Shawntae saying to Valena, "Look at my wife and look at you. I don't want you," was a completely unnecessary statement to make. Shawntae needs to stay out of it!!!
Exactly. They do pick at the oldest one & the your one responds to whats not being said. The eldest had the most sense. The youngest lied about being hit & everything until SHE wanted an apology for it
The young sister bothers me.. she acts like such a victim.. so mom didn't abuse the older sister but hit you has an adult and we should all believe you?? I get why theolder sister is mad everything is put on her. And the wife needs to mind her business. 🙄
I agree, The younger sister thinks she the victim! Her sister doesn't have to like her wife but she respects her! I think she more needed than anyone! If her mom beat her w extension cord she knows what happen to her! I think the daughter and mom both flipped on the older sister and to get arrested for words is wrong especially if she was gonna stay away from her! The younger wants her and her wife to be a package but it doesn't work that way and wife need to mind her business! The mom hugged who she wanted if u notice she was careful showing compassion to the youngest
I can identify with Etta. Only I spent seven years listening to a friend whine about the same things. I stopped answering her calls because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings by being brutally honest. After many years, you find that is ALL you are able to speak. I feel so much better not having to worry about and listen to her constant chaos. I had to save myself.
i used to be that friend that always listened but i realised these friends never cared about my life. i stopped talking to them, a few i just ghosted and i never looked back. its so important to have friends that love and respect your time and energy
That older sister has something else going on. She has brought up situations that the other 2 have no knowledge of. For the mom to come out and not hug both her daughters is a problem 😔
I noticed that too! I also think they if they were in foster care something happened! Maybe the 1st girl was abused more and the younger sister doesn't know!
My mother refuses to acknowledge stuff she did, and she really did do them. Abusers tend to deliberately ignore and forget behaviour that brings them guilt. I believe her
This is a very insightful show that provides solutions to many people. If I wasn't far away in Africa, I would write to you Karamo for my childhood and family hurt. Anyway. I benefit from watching about mending old wounds. Keep up the good work
❤❤ honestly i say try your luck and write... you may be suprised... in the meantime I pray you guys get the healing needed.. we hold our blood line to such high standards we tend to blow the most trival matters out of proportion. Not saying thats your case but if they were to pass away my question always is .. will this drama even be on your mind or do u just want that love one back?
1st story - I truly believe the oldest was beaten with extension cords. Chances are she covered the younger sister so she didn't experience the same abuse. 2nd - she was not a good friend. She only uses her for a sounding board.
That friendship is over. Rude is a word. I wouldn't want to share my life with someone who don't care about it. Please stop begging for love and exceptance.
1st Case: the mother never hugged or embraced the younger daughter, Barbara. Something is still off with them and the wife’s face from the audience says it all, she even noticed the mom not hugging Barbara, she’s not buying it.
Let’s not forget the comment of her wife being someone that is a “work in progress” and even the wife apologizing to the sister and mom I suspect the wife is either emotionally or physically abusive to the youngest sister
@@pinksilkduragI don’t think wife is abusive cause the older sister would’ve called her out in a hot minute! I think she knows where her wife was once at with addiction and doesn’t want to see her fall back into it messing with her family.
But at that grown age why not have a conversation with her to let her know how you were feeling as a friend before pulling away-people can’t stop doing something they’re not aware of🤷🏾♀️
Etta didn't want to hurt her feelings because Michelle comes across as clingy and desperate. Etta has a right to pull away. She's probably drained and exhausted with all the drama.
Etta is giving me "I'm on my high horse" vibes. And Michelle just wants to live it up low vibrational style. They probably mean well but there is a subtle form of harmful selfishness going on between them. It's giving me mean girl vs needy girl.
@browniebun How is Etta on her high horse? It's interesting that when a person tries to break away from a toxic cycle, they are deemed as arrogant, cold, indifferent, etc. Our society loves to bully and cast aspersions on issues they are not informed about. Etta eloquently stated why they drifted apart, lifestyle changes, and personality incompatibility. Why does she need to explain herself to the world? Their differences are enough to part ways. It's ok to end things. Toxic people every where!
@@Zorobbabel That's the impression I get. I'm not saying that's a 100% the case. Etta is allowed to set boundaries and clearly she has. All I'm saying is that this whole friendship dynamic feels off. I wonder, where is the curiosity to what I implied by stating my point of view? Are you interested in having a nuanced conversation or is it easier to assume my position so you can debate me?
@browniebun I responded to your statement because of the way you assessed the situation. Am I not allowed a point of view as well? You seem to like wanting your cake and eating it too. I already debated you but you seem very sensitive. If your definition of nuance is ambiguity, then no worries. I carefully laid out my points and beliefs. No wonder you judged Etta as seemingly arrogant. Perhaps, you are a lot like Michelle, rather prone to taking things personal.
Etta gives cold and blunt if she didn’t wanna be her friend she should’ve juss made that clear , Michelle deserves a better friend who will have better communication and expression.
Etta is blunt and no matter how nice she puts it, her friend would still be offended. You make it seem like Etta is responsible for her emotional well-being, in a love relationship with her or her therapist. She isn't. Etta has a life and is probably choosing them over Michelle's turbulent emotions.
Oh my gosh, Etta was on Divorce Court with Judge Star not too long ago!! She seems like a beautiful person inside and out!! Michelle does seem pretty self absorbed and I could totally see her running over Etta in the name of a one-sided catchup. They just have different needs and have different lifestyles. They can part on amicable terms and most keep it moving.
Just because a woman have children doesn't mean she knows how to be a mother because of the things she went through in life and it's hard when nobody thought you anything when you was growing up but hate and envy. We as women has to stayed prayed up and that's still your mother. Regardless of what has happened in your family.
Why is it ok for Barbara to have feelings and feel like everyone needs to apologize to her but not the older sister Velena. I can see why she feels the way she feels. No one wants to acknowledge her
This has nothing to do with her family, i feel she wants them to fall over backwards for the lady shes with, i think she needs to grow up, she said her partner is bossy, but its more to it karamo just open the surface its still deeper.
I need to bring my family on this show but I don’t think Karamo’s team would clear our story. I can’t even go to a therapist at 28 years old and be honest with how I’m hurting because they would call the police. Being able to watch stories like this help because this story is similar to mine but only grazes the surface. Also, can they give us that cornbread recipe…? Sorry but I had to say it
I think those last 2 women could be in a relationship...or maybe that's the problem...one wanted that and one didn't because I just have this feeling. 😆
I really relate with the second story to because I’ve been put in relationships that was based on there feelings , I’ve recognized that I accidentally attract people that need guidance and advice and I’m more then happy to help people but when the whole relationship is about them and doesn’t have a balance then that’s when I feel like it gets one sided and it slowly morphs into a relationship that feels like I’m a therapist (as she explained so perfectly in my opinion) and it slowly drains me out and sometimes I would catch myself reacting or coping in the way they do . And those are the signs that makes me realize that I have to remove/distance myself from them because I would go down to there level to make me connect wit them in a deeper way but I end up messing up my own growth for I can sympathize with them with them in a deeper way. And especially when the advice that I give out to them is not taken with any consideration or not appreciation , those are the things that makes the relationship draining and it becomes all there problems . It slowly starts to make me feel like I am not heard or appreciated in the way that I thought I was by the actions that they proceed to keep doing . And in no any am I trying to say that I don’t want to be there for my friends but there needs to be a healthy balance and communication to have that will make both sides happy and feel cared for in a equaled way . I know that I haven’t lived a very long time but I realize I attract the people that have to be heard and healed and I’m okay with that giving out that energy because you never know what people are going through and I always say to people to treat people how you would want to be treated if you was in there shoes. But you also have to protect ur energy and urself and try not to lose urself in relationships like that . For me personally it’s hard for me to get out of relationships like that because I feel like I’m hurting them which I never want to do so I am very proud and feel inspired by the way that amazing lady laid out her feelings and didn’t her friend guilt her into staying in the relationship , and karamo is a 100% right for not letting them try to intentionally try to fix things and make a cycle , and he also acknowledged that there can be a natural re-bond if they ever end up back in the same page . LOVE KARAMO❤️, friendships are very spiritual to me and it’s very important to me to be conscious and aware of who I put my energy In to and try to not let it get waste and I’m still struggling to practice that skill of protecting my energy but I am still young and got many more years to get it right . Love the karamo show !!! Love to have these open conversations especially in the comments it feels like I am in a group circle hearing people’s opinions and mindsets abt real scenarios and how to approach them ❤️❤️ keep up the good work everyone !!🫶
Michelle exhausted me in just the few minutes that she was on the show. 😩 She sounds incredibly needy, and even somewhat selfish, and she expects her friends to cater to friendship in the way that SHE deems appropriate. I’ve had a friend like her who wants to tell you everything about their lives ad nauseam, but when it came to me and what I’d been going through, her asking (IF she did), was just a passing courtesy…just as Michelle demonstrated at 38:09. I remember calling her when I was living in Europe years ago, and the entire conversation was her, her her, and by the time we got off the phone I’d barely said anything, and I ended up with a €98 bill. 🤦🏽♀️
Some people don't get it. They demonize Etta like she should not have boundaries. Etta did what most people wish they can do, cut off the cord before it's too late.
They are now not at the same level. Human need to learn that some relationships are for a season & a reason. Etta has moved on, up & out. No need putting Michelle in the position of playing catch-up or fit-in with her.
@@bossb8989she could be a positive influence to change without all the draining stuff. She can seek help or a therapist. I have outgrown my family and friends but I am w them through thick and thin❤
the younger sister is playing the victim card too much. The older sister literally said “if there was no abuse then why did we go to foster care and other people have the same reports” The younger sister literally said “idk why” Just because you cant remember the abuse or you may not have been the one to experience it doesn’t mean you get to shut the older sister down when she speaks about her truth. The younger sister wants to have her “truth” heard so bad that she cant be there for her own sister who is clearly deeply damaged by somethings the family wont even acknowledge. The older sister is clearly on some drugs or sum and she isn’t doing a good job explaining herself but from wat i can put together is heartbreaking. Also the wife needs to stay out of it. She is a bully and unnecessary. The older sister clearly only wants a relationship with the sister and they need to respect that. The younger sister wants her wife and family to get along but honestly that isn’t going to happen bc the wife is just as rude and reckless as them. In this case its best to keep them separate to avoid the drama. I wish this family luck.
Etta is cold and blunt. I wouldn't want anyone like Etta as a friend. Etta doesn't seem compassionate or caring. I wouldn't even want someone like Etta as a friend. She's not friend material.
Nothing is wrong with Etta. Most people wish they were like Etta. She expressed her feelings and chose not to be used or in a toxic relationship. Good for her.
I have been here before and it is not a good feeling. It is exhausting when a person dumps on you emotionally and there is no opportunity to share your side on anything. Michele jokingly admitted that she may have listened to Etta for one or two minutes. Who wants to be on the receiving end of that ? I do not think Etta is cold. I believe Etta had up a wall that Michele was not going to come over again and she politely said what she needed to say.
How are y’all falling for Barbara’s manipulation tactics in the comments?? Yeah I have empathy for her, but she’s in the wrong here as well. She’s just more sneaky with her actions
Something is off about this family. It makes no sense. The daughter married a woman to control her and tell right from wrong like she needed an another parent. I’m still confused. 😐
This show is doing something to Karamo. All that messiness is hard to deal with. That's why Iyanla stopped doing her show. That being said, I would love to see Iyanla and Karamo do a special together.
There can be very different experiences for siblings in one household. I was and still am the black sheep who was the disappointment because i refuse to be controlled. Then my golden child sister got a muvh more maternal loving mother because she does as shes told. And my mother also refuses to admit the crap she did to me like this mother
Etta is showing you what it looks like when someone is drained and now has a wall up. She showed her nothing but grace and still felt for her friend but she knew that relationship was over. Sometimes to save yourself you gotta wallk away and leave it all behind.
Its crazy how ppl pop pills for reasons other than pain. I'm in a sickle cell crisis right now. I've been trying to deal with it at home on my own but I may be having to go to the hospital in the morning.. My mom loves watching Karamo. The only show I can say actually get results & I don't watch tv..
I have sickle cell & a family member did some messed up stuff to me which she still won't admit to it or apologize. Nor has she ever simply stated she lied & had her daughters & 5 other fam members come fight me over something I never said or did.
It’s clear as day that they team up on the bigger one. The sister is trying make them like her wife when it’s clear the wife is the problem too. In order for them to have a relationship with her she want them to have one with her wife and that’s not how the world works.
Ladies takes notes! This is what happens when you want to be a friend AFTER divorce etc. You didn't take the forming years and learn to balance friends so you burn some ppl out. I do still think the other friend simply found love & now doesn't need to go out anymore kind of like the other one didn't when she was married & because real fed up real quick because she didn't need her anymore. That's not right either. Karma always comes around. Be careful ladies of how you act while in love!
Sometimes u can block out trauma . And it’s a lot of it here. N maybe a little drug abuse to. But it definitely affected the Valena more. & the girlfriend knows she can play on the sister emotions a little bit n manipulate her.
First off, I love how Karamo isn't like Maury or Jerry Springer (maybe not the best references, but I don't watch a lot of shows like this). He handles things from a mental health standpoint and isn't just about getting something juicy for the camera. I'm new to him, but I just noticed that. About the two sisters and the mom, boy oh boy, I did not like that every time the older sister opened her mouth to express how she felt, the younger sister got a look on her face like, 'Girl, no one cares.' Is it just me, or do you get sleazy, scam artist vibes from the girlfriend? My entire being screamed 'fraud' the minute she stood up on camera. The fact that she didn't deny massaging the older sister's shoulders but deflected made me shudder. Also, I won't say the older sister might not be lying, but she made a good point when she said, 'Then why were we put in foster care?' Yes, why then, little sister? Those two girls want their mother's love so much that they compete for it, and the mother chooses whichever daughter is in favor at the moment, which validates that daughter temporarily. That's what I think, at least. I hope they go to therapy and learn to communicate in a calm manner.
My mom whooped all of her children with whatever she got her hands on but it made us better adults we all have a great life and never been to jail. Discipline is needed in the house hold and there's a difference between child abuse and disciplined.
Ain't NO way one child NEVER saw or overheard at some point a parent beating their sibling. In same house for years.. eventually... someone will see or hear Why both mom & Barbara say Velena grabbed knife 🗡️ threatened sister? Because Velena did that's why! Why everyone came to Barbara wedding except for Velena who claims..she didn't know the date . I know someone like this due to drugs they remember bits and pieces of events...but not exactly what happened. Which changes the story.
Etta is rude omg this is not the Michelle Show that’s not how you talk to your friends!Hell no I can talk to you maybe 50 times but you can’t regardless you talk things out and don’t be rude period.With Friends like those who needs enemies!
honestly the older sister kinda throws a tantrum when she don’t get the attention that her mom and sister gives her and i feel like that mirrors out how her childhood was , da she didn’t get the attention of space to speak so she has to over react for people can look at her , it’s sad and I hope she can rebuild a healthy relationship with her mother and sister .
You should not apologize to anyone you do not care for. Karmo I get what your doing, but she did not owe that lady an apology. Yes I am someone that loves the lord and know about forgiveness, but why apologize for something you meant to say. You don't like her you just don't like, Fake people get on my nerves. Be real to you, yourself and everyone around that you deal with. Just sick of fake people. Don't like me don't speak, don't smile in my face with your fakeness, Thank you, more peace for me. Better out than in period.
Because one child was not beaten does not mean the other was not.
Speaking from facts your statement is so very true 💯
So true... I was abused and my little sister wasnt
Absolutely! Empathy is lacking here. The mom is hiding something.
Facts , I was whooped once but my brothers & sisters another story . I was the baby so I feel they were easier on me .
Oh heck yes
Mom favored our only brother
She beat my sister and I not him .
Shawntae saying to Valena, "Look at my wife and look at you. I don't want you," was a completely unnecessary statement to make. Shawntae needs to stay out of it!!!
It was a very necessary statement since she was insinuating Shawntae was trying to be inappropriate.
Exactly. They do pick at the oldest one & the your one responds to whats not being said. The eldest had the most sense. The youngest lied about being hit & everything until SHE wanted an apology for it
@@missnene6879it really wasn’t necessary though the sister even stated it never was in a sexual way it just made her uncomfortable
Exactly it’s disrespectful
Was a dig to make her mad that she brought it up to producers after they had already talked about it and know it was not sexual
The oldest sister need some love she is fighting something bigger .. prayers ❤️ to the family
Etta is literally poetry. She has such a ethereal aura
The young sister bothers me.. she acts like such a victim.. so mom didn't abuse the older sister but hit you has an adult and we should all believe you?? I get why theolder sister is mad everything is put on her. And the wife needs to mind her business. 🙄
I agree, The younger sister thinks she the victim! Her sister doesn't have to like her wife but she respects her! I think she more needed than anyone! If her mom beat her w extension cord she knows what happen to her! I think the daughter and mom both flipped on the older sister and to get arrested for words is wrong especially if she was gonna stay away from her! The younger wants her and her wife to be a package but it doesn't work that way and wife need to mind her business! The mom hugged who she wanted if u notice she was careful showing compassion to the youngest
That cornbread must be 🔥
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True imma just pull up to get a bite
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That part 😂
I can identify with Etta. Only I spent seven years listening to a friend whine about the same things. I stopped answering her calls because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings by being brutally honest. After many years, you find that is ALL you are able to speak. I feel so much better not having to worry about and listen to her constant chaos. I had to save myself.
Question, do families out grow one another.??
@@designzbyjulez9838 I think so. Some members grow while others stay the same.
i used to be that friend that always listened but i realised these friends never cared about my life. i stopped talking to them, a few i just ghosted and i never looked back. its so important to have friends that love and respect your time and energy
Welp your not a true friend
Been there too
That older sister has something else going on. She has brought up situations that the other 2 have no knowledge of. For the mom to come out and not hug both her daughters is a problem 😔
Amen
@@Venita-dc8siSo true but i still like how they reconciled in the end.❤☺😘🇯🇲
I noticed that too! I also think they if they were in foster care something happened! Maybe the 1st girl was abused more and the younger sister doesn't know!
My mother refuses to acknowledge stuff she did, and she really did do them. Abusers tend to deliberately ignore and forget behaviour that brings them guilt. I believe her
Yes! Thank you!
I thank God for my sisters! We have had our problems not perfect at all…. But we love one another.
This is a very insightful show that provides solutions to many people. If I wasn't far away in Africa, I would write to you Karamo for my childhood and family hurt. Anyway. I benefit from watching about mending old wounds. Keep up the good work
❤❤ honestly i say try your luck and write... you may be suprised... in the meantime I pray you guys get the healing needed.. we hold our blood line to such high standards we tend to blow the most trival matters out of proportion. Not saying thats your case but if they were to pass away my question always is .. will this drama even be on your mind or do u just want that love one back?
1st story - I truly believe the oldest was beaten with extension cords. Chances are she covered the younger sister so she didn't experience the same abuse.
2nd - she was not a good friend. She only uses her for a sounding board.
Why are ppl clapping when she said her wife says she's beautiful? And?... That has nothing to do with what her sister said..
That friendship is over. Rude is a word. I wouldn't want to share my life with someone who don't care about it. Please stop begging for love and exceptance.
I hope to be as calm and graceful as Etta when I’m her age ❤
She's so grounded and classy hey ❤❤
1st Case: the mother never hugged or embraced the younger daughter, Barbara. Something is still off with them and the wife’s face from the audience says it all, she even noticed the mom not hugging Barbara, she’s not buying it.
Let’s not forget the comment of her wife being someone that is a “work in progress” and even the wife apologizing to the sister and mom I suspect the wife is either emotionally or physically abusive to the youngest sister
@@pinksilkduragI don’t think wife is abusive cause the older sister would’ve called her out in a hot minute! I think she knows where her wife was once at with addiction and doesn’t want to see her fall back into it messing with her family.
I LOVE KARAMO👊🏾💯 HE'S SO REAL & SINCERE💯❣️
The younger doesn’t want to LISTEN, speak how someone made u feel and then listen, she’s very aggressive speaking
I hate when ppl say their not for the weak
But at that grown age why not have a conversation with her to let her know how you were feeling as a friend before pulling away-people can’t stop doing something they’re not aware of🤷🏾♀️
Etta didn't want to hurt her feelings because Michelle comes across as clingy and desperate. Etta has a right to pull away. She's probably drained and exhausted with all the drama.
Etta is giving me "I'm on my high horse" vibes. And Michelle just wants to live it up low vibrational style. They probably mean well but there is a subtle form of harmful selfishness going on between them. It's giving me mean girl vs needy girl.
@browniebun How is Etta on her high horse? It's interesting that when a person tries to break away from a toxic cycle, they are deemed as arrogant, cold, indifferent, etc. Our society loves to bully and cast aspersions on issues they are not informed about. Etta eloquently stated why they drifted apart, lifestyle changes, and personality incompatibility. Why does she need to explain herself to the world? Their differences are enough to part ways. It's ok to end things. Toxic people every where!
@@Zorobbabel That's the impression I get. I'm not saying that's a 100% the case. Etta is allowed to set boundaries and clearly she has. All I'm saying is that this whole friendship dynamic feels off.
I wonder, where is the curiosity to what I implied by stating my point of view? Are you interested in having a nuanced conversation or is it easier to assume my position so you can debate me?
@browniebun I responded to your statement because of the way you assessed the situation. Am I not allowed a point of view as well? You seem to like wanting your cake and eating it too. I already debated you but you seem very sensitive. If your definition of nuance is ambiguity, then no worries. I carefully laid out my points and beliefs. No wonder you judged Etta as seemingly arrogant. Perhaps, you are a lot like Michelle, rather prone to taking things personal.
Etta gives cold and blunt if she didn’t wanna be her friend she should’ve juss made that clear , Michelle deserves a better friend who will have better communication and expression.
Etta is blunt and no matter how nice she puts it, her friend would still be offended. You make it seem like Etta is responsible for her emotional well-being, in a love relationship with her or her therapist. She isn't. Etta has a life and is probably choosing them over Michelle's turbulent emotions.
@@Zorobbabelare you Etta or related to her cause you’re in the comments speaking for her like you know her personally! 😂😂
@@tashiaredd3421 girl i said “she gives” meaning that’s tha vibe im getting from her, did i say i knew her ? no, i never did 🤨😂.
I love the last segment. Karamo brought out the Grown Woman Vibe to these lovely ladies on his show. ❤❤❤
If it is true they were in foster care, somebody did something.
Yes. Drugs..they said it.
Exactly. The older sister didn't get to tell. Something happened. These girls are too broken for it not too.
Oh my gosh, Etta was on Divorce Court with Judge Star not too long ago!! She seems like a beautiful person inside and out!! Michelle does seem pretty self absorbed and I could totally see her running over Etta in the name of a one-sided catchup. They just have different needs and have different lifestyles. They can part on amicable terms and most keep it moving.
Etta is a beautiful woman.
Stunning and articulate hey
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Big sister deserves the biggest apology 🥹
Agreeeed
people are to emotional these days. shed that weak soul an come out of the darkness ❤
Some relationships are for seasons, while others are for a longevity based on each person choice.
Ik they wasn’t really fighting ova cornbread
If she used to pop pills I think she was wanting one or something cause wth
Barbara really annoys me she gives baby energy. Lacks understanding and empathy but requests it.
Just because a woman have children doesn't mean she knows how to be a mother because of the things she went through in life and it's hard when nobody thought you anything when you was growing up but hate and envy. We as women has to stayed prayed up and that's still your mother. Regardless of what has happened in your family.
Why is it ok for Barbara to have feelings and feel like everyone needs to apologize to her but not the older sister Velena. I can see why she feels the way she feels. No one wants to acknowledge her
This has nothing to do with her family, i feel she wants them to fall over backwards for the lady shes with, i think she needs to grow up, she said her partner is bossy, but its more to it karamo just open the surface its still deeper.
You hit it on nail! They don't have to accept her! She can't blame them for all her brokenness! Her mom didn't hug which i found interesting 😮
Valenia has serious issues within herself to deal with
Life is too short to be. Having all this messiness between families members
Everybody has a story to tell I just hope they can start loving each other because life is too short for this type of behavior. It must stop
The mother hug one daughter and even didn't hug the other daughter it's sad 😢😢😢😢
I need to bring my family on this show but I don’t think Karamo’s team would clear our story. I can’t even go to a therapist at 28 years old and be honest with how I’m hurting because they would call the police. Being able to watch stories like this help because this story is similar to mine but only grazes the surface. Also, can they give us that cornbread recipe…? Sorry but I had to say it
I believe the eldest sister. If she sees this ❤
Michelle reminds me of Ramona from rhony
the older sister has mental issues..
Right....
I think those last 2 women could be in a relationship...or maybe that's the problem...one wanted that and one didn't because I just have this feeling. 😆
Big sis in the closet clearly
Got that vibe too lol
I loved Etta!
Right?!!! Life goals.. 💕
I really relate with the second story to because I’ve been put in relationships that was based on there feelings , I’ve recognized that I accidentally attract people that need guidance and advice and I’m more then happy to help people but when the whole relationship is about them and doesn’t have a balance then that’s when I feel like it gets one sided and it slowly morphs into a relationship that feels like I’m a therapist (as she explained so perfectly in my opinion) and it slowly drains me out and sometimes I would catch myself reacting or coping in the way they do . And those are the signs that makes me realize that I have to remove/distance myself from them because I would go down to there level to make me connect wit them in a deeper way but I end up messing up my own growth for I can sympathize with them with them in a deeper way. And especially when the advice that I give out to them is not taken with any consideration or not appreciation , those are the things that makes the relationship draining and it becomes all there problems . It slowly starts to make me feel like I am not heard or appreciated in the way that I thought I was by the actions that they proceed to keep doing . And in no any am I trying to say that I don’t want to be there for my friends but there needs to be a healthy balance and communication to have that will make both sides happy and feel cared for in a equaled way . I know that I haven’t lived a very long time but I realize I attract the people that have to be heard and healed and I’m okay with that giving out that energy because you never know what people are going through and I always say to people to treat people how you would want to be treated if you was in there shoes. But you also have to protect ur energy and urself and try not to lose urself in relationships like that . For me personally it’s hard for me to get out of relationships like that because I feel like I’m hurting them which I never want to do so I am very proud and feel inspired by the way that amazing lady laid out her feelings and didn’t her friend guilt her into staying in the relationship , and karamo is a 100% right for not letting them try to intentionally try to fix things and make a cycle , and he also acknowledged that there can be a natural re-bond if they ever end up back in the same page . LOVE KARAMO❤️, friendships are very spiritual to me and it’s very important to me to be conscious and aware of who I put my energy In to and try to not let it get waste and I’m still struggling to practice that skill of protecting my energy but I am still young and got many more years to get it right . Love the karamo show !!! Love to have these open conversations especially in the comments it feels like I am in a group circle hearing people’s opinions and mindsets abt real scenarios and how to approach them ❤️❤️ keep up the good work everyone !!🫶
The younger sister wants them to be compassionate and understand her but she’s not trying to hear here sister at all she does make it about her
Damn Etta is so graceful and elegant and fluent and polished but not plastic… I hope to be like that in my mature age
Michelle exhausted me in just the few minutes that she was on the show. 😩 She sounds incredibly needy, and even somewhat selfish, and she expects her friends to cater to friendship in the way that SHE deems appropriate. I’ve had a friend like her who wants to tell you everything about their lives ad nauseam, but when it came to me and what I’d been going through, her asking (IF she did), was just a passing courtesy…just as Michelle demonstrated at 38:09. I remember calling her when I was living in Europe years ago, and the entire conversation was her, her her, and by the time we got off the phone I’d barely said anything, and I ended up with a €98 bill. 🤦🏽♀️
Some people don't get it. They demonize Etta like she should not have boundaries. Etta did what most people wish they can do, cut off the cord before it's too late.
Shawntae, your wife ain't that cute anyway, you got some nerve...
Some times even family are too toxic to be together you can stay far and still live them everyone are adults move on.
The two friends…girl you are too old to be crying over another woman not being your friend. But she was so unmoved lol
No one remembers anything.... Did they live in the same home? ?? This is hard to watch!
Right what is going on
Am not apologising for calling my mother toxic because she is 🎯 and the only apology I will ever accept is change behaviour ❤
I think the 2nd one can still be friends! Karmo always telling people to move away from each other! What the heck! They can still communicate
I agree!
They are now not at the same level. Human need to learn that some relationships are for a season & a reason. Etta has moved on, up & out. No need putting Michelle in the position of playing catch-up or fit-in with her.
@@bossb8989she could be a positive influence to change without all the draining stuff. She can seek help or a therapist. I have outgrown my family and friends but I am w them through thick and thin❤
the younger sister is playing the victim card too much. The older sister literally said “if there was no abuse then why did we go to foster care and other people have the same reports” The younger sister literally said “idk why” Just because you cant remember the abuse or you may not have been the one to experience it doesn’t mean you get to shut the older sister down when she speaks about her truth. The younger sister wants to have her “truth” heard so bad that she cant be there for her own sister who is clearly deeply damaged by somethings the family wont even acknowledge. The older sister is clearly on some drugs or sum and she isn’t doing a good job explaining herself but from wat i can put together is heartbreaking. Also the wife needs to stay out of it. She is a bully and unnecessary. The older sister clearly only wants a relationship with the sister and they need to respect that. The younger sister wants her wife and family to get along but honestly that isn’t going to happen bc the wife is just as rude and reckless as them. In this case its best to keep them separate to avoid the drama. I wish this family luck.
Why didn’t mom give both her broken daughters a hug, Valenia sounds like a big liar
It's funny... my younger sister and I have totally different views on how we grew up... so crazy!! So we decided to just find a way to relate
I hope the sister gets help. By the movement of her mouth there is definitely a need for intervention.
Maybe or the damage could be done already
Right! The way her mouth was hanging and the way she was acting.. she seems like she’s on something
MEchele definitely has the right name!
I do understand the lopsided relationship among girlfriends (me being the therapist) It’s very exhausting. I hope they can work it out.
Etta is cold and blunt. I wouldn't want anyone like Etta as a friend. Etta doesn't seem compassionate or caring. I wouldn't even want someone like Etta as a friend. She's not friend material.
Nothing is wrong with Etta. Most people wish they were like Etta. She expressed her feelings and chose not to be used or in a toxic relationship. Good for her.
If you think that, you are obviously the Michele in your friend group
I have been here before and it is not a good feeling. It is exhausting when a person dumps on you emotionally and there is no opportunity to share your side on anything. Michele jokingly admitted that she may have listened to Etta for one or two minutes. Who wants to be on the receiving end of that ? I do not think Etta is cold. I believe Etta had up a wall that Michele was not going to come over again and she politely said what she needed to say.
How are y’all falling for Barbara’s manipulation tactics in the comments?? Yeah I have empathy for her, but she’s in the wrong here as well. She’s just more sneaky with her actions
Something is off about this family. It makes no sense. The daughter married a woman to control her and tell right from wrong like she needed an another parent. I’m still confused. 😐
Shy does sheballow her wofe to be disrespectful to her sister. Its always dont disrespect my wife everytime someone mentions her.
This show is doing something to Karamo. All that messiness is hard to deal with. That's why Iyanla stopped doing her show. That being said, I would love to see Iyanla and Karamo do a special together.
Oh no their mom name is Cherl.....they got their asses whoop!😅
There can be very different experiences for siblings in one household. I was and still am the black sheep who was the disappointment because i refuse to be controlled. Then my golden child sister got a muvh more maternal loving mother because she does as shes told. And my mother also refuses to admit the crap she did to me like this mother
AIN'T THAT ETTA FROM DIVORCE COURT???????? 🤨😂
16:54 I think her drug use has overcome her mind. She’s changing her words when her mom came out
Etta is showing you what it looks like when someone is drained and now has a wall up. She showed her nothing but grace and still felt for her friend but she knew that relationship was over. Sometimes to save yourself you gotta wallk away and leave it all behind.
Its crazy how ppl pop pills for reasons other than pain. I'm in a sickle cell crisis right now. I've been trying to deal with it at home on my own but I may be having to go to the hospital in the morning..
My mom loves watching Karamo. The only show I can say actually get results & I don't watch tv..
the older sister is high. I dont know how any of yall arent noticing this
I have sickle cell & a family member did some messed up stuff to me which she still won't admit to it or apologize. Nor has she ever simply stated she lied & had her daughters & 5 other fam members come fight me over something I never said or did.
It’s clear as day that they team up on the bigger one. The sister is trying make them like her wife when it’s clear the wife is the problem too. In order for them to have a relationship with her she want them to have one with her wife and that’s not how the world works.
Eda is a horrible friend!!! She’s literally acting like this lady betrayed her !! 😢
Karamo is hella smart. He said they needed some more time and I felt the same way but this is definitely a start!!
Whatever happened to turn the other cheek? If someone is aggressive, I would try to answer in a soft tone or not at all. Try to turn the other cheek.❤
Ladies takes notes! This is what happens when you want to be a friend AFTER divorce etc. You didn't take the forming years and learn to balance friends so you burn some ppl out. I do still think the other friend simply found love & now doesn't need to go out anymore kind of like the other one didn't when she was married & because real fed up real quick because she didn't need her anymore. That's not right either. Karma always comes around. Be careful ladies of how you act while in love!
The older sister the way she's talking and her mouth is sideways that's d? Sorry
Must've been some bomb ass cornbread.
is it weird that i love her multicolored hair?
Heather saying this is NOT Michelle's show it's the Karamo show. They both need to make compramises. Only that could be a solution.🙄🇯🇲
Etta
Sometimes u can block out trauma . And it’s a lot of it here. N maybe a little drug abuse to. But it definitely affected the Valena more. & the girlfriend knows she can play on the sister emotions a little bit n manipulate her.
Everytime when tell them start eating healthy and getting checked up they start to get mad makes no since
First off, I love how Karamo isn't like Maury or Jerry Springer (maybe not the best references, but I don't watch a lot of shows like this). He handles things from a mental health standpoint and isn't just about getting something juicy for the camera. I'm new to him, but I just noticed that.
About the two sisters and the mom, boy oh boy, I did not like that every time the older sister opened her mouth to express how she felt, the younger sister got a look on her face like, 'Girl, no one cares.' Is it just me, or do you get sleazy, scam artist vibes from the girlfriend? My entire being screamed 'fraud' the minute she stood up on camera. The fact that she didn't deny massaging the older sister's shoulders but deflected made me shudder.
Also, I won't say the older sister might not be lying, but she made a good point when she said, 'Then why were we put in foster care?' Yes, why then, little sister? Those two girls want their mother's love so much that they compete for it, and the mother chooses whichever daughter is in favor at the moment, which validates that daughter temporarily. That's what I think, at least. I hope they go to therapy and learn to communicate in a calm manner.
My mom whooped all of her children with whatever she got her hands on but it made us better adults we all have a great life and never been to jail. Discipline is needed in the house hold and there's a difference between child abuse and disciplined.
Ain't NO way one child NEVER saw or overheard at some point a parent beating their sibling. In same house for years.. eventually... someone will see or hear
Why both mom & Barbara say Velena grabbed knife 🗡️ threatened sister?
Because Velena did that's why!
Why everyone came to Barbara wedding except for Velena who claims..she didn't know the date .
I know someone like this due to drugs they remember bits and pieces of events...but not exactly what happened. Which changes the story.
“AND I DON’T LIKE IT!” Girl chill
Etta is rude omg this is not the Michelle Show that’s not how you talk to your friends!Hell no I can talk to you maybe 50 times but you can’t regardless you talk things out and don’t be rude period.With Friends like those who needs enemies!
All over good food
I just wanna hug from Karamo. I bet he smells so good 🤣🤣🤣
I want cornbread
I second that
Valena is full of it.
honestly the older sister kinda throws a tantrum when she don’t get the attention that her mom and sister gives her and i feel like that mirrors out how her childhood was , da she didn’t get the attention of space to speak so she has to over react for people can look at her , it’s sad and I hope she can rebuild a healthy relationship with her mother and sister .
Seeing Cheryl and Barbra crying made me cry 🤧
I think they love one another it’s just they don’t know how to break the toxic cycle that was built over the years 😢
A fight over corn bread?! 😂 can't get anymore stereotypical than that, yikes😬
My Sister and I are 3 years apart her being older and there is stuff she remembers from our childhood that I don't 🤷
Dang, every other sentence is Mah wife, mah wife, mah wife. 🤷🏾♀️I hope they can all heal.🙏🏾
You should not apologize to anyone you do not care for. Karmo I get what your doing, but she did not owe that lady an apology. Yes I am someone that loves the lord and know about forgiveness, but why apologize for something you meant to say. You don't like her you just don't like, Fake people get on my nerves. Be real to you, yourself and everyone around that you deal with. Just sick of fake people. Don't like me don't speak, don't smile in my face with your fakeness, Thank you, more peace for me. Better out than in period.
You can't have a wife;