I grew up watching my older sister be able to go to my parents and feel safe every time. I was made to feel less anytime I saw it comfort for as long as I can remember. Boys don't show emotions, you have to control yourself, push away your desires and behave. Every win minimized, every mistake goes under the microscope. I've internalized that my feelings as less important than everyone else around me and I never felt safe enough to say so. I still don't with basically anyone except the dog.
My father was bi-polar. And very unpredictable and volatile. I’ve been with my husband for 14 years now. It’s a healthy and happy relationship. What helped us was a little thing from sota instruments, their bio tuner. It fixes the synapses and heals trauma at the source. I learned new behaviors and we both became less awkward, developed a sense of humor, and in essence, learned that new language. I’m 8 months pregnant. I not only intend to give her a healthy, loving, 2 parent household, I want her to thrive emotionally, too. I’m going to home school her, and give her all the love and enough freedom to be confident. I broke the cycle. Completely.
While generally true, there is a danger to this approach when someone is in some kind of relationship with a malignant narcissist, especially the covert / vulnerable type before they completely take their mask off and people are unaware… this is why couples counseling where opening up is encouraged typically backfires if NPD is involved, especially if the therapist is not keenly aware of the potential and has strategies to detect it and deal with it appropriately. Unfortunately there doesn’t appear to be any treatments for NPD unless the person is able to openly admit to having the condition, which is extremely rare due to the nature of the condition. BPD may seem similar symptomatically except they are capable of recognizing their own disorder and therefore it is usually possible to treat.
Sadly and frighteningly, there's a lot of money to make off of and a lot of control to take from damaged people. What do you think the "powers that be" are gonna do to their populations? That being said, God has unexpected and exciting ways or course correcting people.
IMO Attachment creates a situation where if you lose whatever you are attached too, it's very painful. So not allowing myself to become attached is better to prevent future pain. Attachment and addiction seem to be very similar, one is in positive context, and one is a negative context, but they are the same feeling. So I'm trying to stay away from both.
We need hope and purpose. "Possible" gets washed out by "pointless" every single time
I used to have Ambivalent Attachments, then I got Saved. Jesus heals!
This is exactly what I’m concerned about for the future
That’s like not drinking water because you might choke.
I grew up watching my older sister be able to go to my parents and feel safe every time. I was made to feel less anytime I saw it comfort for as long as I can remember. Boys don't show emotions, you have to control yourself, push away your desires and behave. Every win minimized, every mistake goes under the microscope.
I've internalized that my feelings as less important than everyone else around me and I never felt safe enough to say so. I still don't with basically anyone except the dog.
You are not alone. I had a near- identical experience.
My father was bi-polar. And very unpredictable and volatile. I’ve been with my husband for 14 years now. It’s a healthy and happy relationship. What helped us was a little thing from sota instruments, their bio tuner. It fixes the synapses and heals trauma at the source.
I learned new behaviors and we both became less awkward, developed a sense of humor, and in essence, learned that new language. I’m 8 months pregnant. I not only intend to give her a healthy, loving, 2 parent household, I want her to thrive emotionally, too. I’m going to home school her, and give her all the love and enough freedom to be confident. I broke the cycle. Completely.
FACTS!!!! 💯
While generally true, there is a danger to this approach when someone is in some kind of relationship with a malignant narcissist, especially the covert / vulnerable type before they completely take their mask off and people are unaware… this is why couples counseling where opening up is encouraged typically backfires if NPD is involved, especially if the therapist is not keenly aware of the potential and has strategies to detect it and deal with it appropriately. Unfortunately there doesn’t appear to be any treatments for NPD unless the person is able to openly admit to having the condition, which is extremely rare due to the nature of the condition. BPD may seem similar symptomatically except they are capable of recognizing their own disorder and therefore it is usually possible to treat.
Sadly and frighteningly, there's a lot of money to make off of and a lot of control to take from damaged people. What do you think the "powers that be" are gonna do to their populations?
That being said, God has unexpected and exciting ways or course correcting people.
IMO Attachment creates a situation where if you lose whatever you are attached too, it's very painful. So not allowing myself to become attached is better to prevent future pain. Attachment and addiction seem to be very similar, one is in positive context, and one is a negative context, but they are the same feeling. So I'm trying to stay away from both.