Homemaking with a newborn
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 11 เม.ย. 2024
- Getting stuff done with a newborn can be a challenge, today I'm talking a bit about division of labor & the postpartum season while I share some moments from the first few weeks after having our new baby!
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I love how bold you are! “Belly sleeping doesn’t cause SIDS vaccines do that”. Keep speaking truth lady. We need more like you!
Agreed!!! I LOVE that you showed him sleeping and you said what you said!!!
I always belly sleep my babies I just made sure their head was laying one or the other my babies alway let in my room until about 8 or more months. I know I was a mom along time ago all my kids are in their fifties. I love my mommy years more than jb in the outside the home. *I was bless to choose how Wanted to raise my babies my hubby help when he was home but I never got him up at night because he work many long hours a day but because I really bonded with each baby when I spend quiet time feeding at early morning before family life got busy each day.
Yesss!!! I was about to say this!!
My kids were belly sleepers too. Not because I believe some conspiracy about vaccines… but because I read the data and made the informed decision. There are no credible sources that vaccines cause SIDS. I’ve been a pediatric nurse for over 10 years with a research background and I have done the digging. Unfortunately, the cause of SIDS is not known.
Amen!❤
I agree with you about mother's immensely important role in her baby's life. I truly hope the world begins to see the significance of motherhood and shows it the respect it deserves. And great tip on peeling eggs!
Me too! Moms don’t get enough credit!
Amen!
Awomen! 😉
Yup!! Full-time motherhood should be celebrated and respected more. Hard to believe that is counter-culture nowadays.
@@thesolagratialife being a mom has been the toughest job of my life but I wouldn’t change it
Congratulations!!! He’s a beauty!!
Thank you for talking about the division of labor. I totally think that if our husbands have been working long hours, we should recognize and value their contribution instead of devaluing and dismissing their efforts. I’m grateful for every time my husband takes time to connect with our kids and I despite his long days. I love that he likes us!😄
What a good point they work hard too
As the oldest of 10, I LOVE big families. Now that half of us are grown and having children of our own, it's even more special. Our get together's are spectacular 😅 Love your videos Stephanie. You inspire me and I appreciate you so much!
What a blessing and how fun to have so many siblings!!
You’re so funny and I love your straightforwardness and attitude! I am in a different phase of life than you, as my children are grown and it’s just my husband and I at home. He has a full-time job outside of the house and I work full-time from home, and also manage the ins and outs of running a household. I agree with your logic 100% regarding, what a woman’s/mothers role is in caring for the home and the children. I enjoy caring for our home and cooking delicious meals and I wish more women in general share this attitude. Your home is your haven and your safe place and you should feel privileged in making it the most comfortable place for yourself… ladies-it’s not an obligation, it’s an absolute joy and privilege to do so! Thank you for your content and you’re very thoughtful information. I hope you have a great weekend.!🌻
Yes you nailed it, it’s a privilege to have a home and family to care for!
I love that you left in the footage of burning the cake and having to redo it ❤ Thank you for showing us real life! God bless you and your family during this postpartum season 🥰
Thank you, we’re living this new little guy so much! ❤️
Oh how I miss the sweet newborn stage. I was blessed to have twelve children, two of whom I had in my 40s (42 and 46). To say that I'm an oddity in today's culture is an understatement, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I was pregnant along with my two oldest girls, and we have grandchildren older than our youngest children. We have twelve grandchildren so far. I truly enjoy watching the younger generation embrace and cherish their roles as mothers. Children are a gift and a heritage. On another note, we love Monkey Bread and you just reminded me that we haven't made it in a while. Time to add it back into rotation. Blessing to you and your family.
Weird.
That is awesome! I just turned 40 and have a 4 week old baby girl while my oldest son is turning 19 years old in a couple weeks. It feels so much more relaxing to have known you already successfully raised one set of kids so you don't have to stress as much the second time around.
@@Kra-ri6fd Yes! Love this! And congrats on your sweet baby girl!
I've been a mom for 33 yrs and I am a big believer in if the mom stays home to raise the children and the father leaves the home to work then the homemaking chores are taken care of by the mom. With that said, if mom works outside of the home as well then chores should be 50/50. There's my 2 cents worth. 😁
Totally agree!
I agree!
@@HopewellHeights Crap
I am 1 of 10 children and my husband and I have 7 children ❤. I absolutely LOVE big families. I love watching your channel! I’m glad you speak truth about all things 💉.
Thank you for your authenticity and truthful opinions! I'm 27, looking back at the birth control that I was forced to be on at the age of 16, against my will and beliefs. Keep speaking out, because girls across the country really need us to.
Yesss!! :)
You are breath of fresh air! Congratulations on your precious new born baby❤️
Thank you so much!!
@@HopewellHeightsyes you are! I like wish you were my actual friend so that I could pick your mind. 😆 I'll just continue watching your videos lol.
Wish I had a best friend like you when I was having my children. I was on the same path as you but most mom’s were not. Love how you share truth.
Each home has its own rhythm and what feels good to that family is good. Babies react to mommas body it's home to them inside and once born. It's a symbiotic relationship which works both ways. It's how we were created
You are right I came up in the 1950s and there were six of us children I can't recall smaller families and I'm sure there were .Some families had somewhat more and my mother was stay at home because thats what women did back then and cooked and baked every meal from scratch and she was a wonderful baker and turned our delicious meals every day.Also the washing ironing cleaning the house I could go on.What a remarkable person she in fact was how I learned to cook from her and every time I make a meal I'm reliving and tasting the memories of my mother!!
What a blessing to have a wonderful mother!
I love your authenticity ! Never apalogize for being REAL ! The World needs more REAL ! Love to Your Home !
I swear I just told my children that I love this woman, while I hear you talk about BC and BF and home cooking ❤😂 I just learned all of this since 2020 because I have 4 daughters and have been a stay at home mommy/home maker since 2011. I was a teen mom and relied heavily on my elders and pediatrician for information and advice about babies. It is like a breath of fresh air listening to you talk. Thank God, I think he sent your videos to my youtube. I was banned on all my other social medias over the last few years and my family treats me differently now that I think for my self and decided to home school my 4 children. Ah well, we won't be understood and the world will have their opinions. I had an emergency c section and tube's tied after my last baby,(I have no idea why but I had an erupted placenta 1 mo premature) and the OB told me I still needed to be on birth control. I told her no of course. All my children loved to sleep on their bellies and I co sleep with and bf my baby. I have 2 un V'd children and it is really obvious the difference it made. Any ways, you're amazing keep making these videos so more mama's can hear this wisdom. ❤
Oh I’m so sorry your family has been unkind, that’s so hard - but you’re doing what’s best for your family and that’s what matters!
@HopewellHeights thank you.. it felt really horrible at first but I really grew into my own person, I grew closer to God and closer to my husband and my children benefit from the over all life changes. God blessed me with 4 beautiful daughters that we have to protect and teach and nourish. Ages ranging from 12-1 yr. Thankfully my husband and I see eye to eye on subjects. That's all that really matters.
I love seeing the slow and relaxed 4th trimester videos ❤ it makes my heart so happy
Such a sweet season, I wish it would last longer they grow too fast!
I'm 3 months pregnant and watching you hold your little baby made me so long for my own! Only a few more months, must be patient! This will be my 5th and I couldn't be more thrilled.
Aww congratulations!! ❤️
@@HopewellHeightssuch a little cutie …congrats 👶
Glad you’re both doing so well ..🥰🙏🦋
Can I ask where you got your lamps in your bedroom? I adore them ❤️
@@zenlife321 thank you! The lamps are from a local thrift shop
I love you and your honesty!!! Belly to sleep is the primary way all my babies slept! And your so right about the cause of SIDS!
Wonderful monkey bread!
Keep kicking butts and taking names!
I would love to hear videos about anything you want to talk about we agree on everything 😂
Division of labor for a marriage included!
I so want to start a podcast so I can ramble for an hour every week lol! Maybe some day!
@@HopewellHeights let us know if that is ever a thing 👀
I think division of labor would be a great conversation!! I NEED it! I’m a 28 yr old mother of two who is also a SAHM that homeschools and cooks mainly from scratch. It is hard and it’s hard not to resent my husband for not lending a helping hand with the kid’s extra curricular activities or house chores. Trust me, I don’t want to argue so I need another wise woman’s advice.❤️ Most of the women in my life are feminist or have modern outlooks so it’s hard to talk to them.
Also, belly sleeping is fabulous! My first didn’t really do it but my second took to it so natural! I didn’t question it much and then I read the benefits and was glad that I listened to my instincts.
Can I just say amen to all of this. I just had my ninth baby in December. My 4th homebirth. Congratulations, you are doing great and such a blessing to your family.
I love your account!! You're videos are not only encouraging and wholesome, but I feel so relaxed after I've watched them. 😂
I think it’s valuable to keep in mind that, in Christ’s time, women lived in generational households where one woman didn’t do it *all.* That continued in some form or fashion until the 1900’s. In the 1950s we got the Protestant notion of a perfect housewife, and that was one woman who did it *all.* Unsurprisingly, those women often ended up taking drugs to cope. We weren’t made it do it all on our own! Bring back the large family units!
Totally! That’s going to take a few generations to recover, but I’m committed to doing my part to be there for my kids in that way!
@@HopewellHeights yes! Us too. Love your channel ❤️
I agree about not keeping score for sure but I will say I think it is okay to ask for as much help as you need from your partner or other loved ones. Raising children is too big a job for just one person!
Asking for help when you need it is definitely a good thing!
Your brilliant!!! All your wisdom is so needed these days. The closeness is so important for the newborns. Breastfeeding is so important for the babies. I'm so thankful for these videos and the fact I can share them to people who need this wisdom. When my daughter gets married and gets pregnant, I will share your videos for sure. Watching you cook and all your recipes is great too. I also agree completely on the vaccines. I'm against all of them these days. Thanks for sharing, and I'm always sending love and prayers to you and your family.
I look forward to your videos. I just think you’re the bees knees. So impressed with you
Wow, thank you!
Hi Hopewell! In many African cultures, it’s common to wrap the belly after birth as it’s believed to help the belly return to its pre-pregnancy size. Just thought to share this lovely tradition with you! Love watching your videos ❤
Oh my gosh, I just love you, I totally love the way you think. I am a grandma of 7 now but when I had my 3 babies I was in the minority and all the woman around me thought I was crazy wanting to be a stay at home mother, it was the best time of my life and would do it all over again maybe even have a few more babies!😍
Hi, I come from Slovakia where we have a paid maternity leave for 3 years. It means the employer has to keep your position for you for 3 years and then take you back. I am thankfull for this possibility as a working mum and just cannot imagine there are countries where the women have to choose between the baby or the job 😐
She and many women here in America choose to stay home with our children and never return to the work force.
I worked as a crematory operator for six years. I was miserable and missed my children. I made the choice to stay home with my children.
Many companies here in America offer maternity leave. Even Walmart. It just isn't law.
My baby is 4 weeks old now and my husband hasn't changed one diaper. My mother in law told my husband that he better help with diapers. I told her I don't expect him to change diapers....that's my job. I know she meant well but my husband works hard to support us and I find this to be my job. I take care of night care also. No need for two adults to be sleep deprived. I bath her, I dress her. He will step up and hold her if I am trying to make dinner and she starts to cry. Or watch her if I need to shower.... I know some people don't see that as "fair" but that's how we do things here. My husband didn't tell me this was my job. I told him that this is my job.
My daughter had her third baby at the end of last August. She is attached to my daughter, so much so, that she continually cries if she is not holding her, or the few times she's not cried when I held her, my daughter had to be right next to me. She went through a time when she wouldn't allow her daddy to hold her, without screaming. I told Elisabeth, my daughter, that this time will pass, and to try to enjoy the time with her, because housework could wait, but this special time with her baby will end. We live only 10 minutes from her, so we often take their other two children. Thankfully, Lily, her baby, has started to ease up a bit, so my daughter can go get groceries or a long over do massage that her husband scheduled for her, and Lily was good with her daddy!
I love how calm you are as a mother and grandmother! ❤
Wanted to add my father actually worked three,jobs to support our family he was a mechanic and spread himself thin he was a wonderful father I was as close to him as any child could be and he always let us know how much he loved us.!
Couldnt agree more! I always say that breastfeeding is the closest you can feel to your baby after theyre born. Its beautiful ❤️
Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us, the controversial things, especially!❤
I’ve definitely learned overtime that the score keeping will cause resentment and alot of it formulates from outside influences feeding the subconscious. Deep in my soul I LOVE taking care of my home, I LOVE making food that my husband and kids enjoy and devour and knowing it’s healthy for us. I resented for awhile that I did the cooking and majority of cleaning because I was surround by influences that told me I should. However I realized I prefer it that way and I allowed my self to accept that it was truly an enjoyable task for me. There’s things I’m good at and there’s things my husband is good at and we just conquer and divide that way. We both have had periods of time where we worked and didn’t work since having kids and we respected and supported each other each time. Our oldest is almost 4 and we have finally in this last year just accepted our non traditional views/ways of living and stopped fighting against what our heart and souls desired for our family and our marriage.
Exactly! Finding a rhythm that works in your home is key, and if it’s not always 50/50 every single day, that’s ok!
I love hearing your thoughts on parenting and big families and division of labor! It’s awful the lies our society has been telling and what has become normal. We just had our third baby and everyone thinks we’re crazy when we talk about having more. I hope more and more people wake up to it and embrace the gifts and roles God created for us.
Thank you for your perspective and encouragement!
There’s no way I’m giving my new baby to my husband 50% of the time 😆 he can hold them for a little bit but I want that baby 24/7, he can help with other things!
Love all your thoughts on large families, lets hope things change and we can make the world a better place. Thank you for sharing all your recipes x
I hope so too!
What a sweet little guy, I admire you. Enjoy your family...I do enjoy watching and listening to you. You could be my daughter. Keep up the excellent work you and your husband are doing.
Congratulations on the new addition! I’m enjoying your videos! Thanks for keeping them real!😊
Oh my goodness, we're so on the same level here. I'm 60 years old and have 4 children and 6 grandchildren. I don't believe in 50/50 parenting either. I'm a traditionalist/practically minded and appreciated and enjoyed my husband and I having different roles in our family's dynamics...equally as valuable as the other.
I have so much to say to you, but it would take an essay! I'm so glad your channel was recommended to me by TH-cam. Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby 🥰
So true! Egalitarianism is so overrated. Complementarianism is God's best design. Equal in dignity, value, different in functions... it's beautiful if you really think about how traditional gender roles serve something bigger than your individual selves and benefits multiple generations.
Congratulations 🎉 Such a sweet, beautiful baby! Enjoy!
I love your way of caregiving.its,wonderful
Gosh, we agree on so much! Congrats on your baby boy ❤️
Love your honesty!!!
Fantastic channel! Love your approach and I so appreciate your lifestyle. Kindred spirits.
your videos are so calming, your type of home and family life is what i strive for, and your videos always help remind me i can do it
I love your videos, they comfort me so much! It makes me know im not alone.
I love love love little babies! God bless you!
I enjoy your outlook on things ❤
I do agree on helping your partner doesn't matter what it is. I stay home and homeschool and do things here at home while my hubby works. I wasn't able to have any more children due to health issues. But I'm not sure that I agree on the birth control that you mentioned cause I have had mine in for many years now and have had no issues I feel fine it did help me with periods it did help me with my face breaking out and more. But anyways your little one is so adorable congrats sweetie.
My birth control helps me control my PCOS. I agree with your assessment. There are negatives AND positives for almost everything. I'd much rather a family rely on birth control than have kids they have no mental capacity or monetary stability for raising. Life is expensive and can be hard. Children deserve a life with no fear of basic necessities being met, physically and emotionally.
I love your tangents! I guess because we are very like minded. Kim
Watching you but the wrap on brought back so many sweet memories with my 2 babes as I loooved my wrap and so did my babies! Can’t wait to wear one again soon with my 3rd 😊
You have truly helped me understand and be successful with sourdough! I have made several of your recipes so far and am most definitely trying the monkey bread! Looks amazing!😊
Your videos are always such a blessing for me ❤ That 🐒 bread looked absolutely amazing 😊 Your honesty and wisdom are appreciated 🙏🏻
So happy to see you ! Baby sounds amazing. I’m also happy you are resting darling
I love seeing you back with the new baby. He is really lovely and you are looking great too. I'm working on garden beds right now too so I appreciate the link for the above ground beds. 😊
Love this . Precious baby
thank you for the wrap tips! I'm definitely going to use them with my next baby.
The monkey bread and deviled eggs look amazing! I’ve been in a rut and you have inspired me. Thank you for sharing and congratulations on your new baby. ❤
I love your channel, you are such a fantastic mother, wife and homemaker. Your knowledge is fantastic and I wished you would do pod casts as I would love to listen to them. Thanks for the tip of how to take the shells off of hard boiled eggs easily, thats so cool.
Congratulations on your beautiful baby! My 13 year old and I loved your content and are very appreciative of your approach to motherhood and homemaking. 🎉❤
Congratulations on your beautiful baby boy❤
Absolutely love you and your boldness to speak the truth. Your channel is definitely one of my favorites. Your precious baby is beautiful ❤
Priscilla here! Your little man looks like you. Congratulations on the birth. You look great.
Thank you! ❤️
I absolutely love to listen to your thoughts ! I was cleaning the house listening to you and oh my… I absolutely love your personality. It makes me smile. Thank you so much for your TH-cam channel, your recipes, your advices… you are a wonderful woman. I needed to say it. 🙏 Love from Belgium !
We purchased birdies raised beds. 20 of them! Can't wait to assemble and get them going so I can grow in them! I love how you parent!
Thank you for being so blunt and so honest!! I totally agree with the birth control!!!
Love you and the truth you speak. God bless you and your family 🙏
13:03 your little guy’s appearance on the counter in the cowboy hat is just so stinking adorable!
Also, kudos to you for being so bold and couldn’t agree with you more!
I love your channel! I agree with you 100%. You are an inspiration and great role model for women every where.😊
What a lovely boy! Congratulations! ❤
I am due in july with my 5th kid, it's also a boy - so looking forward to hold him after seeing you with your baby! ❤
You and your husband are so cute. So nice to see. ❤
I had our 6th little sweetie on March 31, so I feel you on all of this. Just have to go with the baby flow. ❤ Love your content. Thanks for sharing.
I love your rants... Agree with them all! 🙌
This is my second video watching from you and wow 🙏🏻 bless your heart and truth!!!!!!!!! Love how you are spitting the fire of truth over here. New subscriber and can’t wait to see more! Also have decided to not vax my children and as a sahm I’m just finding myself living so joyfully as God intended us to be. Love your courage to speak on such things!
Such a great role model and influence. It’s been great to follow along in similar pregnancy times! Due for my 2nd in 1 week so it’s lovely to see a lil newborn 🥺.
I hate that you have to explain yourself for your own opinion though! Thank you for sharing relevant information and being an amazing and worthwhile influencer/content creator.
First, CONGRATS on little man!! Secondly, THANK YOU! for keeping it real. I have been into Sour Dough making for only a year, but bread baking for many... and have BURNT many. Lol! You live and learn. I have been a mom now for 38 years, blessed with 3 healthy boys! (belly babies as well)💙🙏I do this and work full time. My husband helps me tremendously, as we are both hands on inside and outside. I would LOVE to have a large homestead, but instead, I homestead on our acre or so land. I am now in the making of a beautiful backyard orchard, adding both fruit and regular trees, shrubs and flowers along with raised beds. Just wanted to say I love your videos and look forward to them. xo🤍
The baby looks adorable ❤
Thank you for talking about the 50/50 argument. My husband works 12 hour shifts, sometimes 24 hour shifts in the military and being sleep deprived is not safe for him. I'd rather take on a majority of the responsibility of child-care so that he can safely get to work and return home to us. Especially since I plan on EBF, it can't be 50/50 cause there's no way for him to do that XD. The score keeping is so illogical if you're supposed to be a team. Would I like for him to watch our baby once in awhile so I can go take a shower or a quick nap on the weekends? Sure. But that's not going to be the standard for me. I see so many SAH military spouses wanting to "turn off" motherhood once dad gets home from work and "be themselves" and have him do the childrearing "equally", but that's not what God created you for. You don't get to be a mother when it's convenient to you. Your videos give me a lot of assurance as a FTM that my decision to stay at home and take care of the house is not crazy or selfish like a lot of people these days say.
I think being a stay at home mom is one of the nest gifts you can give to your family. I am a veteran and so is my ex-husband. I had my two oldest kids while in the military. I regret that I wasn't a stay at home mom then. My working full time effected my kids mental, spiritual, and physical health. It effected my health. And I am sure it damaged my marriage. I am now remarried and just had my first daughter 4 weeks ago. I am a full time stay at home mom and the difference between this experience and raising my boys is night and day. I wouldn't trade this for the world. Others can think whatever they want of you but you are truly the wiser one. God bless.
I love your honesty. I too believe the mother should be the one who takes care of the baby. My husband was very supportive of my decisions and helped me in many other ways.
I always come for the recipe and stay for the hot takes. Love to hear your opinions Stephanie, it’s really opening up my mind. I caused myself alot of suffering post partum with my first trying to “do everything right” and it was so unnatural. You’re a breath of fresh air
I really love your views on life! 100% accurate!
Also love watching your videos. So fun! Thank you! God Bless ❤
I can't wait until I'm in this era ❤ I've taken so much inspo from you already!
Congratulations on baby boy❤bless you and the family
Thank you!
Yup, raised beds are great 🌸🌱
Agreed! You’re a breath of fresh air to this generation Steph! LOVE hearing what you have to say…. It all needs to go back to how it used to be X
God's blessings on you and your family - your channel is so helpful, encouraging and uplifting. When God is in it it's always good!
To each their own and whatever works for you love ❤. I am happy you found a way of mothering that speaks to you. I love your recipes! Xo
So glad to see the new little guy you give me some hope thank you. Second you are absolutely gorgeous. My costume in my picture was for my four year old daughter....will you please link your other storage jars I keep looking for them and your mixing bowls and don’t know if I'm looking at the right ones
A mother of seven here. Wraps were not a thing in my day… I can’t say that I would have ever used one if they were. It seems foreign to me. But I did learn to cook one handed really quickly. I always seemed to have a baby in the arm while cooking with the other. Or at least put them in a swing right near me in the kitchen. I couldn’t nurse well so I was very grateful for my husband who would take weekend night duties with the babies if he didn’t have to get up early for anything. Otherwise it was my responsibility to take care of their little needs. He works so hard to support us otherwise I never demanded anything out of him. But when he volunteered I was always grateful! I agree about belly sleeping. All seven of mine were belly sleepers. I agree that is NOT the cause of Sid’s at all. My husband helps me make our bed every single morning! And monkey bread is my family’s favorite as well!
Thank you! It is so wonderful to see a Godly woman dedicated to her family. I have great admiration and appreciation for you. Congratulations!! On your new little man!!!
Thank you for sharing everything in this video - postpartum, division of labor, baby sleep, food, and large families. There is so much truth to what you said but most people on the internet are afraid to say it out loud.
We have 4 children and I find it so awful when people ask “do you not know what cause that?!” I cannot wrap my head around the rude comment. Children are a blessing from the Lord. Congratulations on baby #5!
My mom had 9 children, and when we went to any family gathering, she made A LOT of food. Her sister in-law had 6 children and I specifically remember them always just bring a watermelon to any family function! I'm 61 years old, and still remember that! My mom grew and canned it froze most of our food, so I appreciated that she made every holiday and picnic special, by making delicious food from scratch! Yesterday, I made my grandma's banana cake recipe. It makes a huge, dense, moist cake! I always think of family when I make a family recipe.
Love your honesty and I agree re SIDS 🙏
Congratulations 💐💐💐
Have you tried putting them all in a pan at the same time and shake a few good times then all the shells comes off works great!
I would love to hear your thoughts on cosleeping and when to transition if cosleeping!! Love listening to your channel!! People make life so complicated in short I love that you give it to God fully!
Another great option for cooking hard boiled eggs is in a pressure cooker. Cook for 3 minutes then take out & put in cold water. The shells fall right off, we eat a lot of eggs here & I do this all the time now. Great video as always girl, so love how your sharing the correct history of babies, child birth, vaccines etc. My husband & I are empty nesters of 6 kids & have 3 in heaven, love seeing more large families come out of the wood work so to speak!!😊