue "after" the consequence is done, not before.
There is less violence and crime
now statistically then there ever has been in human history. Live in reality and drop the nostalgia, geezer.
I agree with you. I think this is fine when they are in the training stages. After they get the hang of it. I think the privilege of earning time back should be eliminated.
what are you living in, the 50s? wake up to reality
profuse beating is not an option?
Not at all you need effective strategies
What if your kid hurts other children purposely because they think it will be funny?
Nice strategies but sometimes kids have challenging behaviours to the point where they need specific strategies to handle them
Bad behavioral Raymond Wong
How is this living in the real world? This is going to teach your kid that this is how things are delt with in the real world it is nothing even close to this. Time to come back to reality people.
I agree some of theses strategies are for kids who can be relatively easy to redirect but for challenging behaviours no so much
maybe if you hit the gym and become a role model you'll have less to think about