She got "News Attention " bc she was on TH-cam & had a following already. That makes sense and this story is making me cry. The News stations choose to ignore missing and abducted people therefore the public isn't away of most cases. It's not like they don't care about people who are missing.. The MSM hides how many children go missing & ignore Child Trafficking and the question is why? Currently the Biden Administration is engaged in child trafficking.
Doctor Chris is a very intelligent man FairPlay to him He explained what he knew and no lies whatsoever!! Rest in peace gabby you were a good looking as any high up model because you were just a very good looking young lady Sad that you parted so young but not your fault gabby !! For ever young girl,,
After learning about Gabby's death, I got myself and my pup into a domestic violence shelter. I left an abusive relationship that left me with brain damage. Leaving was the best thing I ever did. Rest in peace Gabby.
@@emira5009 thank you. It was the best choice I ever made for us. And a lil over a year later, I am now married to a wonderful man and I'm pregnant with our baby boy. My pup is with us and very loved. Thank you. God bless
Yup, Gabby's death helped countless women find the courage to get away from abusive partners or see all the patterns & red flags, warning signs of a toxic manipulative abusive man, god bless.
@ko7577 Shouldn't be so sure. Life after death is far from disproven, though we've no idea what form it would take other than what we hear from those who have died temporarily.
I got a domestic when I was younger. My ex boyfriend threw me around and hit me and I sucker punched him and got him right on the bone beneath his eye so he had an instant bump. I was Told there’s a mark on him I have to go!! It is the law!!! I never had any issues with any other man. He was abusive and the one time I stuck up for myself I went to jail. He even tried to drop the case bc he knew I didn’t deserve all this stuff but the state picked it up bc it’s a domestic. Most victims don’t report their abuse that’s what I was told. State will take over even if y’all want to drop it. That’s Florida. I’m actually in the same county as Brian’s parents. I wish it would have happened here and NOt in Utah. Florida doesn’t mess around.
It's unfortunate that the hero's efforts to save her were squashed when the cops bromanced Brian with - Yeah, my wife's crazy too. Let me get you the hotel room so you still know where you're little woman is (back in the van instead of protecting Abby by putting her in a safe place overnight, except there would have been a bigger risk of him stealing her van and abandoning her - better than killing her! Those cops failed!!!)
@@supportvawa2213 you can’t pin this in the police. Sooner or later even if he was arrested or her , they would get back together and he would attempt to harm her
@@Karamelaki very true - the police can't control other people's choices. However, in this specific situation, the cops validated Brian which gave him a boost in getting away with abusing her. In general, in domestic violence cases where a woman files for a restraining order on her abuser but then drops the charges, that gives the abuser the message - I'm getting away with abusing her! And then the abuse amplifies. The cops failure in this situation, compounded with their brotherhood of all men vs those crazy females energy gave Brian the same message. So you are correct. I'm not pinning the blame on them for her death. I'm just pointing out how extremely wrong they were to subliminally encourage the abuse.
The most charitable thing I can think of about Laundrie is that he had all the insecurities of an adolescent, and at age 23 he was still far too immature to be in this sort of a relationship. In his suicide note he still couldn't bring himself to take the responsibility for it. That's spoilt child syndrome
He probably got tired of her coming back. And because she kept coming back, he didn't want to cross contaminate "dna" from another man. Girls night out aint nothin nice
except that if she goes out drinking that likely makes her erradic behavior worse and he didn't want to have to deal with her coming home like that "she was the aggressor" "she hit him first" 'he may have been trying to defend himself' they're asking HER if she intended to hit him and hurt him, and if she said 'yes' she is under arrest for domestic violence they put HIM in a hotel next to an abuse shelter
What her friend said at the end was so touching …. “Gabby will do everything to bring the light out in you, and if she can’t, she’ll give you some of hers.”
Unless you are "bummer boy". Why was she with him if she didn't like his personality and had to trash him and go find a friend online to have fun with?
@@mr.mclibtard5015 That is a huge lie. Stop telling lies about a person you don’t know.She was in a controlling situation with an abusive controlling abuser who killed!!! She was not the controller. If you knew anything about abusive situations you’d know that!!
The amount of people in these comments saying that Gabby Petito's story could have been their own... is frightening. We live in a really scary world. But for what it's worth I'm happy you all are still with us. RIP Gabby.
In my opinion that’s why Gabby’s case gained so much attention. As someone who was in an abusive relationship in the past I felt that could have been me.
I was in an abuse relationship. Kept making all the excuses in the world. We need to teach people what relationships look like. Love doesn't hurt. It's the opposite. I'm glad he was arrested for bank fraud, I may have never gotten out of that relationship. Glad we didn't have kids together. 20yrs later I wish I wasn't so dumb in my 20s.
Gabby looks so sweet and kind, hearing her speak in the videos reflect that. This case just sticks with me… my heart breaks for the loss of her. She did not deserve any of this. I can’t stand Brian’s parents.
If only we searched for all missing the way we did for her. They found 9 bodies of other missing people while looking for her. Makes you wonder if we searched that hard for everyone how many less missing people there'd be. Glad they found her and she didn't remain missing. 9 other families finally got answers too so 10 families got answers in that search.
Yes, even dog the bounty hunter got involved. I'm sorry for what happened to gabby. All missing people/children deserve that kind of attention. I can only imagine what families of the missing that have not been found feel about the media attention that was given to gabby?
Well if they had over 2 million followers " that actually WATCHED THEM DISAPPEAR" ,and reported them missing. AFTER A POLICE STOP" they would be found too. Let's not act like " they only looked for Gabby and NOONE else. Her people went hard for her. That's why she was found
@@kaydubya6347 out of all the people saying that you shouldn't be talking at all.... yeah her family went hard for her but there are other factors that played into it to why her case blew up besides her being influencer btw...
@@joannemarquez2085 Dog got involved with finding the perpetrator of a local Moab couple that was murdered and missing, Kylen Schulte and Crystal Turner.
I dated a guy like him. He was so nice but sometimes he would get mad and when he did, he changed in a way that was hard to describe. It gave me chills and my gut said I had to get him out of my house. I kept saying “no, he’s ok he’s just upset, don’t overthink it”. But Vibes don’t lie. If someone scares you, get away from them even if they’re the “nicest person”.
Yep. You must be glad that you didn't stay with him. If the hair stands up on the back of your neck, RUN. Also sometimes little red flags. My sister's boyfriend got mad at her because she walked out of the room he was in, talking to someone on the phone. That romance didn't last much longer. The way Gabby's boyfriend took her ID to prevent her from going to a bar was really possessive and controlling.
@@Tangga1boy01 Love story of a lifetime does not normally contain anger and a gut feeling to get out of it. Even a marital contract and love or children should not neglect that. Way too much domestic violence and kids growing up in dysfunctional families to keep ignoring things.
When Brian was talking with the Moab police, he offhandedly described Gabby, the woman he supposedly loves, as "crazy." Any time a man nonchalantly or laughingly describes his highly upset wife or girlfriend as crazy, that is a clear sign that he has so traumatized and abused her for so long that she is reacting in ways that show that trauma and abuse. Abby was a victim of narcissistic abuse and all the signs were there in both of them. Narcissists are charming, engaging, disarming, and tremendously manipulative. They know how to frame any situation to their advantage and bring others into assuring their desired results. I've lived this and barely made it past him alive. When a narcissist makes accusations, they're actually confessions. May we all learn from this as we live longer than Gabby did.
This is what Brian said when the first officer walked to the driver's side window."I I I (just) don't want to defend myself here by saying anything but I pushed her away. She gets really worked up and when she does she swings and she had her cell phone in her hand so I was trying to push her away."
They will rile you up on purpose just so they can say you're crazy or to show to others how unstable you are. And people not knowing what's been done to you often believe them.
considering they broke off the engagment before this trip, I'm going to guess that whole "in love" thing didn't work out. try again. these videos really bring out the dumb and crazy,
Exactly what happened to me on the road home to Florida from New England with my boyfriend but he left me in Virginia & now I am safe… same week in August 2021
Her story actually saved my life. My ex strangled me and abused me for years and then I saw her story on the news and someone said women who stay with men that strangle them are 8x more likely to die at the hands of their partner. I was on the other side of the world with my ex at the time and I realized if I didn't leave and fly back home to my family I would be another Gabby . I packed my stuff and ran away. 1 year later I met the man I married and we have a beautiful family and he treats me like a princess. Comparing my treatment from my ex to my now husband I realized how brainwashed I was and how much hatred my ex had for me and how that wasn't love at all but a life of slavery and abuse. My ex always tried to get me back and begged me to stay and promised to change and I fell for it every single time. But he loved the control he had over me , he didn't actually love me. I realized when I met my husband now my self worth and how I deserved better and happy life. Running away was the best decision I ever made and it's because of Gabby's story. I felt I saw myself in her eyes. I knew I would never had a happy life if I stayed and he would never change. I was ashamed of being abused but found it impossible to leave because I was so dependent on him living abroad away from my family. I wanted to prove to my family that I could make it anywhere and was ashamed to tell them I was dependent on a man that was abusive. When I finally asked for help to fly back home my family with open arms and unconditional love were there every step and I couldn't be more grateful. Her story will always haunt me because it's sooo close to home for me.
Thank God you got out of that situation that many don’t. You should be very proud of yourself. I’m happy that you are safe and with someone who treats you well. God Bless
For all of you brave Ladies who walked away from your abusive partners, after watching Gabby videos. Wow! She would have been so proud of you all. God bless you and keep yourself safe
@@LoveMyKidsAndGod Please don’t wait for God to come to your rescue? He’s not coming. God wants us to get out of our bad situations on our own! Most abusers use all kinds of manipulating tactics, to keep women prisoners, in there own life. You have the keys to your freedom in your pocket. You just have to get the strength to get them out and use them, to free yourself. Women stuck in abuse relationships remind me of criminals that sneak up on women in parking lots and threaten them with violence if they don’t do as there told. The weak women obey and usually are murdered. The strong women scream, and the attacker flees! Why? Because they don’t want a strong women that wants to defend herself, they want the weak minded ones. So don’t be weak!! Speak up and get out of there!! The odds are, he will eventually stop contacting you, especially if he’s found another weak women to manipulate! Right now YOU ARE THAT WEAK WOMEN!!!
I know they will never see this but I want to say thank you to the man who reported the dispute, I'm sure they were heart broken when they learned of her death but they honestly did the best thing
I always think of the cops that interviewed the couple when this case comes up. They broke the regulations on DV encounters. How do they feel about their lack of action?
@@I_AM_TEMPLE Gabby and Brian didn't live there, so the police couldn't have held either of them for more than 24 hours. They were separated for the night, there wasn't much else the police could so. There was however a female Park Ranger there on the scene who had given Gabby her card and told her that if she wanted to talk in private, to just give her a call. Gabby never called the Park Ranger. ---It's just Really hard to save people sometimes when they're given a golden opportunity, and they don't respond.
I freed myself of my ex husband. For years I lived an abusive life for the simple fact I was so terrified of him. I was so afraid of him, that I was afraid to leave. He controlled my every thought and movement. One day he choked me out unconscious THREE times in front of my daughter. Three times. Because I did not have the laundry done on time for him to have fresh clothes for the gym…he left for the gym eventually and I left him for good. My daughter and I are free 😭😭😭😭 we are free 😭😭😭😭
OJ was called on multiple times for abusing Nicole, the police were familiar with it. She'd come running out screaming, from behind the bushes. One time for not having his dinner ready as soon as he walked in the door, another time for leaving her shoes out, and for gaining over 7 pounds when pregnant, yes seven.
The victim of domestic abuse ALWAYS tries to protect her abuser. The abuser ALWAYS blames the victim. And she comes to believe it. It’s called GASLIGHTING.
1 time out of 10, a hysterical tearful woman standing next to an extremely calm and pleasant male partner is simply a dramatic/hysterical woman. 9 times out of 10, a hysterical tearful woman standing next to an extremely calm and pleasant male partner is a victim of narcissistic abuse. Period. The “calm” partner is usually the abuser.
Even if they had arrested Brian or Gabby, they would have still gone back to each other. Remember, Gabby told the officers that she and Brian were a team. They were consenting adults. It’s horrible what happened to Gabby-do know that getting out of abusive relationships are extremely difficult.
@@admiralkrankandhismightyba158 Totally agree. The police were obviously trying to give the kids a break. DV charges affect future employment and can cause a variety of other lifelong problems. Shoulda coulda woulda. Hindsight 20/20 and all that.
Gabby's case helped me get away from my abuser. Rest in peace sweet girl you are forever loved 🙏 ****EDIT: TO THE PEOPLE COMMENTING THAT GABBY WAS THE ABUSER, PLEASE GO ELSEWHERE WITH THAT IDIOTIC BS*********
@@thegreatone11 that's an interesting source of inspiration. Would you mind chatting about the details of your testimony, if you are comfortable? What changes did you make in your behavior?
She was stating she was hitting him. Ohhh right she was taking the blame for him. She had more than ample opportunity to zip back to her parents when they put him a hotel. Did she? No!! She was right back with him posting on the internet in the next fews laughing it up.
Twist things? She gave her statement to police FIRST. Was Brian supposed to lie and say she didn't smack him after she already admitted to it? She was acting a fool while he was driving to the point he was running over the curb and he's the narcissist? Yeah okay 👍
@@adriannavarro2536 she hit him first because he told her to "calm down". She's an insane person. Brian might be too....but she admitted to domestic abuse.
I really hope that Gabby’s parents win their civil case against the Laundries and their lawyer. I escaped an abusive relationship years ago, and it is heartbreaking that Gabby wasn’t able to do the same. Rest in peace Gabby. 💗
No good can come from suing the police or his family. Neither are responsible for Brian Laundries actions. I know her parents are hurting and want some kind of justice, but unfortunately that isn't possible and I hope they lose their lawsuit. All these frivolous lawsuits ultimately harm this nation, and slowly and gradually serve to eviscerate liberty and freedom (in concert with a lot of other horrible corrupt acts/ actions/ laws/ tyranny/ treason).
The police has nothing to do with it. Accountability is what’s missing in today’s society. Brian killed her. That’s it. Stop trying to blame every other person who did nothing.
Having been in a abusive relationship, this whole thing just makes my guts churn. I hope young ladies learn from this, her family, the police, and his parents.
Why do the young ladies have to learn? Why can’t men be held accountable? Both her abusive boyfriend and the policemen who could have saved her - but didn’t.
@@stairwaygoddess what did you want her to do? She gave the hand signal for DV as well. And she confided in 1 close friend. She did enough. She should be here.
@@deltabourke1005 That's complete bull. 15 seconds before the stop she was punching Brian as he drove, she's suddenly "afraid" to talk? Why would she have to give a "signal"? They were completely separated and she begged, almost demanded, that they not be separated. She behaved as a typical female abuser with her tears, baby talk and anything else to control law enforcement. Gabby wasn't afraid of Brian, she was afraid of being alone. That's why she lost her marbles when he suggested a "breather". They should have arrested her.
Gabby's story helped me finally leave my abuser. I'm so sorry this happened to you I know you helped me and countless people not share the same fate. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@@jenniferb2763 nope they didn't. They saw him hit/push her. But according to gabby she started the physical altercation & eyewitnesses saw him hit her AFTER she started assaulting him.
Well, she was murdered, which gives us extra information. It is very predictable that domestic violence victims will lie to protect their abusers. That being known, professionals need to be able to ignore the words in these cases and look at the actions critically. You can look at different signs to get a full picture. And sometimes you can’t tell, but there are certain indications. If you look at different trainings online for professionals,, you can see that scratches at the face are typically defensive wounds. And grabbing someone’s face like that is a warning sign. If someone is trying to hurt someone, a natural reaction isn’t to scratch the face. But, let’s say they are being held down or strangled, they are going to try to get that person off of them. Scratching the face or hands is how they can get them off. So, those types of wounds are suspicious. EVEN if the person is saying they started it, you ignore them, because you already know they’ll lie and size up the situation. Now, you can’t assume things 100%c but if you see certain signs, it can direct your actions to accurately determine the question. With how common domestic violence is, the training should be provided. Body language is important, reading between the lines is important and that kind of toxicity shouldn’t be minimized. Two people called the police because they were concerned. They were swerving the car. I mean…. That’s dangerous. These police seemed really nice to me, just not trained. The police were VERY helpful when I was in a domestic violence situation. I was already at the point, where I was getting help. But they came multiple times to allow me to get myself and my kids out of the house safely. They didn’t write reports, he didn’t get in trouble, but I don’t know that I could have gotten out without them. I mean. I couldn’t have. I guess I’m just saying is that if you know someone saying it’s their fault can actually be an indication that they are the victim, you’ll take that information differently.
I can't help feeling an arrest in Moab would've amounted to nothing. She may very well have still stayed with him and fallen victim another time. He was such a dropkick
If the cops had actually listened to the 911 call they would have known she was in danger. What good is the call if they don't hear it??? Lousy police work. They have blame.
@@shannag4161so what does that have to do with what I said. The facts are one file went missing. They found about a dozen people looking for her. They weren’t looking for those people.
@@coolchoicebro Yes. In the 2001 case Ohio v. Reiner, the U.S. Supreme Court held that "a witness may have a reasonable fear of prosecution and yet be innocent of any wrongdoing. The [Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination] serves to protect the innocent who otherwise might be ensnared by ambiguous circumstances."Dec 29, 2021.
@@sr2291 that law saved what could have been a 15 yr sentence to 1 yr in the county bc I was INNCOCENT but not innocent at the same time I was in fear for my life and did what I had to do to get away from him and made myself surrounded on purpose. He was following me in the car I took to get away with a shotgun!
If her family missed the signs, and her friends missed the signs, and Gabby wasn't saying anything--you can't blame the police. The people closest to her who knew her best didn't do anything (or weren't aware of what was going on); how can you expect the police to evaluate the history in a 5 min stop on the road? Tragic ending; the abusers and their victims are often the only ones who really know what is happening.
The police stopped them for domestic abuse and tried to play cool. "Oh, it was just a kid that hit his girl, he just lost his temper." Wrong! He was an abuser that became a killer short after the police stopped them. And don't forget the horrible job that the police did AFTER he came home alone. He escaped from his house under surveillance and the police missed it!
@@MartineH1 being under surveillance doesn't mean you can't leave the house. He was a free man at that point. He could have legally left the country and police couldn't have stopped him.
What kind of man hits a woman? He was so much bigger and stronger than her. An abuser is typically a Narscissist. He groomed Gabby through gaslighting her that she was the problem. His parents would have seen it, she didn't live with her family with him but his family are possibly Narscissist also. My parents would have turned us in to try police if we killed someone or broke the law.
I was trapped in an abusive marriage for almost a decade. I never once cheated, I never physically harmed him, and I never even screamed at him. And yet, like Gabby, I always found myself taking the blame. I always took the fall. People just don't understand the phycological impact that abuse has and how it can trap and change a person.
yes because they begin to systenatically run off any one who loves you, parents, siblings, friends, then they isolate you furthr like by getting you to move awayfrom your family or go on a tip where no one knowswhere you are at half the time. They will hack your phone, intercept mesages, email, real mail to stop people from staying in your life until they give up, thinking you are ignoring their efforts intentionally. They at the same time begin being crueler & crueler to you, lil bit by lil bit but always usingexcuses like I dranktoo much, or it's mydad's fault he beat me that's wy I'm a nut when drink too much or they'll just deny what happened , happened. They'll be lying, hitting on your griends, family even to run them off, they'll steal from your family, their family, work if they work, while charging thousands to credit cards they stole or that belonged to their last victim, or even new credit cards that they've used your info (they copied down from your wallet while you took a bath, or slept or...) to take out cards in your name & charge on them. You won't suspect such a level of 2 faced, rottenness that these kind of people operate in all their lives, in pursuit of their addictions & their hedonistic selfishness. TThey have no conscience, they never regret the misery inflicted on their victims because hey aretoo busy feeling sorry for themselves, for no reason. But they hook you good then slowly keep pushing more and more boundaries, to get you to put up with the inexcusable, forgive the unforgiveable and do for them, alays not caring what they do to you. The more you take, the harder they will work to destroy you.
Was with an extremely narcissistic fiancée when her story dropped A year later, after trials and hurt and a year and a half of abuse, Im safe and away. Gabby’s story touched so many people. Rest In Peace Angel. May the Coward burn for what he did to you.
You are the coward for sticking up with an abuser for a year and a half no offense, but truly you guys make no sense it's like you like being abused or something. It's very odd behavior
@@JesusGodHolySpirit3with someone who has Jesus and God in their username, you sure don’t exhale that “christian kindness or not judging others.” Shame on you☺️
@Drey Anastasio Because Gabby was swinging and hitting him to the point of injury while he was driving and she admitted to hitting him first. She said she was trying to get him to stop telling her to calm down. The police were behind them with their lights flashing. These were Brians Injuries according to the Moab Report. Gabby left scratches and bruises on Brian. The bruising and bleeding was from her hitting him with her phone _while he was driving_ From Investigative Review of Aug. 12, 2021 Petito-Laundrie Incident in Moab Park Ranger Ryan Kral, points out scratches on the left side of Brian’s neck, left side of his nose, scratch near the center of his face, and bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head. Officer Robbins finds an additional injury on Brian’s right bicep/tricep area. Brian said he was not in any pain, and that he "wasn’t complaining.”
There’s a petite girl crying hysterically in your backseat trying to take the blame and her boyfriend is over talking to your partner “cool, calm and collected. Those officers must not have any sisters
@@timnorris6287 Somebody should take away your access to the internet because you have no respect or empathy. I feel bad for the people that live around you, must be awful
The police officers failed at their jobs! If they would have locked them both up since they both had scratches and bruises, Gabby could be alive today!😡
Her best friend put it perfectly at 2:30 "A lot of couples look nice on instagram." Social media is the perfect place for someone to pass themselves off as normal/innocuous at the surface.
I followed this case very closely as it was unfolding & I was absolutely devastated when they found her. I've endured alot of abuse in my personal life & I felt so much pain for Gabby. I was her age when I was involved in my first abusive relationship & I finally walked away from the guy after he almost shot me one night; He was tweaking on meth & he thought someone was breaking into our home. The bullet flew over my head & went into the wall behind me. While that was a wake up call at that time, I ended up in another abusive relationship when I was 29 & that relationship/marriage went on for 12 years. It destroyed my life & I'm now a 42 y.o. widow fighting to take my life back. To all of you young men & women who've experienced abuse (in any form), please understand that you deserve so much better. Unfortunately, most people don't change for the better & no matter how much you love them, no amount of love is worth losing your life over ❤️.
I’m single and have been through abusive relationships with men who are not emotionally there now I’ve been spending time with God…(lots of time with him) and it’s been refreshing.
I was with my abusive ex the same exact time as this case was going on. I finally left him November 2022. Everything is even harder when you have zero support system, nobody who cares about you, not even family. I have tons and tons of trauma to be healing from.💔😖
@@HayleeFox15 sending you love and hugs. You are your own happiness no one can change that the key and lock are always in your hands however much you maybe freshly New to your ownself of freedom and independance finding. it may take time but stay focused on you, it shall be well. I was in a relationship for two years and it's taken me three years to get over it and feel myself and confident again. Give yourself time it's not easy I know but your happiness and a healthy mind is better than anything. Hugs dearest
I married a narcissist. The crazy-making they do to you is almost indescribable. You know something is wrong, but at the same time they have manipulated you to think it’s your fault. Any time you speak to them calmly, collected, to address a problem, they escalate the discussion until you snap-and then they blame you for being the one to lash out, therefore “proving” their, abuser’s, point that you in fact are the problem.
What scares the crap out of me is that this was my first marriage. The abuse, the cries for help and no one saw it. After 22 years I was able to get out. Thank God.... but this brings out so much fear in me of what could have been!
I was also in an abusive marriage. I remember ringing my Nan and asking for help, she had a spare room and I hoped to move in with her. She said "it's a shame he doesn't hit you as then you could go to a woman's refuge".... 1 year later I left him and rang her and said "I'm coming to yours, I've left him. I have nowhere else to go.". She was lovely and helped me for a few months. Now, I'm in a wonderful relationship and moved almost 1500 miles away to North Europe and am back in university. My ex tried so hard to destroy me, he failed. I'm flourishing thanks to my amazing current partner of 5 years.
@@craigime Don't know about her, but yeah I did, plenty of times. Every time the police arrived, my ex was calm and collected while I was tearful and emotional. My mental instability and my part in the altercation was used by my ex to convince the police that he was the patient long-suffering husband of a neurotic hysterical woman, and that me to going to jail would only further exacerbate my mental illness. Each time they left, he was no longer percieved as my abuser, but rather my protector, and I would end up apologizing and thanking him for saving me from being arrested. So many people have no idea how domestic abuse batters the victim's psyche, or what a cry for help sounds like.
The smile he has when getting out of the police car at the hotel is sickening. Knowing his narcissistic charm worked once again. The whole situation was so sad all the way around.
@@sr2291 He could have flown back home the next day and gotten away from her if he really wanted to.. except he had nothing and no life without her, and was living off of Gabby.. the guy was a narcissistic loser and killed himself because he knew he murdered the only person who really loved him. His whole ‘mercy killing’ story was such bullsh!t! But just proof of the narcissist he was and that he couldn’t take responsibility or blame for murdering her.. but tried to play the hero 🙄 It wasn’t the first time he strangled her, Gabby said that he did it that day to the police, which is why she hit him.. but she was trying to cover for him.. it’s what victims do to lessen their abuse
Gabby’s story helped so many other women and men get away from abusive and toxic relationships. I remember being upset about it and I immediately knew it was the fiancé. He looked suspicious and his family was protecting him, I bet they bad mouthed her. Brian is an abusive, toxic, and a narcissist. His family is no better and deserved to be charged as well.
It feels like couples/people who are always posting happy moments on social media outlets are the ones that have hidden toxic lives and noone knows about the darkness until it is too late. Such a young joyful spirited young woman gone too soon.
I think about Gabby often. I lived walking distance from her Mom in a nice town on Long Island and have a child born only a few months away from Gabby’s birthdate. I grew up in an abusive household and saw daily what happens. We all lived day to day hoping that our worst fears would not be a reality but, at a certain point, everyone just knew the worst thing possible had happened to this beautiful, young woman. I feel especially sad that when my child has a birthday, I think how yet another year is passing that Gabby’s family would not be celebrating. 💜🙏🏻
Law enforcement separated them and he went to a hotel. She has the van, the keys, and the van is in her name. If she decides to reunite the next morning, what more could the officers have done? If they had “issued a citation”…that wouldn’t have done anything to stop this tragedy. If they had arrested either one of them, they would have bonded out the next morning and same result. There’s not always someone to blame for our own bad choices, as unfortunate and unfair as that may be.
Any time for her to get to think about this, determine whether Brian was the right guy for her, to talk to her mom on the phone, to do anything may have changed the course of this. An arrest should have absolutely been made - the thing they didn't show was the body cam footage where the officers were talking about "crazy girlfriends" with Brian. Their own misogyny was a factor, too (which isn't really surprising when you find out the rate of domestic violence in police households). Regardless, no one will ever truly know. But I'd like to think they could have set things on a different track had they just arrested one or both of them.
@@alteredcatscyprus they were over 18. I don't think legally they could call their parents. Maybe they could have offered resources to both of them for domestic violence. Maybe she would of called ..
I was in an abusive marriage in my early twenties. When I saw the video of Gabby (in this video at 19:21) when I first heard she was missing, I knew she was being abused. Her face is smiling, but her eyes are full of pain and sorrow. I lived this way, too. Everyone thought I had the perfect marriage. I never told anyone while it was happening. My heart breaks for her and her loved ones.
You can’t live like you are in a movie 😢. I wish kids would understand this more. Keep a tight community of safety and protection. Friendship is a product of that community. Documenting things excessively makes even the author forget reality when looking back. Your life is way more precious than looking like you have a perfect life. Stay safe everyone. 🙏🏾
@Jane Smith. I totally agree with your statement. I think that Gabby was receiving subscriber funds to help support her adventure. She had to post the Van Life so that they could gain more subscribers and support.
"You can’t live like you are in a movie" Tweets, facebook posts, and youtube videos are the "movies" of our modern time, and the Internet is the modern day "Hollywood". In a way, Gabbi is the Marilyn Monroe of our time. In the end, Brian and Gabbi got exactly what they wanted. They became internet superstars, though perhaps not exactly in the way they wished. Fame always comes at a price.
The police officer who sent Laundrie to the motel and gave Gabby the vehicle was, I believe, hoping she would leave and go home. He could not force her to do this. She would be alive today had she made that choice.
Yes, I'm sure you'd punish him very much for not chasing you headfirst off an emotional cliff. I'm sure he's very happy and not at all aging like milk.
And to know that they found so many other dead bodies in searching for Gabby, although her story ends sad, it sure helped a lot of people. Especially the ones who got out of abusive relationships! Rest in Paradise Gabby ❤️
Who goes to paradise? There's this collective socially accepted RIP philosophy that if you die a certain way you go to heaven. I'm not saying she didn't, but you can't say she did. Jesus said unless you are born again you can't enter into the kingdom of God. Without looking that up, ask yourself, how do you become born again.
My point is exactly, I can't say she went to heaven or not. I said rest in Paradise which means rest peacefully! Regardless where she went, please don't comment under my comment talking about stuff that will start sh*t! Move past my comment and read along. I'll never get it understand why people like you do this stuff!
I agree, but its not always shown in Violence. A toxic person is always a Narcistic Person, we should learn those signs and not have a realtionship with those who re toxic cause they never love, those toxic people only control, blame, shame outhers, and need the outher person so much that they manipulate them to stick with them.
Schools? That's tough at home. If a man is abusing me and I let it happen, what kind of message will I be giving my daughter and my son? That's ok for a man to hit a woman and a woman to hit a man? I try really hard to understand why will anybody allow a partner to hit them, specifically when your kids are witnessing it all. It is unacceptable. I offered help to a friend that was being abused and she refused all my help. She loved that man more than herself.
Hate to say it but Gabby’s family blaming police is ridiculous. They knew the couple MUCH longer, they had FAR MORE opportunities to intervene, to realize this was a dangerously toxic relationship. But they want to blame the police for not realizing this after just meeting them? Sorry but there is clearly a sense of guilt that they are projecting onto others.
I completely agree with you. One hour spent with this couple by the police is supposed to solve an abusive relationship that had been going on for quite some time. Didn’t the parents see any of this? If they didn’t see it how were the police supposed to see it? Everyone always wants to blame everybody else.
I don't think I'll ever forget her or her story. I lived in a DV for 13+ years with my ex-husband and I know the pain of loving a man with all your being, seeing in him the 'Good' and thinking if just this, that he'll change or he truly was sorry this time. In the end, I had to take both our children and run leaving everything and everyone behind. I was blessed though because it was his parents that ultimately helped us disappear and through an amazing Judge who helped us change our names, SS's and sealed our records. He is dead now and we're finally free after living in fear for 20+ years. I pray that Gabbie's story will encourage others living in a DV situation to see it as it is and find the courage to choose life over being imprisoned by a one-way love.
Wow! Glad you and your family are safe and okay. It was really _his_ parents that helped you guys? I didn't know that the courts/legal system go as far as changing name/locations except in major cases requiring witness protection. can you explain more about that? I am truly just curious. Thank you very much.
Everyone’s blaming that cop but I think the cop did the best he could with the information he had. He seems like a cop that’s not just trying to ruin people’s lives. He did separate them for the night. And it still happened. People are like “well he should’ve arrested one of them” ok you really don’t think it would’ve happened later? This was gonna happen. Their relationship was too toxic
You fail to understand that rates of domestic violence are highest among law enforcement. Far higher than the population at large. There are clear red flags & warning signs that cops should be aware of. And while yes, there can be women abusers- literally 95% of the time it is the males. For anyone who has any experience with this- the red flags were BLARING that Brian was full of 💩. The cop, as nice as he sounds- clearly IDENTIFIED WITH BRIAN & made it personal.
Yeah everyone playing Monday quarterback like they know best is troubling in society also Gabby would’ve be the one that went to jail in the footage and experience I’ve had and would of just hooked back up about the same time if not earlier. Sad story though for sure
@@liligh not taking it seriously? He tried his best to not ruin either of their lives. He believed it was just a normal young couple fight where both weren't able to control their emotions, which resulted in slapping, etc. He would have definitely considered the fact that they were young, engaged, with a huge future ahead of them. Making an arrest would obviously ruin everything and he didn't want that. That's why he thought: maybe separate them for a day, let them cool down and hopefully they will work things out. It's a perfectly reasonable response. Unless you make it a hard and fast rule to immediately arrest anyone who laid a hand on their partner, you will always expect such response from the cops. Cuz it's human tendency to not want to ruin relationships
I don't know how Brian's family could have kept silent. My God, your son just killed someone that you had living with you. I understand you love your son, but he took an innocent life. Why would you want to protect someone like that? They should have a lot of guilt and I hope they get punished.
My thoughts exactly. I know my parents love me, but if I told them I had killed someone I am pretty sure they would call the cops on me right then and there. Which is what they SHOULD do!
@@amina-pr8xtthere was a letter in Brian’s mom’s possession that eluded to his crime. It said to burn the letter after reading, but it wasn’t burnt. Talked about in the end.
I agree and his parents should have told him to turn himself In. I expect that he told the same story to his mom as he wrote down. That it was an accident - she hurt herself and was in agony and he put her out of her misery. I hope his mom will contemplate every night on her son with a bullet through his brain - because she did not turn him in when she had the chance.
The police officers must feel so bad. The fact that she's trivializing what he did and making herself look like the bad person is a classic sign of someone who has gone through the abusive cycle.
They need to be retrained, and PRONTO! Condolences to the family; It's peculiar to me, that knowing a woman's slap can't ever be as FORCEFUL AS a return slap by a MALE...wasn't even addressed.Somebody needs to send a few "compassionate " police officers back to grade school, to learn how to make appropriate DECISIONS; if they didn't understand the concept of domestic violence! And OUNCE of prevention could have prevented POUNDS of their decisions! SHE gets the keys to the VAN, whoopie do, a single female is to continue driving ALL ALONE, while HE gets a ride to his hotel room, compliments of the police department ? SEND HER AND THE VAN TO THE HOTEL providing HIM shelter, and pay for TWO rooms and a SECURITY GUARD. WAS MONEY an element in their stupid decisions? You protected the WRONG person, and blood is on YOUR hands now! "Man on the Run"
Her situation reminded me so much of mine. Abusive marriage for over a decade. Broken bones. Being raped. times where I was convinced... this is it... I'm going to die. I had nothing. Too scared to leave. It wasnt until my childhood grade school sweetheart literally helped me escape. Got us a place. I was still stalked but it thankfully stopped after a few years. I'm 33 now I've been free for almost 4 years But I'll forever broken, nasty teeth. An ugly smile. from abuse and never will I be able to afford to fix it. So it's a constant reminder. It sucks. But I'm free.
You are so sweet. I JUST started establishing my credit shortly after leaving. It's been a few years I escaped. So I will hopefully have good enough credit soon to get care credit. Thank you for caring and giving advice. It means a lot. Truly.
Thank you for sharing. Many young girls and women read these stories and choose to stay single instead of being with narcissistic men brought up by a patriarchal society. People need to look up narcissism. And people need to support people choosing to stay single. Too many narcissists and psychos out there.
He was jealous of her because she was so beautiful, vibrant and talented! she will always be remembered while he will be completely forgotten!! That’s Justice for our GABBY ❤️
No, it's because women these days believe there are no guard rails in relationships and believe they can do whatever they want when they want and then wonder why their SO gets upset about it.
Shame on Gabby’s parents for blaming the 2 officers and trying to destroy their careers. The officers separated them, provided a hotel room, and begged gabby several times to tell them if she is ok. They were extremely professional and sympathetic. She admitted to assaulting the boyfriend, had no marks on her, and the boyfriend’s story matched up. Blaming the 2 good officers for their daughter’s deletion is disgraceful. Here’s a tip: how about not allowing your daughter to run off with a bald creep in a windowless fan across the country? I hope the officers still have careers and are keeping the public safe, despite gabby’s parents doing their best to destroy their lives. RIP Gabby
I was abused by a girl for about a year, as a man its very hard to admit a girl half your size was abusing you. She was always lovely in public but at home she was pure evil. People I tried to talk to never really believed me including family until I left her and the abuse escalated. This is very sad I can understand how it escalated. If my ex was twice the size as me I would be in much worse shape now
@@coccinelle8888Thanks, Im married now to a lovely lady and we have a beautiful family. The psychology involved in an abusive relationship for anyone who has never been in one is hard to understand especially if you actually love the person which is even harder to understand. Im lucky now my wife and I don't fight and hardly argue life is much easier when you get along and let each other have fun.
You know it takes a special kind of stupid to come to the conclusion that Gabby was a domestic abuse survivor! There was zero evidence that he was abusing her that day, and her own words saying exactly the opposite that she abused him. He had signs of being hit on his face and arm she did not. She said "I was being mean to him because I have ocd and was upset". Everyone sees a crying emotional pretty young girl and immediately looks for a man to vilify for it, and it is absolute bs. Notice how they never asked any of his friends about his character or family telling stories about what kind of person he was before all of this. It's possible he was the one being abused by a girl with unrealistic expectations, and a compulsive personality disorder. One day he snapped and did something awful. I'm not saying that is what happened, but there is more evidence to support that than her being a chronicle battered woman.
I know I'm not the only one to feel this way: I took one look at Gabby, crying and cringing and making excuses for Brian, shifting the blame onto herself and trying to absolve him, and I knew _right then and there_ he was abusing her. Because that's what people who are abused do, they try to defuse the situation so that they won't be punished later, in private. Brian's mother is absolutely vile.
A female police officer spoke to her and gave Gabby her phone number in case she wanted to talk in private. Apparently, she never called the officer and got back together with Brian the next morning.
Please--she did everything but say “I’m making all the excuses I need to take ALL the blame so he won’t be angry at me. I MUST take the blame!! He MUST look good or I will pay for it”. Why could everyone in America see this but not the police officers?
Condolences to the family; It's peculiar to me, that knowing a woman's slap can't ever be as FORCEFUL AS a return slap by a MALE...wasn't even addressed.Somebody needs to send a few "compassionate " police officers back to grade school, to learn how to make appropriate DECISIONS; if they didn't understand the concept of domestic violence! And OUNCE of prevention could have prevented POUNDS of their decisions! SHE gets the keys to the VAN, whoopie do, a single female is to continue driving ALL ALONE, while HE gets a ride to his hotel room, compliments of the police department ? SEND HER AND THE VAN TO THE HOTEL providing HIM shelter, and pay for TWO rooms and a SECURITY GUARD. WAS MONEY an element in their stupid decisions? You protected the WRONG person, and blood is on YOUR hands now! "Man on the Run"
No person should be high fiving police during a domestic violence call. No person should be completely comfortable and confident during a situation like that. Any person with a conscience would feel a lot of shame and nervousness. It makes me really worried that the police men had to get "additional training" to be able to see this
That would be my ex! He told me how the sheriffs who arrested him told him that he’s a great guy and out of place being arrested. (I’m sure this was all lies.) But definitely a narcissist will be showing everyone else what a “great guy” he is. This is why it’s infuriating to the victims, because he fools everyone else.
One of the police officers in that traffic stop was accused of DV by his wife so not shocked that they all felt comfy with each other, just a couple of abusers hanging out atp.
@@rebeccawoolfolk5377yes because she was crazy 😂 it takes some kind of crazy girl from Long Island to think they can just get up and go on a cross country road trip with zero experience.
@@gophukyurselvs3621Then why didn’t he leave? In all footage, why is she the one constantly apologising? Why is she the one who has clearly been tormented? Take the hint within your own username.
Unfortunately even with an arrest or citation it wouldn’t have changed a thing. The two would’ve got right back together as soon as he got out a few days later. That’s how those relationships work
They could have recognized the signs of abuse. When you know the telltale signs they’re painfully obvious in that video. Gaslighting is called crazy making. The issues are also bigger here. We need to reevaluate the very definition of abuse. Emotional abuse is often Mini Ed and carries no consequences for abusers. It needs to be part of the conversation. It is where it starts.
It’s nice to hear from the people who knew her best. I have a daughter about the same age, and Gabby´s story hit me so hard. I’m heartbroken for her parents.
I live locally to the laundrie house, didn't know them - but it's spooky to think I use the same infrastructure / stores, beaches, trails, etc. as gabby & brian : (
The worst part of this is that this issue is only being addressed as a “woman’s problem”, that we need to teach our daughters how to avoid being a victim, and how to get out of the situation. When are we going to address teaching our sons to never do this at all??? It takes two, people!
I don't think verbally telling your son not to do this would prevent it, there are much deeper implications such as childhood trauma that form abusers.
@@trevthegamedev As I said, “teach.”. We as a society need to teach children that it’s okay to ask for help and then provide it. It is not okay that the police at the roadside thought that this young woman was just a bit overwhelmed and that it was okay for the young man to say “she’s crazy”. But I understand your point as well. Thanks for your input.
@@msk4795 I appreciate your input too, but I do have to disagree on blaming the police here. These are standard officers who handle all sorts of calls. I think only a high-level detective would have been able to know she wasn't telling them the truth. If I were them with the same knowledge they had, I highly doubt I would have known either.
@@trevthegamedev And again, I said to teach our children (nor did I blame the police here), so then the police will have learned before they become adults. Plus it is a sad thing that you would not have known, while just about every woman watching cringed (trained or not) when he called her crazy. I think this just makes my point, don’t you?
@@msk4795 I'm afraid not. If a person with their level of training and the knowledge they had hears the man say the woman is crazy, and the woman apologize for "being so mean" and admits she "hit him first", then I think the logical conclusion is that they're telling the truth. But I'm not sure what that even has to do with your initial point, you said we need to "address teaching our sons to never do this at all". My point is that our society already makes that clear with the laws and the general sense of morality. Abusers are formed from bad upbringings that cause issues deep in their subconscious mind, not a lack of teaching against this sort of behavior.
Gabbys parents knew she lived in Florida with Brian in his parents home. I dont understand this innocent plea. She was an adult and thats what she chose. Its sad that this went tragic and spiraled but they all played a part. All. So many lessons to watch and learn.
A big thank you to Gabby's mom for fighting to get police better trained in understanding the hidden dynamics and the obvious involving domestic abuse. Poor girl was traumatized and overwhelmed. His mask fell off and he got her isolated, she saw behavior there wasn't enough time to put into words..She suddenly felt her world turning upside down and he probably kept oscillating between nice then cruel, gaslighting and manipulating. He was wearing her down while she was trying to grow.. Perhaps the scenes of them being pulled over can be used to promote education to officers across the nation.. RIP! Gabby Petito
The question is really why did mom not pick up her daughter's distress, but asks the police to do so, who are complete strangers. I talk to my daughter on regular bases and I know when there is stress is her relationship.
LE isn’t in the social work business. If there’s no crime involved, why should cops get involved unless the abused person requests their help? I abhor what happened, but Gabby was an adult and had options. If she wanted help, all she had to do was ask. Not even LE: Anyone would have intervened in her defense. Blaming the troopers for not being clairvoyant is irrational. There wasn’t admission or evidence of a history of abuse. If she had even posted a complaint online, it would have constituted proof of the problem. If it was one fight of only a few in their relationship, is there grounds to charge someone with domestic violence? When troopers separated them in Moab, she had the opportunity to drive away and leave Brian in the motel. She clearly didn’t feel threatened. The Laundries are all at fault, but Gabby’s mother is pointing fingers.
@@jimbrown9817 The Laundries aren't responsible for what transpired between two consenting adults. The question isn't if Gabby was the aggressor, the question is, why wasn't she arrested after the cops determined she was the aggressor?
@@emersonmanning6523 The Laundrie parents could, in a certain light, be considered accessories after the fact for conspiring to deliberately conceal a capital crime. Personally, I don’t want cops busting people on he said, she said grounds. That’s why red flag laws are such a slippery slope. Gabby should have told them that she felt threatened and had reacted accordingly, and then left with the van.
My husband's abuse was carefully and cunningly curated to look, feel and appear to everyone around us like love and safety. It started when I was 15 and he was 21. Fast forward to April 2023, my last straw was his confession to sleeping with prostitutes that were likely human trafficking victims for over a year. I still had to build up the courage to leave and get my babies to safety. In the process, my husband became violent and I had no choice but to defend myself. Days later, he told police I assaulted him. It took months for the leading prosecutor to finally see that I have been his victim for 27 years. He's still blaming me for his choices because he lost the person he loved to hurt the most, but I am officially "No Contact" and raising our youngest son alone without any support from him. I'd rather die a thousand violent deaths than ever spend another moment in my husband's presence. I'm only holding off on the divorce proceedings until I find out if they're going to charge my husband with perjury and falsifying a police report.
This is a lesson to any young people. If a man this much older than you is pursuing you as a teen, this is NOT NORMAL and is not okay. They are not a good person and are after you because you are easy to manipulate, they do not want a partner on equal footing. Run far away
Her apologizing over and over in the body cam footage proved to me she was a victim of abuse as I did the same thing with my ex-boyfriend.. Truly saddening he took her from this world she seemed like a truly amazing human being
Yes! The only reason I didn't out the sexual predator who abused me two years ago was because he has text messages where I blame myself and apologize to him over and over for reacting in an angry manner.
I saw his manipulative trait at the ‘traffic stop.’ Being a former abused victim, I learned abuse, separation, isolation, manipulation, body language, & many other signs. The officers should have noticed some of those things. Brian ‘pulled’ the officers right into ‘his’ side. One officer ‘high 5’d’ him. And Brian smiled the majority of the time with being in the presence of the officers.
Brian made a deal with the cops that if he went to a motel room paid for the women's shelter they would not arrest her and give her the van keys to drive away.
You're projecting. It's impossible to see the facts while projecting. The red flags were coming from Gabby, particularly her continued attempts to control Brian. Victims don't do that, abusers do. He looked thankful for the separation.
@@alisonchaplin8641 Men usually cover their anger and hurt behind a false veneer because it's not manly to act like a female and cry. You can see that Brian was having a hard time admitting that she was swinging and hitting him.
This story is so haunting, not only because Gabby’s spirit touched so many, but also because there are so little answers. I pray that the family finally gets the answers they deserve.
It’s easiest to blame others & think if “someone” just did something! ( like in the case of the police & they not arresting either Gab or Brian) when I watch Gabby, I see me. I was in my teens & met a 30 something man who promised me the world & even though I was abused by him, I married him anyway. To make a long story short, when he was good he was wonderful but when bad you never knew what would happen. I covered up for him all the time, saying that I ran in a door, I fell down, etc, etc. I would leave him but always return because he made me feel that I needed him, we were soul mates & this is what happens in relationships & I believed him. I finally realized that he may end my life & I got out for good but not until I was in my mid twenties (I suffered many years & still do from the aftermath) there is no doubt in my mind, that if we lead the life as Gab did on the road, I would not be here today! For all who are in an abusive relationship, this is not normal. Get help, get out before it’s too late!
So you say "For all who are in an abusive relationship, this is not normal. Get help, get out before it’s too late!", but yet you admit, "met a 30 something man who promised me the world & even though I was abused by him, I married him anyway"? So you don't follow your own advice?
I agree 110%, I left my abusive relationship two years ago, it was really hard for me because I was so "in love" with him. And I was in that relationship for almost 5 years. I was abused, controlled, lied to, cheated on and I was only fooling myself thinking he would change, thinking he'd stop being mean. And I found myself lying to myself and everyone around me, just seeing what was good and staying so blind to all what was bad and I started hating myself and finally I just woke up one morning and starting planning to leave him. Because I knew if I didn't I would die by his hands or worse. But I did it.
@@unmalo2768 She eventually left her abuser. She's trying to give advice to other women based on her life experience. No need to be so cold and callous.
I left, and now I look back at all of that and look at it as I wonder why I stayed as long as I did. I was only being tortured. It was pure agony and now I live a peaceful and free life and I wish all those that are in a situation like that to get out and never look back.
No matter how well or often I hear Gabby’s story, it always brings tears to my eyes. So senseless is this heartbreaking loss. All prayers for her family and loved ones. Always.
@@brendanbloomberg3283 F’ em. The least they could’ve done no matter who’s side your on is answer Gabby’s parents calls when they didn’t know where their daughter is, & they didn’t. They don’t deserve any sympathy whatsoever
Even if the police arrested Gabby that day, the two of them would have united again. They were together, miles and miles away from home and they only had each other as support. Whether or not this would have prevented an ultimate date with fate, that being the demise of Gabby, no one knows. This guys parents need to be thrown in jail for harboring a criminal, why this hasn't happened yet is beyond me.
i agree with that viewpoint of yours . you go back to the abuser way too often. 15 years for me then i left, even my children were begging me. three times in an abuse shelter. now my life is amazing. thank you Lord!
My 47 yo abuser dropped dead of a sudden heart attack and at 31 I was suddenly free. My 7 yo daughter and I could rebuild our lives without him. I met the love of my life a year later but refused to get seriois because he was newly divorced. I said your divorce was final the day we met date other women fpr a year then we will see. I was in l9ve with him but with so MUCH as stake my daughter, ME, my mew fou d peace of mi d I wasnt abput to jump right in. He didmt date other wpmen nut didnt pressure me and he moved in a year later. He was a great step-Dad still I t9ld him I couldnt ever remarry I depserately meeded the idea that we chose each other every single day anew. And we did...for 41 beautiful years together he passed away peacefully in his sleep at 80. I was so lucky.
Gabby’s facial expressions and emotions were totally different than Brian’s. Red flag. RIP sweet, sweet Gabby. Angel, so beautiful, adult life just beginning.
It's called Narcissist self victimization. Go look it up. They cause physical and or mental abuse and then cry and whine and complain about their victim.
@Shaunna L The FBI was in possession of the letter and closed the case with no charges filed. We must remember, these are allegations being made by the attorneys paid to represent the Petito's, whom, himself admits he doesn't know when the letter was written. I seriously doubt we are getting the full story and lawyers have been known to take measures to taint a potential jury pool. He released supposed "details" that could have waited for trial. Strategic....
@@emersonmanning6523 Didn't it say she called a lawyer a day after that call with Brian, which would have been over a week before she was known to be missing? I'm all for innocent until proven guilty, but there's no reason to contact a lawyer if you aren't aware that there's a situation even happening. 😕
@@Emobunneh None of us know when they called their attorney and none of us know for what. We can speculate and assume all we want to but these are allegations being made by the Petito's, the Laundries have yet to speak. Any why should they unless forced to? Nothing they say will quash the angry mob.
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She got "News Attention " bc she was on TH-cam & had a following already. That makes sense and this story is making me cry.
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Doctor Chris is a very intelligent man FairPlay to him
He explained what he knew and no lies whatsoever!!
Rest in peace gabby you were a good looking as any high up model because you were just a very good looking young lady
Sad that you parted so young but not your fault gabby !!
For ever young girl,,
After learning about Gabby's death, I got myself and my pup into a domestic violence shelter. I left an abusive relationship that left me with brain damage. Leaving was the best thing I ever did. Rest in peace Gabby.
I hope you are okay. I wish all the best for you and your pup.
@@emira5009 thank you. It was the best choice I ever made for us. And a lil over a year later, I am now married to a wonderful man and I'm pregnant with our baby boy. My pup is with us and very loved. Thank you. God bless
@@whatabreeze i am so happy for you. It gives me hope.
I am so proud of you. I hope you, the pup, and your new family are doing well
Yup, Gabby's death helped countless women find the courage to get away from abusive partners or see all the patterns & red flags, warning signs of a toxic manipulative abusive man, god bless.
the fact so many others saw this story and got away from abusive relationships, i'm sure gabby would be happy that at least her story helped others.
Didn't help Gabby tbh
@ko7577 Shouldn't be so sure. Life after death is far from disproven, though we've no idea what form it would take other than what we hear from those who have died temporarily.
She was the abuser don't be fooled
@@Toejamfootbal wow, didn't knownvictim blaming was still a thing
How was she the abuser?
The caller reporting the domestic dispute is the true hero. Most people would be ignore it or “mind their own business”
He was slapping her.
I got a domestic when I was younger. My ex boyfriend threw me around and hit me and I sucker punched him and got him right on the bone beneath his eye so he had an instant bump. I was Told there’s a mark on him I have to go!! It is the law!!! I never had any issues with any other man. He was abusive and the one time I stuck up for myself I went to jail. He even tried to drop the case bc he knew I didn’t deserve all this stuff but the state picked it up bc it’s a domestic. Most victims don’t report their abuse that’s what I was told. State will take over even if y’all want to drop it. That’s Florida. I’m actually in the same county as Brian’s parents. I wish it would have happened here and NOt in Utah. Florida doesn’t mess around.
It's unfortunate that the hero's efforts to save her were squashed when the cops bromanced Brian with - Yeah, my wife's crazy too. Let me get you the hotel room so you still know where you're little woman is (back in the van instead of protecting Abby by putting her in a safe place overnight, except there would have been a bigger risk of him stealing her van and abandoning her - better than killing her! Those cops failed!!!)
@@supportvawa2213 you can’t pin this in the police.
Sooner or later even if he was arrested or her , they would get back together and he would attempt to harm her
@@Karamelaki very true - the police can't control other people's choices. However, in this specific situation, the cops validated Brian which gave him a boost in getting away with abusing her. In general, in domestic violence cases where a woman files for a restraining order on her abuser but then drops the charges, that gives the abuser the message - I'm getting away with abusing her! And then the abuse amplifies. The cops failure in this situation, compounded with their brotherhood of all men vs those crazy females energy gave Brian the same message. So you are correct. I'm not pinning the blame on them for her death. I'm just pointing out how extremely wrong they were to subliminally encourage the abuse.
Him taking her ID because she wanted to go out with her friend was triggering
Yes!!! Huge red flag!📍📍❌❌
The most charitable thing I can think of about Laundrie is that he had all the insecurities of an adolescent, and at age 23 he was still far too immature to be in this sort of a relationship.
In his suicide note he still couldn't bring himself to take the responsibility for it. That's spoilt child syndrome
which if i was her BFF i would have had a issue with that thats not normal whatsoever
He probably got tired of her coming back. And because she kept coming back, he didn't want to cross contaminate "dna" from another man.
Girls night out aint nothin nice
except that if she goes out drinking that likely makes her erradic behavior worse and he didn't want to have to deal with her coming home like that
"she was the aggressor" "she hit him first" 'he may have been trying to defend himself'
they're asking HER if she intended to hit him and hurt him, and if she said 'yes' she is under arrest for domestic violence
they put HIM in a hotel next to an abuse shelter
When you are looking at your friends’ social media accounts and feeling envious because their lives seem so perfect, remember Gabby Petito.
99% of what you see online is a lie.
So very true. A photo is a split second of a 24 hour day.
Amen
Yep, sometimes people's lives are near perfect, but a ig photo is a small second snapshot of a long 24 day, rarely tells the whole story...
@@ryanfraser167 everything on social media is fake.
What her friend said at the end was so touching …. “Gabby will do everything to bring the light out in you, and if she can’t, she’ll give you some of hers.”
Unless you are "bummer boy". Why was she with him if she didn't like his personality and had to trash him and go find a friend online to have fun with?
Other friends said she was controlling and abusive.
@@sr2291 bummer boy?
@@mr.mclibtard5015 That is a huge lie. Stop telling lies about a person you don’t know.She was in a controlling situation with an abusive controlling abuser who killed!!! She was not the controller. If you knew anything about abusive situations you’d know that!!
@@deborah9775 false
The amount of people in these comments saying that Gabby Petito's story could have been their own... is frightening. We live in a really scary world. But for what it's worth I'm happy you all are still with us. RIP Gabby.
Could have been me , just hoping and praying that what happened to gabby will help someone else from becoming a victim
In my opinion that’s why Gabby’s case gained so much attention. As someone who was in an abusive relationship in the past I felt that could have been me.
A former investigator said that this type of scenario plays out more than 3x a day for women in the US.
I was in an abuse relationship. Kept making all the excuses in the world. We need to teach people what relationships look like. Love doesn't hurt. It's the opposite. I'm glad he was arrested for bank fraud, I may have never gotten out of that relationship. Glad we didn't have kids together. 20yrs later I wish I wasn't so dumb in my 20s.
Thank God it wasn't you. Stay safe‼️🙏🫶@@jackieb.2642
Gabby looks so sweet and kind, hearing her speak in the videos reflect that. This case just sticks with me… my heart breaks for the loss of her. She did not deserve any of this. I can’t stand Brian’s parents.
If only we searched for all missing the way we did for her. They found 9 bodies of other missing people while looking for her. Makes you wonder if we searched that hard for everyone how many less missing people there'd be. Glad they found her and she didn't remain missing. 9 other families finally got answers too so 10 families got answers in that search.
Yes, even dog the bounty hunter got involved. I'm sorry for what happened to gabby. All missing people/children deserve that kind of attention. I can only imagine what families of the missing that have not been found feel about the media attention that was given to gabby?
Well if they had over 2 million followers " that actually WATCHED THEM DISAPPEAR" ,and reported them missing. AFTER A POLICE STOP" they would be found too.
Let's not act like " they only looked for Gabby and NOONE else. Her people went hard for her. That's why she was found
@@kaydubya6347 thank you. What I was just about to say.
@@kaydubya6347 out of all the people saying that you shouldn't be talking at all.... yeah her family went hard for her but there are other factors that played into it to why her case blew up besides her being influencer btw...
@@joannemarquez2085 Dog got involved with finding the perpetrator of a local Moab couple that was murdered and missing, Kylen Schulte and Crystal Turner.
I dated a guy like him. He was so nice but sometimes he would get mad and when he did, he changed in a way that was hard to describe. It gave me chills and my gut said I had to get him out of my house. I kept saying “no, he’s ok he’s just upset, don’t overthink it”.
But Vibes don’t lie. If someone scares you, get away from them even if they’re the “nicest person”.
Yep. You must be glad that you didn't stay with him. If the hair stands up on the back of your neck, RUN. Also sometimes little red flags. My sister's boyfriend got mad at her because she walked out of the room he was in, talking to someone on the phone. That romance didn't last much longer. The way Gabby's boyfriend took her ID to prevent her from going to a bar was really possessive and controlling.
Or maybe you didnt give him a chance. Could've been the love story of a lifetime.
i agree he should have kicked her out , she abused him by hitting him , maybe she went reallly mad but that is no excuse to hit their partner
@@Tangga1boy01 Love story of a lifetime does not normally contain anger and a gut feeling to get out of it. Even a marital contract and love or children should not neglect that. Way too much domestic violence and kids growing up in dysfunctional families to keep ignoring things.
@@TH-eb5ro factssssss couldn’t have said it any better!
Brian's parents behavior is appalling. No wonder their son is a monster. No humanity
Best way to describe it
Nor humility.
The apples don't fall to far from the tree's
shocked they were never arrested for covering it up and hiding what they knew
The BALD truth
When Brian was talking with the Moab police, he offhandedly described Gabby, the woman he supposedly loves, as "crazy." Any time a man nonchalantly or laughingly describes his highly upset wife or girlfriend as crazy, that is a clear sign that he has so traumatized and abused her for so long that she is reacting in ways that show that trauma and abuse. Abby was a victim of narcissistic abuse and all the signs were there in both of them. Narcissists are charming, engaging, disarming, and tremendously manipulative. They know how to frame any situation to their advantage and bring others into assuring their desired results. I've lived this and barely made it past him alive. When a narcissist makes accusations, they're actually confessions. May we all learn from this as we live longer than Gabby did.
This is what Brian said when the first officer walked to the driver's side window."I I I (just) don't want to defend myself here by saying anything but I pushed her away. She gets really worked up and when she does she swings and she had her cell phone in her hand so I was trying to push her away."
They will rile you up on purpose just so they can say you're crazy or to show to others how unstable you are. And people not knowing what's been done to you often believe them.
considering they broke off the engagment before this trip, I'm going to guess that whole "in love" thing didn't work out. try again. these videos really bring out the dumb and crazy,
Exactly what happened to me on the road home to Florida from New England with my boyfriend but he left me in Virginia & now I am safe… same week in August 2021
came here to point out exactly that
Her story actually saved my life. My ex strangled me and abused me for years and then I saw her story on the news and someone said women who stay with men that strangle them are 8x more likely to die at the hands of their partner. I was on the other side of the world with my ex at the time and I realized if I didn't leave and fly back home to my family I would be another Gabby . I packed my stuff and ran away. 1 year later I met the man I married and we have a beautiful family and he treats me like a princess. Comparing my treatment from my ex to my now husband I realized how brainwashed I was and how much hatred my ex had for me and how that wasn't love at all but a life of slavery and abuse. My ex always tried to get me back and begged me to stay and promised to change and I fell for it every single time. But he loved the control he had over me , he didn't actually love me. I realized when I met my husband now my self worth and how I deserved better and happy life. Running away was the best decision I ever made and it's because of Gabby's story. I felt I saw myself in her eyes. I knew I would never had a happy life if I stayed and he would never change. I was ashamed of being abused but found it impossible to leave because I was so dependent on him living abroad away from my family. I wanted to prove to my family that I could make it anywhere and was ashamed to tell them I was dependent on a man that was abusive. When I finally asked for help to fly back home my family with open arms and unconditional love were there every step and I couldn't be more grateful. Her story will always haunt me because it's sooo close to home for me.
I am so happy for you you have a wonderful life ahead of you 🥹
Thank God you got out of that situation that many don’t. You should be very proud of yourself. I’m happy that you are safe and with someone who treats you well. God Bless
You are incredibly strong for getting yourself out of there. We may not know each other but I’m proud of you.
Honestly I just don’t get how survival doesn’t trump asking for help
So happy you got away ♥
For all of you brave Ladies who walked away from your abusive partners, after watching Gabby videos.
Wow! She would have been so proud of you all.
God bless you and keep yourself safe
Wish I could but most of us don’t have money and a place to go to
@@LoveMyKidsAndGod Please don’t wait for God to come to your rescue? He’s not coming. God wants us to get out of our bad situations on our own! Most abusers use all kinds of manipulating tactics, to keep women prisoners, in there own life. You have the keys to your freedom in your pocket. You just have to get the strength to get them out and use them, to free yourself. Women stuck in abuse relationships remind me of criminals that sneak up on women in parking lots and threaten them with violence if they don’t do as there told. The weak women obey and usually are murdered. The strong women scream, and the attacker flees! Why? Because they don’t want a strong women that wants to defend herself, they want the weak minded ones. So don’t be weak!! Speak up and get out of there!! The odds are, he will eventually stop contacting you, especially if he’s found another weak women to manipulate! Right now YOU ARE THAT WEAK WOMEN!!!
@@gracegonzalez0620 phone a church
It's not bravery. It's survival. I wasn't going to be a man's personal punching bag.
@@gracegonzalez0620 I'll keep praying for you Grace 🙏
I know they will never see this but I want to say thank you to the man who reported the dispute, I'm sure they were heart broken when they learned of her death but they honestly did the best thing
I always think of the cops that interviewed the couple when this case comes up. They broke the regulations on DV encounters. How do they feel about their lack of action?
Thanks for anyone who will help people in need.
@@I_AM_TEMPLE The correct training when dealing with such situations would have made all the difference and Gabby would still be alive in my opinion..
@@I_AM_TEMPLE Gabby and Brian didn't live there, so the police couldn't have held either of them for more than 24 hours. They were separated for the night, there wasn't much else the police could so. There was however a female Park Ranger there on the scene who had given Gabby her card and told her that if she wanted to talk in private, to just give her a call. Gabby never called the Park Ranger. ---It's just Really hard to save people sometimes when they're given a golden opportunity, and they don't respond.
yes. it would’ve been an even bigger mystery if they hadn’t called in.. so awful 😢
Its very disturbing to hear he wrote he ended her life as an "act of mercy". Wtf 😡
That made it really worse. That was his way to "protect" HIS family. But his toughts were wrong. Apple and tree story as old as mankind.
He remained a narcissist even in his death....like they said in the report that his word was the last word...bottomline he "won"...:( RIP Gabby🖤
That was Bulls++t, No Mercy...He killed her.
Just one last narcissist attempt to minimise his own doing, portraying himself as a hero. Obvious lie.
When she said "I'm sorry I'm so mean" just breaks my heart like I knife in my soul. I know what it's like as many of do
I agree. She shouldn't have been so mean....
@@nickvargas3907 I agree. your daddy didn't mean to do that to you at such a young age.
@まさき uhhhh, are you promoting pedophilia or is this some kind of veiled put down?
Reactive abuse
I freed myself of my ex husband. For years I lived an abusive life for the simple fact I was so terrified of him. I was so afraid of him, that I was afraid to leave. He controlled my every thought and movement. One day he choked me out unconscious THREE times in front of my daughter. Three times. Because I did not have the laundry done on time for him to have fresh clothes for the gym…he left for the gym eventually and I left him for good. My daughter and I are free 😭😭😭😭 we are free 😭😭😭😭
proud of you, more than you know!
Gym bros. Stay away from them
Good for you. It’s not your fault, he is crazy. Pray that he doesn’t do this to another woman 🥺
OJ was called on multiple times for abusing Nicole, the police were familiar with it. She'd come running out screaming, from behind the bushes. One time for not having his dinner ready as soon as he walked in the door, another time for leaving her shoes out, and for gaining over 7 pounds when pregnant, yes seven.
File a restraining order
The victim of domestic abuse ALWAYS tries to protect her abuser. The abuser ALWAYS blames the victim. And she comes to believe it. It’s called GASLIGHTING.
Sure kathy
@kathleenkelly378 Exactly.
Without that control, no one would stay through the violence. I think it’s weird that people don’t put those things together.
@@divulgedspiritshe’s right though. What’s your problem?
@@PippiOnePointOh always huh
1 time out of 10, a hysterical tearful woman standing next to an extremely calm and pleasant male partner is simply a dramatic/hysterical woman. 9 times out of 10, a hysterical tearful woman standing next to an extremely calm and pleasant male partner is a victim of narcissistic abuse. Period. The “calm” partner is usually the abuser.
So true
This story is a lie
Then why did the police officer ask Brian if he was on drugs and if he was always that hyper?
You’re not wrong.
Why?
Even if they had arrested Brian or Gabby, they would have still gone back to each other. Remember, Gabby told the officers that she and Brian were a team. They were consenting adults. It’s horrible what happened to Gabby-do know that getting out of abusive relationships are extremely difficult.
Blaming the cops is silly for this reason and because she took responsibility.
@@admiralkrankandhismightyba158 Totally agree. The police were obviously trying to give the kids a break. DV charges affect future employment and can cause a variety of other lifelong problems. Shoulda coulda woulda. Hindsight 20/20 and all that.
As long as it is remembered that they were 'both' abusive to each other...
@@l.mpatamali8738 the difference is that she was the one who was murdered.
I know, it's pathetic. Women are so scared of being alone, they'd rather stay in an abusive relationship than risk not having a boyfriend/husband.
Gabby's case helped me get away from my abuser. Rest in peace sweet girl you are forever loved 🙏
****EDIT:
TO THE PEOPLE COMMENTING THAT GABBY WAS THE ABUSER, PLEASE GO ELSEWHERE WITH THAT IDIOTIC BS*********
Your comment sent a literal power surge through my body! And now there are tears in my eyes. Gabby is an 😇😇😇!!!
@@thegreatone11 that's an interesting source of inspiration. Would you mind chatting about the details of your testimony, if you are comfortable? What changes did you make in your behavior?
good for you! stay safe
She the dam abuser, not him
They were both toxic
Such a sad story. Leaving an abusive relationship is always the right thing to do.
That police stop was the perfect example of how the narcissist can twist things around to make themselves the victim
She was stating she was hitting him. Ohhh right she was taking the blame for him. She had more than ample opportunity to zip back to her parents when they put him a hotel. Did she? No!! She was right back with him posting on the internet in the next fews laughing it up.
Twist things? She gave her statement to police FIRST. Was Brian supposed to lie and say she didn't smack him after she already admitted to it? She was acting a fool while he was driving to the point he was running over the curb and he's the narcissist? Yeah okay 👍
@@yurmabeechaudits3522you really don’t know how those types of relationships work
@@adriannavarro2536 STFU.
We do know.
Women need to be held accountable too.
She was also an abuser and paycho.
@@adriannavarro2536 she hit him first because he told her to "calm down". She's an insane person. Brian might be too....but she admitted to domestic abuse.
I know someone who got out of a bad relationship because of Gabby’s story. ❤
I really hope that Gabby’s parents win their civil case against the Laundries and their lawyer. I escaped an abusive relationship years ago, and it is heartbreaking that Gabby wasn’t able to do the same. Rest in peace Gabby. 💗
What do you mean, "The Laundries and their lawyer."? The Laundries ARE LAWYERS.
@@RPhTom What are you talking about?!
Toxic love kills 💔 ☠️🪦
No good can come from suing the police or his family. Neither are responsible for Brian Laundries actions. I know her parents are hurting and want some kind of justice, but unfortunately that isn't possible and I hope they lose their lawsuit. All these frivolous lawsuits ultimately harm this nation, and slowly and gradually serve to eviscerate liberty and freedom (in concert with a lot of other horrible corrupt acts/ actions/ laws/ tyranny/ treason).
The police has nothing to do with it.
Accountability is what’s missing in today’s society. Brian killed her. That’s it.
Stop trying to blame every other person who did nothing.
As a mom, it’s really puzzling how Gabby’s mother waited 10 days to alert police that there was no contact with Gabby for that time period.
Having been in a abusive relationship, this whole thing just makes my guts churn. I hope young ladies learn from this, her family, the police, and his parents.
Same here
Why do the young ladies have to learn? Why can’t men be held accountable? Both her abusive boyfriend and the policemen who could have saved her - but didn’t.
@@deltabourke1005 can't save someone who doesn't want saving. Or isn't ready to be saved.
@@stairwaygoddess what did you want her to do? She gave the hand signal for DV as well. And she confided in 1 close friend. She did enough. She should be here.
@@deltabourke1005
That's complete bull. 15 seconds before the stop she was punching Brian as he drove, she's suddenly "afraid" to talk? Why would she have to give a "signal"? They were completely separated and she begged, almost demanded, that they not be separated. She behaved as a typical female abuser with her tears, baby talk and anything else to control law enforcement.
Gabby wasn't afraid of Brian, she was afraid of being alone. That's why she lost her marbles when he suggested a "breather". They should have arrested her.
Gabby's story helped me finally leave my abuser. I'm so sorry this happened to you I know you helped me and countless people not share the same fate. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Gabby admitted to being the abuser.
@@brendanbloomberg3283 yet eye witness saw different.
@@jenniferb2763 nope they didn't. They saw him hit/push her. But according to gabby she started the physical altercation & eyewitnesses saw him hit her AFTER she started assaulting him.
@@brendanbloomberg3283 yet she's the one dead, murdered.
Well, she was murdered, which gives us extra information.
It is very predictable that domestic violence victims will lie to protect their abusers. That being known, professionals need to be able to ignore the words in these cases and look at the actions critically. You can look at different signs to get a full picture. And sometimes you can’t tell, but there are certain indications. If you look at different trainings online for professionals,, you can see that scratches at the face are typically defensive wounds. And grabbing someone’s face like that is a warning sign. If someone is trying to hurt someone, a natural reaction isn’t to scratch the face. But, let’s say they are being held down or strangled, they are going to try to get that person off of them. Scratching the face or hands is how they can get them off. So, those types of wounds are suspicious. EVEN if the person is saying they started it, you ignore them, because you already know they’ll lie and size up the situation.
Now, you can’t assume things 100%c but if you see certain signs, it can direct your actions to accurately determine the question. With how common domestic violence is, the training should be provided. Body language is important, reading between the lines is important and that kind of toxicity shouldn’t be minimized. Two people called the police because they were concerned. They were swerving the car. I mean…. That’s dangerous.
These police seemed really nice to me, just not trained. The police were VERY helpful when I was in a domestic violence situation. I was already at the point, where I was getting help. But they came multiple times to allow me to get myself and my kids out of the house safely.
They didn’t write reports, he didn’t get in trouble, but I don’t know that I could have gotten out without them. I mean. I couldn’t have.
I guess I’m just saying is that if you know someone saying it’s their fault can actually be an indication that they are the victim, you’ll take that information differently.
I can't help feeling an arrest in Moab would've amounted to nothing. She may very well have still stayed with him and fallen victim another time. He was such a dropkick
It wouldn't have made any difference.
@@QuicksandontheTrail I agree.
Exactly
Agreed. Abuse victims more often then not will stay with their abuser.
If the cops had actually listened to the 911 call they would have known she was in danger. What good is the call if they don't hear it??? Lousy police work. They have blame.
All the missing people they found looking for one person will never sit right with me.
Have you ever explored this area? It's not a flat field🙄 bodies are hard to find here. We have feet of snow 8-9 months out of the year
@@shannag4161so what does that have to do with what I said. The facts are one file went missing. They found about a dozen people looking for her. They weren’t looking for those people.
Those others weren't bloggers, so nobody was Following like we were Gabby
The fact that Brian and his family wouldn’t say anything makes my blood boil. And the police couldn’t do anything about it? Infuriating .
Apparently you don't like our laws.
@@sr2291 The right to remain silent and they used it.
@@coolchoicebro Yes.
In the 2001 case Ohio v. Reiner, the U.S. Supreme Court held that "a witness may have a reasonable fear of prosecution and yet be innocent of any wrongdoing.
The [Fifth Amendment right against self-incrimination] serves to protect the innocent who otherwise might be ensnared by ambiguous circumstances."Dec 29, 2021.
@@sr2291 that law saved what could have been a 15 yr sentence to 1 yr in the county bc I was INNCOCENT but not innocent at the same time I was in fear for my life and did what I had to do to get away from him and made myself surrounded on purpose. He was following me in the car I took to get away with a shotgun!
@@coolchoicebro Wow. I'm glad you are ok and the law helped you.
If her family missed the signs, and her friends missed the signs, and Gabby wasn't saying anything--you can't blame the police. The people closest to her who knew her best didn't do anything (or weren't aware of what was going on); how can you expect the police to evaluate the history in a 5 min stop on the road? Tragic ending; the abusers and their victims are often the only ones who really know what is happening.
💯
The police stopped them for domestic abuse and tried to play cool. "Oh, it was just a kid that hit his girl, he just lost his temper." Wrong! He was an abuser that became a killer short after the police stopped them. And don't forget the horrible job that the police did AFTER he came home alone. He escaped from his house under surveillance and the police missed it!
@@MartineH1 being under surveillance doesn't mean you can't leave the house. He was a free man at that point. He could have legally left the country and police couldn't have stopped him.
What kind of man hits a woman? He was so much bigger and stronger than her. An abuser is typically a Narscissist. He groomed Gabby through gaslighting her that she was the problem. His parents would have seen it, she didn't live with her family with him but his family are possibly Narscissist also. My parents would have turned us in to try police if we killed someone or broke the law.
Hindsight is 20/20. We all know the outcome already watching this so it’s easy to judge. I don’t blame the officers.
I was trapped in an abusive marriage for almost a decade. I never once cheated, I never physically harmed him, and I never even screamed at him. And yet, like Gabby, I always found myself taking the blame. I always took the fall. People just don't understand the phycological impact that abuse has and how it can trap and change a person.
yes because they begin to systenatically run off any one who loves you, parents, siblings, friends, then they isolate you furthr like by getting you to move awayfrom your family or go on a tip where no one knowswhere you are at half the time. They will hack your phone, intercept mesages, email, real mail to stop people from staying in your life until they give up, thinking you are ignoring their efforts intentionally. They at the same time begin being crueler & crueler to you, lil bit by lil bit but always usingexcuses like I dranktoo much, or it's mydad's fault he beat me that's wy I'm a nut when drink too much or they'll just deny what happened , happened. They'll be lying, hitting on your griends, family even to run them off, they'll steal from your family, their family, work if they work, while charging thousands to credit cards they stole or that belonged to their last victim, or even new credit cards that they've used your info (they copied down from your wallet while you took a bath, or slept or...) to take out cards in your name & charge on them. You won't suspect such a level of 2 faced, rottenness that these kind of people operate in all their lives, in pursuit of their addictions & their hedonistic selfishness. TThey have no conscience, they never regret the misery inflicted on their victims because hey aretoo busy feeling sorry for themselves, for no reason. But they hook you good then slowly keep pushing more and more boundaries, to get you to put up with the inexcusable, forgive the unforgiveable and do for them, alays not caring what they do to you. The more you take, the harder they will work to destroy you.
As a parent, this just breaks my heart. I sent positive prayers to her parents who will need them every day.
Was with an extremely narcissistic fiancée when her story dropped
A year later, after trials and hurt and a year and a half of abuse, Im safe and away.
Gabby’s story touched so many people. Rest In Peace Angel.
May the Coward burn for what he did to you.
I'm glad you're safe❤
Where’s your comment for GP causing the physical fight? Yeah I didn’t think you would be fair and unbiased
@@AngelSanchez-du8ze wtf
You are the coward for sticking up with an abuser for a year and a half no offense, but truly you guys make no sense it's like you like being abused or something. It's very odd behavior
@@JesusGodHolySpirit3with someone who has Jesus and God in their username, you sure don’t exhale that “christian kindness or not judging others.”
Shame on you☺️
“He doesn’t really believe that I can do any of it”
That is an indication that he criticises/puts her down and should have been a big red flag.
I bet he was covertly sabotaging her and then calling her OCD for her wanting things in order.
@@Jess-kn8vl Yes
It’s so sad, how she automatically blames herself & takes all the blame. I remember doing this in my first marriage. Sweet Gabby, gone too soon
Zzzzzzzz
What makes you think she wasn't to blame?
Doing this? Did you fly into hysterics and physically abuse your spouse?
Right like how could the cops not pick up on that , that’s psychology 101
@Drey Anastasio Because Gabby was swinging and hitting him to the point of injury while he was driving and she admitted to hitting him first. She said she was trying to get him to stop telling her to calm down. The police were behind them with their lights flashing.
These were Brians Injuries according to the Moab Report.
Gabby left scratches and bruises on Brian. The bruising and bleeding was from her hitting him with her phone _while he was driving_
From Investigative Review of Aug. 12, 2021 Petito-Laundrie Incident in Moab
Park Ranger Ryan Kral, points out scratches on the left side of Brian’s neck, left side of his nose, scratch near the center of his face, and bruise and bleeding on the right side of his head. Officer Robbins finds an additional injury on Brian’s right bicep/tricep area. Brian said he was not in any pain, and that he "wasn’t complaining.”
There’s a petite girl crying hysterically in your backseat trying to take the blame and her boyfriend is over talking to your partner “cool, calm and collected. Those officers must not have any sisters
Those officers have zero responsibility for the tragic ending. Crying doesn't prove innocence or guilt.
@@timnorris6287 Somebody should take away your access to the internet because you have no respect or empathy. I feel bad for the people that live around you, must be awful
The police officers failed at their jobs! If they would have locked them both up since they both had scratches and bruises, Gabby could be alive today!😡
Why would someone need sisters in order to have empathy
@@Edc1969What would that have done?
Her best friend put it perfectly at 2:30 "A lot of couples look nice on instagram." Social media is the perfect place for someone to pass themselves off as normal/innocuous at the surface.
I followed this case very closely as it was unfolding & I was absolutely devastated when they found her. I've endured alot of abuse in my personal life & I felt so much pain for Gabby. I was her age when I was involved in my first abusive relationship & I finally walked away from the guy after he almost shot me one night; He was tweaking on meth & he thought someone was breaking into our home. The bullet flew over my head & went into the wall behind me. While that was a wake up call at that time, I ended up in another abusive relationship when I was 29 & that relationship/marriage went on for 12 years. It destroyed my life & I'm now a 42 y.o. widow fighting to take my life back. To all of you young men & women who've experienced abuse (in any form), please understand that you deserve so much better. Unfortunately, most people don't change for the better & no matter how much you love them, no amount of love is worth losing your life over ❤️.
Sorry to read your story.. Stay strong and keep smiling ☺
Sorry you went through that. Glad you're fine now. ❤
I’m single and have been through abusive relationships with men who are not emotionally there now I’ve been spending time with God…(lots of time with him) and it’s been refreshing.
And you’re right most people don’t change, change is hard.
She abused him and he eventually snapped. That's what happened
I was with my abusive ex the same exact time as this case was going on. I finally left him November 2022. Everything is even harder when you have zero support system, nobody who cares about you, not even family. I have tons and tons of trauma to be healing from.💔😖
Love and take care of yourself. Become your own parent.
Oh dear please get well. I know what you are going through but I pray you get past it
Glad u left. Curious though about your family? You left them first or they did?
@@krism5125 Thank you so much baby💖 that means the world to me, more than you know💖
@@HayleeFox15 sending you love and hugs. You are your own happiness no one can change that the key and lock are always in your hands however much you maybe freshly New to your ownself of freedom and independance finding. it may take time but stay focused on you, it shall be well. I was in a relationship for two years and it's taken me three years to get over it and feel myself and confident again. Give yourself time it's not easy I know but your happiness and a healthy mind is better than anything. Hugs dearest
I married a narcissist. The crazy-making they do to you is almost indescribable. You know something is wrong, but at the same time they have manipulated you to think it’s your fault. Any time you speak to them calmly, collected, to address a problem, they escalate the discussion until you snap-and then they blame you for being the one to lash out, therefore “proving” their, abuser’s, point that you in fact are the problem.
Damn, Sucks to be you😂😂
Exactly.
Reactive abuse
THIS. and the reactive abuse is turned on you to make you look crazy. I cannot believe I have to go through a similar situation. Sending hugs to you
@@MissMelissaD sending hugs back 💐
What scares the crap out of me is that this was my first marriage. The abuse, the cries for help and no one saw it. After 22 years I was able to get out. Thank God.... but this brings out so much fear in me of what could have been!
cries for help? did you come out and tell someone directly what happened?
I was also in an abusive marriage. I remember ringing my Nan and asking for help, she had a spare room and I hoped to move in with her. She said "it's a shame he doesn't hit you as then you could go to a woman's refuge".... 1 year later I left him and rang her and said "I'm coming to yours, I've left him. I have nowhere else to go.". She was lovely and helped me for a few months. Now, I'm in a wonderful relationship and moved almost 1500 miles away to North Europe and am back in university. My ex tried so hard to destroy me, he failed. I'm flourishing thanks to my amazing current partner of 5 years.
@@craigime Don't know about her, but yeah I did, plenty of times. Every time the police arrived, my ex was calm and collected while I was tearful and emotional. My mental instability and my part in the altercation was used by my ex to convince the police that he was the patient long-suffering husband of a neurotic hysterical woman, and that me to going to jail would only further exacerbate my mental illness. Each time they left, he was no longer percieved as my abuser, but rather my protector, and I would end up apologizing and thanking him for saving me from being arrested. So many people have no idea how domestic abuse batters the victim's psyche, or what a cry for help sounds like.
He was slapping her.
It's so insidious how they chip away at your psyche. You don't even realize it's happening until you do.
The smile he has when getting out of the police car at the hotel is sickening. Knowing his narcissistic charm worked once again. The whole situation was so sad all the way around.
He was probably happy to get away from his codependent abuser who he had been arguing with him all morning. He got some rest away from her.
She was the abuser in the first place... she literally admitted it several times to the police
@@sr2291 He could have flown back home the next day and gotten away from her if he really wanted to.. except he had nothing and no life without her, and was living off of Gabby..
the guy was a narcissistic loser and killed himself because he knew he murdered the only person who really loved him.
His whole ‘mercy killing’ story was such bullsh!t! But just proof of the narcissist he was and that he couldn’t take responsibility or blame for murdering her.. but tried to play the hero 🙄 It wasn’t the first time he strangled her, Gabby said that he did it that day to the police, which is why she hit him.. but she was trying to cover for him.. it’s what victims do to lessen their abuse
@@sr2291 obviously you have no clue about abusive relationships.its clear to me from all the videos and pics that she has been abused
@pannochka11 Obviously I have because I ran from one. I wasn't dumb enough to stay or dumb enough to hit and injure a man.
Such a beautiful young lady . Such a tragedy. That monster did not deserve her.
Gabby’s story helped so many other women and men get away from abusive and toxic relationships. I remember being upset about it and I immediately knew it was the fiancé. He looked suspicious and his family was protecting him, I bet they bad mouthed her. Brian is an abusive, toxic, and a narcissist. His family is no better and deserved to be charged as well.
It feels like couples/people who are always posting happy moments on social media outlets are the ones that have hidden toxic lives and noone knows about the darkness until it is too late. Such a young joyful spirited young woman gone too soon.
True. My sister and her fake marriage is one of them. Pretending to be happy on social media but in real life her marriage is a mess.
Just like Family Pictures hung on people's walls. At least my family were not hypocrites and never got those taken.
Yes. Well usually truely content couples and people don't need the reassurance in Form of the likes.
I think about Gabby often. I lived walking distance from her Mom in a nice town on Long Island and have a child born only a few months away from Gabby’s birthdate. I grew up in an abusive household and saw daily what happens.
We all lived day to day hoping that our worst fears would not be a reality but, at a certain point, everyone just knew the worst thing possible had happened to this beautiful, young woman. I feel especially sad that when my child has a birthday, I think how yet another year is passing that Gabby’s family would not be celebrating. 💜🙏🏻
Law enforcement separated them and he went to a hotel. She has the van, the keys, and the van is in her name. If she decides to reunite the next morning, what more could the officers have done? If they had “issued a citation”…that wouldn’t have done anything to stop this tragedy. If they had arrested either one of them, they would have bonded out the next morning and same result. There’s not always someone to blame for our own bad choices, as unfortunate and unfair as that may be.
Unfortunate that the law is do legalistic about “adults”. They should have called their parents.
💯
Any time for her to get to think about this, determine whether Brian was the right guy for her, to talk to her mom on the phone, to do anything may have changed the course of this. An arrest should have absolutely been made - the thing they didn't show was the body cam footage where the officers were talking about "crazy girlfriends" with Brian. Their own misogyny was a factor, too (which isn't really surprising when you find out the rate of domestic violence in police households). Regardless, no one will ever truly know. But I'd like to think they could have set things on a different track had they just arrested one or both of them.
@@alteredcatscyprus they were over 18. I don't think legally they could call their parents. Maybe they could have offered resources to both of them for domestic violence. Maybe she would of called ..
@@kimberbell4238 and that legality needs to change...no matter the age, there should be a legal option to call reinforcements in these cases
I was in an abusive marriage in my early twenties. When I saw the video of Gabby (in this video at 19:21) when I first heard she was missing, I knew she was being abused. Her face is smiling, but her eyes are full of pain and sorrow. I lived this way, too. Everyone thought I had the perfect marriage. I never told anyone while it was happening. My heart breaks for her and her loved ones.
Im sorry that happened to you. Im glad you are still here, I’m glad you’re ok.
He was slapping her.
@@2281Dee thank you. I got out 34 years ago after 6 years of marriage. I’m so very grateful.
Yeah sure.
Every female says "he was abusive"
every male says " she was crazy"
You can’t live like you are in a movie 😢. I wish kids would understand this more. Keep a tight community of safety and protection. Friendship is a product of that community. Documenting things excessively makes even the author forget reality when looking back. Your life is way more precious than looking like you have a perfect life.
Stay safe everyone. 🙏🏾
@Jane Smith. I totally agree with your statement. I think that Gabby was receiving subscriber funds to help support her adventure. She had to post the Van Life so that they could gain more subscribers and support.
"You can’t live like you are in a movie"
Tweets, facebook posts, and youtube videos are the "movies" of our modern time, and the Internet is the modern day "Hollywood". In a way, Gabbi is the Marilyn Monroe of our time. In the end, Brian and Gabbi got exactly what they wanted. They became internet superstars, though perhaps not exactly in the way they wished. Fame always comes at a price.
When you die the world still spins. Noone knew who she was
I hope Gabby’s mom finds some kind of warmth knowing that Gabby’s story has saved so many women from DV.
The police officer who sent Laundrie to the motel and gave Gabby the vehicle was, I believe, hoping she would leave and go home. He could not force her to do this. She would be alive today had she made that choice.
The police should've arrested gabby for assault. She'd still be alive today if police treated women like they do men.
I agree, she should of just left & headed home, leaving him there in Utah, very sad
Totally agree..the officers did their job..she chose death
They most likely let her go with the van because it was in her name and not Brian’s. I wish she did just go home and leave him there..
@@susannenerad9851 da bi bil lahko pa jih so bili
Gabbys story saved my life. After she was reported missing and he became a suspect I left my abuser.
I am so happy for you. You and and any other survivor inspired by Gabby, you make Gabby's memory more meaningful. Bless you and please take care.
so happy for u!! stay safe, you are loved ♡
Good for you. For real life.
Good for you
I’m really happy for and proud of you for doing that, I can’t imagine how scary that must have been!
I hope you are doing well
If my husband ever saw me crying like that and wasn’t visibly and actively disturbed, I would know he didn’t love me anymore
Yes, I'm sure you'd punish him very much for not chasing you headfirst off an emotional cliff. I'm sure he's very happy and not at all aging like milk.
@@aschlamishowsup yes you know everything 🤣
You mean...you would know you couldn't manipulate him anymore???
@@Master...deBater you know exactly how to read between the lines!
@@alannagilmore8982 Yep...sure do!
id like to let people know, it is impossible to make an abuser happy.
And to know that they found so many other dead bodies in searching for Gabby, although her story ends sad, it sure helped a lot of people. Especially the ones who got out of abusive relationships! Rest in Paradise Gabby ❤️
Who goes to paradise? There's this collective socially accepted RIP philosophy that if you die a certain way you go to heaven. I'm not saying she didn't, but you can't say she did. Jesus said unless you are born again you can't enter into the kingdom of God. Without looking that up, ask yourself, how do you become born again.
@@Manbunmen65
GET A CLUE DUED!!
My point is exactly, I can't say she went to heaven or not. I said rest in Paradise which means rest peacefully! Regardless where she went, please don't comment under my comment talking about stuff that will start sh*t! Move past my comment and read along. I'll never get it understand why people like you do this stuff!
You "all my exes are narcissists and sociopaths" types are a bunch of jokes. 😂😂
@@jackchop1576 ??
Schools need to educate their young ones about domestic violence - how to avoid it, how to report it....RIP, beautiful Gabby.
It's just so sad
Mine did, I am thankful for it.
While that's true, I think is even more important to teach boys to respect women.
I agree, but its not always shown in Violence. A toxic person is always a Narcistic Person, we should learn those signs and not have a realtionship with those who re toxic cause they never love, those toxic people only control, blame, shame outhers, and need the outher person so much that they manipulate them to stick with them.
Schools? That's tough at home. If a man is abusing me and I let it happen, what kind of message will I be giving my daughter and my son?
That's ok for a man to hit a woman and a woman to hit a man?
I try really hard to understand why will anybody allow a partner to hit them, specifically when your kids are witnessing it all.
It is unacceptable.
I offered help to a friend that was being abused and she refused all my help. She loved that man more than herself.
Hate to say it but Gabby’s family blaming police is ridiculous. They knew the couple MUCH longer, they had FAR MORE opportunities to intervene, to realize this was a dangerously toxic relationship. But they want to blame the police for not realizing this after just meeting them? Sorry but there is clearly a sense of guilt that they are projecting onto others.
Right. Like the police are suppose to know the ins and outs of people's private lives
I'm not even a fan of the police and I agree with you.
I completely agree with you. One hour spent with this couple by the police is supposed to solve an abusive relationship that had been going on for quite some time. Didn’t the parents see any of this? If they didn’t see it how were the police supposed to see it? Everyone always wants to blame everybody else.
@@QuicksandontheTrail and why aren't you fan of Police?
Gabby was just as toxic
She's the reason I started looking at my relationship for what it truly was!
I don't think I'll ever forget her or her story. I lived in a DV for 13+ years with my ex-husband and I know the pain of loving a man with all your being, seeing in him the 'Good' and thinking if just this, that he'll change or he truly was sorry this time. In the end, I had to take both our children and run leaving everything and everyone behind. I was blessed though because it was his parents that ultimately helped us disappear and through an amazing Judge who helped us change our names, SS's and sealed our records. He is dead now and we're finally free after living in fear for 20+ years. I pray that Gabbie's story will encourage others living in a DV situation to see it as it is and find the courage to choose life over being imprisoned by a one-way love.
Wow! Glad you and your family are safe and okay. It was really _his_ parents that helped you guys? I didn't know that the courts/legal system go as far as changing name/locations except in major cases requiring witness protection. can you explain more about that? I am truly just curious. Thank you very much.
I'm glad you and your children escaped.
Everyone’s blaming that cop but I think the cop did the best he could with the information he had. He seems like a cop that’s not just trying to ruin people’s lives. He did separate them for the night. And it still happened. People are like “well he should’ve arrested one of them” ok you really don’t think it would’ve happened later? This was gonna happen. Their relationship was too toxic
He was not taking it seriously
You fail to understand that rates of domestic violence are highest among law enforcement. Far higher than the population at large. There are clear red flags & warning signs that cops should be aware of. And while yes, there can be women abusers- literally 95% of the time it is the males. For anyone who has any experience with this- the red flags were BLARING that Brian was full of 💩. The cop, as nice as he sounds- clearly IDENTIFIED WITH BRIAN & made it personal.
Yeah everyone playing Monday quarterback like they know best is troubling in society also Gabby would’ve be the one that went to jail in the footage and experience I’ve had and would of just hooked back up about the same time if not earlier. Sad story though for sure
@@liligh not taking it seriously? He tried his best to not ruin either of their lives. He believed it was just a normal young couple fight where both weren't able to control their emotions, which resulted in slapping, etc.
He would have definitely considered the fact that they were young, engaged, with a huge future ahead of them. Making an arrest would obviously ruin everything and he didn't want that.
That's why he thought: maybe separate them for a day, let them cool down and hopefully they will work things out. It's a perfectly reasonable response.
Unless you make it a hard and fast rule to immediately arrest anyone who laid a hand on their partner, you will always expect such response from the cops. Cuz it's human tendency to not want to ruin relationships
“ unless you deem it a rule to arrest anyone who laid a hand on their partners”. Are you for real? Dont even breathe in my direction.
I don't know how Brian's family could have kept silent. My God, your son just killed someone that you had living with you. I understand you love your son, but he took an innocent life. Why would you want to protect someone like that? They should have a lot of guilt and I hope they get punished.
My thoughts exactly. I know my parents love me, but if I told them I had killed someone I am pretty sure they would call the cops on me right then and there. Which is what they SHOULD do!
I hope they never feel peace again. I'm sure they've had to move since things first popped off.
You are sure that they knew before he was found?
@@amina-pr8xtthere was a letter in Brian’s mom’s possession that eluded to his crime. It said to burn the letter after reading, but it wasn’t burnt. Talked about in the end.
I agree and his parents should have told him to turn himself In. I expect that he told the same story to his mom as he wrote down. That it was an accident - she hurt herself and was in agony and he put her out of her misery. I hope his mom will contemplate every night on her son with a bullet through his brain - because she did not turn him in when she had the chance.
The police officers must feel so bad.
The fact that she's trivializing what he did and making herself look like the bad person is a classic sign of someone who has gone through the abusive cycle.
They need to be retrained, and PRONTO!
Condolences to the family;
It's peculiar to me, that knowing a woman's slap can't ever be as FORCEFUL AS a return slap by a MALE...wasn't even addressed.Somebody needs to send a few "compassionate " police officers back to grade school, to learn how to make appropriate DECISIONS; if they didn't understand the concept of domestic violence! And OUNCE of prevention could have prevented POUNDS of their decisions! SHE gets the keys to the VAN, whoopie do, a single female is to continue driving ALL ALONE, while HE gets a ride to his hotel room, compliments of the police department ?
SEND HER AND THE VAN TO THE HOTEL providing HIM shelter, and pay for TWO rooms and a SECURITY GUARD. WAS MONEY an element in their stupid decisions? You protected the WRONG person, and blood is on YOUR hands now!
"Man on the Run"
I don't understand how people can put lovely videos and pictures on social media platforms but suffer terribly in personal lives 😢
Do you see all of those family portraits on the walls of their homes? Same thing.
Sadly I think it’s a way for them to believe that everything is good and perfect but in reality it’s the opposite.
welcome to fake life
Facade is important to insecure people
It is the difference between you want to have and what you have.
Her situation reminded me so much of mine.
Abusive marriage for over a decade. Broken bones. Being raped. times where I was convinced... this is it... I'm going to die. I had nothing. Too scared to leave.
It wasnt until my childhood grade school sweetheart literally helped me escape. Got us a place. I was still stalked but it thankfully stopped after a few years. I'm 33 now I've been free for almost 4 years
But I'll forever broken, nasty teeth. An ugly smile. from abuse and never will I be able to afford to fix it. So it's a constant reminder. It sucks.
But I'm free.
There’s plenty of ways to fix them. Get a credit card and care credit, you go girl 😘
You are so sweet.
I JUST started establishing my credit shortly after leaving. It's been a few years I escaped. So I will hopefully have good enough credit soon to get care credit.
Thank you for caring and giving advice. It means a lot. Truly.
@@mysticdragon111 at 12% per month. No thanks.
so glad you're safe and hopefully happier. i hope you can heal and get better now that you're away from such a terrible situation. be strong! ❤
Thank you for sharing. Many young girls and women read these stories and choose to stay single instead of being with narcissistic men brought up by a patriarchal society.
People need to look up narcissism. And people need to support people choosing to stay single. Too many narcissists and psychos out there.
He was jealous of her because she was so beautiful, vibrant and talented! she will always be remembered while he will be completely forgotten!! That’s Justice for our GABBY ❤️
No, it's because women these days believe there are no guard rails in relationships and believe they can do whatever they want when they want and then wonder why their SO gets upset about it.
Unfortunately Gabby and Laundry will be remembered together.😢
Shame on Gabby’s parents for blaming the 2 officers and trying to destroy their careers. The officers separated them, provided a hotel room, and begged gabby several times to tell them if she is ok. They were extremely professional and sympathetic. She admitted to assaulting the boyfriend, had no marks on her, and the boyfriend’s story matched up. Blaming the 2 good officers for their daughter’s deletion is disgraceful. Here’s a tip: how about not allowing your daughter to run off with a bald creep in a windowless fan across the country?
I hope the officers still have careers and are keeping the public safe, despite gabby’s parents doing their best to destroy their lives. RIP Gabby
Everytime I see Gabby crying during that road stop with the officers really breaks my heart 💔💔💔😭😭😭
Mine too. She blames herself 🥺
I was abused by a girl for about a year, as a man its very hard to admit a girl half your size was abusing you. She was always lovely in public but at home she was pure evil. People I tried to talk to never really believed me including family until I left her and the abuse escalated. This is very sad I can understand how it escalated. If my ex was twice the size as me I would be in much worse shape now
I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you're progressing positively.
Those of us abused by women can relate.
@@coccinelle8888Thanks, Im married now to a lovely lady and we have a beautiful family. The psychology involved in an abusive relationship for anyone who has never been in one is hard to understand especially if you actually love the person which is even harder to understand. Im lucky now my wife and I don't fight and hardly argue life is much easier when you get along and let each other have fun.
You know it takes a special kind of stupid to come to the conclusion that Gabby was a domestic abuse survivor! There was zero evidence that he was abusing her that day, and her own words saying exactly the opposite that she abused him. He had signs of being hit on his face and arm she did not. She said "I was being mean to him because I have ocd and was upset". Everyone sees a crying emotional pretty young girl and immediately looks for a man to vilify for it, and it is absolute bs. Notice how they never asked any of his friends about his character or family telling stories about what kind of person he was before all of this. It's possible he was the one being abused by a girl with unrealistic expectations, and a compulsive personality disorder. One day he snapped and did something awful. I'm not saying that is what happened, but there is more evidence to support that than her being a chronicle battered woman.
@@codylapoint Everyone sees a crying emotional average young White girl , which usually grants extra benefit of the doubt.
I know I'm not the only one to feel this way: I took one look at Gabby, crying and cringing and making excuses for Brian, shifting the blame onto herself and trying to absolve him, and I knew _right then and there_ he was abusing her. Because that's what people who are abused do, they try to defuse the situation so that they won't be punished later, in private.
Brian's mother is absolutely vile.
A female police officer spoke to her and gave Gabby her phone number in case she wanted to talk in private. Apparently, she never called the officer and got back together with Brian the next morning.
@@sr2291that's what abused people do. They don't ask for help because they think is normal for these stuff to happen.
@@sr2291are you saying this to try and blame her?
Please--she did everything but say “I’m making all the excuses I need to take ALL the blame so he won’t be angry at me. I MUST take the blame!! He MUST look good or I will pay for it”.
Why could everyone in America see this but not the police officers?
As a parent, losing a child is the absolute worst nightmare 💔 There is no words... 😢
Condolences to the family;
It's peculiar to me, that knowing a woman's slap can't ever be as FORCEFUL AS a return slap by a MALE...wasn't even addressed.Somebody needs to send a few "compassionate " police officers back to grade school, to learn how to make appropriate DECISIONS; if they didn't understand the concept of domestic violence! And OUNCE of prevention could have prevented POUNDS of their decisions! SHE gets the keys to the VAN, whoopie do, a single female is to continue driving ALL ALONE, while HE gets a ride to his hotel room, compliments of the police department ?
SEND HER AND THE VAN TO THE HOTEL providing HIM shelter, and pay for TWO rooms and a SECURITY GUARD. WAS MONEY an element in their stupid decisions? You protected the WRONG person, and blood is on YOUR hands now!
"Man on the Run"
I can’t believe it’s already been 1 1/2 years. Such a tragic story! She had so much left to do and this monster took those opportunities from her
And then the coward shoots himself smh. Disgusting
Certainly doesn’t feel near that long ago.
@@BS-dq1kz it doesnt
The monsters that live amongst us is unreal 😠
Gabby admitted to domestic abuse.
When the police pulled them over, Gabby is the one who is really upset. Brian doesn't seem to show anything. Wouldn't that be a big warning sign?
Bald should be a warning sign too
@@posticusmaximus1739 they were having a big argue and Brian is like he came straight from a yoga class.
Wouldn't that be a big warning sign? For real life.
Controversial opinion: it all shows the classic signs of male domestic abuse at the hands of a female abuser.
she's a huge narcissistic control freak though
There’s so much about Gabby that reminds me of my oldest daughter, who is also a free spirit and a very loyal, a
Ambitious young woman 😮
No person should be high fiving police during a domestic violence call. No person should be completely comfortable and confident during a situation like that. Any person with a conscience would feel a lot of shame and nervousness. It makes me really worried that the police men had to get "additional training" to be able to see this
Didn't you hear the police officer ask Brian if he was on drugs and if he was always that hyper?
@@sr2291 no I didnt actually
That would be my ex! He told me how the sheriffs who arrested him told him that he’s a great guy and out of place being arrested. (I’m sure this was all lies.) But definitely a narcissist will be showing everyone else what a “great guy” he is. This is why it’s infuriating to the victims, because he fools everyone else.
@Oda Punkt Then go back and watch the police cam when they talk to Brian standing next to the van.
One of the police officers in that traffic stop was accused of DV by his wife so not shocked that they all felt comfy with each other, just a couple of abusers hanging out atp.
It is so sad to see this young woman apologize for what she did when she was not guilty of anything, and the fear she had broke my heart 😢
And him saying, "She's just crazy." To me the signs were so obvious.
They were both toxic people. She probably kept verbally abusing him to the point he finally snapped.
@@rebeccawoolfolk5377yes because she was crazy 😂 it takes some kind of crazy girl from Long Island to think they can just get up and go on a cross country road trip with zero experience.
@@gophukyurselvs3621Then why didn’t he leave? In all footage, why is she the one constantly apologising? Why is she the one who has clearly been tormented? Take the hint within your own username.
Unfortunately even with an arrest or citation it wouldn’t have changed a thing. The two would’ve got right back together as soon as he got out a few days later. That’s how those relationships work
I’ve been in such a relationship… these people are evil. Narcissistic abuse is the real hell on earth
I really messes you life up - completely. No happy minute again.
My son and I left our domestic violence situation and this is such a sad sad story of this young beautiful woman RIP Gabby
As tragic as this is, I don’t think the Moab police department could have ultimately made any difference. RIP Gabby
Oh yes they could have.
@@stj971 How?
Of course they could have
They could have recognized the signs of abuse. When you know the telltale signs they’re painfully obvious in that video. Gaslighting is called crazy making.
The issues are also bigger here. We need to reevaluate the very definition of abuse. Emotional abuse is often Mini Ed and carries no consequences for abusers. It needs to be part of the conversation. It is where it starts.
@@ViragoStreetwear What were the telltale signs of abuse?
It’s nice to hear from the people who knew her best. I have a daughter about the same age, and Gabby´s story hit me so hard. I’m heartbroken for her parents.
I live locally to the laundrie house, didn't know them - but it's spooky to think I use the same infrastructure / stores, beaches, trails, etc. as gabby & brian : (
The worst part of this is that this issue is only being addressed as a “woman’s problem”, that we need to teach our daughters how to avoid being a victim, and how to get out of the situation. When are we going to address teaching our sons to never do this at all??? It takes two, people!
I don't think verbally telling your son not to do this would prevent it, there are much deeper implications such as childhood trauma that form abusers.
@@trevthegamedev As I said, “teach.”. We as a society need to teach children that it’s okay to ask for help and then provide it. It is not okay that the police at the roadside thought that this young woman was just a bit overwhelmed and that it was okay for the young man to say “she’s crazy”. But I understand your point as well. Thanks for your input.
@@msk4795 I appreciate your input too, but I do have to disagree on blaming the police here. These are standard officers who handle all sorts of calls. I think only a high-level detective would have been able to know she wasn't telling them the truth. If I were them with the same knowledge they had, I highly doubt I would have known either.
@@trevthegamedev And again, I said to teach our children (nor did I blame the police here), so then the police will have learned before they become adults. Plus it is a sad thing that you would not have known, while just about every woman watching cringed (trained or not) when he called her crazy. I think this just makes my point, don’t you?
@@msk4795 I'm afraid not. If a person with their level of training and the knowledge they had hears the man say the woman is crazy, and the woman apologize for "being so mean" and admits she "hit him first", then I think the logical conclusion is that they're telling the truth.
But I'm not sure what that even has to do with your initial point, you said we need to "address teaching our sons to never do this at all". My point is that our society already makes that clear with the laws and the general sense of morality. Abusers are formed from bad upbringings that cause issues deep in their subconscious mind, not a lack of teaching against this sort of behavior.
Gabbys parents knew she lived in Florida with Brian in his parents home. I dont understand this innocent plea. She was an adult and thats what she chose. Its sad that this went tragic and spiraled but they all played a part. All. So many lessons to watch and learn.
A big thank you to Gabby's mom for fighting to get police better trained in understanding the hidden dynamics and the obvious involving domestic abuse. Poor girl was traumatized and overwhelmed. His mask fell off and he got her isolated, she saw behavior there wasn't enough time to put into words..She suddenly felt her world turning upside down and he probably kept oscillating between nice then cruel, gaslighting and manipulating. He was wearing her down while she was trying to grow.. Perhaps the scenes of them being pulled over can be used to promote education to officers across the nation.. RIP! Gabby Petito
The question is really why did mom not pick up her daughter's distress, but asks the police to do so, who are complete strangers. I talk to my daughter on regular bases and I know when there is stress is her relationship.
Gabby shouldn't have been hitting on a MAN . More than once guaranteed. Poor guy snapped because he couldn't take it anymore . Rip Brian.
LE isn’t in the social work business. If there’s no crime involved, why should cops get involved unless the abused person requests their help? I abhor what happened, but Gabby was an adult and had options. If she wanted help, all she had to do was ask. Not even LE: Anyone would have intervened in her defense. Blaming the troopers for not being clairvoyant is irrational. There wasn’t admission or evidence of a history of abuse. If she had even posted a complaint online, it would have constituted proof of the problem. If it was one fight of only a few in their relationship, is there grounds to charge someone with domestic violence? When troopers separated them in Moab, she had the opportunity to drive away and leave Brian in the motel. She clearly didn’t feel threatened.
The Laundries are all at fault, but Gabby’s mother is pointing fingers.
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The Laundries aren't responsible for what transpired between two consenting adults.
The question isn't if Gabby was the aggressor, the question is, why wasn't she arrested after the cops determined she was the aggressor?
@@emersonmanning6523 The Laundrie parents could, in a certain light, be considered accessories after the fact for conspiring to deliberately conceal a capital crime.
Personally, I don’t want cops busting people on he said, she said grounds. That’s why red flag laws are such a slippery slope. Gabby should have told them that she felt threatened and had reacted accordingly, and then left with the van.
WOW 48 Hours, keep up the good work with these full episodes releases!!!!
My husband's abuse was carefully and cunningly curated to look, feel and appear to everyone around us like love and safety. It started when I was 15 and he was 21. Fast forward to April 2023, my last straw was his confession to sleeping with prostitutes that were likely human trafficking victims for over a year. I still had to build up the courage to leave and get my babies to safety. In the process, my husband became violent and I had no choice but to defend myself. Days later, he told police I assaulted him. It took months for the leading prosecutor to finally see that I have been his victim for 27 years. He's still blaming me for his choices because he lost the person he loved to hurt the most, but I am officially "No Contact" and raising our youngest son alone without any support from him. I'd rather die a thousand violent deaths than ever spend another moment in my husband's presence. I'm only holding off on the divorce proceedings until I find out if they're going to charge my husband with perjury and falsifying a police report.
This is a lesson to any young people. If a man this much older than you is pursuing you as a teen, this is NOT NORMAL and is not okay. They are not a good person and are after you because you are easy to manipulate, they do not want a partner on equal footing. Run far away
My psycho girlfriend used to do the same kind of things. Glad I got away before it was too late.
I start crying when I see her. She seemed so sweet and trapped in the relationship. Such a senseless end to a beautiful life that was incomplete.
Her apologizing over and over in the body cam footage proved to me she was a victim of abuse as I did the same thing with my ex-boyfriend.. Truly saddening he took her from this world she seemed like a truly amazing human being
Yes! The only reason I didn't out the sexual predator who abused me two years ago was because he has text messages where I blame myself and apologize to him over and over for reacting in an angry manner.
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This should have been obvious to anyone and yet the officers didn’t know
Consequences for choosing poorly when it comes to a partner.
I did the same.
I saw his manipulative trait at the ‘traffic stop.’ Being a former abused victim, I learned abuse, separation, isolation, manipulation, body language, & many other signs. The officers should have noticed some of those things. Brian ‘pulled’ the officers right into ‘his’ side. One officer ‘high 5’d’ him. And Brian smiled the majority of the time with being in the presence of the officers.
Brian made a deal with the cops that if he went to a motel room paid for the women's shelter they would not arrest her and give her the van keys to drive away.
You're projecting. It's impossible to see the facts while projecting.
The red flags were coming from Gabby, particularly her continued attempts to control Brian. Victims don't do that, abusers do. He looked thankful for the separation.
So what should Brian be doing in the scenario, be wailing and crying lamenting to the officers she hit him first?
His vibe is so bad at the traffic stop, she's so upset and he's laughing and smug.
@@alisonchaplin8641 Men usually cover their anger and hurt behind a false veneer because it's not manly to act like a female and cry. You can see that Brian was having a hard time admitting that she was swinging and hitting him.
This story is so haunting, not only because Gabby’s spirit touched so many, but also because there are so little answers. I pray that the family finally gets the answers they deserve.
It’s easiest to blame others & think if “someone” just did something! ( like in the case of the police & they not arresting either Gab or Brian) when I watch Gabby, I see me. I was in my teens & met a 30 something man who promised me the world & even though I was abused by him, I married him anyway. To make a long story short, when he was good he was wonderful but when bad you never knew what would happen. I covered up for him all the time, saying that I ran in a door, I fell down, etc, etc. I would leave him but always return because he made me feel that I needed him, we were soul mates & this is what happens in relationships & I believed him. I finally realized that he may end my life & I got out for good but not until I was in my mid twenties (I suffered many years & still do from the aftermath) there is no doubt in my mind, that if we lead the life as Gab did on the road, I would not be here today! For all who are in an abusive relationship, this is not normal. Get help, get out before it’s too late!
So you say "For all who are in an abusive relationship, this is not normal. Get help, get out before it’s too late!", but yet you admit, "met a 30 something man who promised me the world & even though I was abused by him, I married him anyway"? So you don't follow your own advice?
I agree 110%, I left my abusive relationship two years ago, it was really hard for me because I was so "in love" with him. And I was in that relationship for almost 5 years. I was abused, controlled, lied to, cheated on and I was only fooling myself thinking he would change, thinking he'd stop being mean. And I found myself lying to myself and everyone around me, just seeing what was good and staying so blind to all what was bad and I started hating myself and finally I just woke up one morning and starting planning to leave him. Because I knew if I didn't I would die by his hands or worse. But I did it.
@@unmalo2768 She eventually left her abuser. She's trying to give advice to other women based on her life experience. No need to be so cold and callous.
I left, and now I look back at all of that and look at it as I wonder why I stayed as long as I did. I was only being tortured. It was pure agony and now I live a peaceful and free life and I wish all those that are in a situation like that to get out and never look back.
@@unmalo2768 That's literally the point of the story. It couldn't have been more straightforward and your confusion is troubling.
No matter how well or often I hear Gabby’s story, it always brings tears to my eyes. So senseless is this heartbreaking loss.
All prayers for her family and loved ones. Always.
What about Brian's family?
@@brendanbloomberg3283 F’ em. The least they could’ve done no matter who’s side your on is answer Gabby’s parents calls when they didn’t know where their daughter is, & they didn’t. They don’t deserve any sympathy whatsoever
Even if the police arrested Gabby that day, the two of them would have united again. They were together, miles and miles away from home and they only had each other as support. Whether or not this would have prevented an ultimate date with fate, that being the demise of Gabby, no one knows.
This guys parents need to be thrown in jail for harboring a criminal, why this hasn't happened yet is beyond me.
i agree with that viewpoint of yours . you go back to the abuser way too often. 15 years for me then i left, even my children were begging me. three times in an abuse shelter. now my life is amazing. thank you Lord!
arrest her? why not him? you’ve lost it mate
because she was the one who admitted hitting the guy. Get back to the story dude, then you'll be ok. @@adamxx3
@@iamric23 you know she was lying for him right?
I felt that she was telling the truth, I am very surprised that you don't see it that way.@@adamxx3
He was a murderous coward and if his parents knew and didnt report it, then they should be in prison for aiding and abetting a murderer, son or not.
They got sued by her parents and settled. I believe they sued for 2M
They lost their son for not telling the turth. They have to live with this. He should be in jail
The parents of Gaby shoul suing the police for let them go, knowing what he did to her.
Makes a big difference when people lawyer up. They become untouchable.
And that’s where this began. His parents never addressed what they knew to be true🤦🏾♂️
My 47 yo abuser dropped dead of a sudden heart attack and at 31 I was suddenly free. My 7 yo daughter and I could rebuild our lives without him. I met the love of my life a year later but refused to get seriois because he was newly divorced. I said your divorce was final the day we met date other women fpr a year then we will see. I was in l9ve with him but with so MUCH as stake my daughter, ME, my mew fou d peace of mi d I wasnt abput to jump right in. He didmt date other wpmen nut didnt pressure me and he moved in a year later. He was a great step-Dad still I t9ld him I couldnt ever remarry I depserately meeded the idea that we chose each other every single day anew. And we did...for 41 beautiful years together he passed away peacefully in his sleep at 80. I was so lucky.
Gabby’s facial expressions and emotions were totally different than Brian’s. Red flag. RIP sweet, sweet Gabby. Angel, so beautiful, adult life just beginning.
It's called Narcissist self victimization. Go look it up. They cause physical and or mental abuse and then cry and whine and complain about their victim.
What Brian's parents did is called Obstruction of Justice and also Aiding and Abetting. They should've been arrested after that letter was found.
@Shaunna L
Maybe she DIDN'T know. Ever consider that?
@Shaunna L
The FBI was in possession of the letter and closed the case with no charges filed. We must remember, these are allegations being made by the attorneys paid to represent the Petito's, whom, himself admits he doesn't know when the letter was written. I seriously doubt we are getting the full story and lawyers have been known to take measures to taint a potential jury pool. He released supposed "details" that could have waited for trial. Strategic....
@Shaunna L
She called a property attorney, not a criminal attorney. I agree, I think she assumed he could face charges in relation to the van.
@@emersonmanning6523 Didn't it say she called a lawyer a day after that call with Brian, which would have been over a week before she was known to be missing? I'm all for innocent until proven guilty, but there's no reason to contact a lawyer if you aren't aware that there's a situation even happening. 😕
@@Emobunneh
None of us know when they called their attorney and none of us know for what. We can speculate and assume all we want to but these are allegations being made by the Petito's, the Laundries have yet to speak. Any why should they unless forced to? Nothing they say will quash the angry mob.