Im blessed to say I have one Christian Brother thats stood the test of time when I had nothing and held me up through a trial. And Im eternally grateful for that brother
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. The timing of me watching this and the stuff I have going on in my life currently is impeccable. Always love hearing you speak, Pastor Matt.
Problem with most not all churches today is the membership is 20 to 35 (generally) if your single and over 40 especially if your a guy good luck unless your in the clique
Great questions clement! Pastor Jeff here, online pastor. I actually think that true authentic people will be more likable to people. Especially to people that matter. Not that there are certain people that dont matter. What I am saying is that people that hear your authenticity and receive it are the people you want to be around. If you are fake and people like you because of your fake-ness then they are not your real friends. Real friends and real community are people who see the real you, hear the real you and still love you and are better friends because of that authenticity. Bottom line, you can be liked and authentic at the same time. Its actually ideal and gains you true friends.
Hi Samantha! We're primarily based out of Southern California. We have campuses as far as Fresno and Santa Rosa. We also have Sandals Church Anywhere campuses where people gather and meet together in their homes!
I do admit that my wife and I do have our arguments, but it is necessary for both husband and wife to disagree. I am NOT Jesus. My wife is NOT Jesus. Both husband and wife need to disagree so that we can achieve what is best for ourselves and our families. It does not mean you are lonely. I know a pastor who is married. His wife supported him for being a supporter for our former President. This is NOT a healthy marriage when both pastor and wife supported the former President without discussion or argument. You need to have some serious discussion especially when the End is near. Both husband and wife need to argue constantly what the Bible said. If you and your wife argue about what the Bible said, it does not mean you are really lonely. Your wife or your husband needs discussion. You should support each other, but during the End Times, husband and wife need discussion so that both husband and wife do not make a mistake. The wife should submit to the husband, and the husband should love his wife. It is not possible for both husband and wife to have this perfect understanding what the Bible said. 90% of our discussion is about how we interpret the Bible. This is a very healthy marriage, but it feels lonely when in actuality, you are in good company. If you and your wife fight about nonsense issues like money and sex 90% of the time, that's not a healthy marriage, and it is a real loneliness. 90% of your battles should be how you interpret the Bible when you are married. If you spend enough time with your spouse, you have really no time for adultery or no time with your friends. Marriage will take a significant amount of time.
Thanks Joseph for your comment. Yes, of course couples are going to disagree. You are correct, it is healthy. A healthy marriage is a marriage that is real and recognizes that differences make us better and that conformity is not the answer and also not real marriage. My hope is that the discussions, arguments and disagreements always end in the two seeing each other and understanding that the person is important and not the topic always. Unless there are main faith items that you both disagree on. The main things. But this is why pre-marital counseling is important. A good marriage respects one another and works to grow together in christ. But, as the years go by there really should be less and less disagreements. One because some arguments are just not worth it and you learn not to die on certain hills and also because the two of you get better at compromising more. This comes with age, wisdom and growing, living and loving together.
I need more real friends my childhood friend died in 2020 it was 8 years before that was the last time I talked with him.... He was 27y/o had 5 children with 3 different women. Now they have an invitation for the people who watched him have a drug inused Seizure for 5hrs before taking him to a hospital. My other friend is a woman 8 years younger than me 21y/o this December I live in Wisconsin she lives in Portland Oregon we text on the phone to each other we used to be co-workers now she is doing very well for herself she got into a construction program learned pipe fitting & steam fitting and now hopes to become a welding Apprentice and works crazy long hours and still has energy to burn even got her sister & their boyfriends in the same program and became their Spokesperson on how well the program has been. Outside of those I have been lonely, isolated, exiled at times I did not have any friends during my school years when the 3:15 bell rang or the weekend came I was alone they knew where I lived only to avoid it. I asked multiple people of many different backgrounds and they all came up with an Excuse not to come over for a movie or a fire or whatever it was. Now I'm only good enough for people to talk to me over Facebook or text never to call and they still make up reasons to never come over. At this point I feel at home being alone in my life comfortable most of the time except for the nagging feeling of being alone. Now more and more I get angry with general population because of how literally dumb people are getting I go to work with the learning disability people who just graduated listening to them everyday 😑 and my family members 4-5 of them have lost touch with reality one a scale of various degrees 😑 im getting a front row seat to this action everyday of my life. I have ADHD and OCD plus other issues like weight im 300lbs and I keep falling asleep when im not moving around if I sit im prone to sleep 😴 Being this alone all the time is like participating in a play that has no care for you and you have barely any effect its living in spectacular mode with a lot of people who get mad at you alot of the time and never want to do anything that you want to do ever. My brothers won't even hang out with me unless it's something that they planned or wanted to do in the first place 💯 🤷 so it's very rare that they reluctantly agree to do something I like to do ever. I have kinda stopped making plans for myself or others and if I do make the plan it's become very difficult to make. I have become depressed for so many reasons over this. How is a person good enough for texts but not good enough to call or be invited without begging and getting special permission like im the 3 wheel all the time.
Don't think that I'm focusing on the friends I speak of in the beginning of my rant. It's all different people from alot of different places that have let me down and make my brain cells die 💯
Hey Tim, online pastor here. I am so sorry. Sorry for the lack of friends and the disappointment that has come over a long period of time in your life. I dont know if I am going to say anything that will bring you the comfort or fix you might be looking for. All I can say is that people will disappoint. Not all, but a lot. I also believe that friendships come from also being a good friend. Like pastor Matt said. So 1. Keep on pressing in to be a good friend. 2. Go ahead and take advantage of social media. I know it might not be ideal, but at least its something. Its why its called SOCIAL media. So people will have another outlet to be social and to connect. Also, 3. Pray that God would connect you to the right relationships. Praying for friendships and community for you my friend. Also, to see if we have only groups go to sandalschurch.com/groups
And remember, don't do life alone...period!🍇🤗💚🍇🤗💚
Im blessed to say I have one Christian Brother thats stood the test of time when I had nothing and held me up through a trial. And Im eternally grateful for that brother
Amen! That is awesome to hear Brian!
This is exactly what I needed to hear right now. The timing of me watching this and the stuff I have going on in my life currently is impeccable. Always love hearing you speak, Pastor Matt.
Thanks for watching with us Mike! We're praying for you today friend.
What a timely message. My family has experienced this so much lately
Hi friend, thank you for your comment. We're praying for you and your family as you all navigate this season of life.
@@sandalschurch thank you. We went to our first Sandals service on Van Buren. Wonderful church: message and worship were 🔥
All thoughts are all lies about everything. Your thoughts are not your own, ignore them. Take every thought captive.
Thank you again Sandals.
Excellent message!
Thank you for watching with us friend!
This was a great message even though it was painful to hear.
Thanks for joining us, Lisa. I feel similarly too.
This was amazing
Thanks for watching with us Vinny! We're praying for you today!
I wonder who he was talking about at 22:22
This message is ❤!!!!! 🙏🏼
Thank you for watching with us Rene! We're praying for you today!
Problem with most not all churches today is the membership is 20 to 35 (generally) if your single and over 40 especially if your a guy good luck unless your in the clique
But how can you become likable without compromising your authenticity…
Great questions clement! Pastor Jeff here, online pastor. I actually think that true authentic people will be more likable to people. Especially to people that matter. Not that there are certain people that dont matter. What I am saying is that people that hear your authenticity and receive it are the people you want to be around. If you are fake and people like you because of your fake-ness then they are not your real friends. Real friends and real community are people who see the real you, hear the real you and still love you and are better friends because of that authenticity. Bottom line, you can be liked and authentic at the same time. Its actually ideal and gains you true friends.
Where is this church?
Hi Samantha! We're primarily based out of Southern California. We have campuses as far as Fresno and Santa Rosa. We also have Sandals Church Anywhere campuses where people gather and meet together in their homes!
I agree on politics. Trump2024!
Just type in philosophy of fight club then you can learn something.
I do admit that my wife and I do have our arguments, but it is necessary for both husband and wife to disagree. I am NOT Jesus. My wife is NOT Jesus. Both husband and wife need to disagree so that we can achieve what is best for ourselves and our families. It does not mean you are lonely. I know a pastor who is married. His wife supported him for being a supporter for our former President. This is NOT a healthy marriage when both pastor and wife supported the former President without discussion or argument. You need to have some serious discussion especially when the End is near. Both husband and wife need to argue constantly what the Bible said. If you and your wife argue about what the Bible said, it does not mean you are really lonely. Your wife or your husband needs discussion. You should support each other, but during the End Times, husband and wife need discussion so that both husband and wife do not make a mistake. The wife should submit to the husband, and the husband should love his wife. It is not possible for both husband and wife to have this perfect understanding what the Bible said. 90% of our discussion is about how we interpret the Bible. This is a very healthy marriage, but it feels lonely when in actuality, you are in good company. If you and your wife fight about nonsense issues like money and sex 90% of the time, that's not a healthy marriage, and it is a real loneliness. 90% of your battles should be how you interpret the Bible when you are married. If you spend enough time with your spouse, you have really no time for adultery or no time with your friends. Marriage will take a significant amount of time.
Thanks Joseph for your comment. Yes, of course couples are going to disagree. You are correct, it is healthy. A healthy marriage is a marriage that is real and recognizes that differences make us better and that conformity is not the answer and also not real marriage. My hope is that the discussions, arguments and disagreements always end in the two seeing each other and understanding that the person is important and not the topic always. Unless there are main faith items that you both disagree on. The main things. But this is why pre-marital counseling is important. A good marriage respects one another and works to grow together in christ. But, as the years go by there really should be less and less disagreements. One because some arguments are just not worth it and you learn not to die on certain hills and also because the two of you get better at compromising more. This comes with age, wisdom and growing, living and loving together.
I need more real friends my childhood friend died in 2020 it was 8 years before that was the last time I talked with him.... He was 27y/o had 5 children with 3 different women. Now they have an invitation for the people who watched him have a drug inused Seizure for 5hrs before taking him to a hospital. My other friend is a woman 8 years younger than me 21y/o this December I live in Wisconsin she lives in Portland Oregon we text on the phone to each other we used to be co-workers now she is doing very well for herself she got into a construction program learned pipe fitting & steam fitting and now hopes to become a welding Apprentice and works crazy long hours and still has energy to burn even got her sister & their boyfriends in the same program and became their Spokesperson on how well the program has been.
Outside of those I have been lonely, isolated, exiled at times I did not have any friends during my school years when the 3:15 bell rang or the weekend came I was alone they knew where I lived only to avoid it. I asked multiple people of many different backgrounds and they all came up with an Excuse not to come over for a movie or a fire or whatever it was. Now I'm only good enough for people to talk to me over Facebook or text never to call and they still make up reasons to never come over. At this point I feel at home being alone in my life comfortable most of the time except for the nagging feeling of being alone. Now more and more I get angry with general population because of how literally dumb people are getting I go to work with the learning disability people who just graduated listening to them everyday 😑 and my family members 4-5 of them have lost touch with reality one a scale of various degrees 😑 im getting a front row seat to this action everyday of my life. I have ADHD and OCD plus other issues like weight im 300lbs and I keep falling asleep when im not moving around if I sit im prone to sleep 😴
Being this alone all the time is like participating in a play that has no care for you and you have barely any effect its living in spectacular mode with a lot of people who get mad at you alot of the time and never want to do anything that you want to do ever. My brothers won't even hang out with me unless it's something that they planned or wanted to do in the first place 💯 🤷 so it's very rare that they reluctantly agree to do something I like to do ever. I have kinda stopped making plans for myself or others and if I do make the plan it's become very difficult to make. I have become depressed for so many reasons over this. How is a person good enough for texts but not good enough to call or be invited without begging and getting special permission like im the 3 wheel all the time.
Don't think that I'm focusing on the friends I speak of in the beginning of my rant. It's all different people from alot of different places that have let me down and make my brain cells die 💯
Hey Tim, online pastor here. I am so sorry. Sorry for the lack of friends and the disappointment that has come over a long period of time in your life. I dont know if I am going to say anything that will bring you the comfort or fix you might be looking for. All I can say is that people will disappoint. Not all, but a lot. I also believe that friendships come from also being a good friend. Like pastor Matt said. So 1. Keep on pressing in to be a good friend. 2. Go ahead and take advantage of social media. I know it might not be ideal, but at least its something. Its why its called SOCIAL media. So people will have another outlet to be social and to connect. Also, 3. Pray that God would connect you to the right relationships. Praying for friendships and community for you my friend. Also, to see if we have only groups go to sandalschurch.com/groups