If one more person tells me to add another reminder to my calendar, I'm going to scream. I have ADHD, too, and one more thing 'binging' at me destroys my focus and is overstimulating. And how many of us (parents) also have neurodiversity? Probably lots. Give me something besides "set another reminder." 100 percent agree on complimenting and shining a light on what they do well. That's worked wonders - and it's helped us focus less on the little "screw ups" like spills and "forgets" because it provides perspective.
I think she's saying you should take this as seriously as anything you would set a really urgent reminder for. It can make that big of a difference in your life to dedicate time officially to play with your child in a "child- led" way
She's saying put it in your calendar. Prioritize it. Set an alarm if that works for you otherwise just prioritize and make time for it as a serious commitment
Extremely useful video... I am v.preoccupied... Working on all that you say...also Read comments... When people share..it makes a lot of difference... Dr. V.thoughtful of you.. God bless ❤😊
Good video. Its hard to speak so generally. I hope we remember that the individual may differ. For example, for some kids, too much praise as a trend over time can be harmful instead of helpful.
I dont think my kid is neurodivergent but i have autism and adhd and im parenting alone. I get disability which is a blessing but im w her 24/7 and have limited transportation so she gets bored on the ranch w me all the time. Im hoping to start a rural homeschool coop so she can make more friends after a move this summer from southern to northern az. I have ptsd and i am not a huge fan of grown ups, kids are cool but the parents are hard. I dont know how to do this and i want to do my best for her. At the same time i feel like everything is for her and i never get a break to rest my nervous system. She is approaching 4 and suddenly refusing to listen to me. As in she will not stop pestering the dog. I try to get her to see how he is responding and try to use the clues to make the right choice. If he is growling that is his way of saying stop. She just thinks its funny and keeps right up. I tried rehoming the dog and noone wanted him. Finally i told her that if she didnt stop then id have to take him to the pound and explained that if noone wanted to give him a home then he would get killed. What am i supposed to do? We are in a one room cabin. I went back to using a star sticker reward chart which just gets out of hand. She wants these dumb plastic lol dolls that are 10 bucks a pop and when she does earn one at the end of the week then she wants a second one. How do i make this work? I totally did just recently try to lean into putting our relationship first by letting her stay up later, which means sleeping in later and having a more relaxed morning instead of constantly pressuring her to hurry up and get out the door. Yes there are mornings that the horses and donkeys and cows dont get fed until 10 am but at least im not constantly prodding my kid which drains my energy and puts me in a bad mood. I dont know what im doing wrong.
Oh, wow. I identify with you a lot. Both my daughter and I have ADHD. She's older now and I can talk and explain to her better but when she was your child's age, I did really struggle to get her to listen. Eventually, I just learned to take the pressure off of myself and her. I relaxed our routine, our bedtime and how productive I could truly be. Looking after a young child is a full time job, neurodiversity makes it harder. You will figure it out. Things will eventually improve.
@moonhunter9993 thanks ive recently backed off both of us a lot like relieving pressure to get up and out in the morning. I had ranch resposibilities over the summer that needed done early because we are in az and thinhs get hot fast but now that its cooler i have pushed feeding time way out so we can have a relaxed morning. I know she wants to go to preschool we are 30 min from town and im not fighting w her to get up to be somewhere by 7:30 or 8 in the morning. I just signed her up for a once a week nature play group and then we can invite others here once a week to come do a homeschool prek coop on the ranch but thats more than what im up for. I appreciate the encouragement.
Does telling them To keep things in its place like shoes work for teenagers.... As kids we parents were working...so couldn't train and didn't know all these problems And Does taking care of oneself mean To keep oneself updated or Keeping oneself wellgroomed etc Pl explain Dr
You always have the choice to make changes in what you're doing. All of these can apply to teenagers too. You may just need to make some tweaks to the language you use so it's appropriate for an older child :-)
I have two ADHD teens - diagnosed as teens. No, not too late. I don't know your situation, but start with decreasing the overwhelm (for example, the "runway"/boxes) or regulating your emotions. Just start there. It's not too late. ❤️
Get the free PDF guide version of this video, with some extra tips, here: doctorjacque.com/adhd-guide/6Z3_CMaTlOU
Guys, I’m telling you, This girl is SO underrated ❤
If one more person tells me to add another reminder to my calendar, I'm going to scream. I have ADHD, too, and one more thing 'binging' at me destroys my focus and is overstimulating.
And how many of us (parents) also have neurodiversity? Probably lots. Give me something besides "set another reminder."
100 percent agree on complimenting and shining a light on what they do well. That's worked wonders - and it's helped us focus less on the little "screw ups" like spills and "forgets" because it provides perspective.
I think she's saying you should take this as seriously as anything you would set a really urgent reminder for. It can make that big of a difference in your life to dedicate time officially to play with your child in a "child- led" way
She's saying put it in your calendar. Prioritize it. Set an alarm if that works for you otherwise just prioritize and make time for it as a serious commitment
Extremely useful video...
I am v.preoccupied...
Working on all that you say...also
Read comments...
When people share..it makes a lot of difference... Dr.
V.thoughtful of you..
God bless ❤😊
Good video. Its hard to speak so generally. I hope we remember that the individual may differ. For example, for some kids, too much praise as a trend over time can be harmful instead of helpful.
I dont think my kid is neurodivergent but i have autism and adhd and im parenting alone. I get disability which is a blessing but im w her 24/7 and have limited transportation so she gets bored on the ranch w me all the time.
Im hoping to start a rural homeschool coop so she can make more friends after a move this summer from southern to northern az.
I have ptsd and i am not a huge fan of grown ups, kids are cool but the parents are hard.
I dont know how to do this and i want to do my best for her. At the same time i feel like everything is for her and i never get a break to rest my nervous system.
She is approaching 4 and suddenly refusing to listen to me. As in she will not stop pestering the dog. I try to get her to see how he is responding and try to use the clues to make the right choice. If he is growling that is his way of saying stop. She just thinks its funny and keeps right up.
I tried rehoming the dog and noone wanted him. Finally i told her that if she didnt stop then id have to take him to the pound and explained that if noone wanted to give him a home then he would get killed. What am i supposed to do? We are in a one room cabin.
I went back to using a star sticker reward chart which just gets out of hand. She wants these dumb plastic lol dolls that are 10 bucks a pop and when she does earn one at the end of the week then she wants a second one. How do i make this work?
I totally did just recently try to lean into putting our relationship first by letting her stay up later, which means sleeping in later and having a more relaxed morning instead of constantly pressuring her to hurry up and get out the door.
Yes there are mornings that the horses and donkeys and cows dont get fed until 10 am but at least im not constantly prodding my kid which drains my energy and puts me in a bad mood. I dont know what im doing wrong.
Oh, wow. I identify with you a lot. Both my daughter and I have ADHD. She's older now and I can talk and explain to her better but when she was your child's age, I did really struggle to get her to listen. Eventually, I just learned to take the pressure off of myself and her. I relaxed our routine, our bedtime and how productive I could truly be. Looking after a young child is a full time job, neurodiversity makes it harder. You will figure it out. Things will eventually improve.
@moonhunter9993 thanks ive recently backed off both of us a lot like relieving pressure to get up and out in the morning. I had ranch resposibilities over the summer that needed done early because we are in az and thinhs get hot fast but now that its cooler i have pushed feeding time way out so we can have a relaxed morning. I know she wants to go to preschool we are 30 min from town and im not fighting w her to get up to be somewhere by 7:30 or 8 in the morning. I just signed her up for a once a week nature play group and then we can invite others here once a week to come do a homeschool prek coop on the ranch but thats more than what im up for. I appreciate the encouragement.
Yes, heard it all before…too many words. I’m ADHD and get completely lost in your words. I need concrete, actual help
I am a Grandparent, how do I help and understand.
Does telling them
To keep things in its place like shoes work for teenagers....
As kids we parents were working...so couldn't train and didn't know all these problems
And
Does taking care of oneself mean
To keep oneself updated or
Keeping oneself wellgroomed etc
Pl explain Dr
I think
It's not to
Procrastinate...I hv become by
Circumstances 😅
Self-care can include many things. In this video, I focused on how letting go of something frees up more of your time and energy, reducing stress.
Ok@@DoctorJacque
Dr
Pl tell me
Does your advice help for
Teenagers?
Or its late?
You always have the choice to make changes in what you're doing. All of these can apply to teenagers too. You may just need to make some tweaks to the language you use so it's appropriate for an older child :-)
@@DoctorJacque
Thanks for your reply 👍
I have two ADHD teens - diagnosed as teens. No, not too late. I don't know your situation, but start with decreasing the overwhelm (for example, the "runway"/boxes) or regulating your emotions. Just start there. It's not too late. ❤️
@thanks shannonhoffman7873
For genuine concern...😊