I think being a leader is uplifting others around you and not necessarily disagree with what others say. Everyone thinks differently, and there can be more to gain from meetings if everyone shares their thoughts without being challenged. Disagreeing can come across as being passive-aggressive and not giving a sense of leadership, but being arrogant and not someone who expresses their opinions with respect and validation for others.
Thank you so much Marcela for watching! I'm glad these tips were helpful for you. I have more videos coming out on communication (I'm passionate about this), so keep an eye out for them.
Karen, I started out my career with this style of communication. Then, I received backlash to "soften" up. I completely took that to heart and now I listen and don't share opinions at all. The justification was that not sharing my opinions builds better relationships. Supposedly, by listening and mirroring back it is "validating" someone's perspective. The train of thought is that disagreeing is seen as challenging someone's perspective. I need help because I don't want to lose my voice.
I completely understand Linh Ngo. I don't want you to lose your voice either. It's really important that your voice is heard in meetings. It's a shame that you received backlash in the past and that stopped you from sharing your opinions. I don't believe that not sharing your opinions builds better relationships. It might be easier for the other person to not receive disagreements, but it's not good for you to develop your position in meetings. I recommend you share your opinions like this, "I hear what you're saying [name]. You believe that [xyz]. But I feel/believe/think that [xyz]. What are your thoughts on this?" You do three things in this sentence: 1) Validate the other person's viewpoint. 2) State what you think/believe. 3) Invite their opinion or ideas. The most powerful part of this is the third part where you get input. This is how you state your opinion without being seen as aggressive/pushy.
I wonder how you articulated your views. There could gave been a lot of agrression or too much emotion in how you expressed yourself. Often it is not an issue that yiur view is different but articulation is usually the challenge. I am not even saying that was the case but from my experience, emotion and aggression is what triggers people in meetings usually. Very interested to hear different views
Great question Jeremy. Something like this would work: "I hear what you're saying [name]. You think that [repeat what that person said]. I see things differently. Are you open to hearing what I think?" Then you go into how you see things. I know the above is kind of long, but in a work environment, it's important to keep positive working relationships with people. By using the above you help that person to feel heard but also get your space to share your disagreement. I have another video on my channel about disagreeing th-cam.com/video/SrxK45LE3M4/w-d-xo.html It's an older video, but the tips will hopefully help you.
Do you have videos related to those that are wanting to move up in the ranks and need to exhibit xyz behavior? Or could these same principles apply in this leadership video?
Thanks for watching Ryan! This video is for people who are moving up in the ranks well as those already in leadership. Check out the other videos in the "leadership skills" playlist for more that might interest you.
Kara, thanks for sharing this video. I do not completely agree with you here unless we add some context. If you are referring to a leader finding their voice (eg at the leadership table) then all of your points have a lot of merit. If you are referring to how a great leader communicates to their team, then your statements could be inverted for greater effect. For example - "be okay with disagreeing" becomes "create a safe environment where your team are able to express their opinion without fear of judgement". "Learn to delegate" becomes "Learn to ask better questions" - instead of delegating to Stephen, ask him what he thinks is the priority task that needs to be done - this builds engagement; buy-in and empowerment - Stephen will do that thing because he wanted to do it, not because he was told to do it - and he will do so with passion. "Become more opinionated" becomes "learn to speak last and keep an open mind" - encouraging your team to share ideas openly without undue influence of your own thoughts and biases - after a robust conversation where you consider all points of view, then you can communicate your decision with clarity.
Thanks for your comment Mick. I can understand the confusion. For this video, it was created with people who are aspiring to be a leader, who want to be recognised as a leader and want to learn how to speak more like a leader in meetings. So this would fit into the first category you mentioned, "leaders finding their voice". You are absolutely right in that these tips, when taken from the perspective of a leader communicating to their team, will not be appropriate. And as you pointed out, they would in fact damage the relationship with team. Perhaps I should have clarified better in the beginning of the video. Thank you for writing your comment in a kind way. TH-cam can be a minefield where people let all-out with their disagreements. So thank you for being curious, clear and respectful about this.
@@kararonin thank you for clarifying. This make a LOT of sense and is great advice for anyone looking to find their voice and wanting to breakthrough as a leader. With this clarification in mind, this is a great video. Keep up the great work and messaging. Your videos are excellent.
Great contents and advice. It would be perfect if your your speech could be more prepared and organized instead of conversational so we can learn more about speaking like a leader.
We all know that you need to speak up abd be opiniated be a leader. But in order to execute that you should have knowledge and strong foundation about the business topic which is the key. Otherwise any one can be a leader in any field.
Kara, thank you for this video. This has helped me a lot. One can transition to executive speak with a few changes, and your points here really help focus on the key areas.
I'm so happy to hear that Santanu! Yes, it's absolutely possible to transition into speaking like an executive. I'm so glad this video has helped you with that!
I think you should absolutely disagree, when applicable, and be tactful when doing so. I generally validate by repeating in my words their thought/opinion, address one or more ways in which it is positive, then detail exactly why I disagree -- which speaks to the issue/topic and not any particular person.
Thanks for watching Chokri. This video talks only about 3 things you can do to speak like a leader. Of course, there is so much more. I'm always wanting to improve my videos so let me know where did it not meet your expectations? What advice did you expect that you did not get?
Actually I never had an experienced to be a speaker in front in large of group of people that’s the job of many finaciaö advicer which I attended the seminar of retirees. On my previos job Telecom Company my duty is in Admin wor in the office. Anyway, thanks for that golden opportunity but I cannot accept it.. that‘s why I voluntarily quit on my job because I want to enjoy my life with my loveones I‘m not looking for job at all..
Great tutorial and thank you for not trying to sound like a man! Here in the US women think to be a leader they should sound and act like b.tches! I have soft and girly voice like yours, but when it comes to the problem at office I can lower my voice a make a point and they listen. Great channel!
I don't think I could sound like a man even if I tried! I agree, it can be difficult for women with soft voices to command attention at work. Lowering the voice works for me too! Thank you so much for your support!
Omg I was literally thinking that as I was watching. That’s a big damper for us. If we disagree we’re difficult…it’s the most odd thing. I’ve seen my white female peers go back and forth several times but one of the black managers disagreed with an approach that was suggested and things went down hill..she was termed within 6 months. It’s a thin line to straddle for us 😕. They literally want to avoid confrontation with black woman as if we’re violent humans…very odd.
“How to speak like a leader at work: 3 Communication Strategies Leaders Use”. Disagreeing, learning to delegate or becoming more opinionated are not strategies.
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Thanks for watching! Here's the next video I recommend you watch, “How to Become More Visible at Work” th-cam.com/video/sx1UD9NNMfQ/w-d-xo.html
Thank you Miss Kara 😊
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Thank you very much!
I think being a leader is uplifting others around you and not necessarily disagree with what others say. Everyone thinks differently, and there can be more to gain from meetings if everyone shares their thoughts without being challenged. Disagreeing can come across as being passive-aggressive and not giving a sense of leadership, but being arrogant and not someone who expresses their opinions with respect and validation for others.
This is very true! Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
More videos like this one please ❤️
Thank You Kara. Amazing video!
Thank you so much Marcela for watching! I'm glad these tips were helpful for you. I have more videos coming out on communication (I'm passionate about this), so keep an eye out for them.
Loved it. Thanks for sharing such important information. I felt it was made for me.
I'm so happy you found this video helpful Lorena! Thank you for watching it!
Thank you so much!
Great tips and strategies. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much Bhim!
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You video is exactly what I needed to hear today ❤❤❤
Karen, I started out my career with this style of communication. Then, I received backlash to "soften" up. I completely took that to heart and now I listen and don't share opinions at all. The justification was that not sharing my opinions builds better relationships. Supposedly, by listening and mirroring back it is "validating" someone's perspective. The train of thought is that disagreeing is seen as challenging someone's perspective. I need help because I don't want to lose my voice.
I completely understand Linh Ngo. I don't want you to lose your voice either. It's really important that your voice is heard in meetings. It's a shame that you received backlash in the past and that stopped you from sharing your opinions. I don't believe that not sharing your opinions builds better relationships. It might be easier for the other person to not receive disagreements, but it's not good for you to develop your position in meetings. I recommend you share your opinions like this, "I hear what you're saying [name]. You believe that [xyz]. But I feel/believe/think that [xyz]. What are your thoughts on this?" You do three things in this sentence: 1) Validate the other person's viewpoint. 2) State what you think/believe. 3) Invite their opinion or ideas. The most powerful part of this is the third part where you get input. This is how you state your opinion without being seen as aggressive/pushy.
I wonder how you articulated your views. There could gave been a lot of agrression or too much emotion in how you expressed yourself. Often it is not an issue that yiur view is different but articulation is usually the challenge. I am not even saying that was the case but from my experience, emotion and aggression is what triggers people in meetings usually. Very interested to hear different views
Thank you so much !!! This helps a lot
You're very welcome Danielle. I'm glad it was helpful for you!
Thank you i needed to hear this.
You're welcome May May. Thank you for watching!
Can you role play or give examples on how to disagree yet be polite?
What type of activities promote creativity?
Great suggestions for future videos! Thanks for watching.
Kara, it's excellent ❤
What would a statement sound like if I practice disagreeing more?
Great question Jeremy. Something like this would work: "I hear what you're saying [name]. You think that [repeat what that person said]. I see things differently. Are you open to hearing what I think?" Then you go into how you see things.
I know the above is kind of long, but in a work environment, it's important to keep positive working relationships with people. By using the above you help that person to feel heard but also get your space to share your disagreement. I have another video on my channel about disagreeing th-cam.com/video/SrxK45LE3M4/w-d-xo.html It's an older video, but the tips will hopefully help you.
I love that you are clear with ur advice!! More of this and we could all be leaders!
Thank You For Sharing ❤️
You're welcome!
@@kararonin
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Thanks a lot
You're welcome!
Do you have videos related to those that are wanting to move up in the ranks and need to exhibit xyz behavior? Or could these same principles apply in this leadership video?
Thanks for watching Ryan! This video is for people who are moving up in the ranks well as those already in leadership. Check out the other videos in the "leadership skills" playlist for more that might interest you.
She is Smart.
Thank you for your support!
Do these 1st and 3rd points work in all cultures?
Kara, thanks for sharing this video. I do not completely agree with you here unless we add some context. If you are referring to a leader finding their voice (eg at the leadership table) then all of your points have a lot of merit. If you are referring to how a great leader communicates to their team, then your statements could be inverted for greater effect.
For example - "be okay with disagreeing" becomes "create a safe environment where your team are able to express their opinion without fear of judgement". "Learn to delegate" becomes "Learn to ask better questions" - instead of delegating to Stephen, ask him what he thinks is the priority task that needs to be done - this builds engagement; buy-in and empowerment - Stephen will do that thing because he wanted to do it, not because he was told to do it - and he will do so with passion. "Become more opinionated" becomes "learn to speak last and keep an open mind" - encouraging your team to share ideas openly without undue influence of your own thoughts and biases - after a robust conversation where you consider all points of view, then you can communicate your decision with clarity.
Thanks for your comment Mick. I can understand the confusion. For this video, it was created with people who are aspiring to be a leader, who want to be recognised as a leader and want to learn how to speak more like a leader in meetings. So this would fit into the first category you mentioned, "leaders finding their voice". You are absolutely right in that these tips, when taken from the perspective of a leader communicating to their team, will not be appropriate. And as you pointed out, they would in fact damage the relationship with team. Perhaps I should have clarified better in the beginning of the video. Thank you for writing your comment in a kind way. TH-cam can be a minefield where people let all-out with their disagreements. So thank you for being curious, clear and respectful about this.
@@kararonin thank you for clarifying. This make a LOT of sense and is great advice for anyone looking to find their voice and wanting to breakthrough as a leader. With this clarification in mind, this is a great video. Keep up the great work and messaging. Your videos are excellent.
@@mickspiers9153 thank you very much! I'm glad you're finding them helpful.
That was awesome
Great contents and advice. It would be perfect if your your speech could be more prepared and organized instead of conversational so we can learn more about speaking like a leader.
Thank you! ✌🏻 😎 🇧🇷
You're welcome! Thank you for watching!
Thank you for sharing : )
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Very useful.
Fantastic!
Thanks you for this video
You're very welcome Kler! Thank you for watching it!
I am trying to see all your video
For I learn what I don't learn in school 🙏🙏
Thank you for watching the videos!
We all know that you need to speak up abd be opiniated be a leader. But in order to execute that you should have knowledge and strong foundation about the business topic which is the key. Otherwise any one can be a leader in any field.
very good thanks
Thanks for watching!
Nice video..u need to check u r hand movement while speaking ...it's not so brisk
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You're welcome! Thank you for watching!
Kara, thank you for this video. This has helped me a lot. One can transition to executive speak with a few changes, and your points here really help focus on the key areas.
I'm so happy to hear that Santanu! Yes, it's absolutely possible to transition into speaking like an executive. I'm so glad this video has helped you with that!
Wow you're great .. love from India 😍
Thank you so much! I'm so glad you enjoyed this video 💖
I think you should absolutely disagree, when applicable, and be tactful when doing so.
I generally validate by repeating in my words their thought/opinion, address one or more ways in which it is positive, then detail exactly why I disagree -- which speaks to the issue/topic and not any particular person.
Could you provide example in your next video like how to disagree in assertive way and not submissive…
I already have a video on that topic. Here is the link th-cam.com/video/SrxK45LE3M4/w-d-xo.html
LOVED IT
Wow! Thanks so much Gerald!
When did you ever talk about talking like a leader?
Thanks for watching Chokri. This video talks only about 3 things you can do to speak like a leader. Of course, there is so much more. I'm always wanting to improve my videos so let me know where did it not meet your expectations? What advice did you expect that you did not get?
Actually I never had an experienced to be a speaker in front in large of group of people that’s the job of many finaciaö advicer which I attended the seminar of retirees. On my previos job Telecom Company my duty is in Admin wor in the office. Anyway, thanks for that golden opportunity but I cannot accept it.. that‘s why I voluntarily quit on my job because I want to enjoy my life with my loveones I‘m not looking for job at all..
I hope this video helps you if you do have the opportunity to speak in front of an audience one day, Cecilia. Thanks for watching!
I'd like to be an English teacher leader. Most people say that my personality is weak.
Kara, you have the coolest last name.
I m leader
Fantastic!
Great tutorial and thank you for not trying to sound like a man! Here in the US women think to be a leader they should sound and act like b.tches! I have soft and girly voice like yours, but when it comes to the problem at office I can lower my voice a make a point and they listen. Great channel!
I don't think I could sound like a man even if I tried! I agree, it can be difficult for women with soft voices to command attention at work. Lowering the voice works for me too! Thank you so much for your support!
i didnt get hired as a team leader because i am to much kind to my members😢
Disagreeing, being opinionated, and assertive does NOT work for Black women.
Omg I was literally thinking that as I was watching. That’s a big damper for us. If we disagree we’re difficult…it’s the most odd thing. I’ve seen my white female peers go back and forth several times but one of the black managers disagreed with an approach that was suggested and things went down hill..she was termed within 6 months. It’s a thin line to straddle for us 😕. They literally want to avoid confrontation with black woman as if we’re violent humans…very odd.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
They better listen. Black or not, you have an edge 😅
“How to speak like a leader at work: 3 Communication Strategies Leaders Use”. Disagreeing, learning to delegate or becoming more opinionated are not strategies.
Taking too long to get to the point.
I think she said it right away😅maybe your not attentive.
I disagree!😉
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Very good information, thank you!
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Would you mind sharing your email because I have thoughts to share.
Would you mind sharing your email because I have thoughts to share.