Some people might be thinking “you’re telling your kids about how to drink safely? They shouldn’t be at all!” It’s that approach that leads to binge drinking death and accidents, which are incredibly high in America where parents have that abstinence attitude while it’s incredibly rare in most European countries. It’s also why American kids starting college have crazy high rates of dangerous drinking.
@@oledshwfgk3068 'dangerous drinking' doesn't seem to be a scientific term. More like a morality police term. Also there's a world of difference between thir-teen and nine-teen. In fact by 18 you are legally adult in Denmark and your parents can't forbid you to do anything. Would be nice if you had learned to drink responsibly, what to avoid and so on before then
@@andersaskjrgensen5468 Binge drinking can definitely be dangerous and it should be discussed, that drinking alcohol also requires responsibility regarding how much you drink. Even if friends drink a lot, learn how to stop, the importance of having enough control over yourself and the situation you are in, drink responsibly, don't drown your sorrow with alcohol. I don't think relying on your 18 birthday as a point, where parents can't forbid you anything, is a healthy approach. You also need to be mature enough.
@@elale8016 We might largely agree. But again: legally speaking, you're an adult at 18 in Denmark, and you can buy and consume anything an adult can buy and consume. Personally I think the American approach crazy and insulting, really, that you can drive, fight and die in the army, live by your self, vote - but not buy alcohol
This is a complete distorted view of what is going on in Denmark. Teenagers in Denmark are having serious problems. Its so serious that it was one of main problems discussed in the recent election. Sadly its so complex that the simplistic views of this psychotherapist is not going to be any help.
Probably, most 10 min interviews are going to provide shallow, useless info. Danish kids may be struggling compared to what is normal for Denmark, but in places like the US and UK it’s much worse. Denmark would probably declare a state of emergency if they those teens. So, while you need to get back to where you were, getting to where you are now would be a luxury for us.
Show trust in your child, Talk to them regularly and about anything to foster a functioning relationship. Seems a pretty good basis to have and live by.
I Danish, I see no serious problem at all. In my experience teens today drink less than what we did at their age. There's also a world of difference between thir-teen and nine-teen. By 18 your parents can't forbid you to do anything. Would be nice if you had learned to drink responsibly, what to avoid and so on before then
2:40 she talks about trust. Do you know how hard it is to offend Scandinavian people? In the name of open mindedness they accept everything. Almost no behavior is unacceptable behavior. The way their teenagers talk to their parents is just horrendous yet the parents just act like nothing is happening. You trust that your kid will respect your boundaries as parent. But what boundaries? You are not religious, you don't have family values (Scandinavian individualism) then what are you trusting exactly?
Perhaps they set and communicate boundaries based on reality vs the supernatural. American parenting seems less effective, where school violence is now normal, despite metal detectors and school police officers.
Not true at all. I'm Danish. Children here don't talk trash to their parents. They don't address them with 'sir' or 'ma'am' either. Both attitudes are healthy IMO
Trust and respect. I've always treated my children with respect and have, in turn, received that respect back from my children.
Confident and empowered teens grow into confident and empowered adults. ~ X
Some people might be thinking “you’re telling your kids about how to drink safely? They shouldn’t be at all!” It’s that approach that leads to binge drinking death and accidents, which are incredibly high in America where parents have that abstinence attitude while it’s incredibly rare in most European countries. It’s also why American kids starting college have crazy high rates of dangerous drinking.
Danish teens also have high rates of dangerous drinking
@@oledshwfgk3068 'dangerous drinking' doesn't seem to be a scientific term. More like a morality police term. Also there's a world of difference between thir-teen and nine-teen. In fact by 18 you are legally adult in Denmark and your parents can't forbid you to do anything. Would be nice if you had learned to drink responsibly, what to avoid and so on before then
@@andersaskjrgensen5468 Binge drinking can definitely be dangerous and it should be discussed, that drinking alcohol also requires responsibility regarding how much you drink. Even if friends drink a lot, learn how to stop, the importance of having enough control over yourself and the situation you are in, drink responsibly, don't drown your sorrow with alcohol. I don't think relying on your 18 birthday as a point, where parents can't forbid you anything, is a healthy approach. You also need to be mature enough.
@@elale8016 We might largely agree. But again: legally speaking, you're an adult at 18 in Denmark, and you can buy and consume anything an adult can buy and consume. Personally I think the American approach crazy and insulting, really, that you can drive, fight and die in the army, live by your self, vote - but not buy alcohol
Is there a book?
This is a complete distorted view of what is going on in Denmark. Teenagers in Denmark are having serious problems. Its so serious that it was one of main problems discussed in the recent election. Sadly its so complex that the simplistic views of this psychotherapist is not going to be any help.
Probably, most 10 min interviews are going to provide shallow, useless info. Danish kids may be struggling compared to what is normal for Denmark, but in places like the US and UK it’s much worse. Denmark would probably declare a state of emergency if they those teens. So, while you need to get back to where you were, getting to where you are now would be a luxury for us.
Show trust in your child, Talk to them regularly and about anything to foster a functioning relationship. Seems a pretty good basis to have and live by.
I Danish, I see no serious problem at all. In my experience teens today drink less than what we did at their age. There's also a world of difference between thir-teen and nine-teen. By 18 your parents can't forbid you to do anything. Would be nice if you had learned to drink responsibly, what to avoid and so on before then
2:40 she talks about trust. Do you know how hard it is to offend Scandinavian people? In the name of open mindedness they accept everything. Almost no behavior is unacceptable behavior. The way their teenagers talk to their parents is just horrendous yet the parents just act like nothing is happening. You trust that your kid will respect your boundaries as parent. But what boundaries? You are not religious, you don't have family values (Scandinavian individualism) then what are you trusting exactly?
Perhaps they set and communicate boundaries based on reality vs the supernatural. American parenting seems less effective, where school violence is now normal, despite metal detectors and school police officers.
Not true at all. I'm Danish. Children here don't talk trash to their parents. They don't address them with 'sir' or 'ma'am' either. Both attitudes are healthy IMO
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It didn’t help when American schools banned the Bible.
@@rongablue Not the case. Both Utah and Florida reversed the decision to ban school bibles.
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