One of the reasons why I ended it with this guy. Yet we did things like we were in a relationship. Tells me that being in one isn't his priority. When in the beginning he tells me a different thing. Ended it right away. If a guy doesn't make you his priority, move on ladies. Don't even blink to think about it. Run!
velvet123 Yes, if he doesn't make you his priority it's not a good sign. Especially if you met on a dating site, and he specifically stated love and marriage in his profile. Just get out of there!
I too was seeing a guy, said he wanted to get married again if he found the right girl, invited me to have dinner with him and his brother, talked about us being together for his employee Christmas party (4 months away) I'm taking all these cues and as soon as I'm on board he throws me over board with, I'm rushing the relationship, wtf ??? It's called the bait and switch soooooo sick of the head games.
I’m going through this nonsense right now. I’m talking to another guy currently and we are meeting tomorrow and if all goes well I will move on from guy number one b3czuse it seems like he just doesn’t know what he wants. 3 months have now passed and still no progress so guess what ladies I’m movin the fuck on.
I dated a guy for 4 months, he just came out of a 4-year relationship that ended pretty badly (the girl even got engaged in 4 months). I tried to be patient and I knew he was not ready for a relationship, but he started treating me like a girlfriend (3-4 dates a week), hand holding, talking about the future. Then he pulled away out of the sudden, so I let him to have his space and didn't do anything. He came back. Then pulled away again. Then came back. I finally told him this doesn't work for me, he said he was gonna change this... It was amazing for a few weeks, then he acts like he does not want to see me and does not initiate. So I told him that it is time to decide what he wants, he says he doesn't want to lie to me or to mislead me and he just doesn't want anything serious. I said we should end it because we obviously want different things. No matter how much you like a guy, 3-4 months should be enough for him to decide if he wants you. Ready or not, he either wants you in his life and will try to keep you or not, do not settle for less than what you want. Took me a few mistakes to realize this.
I was all that....low drama fun great sex...but felt he was pulling back and unnaturally keeping our lives from blending.. I confronted him of course he was defensive....but I'm so sick of these games...why do guys make things so difficult
Hi qwertyou, I completely understand you i have been in your shoes, i think the smartest thing to do is not sleep with the guy at least too soon or without being in a committed relationship , why he would want a relationship if he its getting the relationships benefits for free ?
Guys make things difficult because they are just trying to keep the sex going but they're not in love and don't want marriage. It's kinda hard to keep the girl happy and keep getting the sex... so some guys future fake and others will distance themselves then hit you up. Either way, they're just using you. Seems only older men actually want a real partner, it's a shame cause older men are no longer attractive physically though. So, the hot young guys get away with treating women this way because they know they can.
Thank you so much. I've been talking to a guy for about 4 months now and it's just not going anywhere. I took my friends advice and (sorry..) asked him if i'm just for sex or more. His answer was so vague that i can't even repeat it. Your video's made me realise that i need to quit this bullshit. And also you are learning me how to do things better with the next guy. So thanx Elliot!
jomar florenzan right! I like having multiple options (not sex partners) so you can also decide if you want to stay. There is power in walking away from bullshit. Women are expected to sacrifice so much for a guy's validation or commitment and stroke his ego and overly cater to 'win him over' without him doing much. I'm.OK with doing all that once he has fallen.
Wow. I watched this video a few days ago and was in denial. Just came across it again by accident, and I've taken what's being said here seriously. The guy I'm "dating" I won't be dating anymore.
awesome advice...many women get caught up thinking about the guy in terms of a label without really just enjoying getting to know him. the relationship is not a label it's the rapport that's experienced in the moment that gives you feelings.
Hey Elliot. Ran across your page today and Im loving it. I've been "seeing" my guy for about 2 years now. Still no commitment. No moving forward. Im in love now, but I have no idea what he wants, why we aren't in a relationship. He says he cares, but his life is all over the place and he's not good at "putting his emotional cards out on the table" whatever that means. I quit talking to him for four months and was trying to forget about him and move on with my life. We started talking again though. He's a little more hands on and expresses himself a little more, but deep down, he's the same. He stands me up, only thinks about sex, barely talks and texts, and only calls when he wants something. I don't know what to do. I really love this guy and want to be with him, but I don't think he wants to be with me. Should I just cut him out of my life? Should I talk to other guys? Will we ever be together?
I did ladies. He got so mad, he blocked me lol. I spent a little time with myself, and realized how idiotic I was being.. It was a bitch move for him to have me "waiting" on him. The more I thought about it, he had made a LOT of bitch moves. And I thought, "Why do you want him"? I was so crazy for that man. He used that to his advantage. I just started to pull away. He tried harder, but I knew he didn't want me. He was just playing with me. He started dating someone else ( no it didn't take him years to figure out she was "the one") and then asked me out. That's that bull.
J OneLife RUN! RUN GIRL! RUN! F these skeezite bum crusties! Not his priority my ass! Tell his ass keep it moving, then. There is nothing wrong with being wrong for each other. We have to STOP giving these ain't ish lil twerps our hearts. They're not going to talk care of it. Men will F you if you let em. I just had a friend try to be with me so he'd have a place to stay. We used to talk, but he didn't want anything serious. All of a sudden, I'm "baby" and he pops up outta nowhere, literally trying to move his things in! I thought he had a fight with his roommate or something, so I let him stay a couple of days last week. He used my body wash up, left my BRAND NEW movies data side down on the table, and almost made me late for work. Then tried to roast me via text when I went off about it. I'm so done with men. He was trying to quit his job so I could take care of him. He just didn't call or go! I was beyond amazed. It was crazy. He told me he loved me, I put him out lol.😂😁😅😅😅
I love your advice, don't bring it up. Lol. Women feel pressure to have conversations to "take charge" and you are soo so so so so so so right Elliot Scott.
Is it a good idea to invite all my current crushes/interests/potentials to one party? I am thinking this should encourage some of them to step up and maybe this would help me choose.
We've been dating for 8 months. I spend days and night at his place. We actually go out on dates. He's never introduced me to to his friends. He said boyfriend/girlfriend titles are for high schoolers. I'm fucked.
I relate to this. No wonder he keeps turning me down to cook on Sunday's when he invites me over to spend the day with his teenagers. This guy is just getting ridiculous. I think he may be in denial and I'm glad I'm pulling back.
another good one...pretty much play a portion of the girlfriend part but without declaring it verbally in an intimidating way...then sooner or later hopefully he will enjoy you being in that role for him that it will become official.
Be careful if the guy is in sales. I dated this one guy (who was a part owner of a jewelry store). Every date he's pushing his jewelry to people around us. I felt like I was the side girl for him to just show up with while he makes his next sale. For some girls, wow, jewelry sales guy. For me, it was terrible. It was always, him attempting to make his next sale at every event he took me too. So after the third date, I decided to say no. I guess I just wasn't feeling it.
Good point but I have a question: instead of creating a" relationship aura", could you pull away for a while? Like for two weeks or so... So you give him space to think about the relationship or at least miss you? Would it be a mistake?
Carolina Cavazza :( i can't say we have the SAME issue, Idk what your scenario is with your dude. I have been kinda on the prowl for this one guy. I eventually told him I was attracted to him and I liked being around him. I basically told him, that I was into him lol without the gushy "I like you, I wanna date...blah blah". We had been talking and hanging out here and there, over a span of two months. The guy didn't exactly give me the response I hoped for. So, I emailed Elliot and asked if I messed up by telling him that! Now, the guy knows I'm interested, and he has the ball in his court, did I kill the attraction by doing that? Well, Elliot basically it was clear that I was into this guy more than he was into me. And when a guy wants you, he'll make It crystal clear by being present and in trying to be in your life! He said he thought the way I pursued this guy was good (bc I didn't hit him up every day. More like every two weeks...and he was always accessible when I reached out. He didn't disappear bc I wasn't acting needy.) he said that me admitting my attraction for him was a good thing, as long as I don't get mushy and start talking about emotions and such. To play it cool. Be cool. He recommended that I continue to do what I'm doing, if I hope to win him over in the LONG run. I step away for a couple weeks at a time.....the more I write, the more silly I feel...lol...i should probably drop this guy from my radar already. Idk. I think in your case, do what feels natural and what feels organic. Make decisions from a calm place that feels comfortable and flowing. If you want to step back for a couple weeks, do it. The guy MIGHT start wondering where you went, it might make him a little nervous that you're not giving him so much attention anymore. Or, he could not even be thinking about it at all. The thing is, we just never know what the other person is thinking or feeling. You just gotta do what makes YOU feel like you tried, and you made the effort. But in a way that you are comfortable with. Definitely talk to other guys and don't hold out for this one. I am positive that the guy I like is talking to other girls. I would be dumb if I didn't go ahead and talk to other guys. If he's not giving me the attention like he's interested...letting weeks go by without contact, I can be sure that I'm FAR down his list of priority, if I'm even ON that list. :(. It sucks a lot. I know that when a guy shows interest in me, I feel in control and I kinda take the dude for granted and I'm dismissive, if I don't like him, or if I'm mildly attracted. Now, it appears I'm on the other end of that scenario.
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I would date other guys as well. If a guy isnt over his ex BTW,but he is interested or attracted to another woman,yes she can be nonchalant. But she still needs to keep her options option. She can walk out unscathed while his wishy washy ways consume him. She has the wisdom and also maintained her dignity.
just wanna say or ask if you can also do the on line dating advice and tips. The age differences...races...nationality and culture and belief that affects the relationship. And what makes the man moved a mountain just to be with you no matter how far you are. Cause i want to marry a man outside my country cause were living in different world. I liked your advice its very natural ☺☺☺
Dear Elliot, Thank you so so much for all your great content. I really appreciate the time you take to give all your awesome advice. Love your videos and how genuine you are. You've already helped me so much. If you can, please, I would love to have any advice for people in a long distance relationship. I kinda feel like a lot of the standard rules don't apply. I just started talking to a guy whom I've never met, and he lives far away but we seem so perfect for each other 😖 Am I being stupid? Should I give it up? And I'm so sorry if you already covered this topic. I'm still catching up on your videos.
So I have a tricky situation related to this: After two months, a guy I was seeing told me outright he wanted a relationship, but not JUST yet. He wanted it "to develop before we gave it a title". Initiated hanging out EVERY time. Texted me EVERY day. Integrated me with his friends. Told me he was so excited about our future together. Then one day the texts stopped. I asked him what happened and he said it wasn't "the right time". Never heard from him again. Total 180. What could have caused this? He gave every sign he wanted a relationship
yahnuh this happend to me recently. The guy actually asked me to be in a relationship with him after meeting his family and friends. After that he started acting diff rent and eventually we stopped talking. I believe that there was another girl that had more of his interest and he just kept me around. Our situation sounds similar. Sounds like he did want a relationship just with someone else. Sorry.
I Date the guy since 3 months. Our Dates always escalate in 12 h things and only Happen about once a week, but he kinda treats me like his gf. But the Last Time i made the mistake to ask him what this is. He did not really answer, but now 1.5 month later - we did not meet in the meanwhile bcs of holidays and still wont meet another month - he texted me, that he is Not sure, but does not really want anything serious at this point. I just answered that i expected that and it's good to Know. Is there still hope, that this is gonna be a relationship some day? What is the right way to act?
if you brought this up a second time with him and he's not committing to only see you get rid of him... he's probably orbiting and looking for better women but just keeping you around until he finds someone better
hi may i ask something!? i know a guy from social media. we meet and have the chemistry and now its almost a month we meet each other after 7 dates. yes we have each other pet name, the thing is im confuse. he make me like his gf, tho he never mention it. but he will ask me not to meet other guy, when we are not officially dating. i do like him so i would listeb to him not meeting other guy but i also text other guy beside him. but sometimes he make me confuse, because he sometimes didnt ask me first if we want to go out. he just waiting for me to ask him out? so what should i do with him??? thanks in advance elliot!
hi i had a question, its about my friend who brought up her problem with me, ahe told me that she met this guy online and the guy frank her that he only wanted a friends with bennifits because he doesn't want a complicated life when he go back to his country fro good...i cannot advise her, ..i told her just only to wait maybe the guy had a bad relationship experience before...
Gee, I just being honest with him and I don’t know why he feels this way. I still love and it has been year and half. I told me that he wanted me later on???
How much should a man see you ? i been seeing this man once a week for a month , he initiates the contact daily , he told me he wants to go slow and see how it goes that he open to relationship. I feel i remind him to want to see each other and when we do we have a great time . My thing is i don’t want to be the one to ask when we going to see each other , it’s like he waits for me .. he admits he thinks of me , and is curious .. so if i don’t see him this week I’m thinking I’ll loose interest . What do i do ??
Our friends in common were not told by him. We kept it secret. HE kept it secret. I found it very painful and thought it was so strange. He barely paid attention to me. Barely texted, called. Too late, I dumped his ass. He is emotionally unavailable and only when I ignore him do I get attention. from him. I had enough.
What If I have kids and told him I want to take it slow... i only see him one-2x a week and I don't want to move in with him yet really..he knows that but he always asks to see me and I haven't brought it up...but I did tell him I wouldn't have anyone arround my kids who's not serious and he still has us over to sleep over even if no sex is involved..I just don't wanna keep going for nothing...but also we always have a good time and get along...you know what eff it haha il book a call :)
I just don't know how long it should take for ME to even Wana bring it up cuz I'm worried if I bring it up..hel say he wants us to be together...maybe he feels like I'm not ready..id say ys if he asked me but I'm OK at the moment if he dosnt
what should we say specifically to him when we do bring it up? I normally do like this: "hey XXX, i really enjoyed spending time with you in the last couple of month and you are such an incredible guy. Gee i still remember the first time we watch a movie together the guy next to us farted XXX(make an inside joke here to ease the mood). well, all the fun time we had, I appreciate them and I would really like to have more with you but only exclusively (winky face)." Any advice for me? love ur video E!!! BIG FAN!
Elliot, you look good in v-neck. I believe this advise doesn't meant for all of the ladies. What about the ladies in that doesnt want a relationship or committing to a guy but attracted to him?
What if both lovers are not sure what we want. We worked together for 2 years but didn't start dating until a year after I transferred to another job. Well it's been off and on due to political issues posted on Facebook... Lol. Currently, I'm going through alot with losing that job and having to work long hours to survive. However, we have been enjoying our interracial relationship with interesting conversations/debates, hanging out and great SEX😊. The only problem for me is he wants sex all the time and that confuses me because he also tells me he is dating and asks why do we have to put a label on it after I told him I wasn't that kind of girl to sleep around w/o knowing where it was going. Well he continues to text, call and invite me places but doesn't want to "put a label on it" so to speak??? I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship either but just feel some kind of way about an open sex & non-committed relationship....Please Advise 😒
The guy in "hanging out" with ( his words but considers it no different from actual "dating")is waiting for God to strick him with lightning it seems. Every description he has given of his perfect woman is me but his not seeing it. I'm finding it hard at times to just shut up and hold tight.
Kelli Kakes would you rather waste 6-12 months of your life with a guy...to then find out he just wanted you as a FWB. NOPE! Figure it out early so you don't waste time or get your heart broken later.
whitelily3177 in 6 to 12 months you should know if that's what he wants. I think 2 months is too soon bc you can still rush and he can leave you or be playing you.
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One of the reasons why I ended it with this guy. Yet we did things like we were in a relationship. Tells me that being in one isn't his priority. When in the beginning he tells me a different thing. Ended it right away. If a guy doesn't make you his priority, move on ladies. Don't even blink to think about it. Run!
I can so relate to this ^
velvet123 Yes, if he doesn't make you his priority it's not a good sign. Especially if you met on a dating site, and he specifically stated love and marriage in his profile. Just get out of there!
Sea Fern Very true 👍. Also something that I learned don't put your eggs in one basket. Date multiple guys as well.
I too was seeing a guy, said he wanted to get married again if he found the right girl, invited me to have dinner with him and his brother, talked about us being together for his employee Christmas party (4 months away) I'm taking all these cues and as soon as I'm on board he throws me over board with, I'm rushing the relationship, wtf ??? It's called the bait and switch soooooo sick of the head games.
I’m going through this nonsense right now. I’m talking to another guy currently and we are meeting tomorrow and if all goes well I will move on from guy number one b3czuse it seems like he just doesn’t know what he wants. 3 months have now passed and still no progress so guess what ladies I’m movin the fuck on.
I dated a guy for 4 months, he just came out of a 4-year relationship that ended pretty badly (the girl even got engaged in 4 months). I tried to be patient and I knew he was not ready for a relationship, but he started treating me like a girlfriend (3-4 dates a week), hand holding, talking about the future. Then he pulled away out of the sudden, so I let him to have his space and didn't do anything. He came back. Then pulled away again. Then came back. I finally told him this doesn't work for me, he said he was gonna change this... It was amazing for a few weeks, then he acts like he does not want to see me and does not initiate. So I told him that it is time to decide what he wants, he says he doesn't want to lie to me or to mislead me and he just doesn't want anything serious. I said we should end it because we obviously want different things. No matter how much you like a guy, 3-4 months should be enough for him to decide if he wants you. Ready or not, he either wants you in his life and will try to keep you or not, do not settle for less than what you want. Took me a few mistakes to realize this.
can we make friends? im a girl and i just break up. i need some advice :(
Kremito91
You're strong. Bravo🌼
I hate when they say the bullshit of “I don’t wanna mislead you” after MONTHS of misleading you and being dishonest
He can push for the sex but I can't push for the relationship ? NO DEAL!
Damn right👌👌👌👌
Agreed
Right. Men kinda (definitely) suck.
I was all that....low drama fun great sex...but felt he was pulling back and unnaturally keeping our lives from blending.. I confronted him of course he was defensive....but I'm so sick of these games...why do guys make things so difficult
Hi qwertyou, I completely understand you i have been in your shoes, i think the smartest thing to do is not sleep with the guy at least too soon or without being in a committed relationship , why he would want a relationship if he its getting the relationships benefits for free ?
Guys make things difficult because they are just trying to keep the sex going but they're not in love and don't want marriage. It's kinda hard to keep the girl happy and keep getting the sex... so some guys future fake and others will distance themselves then hit you up. Either way, they're just using you. Seems only older men actually want a real partner, it's a shame cause older men are no longer attractive physically though. So, the hot young guys get away with treating women this way because they know they can.
Thank you so much. I've been talking to a guy for about 4 months now and it's just not going anywhere. I took my friends advice and (sorry..) asked him if i'm just for sex or more. His answer was so vague that i can't even repeat it. Your video's made me realise that i need to quit this bullshit. And also you are learning me how to do things better with the next guy. So thanx Elliot!
Linda Slinger. Im in the same boat 4 months in and he havent moved nowhere
As long as he doesn't pressure me for sex. I won't pressure him for a relationship . Give me what I want ot leave.
OMG. So that means that i just hang out in there , walking in eggs shells wondering what he really wants? That is not fair !!!!!
jomar florenzan right! I like having multiple options (not sex partners) so you can also decide if you want to stay. There is power in walking away from bullshit. Women are expected to sacrifice so much for a guy's validation or commitment and stroke his ego and overly cater to 'win him over' without him doing much. I'm.OK with doing all that once he has fallen.
Dump him. This is baloney.
Wow. I watched this video a few days ago and was in denial. Just came across it again by accident, and I've taken what's being said here seriously. The guy I'm "dating" I won't be dating anymore.
awesome advice...many women get caught up thinking about the guy in terms of a label without really just enjoying getting to know him. the relationship is not a label it's the rapport that's experienced in the moment that gives you feelings.
Hey Elliot. Ran across your page today and Im loving it. I've been "seeing" my guy for about 2 years now. Still no commitment. No moving forward. Im in love now, but I have no idea what he wants, why we aren't in a relationship. He says he cares, but his life is all over the place and he's not good at "putting his emotional cards out on the table" whatever that means. I quit talking to him for four months and was trying to forget about him and move on with my life. We started talking again though. He's a little more hands on and expresses himself a little more, but deep down, he's the same. He stands me up, only thinks about sex, barely talks and texts, and only calls when he wants something. I don't know what to do. I really love this guy and want to be with him, but I don't think he wants to be with me. Should I just cut him out of my life? Should I talk to other guys? Will we ever be together?
cut him off. Sadly there's no changing for him. He's coming back because he's an orbiter and wants to know he still has you wrapped around his finger
Shera Berry I'm in the exact situation
I did ladies. He got so mad, he blocked me lol. I spent a little time with myself, and realized how idiotic I was being.. It was a bitch move for him to have me "waiting" on him. The more I thought about it, he had made a LOT of bitch moves. And I thought, "Why do you want him"? I was so crazy for that man. He used that to his advantage. I just started to pull away. He tried harder, but I knew he didn't want me. He was just playing with me. He started dating someone else ( no it didn't take him years to figure out she was "the one") and then asked me out.
That's that bull.
ChelseaLaine11 Drop his ass girl. You deserve better.
J OneLife RUN! RUN GIRL! RUN! F these skeezite bum crusties! Not his priority my ass! Tell his ass keep it moving, then. There is nothing wrong with being wrong for each other. We have to STOP giving these ain't ish lil twerps our hearts. They're not going to talk care of it. Men will F you if you let em. I just had a friend try to be with me so he'd have a place to stay. We used to talk, but he didn't want anything serious. All of a sudden, I'm "baby" and he pops up outta nowhere, literally trying to move his things in! I thought he had a fight with his roommate or something, so I let him stay a couple of days last week. He used my body wash up, left my BRAND NEW movies data side down on the table, and almost made me late for work. Then tried to roast me via text when I went off about it. I'm so done with men. He was trying to quit his job so I could take care of him. He just didn't call or go! I was beyond amazed. It was crazy. He told me he loved me, I put him out lol.😂😁😅😅😅
I love your advice, don't bring it up. Lol. Women feel pressure to have conversations to "take charge" and you are soo so so so so so so right Elliot Scott.
Is it a good idea to invite all my current crushes/interests/potentials to one party? I am thinking this should encourage some of them to step up and maybe this would help me choose.
We've been dating for 8 months. I spend days and night at his place. We actually go out on dates. He's never introduced me to to his friends. He said boyfriend/girlfriend titles are for high schoolers. I'm fucked.
what happened now!?
I really liked this video, perfect timing and awesome advice! Thank you 😍
You are sooo consistent with your uploads!! 👌🙈
I don't play no games girl. lol
I relate to this. No wonder he keeps turning me down to cook on Sunday's when he invites me over to spend the day with his teenagers. This guy is just getting ridiculous. I think he may be in denial and I'm glad I'm pulling back.
I love love love you, man! Thank you for not holding back!
too many broken heart when we know someone from online...why.... why...
LOL ABT BLOCKING SOMEONE If THEY 'bring it up!"
another good one...pretty much play a portion of the girlfriend part but without declaring it verbally in an intimidating way...then sooner or later hopefully he will enjoy you being in that role for him that it will become official.
Be careful if the guy is in sales. I dated this one guy (who was a part owner of a jewelry store). Every date he's pushing his jewelry to people around us. I felt like I was the side girl for him to just show up with while he makes his next sale. For some girls, wow, jewelry sales guy. For me, it was terrible. It was always, him attempting to make his next sale at every event he took me too. So after the third date, I decided to say no. I guess I just wasn't feeling it.
Good point but I have a question: instead of creating a" relationship aura", could you pull away for a while? Like for two weeks or so... So you give him space to think about the relationship or at least miss you? Would it be a mistake?
I have the same question. Please answer
Carolina Cavazza :( i can't say we have the SAME issue, Idk what your scenario is with your dude. I have been kinda on the prowl for this one guy. I eventually told him I was attracted to him and I liked being around him. I basically told him, that I was into him lol without the gushy "I like you, I wanna date...blah blah". We had been talking and hanging out here and there, over a span of two months. The guy didn't exactly give me the response I hoped for. So, I emailed Elliot and asked if I messed up by telling him that! Now, the guy knows I'm interested, and he has the ball in his court, did I kill the attraction by doing that? Well, Elliot basically it was clear that I was into this guy more than he was into me. And when a guy wants you, he'll make It crystal clear by being present and in trying to be in your life! He said he thought the way I pursued this guy was good (bc I didn't hit him up every day. More like every two weeks...and he was always accessible when I reached out. He didn't disappear bc I wasn't acting needy.) he said that me admitting my attraction for him was a good thing, as long as I don't get mushy and start talking about emotions and such. To play it cool. Be cool. He recommended that I continue to do what I'm doing, if I hope to win him over in the LONG run. I step away for a couple weeks at a time.....the more I write, the more silly I feel...lol...i should probably drop this guy from my radar already. Idk. I think in your case, do what feels natural and what feels organic. Make decisions from a calm place that feels comfortable and flowing. If you want to step back for a couple weeks, do it. The guy MIGHT start wondering where you went, it might make him a little nervous that you're not giving him so much attention anymore. Or, he could not even be thinking about it at all. The thing is, we just never know what the other person is thinking or feeling. You just gotta do what makes YOU feel like you tried, and you made the effort. But in a way that you are comfortable with. Definitely talk to other guys and don't hold out for this one. I am positive that the guy I like is talking to other girls. I would be dumb if I didn't go ahead and talk to other guys. If he's not giving me the attention like he's interested...letting weeks go by without contact, I can be sure that I'm FAR down his list of priority, if I'm even ON that list. :(. It sucks a lot. I know that when a guy shows interest in me, I feel in control and I kinda take the dude for granted and I'm dismissive, if I don't like him, or if I'm mildly attracted. Now, it appears I'm on the other end of that scenario.
I miss! 🥰
Snowy winters...🧣
Hot chocolate coco...☕️
Making snow angels...❄️
Delicious s’mores by the fireplace...🔥
Roasted chestnuts...😋
And Christmas lights at night in a winter wonderland...✨
I would date other guys as well. If a guy isnt over his ex BTW,but he is interested or attracted to another woman,yes she can be nonchalant. But she still needs to keep her options option. She can walk out unscathed while his wishy washy ways consume him. She has the wisdom and also maintained her dignity.
just wanna say or ask if you can also do the on line dating advice and tips. The age differences...races...nationality and culture and belief that affects the relationship. And what makes the man moved a mountain just to be with you no matter how far you are. Cause i want to marry a man outside my country cause were living in different world. I liked your advice its very natural ☺☺☺
Would you mind to make this content please
Dear Elliot, Thank you so so much for all your great content. I really appreciate the time you take to give all your awesome advice. Love your videos and how genuine you are. You've already helped me so much. If you can, please, I would love to have any advice for people in a long distance relationship. I kinda feel like a lot of the standard rules don't apply. I just started talking to a guy whom I've never met, and he lives far away but we seem so perfect for each other 😖 Am I being stupid? Should I give it up? And I'm so sorry if you already covered this topic. I'm still catching up on your videos.
Not that this matters but I'm a girl.
Or the dood is not emotionally available.
love your videos!
So I have a tricky situation related to this: After two months, a guy I was seeing told me outright he wanted a relationship, but not JUST yet. He wanted it "to develop before we gave it a title". Initiated hanging out EVERY time. Texted me EVERY day. Integrated me with his friends. Told me he was so excited about our future together.
Then one day the texts stopped. I asked him what happened and he said it wasn't "the right time". Never heard from him again. Total 180.
What could have caused this? He gave every sign he wanted a relationship
yahnuh this happend to me recently. The guy actually asked me to be in a relationship with him after meeting his family and friends. After that he started acting diff rent and eventually we stopped talking. I believe that there was another girl that had more of his interest and he just kept me around. Our situation sounds similar. Sounds like he did want a relationship just with someone else. Sorry.
I'm guessing a BS artist whom just wanted to get in your pants
He found someone he liked better... stringed you along till the relationship with the other girl was official
I Date the guy since 3 months. Our Dates always escalate in 12 h things and only Happen about once a week, but he kinda treats me like his gf. But the Last Time i made the mistake to ask him what this is. He did not really answer, but now 1.5 month later - we did not meet in the meanwhile bcs of holidays and still wont meet another month - he texted me, that he is Not sure, but does not really want anything serious at this point. I just answered that i expected that and it's good to Know. Is there still hope, that this is gonna be a relationship some day? What is the right way to act?
Elliott Scott you should answer her question above
if you brought this up a second time with him and he's not committing to only see you get rid of him... he's probably orbiting and looking for better women but just keeping you around until he finds someone better
Does this also apply to long distance situations? Both of you live in different states
What if he sees you are gf material but wants a casual fling only
I’d like to see Elliot without the ‘stashe I think it would look good
plz make a video about how to show the guy that she is a relationship material and that she is the best option.
:) men are simple creatures.. thanks for breaking it down for us
They aren't tho. Lmaoooo
There is a category number 4 - she's not suitable for anything :D He doesn't want you in his life at all.
So what if you bring it up and get a not so good reaction ? Is there any way to fix it once he pulls away ?
kaleena brown get some self dignity and cut him off. Remember YOU'RE the prize not him. All you're doing is feeding his ego.
hi may i ask something!?
i know a guy from social media. we meet and have the chemistry and now its almost a month we meet each other after 7 dates. yes we have each other pet name, the thing is im confuse.
he make me like his gf, tho he never mention it. but he will ask me not to meet other guy, when we are not officially dating. i do like him so i would listeb to him not meeting other guy but i also text other guy beside him.
but sometimes he make me confuse, because he sometimes didnt ask me first if we want to go out. he just waiting for me to ask him out? so what should i do with him??? thanks in advance elliot!
This is a good advice, but as a guy I'd say this: If a guy is into you, there are no MIND games, WAITING games, WHAT ARE WE games. He's into you.
hi i had a question, its about my friend who brought up her problem with me, ahe told me that she met this guy online and the guy frank her that he only wanted a friends with bennifits because he doesn't want a complicated life when he go back to his country fro good...i cannot advise her, ..i told her just only to wait maybe the guy had a bad relationship experience before...
I LOVE your videos
If you have the talk too soon and the guy backs way off, citing he isn’t ready, is there any way to salvage it?
Gee, I just being honest with him and I don’t know why he feels this way. I still love and it has been year and half. I told me that he wanted me later on???
How much should a man see you ? i been seeing this man once a week for a month , he initiates the contact daily , he told me he wants to go slow and see how it goes that he open to relationship. I feel i remind him to want to see each other and when we do we have a great time . My thing is i don’t want to be the one to ask when we going to see each other , it’s like he waits for me .. he admits he thinks of me , and is curious .. so if i don’t see him this week I’m thinking I’ll loose interest . What do i do ??
Is it wrong to tell him that you want a relationship ?
Our friends in common were not told by him. We kept it secret. HE kept it secret. I found it very painful and thought it was so strange. He barely paid attention to me. Barely texted, called. Too late, I dumped his ass. He is emotionally unavailable and only when I ignore him do I get attention. from him. I had enough.
What If I have kids and told him I want to take it slow... i only see him one-2x a week and I don't want to move in with him yet really..he knows that but he always asks to see me and I haven't brought it up...but I did tell him I wouldn't have anyone arround my kids who's not serious and he still has us over to sleep over even if no sex is involved..I just don't wanna keep going for nothing...but also we always have a good time and get along...you know what eff it haha il book a call :)
I just don't know how long it should take for ME to even Wana bring it up cuz I'm worried if I bring it up..hel say he wants us to be together...maybe he feels like I'm not ready..id say ys if he asked me but I'm OK at the moment if he dosnt
what should we say specifically to him when we do bring it up?
I normally do like this: "hey XXX, i really enjoyed spending time with you in the last couple of month and you are such an incredible guy. Gee i still remember the first time we watch a movie together the guy next to us farted XXX(make an inside joke here to ease the mood). well, all the fun time we had, I appreciate them and I would really like to have more with you but only exclusively (winky face)."
Any advice for me? love ur video E!!! BIG FAN!
I'd be straight forward and cocky with it in a fun playful manner. I will make a video on it. That's a good topic
Yes, I second a video with how to say it when we do bring it up. Thanks!
Elliot, you look good in v-neck. I believe this advise doesn't meant for all of the ladies. What about the ladies in that doesnt want a relationship or committing to a guy but attracted to him?
How to be nice to your girlfriend
I disagree. At 46. You are either going same direction or you are gone. Be a man go after what you want or be a man and walk away smh.
is it wrong to want a man that is engaged?
he's my ex and spying on his i.g. brought me here tonight.,I'm tired of obsessing about what I do wrong repeatedly in relationships
What if both lovers are not sure what we want. We worked together for 2 years but didn't start dating until a year after I transferred to another job. Well it's been off and on due to political issues posted on Facebook... Lol.
Currently, I'm going through alot with losing that job and having to work long hours to survive. However, we have been enjoying our interracial relationship with interesting conversations/debates, hanging out and great SEX😊. The only problem for me is he wants sex all the time and that confuses me because he also tells me he is dating and asks why do we have to put a label on it after I told him I wasn't that kind of girl to sleep around w/o knowing where it was going. Well he continues to text, call and invite me places but doesn't want to "put a label on it" so to speak??? I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship either but just feel some kind of way about an open sex & non-committed relationship....Please Advise 😒
Cougar Blues
i wish i would 've seen this before 😢😭
What do you do if you already feel like you fucked that up?!
The guy in "hanging out" with ( his words but considers it no different from actual "dating")is waiting for God to strick him with lightning it seems. Every description he has given of his perfect woman is me but his not seeing it. I'm finding it hard at times to just shut up and hold tight.
Done that ...we've been dating from January 2021, its now the December 2021 so what advice u gt for me now then 😂
Lol this is how you get into a situationship, not a relationship
great video,white tee!
What about if your a cougar ? They dont want to be bf gf with a sexy older woman. but im only attracting younger Lol.
Kathi K. I just have fun. It always shocks me if they say I love you or want a relationship.
A lot want presence on my social media. As if!
I always just gave fun... But i would like more now
Just assume it?
hey Elliot is not replying to a text reacting?
jedi “No action” is also an action
if i could block you from my channel😂😂😂😂
Wow, 2 months seem so soon!
Kelli Kakes would you rather waste 6-12 months of your life with a guy...to then find out he just wanted you as a FWB. NOPE! Figure it out early so you don't waste time or get your heart broken later.
2 months is sooon.... 6months to one year even two years is normal
ashsqx324 agreed.
whitelily3177 in 6 to 12 months you should know if that's what he wants. I think 2 months is too soon bc you can still rush and he can leave you or be playing you.
oomgaash helped me right now so much lol..
HAHAHA