This is excellent. I would say, though, that I don't think that women don't care when you are challenged by the laws of nature to get it up, but I do think that they are dynamic enough to be open to other channels of equally fulfilling intimacy, WHILE, (and here's the catch) you take advantage of that comfort and time she's aforded you, to eventually get it up.
What is known can be fixed. But your female partner has to know what's going on. If not it leaves us confused and sometimes we have to deal with not knowing. Especially when it is someone you love and thought they could trust to tell you anything. It effects the woman mentally. And sometimes we don't come back from what we feel as betrayal.
I have found that when men can’t “get it up” women who are just as aroused, tend to have to deal with their “blue ball” or “clitoris” issue and will not deal with the or a man… I think you guys kinda touched on that, but, how to deal with a “turned off” partner is where the pain for most men… sad, but true.
This was helpful. What I want to know is if a man with ED is able to enjoy any kind of stimulation without having an erection? What can a woman do for him during a sexual encounter, knowing he can’t get an erection, anything?
@betsyross4508 For anyone still interested in the topic, touch always feels good with or without. It may not feel good when there is shame but once the shame is past there is still lots of enjoyment in touch regardless of state of the equipment
@Watchoutforsnakez I've given it a bit more thought and there are lots of things to enjoy. Any Illness (short term or chronic), medications, environmental disruption of hormones can take a man's friend out of the game. In my mind there is nothing like PIV sex but there are many things to enjoy when one partner can't make it happen. My second favorites are kissing, massages, Or@l, and being hands on. I was reminded that our mind is our most significant sex organ and all our our senses can play into a good sex life
Yes, unfortunately if women are sexually attractive, and their man cannot perform, they will also go outside to get sex…and feel anger or contempt for their man…they are sexually active at middle age, and men tend to wind down at middle age…
I gave my partner 23 months to go see doctors. I feel no physical attraction towards him anymore and I was sexually active before him. He was in a sexless 12yr relationship. There is a pattern here.
Thank you for sharing your experience and we are sorry to hear about your situation. Sometimes this is mostly about a physical issue and other times there are deeper personal and relationship factors which may be involved. The latter is more common with patterned behavior.
Same for my wife. If you can understand the diagnostics from the urologist, you can be in a place to encourage your man through some potentially tough choices he has to make. If you can find emotionally connected and pleasurable ways to distract from the loss and pain that you might feel it might help build some closeness while you await all the options and your man makes decisions. Hoping you find a way through.
speaking with my mere male recently about his ed problem, he says it is a blow to his ego not to have an erection, as having a stiff penis gives him confidence when at work, he gets excited around his female clients and then wants to have sex with me to have an orgasm. There is no romance or seduction for me, its all about him and his ego.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you have different goals for a sexual relationship and you feel it is depersonalized. Couples work might be a worthwhile option to explore and could yield benefit to both of you.
What you completely missed here is that if men want to have sex once a week, and women want it twice a year, that means that a man is rejected 25 times for every time the woman actually wants to (and after a while, he gets rejected in his head every time he doesn’t ask because he already knows the answer. After years of this, it’s no wonder that men can’t get an erection (he knows that she’s not excited about it and is secretly relieved when he can’t have sex) after this happening over YEARS. I guarantee that if a man is truly desired by his wife, and she acted with the affection and respect that she gave him when they were initially together, he’d have zero problem with ED. And it’s not true that women want to talk about it - because she doesn’t really want to know the answer. Why would a man talk to his wife about this after he’s been rejected by her about 500 times over the previous decade?
I'll tell you what doesn't help - withdrawing all affection and personal touch when your partner develops ED from stress and life changes - there are ways to work through it - but removing all physical affection simply destroys your connection.
Umm not sure what women say that they don’t care and only want once or twice a year, I’ve asked all my married friends and after our kids get older our xdrive comes back like a teenager
Thank you for your comment. Your experience is quite common and some women do experience an increase in libido at this stage of life. However, there are plenty of women who do not and are not bothered by their partner’s ED. Its important to keep in mind that often changes in libido do not occur in a vacuum and are dynamic. If a woman does not have a willing and able partner she may not have your experience even though the potential is there.
Agree with the wedding cake. Are you a Tom Leykis listener? A woman denying her man regular, willing, enjoyable sex or using sex as a manipulative tactic is the beginning of most ED.
@@Watchoutforsnakez If you think it sucks for you. How do you think the man feels? You can multiply your suck feeling with 100 or 1000. As said in the video. Men do not feel masculine when we can't get it up. It is very traumatising and shamefull to men. And it is very important that you (the women) support him. If he cannot perform. He will not initiate somthing he cannot finish. It is there for very important that you take the inititive and show him that you still want to have that intimit connection and that you would love for him to satasfie you in other ways. But if he gets the slightest sense that you see him as less of a man or if you come with some negativ remarks and belittle him. Rest assured, he will back off. And most likely reject your when you initiate.
@JacobWillumsen I can assure you my husband has never heard one negative remark nor an unsaid message from my mouth for 15 years. I get it. I’m not shooting holes in my own boat here. In my situation, The underlying issue is that I have a marriage problem more than a ED problem. My expectation is that in a marriage BOTH husband and wife put the other one’s interests ahead of their own. Sex is a vital part of the relationship and neither party has a right to withhold it, DESPITE being inclined to do otherwise. My mate ought to take that medication even if he gets a headache. By the way he’s not taken it enough to know that, he shouldn’t ever have it with alcohol and to drink plenty of water first. The kind of thing you should know if you had talked to your Dr. about the side effects or even did a Google search, but you DONT because you don’t really want to deal with sex anymore. My responsibility is to be supportive and build him up about his own masculinity, despite this problem. His responsibility is to enthusiastically look for, and participate in alternative ways to still fulfill his part. He ALLOWS himself to get off the hook because he LACKS LOVE. I accept that I will have to initiate at least 99% of the time. But when I daily, weekly, monthly and yearly express my admiration and desire for him, and there is no change, I can say with a clear conscience, this guy is o.k. With his choices and has left me to deal with it. And I do. He’s my best friend and has many other wonderful qualities. I would never hurt his pride by indicating in word or deed he is not my “man”. I make a real effort to be grateful for what I do have and not focus on what I don’t have. Or else I would be divorced.
Great video .. . ..made me look at things differently especially from a woman's viewpoint.
Do you have any recordings for erectile dysfunction caused by a stroke. I tried looking but I don't know the proper terminology
This is excellent. I would say, though, that I don't think that women don't care when you are challenged by the laws of nature to get it up, but I do think that they are dynamic enough to be open to other channels of equally fulfilling intimacy, WHILE, (and here's the catch) you take advantage of that comfort and time she's aforded you, to eventually get it up.
What is known can be fixed. But your female partner has to know what's going on. If not it leaves us confused and sometimes we have to deal with not knowing. Especially when it is someone you love and thought they could trust to tell you anything. It effects the woman mentally. And sometimes we don't come back from what we feel as betrayal.
Thank you for the comment! We could not agree more about the importance of communicating with a partner when experiencing a sexual function challenge.
My husband says cialis gives him a headache. So he doesn’t bother with it. It’s pretty screwed up
I have found that when men can’t “get it up” women who are just as aroused, tend to have to deal with their “blue ball” or “clitoris” issue and will not deal with the or a man…
I think you guys kinda touched on that, but, how to deal with a “turned off” partner is where the pain for most men… sad, but true.
Good video though guys. Pretty insightful. Thank you.
Much appreciated!
This was helpful. What I want to know is if a man with ED is able to enjoy any kind of stimulation without having an erection? What can a woman do for him during a sexual encounter, knowing he can’t get an erection, anything?
It's the same without the erection but it is psychologically harmful to the man!
@betsyross4508 For anyone still interested in the topic, touch always feels good with or without. It may not feel good when there is shame but once the shame is past there is still lots of enjoyment in touch regardless of state of the equipment
@@betsyross4508 I would have thought after a year this would have had at least one comment.
@@zcreate_great thank you. We need to know this.
@Watchoutforsnakez I've given it a bit more thought and there are lots of things to enjoy. Any Illness (short term or chronic), medications, environmental disruption of hormones can take a man's friend out of the game. In my mind there is nothing like PIV sex but there are many things to enjoy when one partner can't make it happen. My second favorites are kissing, massages, Or@l, and being hands on. I was reminded that our mind is our most significant sex organ and all our our senses can play into a good sex life
Some guys are saying if you can't perform, the woman will never take you seriously and will look at you with disgust..... is this true?
Yes, unfortunately if women are sexually attractive, and their man cannot perform, they will also go outside to get sex…and feel anger or contempt for their man…they are sexually active at middle age, and men tend to wind down at middle age…
true as there're bad and good women
Pretty much. It is VERY unsexy.
She will think she is ugly
@@geoeconomics5629because she mostly is.
I gave my partner 23 months to go see doctors. I feel no physical attraction towards him anymore and I was sexually active before him. He was in a sexless 12yr relationship. There is a pattern here.
Thank you for sharing your experience and we are sorry to hear about your situation. Sometimes this is mostly about a physical issue and other times there are deeper personal and relationship factors which may be involved. The latter is more common with patterned behavior.
I’m frustrated with him with his ED, he is just is not interested in me anymore.😢
Is $ex the only thing in a relationship?
PNV sex is the glue to our relationship. Need help! Cuddling, hand holding and hobbies together do not work!
Same for my wife. If you can understand the diagnostics from the urologist, you can be in a place to encourage your man through some potentially tough choices he has to make. If you can find emotionally connected and pleasurable ways to distract from the loss and pain that you might feel it might help build some closeness while you await all the options and your man makes decisions. Hoping you find a way through.
Try switching diet more exercise vitamin D and seamoss spinach and ginger
speaking with my mere male recently about his ed problem, he says it is a blow to his ego not to have an erection, as having a stiff penis gives him confidence when at work, he gets excited around his female clients and then wants to have sex with me to have an orgasm. There is no romance or seduction for me, its all about him and his ego.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It sounds like you have different goals for a sexual relationship and you feel it is depersonalized. Couples work might be a worthwhile option to explore and could yield benefit to both of you.
What you completely missed here is that if men want to have sex once a week, and women want it twice a year, that means that a man is rejected 25 times for every time the woman actually wants to (and after a while, he gets rejected in his head every time he doesn’t ask because he already knows the answer. After years of this, it’s no wonder that men can’t get an erection (he knows that she’s not excited about it and is secretly relieved when he can’t have sex) after this happening over YEARS.
I guarantee that if a man is truly desired by his wife, and she acted with the affection and respect that she gave him when they were initially together, he’d have zero problem with ED.
And it’s not true that women want to talk about it - because she doesn’t really want to know the answer. Why would a man talk to his wife about this after he’s been rejected by her about 500 times over the previous decade?
I'll tell you what doesn't help - withdrawing all affection and personal touch when your partner develops ED from stress and life changes - there are ways to work through it - but removing all physical affection simply destroys your connection.
Yes but if he cannot be bothered to get a blood test or seek medical help a woman will lose interest.
@@rebeccajones8628 But "he" did all that, fixed the issue and still nothing
Thank you for the comment!
It’s hard to understand not caring at all if he can perform. Why are you even together then?
Umm not sure what women say that they don’t care and only want once or twice a year, I’ve asked all my married friends and after our kids get older our xdrive comes back like a teenager
Thank you for your comment. Your experience is quite common and some women do experience an increase in libido at this stage of life. However, there are plenty of women who do not and are not bothered by their partner’s ED. Its important to keep in mind that often changes in libido do not occur in a vacuum and are dynamic. If a woman does not have a willing and able partner she may not have your experience even though the potential is there.
I have ED, but it does not matter because women are not interested in me anyway.
well then get rid of ED for the benefits of oneself aka self-love.
Good health to do good deeds brother
Causes of ED. Wedding cake, and a not willing partner.
Agree with the wedding cake. Are you a Tom Leykis listener? A woman denying her man regular, willing, enjoyable sex or using sex as a manipulative tactic is the beginning of most ED.
When he doesn't get off. He is not inclined to initiate sex.
She will have to initiate sex, if she wants him to satisfy her in other ways.
That suuuucks. Our biology is wired to need to be seduced. At least a little, not the other way around.
Men don’t do that. They are inherently selfish and only out to please themselves.
@@anissaholmes4495 Yes we do. Maybe you should try to seek out real men.
@@Watchoutforsnakez If you think it sucks for you. How do you think the man feels? You can multiply your suck feeling with 100 or 1000.
As said in the video. Men do not feel masculine when we can't get it up. It is very traumatising and shamefull to men. And it is very important that you (the women) support him.
If he cannot perform. He will not initiate somthing he cannot finish.
It is there for very important that you take the inititive and show him that you still want to have that intimit connection and that you would love for him to satasfie you in other ways.
But if he gets the slightest sense that you see him as less of a man or if you come with some negativ remarks and belittle him. Rest assured, he will back off. And most likely reject your when you initiate.
@JacobWillumsen I can assure you my husband has never heard one negative remark nor an unsaid message from my mouth for 15 years. I get it. I’m not shooting holes in my own boat here. In my situation, The underlying issue is that I have a marriage problem more than a ED problem. My expectation is that in a marriage BOTH husband and wife put the other one’s interests ahead of their own. Sex is a vital part of the relationship and neither party has a right to withhold it, DESPITE being inclined to do otherwise. My mate ought to take that medication even if he gets a headache. By the way he’s not taken it enough to know that, he shouldn’t ever have it with alcohol and to drink plenty of water first. The kind of thing you should know if you had talked to your Dr. about the side effects or even did a Google search, but you DONT because you don’t really want to deal with sex anymore. My responsibility is to be supportive and build him up about his own masculinity, despite this problem. His responsibility is to enthusiastically look for, and participate in alternative ways to still fulfill his part. He ALLOWS himself to get off the hook because he LACKS LOVE. I accept that I will have to initiate at least 99% of the time. But when I daily, weekly, monthly and yearly express my admiration and desire for him, and there is no change, I can say with a clear conscience, this guy is o.k. With his choices and has left me to deal with it. And I do. He’s my best friend and has many other wonderful qualities. I would never hurt his pride by indicating in word or deed he is not my “man”. I make a real effort to be grateful for what I do have and not focus on what I don’t have. Or else I would be divorced.