Agreed lots of men, especially single men, can’t decipher genuine kindness from flirting bc half the time they only compliment the women they’re interested in not just random compliments like women tend to do, so they think we’re coming from that same flirty place. At least from my experience I can’t see myself being friends with men because most of the time it was just a gateway to my energy and presence and they ended up “having feelings” unless they were gay or already had a girlfriend. Men love to “can we be friends” their way into a situation ship just to not really want a relationship anyway just want a lucky night. And don’t get me wrong not all men but definitely the majority let’s be real
Coming from a guy. It’s kind of hard not to develop feelings when you’ve gotten so close. Of course, some- well a lot of men may come off the wrong way because of compliments, and not being able to tell. Plus they’re probably just weirdos anyways. But others like me, I’d prefer to stay to myself. Whether I “like” you or not. And btw, I may find your energy attractive, but still, I like my time more. Nonetheless, if you have my attention, and I give you my energy, I don’t see why it would be… a surprise really to know I’d have some feelings for you. And it’s not a bad thing either.
Also I’m clueless. So I can’t tell if you’re flirting or not. I’ll just assume its kindness. The weirdo type (I’m annoyed with) is the type to think every girl likes them or every girl is flirting with them (who gives them attention). They suck. But the average woman also kinda (I guess in my age range) kinda sucks in a sense-not entirely- but because if you’re too “nice” or in other words kind, and you actually show them decency, they might see you as a doormat (by doormat, I mean nice guy). Most I can say is, I care for who I care for. And I’m understanding if I need to be. But I don’t like to waste time either. PS, both men and women are like this. Not just women (the type to view you as a nice guy).
I think more accurately, as men we can't tell the difference between being nice & flirting bc the difference between the 2 is so subtle. Also, bc it's so rare for a woman to initiate a conversation with a man they don't know, it's reasonable to assume that the only reason is romantic interest.
Thirsty boys are going to be, well, thirsty. And that’ll never change until any male matures out of the _F*** Boy_ phase. It’s the curse of being a pretty girl… guys will always be looking for an opening, regardless of how remote the actual potential is.
@@arcademcFLyno go leave us alone go go go go go go go get it bye no no we're exhausted there's not enough respect at the end of the day there's too much disrespect towards women. It's way too much
I learned that in my 20s. It doesn’t matter if they are married, have a happy family, faith in God, if they have a great reputation, or anything else that makes them seem like they have it all together. They WILL try you at some point. Its only a matter of time. It sucks but it is what it is.
From your date, to your friend, to the mailman, to your optician. They WILL indeed try you 😂 I’m not mad at it as long as they respect the boundary and drop it
There's a few truly honest, faithful married men out there but it's best maintain strict boundaries to hopefully not find out that they are indeed a skeeze bucket.
I'm a Catholic. (since 2019), and I decided not to date until I was 19ish. I underestimated how entitled other Catholic (and protestant, and spiritual non-religious, occasionally muslim) men feel to you just because you're beautiful and believe in God. I have so many systems in place to protect myself and my energy that I didn't when I started. Sometimes it really does seem like nobody had a conversation with these men about how a woman doesn't need to fall in love with you just because you held her door open. But I stopped entertaining male friendships (with few exceptions) a while back and it just makes life so much easier. I love your stories.
YEP this right here. Entitlement is the word I was looking for. Like just because you and I are religious in the same zip code doesn’t mean we have to date. People can be quite rude if you politely reject within the church too and find someone else.
Pro tip… find a guy that’s religious, not a religious guy. The church boys are looking to speed run a relationship and settle down as fast as possible. It’s jarring.
I realized this about three years ago that I have enough men in my life. I have brothers, male cousins, uncles and a father. Men who aren’t related to me, I don’t need to be connected to on a personal level. Female friendships are more important to me atp in my life
i resonated with this video on a spiritual level. you will never catch me being friends with men. it either turns into them trying to get out of the friend zone or trauma dumping about how no girl likes them. and whenever that happens, i don't reassure them or say it'll get better like i'm not a shoulder to cry on i'm sorry 💀 but shout out to my girl friends out there because i will literally go the extra mile even if we just met in the bathroom 2 seconds ago lol
I relate to this so much! I wrote on my Bumble profile that I was only looking for friends. This dude and I matched and we kicked it off right away and it was a breath of fresh air being able to talk to someone about Jesus and how He saved me without getting judgement (I became a born again Christian in 2019). I honestly thought we could be friends, but I'd noticed that he'd flirt with me and I would brutally shut that down, but my last straw was two days ago when he did it again and added that he wouldn't apologise for not hiding his intentions. So, I told him to be clear and he said, "Well, this is a dating app" and I kid you not, I blocked him everywhere (I'd given him my number in the beginning cause I thought he was chill). Even when you're clear about JUST BEING FRIENDS, somehow they start scheming their way into a relationship and now I'm done. He wasn't my type at all too, so... nothing was bound to happen romantically. Nothing against him though, I just pray God continues to protect him.
Ive learned this as i started working male dominated job. Hes got a gf? IT DOESNT MATTER. Hes married? IT DOESNT MATTER? Has 5 kids and a baby mama? IT DOESNT MATTER. Hes 20 years older than you? IT DOESNT MATTER. THEY WILL HIT ON YOU
People. Please please please PLEASE. don't think every male is like this. Because they are not. Please have in mind that there are plenty men that are actually good. Keep high hopes and don't put everyone in the same box. Good luck 💕
Yeah, but some immature girl does but I can totally relate to you. I give guys my number just so they think they got some thing and then I blocked them because I’m afraid that they might get too aggressive and I’m no fighter. 😪
I love the ending! Normal male to the rescue! I too have suffered from being too nice to men. If you tell them at one period f time that you’re not interested and months or years, go by and then they just wanna get together for lunch and you think everything’s cool and they understood where you stood in the past. No they come dressed up in a three piece suit thinking they’re winning you over again and you feel like you have to break up with them all over again it’s so frustrating. 😂
Girl. I needed this video. A similar thing just happened to me except the guy is 62. I'm 23.😳 I realized like you said-- that being platonic is impossible!
An older lady witnessed a man drilling me with 100 questions while I looked uninterested. Later when he walked away, she told me enjoy it now because when you get to my age, they stop noticing you. Made me kind of sad. So now I’m grateful as long as they are respectful and don’t proceed to force romance.
@@KellyStampsyeah it's true...men's value usually increases with age ..women's value decreases..(harsh but true) Be careful with the Christian stuff (there's a reason the church is mostly comprised of divorced Christian women)..waiting on the lord for a man in their 50s😅😅..it's sad to see😐😐
It's usually true if the guy has been working his tail off and is good with finances, and still looks physically fit. Why do we see older men with younger women all the time? The guy has his stuff together. No woman wants to be with the broke college dude.
In my experience, gym bros/bodybuilders have been the main types of guy I've encountered that truly cannot take no for an answer and are sooo persistent!! They love a "challenge" which they begin to view you as as soon as you reject them. I had a bodybuilder I went on one date with hound me for months, and a personal trainer I went on a few dates with still asks me to hang out to this day despite me saying no every time. I've never experienced this level of persistence from anyone else.
I wouldn’t be surprised. Some of these men feel entitled to women since they’re in “get shape.” Or considered “the most desirable” to women. At least for what I heard and seen first hand (online and reality).
You have some of the best intros.This good/ creepy storytime gave me something to watch; while having lunch. It's great you didn't let said guy, make you uncomfortable. However he definitely seemed to get more intense;as time went on. Stay safe;and keep up the good work .
I’m also very kind to people, including strangers. I’ll smile at everyone, say hi, offer compliments, etc. I’m a people pleaser and a bit socially awkward. That being said, guys sometimes think I’m interested in them and I’m just being friendly. I don’t want that. It’s happened with past male friends and always gets weird eventually.
I have also experienced that men expect something from you after you are nice... it seems that they believe if you pay any attention to them it is a "yes" to pushing themselves into your space and lives. It's fucking annoying. Men usually don't have the capacity emotionally to deal with rejection, and seems to turn to anger, it's what makes women feel unsafe. Thanks Kel..❤
Omg… guys really are weird and you can’t be friends with them. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you use to be the girl who only had guy friends and was kinda sheltered. A lot of guys don’t just wanna be your friend and they start stalking or talking down on you.
AHHHHHH this literally came at the PERFECT time in my life because I JUST now learned that you can’t be nice to men literally last week!!! So so very sad and quiet terrifying, but seriously thank you so much for sharing your story because it genuinely made me laugh and also feel a lot better about my own experience. ♥️
I've also had to stomp down the hopes of much younger men a couple of times. I tried to be friends with one once and told him plainly that I AM NOT INTERESTED. He kept trying to prove himself, I had to be more clear, then he began denying his interest, and finally asking if he could still call me. All indications he was still a baby.
"I'm too old for you" vs " You're to young for me" have different rings to them. No excuse for making you uncomfortable, but I think men, if you tell them I'm not qualified for...reason and you meet what they want, they see it as a challenge. Versus when you're clear that THEY are not want you want, the point comes across.🤷♀️
Chile…I have SO many stories I don’t even know where to begin. It is pretty unnerving to be on the receiving end of this type of behavior (especially when the guy lacks a sense of awareness to know when he’s being creepy or not)
Exactly if they attractive.. men like “younger women” bc how much a lot of them change and let themselves go. Gain weight and such. Shit women like younger men too. And now that I’m in my 30s I get how easy it would be to “let go”. When I was a kid I didn’t understand why older people didn’t care anymore about their appearance. It was mind boggling to me. But I get it now.
Some guys do feel like that, that's for sure, that is not the majority not even close, hence the topic. It's not about the exception or the ones who don't care about the age or are into older women, it's about the many others who aren't into that, simply because they prefer younger women, it doesn't mean "older" women aren't attractive, but for a lot of men it doesn't compete with a younger women. It's not like that's a bad thing or a good thing it is just a preference and we gotta live with that. In the end it's not attractiveness alone that will decide your love life, it might be a major factor to your success on flings etc. but not in terms of actual relationships.
Loved your story time! Similar thing used to happen to me. I always looked younger than my age so even younger guys would approach when I was running errands on my lunch break from work. They always had the same line, "Oh I like older women." They would then ask what I'm doing later and I would say I'm going back to work, where do you work? They would start to stutter. I just wonder why young men have time to hang around and try to pick up women. Why aren't they working or going to school in the middle of the day. Sends ends up a red flag for me.
The more I watch your videos the more I realize we think a like. I do agree that men and women do not need to be friends for any reason. It does not benefit one another. Keep up the great videos. It's nice listening to your storytelling.
Ok I must share this story- visiting my home town I randomly ran into a guy I went to high school with that I used to be friends with and have a crush on (at the time). It was a very brief interaction, like hey happy to see you! And exchanged numbers to keep in touch. He went back to Arizona where he had been living..called me to talk to me and we chatted on the phone for maybe 30 minutes. Anyways literally a few days later he shows up in my town in California saying he's moved there. I was like woah, random? But we ended up meeting up for drinks to catch up and he told me he moved there for me/to be with me. And then tried to come home with me because he had nowhere to stay...followed me to my car even though I said I couldn't have him over, etc. I ended up shaking him eventually but it was super creepy!!
Just like Kelly, the American health care system was off the (recently torn rotator) cuff when Kelly was unable to navigate the glucose guardian levels of sugary customer service in order to pick the sweetest health care plan that was right for her.
Lady! You are on the road to 1,000,000! Let’s share this video to get her to 1,000,000 followers! I love your content. You are so much like my daughter. Happy to have attended Stampede U for several years.
Sadly this behavior is not unique to large cities such as LA. This happened to me all the time when I used to live in the suburbs of Washington DC. These type of men are everywhere. I’m glad that you had someone there who was willing to deflect him. That doesn’t always happen.❤
Found that out while I was working my old retail job in college. I was showing this male customer where a t shirt was at and we got on the topic of college and I was kind of complaining to him about the college i was attending. And he was giving me good advice and told me to just stick it out. Then he just made it weird after I checked him out talking about what’s your phone number? Like wtf? And I was really awkward and asked him why? He said so you can be my lil friend, you a cute dark brown girl.😩😭. I was just utterly flabbergasted and just felt weird because I wasn’t flirting with him , and my parents wonder why I like to stay in my house and barely have a social life😒. Because people act weird!
@@jue827 the nature of it was weird because I was like working at the cash register and a customer was in the vicinity. I thought I gave out the vibe that I was making regular conversation not to be romantic involved which he was implying.
It’s everywhere yesterday I turned down a guy while I was out and his friend got mad and started being rude too me and I just kept walking. They were also very huge as well. I’m 23….. and I learned early guys hate rejection and I was so nice to him I said, “I’m just having a bad night but thank you” and he was very respectful about it until his friend came over there for whatever reason idk
This is true. I was a hairdresser and if I complimented their hair ...they would be bring up their wife or gf and how happy they are. Thinking I want them. 😅😂 I had a couple come back looking for me if I want to hang out. Just goes to show you man don't know how to have platonic relationships with women.
Omg!!! XDDD I feel for you Kelly! It reminds me of my son's dad! We've been long broken up. I let him back in only to try to be coparents again because he wanted to try to be in his son's life after not being there for 3 years. I'd schedule meet ups so they could get re-aquainted, however, he'd also try to invite me to go to the movies and concerts with him, help him pick out furniture for his new place, even talked about giving me a spare key to his new apartment. (He had a girlfriend of 1 year mind you.) I had to explain to him that I'm trying to manifest a husband and I can't do that hanging out with him. He told me he understood, but then tried to invite me to hangout with him and his friend anyway. Not too long after our first conversation, we got in a huge argument. He tried to guilt me by saying that he thought we were "friends." Frankly, I cut contact with him real quick after that (for other big reasons as well). But you really can't be nice to some of these men! Honestly! Thank you for sharing your story!
That’s what men do. They go after what they want. They pursue. I think he was just awkward about meeting another human in real life and not online lol and wanted a friend, but I’m sorry you felt unsafe.
Thr idea of being "just friends" with a straight male is a paradox because men generally show interest in women they have initial physical attraction to. The hard truth.
As a man I typically only hangout with women in group settings unless they show genuine interest in me beyond flirting because it usually leads to a misunderstanding. I've had many female friends that I've hung out with 1 on 1 only to turn around and hear them say I was trying to get with them when that wasn't the case. Being able to tell the difference between jokes and flirting seems to have become a very blurry line for them. That said, when I do approach a woman I'm interested in, I ask them out on what is clearly stated to be a date and about 60% of the time it's just "something free" for them while the other 40% is a mix of a successful relationships, rejections, or genuine friendship which is fine. There's too many people in this country that don't understand how forming relationships and romantic relationships work and it shows. That being said don't sh*t where you eat to avoid obviously awkward situations i.e don't give them the time of day.
Oh gosh… one of many stories but this reminded me of a time when I worked at a frozen yogurt shop. I was 18, a freshmen in college and a new hire came in, 15 at the time. Nice kid, but a little too friendly m that I requested to not work shifts with him lol. A few years past and when I was 24 (currently 26 now) he randomly followed me on Instagram and he started messaging me. I didn’t think anything at first and just had small talk. Eventually he would send voice notes and asked me to “hang out at his COLLEGE DORM”. I tried letting him down nicely and he’s upset because we aren’t “friends”. Every now and then he tries coming back claiming he is older now… as if it would make any difference🏃🏻♀️💨
Same, I made this decision this year. Looking back, I noticed male "friends" were only waiting for an opening. If we aren't family, I don't need to be in contact with you, no please. Not saying they all are like this or every situation is doomed, but for me, NO please, safer for everyone.
Kelly KELLY Kelly ❤ As a happy domesticated Texan girl, I wish you the best of luck. If you make it big (in the kitchen) I owe you a drink at Chez Fabian in Grapevine. My husband is 57 and I’m 32. You gotta get what you need out of this life and I love your go get it attitude. Thank you as always ❤
i'm speechless. This is entertaining and hilarious, but irl annoying that it happened. But, yes, Kelly. Thank you for sharing w Stampede University. We have learned our lesson lol
I had an old childhood friend who is a guy that i texted from time to time, twice a year maybe, in college, just talking about school, life, basic things. I even told him i was dating someone. I thought i was keeping in contact with a good friend. He thought i was flirting with him 🙃 so you think I'm a cheater?? i was really upset and taken aback at the time. Anyways, thanks Kelly ❤
Thank you for sharing Kelly. I’m glad the nice man came to your defense and helped you out. I will always stand by the fact that there AREA nice, genuine, non-weird single young men out there, it’s all in God’s timing when we they come into our life
I went to the store and got hit on by an employee. And I said no I have a bf and I go back in there sometimes and he still tries to talk to me ugh. 💀 It’s annoying it’s like take a hint! I said no, go away lol
I recall a time when I was saying goodnight to my platonic friend after a party when a guy slipped into her car just as she was leaving. Jokingly, she said to me "Are you my brother too?". I didn't know where she was coming from. I told her she didn't have to go. I told her I could be anybody. She said "I know". I never saw her again.
I can’t actually watch right this minute, but I had to come and say the thumbnail is HOT. Thank you for listening. Can’t wait to take this lecture later.
I have almost all female friends and I’m married. Even my wife’s friends and sisters consider me a friend. Never flirted with any of them… I still will tell anyone, under certain circumstances, when being friends with the opposite sex, one of the two people consider crossing the friend line at one point or another…
I really related to this story and thank you for telling it. I'm a 55 year old female and I used a have a few close gay male friends, but things have changed around a lot for me in the past 4 years and I no longer associate with a lot of people I have known in the past. This year, I tried to be friends with two straight men - one was 46 and the other 54. I am decent looking for my age but past the point of peak attractiveness so I figured that plutonic friendship with men was possible. I was wrong. It didn't work out with either of them. I'm not sure what it is with guys, but it always turns sexual. Years ago, when I was 39 and lived in NYC, I tried being friends with a heterosexual male and it ended badly. I didn't try again until this year. I thought I would have different results because I am older now but it was still the exact same result. Many (but not all) men will seem to accept when you tell them, "I just want to be friends," but they take it as some kind of challenge or entry point. I have had better luck in my interactions with younger men. I would not want to be a 20-35 year old woman right now.
Creepily enough, the most creeps I've had were when I was at school...like grown a** looking men. Later on when I got older I just avoided random guys at all costs and it went well (met a nice guy, I'm more peaceful etc.)
No matter what modern society says, men and women aren't meant to be "friends".unless he's your husband/significant other. Ninety-nine percent of the time, there is an underlying sexual tension even if there is no obvious attraction or interest. That's why in Islam, interaction with the opposite sex is limited to necessity. If you're not related or married, you shouldn't even be in the same room alone, lol.
Good, decent men have a lot to offer. I'm a woman and know that for a fact. Maybe 🤔 you have some maturing to do. Trust me, you'll learn, as you age the real importance AND value of men.
@@hopelove1595Well, there are many men who AREN’T good and decent who try to force their way into our lives. So instead of critiquing other women, maybe consider that.
All the guys at my church are like this and it’s sad. A girl that is friends with my sister and in my group went on a date with this guy that has autism that I sit with at my small group, and to say the least it was a disaster. He said a lot of things that were a little weird and did not read any signs. He would send long paragraphs and stuff. She blocked him but I get it, but I somewhat feel bad for him because he’s got the tism and doesn’t understand stuff.
Telling a man you're married : "What your husband doesn't let you have friends?" Telling a man you're gay : "Need a third?" "Can I join?" I tried telling a man that I was a man once, and he asked me to prove it...i was terrified! Males are truly nuisances.
I once went on a date with someone I met online. He wore sunglasses in every picture. Turns out he had a really bad lazy eye and I could not focus. Worse of all we were at a sports bar with many TV’s.
Everything is swipe and go to the next one. But its not just men. I had males tell me how women too are hard to find. Everything is so immediate nowadays. Instant gradification. Maybe just not dwell and tell looking for marriage. It will happen when it is the right time. Meditate. Relax. Find comfort in a place. Also a place within.
Agreed lots of men, especially single men, can’t decipher genuine kindness from flirting bc half the time they only compliment the women they’re interested in not just random compliments like women tend to do, so they think we’re coming from that same flirty place. At least from my experience I can’t see myself being friends with men because most of the time it was just a gateway to my energy and presence and they ended up “having feelings” unless they were gay or already had a girlfriend. Men love to “can we be friends” their way into a situation ship just to not really want a relationship anyway just want a lucky night. And don’t get me wrong not all men but definitely the majority let’s be real
Coming from a guy. It’s kind of hard not to develop feelings when you’ve gotten so close.
Of course, some- well a lot of men may come off the wrong way because of compliments, and not being able to tell.
Plus they’re probably just weirdos anyways. But others like me, I’d prefer to stay to myself.
Whether I “like” you or not.
And btw, I may find your energy attractive, but still, I like my time more.
Nonetheless, if you have my attention, and I give you my energy, I don’t see why it would be… a surprise really to know I’d have some feelings for you.
And it’s not a bad thing either.
Also I’m clueless.
So I can’t tell if you’re flirting or not.
I’ll just assume its kindness.
The weirdo type (I’m annoyed with) is the type to think every girl likes them or every girl is flirting with them (who gives them attention).
They suck.
But the average woman also kinda (I guess in my age range) kinda sucks in a sense-not entirely- but because if you’re too “nice” or in other words kind, and you actually show them decency, they might see you as a doormat (by doormat, I mean nice guy).
Most I can say is, I care for who I care for. And I’m understanding if I need to be. But I don’t like to waste time either.
PS, both men and women are like this. Not just women (the type to view you as a nice guy).
I think more accurately, as men we can't tell the difference between being nice & flirting bc the difference between the 2 is so subtle. Also, bc it's so rare for a woman to initiate a conversation with a man they don't know, it's reasonable to assume that the only reason is romantic interest.
FACTS
Thirsty boys are going to be, well, thirsty. And that’ll never change until any male matures out of the _F*** Boy_ phase.
It’s the curse of being a pretty girl… guys will always be looking for an opening, regardless of how remote the actual potential is.
You can't be attractive and be nice to men. They think you're flirting.
So being mean is the new flirting got it
@@arcademcFLycan you think for yourself? 🐑🐑🐑
@@jmaldo92can u come brain because your pus is full 😂
This is so unfortunate because it is sooooo true.😏
@@arcademcFLyno go leave us alone go go go go go go go get it bye no no we're exhausted there's not enough respect at the end of the day there's too much disrespect towards women. It's way too much
I also hate when they put other women down to compliment !! I feel you on how that’s such a turn off
It is a turn-off and it's offensive as fuck.
I learned that in my 20s. It doesn’t matter if they are married, have a happy family, faith in God, if they have a great reputation, or anything else that makes them seem like they have it all together. They WILL try you at some point. Its only a matter of time. It sucks but it is what it is.
From your date, to your friend, to the mailman, to your optician. They WILL indeed try you 😂 I’m not mad at it as long as they respect the boundary and drop it
Minus the meshy married men. They tried it three times in Miami, but that’s Miami
Humans in general will try you, decide if it’s worth it. Men who cheat or abuse are trash. In the end, make sure you’re good and set up.
There's a few truly honest, faithful married men out there but it's best maintain strict boundaries to hopefully not find out that they are indeed a skeeze bucket.
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I'm a Catholic. (since 2019), and I decided not to date until I was 19ish. I underestimated how entitled other Catholic (and protestant, and spiritual non-religious, occasionally muslim) men feel to you just because you're beautiful and believe in God. I have so many systems in place to protect myself and my energy that I didn't when I started. Sometimes it really does seem like nobody had a conversation with these men about how a woman doesn't need to fall in love with you just because you held her door open. But I stopped entertaining male friendships (with few exceptions) a while back and it just makes life so much easier. I love your stories.
YEP this right here. Entitlement is the word I was looking for. Like just because you and I are religious in the same zip code doesn’t mean we have to date. People can be quite rude if you politely reject within the church too and find someone else.
Did you do the RCIA route? I think that’s what it’s called for adults.
@@KellyStamps yes I did RCIA! I was confirmed on Pentecost.
Pro tip… find a guy that’s religious, not a religious guy.
The church boys are looking to speed run a relationship and settle down as fast as possible. It’s jarring.
@@KellyStamps i did I was baptized and confirmed in April! Best decision ever I love being catholic. It feels like grown up church.
I realized this about three years ago that I have enough men in my life. I have brothers, male cousins, uncles and a father. Men who aren’t related to me, I don’t need to be connected to on a personal level. Female friendships are more important to me atp in my life
Kelly, if no one else tells you, I certainly will: that purple sweater looks SO good on you 10/10
You're right!
The sweater
The makeup
The hair
Everything!
LATE REPLY BUT THANK YOU
love when they tell you all their baggage on the first date
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Yeah, folks need to work on that. Shaking my head🫠…
It's an automatic NOPE!
i resonated with this video on a spiritual level. you will never catch me being friends with men. it either turns into them trying to get out of the friend zone or trauma dumping about how no girl likes them. and whenever that happens, i don't reassure them or say it'll get better like i'm not a shoulder to cry on i'm sorry 💀 but shout out to my girl friends out there because i will literally go the extra mile even if we just met in the bathroom 2 seconds ago lol
Welcome back The ALWAYS Punctual Student Amina!!
@@KellyStamps Can't be late to my favorite class!!
I relate to this so much! I wrote on my Bumble profile that I was only looking for friends. This dude and I matched and we kicked it off right away and it was a breath of fresh air being able to talk to someone about Jesus and how He saved me without getting judgement (I became a born again Christian in 2019). I honestly thought we could be friends, but I'd noticed that he'd flirt with me and I would brutally shut that down, but my last straw was two days ago when he did it again and added that he wouldn't apologise for not hiding his intentions. So, I told him to be clear and he said, "Well, this is a dating app" and I kid you not, I blocked him everywhere (I'd given him my number in the beginning cause I thought he was chill). Even when you're clear about JUST BEING FRIENDS, somehow they start scheming their way into a relationship and now I'm done. He wasn't my type at all too, so... nothing was bound to happen romantically. Nothing against him though, I just pray God continues to protect him.
That's sounds toxic lol and I love it.
I just don’t understand how telling a man “I don’t want you” is not enough. I’ve done it many of times and it’s like they push back even harder.
You're a challenge for them to conquer
Try that with a woman. Women hate rejection too they just don't admit it
@@ChillingTales12 True, but in their case, generally women don’t ask so they usually aren’t used to or are able to handle it as well
@@ChillingTales12No one likes rejection but it's men that don't
respect the "No" that women give to them. That's the difference
@@psycherevivedby Which men are you referring to?
Ive learned this as i started working male dominated job. Hes got a gf? IT DOESNT MATTER. Hes married? IT DOESNT MATTER? Has 5 kids and a baby mama? IT DOESNT MATTER. Hes 20 years older than you? IT DOESNT MATTER.
THEY WILL HIT ON YOU
People. Please please please PLEASE. don't think every male is like this. Because they are not. Please have in mind that there are plenty men that are actually good. Keep high hopes and don't put everyone in the same box. Good luck 💕
Exactly
😒🙄
I dont tell men im not interested because i need male validation but because im scared of being unalived
Yeah, but some immature girl does but I can totally relate to you. I give guys my number just so they think they got some thing and then I blocked them because I’m afraid that they might get too aggressive and I’m no fighter. 😪
@@kellykadeyour number leads to many online things & government information why do that
For real, telling a man no can get you killed. That is insane at any time but esp in 2024.
Decentering and protecting oneself from men is my new motto.
I love the ending! Normal male to the rescue! I too have suffered from being too nice to men. If you tell them at one period f time that you’re not interested and months or years, go by and then they just wanna get together for lunch and you think everything’s cool and they understood where you stood in the past. No they come dressed up in a three piece suit thinking they’re winning you over again and you feel like you have to break up with them all over again it’s so frustrating. 😂
Girl. I needed this video. A similar thing just happened to me except the guy is 62. I'm 23.😳 I realized like you said-- that being platonic is impossible!
It’s not just LA, it’s everywhere. And it gets more aggressive as you get older. Welcome to womanhood lol
An older lady witnessed a man drilling me with 100 questions while I looked uninterested. Later when he walked away, she told me enjoy it now because when you get to my age, they stop noticing you. Made me kind of sad. So now I’m grateful as long as they are respectful and don’t proceed to force romance.
@@KellyStampsyeah it's true...men's value usually increases with age ..women's value decreases..(harsh but true)
Be careful with the Christian stuff (there's a reason the church is mostly comprised of divorced Christian women)..waiting on the lord for a man in their 50s😅😅..it's sad to see😐😐
@@jue827 Men *think* their value increases with age
@@em77775it increases w money lmfao
It's usually true if the guy has been working his tail off and is good with finances, and still looks physically fit.
Why do we see older men with younger women all the time? The guy has his stuff together.
No woman wants to be with the broke college dude.
In my experience, gym bros/bodybuilders have been the main types of guy I've encountered that truly cannot take no for an answer and are sooo persistent!! They love a "challenge" which they begin to view you as as soon as you reject them. I had a bodybuilder I went on one date with hound me for months, and a personal trainer I went on a few dates with still asks me to hang out to this day despite me saying no every time. I've never experienced this level of persistence from anyone else.
I avoid those kind of men like the plague...any gym rat type
I wouldn’t be surprised. Some of these men feel entitled to women since they’re in “get shape.” Or considered “the most desirable” to women. At least for what I heard and seen first hand (online and reality).
You have some of the best
intros.This good/ creepy storytime
gave me something to watch; while having lunch. It's great you didn't let said guy, make you uncomfortable. However he definitely seemed to
get more intense;as time went
on. Stay safe;and keep
up the good work .
I’m also very kind to people, including strangers. I’ll smile at everyone, say hi, offer compliments, etc. I’m a people pleaser and a bit socially awkward. That being said, guys sometimes think I’m interested in them and I’m just being friendly. I don’t want that. It’s happened with past male friends and always gets weird eventually.
I have also experienced that men expect something from you after you are nice... it seems that they believe if you pay any attention to them it is a "yes" to pushing themselves into your space and lives. It's fucking annoying. Men usually don't have the capacity emotionally to deal with rejection, and seems to turn to anger, it's what makes women feel unsafe. Thanks Kel..❤
I agree.
Don't act like women aren't like that too. Such bias against men here
Omg… guys really are weird and you can’t be friends with them. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you use to be the girl who only had guy friends and was kinda sheltered. A lot of guys don’t just wanna be your friend and they start stalking or talking down on you.
I'm lesbain and I can't be friends with women either. Maybe it's not a guy thing after all
Kelly, I’m so thankful for your videos. I just found your account recently and you’re a breath of fresh air in my day.
Well thanks for joining class!
AHHHHHH this literally came at the PERFECT time in my life because I JUST now learned that you can’t be nice to men literally last week!!! So so very sad and quiet terrifying, but seriously thank you so much for sharing your story because it genuinely made me laugh and also feel a lot better about my own experience. ♥️
I've also had to stomp down the hopes of much younger men a couple of times. I tried to be friends with one once and told him plainly that I AM NOT INTERESTED. He kept trying to prove himself, I had to be more clear, then he began denying his interest, and finally asking if he could still call me. All indications he was still a baby.
"I'm too old for you" vs " You're to young for me" have different rings to them. No excuse for making you uncomfortable, but I think men, if you tell them I'm not qualified for...reason and you meet what they want, they see it as a challenge. Versus when you're clear that THEY are not want you want, the point comes across.🤷♀️
YEP
I made the mistake of saying if I was 20 I would date you 😂
Took me a while to discover that too. Thank you for covering this topic.
It needs to be studied!
Chile…I have SO many stories I don’t even know where to begin. It is pretty unnerving to be on the receiving end of this type of behavior (especially when the guy lacks a sense of awareness to know when he’s being creepy or not)
I have no stories. I see myself as the man trying to get the girl even though I'm lesbain.
As a man, I can tell you that for young men that there's no such thing as too old. If you're attractive and 40, all is game.
Exactly. All the MILF discourse online comes from somewhere
Exactly if they attractive.. men like “younger women” bc how much a lot of them change and let themselves go. Gain weight and such. Shit women like younger men too. And now that I’m in my 30s I get how easy it would be to “let go”. When I was a kid I didn’t understand why older people didn’t care anymore about their appearance. It was mind boggling to me. But I get it now.
Some guys do feel like that, that's for sure, that is not the majority not even close, hence the topic.
It's not about the exception or the ones who don't care about the age or are into older women, it's about the many others who aren't into that, simply because
they prefer younger women, it doesn't mean "older" women aren't attractive, but for a lot of men it doesn't compete with a
younger women.
It's not like that's a bad thing or a good thing it is just a preference and we gotta live with that.
In the end it's not attractiveness alone that will decide your love life, it might be a major factor to your success on flings etc. but not
in terms of actual relationships.
The men need to heal, and be taught, bc I feel most of them weren't given those lessons of boundaries, expressing themselves as a man, and whatnot
I'm female and I Cross everyone's boundaries and I dont care.
@@ChillingTales12 you should pray about that.
@@misochi5277 Nope I'm good.
Not entertaining male friendships saves sooo much time & energy they were trying to leech off you
Female friendships aren't any better. Drama gossip. It's soul sucking and mind numbing
@@ChillingTales12 Who are you friends with then 😭
@@mrgabe1 No one.
Glucose guardian is hilarious! I'm glad Professor Stamps is safe and well!
girly, you’re late on this one, never be nice to men unless you’re interested. I got a stalker just from being nice 😢
Same
Even if you’re kinda mean, they cannot take a hint
@@TranquilWanderer yes
Same
I wouldn't agree 100% just because I have a unicorn male friend that is amazing and is like a brother to me. But they are hard to come by for sureeee
Looollllllllll
Who's gonna tell her
@@Twozerofivedin due time for her unfortunately
Sure lol don’t get drunk around him
@@Twozerofivedliterally what I was thinking 🤣
Loved your story time! Similar thing used to happen to me. I always looked younger than my age so even younger guys would approach when I was running errands on my lunch break from work. They always had the same line, "Oh I like older women." They would then ask what I'm doing later and I would say I'm going back to work, where do you work? They would start to stutter. I just wonder why young men have time to hang around and try to pick up women. Why aren't they working or going to school in the middle of the day. Sends ends up a red flag for me.
The more I watch your videos the more I realize we think a like. I do agree that men and women do not need to be friends for any reason. It does not benefit one another. Keep up the great videos. It's nice listening to your storytelling.
Being a Gemini is a frustrating, hot mess. But I wouldn’t change that for anything in the world! Be free! 🥰
Ok I must share this story- visiting my home town I randomly ran into a guy I went to high school with that I used to be friends with and have a crush on (at the time). It was a very brief interaction, like hey happy to see you! And exchanged numbers to keep in touch. He went back to Arizona where he had been living..called me to talk to me and we chatted on the phone for maybe 30 minutes. Anyways literally a few days later he shows up in my town in California saying he's moved there. I was like woah, random? But we ended up meeting up for drinks to catch up and he told me he moved there for me/to be with me. And then tried to come home with me because he had nowhere to stay...followed me to my car even though I said I couldn't have him over, etc. I ended up shaking him eventually but it was super creepy!!
Sounds like a hobosexual.
When you started singing shackles off my feet I was dyinggg. You're so funny Kelly!
Just like Kelly, the American health care system was off the (recently torn rotator) cuff when Kelly was unable to navigate the glucose guardian levels of sugary customer service in order to pick the sweetest health care plan that was right for her.
LMAO this is your finest poem yet, Fuzzy
Lady! You are on the road to 1,000,000! Let’s share this video to get her to 1,000,000 followers! I love your content. You are so much like my daughter. Happy to have attended Stampede U for several years.
Thank you!
Sadly this behavior is not unique to large cities such as LA. This happened to me all the time when I used to live in the suburbs of Washington DC. These type of men are everywhere. I’m glad that you had someone there who was willing to deflect him. That doesn’t always happen.❤
Found that out while I was working my old retail job in college. I was showing this male customer where a t shirt was at and we got on the topic of college and I was kind of complaining to him about the college i was attending. And he was giving me good advice and told me to just stick it out. Then he just made it weird after I checked him out talking about what’s your phone number? Like wtf? And I was really awkward and asked him why? He said so you can be my lil friend, you a cute dark brown girl.😩😭. I was just utterly flabbergasted and just felt weird because I wasn’t flirting with him , and my parents wonder why I like to stay in my house and barely have a social life😒. Because people act weird!
Him asking for ur number was wird... ??
@@jue827 the nature of it was weird because I was like working at the cash register and a customer was in the vicinity. I thought I gave out the vibe that I was making regular conversation not to be romantic involved which he was implying.
@@taylorwaylor8965 gotcha..as a guy I would say there's definitely a time and place to shoot ur shot so its not weird...
Ewwee🥲🤮I'm sorry. You were just customer servicing
You didn't get what she meant sir @@jue827
It’s everywhere yesterday I turned down a guy while I was out and his friend got mad and started being rude too me and I just kept walking. They were also very huge as well. I’m 23….. and I learned early guys hate rejection and I was so nice to him I said, “I’m just having a bad night but thank you” and he was very respectful about it until his friend came over there for whatever reason idk
This is true. I was a hairdresser and if I complimented their hair ...they would be bring up their wife or gf and how happy they are. Thinking I want them. 😅😂 I had a couple come back looking for me if I want to hang out. Just goes to show you man don't know how to have platonic relationships with women.
Omg!!! XDDD I feel for you Kelly! It reminds me of my son's dad! We've been long broken up. I let him back in only to try to be coparents again because he wanted to try to be in his son's life after not being there for 3 years. I'd schedule meet ups so they could get re-aquainted, however, he'd also try to invite me to go to the movies and concerts with him, help him pick out furniture for his new place, even talked about giving me a spare key to his new apartment. (He had a girlfriend of 1 year mind you.) I had to explain to him that I'm trying to manifest a husband and I can't do that hanging out with him. He told me he understood, but then tried to invite me to hangout with him and his friend anyway. Not too long after our first conversation, we got in a huge argument. He tried to guilt me by saying that he thought we were "friends." Frankly, I cut contact with him real quick after that (for other big reasons as well). But you really can't be nice to some of these men! Honestly! Thank you for sharing your story!
This is true. For some people, you can not compliment them. At all. Your kind words mean something completely different to them.
Men think any form of eye contact or even holding a door open or a nice shirt that you wanna get with them lmao😂
@@melc4308 smh lol
@@melc4308 you must be pretty lol
I'm lesbain and I would love any female attention
That’s what men do. They go after what they want. They pursue. I think he was just awkward about meeting another human in real life and not online lol and wanted a friend, but I’m sorry you felt unsafe.
He sure never gave up. Legend says he’s still standing there, arms crossed 😂
Props to him being confident/dominant before things got weird
“Glucose Guardian” is wild. 😂😂
Gurl I learned that in middle school. Dudes would act creepy towards me everytime I would just me be nice to them. Trying to touch me a crap
Thr idea of being "just friends" with a straight male is a paradox because men generally show interest in women they have initial physical attraction to. The hard truth.
No seriously because if you aren’t attractive to them you literally don’t exist. That don’t bother.
I'm lesbain and I can't be friends with women either
@@apocalypsgoddess1 I'm not competitive
@@ChillingTales12Then that’s a you problem
If humanity doesn’t like you🥶 I would do some introspection
@@reet7060 Humanity? I haven't met the whole of humanity for all of it to dislike me. You don't even know me.
The background music was the perfect touch to story time!
Girl I am cryin laughing at ur pretend phonecall...why do we do this?😂😂😂...I'm at the gym listening to u cracking UP!
As a man I typically only hangout with women in group settings unless they show genuine interest in me beyond flirting because it usually leads to a misunderstanding. I've had many female friends that I've hung out with 1 on 1 only to turn around and hear them say I was trying to get with them when that wasn't the case. Being able to tell the difference between jokes and flirting seems to have become a very blurry line for them. That said, when I do approach a woman I'm interested in, I ask them out on what is clearly stated to be a date and about 60% of the time it's just "something free" for them while the other 40% is a mix of a successful relationships, rejections, or genuine friendship which is fine. There's too many people in this country that don't understand how forming relationships and romantic relationships work and it shows. That being said don't sh*t where you eat to avoid obviously awkward situations i.e don't give them the time of day.
“Bumble get ready to rumble”… Truth. I LOL’d! 😂😂😂
Some men really cant take no its quite ridiculous.
Neither can lesbians
Oh gosh… one of many stories but this reminded me of a time when I worked at a frozen yogurt shop. I was 18, a freshmen in college and a new hire came in, 15 at the time. Nice kid, but a little too friendly m that I requested to not work shifts with him lol. A few years past and when I was 24 (currently 26 now) he randomly followed me on Instagram and he started messaging me. I didn’t think anything at first and just had small talk. Eventually he would send voice notes and asked me to “hang out at his COLLEGE DORM”. I tried letting him down nicely and he’s upset because we aren’t “friends”. Every now and then he tries coming back claiming he is older now… as if it would make any difference🏃🏻♀️💨
Same, I made this decision this year. Looking back, I noticed male "friends" were only waiting for an opening. If we aren't family, I don't need to be in contact with you, no please.
Not saying they all are like this or every situation is doomed, but for me, NO please, safer for everyone.
Glucose Guardian 😂 I can’t with you Kelly!!
Kelly KELLY Kelly ❤
As a happy domesticated Texan girl, I wish you the best of luck. If you make it big (in the kitchen) I owe you a drink at Chez Fabian in Grapevine.
My husband is 57 and I’m 32. You gotta get what you need out of this life and I love your go get it attitude. Thank you as always ❤
i'm speechless. This is entertaining and hilarious, but irl annoying that it happened. But, yes, Kelly. Thank you for sharing w Stampede University. We have learned our lesson lol
as a male stampede,its so trauma inducing to hear about this,its like every mans cannon event LMAO
Hey! A fellow male stampede! We’re in the audience too🙋🏾♂️!
LMAO
did not know other men tuned in like this fr
@@chrisc1072 sometimes i dont wanna be watching grindset videos,i be watching wholesome content like kelly fr
@@chrisc1072 got to get both side of perspective ya know
Yikes when she said hes 20, i shed a tear
GLUCOSE GUARDIAN 😂😂😂😂😂 I caaaan’t
I had an old childhood friend who is a guy that i texted from time to time, twice a year maybe, in college, just talking about school, life, basic things. I even told him i was dating someone. I thought i was keeping in contact with a good friend. He thought i was flirting with him 🙃 so you think I'm a cheater?? i was really upset and taken aback at the time. Anyways, thanks Kelly ❤
Thank you for sharing Kelly. I’m glad the nice man came to your defense and helped you out. I will always stand by the fact that there AREA nice, genuine, non-weird single young men out there, it’s all in God’s timing when we they come into our life
Kelly is like a Christian Carrie Bradshaw with so many interesting stories 😄. Glad you are safe though.
I went to the store and got hit on by an employee. And I said no I have a bf and I go back in there sometimes and he still tries to talk to me ugh. 💀 It’s annoying it’s like take a hint! I said no, go away lol
I recall a time when I was saying goodnight to my platonic friend after a party when a guy slipped into her car just as she was leaving. Jokingly, she said to me "Are you my brother too?". I didn't know where she was coming from. I told her she didn't have to go. I told her I could be anybody. She said "I know". I never saw her again.
I can’t actually watch right this minute, but I had to come and say the thumbnail is HOT. Thank you for listening. Can’t wait to take this lecture later.
HELLO MY PUNCTUAL STUDENT DENA. I will be awaiting your return 🧍🏾♀️
@@KellyStampsthe same happened to me. hurriedly came to the video yesterday when it was posted then remembered i had a class to deal with first.
"Let's start by going to get a pedicure... I've seen some of your feet!" 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣 Kelly, you're hilarious...😂
I have almost all female friends and I’m married. Even my wife’s friends and sisters consider me a friend. Never flirted with any of them… I still will tell anyone, under certain circumstances, when being friends with the opposite sex, one of the two people consider crossing the friend line at one point or another…
I really related to this story and thank you for telling it. I'm a 55 year old female and I used a have a few close gay male friends, but things have changed around a lot for me in the past 4 years and I no longer associate with a lot of people I have known in the past. This year, I tried to be friends with two straight men - one was 46 and the other 54. I am decent looking for my age but past the point of peak attractiveness so I figured that plutonic friendship with men was possible. I was wrong. It didn't work out with either of them. I'm not sure what it is with guys, but it always turns sexual. Years ago, when I was 39 and lived in NYC, I tried being friends with a heterosexual male and it ended badly. I didn't try again until this year. I thought I would have different results because I am older now but it was still the exact same result. Many (but not all) men will seem to accept when you tell them, "I just want to be friends," but they take it as some kind of challenge or entry point. I have had better luck in my interactions with younger men. I would not want to be a 20-35 year old woman right now.
I don’t have that type of ego to think that every woman wants me.
off topic but kelly youre glowinggg in this video you look like a princess and that purple looks amazing on you
Yes!
Creepily enough, the most creeps I've had were when I was at school...like grown a** looking men. Later on when I got older I just avoided random guys at all costs and it went well (met a nice guy, I'm more peaceful etc.)
“I’ve seen some of your feet” 😂
No matter what modern society says, men and women aren't meant to be "friends".unless he's your husband/significant other. Ninety-nine percent of the time, there is an underlying sexual tension even if there is no obvious attraction or interest. That's why in Islam, interaction with the opposite sex is limited to necessity. If you're not related or married, you shouldn't even be in the same room alone, lol.
Eww What a mindset to have.
@@angeloc7486 Makes life a lot easier in my opinion.
@@angeloc7486 a super toxic mindset
@@amirah2369
“isnt it funny someone can be born in 2002”
-me born in 2003-🥲
Glucose Guardian😂😂 13:31
"glucose guardian" 🤣🤣🤣
Opened the app to a new Kelly video 😭🙏🏽
Just finished watching. Stay safe out there Kelly, that’s terrifying. I have rbf and don’t usually get approached or have any encounter like that.
lmao glucose guardian! Prof Stamps thank you💌
I found my boyfriend through bumble, haha. I think he’s pretty great and we’ve been dating for 3 years but I was probably just lucky 😂
Same :) in my country half of new relationships form through dating apps nowadays
Needed this! People keep telling me that I need guy friends and I'm like naur
Maybe if they're gay? But don't be friends with lesbians they will hit on you
the thumbnail, one of my favs with my other fav I'm all here for it
“I’ve never met anyone like you.” Classic red flag for narcissism, he’s not even subtle!
this nikka said "howdy friend" hahahaha
When I watch your videos it feels like my brain is taking a shower
Teen tried to holla at Kelly😂
KELLY! 😂I dont have time for this girl. Its too early for storytime.
GOOD MORNING
Agree heavily. They have nothing to offer.
Does this mean you won't marry me.😮😮😮
Good, decent men have a lot to offer. I'm a woman and know that for a fact. Maybe 🤔 you have some maturing to do. Trust me, you'll learn, as you age the real importance AND value of men.
@@hopelove1595Well, there are many men who AREN’T good and decent who try to force their way into our lives. So instead of critiquing other women, maybe consider that.
Now imagine if a man said women have nothing to offer…there are bad people on both sides.
Femcel
All the guys at my church are like this and it’s sad. A girl that is friends with my sister and in my group went on a date with this guy that has autism that I sit with at my small group, and to say the least it was a disaster. He said a lot of things that were a little weird and did not read any signs. He would send long paragraphs and stuff. She blocked him but I get it, but I somewhat feel bad for him because he’s got the tism and doesn’t understand stuff.
I find that letting a man down with a thank you, but...and pay a compliment doesn't work. If you are not interested, tell them you are married or gay.
Telling a man you're married : "What your husband doesn't let you have friends?"
Telling a man you're gay : "Need a third?" "Can I join?"
I tried telling a man that I was a man once, and he asked me to prove it...i was terrified!
Males are truly nuisances.
@@NK-df9hf - Ugh, you have a point.
Being gay isn't going to fix your issue.
getting kicked off my parents health insurance in february.... im dreading that😭💀
I once went on a date with someone I met online. He wore sunglasses in every picture. Turns out he had a really bad lazy eye and I could not focus. Worse of all we were at a sports bar with many TV’s.
😂
Naurrr 😭😭😭😭
@ Kelly Stamps I must say, ( in addition to the 2 latest videos themselves ) your signature " throwback style " thumbnails are so adorable! 😊😊😊
Everything is swipe and go to the next one. But its not just men. I had males tell me how women too are hard to find. Everything is so immediate nowadays. Instant gradification. Maybe just not dwell and tell looking for marriage. It will happen when it is the right time. Meditate. Relax. Find comfort in a place. Also a place within.
glucose guardian im dead lol