Im a revert and literally met my arab husband 7 times before marriage. I approached it like a business with focused questions. We married in less than 3 months, that was 26 years ago. Alhamdulillah Allahibarak
@@TheEko42 yes dating is haram, alhamdillah i’ve never had a haram relationship but i just seen a lot of people get into relationship and then go to a next relationship, just same cycle of back and fourth.
"Why do we not get married at 16"? Good question there Grayson. If a man has a good heart, knows what needs to be done and can support his wife and children financially, chances are he can turn out to be a good husband/father. But teens nowadays might need more time before they're ready to take on those roles. While marrying young can be beneficial, we also want to avoid having young single mothers who are left struggling and fending for themselves with their children.
right, in old days men ruled the world with 12 years. Now even with 20 years age "men" behaving like a kid. A guy should first get a real men in first place, that beginns with praying salat and living islam.
Some people really made bad choices. It takes two to tango. Not because of money, because money will never enough. Hardly, there is such thing as puuurfect marriage even with a stable financial backup. Even the ones in their prime years are not spared. But with family support from either side, the marriage will suuurvive weathering the storms most of the time. Get to know the family and know that you are 'married' to them too. The golden rule many couples wish not to abide. Therefore, a broken family remains broken.
Well, most of the guys I know who got married ended up gaining weight-probably because their wives spoil them with too much food 😂😂😂 with what’s going on in the world right now I will always suggest to young men to stay combat ready
You need to be emotionally mature and balanced for marriage, ready to provide and take on responsibilities. Yes, biology and socialization does push for companionship, but make sure you at least try to know what you are getting into and that you feel compatibility and share some values and sparks.
100%, and that’s on the parents. they should teach and bring up their kids with good values and shape their character to become good muslims, and good wives/husbands
This is very true. Emotional Maturity is very important. Marriage can be very hard at times. It's 2 different people coming from 2 different families with their own set of values and trying to build a life together. There will be happy times. And there will be heartache. There will be times your partner stands with you. And sometimes you can feel very alone. That's how marriage is for the average person. It has added responsibilities. And stress. My bro in law is 22 years old. He still behaves like a baby😂 so immature. I will tell him to wait a few more years before he marry. Otherwise the woman he marry will be doomed. Iam a married woman btw. Opinions based on my experiences.
I got married at the age of 23, and now almost 15 years, every day I still feel the same love as when I met my wife for the first time. now we have been blessed with 4 wonderful boys. Alhamdulillah
I can relate. Even in a Muslim country like Morocco, society glorifies marriage, which makes it much harder than just dating. However, the majority of young people here still date. I did too, but when I started practicing Islam, I began to see how straightforward and confident the marriage process is, compared to the rollercoaster of dating and the short-lived gratification it brings. Choosing marriage has completely changed the way I operate. My productivity increased by 300% because, in the back of my mind, I know I'll be married next year, and there's no time to waste. note edit: I'm 23, still a student, and I'll be getting married next year, inchaallah. I spoke to her father, and we agreed on the date. Highly recommend it for young mens.
Allah be with and make it easy for you. Yes, it is right that it is hard to find a good person that fits with you, But Islam gives a lot of trials to meet and know a lot of girls, & if it doesn't work no problem, you end everything, and no harm is done not to the girl ,not the boy
I am 22 and just got done with my bachelors in Computer Science and Engineering .I have never dated as I fear Allah.On my return from college I tried to convey to my mum(single parent) that she should find me a guy but everyone at my family started making fun of this.They told me it is very hard to find a good guy and the only way to do that is either to find yourself or get a good job.Honestly it is not easy to get married especially in this time where everyone expects you to find a guy for yourself.Things become harder when you are on the right path,that is what I have personally experienced so far.
searching alone can have danger of emotions influences mind. maybe check a masjid for few weeks. maybe you can found few diligent men to pray. that a checklist on his religion. after you get few list of it ask the imam to call the men after prayer. always du'a to ask the best for you
Hello there, i am the same age as you and i also completed college. However, i think that you should just be patient and trust the process that Allah has for you. Sometimes being patient it’s better then just having any person in your life, which will after cause problems and make your life harder. Sending you positive energy 💖!
You are still young sister, trust Allah will bring someone who is good for you, make dua at night, pray at night and ask Allah ... dont go looking for anyone or your mom, but Allah is the one who brings our partners
I got married at 25 and we were both studying.. We didnt have a place to live and he didnt have a mean to provide we ended up living at his family's house .. and they made us divorce .. I got divorced with a baby and he cheated on me . I was all alone with my baby at home and he was cheating with this woman who was also married . He barely spent on his child... He doesnt call his child who was abondoned as a baby.. I have been a working single mom ever since..Now he is 11 and even now I have to beg my son's dad to call and talk to him or take him to prayer.. Its me who has been taking him to the mosque.. teaching him everything while struggling with cancer... Yes go for it if you have your family's blessings or if you have the means to provide for your wife! otherwise NO! DONT DO IT!
Sister I recomend you to chechk the channel inspiring narratives. She is q sister who has given many such people hope by telling stories of similar people. Allah changed the situation of those people. Recite 1000 times everyday laa hawla wala quwata illa billah with the intention that Allah will solve your problem and marry you to a pious husband and your son will have a good life. Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
Here is the dua with the translation: "إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ، اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا." Translation: "Indeed, to Allah we belong, and to Him we shall return. O Allah, reward me in my calamity and replace it for me with something better."
Sister chechk out the channel 8nspiring narratives a sister who shares similar stories. How Allah changed their situation by remebramce Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ Lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā bi-llāh There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
You're such a strong woman . I don't know you but I'm so proud of you . May allah bless you immensely, cure your disease , and ease your burdens . Ameen ❤
I met my husband through an online Muslim matrimony service. My father and brother did his background check and spoke to him. I spoke to him but most of it was asking questions to see how compatible we are (he did the same). My questions ranged from financial debt, religion, how important health is to him, children, role of husband and wife etc… romance talk came after we signed the Islamic contract lol (the whole investigation and interrogation took 2mths 😅) we are now married over a decade and have 4 children. We have had our ups and down but since I knew his values before marriage I also knew what to expect from him during the good and bad times. Alhamdulillah I am soo grateful for my husband and I hope the younger generations realise that traditional way of marriage is the way to go!
I got married at 22 and had my own house. Growing up Christian i was not allowed to date we called it courting and had to have a chaperone. My late husband didnt ask my dad cause he was not in my life. But he did ask my other family members@@graysonbrockk
I was always told that the earlier the better (as a girl) because we mature faster, but need to find a guy who’s financially stable and mentally mature, and therefore have to wait longer. Been following your journey for a couple months now, keep spreading the truth inshAllah 💕
Chech the channel inspiring narrative she is a sister who teach dhikr and slawat and hawqala by telling stories from people who got married and got peace by reciting it
You have spiritually and personally grown since you have been researching Islam. MashaAllah... May you be blessed and may Allah grant you a beautiful partner for life...
Me and my husband get married early 23 years old, he graduated and worked only 2 months then straight to marriage, now we have 3 kids and we still married for 24 years❤
allahhuma barik, may allah bless your marriage and kids and grant you ALL janat-al firdaws ignore the salty clown above me, he’s absolutely fuming that he isn’t married, but inshallah allah guides him or her and grants them a righteous spouse too
Studying and preparing to go abroad made me being very busy and so can't even think of settling. I am in an instable phase of my life. I feel it is unfair to make someone else suffer because of my situation right now. So that's my reason.
As a woman, I resonate with what you said sooo much but then I seek stability as well I hate living alone, having no one to share my wins and losses with, and living with people who are so far from God it is disgusting sometimes. I just wanna be able to not worry about things that I worry for due to the absence of a male presence in my life.
@@merekhayaalsaysister sometimes a male presence doesn’t provide the security we think they will provide and infact put you in physical and emotional danger, so be cautious - dont let loneliness and helplessness tempt you to marry the wrong person- women generally get the wrong side of the stick when things fail and men can use marriage as a cover to get good wife to support their future while they themselves remain selfish. be vwry careful n be patient n take the time to really know a person’s character through various ways and sources (real true ones- not his friends or family that can give false references) before settling down.
Prepare yourself to love and be loved, and serve. Visit a country outside of US, he will find you InshaAllah, and court you then marry you ASAP as long as you don’t have sex before marriage and do it Gods way❤
make dua in sujoud for your future husband and you type in dua for marriage in youtube and listen and change your life like you have a righteous husband and Allah doe the rest in sha Allah
what?! how is that even possible?! is your father a pagan?! or did you just reject every proposal you got because you wanted a top 1% man?! how were you able to control your desires for so long? doesn’t seem possible to me
wholesome ass shit, I just got into a relationship and this is the mindset that i strive to have, I really want mines to work and will strive to be that person. Too many people try to "find the right one" but not enough people try to be the person capable of being in a life long relationship, cutting bad habits, repenting, etc.
Just make sure that you are responsible for the lucky lady, its a commitment beyond carnal needs, I wish you the best in finding your (muslim, if you want to remain in faith) wife.
@@esmo4151 yes it is. Search up the video Forgotten Meaning of The Islamic Months by the TH-cam channel Simply Muslim. She does seem to make the misstake that you can follow any lunisolar-calendar like the Chinese calendar and I don't agree with her on that. But besides that, she explains clearly that the first month of Ramadan is the first month of autumn. And now is the first month of autumn. So you're wrong, it is the month of Ramadan. The actual Islamic calendar is a lunisolar-calendar and that is proven by numerous proofs like verse 10:5 of the Qur'an.
Marriage is not just being physically able so have children, it's aslo being mentally ready for the responsability of being in charge of a family. If you don't' seek knowledge about what you have to do as a husband or as a wife, you marriage gona failed., because it is a project like starting a company with your partner. obviously, love must be here too, but it will cha,ge with time. the love of the begining stops maximum after maybe 3 years or with kids, but you will have something much stronger after that if your relationnship is based on strong fundation.
@@water4112 maybe you’re right because the society has changed the norms. When we got married we lived a very humble life what mattered to us was growing together and building our future with the help of Allah. My husband was clinical office back then, his brothers raised the money to establish our unity. I barely finished my primary education, because my father pulled me out of school after my 2 half sisters went crazy sneaking out at night with boys. I worked hard to help my husband become a doctor, specialist in 3 different fields then, came my time to educate myself , night school- university. I cried for days after my graduation and I humbly paid gratitude to my creator. Our children married at age 22 and 24. We raised to think out of the box and not spend money to throw bashing weddings, instead send their money to orphanages and villages where people needed the food more. I’m sure the values we instill in our children become the norms. Parents are equally selfish this days their children are a burden to them not a blessing.
My sister got married at 15, 16 and 18 years. They had their kids young abd now the kids old enough n she is young enough to relate with them. I got married at 26 and I wish I had gotten married earlier so I could have had more kids. I feel tired to have a 3rd child. I m blessed with two. The younger the better.
Allhamdullilah, I was married at 18 years old. Allhamdullilah, we have been together till now for 12 years. 1 month of introduction. I am so happy. Very right decion of my life. Happiness with my kids, too. Allhamdullilah. Marriage is such a blessing Allhamdullilah
Intention, roles and responsibilities speaks. People nowadays don't settle down at an early age because they simply want to enjoy life first. They tend to have less to little patience in relationships what more a marriage. Its about how much they really want it. Most don't because of bad experiences too.
I think like you. I believe it's unnatural to delay marriage purposely. For me I am not married because no one proposed. And I didn't meet any one that gave me the desire to propose. But also, I am a women influenced by society and biases saying women don't propose. Thus, it feels like I should only propose if someone feels so special to me which didn't happen yet. At the same time, if a man proposes to me, I can accept the proposal even if he doesn't feel so special to me..
Married at 24. Saw my husband to be once. Then the next time I saw him was 1.5 years later on my wedding day. 9 years later and we are still together with two young children.
7:17 it’s funny how when lady joined she did favor to Grayson and start speaking, woman are so good at talking and expressing words, they never run out of words 😂😂😂
Got married at 23 years old. I got married the same way u said. My husband went to my father. In our fifth year in marriage in Shaa Allaah.. with 3 children. We went through a lot during this short years but every challenge grew us closer.
That’s the price we pay for individual pursuit of happiness and private hoarding of property rights. For you to marry young the responsibility of bringing up a child should be with extended family including grandparents and aunts and uncles and that’s not possible in a individualistic system
As a muslim from birth, I believe thet dating is not the clue for a happy marriage or for avoiding divorce. Even if I was a christian or an atheist or anything else, having a man coming diretly to my father asking for a life-long relationship with me is the most romantic thing I'd experience, because it shows that he chose me directly over dating me for years and postponing the marriage because ''he's not ready yet''.
There is a Hadith of prophet Mohammed peace be upon him: ‘’0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.’’
I am 40 and single. Had an opportunity to get married around 25 but I wasted it...I guess I didn't want to take the responsibility and thought I am not ready yet. I wish I had took that leap back then. Fell into the trap of and this society where marriage isn't a value anymore.Modern European, Christian.... I want to get married though...
Easy answer, the mental maturity that is required for a marriage is nowadays lacking in most 1st world country 17 year olds. Yes sure they are physically able to maintain sexual relationships but a lot are children mentally and that goes for some 25+ year olds as well.
The best marriage is the simplest marriage, dr zakir Naik said, he only had dried dates with water on his nikah. That is all u need. Go for it. Don't waste time
I think getting married after high school is a good idea if the families are involved in the matching process because a successful long term marriage requires more than a commitment made by teenage hormones. A successful marriage strengthens society by joining 2 families.
marriage is a responsibility, that age suggestion is to make sure you're mature enough and financially capable, will you be able to provide for her? can you even fully provide for yourself? there's no shame in answering either of those questions with no. just be patient the journey is different for everbody, but as soon as you ARE ready then go ahead and don't waste time.
That couple was such a breath of fresh air Mashaa'Allah. There's always a stigma it seems, when the woman is older than the man which is senseless in my opinion for a series of reasons. This is a great topic...I think everyone's reasoning for not marrying sooner may vary, but in the west it has a lot to do with a lack of self awareness, stability, and guidance. Many are missing direction and wouldn't be able to maintain a successful kinship let alone marriage. I'm totally open to marriage, but I think taking note of what the woman said ie learning your person is crucial. Many come with their representatives and not who they truly are, which makes the process so tedious, haha. As for our elders marrying early, it was a different time then I think. Most peoples moral codes were in alignment and belief systems. A beautiful concept I think should be implemented so we there aren't as many illegitimate births, relations etc. Keep safe and enjoy your travels Inshaa'Allah 🥳💯👏🏽
@graysonbrockk @graysonbrockk Absolutely, I think it's all about mindset and compatibility on top of having a certain level of maturity for sure! I'd agree, for them to have carried as long, I wouldn't be surprised if cultural nuances wasn't a contributing factor as well. All beautiful Mashaa'Allah. Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was 25 when he married his first wife Khadija (May Allah SWT be pleased with her) when she was 40. She (May Allah SWT be pleased with her) was his wealthy employer and sent out a proposal to marry him (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and they had 6 children together SubhanAllah. All the Will of Allah SWT. Thanks for sharing!
Back then as soon as you hit puberty, as soon as you're physically capable, you're an adult because they had to be. Now the very same age group are seen as children, sheltered, we've essentially been dumbed down as a society, maturity ripped out of the youth. In todays world most ppl start experiencing adult life around 23 upwards.
There are so many factors why people take so long, don’t know where to start. 1. Less youth in general, the pool of quality candidates is quite small. Compared the times of our grandparents where families had 5-9 children. 2. Materialism 3. Romanticising of love and the feeling it brings i.e gotta feel the butterflies every time that person walks into the room… like forever 4. Lack of morals and norms throughout the world community 5. High expectations on both ends in various fields. 6. People not marrying for Allah sake anymore but for personal gains, satisfaction and desires. 7. Etc etc Thus being said, I am blessed with a wonderful husband elhamdullilah, we had our ups and downs. You have to have a lot of patience and understanding in a marriage otherwise it can be shaken. He has great Islamic and general knowledge and our kids can actually turn to him with questions about the religion and the world. He goes into great detail with explaining things to them. You need to find someone who will keep you on the right path and share the love towards God with you. My daughter is 19 and wants to get married but she just doesn’t know anyone who fits her criteria. It is actually kinda hard to find the right person in these days.
People should finish their study first. before you want to get married, make sure you are prepared mentally to provide your future wife. gives shelter etc. nowadays if you want to work, you need diploma degree etc. so thats why..
Hello Grayson! I´m your age, also born in 2002. I´m far from marriage. Although I grew up a muslim I cannot seem to get married at this age. Since I live in the west, even muslim women here wants me to have a degree. I won´t have my masters degree before 2027 and I´m struggling with all kinds of fitnah. It is tough. I´d really love a wife or at least get to know someone for marriage. It´s brutal that some cultures within muslim countries values education over traditional Islamic principles. May Allah help you get married, pray for me too.
@@FariedaLukie I agree Marriage is a sunnah. But how do I get married? Literally no woman is interested in marriage around where I live. They are looking for men around 28-30 years of age because they’re mature and have more money. I can’t wait for that long. Many of these «muslims» have had girlfriends in the past and «coped» with their urges. I haven’t even touched a woman. I’m still waiting for halal, but it’s hard to wait until 28
@@youtuber9409 keep your relationship with Allah very firm wake up for tahajud keep begging Allah to grant you a righteous and pious spouse and also Allah should make you a righteous husband who will take care of your spouse with Taqwa of Allah
@@youtuber9409so u wanna get married for urges brother- thats the problem, what happens when the u get a wife n months later urges get satisfied regularly n u no longer love the woman or feel a sense of responsibility. ppl are asking for education because that shows u r disciplined and committed to a long term goal just like marriage is a longggg project. i guess you gotta increase in patience and discioljne and marry when u have the means of emotional and financial responsibility. if u are not earning how will you provide for your wife ans kids
@@hashh2019 I’m not marrying only for urges. I struggle with loneliness and I’ve been doing that for a very long time. I’m pretty sure I’m more disciplined than most people - not to be cocky. I workout 5x a week, I work partly besides my studies. The thing is that my study is long because I’m studying something good Alhamdullilah. I earn enough to provide in the beginning but I also just want to get to know a girl for marriage. I have never talked to a woman before.
Once, a non-Muslim woman asked me, "You're not even free to date?" because I told her I had never dated since it's haram. As a Muslim woman, I believe that Islam doesn't restrict my freedom by forbidding dating; instead, it frees us from the downsides of dating. Anyone can see how dating affects both men and women.
Although I agree with you about early marriage, nowadays, it is harder for both partners to be financially independent. That's why we in the Middle Eastern region, although we prefer to marry early, are finding it hard to become financially independent
The trick is to find a person compatible with you. No such thing as soul mate, just someone you are happy with and is happy with you. Make tahajood and ask Allah to make the process easy for you and gift you with someone who will be like a garment to you. Do all your due diligence and give it 100%. Do not be afraid of failure, that is Shaytaan. This is duniya, there is always a chance things won't work out because nothing in this life is perfect. However, most of of this life is more than good enough 😊. Insh Allah you will find someone who will bring you ease, faith, and the tranquility of committed love. When is that shahada coming 😅? Married and content for 14 years.
@@theBakinNoob as far as deen goes, go to the mosque at fajr time, its mostly going to be filled with uncles as they are the most on the deen, but sometimes there's younger brothers there and if they're there, trust me they're not there to play around, they are most likely on the deen. as far as akhlaq goes, you will have to ask your wali, or male siblings, or ask your wali to observe the akhlaq of the brothers that look your age
Marry is about mercy not about love. If you have mercy towards each other , the marriage will endure even after love fades away. Mercy is about believing from the heart but love is about feeling due to hormonal influence from the brain. Mercy last but love dies away.
I think you are confusing lust with love. Lust fades yes, but love can be nurtured and grown. Love includes many things, one of them being mercy. Unfortunately in the contemporary age and especially the western world, love is sold in a lustrous and immoral package. That's not real love.
@@skybright275 Lust is the tool, it should be gouvern by moral values. It is alright to lust carnal for a marriage couple, but not right for unmarried. It is alright to lust for money if the way to get it is halal. There are many ways lust is applied in life, without it people are just malfunctioning.
Get to know the person that you are considering marrying. Make sure they have the same moral standards and are able to make a commitment. Take care that you are not unequally yoked.
Im a revert and literally met my arab husband 7 times before marriage. I approached it like a business with focused questions. We married in less than 3 months, that was 26 years ago. Alhamdulillah Allahibarak
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It's never a backward method or get old. It still being practice in normal society.
Ma Shaa ALLAH ❤️ May ALLAH Bless your marriage and your whole family Aammeen 😊
the way you said Allahibarak i think you're Algerian
@@hocineache7033since decades she’s married so surely she learned his language that’s it .
We got married when we were 21. We have 4 boys. 2024 is our 46th anniversay. Alhamdulillaah.
Ma sha Allah may Allah bless you
Mashallah
MashAllah ❤
Mashallah,
Pls dont keep track of anniversary or celebrate (if you do) bcz it's not islamic practice. جزاك اللهُ خير
marriage is more secure than dating
dating is practicing divorce
I never understood dating, like are you just gonna keep rolling the dice until you find the "right one"?
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dating is haram, that sould be the reason for a muslim not to do. You can marry and divorce like most people, makes no sense.
@@TheEko42 We are living in a selfish society.Living in a dreamland. Wanting what we can't have or don't have.
@@TheEko42 yes dating is haram, alhamdillah i’ve never had a haram relationship but i just seen a lot of people get into relationship and then go to a next relationship, just same cycle of back and fourth.
I got married at 20 😊
So happy
So fullfilled
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MashaAllah brother
May Allah bless your marriage Ameen
Allamma barik
Allamma barik
"Why do we not get married at 16"? Good question there Grayson. If a man has a good heart, knows what needs to be done and can support his wife and children financially, chances are he can turn out to be a good husband/father. But teens nowadays might need more time before they're ready to take on those roles. While marrying young can be beneficial, we also want to avoid having young single mothers who are left struggling and fending for themselves with their children.
Spot on
right, in old days men ruled the world with 12 years. Now even with 20 years age "men" behaving like a kid. A guy should first get a real men in first place, that beginns with praying salat and living islam.
Great point! Men have full responsibility for providing for their wife.
Some people really made bad choices. It takes two to tango. Not because of money, because money will never enough. Hardly, there is such thing as puuurfect marriage even with a stable financial backup. Even the ones in their prime years are not spared. But with family support from either side, the marriage will suuurvive weathering the storms most of the time. Get to know the family and know that you are 'married' to them too. The golden rule many couples wish not to abide. Therefore, a broken family remains broken.
Assalamualaikum. True sister. Reality of today's society. 😢
What a wonderful sunset :) greetings from Türkiye man, GET MARRIED AND DONT BE FAT
But convert first so you can get a good, pretty and sholeha Muslim wife
Well, most of the guys I know who got married ended up gaining weight-probably because their wives spoil them with too much food 😂😂😂 with what’s going on in the world right now I will always suggest to young men to stay combat ready
@@NoOneTwoTrustthat’s true 🤣and the same for the wifes sometimes also
All of these comments are so funny 😂
Hayır evlenmesin
You need to be emotionally mature and balanced for marriage, ready to provide and take on responsibilities. Yes, biology and socialization does push for companionship, but make sure you at least try to know what you are getting into and that you feel compatibility and share some values and sparks.
Beautiful.
The best advice
100%, and that’s on the parents. they should teach and bring up their kids with good values and shape their character to become good muslims, and good wives/husbands
You mean you need to be emotionally rich
This is very true. Emotional Maturity is very important. Marriage can be very hard at times. It's 2 different people coming from 2 different families with their own set of values and trying to build a life together.
There will be happy times. And there will be heartache. There will be times your partner stands with you. And sometimes you can feel very alone. That's how marriage is for the average person. It has added responsibilities. And stress. My bro in law is 22 years old. He still behaves like a baby😂 so immature. I will tell him to wait a few more years before he marry.
Otherwise the woman he marry will be doomed.
Iam a married woman btw. Opinions based on my experiences.
The Sky in the background beautiful { SubhaanAllaah} , { Allaahu Akbar}.
Whole background was beautiful 🤩 , love from India 🇮🇳
I got married at the age of 23, and now almost 15 years, every day I still feel the same love as when I met my wife for the first time. now we have been blessed with 4 wonderful boys. Alhamdulillah
I can relate. Even in a Muslim country like Morocco, society glorifies marriage, which makes it much harder than just dating. However, the majority of young people here still date. I did too, but when I started practicing Islam, I began to see how straightforward and confident the marriage process is, compared to the rollercoaster of dating and the short-lived gratification it brings. Choosing marriage has completely changed the way I operate. My productivity increased by 300% because, in the back of my mind, I know I'll be married next year, and there's no time to waste.
note edit: I'm 23, still a student, and I'll be getting married next year, inchaallah. I spoke to her father, and we agreed on the date. Highly recommend it for young mens.
Let’s get this bread bro I’m tryna do that
@@Emb_Sys Allahum Barek! Alhumdallah. May Allah make it easy for you and bless both of you inshallah :")
I'm Morrocan too, congrats brother happy for you ✨
In sha Allah
Allah be with and make it easy for you.
Yes, it is right that it is hard to find a good person that fits with you,
But Islam gives a lot of trials to meet and know a lot of girls, & if it doesn't work no problem, you end everything, and no harm is done not to the girl ,not the boy
I am 22 and just got done with my bachelors in Computer Science and Engineering .I have never dated as I fear Allah.On my return from college I tried to convey to my mum(single parent) that she should find me a guy but everyone at my family started making fun of this.They told me it is very hard to find a good guy and the only way to do that is either to find yourself or get a good job.Honestly it is not easy to get married especially in this time where everyone expects you to find a guy for yourself.Things become harder when you are on the right path,that is what I have personally experienced so far.
May Allah make it easy for you sister. Ameen
searching alone can have danger of emotions influences mind. maybe check a masjid for few weeks. maybe you can found few diligent men to pray. that a checklist on his religion. after you get few list of it ask the imam to call the men after prayer.
always du'a to ask the best for you
Hello there, i am the same age as you and i also completed college. However, i think that you should just be patient and trust the process that Allah has for you. Sometimes being patient it’s better then just having any person in your life, which will after cause problems and make your life harder. Sending you positive energy 💖!
You are still young sister, trust Allah will bring someone who is good for you, make dua at night, pray at night and ask Allah ... dont go looking for anyone or your mom, but Allah is the one who brings our partners
God bless white country's 🌲 white man 😎🤠💂 beauty 🧑🌾 🙏
I got married at 25 and we were both studying.. We didnt have a place to live and he didnt have a mean to provide we ended up living at his family's house .. and they made us divorce .. I got divorced with a baby and he cheated on me . I was all alone with my baby at home and he was cheating with this woman who was also married . He barely spent on his child... He doesnt call his child who was abondoned as a baby.. I have been a working single mom ever since..Now he is 11 and even now I have to beg my son's dad to call and talk to him or take him to prayer.. Its me who has been taking him to the mosque.. teaching him everything while struggling with cancer...
Yes go for it if you have your family's blessings or if you have the means to provide for your wife! otherwise NO! DONT DO IT!
Your ex had moral issues much more than money issues!
Sister I recomend you to chechk the channel inspiring narratives.
She is q sister who has given many such people hope by telling stories of similar people.
Allah changed the situation of those people. Recite 1000 times everyday laa hawla wala quwata illa billah with the intention that Allah will solve your problem and marry you to a pious husband and your son will have a good life.
Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise
لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ
There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
Here is the dua with the translation:
"إِنَّا لِلّهِ وَإِنَّـا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعونَ، اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا."
Translation: "Indeed, to Allah we belong, and to Him we shall return. O Allah, reward me in my calamity and replace it for me with something better."
Sister chechk out the channel 8nspiring narratives a sister who shares similar stories.
How Allah changed their situation by remebramce
Hawqalah: A Treasure From the Treasures of Paradise
لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِاللّٰهِ
Lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā bi-llāh
There is no power (in averting evil) or strength (in attaining good) except through Allah
You're such a strong woman . I don't know you but I'm so proud of you . May allah bless you immensely, cure your disease , and ease your burdens . Ameen ❤
I met my husband through an online Muslim matrimony service. My father and brother did his background check and spoke to him. I spoke to him but most of it was asking questions to see how compatible we are (he did the same). My questions ranged from financial debt, religion, how important health is to him, children, role of husband and wife etc… romance talk came after we signed the Islamic contract lol (the whole investigation and interrogation took 2mths 😅)
we are now married over a decade and have 4 children. We have had our ups and down but since I knew his values before marriage I also knew what to expect from him during the good and bad times.
Alhamdulillah I am soo grateful for my husband and I hope the younger generations realise that traditional way of marriage is the way to go!
I totally agree so long as you can support your wife and future family. Im a revert and agree with you mashallah
welcome to Islam !!! mashallah
أشهد ان لا إله إلا الله وأشهد ان محمد رسول الله.
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أشهد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له و أشهد أن محمدا عبده ورسوله
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Correction: أشهد and أن have hamzah(ء). May God guide us all. Peace from Malaysia.
@@hibalecheheb4824 Correction: وأشهد not و أشهد. Peace from Malaysia.
Marriage (to the right person) will keep you steadfast in your iman, protect you from doing bad stuff, and make you healthier physically & mentally.
Yeah, being married is always good. But you’ve got to find the right person, and the right person is a rare coin these days.
Seek and you shall find. Abundance
@@graysonbrockkthe queation is which religion she also
You have to have hope, fully believe in Allah. Be optimistic.
@@TrendGame-TG first which religion?
I got married at 22 and had my own house. Growing up Christian i was not allowed to date we called it courting and had to have a chaperone. My late husband didnt ask my dad cause he was not in my life. But he did ask my other family members@@graysonbrockk
Getting married young is always beneficial. Let’s make this trendy ❤️❤️❤️
You are amazing. Bro i am so proud of you. Thank you for embracing, you are special
I was always told that the earlier the better (as a girl) because we mature faster, but need to find a guy who’s financially stable and mentally mature, and therefore have to wait longer.
Been following your journey for a couple months now, keep spreading the truth inshAllah 💕
i was also taught that
Well I was always told that the more older us girls become the less desirable we are
The longer you wait... Remember the clock is ticking. When you become less fertile, the less desirable you are.
Chech the channel inspiring narrative she is a sister who teach dhikr and slawat and hawqala by telling stories from people who got married and got peace by reciting it
@@rojaktar3509 Girl that's horrible for any grown adult to say that to a child eww🤢
You have spiritually and personally grown since you have been researching Islam. MashaAllah... May you be blessed and may Allah grant you a beautiful partner for life...
Focusing about what Grayson is talking about ❎
Being amazed by the beauty of the nature ✅
That was a beautiful sky 😅
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Colombia is a gorgeous country!
Me and my husband get married early 23 years old, he graduated and worked only 2 months then straight to marriage, now we have 3 kids and we still married for 24 years❤
Dont care
@@kakalakiakka4545get a life, you islamophobe clown
allahhuma barik, may allah bless your marriage and kids and grant you ALL janat-al firdaws
ignore the salty clown above me, he’s absolutely fuming that he isn’t married, but inshallah allah guides him or her and grants them a righteous spouse too
@@ibrahim_-_-_ im married btw and showing off is haram
@@kakalakiakka4545Shes not showing off, why u talking like a literal child
Trying to get married today. Lol. This is beautiful topic to touch on
Studying and preparing to go abroad made me being very busy and so can't even think of settling. I am in an instable phase of my life. I feel it is unfair to make someone else suffer because of my situation right now. So that's my reason.
As a woman, I resonate with what you said sooo much but then I seek stability as well I hate living alone, having no one to share my wins and losses with, and living with people who are so far from God it is disgusting sometimes. I just wanna be able to not worry about things that I worry for due to the absence of a male presence in my life.
@@merekhayaalsaysister sometimes a male presence doesn’t provide the security we think they will provide and infact put you in physical and emotional danger, so be cautious - dont let loneliness and helplessness tempt you to marry the wrong person- women generally get the wrong side of the stick when things fail and men can use marriage as a cover to get good wife to support their future while they themselves remain selfish. be vwry careful n be patient n take the time to really know a person’s character through various ways and sources (real true ones- not his friends or family that can give false references) before settling down.
Been dreaming to get married on 22.. Failed. Now 39, and singlee.. and STILL, want a husband! Lol
Prepare yourself to love and be loved, and serve. Visit a country outside of US, he will find you InshaAllah, and court you then marry you ASAP as long as you don’t have sex before marriage and do it Gods way❤
Let me ask you this: How many men proposed to you?
make dua in sujoud for your future husband and you type in dua for marriage in youtube and listen and change your life like you have a righteous husband and Allah doe the rest in sha Allah
what?! how is that even possible?! is your father a pagan?! or did you just reject every proposal you got because you wanted a top 1% man?!
how were you able to control your desires for so long? doesn’t seem possible to me
I'll make dua for you sister❤. Dont lose hope
wholesome ass shit, I just got into a relationship and this is the mindset that i strive to have, I really want mines to work and will strive to be that person. Too many people try to "find the right one" but not enough people try to be the person capable of being in a life long relationship, cutting bad habits, repenting, etc.
I would love to get married. Just waiting for the right person! Hoping you find the girl of your dreams, soon (:
Where are you from?
Just make sure that you are responsible for the lucky lady, its a commitment beyond carnal needs, I wish you the best in finding your (muslim, if you want to remain in faith) wife.
Thank you 🙏🏼
you're not allowed to marry a Muslim woman if you are not a true believer of the Qur'an. Proof? 2:221. And Ramadan mubarak. It's Ramadan now...
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@@TheQuranistit is not Ramadan …
@@esmo4151 yes it is. Search up the video Forgotten Meaning of The Islamic Months by the TH-cam channel Simply Muslim. She does seem to make the misstake that you can follow any lunisolar-calendar like the Chinese calendar and I don't agree with her on that. But besides that, she explains clearly that the first month of Ramadan is the first month of autumn. And now is the first month of autumn. So you're wrong, it is the month of Ramadan. The actual Islamic calendar is a lunisolar-calendar and that is proven by numerous proofs like verse 10:5 of the Qur'an.
We wait so that the couple is ready financially, emotionally and mature enough to build a family
THANK YOU! These people are delulu
It depends from person to person, people in the past matured way quicker than people today due to the hardships of life
Marriage is not just being physically able so have children, it's aslo being mentally ready for the responsability of being in charge of a family.
If you don't' seek knowledge about what you have to do as a husband or as a wife, you marriage gona failed., because it is a project like starting a company with your partner. obviously, love must be here too, but it will cha,ge with time. the love of the begining stops maximum after maybe 3 years or with kids, but you will have something much stronger after that if your relationnship is based on strong fundation.
EXACTLYYYY
WOW!!! SPEAKING THE TRUTH -> STRAIGHT TO THE POINT
Grayson. The reason why many are not married at 16,17 is immaturity of young people.
People are selfish this days. It’s the me culture.
Yep
This is propoganda against families. Stop it
It’s also because they can’t make any proper money at that age too and have a place to live by themselves
@@water4112 maybe you’re right because the society has changed the norms.
When we got married we lived a very humble life what mattered to us was growing together and building our future with the help of Allah.
My husband was clinical office back then, his brothers raised the money to establish our unity.
I barely finished my primary education, because my father pulled me out of school after my 2 half sisters went crazy sneaking out at night with boys.
I worked hard to help my husband become a doctor, specialist in 3 different fields then, came my time to educate myself , night school- university. I cried for days after my graduation and I humbly paid gratitude to my creator.
Our children married at age 22 and 24. We raised to think out of the box and not spend money to throw bashing weddings, instead send their money to orphanages and villages where people needed the food more.
I’m sure the values we instill in our children become the norms. Parents are equally selfish this days their children are a burden to them not a blessing.
The background is wonderful 😮 SubhanaAllah
My sister got married at 15, 16 and 18 years. They had their kids young abd now the kids old enough n she is young enough to relate with them. I got married at 26 and I wish I had gotten married earlier so I could have had more kids. I feel tired to have a 3rd child. I m blessed with two.
The younger the better.
26 is still young what are you on
Wrong
Muhammad got married at 25
Son of Mary lived a life of celibacy until Allah raised him at 33
The great Virgin Mary was celibate for life
Love to see you interest in this field of knowledge. Unfortunately society today can be very distorted.
كانت مجتمعاتنا متماسكه وطبيعيه وسليمه قبل ان تنتشر الافكار والثقافه الغربيه وفرضها علينا .
لا يمكنك أن تفرض شيئا عكس الفطرة البشرية ، ستعود الامور الى مجاريها عاجلا ام آجلا
@@todorokishoto6368 بأذن الله ❤️🩹
Hope you find the one as soon as possible Grayson. Wish you all the best.🎉
Allhamdullilah, I was married at 18 years old. Allhamdullilah, we have been together till now for 12 years. 1 month of introduction. I am so happy. Very right decion of my life. Happiness with my kids, too. Allhamdullilah. Marriage is such a blessing Allhamdullilah
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Intention, roles and responsibilities speaks. People nowadays don't settle down at an early age because they simply want to enjoy life first. They tend to have less to little patience in relationships what more a marriage. Its about how much they really want it. Most don't because of bad experiences too.
I think like you. I believe it's unnatural to delay marriage purposely. For me I am not married because no one proposed. And I didn't meet any one that gave me the desire to propose. But also, I am a women influenced by society and biases saying women don't propose. Thus, it feels like I should only propose if someone feels so special to me which didn't happen yet. At the same time, if a man proposes to me, I can accept the proposal even if he doesn't feel so special to me..
Married at 24. Saw my husband to be once. Then the next time I saw him was 1.5 years later on my wedding day. 9 years later and we are still together with two young children.
Perfect time to get married is when u find the right person, I’m sure all of our excuses would fade away once we find the one, it’s not that complex
And that's how western marriages end up in divorce most of the time in the case it even happens
You're amazing. Love how you speak the truth. So brave
7:17 it’s funny how when lady joined she did favor to Grayson and start speaking, woman are so good at talking and expressing words, they never run out of words 😂😂😂
It’s great. ❤
Why did ur video come through my homepage, is this a destiny 😯
Dude, you’ll have no problem finding a wife!
Khair inshallah
Lol what
And there always possibility of divorce if you get bored with her
@@SR-hu7qrwow😢😮. So that's how you treat us like some kind of play thing
@@SR-hu7qr what do you mean?
Got married at 23 years old. I got married the same way u said. My husband went to my father. In our fifth year in marriage in Shaa Allaah.. with 3 children. We went through a lot during this short years but every challenge grew us closer.
Ahh you touched the old wound in my bottom of my heart by this video 💔💔
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Just say ربي إني لما أنزلت إلي من خير فقير
Bro is literally speaking my mind he is absolutely righttt. I get sameeeeeee questions in my mind
I got married two years ago, when I was 21 and my husbands 22. We have a daughter now and are happy alhamdulillah!
Alhamdulilah
But getting married at 25 is the sunnah
Who told you bring up evidence?? Never heard of this@Manciteh999-n6i
Bro just stop and see the view behind you, it's absolutely awesome!
That’s the price we pay for individual pursuit of happiness and private hoarding of property rights. For you to marry young the responsibility of bringing up a child should be with extended family including grandparents and aunts and uncles and that’s not possible in a individualistic system
One of the golden rules building a healthy family. Totally agreed. The benefits outweigh the disadvantages.
Facts. I went home and I kid you not everyone was looking after each other.
Lots of Dua brother, may you be rewarded with a spouse and children who become the coolness of your eyes .
Marriage is better than dating 💯
As a muslim from birth, I believe thet dating is not the clue for a happy marriage or for avoiding divorce. Even if I was a christian or an atheist or anything else, having a man coming diretly to my father asking for a life-long relationship with me is the most romantic thing I'd experience, because it shows that he chose me directly over dating me for years and postponing the marriage because ''he's not ready yet''.
There is a Hadith of prophet Mohammed peace be upon him: ‘’0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire.’’
its such a relief to hear you talk out loud about these topics because these were my exact thought trains in my teens lol
Inshallah may it be easy for you all. Glad something that was said in the past finally stuck lol
Yesssuhhh!!!
I am 40 and single. Had an opportunity to get married around 25 but I wasted it...I guess I didn't want to take the responsibility and thought I am not ready yet. I wish I had took that leap back then. Fell into the trap of and this society where marriage isn't a value anymore.Modern European, Christian.... I want to get married though...
I’m a 30 year old woman. I’ve essentially all but given up. If it’s written for me, it will happen.
ان شاءاللہ
May Allah grant you a pious spouse, ameen.
InshAllah
You will be raised with Virgin Mary in paradise
Let's be honest, for sure you refused many average normal guys back then and your standards are too high.
Such a cutie you are! Loved your attempts at speaking Spanish. You did well, hermanito! :)
Easy answer, the mental maturity that is required for a marriage is nowadays lacking in most 1st world country 17 year olds. Yes sure they are physically able to maintain sexual relationships but a lot are children mentally and that goes for some 25+ year olds as well.
True!
The view was beautiful, as was the topic of discussion :)
The best marriage is the simplest marriage, dr zakir Naik said, he only had dried dates with water on his nikah. That is all u need. Go for it. Don't waste time
keep the good work
learning is powerful 🤲🏼
Im 31 and still single , the probleme maybe WE have high expectations
I think getting married after high school is a good idea if the families are involved in the matching process because a successful long term marriage requires more than a commitment made by teenage hormones. A successful marriage strengthens society by joining 2 families.
Christianity is totally firm, society's deviance from righteousness is the problem.we each have our moral Agency: Choice & Accountability 🌵
marriage is a responsibility, that age suggestion is to make sure you're mature enough and financially capable, will you be able to provide for her? can you even fully provide for yourself? there's no shame in answering either of those questions with no. just be patient the journey is different for everbody, but as soon as you ARE ready then go ahead and don't waste time.
That couple was such a breath of fresh air Mashaa'Allah. There's always a stigma it seems, when the woman is older than the man which is senseless in my opinion for a series of reasons. This is a great topic...I think everyone's reasoning for not marrying sooner may vary, but in the west it has a lot to do with a lack of self awareness, stability, and guidance. Many are missing direction and wouldn't be able to maintain a successful kinship let alone marriage. I'm totally open to marriage, but I think taking note of what the woman said ie learning your person is crucial. Many come with their representatives and not who they truly are, which makes the process so tedious, haha. As for our elders marrying early, it was a different time then I think. Most peoples moral codes were in alignment and belief systems. A beautiful concept I think should be implemented so we there aren't as many illegitimate births, relations etc.
Keep safe and enjoy your travels Inshaa'Allah 🥳💯👏🏽
Yes try sir ages was a big gap and they did so good together.
@@graysonbrockk khadija, the prophet muhammad's (pbuh) first wife, was about 40 years old when he was 25. she was also a widow.
@graysonbrockk @graysonbrockk Absolutely, I think it's all about mindset and compatibility on top of having a certain level of maturity for sure! I'd agree, for them to have carried as long, I wouldn't be surprised if cultural nuances wasn't a contributing factor as well. All beautiful Mashaa'Allah.
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) was 25 when he married his first wife Khadija (May Allah SWT be pleased with her) when she was 40. She (May Allah SWT be pleased with her) was his wealthy employer and sent out a proposal to marry him (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) and they had 6 children together SubhanAllah. All the Will of Allah SWT. Thanks for sharing!
@@Random-zy5jv Absolutely indeed, alhamdullilah.
Love this video and love how he mentioned Islam ❤. May Allah bless him with an amazing wife soon!
Back then as soon as you hit puberty, as soon as you're physically capable, you're an adult because they had to be. Now the very same age group are seen as children, sheltered, we've essentially been dumbed down as a society, maturity ripped out of the youth. In todays world most ppl start experiencing adult life around 23 upwards.
That's because we actually live longer now
“Whoever marries has completed half of his faith; let him fear Allah regarding the other half!” (Hadith: Heysemi, IV, 252)
There are so many factors why people take so long, don’t know where to start.
1. Less youth in general, the pool of quality candidates is quite small. Compared the times of our grandparents where families had 5-9 children.
2. Materialism
3. Romanticising of love and the feeling it brings i.e gotta feel the butterflies every time that person walks into the room… like forever
4. Lack of morals and norms throughout the world community
5. High expectations on both ends in various fields.
6. People not marrying for Allah sake anymore but for personal gains, satisfaction and desires.
7. Etc etc
Thus being said, I am blessed with a wonderful husband elhamdullilah, we had our ups and downs. You have to have a lot of patience and understanding in a marriage otherwise it can be shaken. He has great Islamic and general knowledge and our kids can actually turn to him with questions about the religion and the world. He goes into great detail with explaining things to them.
You need to find someone who will keep you on the right path and share the love towards God with you.
My daughter is 19 and wants to get married but she just doesn’t know anyone who fits her criteria. It is actually kinda hard to find the right person in these days.
I was married to the wrong person, so I got divorced 10 years ago, since then, I have been on the look for the right person, and I can't find it.
Preach brother, I am so happy I'm having a kid in April. you'll be a great uncle Grayson
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In sha Allah
People should finish their study first. before you want to get married, make sure you are prepared mentally to provide your future wife. gives shelter etc. nowadays if you want to work, you need diploma degree etc. so thats why..
I’m ready to get married now.
Where are you?
Like that you always say dont be fat in all your videos , really agree with that
I’m not married yet cuz society made marriage so scary and literally like a prison (esp for women) filled with only responsibilities and duties 😢
Where are u from?
Bro u r in right path ... keep going 😊
Hello Grayson! I´m your age, also born in 2002. I´m far from marriage. Although I grew up a muslim I cannot seem to get married at this age. Since I live in the west, even muslim women here wants me to have a degree. I won´t have my masters degree before 2027 and I´m struggling with all kinds of fitnah. It is tough. I´d really love a wife or at least get to know someone for marriage. It´s brutal that some cultures within muslim countries values education over traditional Islamic principles. May Allah help you get married, pray for me too.
@@youtuber9409 Marriage is a Sunnah Half of your Deen .Yes.Resonsible matured .Islamically intellectually sound Good family values .InshAllah
@@FariedaLukie I agree Marriage is a sunnah. But how do I get married? Literally no woman is interested in marriage around where I live. They are looking for men around 28-30 years of age because they’re mature and have more money. I can’t wait for that long. Many of these «muslims» have had girlfriends in the past and «coped» with their urges. I haven’t even touched a woman. I’m still waiting for halal, but it’s hard to wait until 28
@@youtuber9409 keep your relationship with Allah very firm wake up for tahajud keep begging Allah to grant you a righteous and pious spouse and also Allah should make you a righteous husband who will take care of your spouse with Taqwa of Allah
@@youtuber9409so u wanna get married for urges brother- thats the problem, what happens when the u get a wife n months later urges get satisfied regularly n u no longer love the woman or feel a sense of responsibility. ppl are asking for education because that shows u r disciplined and committed to a long term goal just like marriage is a longggg project. i guess you gotta increase in patience and discioljne and marry when u have the means of emotional and financial responsibility. if u are not earning how will you provide for your wife ans kids
@@hashh2019 I’m not marrying only for urges. I struggle with loneliness and I’ve been doing that for a very long time. I’m pretty sure I’m more disciplined than most people - not to be cocky. I workout 5x a week, I work partly besides my studies. The thing is that my study is long because I’m studying something good Alhamdullilah. I earn enough to provide in the beginning but I also just want to get to know a girl for marriage. I have never talked to a woman before.
Getting married and finding my wife was the best decision I have ever made in my life
I wish I had met her sooner in my life
How did you find her and any tips?
Once, a non-Muslim woman asked me, "You're not even free to date?" because I told her I had never dated since it's haram. As a Muslim woman, I believe that Islam doesn't restrict my freedom by forbidding dating; instead, it frees us from the downsides of dating. Anyone can see how dating affects both men and women.
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Mohammad was pedophiles rapist perverted he raped nine years old child aisha
Although I agree with you about early marriage, nowadays, it is harder for both partners to be financially independent. That's why we in the Middle Eastern region, although we prefer to marry early, are finding it hard to become financially independent
My grandparents were born at the turn of the 20th century and they got married at 13 and 16
nothing better for a man than a pious muslim wife❤ alhamdulilah
No
Having a connection with Allah and
Following the ways of Muhammad and the prophets
@@Manciteh999-n6i of course and a pious woman will help keep you reminded of Allah
Hope you find the right person.
Big responsibility for husband and wife in Quran.
Prophet Muhammad pbuh married at 25.
I Agree Grayson. - it’s good to get married when you’re young. I hope you find a nice young Muslim woman who will help you complete your religion.
Cuz basically I'm a girl (who doesn’t talk to boys) and I need a man to talk to my father so I can get married 😂🇸🇦
Masha Allah , that's a W and May Allah Give you a righteous husband and also Pray for me so that I get a Good righteous wife .
Emotional maturity in marriage is way more important than physical
The trick is to find a person compatible with you. No such thing as soul mate, just someone you are happy with and is happy with you. Make tahajood and ask Allah to make the process easy for you and gift you with someone who will be like a garment to you.
Do all your due diligence and give it 100%. Do not be afraid of failure, that is Shaytaan. This is duniya, there is always a chance things won't work out because nothing in this life is perfect. However, most of of this life is more than good enough 😊.
Insh Allah you will find someone who will bring you ease, faith, and the tranquility of committed love.
When is that shahada coming 😅?
Married and content for 14 years.
How can a woman find someone good in deen and akhlaq?
@@theBakinNoobby making dua
@@onypiktruly said
@@theBakinNoob as far as deen goes, go to the mosque at fajr time, its mostly going to be filled with uncles as they are the most on the deen, but sometimes there's younger brothers there and if they're there, trust me they're not there to play around, they are most likely on the deen. as far as akhlaq goes, you will have to ask your wali, or male siblings, or ask your wali to observe the akhlaq of the brothers that look your age
@@TS-uy2yx this is a good idea 👍👍
Very important topic brother Grayson. I wished I married much much earlier.
Marry is about mercy not about love. If you have mercy towards each other , the marriage will endure even after love fades away. Mercy is about believing from the heart but love is about feeling due to hormonal influence from the brain. Mercy last but love dies away.
I think you are confusing lust with love. Lust fades yes, but love can be nurtured and grown. Love includes many things, one of them being mercy. Unfortunately in the contemporary age and especially the western world, love is sold in a lustrous and immoral package. That's not real love.
@@skybright275 Lust is the tool, it should be gouvern by moral values. It is alright to lust carnal for a marriage couple, but not right for unmarried. It is alright to lust for money if the way to get it is halal. There are many ways lust is applied in life, without it people are just malfunctioning.
Get to know the person that you are considering marrying. Make sure they have the same moral standards and are able to make a commitment. Take care that you are not unequally yoked.
You too Wise for your age
He sure is
Can I just say you looking majestic lately. I think it’s because of your strong belief in Allah SWT
The background where you are is beautiful. And the content of your video is very interesting 🙏🏼👆🏼🤔