Alhamd u lillah,main bhi aik saas hoon,I love my daughter in law. Main chahti hoon woh apni marzi se Zindagi guzare, Khush rahe.woh khush to mera beta khush aur hamaray gher main sukoon ho ga
Your parents are your responsibility as said in the quran, my parents are my responsibility as said in the quran. The first Muslims of Islam never lived in joint families. My parents have no sons, they live happily and comfortably be-iznillah, Alhumdulillah, Mashallah. I have a 9 year old son and I have already told him that he will take his wife to his separate residence when he gets married. Jese betion ko rukhsat krungi wese hee Betay ko bhi krungi. Stop telling daughters to leave parents while giving the men the luxury to live in joint families crushing other people's daughters.
@Iftekhar Alam I am already training and teaching him that this is how he would be living. He is already aware at 9 years of age that this is the Ahsan way of starting a family, the way of the sahabas & the very first original Muslim way. I told him that joint family systems were introduced by Hindus when we coexisted in the subcontinent. Insha Allah, if I can have my daughters leave me to get married and start a life, I can do the same for my son. Wa kafa billahe Wakeela, Allah is my best companion and my best provider. And the best thing is that my husband also realises and supports this ahsan way for our son, insha Allah.
@Iftekhar Alam the daughters of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW), did not go to live in joint family systems. The perfect example for all Muslims should be the lives of our Prophet's daughters, not the lady from this video.
@@komalhayat2720 time will tell Do not be fooled by one who recites Quran, for his recitation is but speech. Instead, look at the actions. Umar Ibn Al Khattab(RA)
Allah se to har koi darta h or zindgi khubsurat b chayea hoti h sb ko lakin agar susral walay hr bt pe bahu ko e ghlat tehraty h to usi ghlt tehray jany pe jb bahu kuch kehti h to ghlat ku lagti h bation k b sary raz dafan kr k phirti h na woi sas to bahu ki hr choti bari ghlti ka dhandora ki peetati h wo 😡😡😡😡😡😡
Ap kitna hi apni saas ko khush karlay kitni hi zindagi mitta day agar apki saas apko pasand nahi karti ap kabhi khush nahi reh saktay aur shofar bhi sirf maa ko sahi samjhta ho to bohat mushkil tareen hoti hai zindagi parwardigar hum sab ko behtreen sabr ata farma
Right sis jis bahu ko pasand karti he us ki burayon py bhi parda aur jis ko na pasand kary to choti choti bat sheher bhar me dhandora.bhtareen hal ye he k alag ho jao bas nahen khush hoti to na ho allah hi khush kary us ko bhi .aur khud ka bhi sukoon
@@Aizakhan-e1b Alag hona asana ha kia jaha beta maa ki politics me aisay nidhal ho k maa aik percent b ghalat nhi lagti ho aur baqi government ne chora ha k banda zehni sakon se alag ho betay do do ghar cahlaye
Saas susar pr farz hy k wo apni bahu ko pkaa pkaa k laa laa kr den bzaar sy cheezyn..? Or bahu b esi jisy theek sy kuch pkana b naa ata ho.. Saas pkaa pkaa k dey... Or bahu 5 minute paas bhi naa bethy apny room me 24 ghnty bethi rahy.. Jab pakk jaay to jaa khaa aay or phir dubara apny room me chli jaay or soti rahy....?? Zra dusra rukh bhi dekhyn tasweer ka
Men ne apni saas se bht mohabt ki par aik bahu hone k SB frz puray kiye but us ne mujhy or Meray shohar ko bht preshan kr rakha men Dua Karti hon Allah pak mujhy merai achaiyon ka Sila day or or bardasht krney ki himat
I'm Alhamdullilah Alhamdullilah educated lady an M.phil and grade 17 officer alongwith blessed with Islamic knowledge too. My marital life is also on verge of separation just because of the reason that I'm unable to serve my husbands parents well due to my full time job. He has said maa baap aur nhi milty bivyaan aur mil jati hain. When would we be able to change this cultural mindset of the SOCIETY that a lady is married to one man not whole family. It's literally not possible to make the whole family happy.
True Pakistan ma he aisi hota k Bhai to or nahi milen he biwi to mil jaey gi maa baap nahi milen ge biwi to mil jaey gi ... Shoher se pochna chaheye k apni beti k leye apnay jaisa shoher Pasand karo gay ya apnay se accha??
Its all due to illiteracy.We have answers to all the questions and issues in the Quran..and Hadeeth. Read and understand 1.HaquqAllah. 2.Haququlibad. .
Jo mard kehty hyn k biwiyan or mil jati hyn maa behen bhai or nh milty, esay mardon se guzarish hy k jese apko apni maa behen piyari hy wesi dusron ki maa behenen bhi unko bohot piyari hyn. Esi soch waly mardon ko dubara to kya pehli bar bhi koi apni beti na de kyun k behene sab ki sanjhi hoti hyn inko chahiye k apni soch badlain
Saas agar apne bete ki biwi ko izzat Dene Lage to kbhi bhi ghar ka mahol khraab nhi hota hai...saas khud to apne shohar ko ungliyo pr nachati hain or beta zra khyaal karlein apni biwi ka to kehti hain biwi ka gulaam...yahi ho rha hai aajkal
They should be trained by who and where..? They r already raised in such a poisonous and political environment that the wife gets either a spoiled child aka husband or a total pakistani mamas boy with no understanding of wife's "huqooq " phir shuru hoti hay sari umar ki Black mailing unfortunately 😢😢😢
Best tareqa agar hsbnd chahta hai ke uski biwi uski maa ko khush rakhe,uski izzat kare tu hsbnd ye kare ke uski biwi ki maa ko khush rakkhe aur usko respect de......biwi khud aapki maa ko respect degi.... Hota ye hai ke biwi ke maa baap aur ghar walon ki koi izzat nahi karte aur biwi se chahte hai ke wo maa baap ke samne bich jaye...
Jo mothers aur sisters apna beta aur bhai share nahi karsakti uski bv kay sath unko apny betoon air bhaiyoon ki shadiyaan nahi karni cahye ..kisi larki ki zindagi b kharab nahi hogi aur larka b azaab ki zindagi nahi guzara ga
Bilkul sae kha ap ny mri sister same situation sy guzr rhi hai bht preshani my rhti hai wo lakin koi us ko nhi smj pata bs sary usy hi bolty hai tm sabr kro but how much😢
shadi k baad larki ki sari omr susral or husband ko khush krny mai guzar jati...larki ko apni khushi sy zyda susral walo ki khushi ki fikar rehti...magr phr bhi koi khush nahi hota 😔
Bilkul aj kal ki larkiya begerat hn had sy ziyada.... mothers na tarbiyat hi na ki ho jaisy... bd ikhlak or batmeez larki beti ho ya bho Allah ki lanat ki mustehak hoti ha.
@@sadiamerajvlogs8121 pehle zamane mei shadi se pehle larki ki ma ko dekhte thay. Darakht dekh kar fal ka andaza lagate thay. Abhi jaise poora ka poora bhag hi waisa hai, maloom nahi sare ke sare larkiya itni behis kabse aise hogayee. Abhi ke mardo ko shadi nahi karna chahiye
@@iftekharalam1869 shadi krni chahiye us larki sy jo shadi sy phly whatsapp pr love you love you na krti rahi ho... mrd therki ko therki hi milti Allah ki traf sy ... or saas pr raham b Allah at last kr hi deta .... q k 100 bachy b ho jain aisi ort husband chor k at last dafa ho jati ha... bacho k liay thetki mother father dono Allah ko jawab dy hn... bacho ki life b disterb hoti ha. Maa bhan bap bhai to disterb hoty hi han boy k
@@iftekharalam1869 aj kal k boys ki dadi tarbiyat kry k wo aik to halal zadi choose kry shadi k liay. Dosra aba k paisy sy shadi na kry bhara ho k. Or ghr seperat kama k bna k shadi kry ta k usy pta ho halal zadi lani ha na ki whatsapp pr yari lagi haram ki ort
Dkh tb hota JB ap dill sy SB rishtoin ko ly KR chlain un responsibilities ko Jo Allah NY ni dalii wife pr phr b Yh sooch KR ky alhlakii takaza b hota hai ..susrali phr b bht azeeyat dety Hain ..or husband wafr ko ak dosry sy bezar KR dety Hain shaid yh small word hai bizar nufrur piaida KR dety Hain ..dono main .Allah SB ko Islam pr chl y ki tofeeq ata frmaye
Agood wife will always make sure to bring peace in husbands life and good husband will bring peace in wife’s life.marriage brings you both to a family.Mutual respect is very important.Please don’t say that wife is not responsible.Yes they both need to follow ikhlaqiat,morals,It is added value to peace to eachother.I agree with thé brother
aap ki tarbiaat Ka Kmaal hai I know girl who tortured her husband mentally by kids took big amount as a pocket money but usko apny SB khaandaan sy akag kr Diya JB khud k haqooq Ada Krny ki Bari aati to said much p Kuch frz Nahi Hain aisi besharam auraton k bary me aisi naan nehad apny grudges nikaalny wali aalima aur aalima kiyun discuss nahibkrty
Islam says that looking after parents is the duty of the children not their spouses. If the wife takes care of her mother in law that's her big heartedness not her duty!
@@amrilsindhovlogs4098 madam apke hisab se bahu pe maa samajna farz hai ?! Toh kya saas bahu ku beti ki jagah deti? Bilkul nahi.aajkal ki ladki phir bhi open mind ke saath shadi karti hai par saas kabhi sachche dilse nahi apnaati.mai khud is ki victim hu.
Agar sas, bahu ko beti samjhegi to bahu k dil me bhi sas ki jaga banegi... Vo bhi use apni ma ka darja degi.... Coz give respect take respect...vrna kisi ek se compromise expect krna galat hai
so i attended this live session with raja zia ul haq and i asked the same question that my husband is too much demanding when it comes to his family k sb ko khush rkho but he never considered my happiness once n that lead to severe anxiety n depression frm last four months but he replied that ask the imam frm ur area or masjid, why would i come to u if i hv trusted these people more thn u i thought he will understand so today when i watched this show i realized that its really very true that nobody especially men can understand the pain that women n newly married girls are facing in making their in laws happy, they are losing the essence of their marriage,n the only thing they can say to u is "har larki ko brdasht krna prta" but sorry to say har lrki ko nai sirf pakistani lrki ko n ustad nouman ali khan is soo right k sabr do kisam k hoty ek pakistan wala or ek islam wala but still i love youth club n these people may be he was unable to solve my problem but he really is helping thousands out there
Pakistani bhi naik sharif lerki ko. Love marriage wali tez lerki ka husband uske neechay laga hota hay and maa behen ki band bajtaa hay. Tez and bay haya lerkiyan khush hain. Naik sharif ro rahi hain. Allah ko dil se pukaro woh zalimon ko jaald saza dega aur tumhay sakoon dega Insha'Allah.
I am totally agree with you,or sabar ka b ye standard he k JB tk moo pr physical abuse ka scar na ho justify NH hoga, mentally doesn't count in abuse at all
Alhamdolillah main bahool b rahi sas b hon par bohat achi tarah nibaya qk ayk soch rakhin Jin rishton k baghar guzara nahi un k sath achay say raho Dil say to bohat achi zindgi hotti
Saas sasur ki khidmat krna alag baat hai lekin is ko compulsory nahi bana na tha na...jo Islam ne zimmedari di hi nahi hai usko q dalte hai aurton par?
Ma'am, your point of view is really nice ❤. in our society the reason behind 90% divorce is mostly mother in law, who can't allow her son with his wife, living a happy life.
Allah paak dilo k haal jaanta hai,apne iqtiyar me jitna tha Maine sab kiya phir b mentally bahot toucher kiye gaya mujhe, Alhamdulillah mere husband ka support raha mere liye.
Same here yar mery husbnd jobless hein uska bhttt faida lety hein us k parents wo ghr tk nu janny de rhy mujhy na millny dty ksi sy upper sy koi chiz nh dty smjh nh aati kia kroon 😢
@@sanaaAhmed140 Assalam alaikum wrwb. To aap blkl ghum na kariye apne Rub se apne liye behtari mangiye jis ne aapke talaq di hai wo murd tha hi nahi agar wo murd hota to talaq deta hi nahi
Islam mein yeh ek hee point nahi bola hai aur bahot kuch hai follow karne sirf yahi ek baat acchi lagi tho isko hee follow karna aur baaki Western life se jeena ....ajakl ke youth sirf yahi karre
@@sameenapatil6018 about joint family that is one point which is very important but at the same time it’s common sense that you’ve to look at the whole picture & see what Islam requires you to do . Respect each other, & not put down each other. A daughter in law is not an unpaid maid of the whole house but a family member who’s most important job is to be a companion,a friend & a soulmate to her husband & if they have children to take care of them .
Leiken Insha Allah mein apnay waqt change dikhawungi .Allah ki maddad se mein ne naeknirada rakha hai aaj se hi .betay ki shadi se pehlay mein ghar mein khadima rakhingi taaki meri bahu meri tarh kaam wali bhai na baney .unko zindagi ka har faisla khud se karnau dungi ..Allah ki maddad se unki lyf luxurious banadungi..
Husband's mother always has the complains about wife that she doesn't talk to me, or your sister, doesn't come to my room, doesn't cook for all of us. Cooking is not difficult for a wife but the problem is, it's not so easy for a female to cook atleast 10 to 12 breads(roti) so sister or mother should also help the wife.
Asllamu alekum Baji meri shaadi ko 12 saal ho gye abitak mere ghar mai bhut masle chal rahe the Lekin 2 mahine phele hum alag ho gye jab se Mashallah ghar mai bhut sukoon he Allah hum sab ko khush rahke ameen
Immature men shouldn’t marry! Most are dependent on others & not ready to start a marriage or family. Mostly Pakistani men have unrealistic expectations. Treat your spouse as human being. Islamically & morally there is no joint family.
ساس کی عزت کرے گی تو اس کی اپنی ماں کی بھی عزت ہوگی جو سسرال میں آتے ہوئے اپنے پرانے گھر میں چھوڑ کر آئی ہے۔یہ لوگ یو ٹیوب میں بیٹھے بلکل بکواس کر رہے ہیں انہیں جیسے لوگوں نے ہی معاشرے کو تباہ کیا ہے۔ہر عورت اپنے گھر ایک ماں چھوڑ کے آتی ہے۔اور کل اس نے بھی ساس بننا ہے۔
@@marianawaz792 یہ تمیز ادب معاشرتی اقدار مسلمان کو تو انکا دین سکھاتا ہے اللہ جانے آپ کونسی بلیک میلنگ کی اور کس مذہب کی بات کر رہی ہیں ۔ایک اور بات دوسری تیسری اور چوتھی شادی کا اختیار بھی مرد کو اسلام دیتا ہے پھر جب مرد شادی کرنا چاہے کرے اسکی مرضی بیوی کبھی بھی کچھ نہیں بول سکتی اگر وہ اسکی بنیادی ضرورتیں پوری کرتا ہے ۔
Saasen Kabhi Khush Nahi hoten. MERI saas nay to aysi game kheli hay k hamari separation Karwa Di. Itni zalim aurat hay. Allah hisab zaror lay GA is aurat say 😢
very good talk... ider to hum se gur waly hi khush nae hoty shohar ko kub khush kren... miyan bivi mn kubi zati lrae nae hoi. wja maa hi bnti hy. myre khyal mn pyda hoty hi maa khyal rakhti hy khany piny pehanany ka bivi aa k sub sambalti hy maa ki zimadri but jati hy sas ko us bivi k ander maa se chir hoti hy.
Mera manna hai ke Agar Aap ke husband job pe hain aur un ki Ammi saath me rahti hain to Agar Aap ki Acchi tarbiyet hai to Aap zaroor un ki Ammi ki khudmat karengi kiyun ke husband ki Ammi bhi Aap ke Ammi jaisi hain faraz nahi hai shohar ki mother ka dekh bhaal.karna magar ek insaaniyet hai ke if you really love your husband you should love his mother &father Allah give you reward duniya And Akhrat ❤
Sari saaseyn ek jaisi nahi hoti. Sab ki izzat Kareyn aur muhabbat se raheyn liken bahu ka bilkul farz nahi hai SaaS ki khidmaat karna. Shariat me ye role aulad ka hai sirf. Agar SaaS ke hath aur per sahi salamat hai to Apna khud kaam Karen bahu koyee babysitter nahi hai
Parents or wife 2no hi izzat k haqdaar hain, 2no ko unka muqam dena mard ki responsibility hai, jo mard bv daal kr aaram se side pe ho jata hai, yaad rakhen, parents ya bv 2no k liye hi jwab dena hai qabar mai sirf maa baap k liye nai bv k saatb zyati ki to kal qayamat k din wo b gireban pakrey gi aapka
Saas susar mard k bhi hotay hain,,,,,saas,,damad ka mehram rishta hai,,,larkay ki maa ghar ajaey tau wo ghar ki malkan aur responsibility??larki ki maa ghar ajaey tau isko itna acha nahi samjha jata,,,,,,dono sas susar ko equal respect di jaey tau balance ragey ga,,,,,InshaAllah rishtoan main chir chrahat nahi aey gi
کیسے شوہر کی ماں کو خوش رکھا جائے وہ خوش نہیں ہوتی ۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ جتنی مرضی خدمت کر لو وہ راضی نہیں ہوسکتی۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یہ بات مجھے 14 سال بعد سمجھ آئی ہر کہنا مانا سب کچھ کیا لیکن ۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔اب میں خاموش ہو گئی ہوں
Alhamdulillah I treat like my own daughter but she has her thoughts now 1 year no restrictions on daily base when to wake up or cook once in a while when she make food n breakfast she serve only for husband even my son doesn’t say a word to serve his father or family members who sitting along with him. Alhamdulillah taribiya n self interest is more than important than the culture
Maa ny to bahoo pr kitna bara ahsan kia hy apna kamanay wala beta dedia ab kya wo marr jay???meny to hmesha saas ke foa le hy or ab apny bachoon ko doa dayehon khosh rehny ke orat ghiss nhe jayge saas ke khidmat krky abhe jawan hn bahooyn khob nakiyn kmaln allah ajar zaror data hy mare azmai bat hy💕💕💕💕
Its a complicated topic and lots of scenarios in it. When sons are raised to bow to their mothers they will only draw lines for wives never for their mothers. And when the wife doesnt live up to the MILs expectations such mothers will blame their sons that they hv become joru ky ghulam. Its a confusing culture where the son was raised by the mother to follow her but he sees his own father following/submitting to his mothers wishes but taught to never submit to his wifes wishes( living separate etc) by both parents. In such cases he becomes a confused adult who has seen his own father nd men in the family following wifes orders but taught to be aggressive to his wife and taunted when they see he cant control his wife. These are deep Narcissitic behaviours. Noone addresses them. In general discussions such matters dont come up.
کاش میں نے بھی ایسے بھائی اور بیٹے کہیں دیکھے ہوتے ساری زندگی گزر گئ کبھی بھابیوں کو ایک لفظ نہیں کہا چاہے وہ بھائیوں کے کتنے ہی کان بھریں اور بہووں کو کچھ بھی کہنا ہمارے ہاں روا نہیں کہ ہم خود ایسے نہیں اور نہ ہمارے بیٹے برداشت کرتے ہیں ۔۔۔
Salam Bhai my ny ye Suna hy K hmary Aqaa karee Salato Salam ny farmaya "Khuda ki qasam wo momin ni jis ny jhod pait bhar k khaya to us ka parosi bhoka rha to shohar ki maa jis ny us k shohr ko jana wo bori yaa la char bhoki bethi rhi baity k ghar aany tk?
agr aap chahti hein ghar mai sukoon rahay , mohabat rahay aur barhon ki izzat ki jaye un ka khayal rakha jaye to aap yeh darss dein pehle saas aur sussar ko ke jb Allah Pak aap logon ko bahu dein to uss bahu ko apni saggi beti hee bna kr rakhna , uss se itna kaam na krwana ke woh aajiz ajaye aur uss ke dil se koi bd'dua niklay , ussay apni beti hee bna kr rakhna Insha'Allah , to jb barhay khayal rakheinge to lazmi chotay bhi kuch to lihaaz kr hee lenge aur kuch to apnay saas , sussar ka khayal rakh lenge Insha'Allah.. saas , sussar ka khayal rakhna chahheyy, haan lekin jo bohat zyada khidmat expect krte hein to bahu bhi jese apni maa ko kahay gi ke ami yeh mujh se nhi hota to ussi mohabat se saas ko bhi keh kr to dekhay .. aray saasein itni zalim bhi nhi hotien ..
aesa mumkin ni h k sas susar sagi beti mane bahu ko.... or kbi ager bahu kehde k mujse ni hoga to sas mu bna k bol dengi k sub chordo m khud krlungi... bki apne kitna hi kuch kia ho aik bar inkar krdo kisi kam ka phir kisi ko yad bhi ni hota k kia kia he.......
مجھے بھی کوئی دکھادے ایسے بیٹے اور بھائی بھابیوں اور بہووں کے سامنے ہماری اوقات ان سے کم ہی ھے اگرچہ بیٹے یہ بات نہیں مانتے مگر ہمیں اپنی limits کا پتہ ھے ۔۔
Yes , responsibility of son nd his wife bcz one time aik suhabi nay complain ki parents ki to Hazrat Muhammad nay farmaya (tu or tera mal teray Mann bap ka ha)
Ye Video Clip Divorce extreme case issues se Related h, Husband kamaye ya jhagde niptaye jiski wjh se Divorce ratio increase na ho, Cultural Expectations Ki Baat kii ja rahi h... Understanding Zaroor Honi chahiye, Husband ke andr... Usse Dono trf se Maa aur Biwi me Muhabbat paida hogii, Husband Agar dono ko Milana Chahe to ye possible h mediator ban Jaye dono trf ki baat sune aur samjhe to Maa bhii khush rahegi aur Biwi bhii InshaAllah Zaroor... Learning mazboot kariye..Video ko Dhyaan se samajhiye... Positive thoughts Rakhiye... Negative thoughts Shaytaan ke hote h....
Mediator banna ahsan tareeqa ha shadi shuda zindigi ka tou Sahaba ne ye krke q nhi dikhaya...? Tou humaray Prophet ki betion ne ye q nhi kia .. jin videos se agay ki generations make or break ki dehleez pe hon, unki bohot bari responsibility hoti ha. Humen follow krne k liye quran aur sunnah dia gya ha... cultural expectations nhi dee theen follow krne ko. Kal ko yehi betian jub doosray cultural aspects ko apnaengi, tou phir kia daleel hogi sahi aur ghalat ki?!? ALLAHO AKBAR apni marzi chalane k liye culture theek ha; sunnah sahaba ka kia krna...zabardast! May Allah be enough for us all. Wa kafa billahe Wakeela. Hasbunallaho Wanemal Wakeel.
Assalam 9 alekumm...Jaan g bilkul ..aap sah8nkeh likh rahi his aap mrs.Asif....kis city I m from sindh pak reply plzz me and you like a good nice friendshipbplzzz reply
Exactly koi larki ye socha k apna ghar chor k nahi atti ke larai karon gi ,kisi ko tang karon gi ,wo tu ghar badane atti hai,lekin problem ye hai k her urat dosari urat se apne badle leti hai Jo uss pe guzri hoti hai,meri Behan ki saas behad zalim thi hum her waqat apni Behan ko khete rahe k tum ye sub baaten yaad rakhna Zindagi ma,aur tum kabhi esi na banana,lekin surprisingly wo ap e beton ko bilkul apne husband ki tara bana rahi hai k siraf maa ki sunno 😭herani hoti hai,hum point out Karen tu wo manti hi nahi
میں نے ساری زندگی اپنے شوہر کی خوشی کی خاطر عزت کی اپنی ساس سسر نند کی مانی جیسے کہا ویسے کیا آج اللّه کا شکر ہے میرا شوہر میری قدر کرتا ہے میرے بچے نیک ہے فخر کرتے ہے ہمارے ماں باپ نے اپنے بزرگوں کا فرض ادا کیا اُن کی خدمت کر کے اُن کی خوشی میں خوش رہتے تھے 🎉🥀♥️
نئ نسل کا اللہ ہی خافظ ھے، باھر تو خدمت خلق کریں گی لیکن گھر میں دو بزرگ افراد کا خیال نہیں رکھنا جو اس کے والدین ھیں جو اس کی زندگی کا ساتھی ہے، جو اس کو دنیا کی ھر خوشی دینے کے لئے مخنت کرتا ھے،اور یہ ساس سسر کتنے پیار سے اس کو بیاہ کر لاے ھیں ، اور اس کے بچوں کے دادا دادی ھیں جن کے وہ صدقے واری جاتے ھیں اور دعائیں دیتے دیتے دنیا سے چلے جاتے ہیں، تو پیاری بہنوں، یہ اپ کے گھر کے پیر ھیں، خدارا ان کی دعاؤں سے اپنا خالی دامن بھر لو ،یہاں تم ان کا خیال رکھو گی ،وہاں تمارے ما ں باپ کا خیال رکھنے کے لئے کوئی تمارے جیسی آے گی اپنی سوچ بدلو انداز بدلو پھر دیکھو عزت، دولت، کامیابی ،تمارے قدم چومے گی
اسلام ہمیں معاشرتی ویلیوز و اقدار بھی سکھاتا ہے۔لہذا مسلمان عورت اپنی ماں کے لیے جیسے بہو و بھابھی چاہتی ہے ویسی خود بھی بنے بس سارے مسائل کا حل یہی ہے۔
میرے شوہر بھی یہ ہی کہتے ہیں ماں باپ کو خوش رکھو بس ۔۔۔۔وہ تو ہو ہی نہیں سکتے مر بھی جاؤں تو ہمیشہ جب بھی ہمارے درمیان جھگڑا ہوتا ہے ان کے ماں باپ بہن بھائیوں کی وجہ سے
Toh shadi krny se pehly shoher k maa bap ko na bulaya karo risha krty waqt . sas susar ki sari zemedariya hain ap ki woh rishta b karain ap se shadi b karwain ap ki beti b ap hi ko samjhain phr shadi hoty hi baho ka yehi kam hy k woh ghar aty hi sas susar ko joty mar kr ghar se bahor nikaly or kehti phiry k islam ne inka koi kam nai k ye hamary sath rahin ? Unse koi rishta nai asy rishty ap shadi se pehly b nai rakha karain na hi shoher k maa bap ko bula k shadi or rishty dari karain.
Meray muamlay main bhi yehi hai,lakin yahan insecurities nahi ehsas e taquber hai.married at 21 and still at 48 pehlay din wali situation hai.or ab main es had taq thak gaee hon k koi ilfaz nahi .
Insaniyat ke rishta se dekha jaey to sab ka eyk dusrey pe Haqq hy Parosi ka bhi Haq hy, Mehman ka , rishtedar ka , Gareeb ka, Borhey Buzurg ka bulkey Buzurgo ki to Khidmat bhi farz hy Maa Baap ka bhi farz hy Beti Betey dono per chahey Deen mein ya insaniyat mein bilkul is hi tarah Saas ka bhi Haq hy aur Bahu ka bhi haq hy bas Borhey Buzurg ya Umar mein ya Rishtey mein barey log ya Saas ho ya Maa Baap ho in sab ka Lehaz malhooz e Khatir rakhna hota hy har baat sunn ker bura na maney bulkey tehzeeb aur tameez zaroori hy aur Khush koi bhi kisi ko nahi ker sakta bas Baron ki Eizzat kerna Must hy baqi Zindagi mein utar charhao Aaney hi Aaney hotey hyn Apney upper rakh ker dekh len to samajh aajata hy kisi ko Khush kerna Aap per lazim to nahi hy(lekin ye karen to buhat sawab aur bari baat ho gi) Khidmat ker dena Madad ker dena farz hy (jab dusron ko ker saktey hyn to ghar walon ki kiun nahi) chahey wo kesey hi karen ya kisi se kerwaen Larki nahi ker sakti to Apney Husband se saaf kahey lekin tameez se ke wo nahi ker paey gi Shohar Khud karey ya Kisi se pesey de ker khidmat len. to baat ye hy ke Betey per to Farz hi Farz hy bas bahu per insaniyat ki wajha se farz hy ke jesey dusrey ke liey kerna hota hy to Apney itney qareebi Rishtedar ka kiun nahi? Thanks JzAK
Saas sasur ki khidmat krne ke baad bhi wo khush nhi hai sir Unhe lgta hai ki is praayi ladki ne hmara beta chheen liya Jabki beta bhi bht farmabardaar h
@@rabeeyarehman2092 Meri walda is duniya mein nahi hain or bahu ane se pehle wo intikal kr chuki hain or rahi bat wo is mentality ki Bilkul bhi nahi thi ki unhe Lagta ki unka beta parayi larki ka ho gaya hai ya fir biwi ko manta to mummy apni bahu ka jeena azeeran Kar deti wo hargiz aisi nahi thi
@@nausheenjahan1192 یہ ہی تو مسئلہ ھے میں نے آج تک کوئی ایسی لڑکی نہیں دیکھی جو مانے کہ میری ماں بری ساس ھے یا ہوسکتی ھے اسی طرح آپ کی نند بھی یہ نہیں مانے گی ، سب لڑکیاں یہ ہی کہتی ہیں میری ماں سب سے اچھی ساس اور میری ساس سب سے بری ۔۔disgusting
@@rabeeyarehman2092 I think u didn’t understand what I mean to say plz don’t judge others I replied to rafat that if ur mother in law has that much issues with bahu these women should not get merried their son if they have so much insecurities regarding son with their bahus
Ya Allah mujhay achi saas banana aur bahu bhi naik dena Aameen.
Ameen
Naik bahoo ki dua na maangain. Apny bety k liay naik biwi maangain.
Me too ameen
Aameen
Same here
Jo marzi krlo jo marzi krlo shohar ki maa kabi bahu se khosh nahi ho sakti razi ni ho sakti jo marzi krlo sas kabi maa ni ban sakti
Sach me kabhi nai kabhi bhi nai
Galat agr bahu apni ma ki trha saaS ko samjy to saas ko ma banany me der ni lagti
You'r right @@esaehsan7550
@@esaehsan7550 jhoot kabi b ne ho sakta me ny 10 salon ka experience kia but no response
Bilkul galat sab saad Aisi nahi hotin.
Aap un ko Apni maa ki tarah manegi to wo bhi Aap ko beti ki tarah hi manengi Azma kar dekh len 😊❤
Alhamd u lillah,main bhi aik saas hoon,I love my daughter in law.
Main chahti hoon woh apni marzi se Zindagi guzare, Khush rahe.woh khush to mera beta khush aur hamaray gher main sukoon ho ga
MashaAllah...Nice Thinking
Mri saas bi allhumdullah bht achi hain bht zada
Aap bht achi sas h
kash meri sas bhe aisi hoti .... 😒😒
Har koi apki tarah nhi ho sakta na...ur daughter in law is very lucky...
Your parents are your responsibility as said in the quran, my parents are my responsibility as said in the quran.
The first Muslims of Islam never lived in joint families. My parents have no sons, they live happily and comfortably be-iznillah, Alhumdulillah, Mashallah.
I have a 9 year old son and I have already told him that he will take his wife to his separate residence when he gets married. Jese betion ko rukhsat krungi wese hee Betay ko bhi krungi.
Stop telling daughters to leave parents while giving the men the luxury to live in joint families crushing other people's daughters.
What a beautiful thought, love and respect to u
Its quite early to say something like this let your son get married then seperate him from you.
@Iftekhar Alam I am already training and teaching him that this is how he would be living. He is already aware at 9 years of age that this is the Ahsan way of starting a family, the way of the sahabas & the very first original Muslim way. I told him that joint family systems were introduced by Hindus when we coexisted in the subcontinent.
Insha Allah, if I can have my daughters leave me to get married and start a life, I can do the same for my son. Wa kafa billahe Wakeela, Allah is my best companion and my best provider. And the best thing is that my husband also realises and supports this ahsan way for our son, insha Allah.
@Iftekhar Alam the daughters of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW), did not go to live in joint family systems. The perfect example for all Muslims should be the lives of our Prophet's daughters, not the lady from this video.
@@komalhayat2720 time will tell
Do not be fooled by one who recites Quran, for his recitation is but speech. Instead, look at the actions.
Umar Ibn Al Khattab(RA)
جو لوگ اللہ سے ڈرتے ہیں ان کے گھروں میں کوئی مسئلہ نہیں بلکہ زندگی بہت خوب صورت انداز سے گزرتی ہے
بالکل درست۔۔۔۔
True
💯 100 baton ki ak hi baat
Allah se to har koi darta h or zindgi khubsurat b chayea hoti h sb ko lakin agar susral walay hr bt pe bahu ko e ghlat tehraty h to usi ghlt tehray jany pe jb bahu kuch kehti h to ghlat ku lagti h bation k b sary raz dafan kr k phirti h na woi sas to bahu ki hr choti bari ghlti ka dhandora ki peetati h wo 😡😡😡😡😡😡
Bilkul sahi bat kahi apny.. Allah sy dar kr sab sidha rehingy..Allah ka dr nhi isly dramas khaty hin ek dusry k sat
Ap kitna hi apni saas ko khush karlay kitni hi zindagi mitta day agar apki saas apko pasand nahi karti ap kabhi khush nahi reh saktay aur shofar bhi sirf maa ko sahi samjhta ho to bohat mushkil tareen hoti hai zindagi parwardigar hum sab ko behtreen sabr ata farma
Right now suffering from this shit😢
Right sis jis bahu ko pasand karti he us ki burayon py bhi parda aur jis ko na pasand kary to choti choti bat sheher bhar me dhandora.bhtareen hal ye he k alag ho jao bas nahen khush hoti to na ho allah hi khush kary us ko bhi .aur khud ka bhi sukoon
@@Aizakhan-e1b
Alag hona asana ha kia jaha beta maa ki politics me aisay nidhal ho k maa aik percent b ghalat nhi lagti ho aur baqi government ne chora ha k banda zehni sakon se alag ho betay do do ghar cahlaye
Saas susar pr farz hy k wo apni bahu ko pkaa pkaa k laa laa kr den bzaar sy cheezyn..? Or bahu b esi jisy theek sy kuch pkana b naa ata ho.. Saas pkaa pkaa k dey... Or bahu 5 minute paas bhi naa bethy apny room me 24 ghnty bethi rahy.. Jab pakk jaay to jaa khaa aay or phir dubara apny room me chli jaay or soti rahy....?? Zra dusra rukh bhi dekhyn tasweer ka
Same condition😢
Brilliant idea given by the man with glasses.Should be the necessary part of our syllabus.تعلیم کے ساتھ تربیت بہت ضروری ہے
Men ne apni saas se bht mohabt ki par aik bahu hone k SB frz puray kiye but us ne mujhy or Meray shohar ko bht preshan kr rakha men Dua Karti hon Allah pak mujhy merai achaiyon ka Sila day or or bardasht krney ki himat
I'm Alhamdullilah Alhamdullilah
educated lady an M.phil and grade 17 officer alongwith blessed with Islamic knowledge too. My marital life is also on verge of separation just because of the reason that I'm unable to serve my husbands parents well due to my full time job.
He has said maa baap aur nhi milty bivyaan aur mil jati hain.
When would we be able to change this cultural mindset of the SOCIETY that a lady is married to one man not whole family. It's literally not possible to make the whole family happy.
Assalamualaikum how are you... How many years has passed of your marriage and do you have kids... plz sorry agar mera comment aapko hurt kare to
True Pakistan ma he aisi hota k Bhai to or nahi milen he biwi to mil jaey gi maa baap nahi milen ge biwi to mil jaey gi ... Shoher se pochna chaheye k apni beti k leye apnay jaisa shoher Pasand karo gay ya apnay se accha??
Its all due to illiteracy.We have answers to all the questions and issues in the Quran..and Hadeeth. Read and understand 1.HaquqAllah. 2.Haququlibad.
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You are hundred percent right
I totally agree
Jo mard kehty hyn k biwiyan or mil jati hyn maa behen bhai or nh milty, esay mardon se guzarish hy k jese apko apni maa behen piyari hy wesi dusron ki maa behenen bhi unko bohot piyari hyn. Esi soch waly mardon ko dubara to kya pehli bar bhi koi apni beti na de kyun k behene sab ki sanjhi hoti hyn inko chahiye k apni soch badlain
الصلوة والسلام علیک یا سیدی محمد ﷺرسول اللہﷺ♥️♥️
Haq Wahid Sach badshah✋🏻
اسلام علیکم دُنیا کے ہر ملک اور ہر خاندان میں امیر غریب مڈل کلاس اپر کلاس سب میں ساس ہوتی ہیں اور سب کو دوسروں کی بہوں اچھی لگتی ہے
Saas agar apne bete ki biwi ko izzat Dene Lage to kbhi bhi ghar ka mahol khraab nhi hota hai...saas khud to apne shohar ko ungliyo pr nachati hain or beta zra khyaal karlein apni biwi ka to kehti hain biwi ka gulaam...yahi ho rha hai aajkal
Right
Meri saas apni shadi k bd se alag rhin mgr mujse expectations hn k m hamesha sath raho 😂😂😂
Reality......
I totally agree with you..mere mu ki baat chin li
Yahi meri life mein bhi hoa hai
I am agree with the lady. Men of our society should be trained to set a balance between wife and mother.
Need of the day
Ajkal k mardon main ye wisdom ha hi nai, bs kisi aik side k ho jatey hain, mostly maan k peechey aur kuch biwi k peechey lag jatey hain
They are only trained to do -----
They should be trained by who and where..?
They r already raised in such a poisonous and political environment that the wife gets either a spoiled child aka husband or a total pakistani mamas boy with no understanding of wife's "huqooq " phir shuru hoti hay sari umar ki Black mailing unfortunately 😢😢😢
Sorry to say
I think so why the ladies also should be trained???
Very sensitive and important issue for every married life....
True said
Best tareqa agar hsbnd chahta hai ke uski biwi uski maa ko khush rakhe,uski izzat kare tu hsbnd ye kare ke uski biwi ki maa ko khush rakkhe aur usko respect de......biwi khud aapki maa ko respect degi.... Hota ye hai ke biwi ke maa baap aur ghar walon ki koi izzat nahi karte aur biwi se chahte hai ke wo maa baap ke samne bich jaye...
Bilkul shi kha apne
Mer sath bhi aisa hi hota hy
بلکل۔ 100%
True
100000% correct. Same with me😢😢
Allah dono rishton may balance krnay or samugh kr chulnay ki tofeeq day ameen ...jo acha ap dayn gay wo olad ka ly life may ay gy
Jo mothers aur sisters apna beta aur bhai share nahi karsakti uski bv kay sath unko apny betoon air bhaiyoon ki shadiyaan nahi karni cahye ..kisi larki ki zindagi b kharab nahi hogi aur larka b azaab ki zindagi nahi guzara ga
I totally agree with you
Bilkul sahi bat
Bilkul sae kha ap ny mri sister same situation sy guzr rhi hai bht preshani my rhti hai wo lakin koi us ko nhi smj pata bs sary usy hi bolty hai tm sabr kro but how much😢
💯 right 😢
My life becomes hell becoZ of his mother
shadi k baad larki ki sari omr susral or husband ko khush krny mai guzar jati...larki ko apni khushi sy zyda susral walo ki khushi ki fikar rehti...magr phr bhi koi khush nahi hota 😔
Aaj kal ki larkiyo ko shadi nahi karni chahiye apni khusi dekhni chahiye
Bilkul aj kal ki larkiya begerat hn had sy ziyada.... mothers na tarbiyat hi na ki ho jaisy... bd ikhlak or batmeez larki beti ho ya bho Allah ki lanat ki mustehak hoti ha.
@@sadiamerajvlogs8121 pehle zamane mei shadi se pehle larki ki ma ko dekhte thay. Darakht dekh kar fal ka andaza lagate thay. Abhi jaise poora ka poora bhag hi waisa hai, maloom nahi sare ke sare larkiya itni behis kabse aise hogayee. Abhi ke mardo ko shadi nahi karna chahiye
@@iftekharalam1869 shadi krni chahiye us larki sy jo shadi sy phly whatsapp pr love you love you na krti rahi ho... mrd therki ko therki hi milti Allah ki traf sy ... or saas pr raham b Allah at last kr hi deta .... q k 100 bachy b ho jain aisi ort husband chor k at last dafa ho jati ha... bacho k liay thetki mother father dono Allah ko jawab dy hn... bacho ki life b disterb hoti ha. Maa bhan bap bhai to disterb hoty hi han boy k
@@iftekharalam1869 aj kal k boys ki dadi tarbiyat kry k wo aik to halal zadi choose kry shadi k liay. Dosra aba k paisy sy shadi na kry bhara ho k. Or ghr seperat kama k bna k shadi kry ta k usy pta ho halal zadi lani ha na ki whatsapp pr yari lagi haram ki ort
This is very important to respect both parents meaning wife and husband parents ❤️
Dkh tb hota JB ap dill sy SB rishtoin ko ly KR chlain un responsibilities ko Jo Allah NY ni dalii wife pr phr b Yh sooch KR ky alhlakii takaza b hota hai ..susrali phr b bht azeeyat dety Hain ..or husband wafr ko ak dosry sy bezar KR dety Hain shaid yh small word hai bizar nufrur piaida KR dety Hain ..dono main .Allah SB ko Islam pr chl y ki tofeeq ata frmaye
خدا ہی سمجھے ان بھآئیوں اور بیٹوں کو جنھیں صرف بیویاں ہی نظر آتی ہیں ان بیویوں کو بھی پھر ایسی ہی بھابیاں اور بہویں ملتی ہیں ۔۔
Agood wife will always make sure to bring peace in husbands life and good husband will bring peace in wife’s life.marriage brings you both to a family.Mutual respect is very important.Please don’t say that wife is not responsible.Yes they both need to follow ikhlaqiat,morals,It is added value to peace to eachother.I agree with thé brother
Alhmdulilah we r living joined fmly and both r taking care I serve my perants in law and they serve me very caringly
aap ki tarbiaat Ka Kmaal hai I know girl who tortured her husband mentally by kids took big amount as a pocket money but usko apny SB khaandaan sy akag kr Diya JB khud k haqooq Ada Krny ki Bari aati to said much p Kuch frz Nahi Hain aisi besharam auraton k bary me aisi naan nehad apny grudges nikaalny wali aalima aur aalima kiyun discuss nahibkrty
Madam’s concept is very clear, and she explains beautifully,,
Islam says that looking after parents is the duty of the children not their spouses. If the wife takes care of her mother in law that's her big heartedness not her duty!
Exactly 💯
To sari duty islam me sas ki hy k woh baho ko beti b samjhy shadi b karaye bety ki or bad me yehi beti sas ko maa tuk na samjy ????
@@amrilsindhovlogs4098 madam apke hisab se bahu pe maa samajna farz hai ?! Toh kya saas bahu ku beti ki jagah deti? Bilkul nahi.aajkal ki ladki phir bhi open mind ke saath shadi karti hai par saas kabhi sachche dilse nahi apnaati.mai khud is ki victim hu.
Agar sas, bahu ko beti samjhegi to bahu k dil me bhi sas ki jaga banegi... Vo bhi use apni ma ka darja degi.... Coz give respect take respect...vrna kisi ek se compromise expect krna galat hai
@@amrilsindhovlogs4098 May Allah bless you
پلیز صحابہ صحابیات کی زندگی میں سے ساس بہو کے باہم خوشگوار اور نا خوشگوار تعلقات کی مثالیں بیان کر دیں۔
Houn Gye waqayt to bayan houn gye صحابیات algh gahr ya khaima jo BHI ekh lo or shaba APNI MAA ki khidmat kartey thy na ke bahu se karwatey they 😂😂
so i attended this live session with raja zia ul haq and i asked the same question that my husband is too much demanding when it comes to his family k sb ko khush rkho but he never considered my happiness once n that lead to severe anxiety n depression frm last four months but he replied that ask the imam frm ur area or masjid, why would i come to u if i hv trusted these people more thn u i thought he will understand so today when i watched this show i realized that its really very true that nobody especially men can understand the pain that women n newly married girls are facing in making their in laws happy, they are losing the essence of their marriage,n the only thing they can say to u is "har larki ko brdasht krna prta" but sorry to say har lrki ko nai sirf pakistani lrki ko n ustad nouman ali khan is soo right k sabr do kisam k hoty ek pakistan wala or ek islam wala but still i love youth club n these people may be he was unable to solve my problem but he really is helping thousands out there
India wala bhi sabr same hi hai .saas nande kuch gharo me bht ghamand karti hsi .ladka paida jarne ka tax bahu se letey.
Pakistani bhi naik sharif lerki ko. Love marriage wali tez lerki ka husband uske neechay laga hota hay and maa behen ki band bajtaa hay. Tez and bay haya lerkiyan khush hain. Naik sharif ro rahi hain. Allah ko dil se pukaro woh zalimon ko jaald saza dega aur tumhay sakoon dega Insha'Allah.
I am totally agree with you,or sabar ka b ye standard he k JB tk moo pr physical abuse ka scar na ho justify NH hoga, mentally doesn't count in abuse at all
May Allah help you
Ok so my inlaws did tanay and gaaliyan, my husband abused me a lot, i cut off from my inlaws and my husband has been terrible.
Alhamdolillah main bahool b rahi sas b hon par bohat achi tarah nibaya qk ayk soch rakhin Jin rishton k baghar guzara nahi un k sath achay say raho Dil say to bohat achi zindgi hotti
To kuch logu k sath jitna mzi kr lo vo ni bnty
the idea of educating children about relationships is great and it should be promoted
Sas susr ke khidmut karne se lazmee junat miltee he wo be dunya maen dekha de jatee he yae mera sath howa he ❤
Saas sasur ki khidmat krna alag baat hai lekin is ko compulsory nahi bana na tha na...jo Islam ne zimmedari di hi nahi hai usko q dalte hai aurton par?
zabardast work done...GOD BLESS U MORE..
بیوی۔ اللہ کی رضا کیلے۔ کرے۔ اللہِ پاک اس۔ صِلّا دیتا ہے❤
Ya Allah mre saas ko mre haq may bhter krdy wo mjhese bhtt pyar kre amen
Ameen
If your husband is giving you respect then automatically In law becomes insecure. Why it happened so.
Unfortunately...women create this problem. For some unknown reason women are happy to see other women suffer😢
Jazakillah khairan kasera
Ma'am, your point of view is really nice ❤. in our society the reason behind 90% divorce is mostly mother in law, who can't allow her son with his wife, living a happy life.
True
Allah paak dilo k haal jaanta hai,apne iqtiyar me jitna tha Maine sab kiya phir b mentally bahot toucher kiye gaya mujhe, Alhamdulillah mere husband ka support raha mere liye.
Me is mamle me bhi lucky NH Rahi,just pray for me
Same facing this problem 23 year married life have 3 young kidz but hasband is same mummy boy 😢
😢
Mere shohr ny tou maa k kehny p mjhe talaq dy de meri beti paida hne k 10 din bd
Same here yar mery husbnd jobless hein uska bhttt faida lety hein us k parents wo ghr tk nu janny de rhy mujhy na millny dty ksi sy upper sy koi chiz nh dty smjh nh aati kia kroon 😢
Aapi ghum na karo amuman aisa hi hota hai
@@sanaaAhmed140 Assalam alaikum wrwb. To aap blkl ghum na kariye apne Rub se apne liye behtari mangiye jis ne aapke talaq di hai wo murd tha hi nahi agar wo murd hota to talaq deta hi nahi
V v strong concepts of madam.kash husbands ye lines draw ker sakaan.is ke lea tarbiat bohat zaroori ha.
Islamically there’s no joint family system
Islam mein yeh ek hee point nahi bola hai aur bahot kuch hai follow karne sirf yahi ek baat acchi lagi tho isko hee follow karna aur baaki Western life se jeena ....ajakl ke youth sirf yahi karre
@@sameenapatil6018 about joint family that is one point which is very important but at the same time it’s common sense that you’ve to look at the whole picture & see what Islam requires you to do . Respect each other, & not put down each other. A daughter in law is not an unpaid maid of the whole house but a family member who’s most important job is to be a companion,a friend & a soulmate to her husband & if they have children to take care of them .
Baji ap ki bata bohat achi lagi h sb asa hota h
The man’s suggestions r very valid
Leiken Insha Allah mein apnay waqt change dikhawungi .Allah ki maddad se mein ne naeknirada rakha hai aaj se hi .betay ki shadi se pehlay mein ghar mein khadima rakhingi taaki meri bahu meri tarh kaam wali bhai na baney .unko zindagi ka har faisla khud se karnau dungi ..Allah ki maddad se unki lyf luxurious banadungi..
Bahot zabrdat
Husband's mother always has the complains about wife that she doesn't talk to me, or your sister, doesn't come to my room, doesn't cook for all of us. Cooking is not difficult for a wife but the problem is, it's not so easy for a female to cook atleast 10 to 12 breads(roti) so sister or mother should also help the wife.
Beshk sahi bat farida shoaib
Asllamu alekum
Baji meri shaadi ko 12 saal ho gye abitak mere ghar mai bhut masle chal rahe the
Lekin 2 mahine phele hum alag ho gye jab se Mashallah ghar mai bhut sukoon he
Allah hum sab ko khush rahke ameen
Assalamualikum appi aap mere liya dua karna my bohut pareshan hun 15 saal say.
Yes lucky You r.
I am facing this issue from 15 years ..
No hope for separation
Yes beti k maseeb k beton k muqadar k dua b mangni chahiye
Muqadar zarurari ha mard k Liye b.
Immature men shouldn’t marry! Most are dependent on others & not ready to start a marriage or family.
Mostly Pakistani men have unrealistic expectations. Treat your spouse as human being. Islamically & morally there is no joint family.
totally agree with you
Agree with all
Very nice meeting
ایک مسلمان عورت اپنی ساس کی عزت کرے گی تو اسکے شوہر کو ماں کی دعا ملے گی تو اسکی عزت و خوشحال زندگی ملے گی ۔
ساس کی عزت کرے گی تو اس کی اپنی ماں کی بھی عزت ہوگی جو سسرال میں آتے ہوئے اپنے پرانے گھر میں چھوڑ کر آئی ہے۔یہ لوگ یو ٹیوب میں بیٹھے بلکل بکواس کر رہے ہیں انہیں جیسے لوگوں نے ہی معاشرے کو تباہ کیا ہے۔ہر عورت اپنے گھر ایک ماں چھوڑ کے آتی ہے۔اور کل اس نے بھی ساس بننا ہے۔
Yh fazool ki blackmailing hai
@@marianawaz792 یہ تمیز ادب معاشرتی اقدار مسلمان کو تو انکا دین سکھاتا ہے اللہ جانے آپ کونسی بلیک میلنگ کی اور کس مذہب کی بات کر رہی ہیں ۔ایک اور بات دوسری تیسری اور چوتھی شادی کا اختیار بھی مرد کو اسلام دیتا ہے پھر جب مرد شادی کرنا چاہے کرے اسکی مرضی بیوی کبھی بھی کچھ نہیں بول سکتی اگر وہ اسکی بنیادی ضرورتیں پوری کرتا ہے ۔
Saasen Kabhi Khush Nahi hoten. MERI saas nay to aysi game kheli hay k hamari separation Karwa Di. Itni zalim aurat hay. Allah hisab zaror lay GA is aurat say 😢
@@shahanaawan2349INSHAALLAH
very good talk... ider to hum se gur waly hi khush nae hoty shohar ko kub khush kren... miyan bivi mn kubi zati lrae nae hoi. wja maa hi bnti hy. myre khyal mn pyda hoty hi maa khyal rakhti hy khany piny pehanany ka bivi aa k sub sambalti hy maa ki zimadri but jati hy sas ko us bivi k ander maa se chir hoti hy.
جزاکم اللہ خیرا
Ya Allah hum sabko ek nek, deen dar aur khubsurat Biwi aata farma, Ameen 🤲
Ameen
Ameen
Khud mai bhi ye sab qualities paida krain plz first deserve then desire...but I hope ap mai hngi ye qualities tabhi tu ye dua h apki😊
Bht mushkil topic hy mujhy lagta hy yeh duniya makafate amal hy.agar koi sochy to yhi kafi hy is masly ko samjhny k liy.who agree?
💯 true
True ❤
Nice conversation from all members
Her aurat shadi k baad apne shohar ko Alag rehne or khud MAA ban Jane k baad woi aurat apne bacho ko hamesha Sath rehne ki Talqeen Karti hai 😊😊
Beautiful conversation
Mera manna hai ke Agar Aap ke husband job pe hain aur un ki Ammi saath me rahti hain to Agar Aap ki Acchi tarbiyet hai to Aap zaroor un ki Ammi ki khudmat karengi kiyun ke husband ki Ammi bhi Aap ke Ammi jaisi hain faraz nahi hai shohar ki mother ka dekh bhaal.karna magar ek insaaniyet hai ke if you really love your husband you should love his mother &father Allah give you reward duniya And Akhrat ❤
Jii Khidmat Allah ki Raza ke liye Karni chahiye...Bando KO Na Aap khush kr skte h aur na hii raazi...
@@islamickhwateenbilkul sahi.
Sari saaseyn ek jaisi nahi hoti. Sab ki izzat Kareyn aur muhabbat se raheyn liken bahu ka bilkul farz nahi hai SaaS ki khidmaat karna. Shariat me ye role aulad ka hai sirf. Agar SaaS ke hath aur per sahi salamat hai to Apna khud kaam Karen bahu koyee babysitter nahi hai
Subhanallah ❤❤❤❤
Parents or wife 2no hi izzat k haqdaar hain, 2no ko unka muqam dena mard ki responsibility hai, jo mard bv daal kr aaram se side pe ho jata hai, yaad rakhen, parents ya bv 2no k liye hi jwab dena hai qabar mai sirf maa baap k liye nai bv k saatb zyati ki to kal qayamat k din wo b gireban pakrey gi aapka
A very realistic topic... In our society...
Saas susar mard k bhi hotay hain,,,,,saas,,damad ka mehram rishta hai,,,larkay ki maa ghar ajaey tau wo ghar ki malkan aur responsibility??larki ki maa ghar ajaey tau isko itna acha nahi samjha jata,,,,,,dono sas susar ko equal respect di jaey tau balance ragey ga,,,,,InshaAllah rishtoan main chir chrahat nahi aey gi
Bilkul sahee kaha hai
She has right on her son's money.
@@abdullahmirza7714 Allah ho Akber ,,,
All money belongs to her,,,chahey baitay ki ho chahay baitee ki
Beautiful May Allah bless you always
کیسے شوہر کی ماں کو خوش رکھا جائے وہ خوش نہیں ہوتی ۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔
جتنی مرضی خدمت کر لو وہ راضی نہیں ہوسکتی۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔ یہ بات مجھے 14 سال بعد سمجھ آئی ہر کہنا مانا سب کچھ کیا لیکن ۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔۔اب میں خاموش ہو گئی ہوں
میری کهانی سنادی 😭😭😭😭پاگل بنادیا ساس نی مهجی سالو سال اذیت دیتی رهی
Same here
Shohar ki ma'an ko Khush rakhna namumkin hu
میں نے خود دیکھا ہے ایسی خواتین جو ساس سے بات بھی نہیں کرتی
Phir sas hi lraku ho gi lrai k dr sy Nhi krti hogi
Same here
Alhamdulillah I treat like my own daughter but she has her thoughts now 1 year no restrictions on daily base when to wake up or cook once in a while when she make food n breakfast she serve only for husband even my son doesn’t say a word to serve his father or family members who sitting along with him. Alhamdulillah taribiya n self interest is more than important than the culture
So true, man has to draw a line.
Tera beta b tery sath asa kry toh kehna draw a line beta
@@amrilsindhovlogs4098 why ? Did you ask your son the same thing?
Truly said k betio k achey naseeb ke dua ke jati .fact beto ke bhi kerni chahiye.ulad sari k lia karaen.
Absolutely
Maa ny to bahoo pr kitna bara ahsan kia hy apna kamanay wala beta dedia ab kya wo marr jay???meny to hmesha saas ke foa le hy or ab apny bachoon ko doa dayehon khosh rehny ke orat ghiss nhe jayge saas ke khidmat krky abhe jawan hn bahooyn khob nakiyn kmaln allah ajar zaror data hy mare azmai bat hy💕💕💕💕
Dono ki janat unky apny apny parents k qadmo nechy Hain, dono aik dosry k maa baap ka kahyal kr lain sub set rehta hai
Dono apne maa baap ki khidmat krein, ye unpe farz hai.
Ye batain sb jante bh hain aur doosron ko samjhate bh bht hain laikin khud amal karne ko tyar nahi
Its a complicated topic and lots of scenarios in it. When sons are raised to bow to their mothers they will only draw lines for wives never for their mothers. And when the wife doesnt live up to the MILs expectations such mothers will blame their sons that they hv become joru ky ghulam. Its a confusing culture where the son was raised by the mother to follow her but he sees his own father following/submitting to his mothers wishes but taught to never submit to his wifes wishes( living separate etc) by both parents. In such cases he becomes a confused adult who has seen his own father nd men in the family following wifes orders but taught to be aggressive to his wife and taunted when they see he cant control his wife. These are deep Narcissitic behaviours. Noone addresses them. In general discussions such matters dont come up.
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Hence it is best to follow Islam and not culture.
Very nice conversation Of Asiya Mam ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Question should be “kia maa baap or behno ko kush rekhney k leye biwi ko sab k samney zalil krna jaaiz hai” !!
کاش میں نے بھی ایسے بھائی اور بیٹے کہیں دیکھے ہوتے ساری زندگی گزر گئ کبھی بھابیوں کو ایک لفظ نہیں کہا چاہے وہ بھائیوں کے کتنے ہی کان بھریں اور بہووں کو کچھ بھی کہنا ہمارے ہاں روا نہیں کہ ہم خود ایسے نہیں اور نہ ہمارے بیٹے برداشت کرتے ہیں ۔۔۔
@@Homemaker08 sae kaha... Maa samny kya sb k samny zleel krty ye hsbnd
JazakiAllah khair maam
Salam
Bhai my ny ye Suna hy
K hmary Aqaa karee Salato Salam ny farmaya
"Khuda ki qasam wo momin ni jis ny jhod pait bhar k khaya to us ka parosi bhoka rha to shohar ki maa jis ny us k shohr ko jana wo bori yaa la char bhoki bethi rhi baity k ghar aany tk?
ایسی لاچار ساس کا کیا حل ہے جو بہو کا پکا کے آگے رکھا کھانا دھتکار دے کہ پسند نہیں ایا۔
Good bro I agree with you 💯 right
agr aap chahti hein ghar mai sukoon rahay , mohabat rahay aur barhon ki izzat ki jaye un ka khayal rakha jaye to aap yeh darss dein pehle saas aur sussar ko ke jb Allah Pak aap logon ko bahu dein to uss bahu ko apni saggi beti hee bna kr rakhna , uss se itna kaam na krwana ke woh aajiz ajaye aur uss ke dil se koi bd'dua niklay , ussay apni beti hee bna kr rakhna Insha'Allah , to jb barhay khayal rakheinge to lazmi chotay bhi kuch to lihaaz kr hee lenge aur kuch to apnay saas , sussar ka khayal rakh lenge Insha'Allah..
saas , sussar ka khayal rakhna chahheyy, haan lekin jo bohat zyada khidmat expect krte hein to bahu bhi jese apni maa ko kahay gi ke ami yeh mujh se nhi hota to ussi mohabat se saas ko bhi keh kr to dekhay .. aray saasein itni zalim bhi nhi hotien ..
G 💯fi sad nahi 200 fi sad ap ki bat se muttafiq hun
100%true
aesa mumkin ni h k sas susar sagi beti mane bahu ko.... or kbi ager bahu kehde k mujse ni hoga to sas mu bna k bol dengi k sub chordo m khud krlungi... bki apne kitna hi kuch kia ho aik bar inkar krdo kisi kam ka phir kisi ko yad bhi ni hota k kia kia he.......
beti beti hi hoti h or bahu bahu wo kbi beti ki jagah ni le skti
@@ridazainab7458 baho beti ki jgah ho bhi nhi sakti kyon k wo saas ko maa ki jagah nhi deti
Rabb ko khushh kiya ja sakkta hai... magar Saas ko khushh karna namumkin😢😢😢
4 kidz Hony k bawajood husband ko koi interest nae . apni walida aur behno se agy kisi ko nae samjhty. it's difficult ult for me😢
مجھے بھی کوئی دکھادے ایسے بیٹے اور بھائی بھابیوں اور بہووں کے سامنے ہماری اوقات ان سے کم ہی ھے اگرچہ بیٹے یہ بات نہیں مانتے مگر ہمیں اپنی limits کا پتہ ھے ۔۔
AAP APNAY BHAI BHABHI K BARAY MAIN AASA HI SOCHTI HOON G .......
@@shankhan677 apko kesy pata
koi kisi ko judge nae kar sakta
@@shankhan677 insan tbhi hard words bolta hae jab 2no sides pe mushkil ho. warna koi pagal nae itna harsh boly
Yes , responsibility of son nd his wife bcz one time aik suhabi nay complain ki parents ki to Hazrat Muhammad nay farmaya (tu or tera mal teray Mann bap ka ha)
Ye Video Clip Divorce extreme case issues se Related h, Husband kamaye ya jhagde niptaye jiski wjh se Divorce ratio increase na ho, Cultural Expectations Ki Baat kii ja rahi h...
Understanding Zaroor Honi chahiye, Husband ke andr... Usse Dono trf se Maa aur Biwi me Muhabbat paida hogii, Husband Agar dono ko Milana Chahe to ye possible h mediator ban Jaye dono trf ki baat sune aur samjhe to Maa bhii khush rahegi aur Biwi bhii InshaAllah Zaroor...
Learning mazboot kariye..Video ko Dhyaan se samajhiye... Positive thoughts Rakhiye... Negative thoughts Shaytaan ke hote h....
اسلام۔علیکم۔۔دین۔میی۔یہ۔نہی۔ہے۔ک۔شوہر۔کی۔ماکی۔خدمت۔کرے۔توسرف۔ماں۔غلامی۔کرنیکے۔ھے۔بےٹے۔اور۔اسکی۔بیوی۔کی۔پکوان۔سے۔پاکی۔سفاہی۔تک۔ماں۔کی۔تکلیف۔بیٹے۔کو۔نظر۔نااے۔مجبور۔ھوکر۔الگ۔گھر۔میی۔رھنے۔لگیی۔اٹھ۔دس۔دنمیی۔دوگنٹے۔کے۔لیے۔اے۔جبکے۔ماکوںشگرھے۔بی۔پی۔تھےراٹ۔رنگونکی۔تکلیفعورت۔ایسی۔خاموش۔اک۔جگا۔بیٹھ۔بیٹے۔کوں۔کوی۔فرق۔نھی۔پڑتا۔میی۔تو۔ایسی۔ذنگی۔نھی۔چھوٹے۔بڑے۔سبکی۔میری۔قسمت۔ایسی۔ہر۔لمحا۔بےعظتیکا۔احساس۔میرے۔لے۔شیریعت۔میی۔میرے۔لے۔کیا۔ھکم۔ھے۔سسک۔سسک۔موت۔کا۔انتظار۔کروں
Absolutely right
😊
Bahi in sis say Bat karwa day please
Mediator banna ahsan tareeqa ha shadi shuda zindigi ka tou Sahaba ne ye krke q nhi dikhaya...? Tou humaray Prophet ki betion ne ye q nhi kia .. jin videos se agay ki generations make or break ki dehleez pe hon, unki bohot bari responsibility hoti ha.
Humen follow krne k liye quran aur sunnah dia gya ha... cultural expectations nhi dee theen follow krne ko. Kal ko yehi betian jub doosray cultural aspects ko apnaengi, tou phir kia daleel hogi sahi aur ghalat ki?!?
ALLAHO AKBAR apni marzi chalane k liye culture theek ha; sunnah sahaba ka kia krna...zabardast!
May Allah be enough for us all. Wa kafa billahe Wakeela. Hasbunallaho Wanemal Wakeel.
Jazakallah..
Jo bive sad sosar ke khedmat karte ha usy Allha bohat ajjar dy ga
JazakAllah Allah is always from uppercase letter
توازن ضروری ھے
احترام کا رشتہ قائم رھنا چاھیے
Assalam 9 alekumm...Jaan g bilkul ..aap sah8nkeh likh rahi his aap mrs.Asif....kis city I m from sindh pak reply plzz me and you like a good nice friendshipbplzzz reply
Beshak
@@naseembano4905 Assalam o alekumm..Naseem bano aap kis city say aap mrs.. i m from pak plzzz reply
JAZAKALLAH khair
Bivi k behavior khrab hi usi wqt hota h JB phly din Sy sas tany dena shoro hojati h
Tany nhe btmezi jhot makari jhity anso bs Allah bachye bs
Exactly koi larki ye socha k apna ghar chor k nahi atti ke larai karon gi ,kisi ko tang karon gi ,wo tu ghar badane atti hai,lekin problem ye hai k her urat dosari urat se apne badle leti hai Jo uss pe guzri hoti hai,meri Behan ki saas behad zalim thi hum her waqat apni Behan ko khete rahe k tum ye sub baaten yaad rakhna Zindagi ma,aur tum kabhi esi na banana,lekin surprisingly wo ap e beton ko bilkul apne husband ki tara bana rahi hai k siraf maa ki sunno 😭herani hoti hai,hum point out Karen tu wo manti hi nahi
اصل میں دین کی کمی وجہ ھے
اور خوف خدا کہ ایک دن اللہ کے سامنے کھڑا ھونا ھے
اللہ کی قسم میں اپنی بہو سے بہت پیار کرتی ہوں۔مگر وہ مجھے اذیت میں رکھتی ہے اپنے رویے سے
اسکو کہہ کر جوائنٹ فیملی سے الگ رکھ دیں نہایت درجہ مطیعہ ہو جائے گی
اس کو الگ کر دیں آپ بھی خوش وہ بھی j
میں نے ساری زندگی اپنے شوہر کی خوشی کی خاطر عزت کی اپنی ساس سسر نند کی مانی جیسے کہا ویسے کیا آج اللّه کا شکر ہے میرا شوہر میری قدر کرتا ہے میرے بچے نیک ہے فخر کرتے ہے ہمارے ماں باپ نے اپنے بزرگوں کا فرض ادا کیا اُن کی خدمت کر کے اُن کی خوشی میں خوش رہتے تھے 🎉🥀♥️
Mashallah... mashallah
Right now
Ap bht khush kismat h
Bara mushikil kam tha jo apny keya masallah
Pori zindgi lga k faida
نئ نسل کا اللہ ہی خافظ ھے، باھر تو خدمت خلق کریں گی لیکن گھر میں دو بزرگ افراد کا خیال نہیں رکھنا جو اس کے والدین ھیں جو اس کی زندگی کا ساتھی ہے، جو اس کو دنیا کی ھر خوشی دینے کے لئے مخنت کرتا ھے،اور یہ ساس سسر کتنے پیار سے اس کو بیاہ کر لاے ھیں ، اور اس کے بچوں کے دادا دادی ھیں جن کے وہ صدقے واری جاتے ھیں اور دعائیں دیتے دیتے دنیا سے چلے جاتے ہیں، تو
پیاری بہنوں، یہ اپ کے گھر کے پیر ھیں، خدارا ان کی دعاؤں سے اپنا خالی دامن بھر لو ،یہاں تم ان کا خیال رکھو گی ،وہاں تمارے ما ں باپ کا خیال رکھنے کے لئے کوئی تمارے جیسی آے گی اپنی سوچ بدلو انداز بدلو پھر دیکھو عزت، دولت، کامیابی ،تمارے قدم چومے گی
Sb log same nai hotay kuch log har time tahnay daitay hain sur na pitón ko pyar krtay hain
اسلام ہمیں معاشرتی ویلیوز و اقدار بھی سکھاتا ہے۔لہذا مسلمان عورت اپنی ماں کے لیے جیسے بہو و بھابھی چاہتی ہے ویسی خود بھی بنے بس سارے مسائل کا حل یہی ہے۔
Joint family system main na insaafi or laraai jhagry or nafrat boht zaida hoti hai.
میرے شوہر بھی یہ ہی کہتے ہیں ماں باپ کو خوش رکھو بس ۔۔۔۔وہ تو ہو ہی نہیں سکتے مر بھی جاؤں تو ہمیشہ جب بھی ہمارے درمیان جھگڑا ہوتا ہے ان کے ماں باپ بہن بھائیوں کی وجہ سے
Same here
Phr ap ka beta agr kal ko ap ko chor kr bv side ly toh kia khayal hoga ap ka apni bari any pe???
Toh shadi krny se pehly shoher k maa bap ko na bulaya karo risha krty waqt . sas susar ki sari zemedariya hain ap ki woh rishta b karain ap se shadi b karwain ap ki beti b ap hi ko samjhain phr shadi hoty hi baho ka yehi kam hy k woh ghar aty hi sas susar ko joty mar kr ghar se bahor nikaly or kehti phiry k islam ne inka koi kam nai k ye hamary sath rahin ? Unse koi rishta nai asy rishty ap shadi se pehly b nai rakha karain na hi shoher k maa bap ko bula k shadi or rishty dari karain.
Same.heer
Har jaga yahi haal
where is the full video link, please always share full link
Joint family mai Sharif ladki ka jenaza jeete jee nikalta hai
Meray muamlay main bhi yehi hai,lakin yahan insecurities nahi ehsas e taquber hai.married at 21 and still at 48 pehlay din wali situation hai.or ab main es had taq thak gaee hon k koi ilfaz nahi .
Allah apky lye asani paida karen ... bohat jald ap apny ghar main hon g in shaaa Allah
Insaniyat ke rishta se dekha jaey to sab ka eyk dusrey pe Haqq hy Parosi ka bhi Haq hy, Mehman ka , rishtedar ka , Gareeb ka, Borhey Buzurg ka bulkey Buzurgo ki to Khidmat bhi farz hy Maa Baap ka bhi farz hy Beti Betey dono per chahey Deen mein ya insaniyat mein bilkul is hi tarah Saas ka bhi Haq hy aur Bahu ka bhi haq hy bas Borhey Buzurg ya Umar mein ya Rishtey mein barey log ya Saas ho ya Maa Baap ho in sab ka Lehaz malhooz e Khatir rakhna hota hy har baat sunn ker bura na maney bulkey tehzeeb aur tameez zaroori hy aur Khush koi bhi kisi ko nahi ker sakta bas Baron ki Eizzat kerna Must hy baqi Zindagi mein utar charhao Aaney hi Aaney hotey hyn Apney upper rakh ker dekh len to samajh aajata hy kisi ko Khush kerna Aap per lazim to nahi hy(lekin ye karen to buhat sawab aur bari baat ho gi) Khidmat ker dena Madad ker dena farz hy (jab dusron ko ker saktey hyn to ghar walon ki kiun nahi) chahey wo kesey hi karen ya kisi se kerwaen Larki nahi ker sakti to Apney Husband se saaf kahey lekin tameez se ke wo nahi ker paey gi Shohar Khud karey ya Kisi se pesey de ker khidmat len. to baat ye hy ke Betey per to Farz hi Farz hy bas bahu per insaniyat ki wajha se farz hy ke jesey dusrey ke liey kerna hota hy to Apney itney qareebi Rishtedar ka kiun nahi? Thanks JzAK
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Parq sohar my he beauladi ka lekin sb ny mujhy gonahgar samjha mujhy aziyat dety rahy
Saas sasur ki khidmat krne ke baad bhi
wo khush nhi hai sir
Unhe lgta hai ki is praayi ladki ne hmara beta chheen liya
Jabki beta bhi bht farmabardaar h
@@nausheenjahan1192 امید ھے آپ اپنی والدہ کو بھی یہ ہی سمجھاتی ہون گی شادی کے بعد بھائی نافرمان ہوجائے تو کوئی بات نہیں آپ اپنے کام سے کام رکھیں
@@rabeeyarehman2092 Meri walda is duniya mein nahi hain or bahu ane se pehle wo intikal kr chuki hain or rahi bat wo is mentality ki Bilkul bhi nahi thi ki unhe Lagta ki unka beta parayi larki ka ho gaya hai ya fir biwi ko manta to mummy apni bahu ka jeena azeeran Kar deti wo hargiz aisi nahi thi
@@nausheenjahan1192 یہ ہی تو مسئلہ ھے میں نے آج تک کوئی ایسی لڑکی نہیں دیکھی جو مانے کہ میری ماں بری ساس ھے یا ہوسکتی ھے اسی طرح آپ کی نند بھی یہ نہیں مانے گی ، سب لڑکیاں یہ ہی کہتی ہیں میری ماں سب سے اچھی ساس اور میری ساس سب سے بری ۔۔disgusting
@@rabeeyarehman2092 I think u didn’t understand what I mean to say plz don’t judge others I replied to rafat that if ur mother in law has that much issues with bahu these women should not get merried their son if they have so much insecurities regarding son with their bahus
@@rabeeyarehman2092 alhamdulillah my mom was not that type of conservative lady who get insecured with good relation between bete and bahu
Ghar Baton se nahin rishto se Chalte Hain Islam Mein Rishte Kaise Nibhaye Jaate Hain samajhne ki jarurat hai Alhamdulillah Ham Musalman Hain