@@biker3762 -There are so many of us who really believe that we want to be,and could be, good husbands and fathers, but the game to play is very difficult as Mr. Osman says it is.
@@enniswhalen2428 Well you need to leave society's choices away from yours cause if you will marry a random girl who just wants yo for your money or to use you will never gain true happiness and I believe that is the purpose of marrying someone else and forming a family with them how could you with a goldigger or a waste of space girl?
I’m regularly told I’m a good looking guy... but, I can’t approach women in bars. I’m 45 in the best physical shape of my life and I’ve never approached a woman in a bar situation. I only meet women through online dating and when I get a date I’m not nervous at all... it’s the cold approach that I can’t do.
@@Christianpreaching you definitely have not been paying attention to Brian Begin have you? Think your also too traditionalized in some areas and to little in others. Manliness like what Brian is speaking about is not sin or wrong. I went to seminary and you know what I found, nothing saying we could not woo the ladies. You other Christians have way to much none thinking in your heads or over stepping the Bible laws, rules, and mentalities in your minds that needs to be rooted out. Sorry but we are at a large disagreement here.
@@outperformancelife3145 the post I was replying to has apparently been deleted. The accusations that you are applying to me exist only in your mind and can not be backed up with any evidence from my writings.
That sounds like just a bit of practise would fix in that case. Getting used to the higher pressure scenario. Have a few fun topics to talk about. I recommend it, it'll help your overall confidence with women, even if it's already high
This video has given me the answer Ive been looking for for 30 years. I have experienced it, just never been able to put it into words that give it a complete and practical structre. This, is an old video, but thank you for leaving it up for new viewers to find and benefit from. I am the attractive nice guy archetype. For all the reason described, I literally contemplated killing myself back in the day because of my fear of approaching women, it was on the level of PTSD phobia. I've worked through many of the basic trappings that come with this experience, and my childhood trauma, however the cold approach is the final level i have yet to completely master while sober. I'm 41 and just want to die having mastered this experience considering that it is so damn fundamental to being a man. I could be married, but I can't accept that I still have issues with the cold approach. I know this small nagging speed pump will motivate me to cheat, to get the satisfaction of finally overcoming it. It's not even a bad issues, its just a life long obsession that need to be completed. I know perfectionism isn't healthy, but I just feel like there is nothing perfect about the cold approach. It is supposed to be messy, it is supposed to be 50/50 chance, but what isn't supposed to be is my anxiety in the experience. I am a man goddammit, and I cannot get married with this nagging un achieved challenge.😂 And thank fucking god i found this video, because it just solidified the answer to the problem. Work on calming the impulsivity to control and avoid the emotions by acting, solving, over thinking, talking, or non acting, and just sit in the tension of eye contact with presence! BOOOOM!!! I'm a meditator so i know the power of grounding in presence, and sitting in an emotion. I never actually thought about the cold approach from this perspective. So thanks, this was a game changer for me! 🎖🏆🏅 Just sitting in the tension of the eye contact as my mind panics and calms, to see that all is well, im not a creep, either she is into it or not, and i know i am kind and if she is uncomfortable i can simply leave her with a few kind words, and the world we be right as rain. Your videos have given me clarity that women do want guys to approach them, and I am not a threat to them, even if they might appear nervous at times. Thanks again brother, your videos are changing lives! 🤙🏿
Would you be interested in attending a 5-day embodiment course in Austin, TX? Brian will go deeper than ever before in finding out subconscious programs that are keeping you at below full potential. Scary stuff for most people who are not ready to face their fears. How about you? Let me know if you'd like more details: support@truecourage.io Landon, True Courage
In today's episode Brian explains why confidence and grounding are more important than looks, when it comes to attraction as far as women are concerned. Shout back at us, it always pleases us to read your feedback and opinion, as we see a the Fearless Man community grow around us. Enjoy!
Coming from RSD background (which I still love), and until I found your stuff I couldn't find anything that would be as good as your stuff man! Love it. Mad props.
Presence and, grounded are the most powerful in interaction s. They cause one to be authentic and relatable. Try not to think but focused on the person. This is being real. When there is nothing between two people. Nothing being hidden. No thoughts of what to say or how to act. Really just being yourself. That sounds cliche but it is really the absence of fear, . Try to take your ego out of the equation and watch your connection making increase. When girls say just be normal or act normal that's what they mean. Women are master's at sniffing out fake untrue behavior. When your real, they will be real to.
Keep working on yourself bro, you got this, continue doing what you're doing now, studying those that have confidence with women. "Success leaves clues" as the great Jim Rohn so often said. The greatest version of yourself is only just beginning. Get Zan's free book Alabaster Girl. Cheers.
Thanks for this video. Your channel is the only one I know of that deals with things specifically in my situation. I am very good looking, fit, have a very nice house, good car and job, am a Christian man, yet don't even know any women
Hey man, something about your screen name made me guess you were a Christian man :) If you'd like to talk more about the challenges you are facing and get some feedback and also hear about the coaching we offer, just send me an email at andrews@thefearlessman.com. - Andrew, TFM Staff Big Holiday Sale! www.thefearlessman.com/2020HolidaySale Fearless Experience Intensive - 2021 Schedule www.thefearlessman.com/Experience2021
Read 1) Bible I know some people might not understand. But Jesus never ran from conflict or tension he met all conflict and concurred it. So read the bible and realize how people came to Jesus and brought conflict and he met every one of them stable and calm and with love and peace and strength. 2) "The disease to please " - Harriet B Braiker PHD she says that People pleasing is actually a compulsion and is negative to you and your environment. note this is a heavy deep book and may change your way of looking at being a nice guy. like you will feel like she just opened you up and hits you in your emotions. its like a band aid getting ripped off. 3) "A strenuous life" -Theodor Roosevelt ( This will increase you masculine energy 100%) 4) "Equipment" by Edgar A. Guest ( masculinity) 5) Good Timber - By Douglas Malloch
I'm struggling with this- guys I like but they seem to not take the next step. They look at me everyday at the gym but don't approach me and they are really good looking... It makes me wonder if they have some incapacity approaching a woman since they probably always been the ones hit on...so I'm like here watching this video and learning about what's up with men,...lol
There can be many reasons for this. 1. They are just shy and are afraid of rejection. 2. Many women complain that they come to the gym to work out and are tired of guys "hitting on them". 3. Maybe they think that at a gym full of REALLY buff looking guys, that you have your pick of them and they don't measure up ? I'm probably guilty of all 3 of these. I have to keep from looking at the girls in the gym so they don't think I;m a creep or something. :-(
Sara I think you honestly need to smile at them rather than just look. A lot of us guys get mixed signals but a smile is unmistakable and we feel safer to approach then!
SB - Please tell your "sisters" that approaching women gets to be a very difficult feat these days. I know a LOT of single guys who just wait for women to approach THEM, just so they can know that the woman is actually interested and not playing a game.
Maybe their taken or busy with their lives and being focused on themselves or maybe they just dont have the time for that...like looks arent everything. He could be attractive and shy or just focused on gym. Ik when im going to the gym ill try to not look at any women cuz women hate that but i aint tripping cuz im going to the gym NOT for women lol.
@@J2day2 nevermind the smile because I've seen even that misused where some girls use the smile as BAIT for validation once the guy approached she couldn't wait to blow him off heres my advice SAY HELLO seem FRIENDLY be open to conversation don't only LOOK like your available to engage but demonstrate it by actually making it clear that your not just there to work out but are willing to be social ..the world has an overload of women who still operate under old school methods that worked in the 50s modern day with all the metoo movement bullshit MEN ARe apprehensive in approaching women because of feminism and being labeled a creep just because he spoke to a woman he didn't know previously as time changes the game is changing women faught for equality and now have to deal with the ramifications of all that which includes men now expect women to do the approaching and rightfully so now that a shift change has taken place and the roles are being reversed pretty soon ladies the feminist men who support you and give you your way will be looking to YOU for protection from bad people it's already in motion !
Hey I'm a guy and have a question I'd like to get your opinion on. Basically, a girl and I hooked up on the first date. She wanted to hang out the next night but I declined because I already had plans. Now, I've been wanting to hang out again but she keeps blowing me off (something comes up, etc), even though she claims she still wants to see me... I think she may have been insulted when I couldn't hang out the second night, and she was joking around saying that I had another date that night (why I couldn't hang out), etc... Obviously, I made a big mistake, something I normally wouldn't do, but what should I do now? Wait for her to make the next move? I've been coming on strong with the interest ever since I didn't see her on the second night and it doesn't seem to be working lol. Starting to think she's talking to someone else now (maybe an ex)... Lemme know what you think it would be much appreciated!
I like how every straight men says "that guy is good looking! I'm not gay!" AHAH I mean I speak from experience, cause I'm not gay (do you see my point?) xD
That’s for sure.. As a heterosexual white male living in California it’s torture.. Men need the whole package to pull woman and woman just need to look pretty.. it’s unfair how much weight a male needs to pull compared to a female. I’m good looking but looks don’t mean shit for guys.. you need the personality and the money to go along with it.. and you have to be emotionally attractive. Wish I was gay sometimes..
You really only need the emotionally attractive part. Many of our clients are evidence of that. And do you think the emotionally UNattractive women really tend to have fulfilling relationships? Doubtful
The Fearless Man True, a couple years ago I was pulling woman left and right.. I feel like when I’m working on who I am is when I get the most woman. When I’m not thinking about pulling woman is when I get the woman; it’s crazy.
I call bullshit on this. I’ve seen more good looking guys get more attention from all different types of girls. It’s a rarity when you see an attractive woman with an ugly guy or average looking guy.
This makes no sense guys wheather they are nice, semi nice or bad can still have separation, divorce etc. Not to mention as a believer in Jesus he said not a one is good except god
Someone who admits their insecurities and want to become the best version of themselves are a much bigger man than those who don't even try.
try to seek female validation ? no thanks that leads to disasters.
@@medicann_coping fuck girls if they dont like you for who u are why try impress them they jus another human being they aint above you or any1
@@biker3762 -There are so many of us who really believe that we want to be,and could be, good husbands and fathers, but the game to play is very difficult as Mr. Osman says it is.
@@enniswhalen2428 Well you need to leave society's choices away from yours cause if you will marry a random girl who just wants yo for your money or to use you will never gain true happiness and I believe that is the purpose of marrying someone else and forming a family with them how could you with a goldigger or a waste of space girl?
I’m regularly told I’m a good looking guy... but, I can’t approach women in bars. I’m 45 in the best physical shape of my life and I’ve never approached a woman in a bar situation. I only meet women through online dating and when I get a date I’m not nervous at all... it’s the cold approach that I can’t do.
@U are My submissive toy that's not true at all. Women are interested in their phones, not approaching good looking men
@@Christianpreaching you definitely have not been paying attention to Brian Begin have you? Think your also too traditionalized in some areas and to little in others. Manliness like what Brian is speaking about is not sin or wrong. I went to seminary and you know what I found, nothing saying we could not woo the ladies. You other Christians have way to much none thinking in your heads or over stepping the Bible laws, rules, and mentalities in your minds that needs to be rooted out. Sorry but we are at a large disagreement here.
@@outperformancelife3145 the post I was replying to has apparently been deleted. The accusations that you are applying to me exist only in your mind and can not be backed up with any evidence from my writings.
@@Christianpreaching only based on the fact that the postage that was posted is now none existent thats why.
That sounds like just a bit of practise would fix in that case. Getting used to the higher pressure scenario. Have a few fun topics to talk about.
I recommend it, it'll help your overall confidence with women, even if it's already high
This video has given me the answer Ive been looking for for 30 years. I have experienced it, just never been able to put it into words that give it a complete and practical structre. This, is an old video, but thank you for leaving it up for new viewers to find and benefit from. I am the attractive nice guy archetype. For all the reason described, I literally contemplated killing myself back in the day because of my fear of approaching women, it was on the level of PTSD phobia. I've worked through many of the basic trappings that come with this experience, and my childhood trauma, however the cold approach is the final level i have yet to completely master while sober. I'm 41 and just want to die having mastered this experience considering that it is so damn fundamental to being a man. I could be married, but I can't accept that I still have issues with the cold approach. I know this small nagging speed pump will motivate me to cheat, to get the satisfaction of finally overcoming it. It's not even a bad issues, its just a life long obsession that need to be completed. I know perfectionism isn't healthy, but I just feel like there is nothing perfect about the cold approach. It is supposed to be messy, it is supposed to be 50/50 chance, but what isn't supposed to be is my anxiety in the experience. I am a man goddammit, and I cannot get married with this nagging un achieved challenge.😂 And thank fucking god i found this video, because it just solidified the answer to the problem. Work on calming the impulsivity to control and avoid the emotions by acting, solving, over thinking, talking, or non acting, and just sit in the tension of eye contact with presence! BOOOOM!!! I'm a meditator so i know the power of grounding in presence, and sitting in an emotion. I never actually thought about the cold approach from this perspective. So thanks, this was a game changer for me! 🎖🏆🏅 Just sitting in the tension of the eye contact as my mind panics and calms, to see that all is well, im not a creep, either she is into it or not, and i know i am kind and if she is uncomfortable i can simply leave her with a few kind words, and the world we be right as rain. Your videos have given me clarity that women do want guys to approach them, and I am not a threat to them, even if they might appear nervous at times. Thanks again brother, your videos are changing lives! 🤙🏿
Would you be interested in attending a 5-day embodiment course in Austin, TX? Brian will go deeper than ever before in finding out subconscious programs that are keeping you at below full potential. Scary stuff for most people who are not ready to face their fears. How about you? Let me know if you'd like more details: support@truecourage.io
Landon, True Courage
In today's episode Brian explains why confidence and grounding are more important than looks, when it comes to attraction as far as women are concerned. Shout back at us, it always pleases us to read your feedback and opinion, as we see a the Fearless Man community grow around us. Enjoy!
The Fearless Man
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Never heard something more accurate about my situation in my life let alone anyone who knows exactly what men go through !!!! Brilliant !!!!!!!!!
Coming from RSD background (which I still love), and until I found your stuff I couldn't find anything that would be as good as your stuff man! Love it. Mad props.
Thanks! Glad you're finding it valuable
Presence and, grounded are the most powerful in interaction s. They cause one to be authentic and relatable. Try not to think but focused on the person. This is being real. When there is nothing between two people. Nothing being hidden. No thoughts of what to say or how to act. Really just being yourself. That sounds cliche but it is really the absence of fear, . Try to take your ego out of the equation and watch your connection making increase. When girls say just be normal or act normal that's what they mean. Women are master's at sniffing out fake untrue behavior. When your real, they will be real to.
I'm 42 years old and have 0 confidence with women after tons of relationship issues - feeling hopeless
Keep working on yourself bro, you got this, continue doing what you're doing now, studying those that have confidence with women. "Success leaves clues" as the great Jim Rohn so often said. The greatest version of yourself is only just beginning. Get Zan's free book Alabaster Girl. Cheers.
Thanks for this video. Your channel is the only one I know of that deals with things specifically in my situation. I am very good looking, fit, have a very nice house, good car and job, am a Christian man, yet don't even know any women
Hey man, something about your screen name made me guess you were a Christian man :) If you'd like to talk more about the challenges you are facing and get some feedback and also hear about the coaching we offer, just send me an email at andrews@thefearlessman.com. - Andrew, TFM Staff
Big Holiday Sale!
www.thefearlessman.com/2020HolidaySale
Fearless Experience Intensive - 2021 Schedule
www.thefearlessman.com/Experience2021
Looks help very little when it comes to getting laid when you're a guy... 90%confidence
Yeah, right..I’m sure you are not good looking because if you were you’d know that all you have to do is just show up
@@mohammedicheaib1 couldn't be more wrong about that tbh
@@mohammedicheaib1 ... Exactly !!! ...
... Bullshit ...
Try being confident when you’re ugly... looks help with that part my guy
Read
1) Bible I know some people might not understand. But Jesus never ran from conflict or tension he met all conflict and concurred it. So read the bible and realize how people came to Jesus and brought conflict and he met every one of them stable and calm and with love and peace and strength.
2) "The disease to please " - Harriet B Braiker PHD
she says that People pleasing is actually a compulsion and is negative to you and your environment. note this is a heavy deep book and may change your way of looking at being a nice guy. like you will feel like she just opened you up and hits you in your emotions. its like a band aid getting ripped off.
3) "A strenuous life" -Theodor Roosevelt ( This will increase you masculine energy 100%)
4) "Equipment" by Edgar A. Guest
( masculinity)
5) Good Timber - By Douglas Malloch
I'm struggling with this- guys I like but they seem to not take the next step. They look at me everyday at the gym but don't approach me and they are really good looking... It makes me wonder if they have some incapacity approaching a woman since they probably always been the ones hit on...so I'm like here watching this video and learning about what's up with men,...lol
There can be many reasons for this. 1. They are just shy and are afraid of rejection. 2. Many women complain that they come to the gym to work out and are tired of guys "hitting on them". 3. Maybe they think that at a gym full of REALLY buff looking guys, that you have your pick of them and they don't measure up ?
I'm probably guilty of all 3 of these. I have to keep from looking at the girls in the gym so they don't think I;m a creep or something. :-(
Sara I think you honestly need to smile at them rather than just look. A lot of us guys get mixed signals but a smile is unmistakable and we feel safer to approach then!
SB - Please tell your "sisters" that approaching women gets to be a very difficult feat these days. I know a LOT of single guys who just wait for women to approach THEM, just so they can know that the woman is actually interested and not playing a game.
Maybe their taken or busy with their lives and being focused on themselves or maybe they just dont have the time for that...like looks arent everything. He could be attractive and shy or just focused on gym. Ik when im going to the gym ill try to not look at any women cuz women hate that but i aint tripping cuz im going to the gym NOT for women lol.
@@J2day2 nevermind the smile because I've seen even that misused where some girls use the smile as BAIT for validation once the guy approached she couldn't wait to blow him off heres my advice SAY HELLO seem FRIENDLY be open to conversation don't only LOOK like your available to engage but demonstrate it by actually making it clear that your not just there to work out but are willing to be social ..the world has an overload of women who still operate under old school methods that worked in the 50s modern day with all the metoo movement bullshit MEN ARe apprehensive in approaching women because of feminism and being labeled a creep just because he spoke to a woman he didn't know previously as time changes the game is changing women faught for equality and now have to deal with the ramifications of all that which includes men now expect women to do the approaching and rightfully so now that a shift change has taken place and the roles are being reversed pretty soon ladies the feminist men who support you and give you your way will be looking to YOU for protection from bad people it's already in motion !
Hey I'm a guy and have a question I'd like to get your opinion on. Basically, a girl and I hooked up on the first date. She wanted to hang out the next night but I declined because I already had plans. Now, I've been wanting to hang out again but she keeps blowing me off (something comes up, etc), even though she claims she still wants to see me... I think she may have been insulted when I couldn't hang out the second night, and she was joking around saying that I had another date that night (why I couldn't hang out), etc...
Obviously, I made a big mistake, something I normally wouldn't do, but what should I do now? Wait for her to make the next move? I've been coming on strong with the interest ever since I didn't see her on the second night and it doesn't seem to be working lol. Starting to think she's talking to someone else now (maybe an ex)... Lemme know what you think it would be much appreciated!
James you didn't do anything wrong you had plans. If she's that petty forget about her, you deserve better
Either she's just being a little b*tch, she's trying to give out the impression that she a busy girl with a life or she actually has plans.
Back off and let her come back to you.
The bingo theory is maybe a good book to. I have just start reading it. Have you read it Bryan?
I like how every straight men says "that guy is good looking! I'm not gay!" AHAH I mean I speak from experience, cause I'm not gay (do you see my point?) xD
That’s for sure.. As a heterosexual white male living in California it’s torture.. Men need the whole package to pull woman and woman just need to look pretty.. it’s unfair how much weight a male needs to pull compared to a female. I’m good looking but looks don’t mean shit for guys.. you need the personality and the money to go along with it.. and you have to be emotionally attractive. Wish I was gay sometimes..
You really only need the emotionally attractive part. Many of our clients are evidence of that. And do you think the emotionally
UNattractive women really tend to have fulfilling relationships? Doubtful
The Fearless Man True, a couple years ago I was pulling woman left and right.. I feel like when I’m working on who I am is when I get the most woman. When I’m not thinking about pulling woman is when I get the woman; it’s crazy.
Just one of the realities of life bro.
Have you seen the grades of Joonyuh?
Do a video on grounding!
+Scott Paul better late than never, here's a video that goes more in-depth about grounding - th-cam.com/video/XGknc22UKkE/w-d-xo.html
I call bullshit on this. I’ve seen more good looking guys get more attention from all different types of girls. It’s a rarity when you see an attractive woman with an ugly guy or average looking guy.
Kind men are better than nice men.
first?
Beautiful...you win a smack in the nose!
This makes no sense guys wheather they are nice, semi nice or bad can still have separation, divorce etc. Not to mention as a believer in Jesus he said not a one is good except god
Sorry but BS