This was so relatable! Especially your first point it can be hard to connect with devs without a lot of those common hobbies/interest And the gate keeping!
omg the example of "there are more women in frontend because it's like applying makeup" hit so close to home😤 I'm glad that you pointed out gatekeeping because a lot of newcomers get discouraged from those problematic people!
Yeah I definitely got discouraged, growing up a lot of people didn't tell me to quit when it got tough. So when so many people were telling me to quit I was like "Wow I guess I suck that bad" Also side note, you know something what's crazy too, I feel like on Twitter the gatekeeping community is STRONG!! I see some posts and I'm like "What are y'all saying" lol. I'm new to the Twitter community but some statements made take me back to college.
Im 20 years old, a mexican girl who is waiting for her DACA approval, living in kansas, and I just started college since i've graduated highschool, I got into coding and am in a training program at my school and i'm the only woman, there is diversity in the males but no women. it's a big university too so it's insane to me that not one other girl was recruited or even joined. i was looking up tutorials on kali linux and i ended up on your video and im so happy i did!!! You said a lot of what i have been feeling, and i had no idea that what i was feeling was culture shock. You gave me so much advice and brought up a whole topic nobody around me has ever showed me because none of my friends know what im even doing and the people i work with are all men. Thank you for your words and advice, i am wishing you nothing but success, and youre already doing an amazing job breaking barriers and bringing up conversations that need happen. I truly admire you and am looking forward to watching all your other videos!
Omg, I studied physics/nuclear engineering for two years and the culture was exactly the same! I got so discouraged because of it! Classmates were extremely unfriendly and elitist, teachers were always trying to make fun of you and kept saying "If you don't know this, you have no business being here". That school gave me so much anxiety, so I'm glad I quit but I also regret it, I was so passionate about physics but not at the cost of my mental health.
So sorry to hear that but If you still want to pursue physics or programing you should, there is many free bootcamps I am on one righ now. I am on my late 30s and still following my passion. Is never to late.
@@MayaBello hey Maya Don't know about how you are doing now. Also didn't watch the video yet. But wanted to just mention Who is any one to judge you?, Has aby one been in your shoes?, No right? So let them talk and you just keep doing your stuff. They have different talents most likely. But guess what ? Most likely you do too!
I love hearing code and Tech advice from Women. We need more women like you in Tech. I’m a 36 year old that’s been in the field since I was 18. This gave me hope. Thank you Maya! Keep up the great work!
I have been in the IT industry for over 20 years and I'm still learning about new processes, new testing technics and only now learning about automation testing and coding in python.
I love anime and Teen Titans lol. I caught that Ed Edd and Eddy clip as well 👀. That gatekeeper voice 😂. “You’re not a software engineer”. You had too much fun with the production value on this video lol. You know I made it to number 5 and the end of the video 😉. The collaborative part of coding is what I’m looking forward to.
😂😂😂 I hope I didn't come off like I was bashing anime! Lol I tried to add so many disclaimers. I LOVED Ed Edd and Eddy too haha I sneaked that clip in there! Lol I love editing haha. I used to find editing clips of myself cringy but adding the memes helps because I get to make phone of myself
Being able to talk about your interest with others is so real - No one really knew about the shows I watched so side convos were difficult at times. ‘Be comfortable being uncomfortable’ used to be my mantra for real. Keep it up - Love the editing!
Yeah in the beginning I was fine with sharing my culture with people and explaining things but then after awhile it gets tiring. I was like man I wish there was just ONE person that got me. Especially going from being surrounded by Black people to being the only one. sometimes I would Google pictures of Michele Obama because I would go weeks without seeing another black person And then later down the line I met a Black Professor and she is part of the reason I started doing better in school. We were from the same city and for one it was so powerful to see a Black women in a leadership position with a phd and 2. she told it to me straight and really challenged and motivated me.
@@MayaBello So happy your professor encouraged you! I guess I took the lazy route in terms of sharing my culture, I tended to feel people out and hear what they are talking about. The conversations would always be about things I didn't know about or had no interest in.
@@MayaBello The thing about real engineers are back end is true because that's engineering.. front end is like dressing up code. That's just fact. I am a physicist and we dont' call people that do basic stuff physicists lol, it's technicians. In regards to women, it's also true generally women get into the less "hard" parts of anything... however software engineer is also stupid. You should seek to be software lead project manager that's where money is.. Totem pole.. lowest, UI design middle software engineer backend top project manager... see how it goes back to useless people (technically speaking) ? project managers maintain profit balance and or bring in clients/manage them.. they're the best.. so idiots at the lowest and middle fight each other instead of being project oriented
Bro that front-end engineering comment was spot i personally choose front end beacuse paved a path for me to enter programming easier as i was already a graphic designer nothing to do with gender
I also find that most people can appreciate frontend work more, because they can easily see it, so that can contribute to the job choice too imo. I am considering going that way after finishing my CS degree, because i don’t like being alienated from people with non-tech jobs, and it’s more fun when you can show your friends what you’re working on😁
I love these types of videos because they prove that I actually SHOULD get into this field! haha! I'm so unique and I hate boring, mindless work and routine! Thanks for keepin it real girl, and I am proud to be starting my journey to hopefully work with beautiful souls like you one day.
It's also funny that you talk about connecting with other devs. At my first programming job all the other devs were REALLY into pro football. I don't mind pro football - I'd love to go to a game in person - but I don't follow it at all. I felt like I was on the outside of every conversation. Talking about other people playing a sport is probably in the top 3 most boring conversation topics I can think of. It really doesn't matter your sex, race, or background, it's a crapshoot whether or not you will hit it off with your co-workers.
I'm not a software engineer or anything close to this, but my boyfriend is an intern rn and everything you said is so true. I spent a week with him and watched him work and he is definitely the only black person currently in the Charleston office. But he definitely loves it!
he's also in so many meetings that it doesn't make sense. I'm honesly you guys and gals are able to finish your projects with the amount of meetings you're in
yeah and the more senior you get the more meetings you have. The staff software engineer on my team is in meetings all day I'm just like, how do you have time to get to your tasks???
im at the first minute of the video and i already pressed the like button.. giving credits to the sources you got the idea from is a rare thing, kudos!
Thank you so much for making this video! I appreciate that you're trying to make it more informational rather that scary. Honestly, the culture and co-workers in the main thing I worried about as someone who is newly getting into the field. Especially as a young women, I'm just so worried people are going to constantly talk down to me or say belittling things, especially in the beginning when I'm still getting me feet wet. It's definitely intimidating. But it's great to see role models like you who are doing the darn thing! Thanks for the great content! 😊
Great video dear! I'm an older backend eng and can validate everything in your video. Please stay in the business! Will it ever be easy? No. But you will become stronger/wiser and successful through your uniqueness. Yours in tech, M.S.
Thanks for this! I've been feeling like quitting so many times because it's so frustrating and people are so different than me. Luckily, we have videos like this to inspire us!!! Gatekeeping is real and feelings of constant failure.
I am not a gate keeper, but I ran into many gate keepers. Gate keepers you find in all industries and all types of jobs. From the very bottom up to the very top. People are just people, and this is the simple truth, people are assholes LOL. Whether your black, white, Asian, Hispanic. I am from NYC and people very, very prideful in acting like assholes. I am Latino from the Caribbean and I have seen it all. The reality I've notice in mostly all jobs you work in there are groups and you got your gate keepers. The gate keepers want to set the standard and tell you how things are done and how these are the norms even though this isn't the truth. The groups just want to fit in and be invisible pretty much. So, I've worked in many types of different industries and despite what type of work it is, you need to have good soft skills to deal with the gate keepers and also learn to walk away and leave them speaking to themselves. This is my own opinion and my experience from working many different types of jobs. Excellent video!
Thanks for your perspective! I am JUST starting out. I’m preparing to apply for a bootcamp soon. I needed a little encouragement and this did the trick!
Thank you for this content ! wish I knew these tips before starting my IT degree. ❤️ I've experienced gatekeeping with the kind of os I use. I was completely new to using CLI and Linux and I heard a lot of "oh wait, how can you not know CLI haha". 🙄
love your energy seems natural keep grinding. I absolutely agree all those point you said. right know i making A UX UI design from scratch for a costumer and making that design using grids. all those new web devs that are having hard time using floats and blocks, YaLL need to use grid and flex-box, you can learn it its supper easy and helpful. by the WAY I AM an African Canadian, shout out to all black coder.
Loving your videos as always! Luckily I haven't personally experienced any Gate-keeping examples but I know it certainly exists! I also definitely agree with your passionate statement - passion certainly comes when you are invested and actively trying to understand / break down and tackle a problem and the thrill that comes with that! Diversity is definitely important especially in this field, again there is a lack of minorities and women in tech, in which I feel members of these groups are needed, to provide a range of insights, ideas and experiences to a team.
Thank you for talking about gatekeeper culture and feeling like you can't relate to ANYONE on your team. When you find one ...keep them because they are few and far between.
I don't care what people eat, watch or listen to, languages, styles, etc, if someone got a lot of years of experience but won't do Unit-tests on your code, then to me, you are not senior engineer, and got a lot to learn. Don't @ me :D I agree with you, but for example, what if a doctor says, "I'm a surgeon, but I don't clean my hands.". It's not such a personal opinion, there must be quantitative way of evaluating someone's values.
You can't control what people say to you but you can control how you respond to it. If you faced isolated events like people laughing at you or being passive-aggressive, welcome to life lol. It happens everywhere. You come to sales or retention department and people will laugh in your face if you can't meet your monthly targets. Are you going to quit? Don't let that discourage you. Don't let little things like that pierce through you because if you let the opinions of other eat you up from the inside, you won't wanna go to work. Period.
On a smaller team, you might work by yourself more, but even then, you're coordinating your work with others, participating in stand-ups and checking in periodically. I consider excessive gatekeeping as a toxic workplace red flag.
Thank you for this video! I am just starting to learn coding and the Dexter analogy really helped me feel more confident! I related to almost all of your viewpoints! Keep up the great work!
@@MayaBello thank you. Im speaking with an actual celebrity. I really appreciate it. SINCE I HAVE YOU HERE, I was wondering if I might graciously request some aid. I am new to all of this and I really have an interest in kali linux and cyber security on top of pyrhon and was wondering if you could point me in the right direction or connect me to a mentor or any resource that could help with that? This is pretty difficult to navigate alone.
I course Computer Engineering and do not like neither games nor animes. It is shocking the amount of people in my field that are literally obsessed about both.
I feel you!! I was definitely the odd one out! I remember in study groups people would play video games as a study break and I would either just keep going and burn myself out or go in the corner and watch TH-cam 😭
I must admit that this video gave me a lot of motivation, I am studying now in college- web development and at first time I was not sure about it but slowly the mind and thought develops and it is an addictive feeling. I wanted to know if you have a Facebook page that I can follow you there as well. you're amazing.
I absolutely adore you and your videos! You have such a great teaching style. I would love it if you would do a 'Code Along' series where you go through step by step writing practical programs. Maybe, each video could go over in depth, a piece of a program that you would put all together at the end of the series. Much Love, - An aspiring girl coder trying to find her piece of independence.
When you come to the vedio because you know the title has an or not ( | )a line. Then you ask your self did I really needed advice, I see code every where I look
Thank you so much for this amazing video! I’m trying to get more into the coding world and see how it really is like. I am going towards the field of data analytics and AI but I’m also interested in software engineering. I love all your content and advice!
Lady, I'm a full grown adult. Video games can be fun, but are not my life. About 99% of anime is overrated. Lots of immature people into it. I like traveling, gardening, health, language learning, art, robotics, psychology, etc. I steer clear from people who have a personality compromised of two forms of media 🙄
I hate how toxic the tech industry is. I admire women who can endure it, but I'm moving closer to the business side because of the toxicity. Life is too short for me to surround myself with...idiots. Every toxic thing you see on Reddit is legit pushed into your face in person in the tech field.
Hello my friend, how's it going? Your channel is amazing I've been enjoying a lot watching your videos it's good to improve my knowledge in programming languages and to pratice my English. By the way I'm from Brazil and currently I'm working as a Network Enginner and I started to learn Python to solve and automate my script when I'm configurating some CISCO swithes and routers. So believe or not I don't like to play games lol, it's weird to say that because most of my classmates they love to play video games. About animes I confess that I love specially now that I'm joining in some English meeting with Japanese via zoom, I'm really interested to learn Japanese as my six language, because you know I already speak JavaScript and a bit of C++. See you, thanks
that was awesome, I've been in IT for 6 years now and have felt so much out of my element because of the culture shock. Watching this vide has giving me hope
Love all of this advice, totally fits with my experiences. I really wish there was more understanding of how much social work there is in software engineering. I would 1000x rather have a less experienced person with great interpersonal skills than a genius who alienates nearly everyone around him. Seriously, the best two things an intern can show me during interviews is basic, fizzbuzz-level technical knowledge and good communication.
Great video , and solid information. I like to really understand what I am getting into and videos like this are great. Also I love seeing the TH-cam channels of melanated ladies in tech. I follow so many at this point I genuinely think it’s the norm lol , I’m going to be shocked when I finally get a job and it’s not mostly women of color 😂
I guess a gatekeeper has no interest in being useful. But if they do notice something that a newbie could do to improve in their role, they could point it out to them in a constructive way. Nothing wrong with improving each day even if things are difficulty initially 🌱🌱🌱🌱🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
I worked some years as a programmer. I think that a rather large fraction of programmers are on the autism spectrum. The last place I was there were 5 other programmers, and only one of them ever asked a question about me as person/my previous experiences - and he didn't understand simple irony. At lunch, they talked about things - not people (except themselves) or society; when they talked about news, it was only about tech news. I stopped after 9 months.
I’m at the end of college and I know how to write really simplified code and find errors and stuff but I don’t know if this would help me outside school, any thoughts please?
I agree 100% with the "if you aren't passionate about programming you shouldn't do it". The reason I feel that way is that programming is hard, technology is constantly changing, etc. If you are just in it for the money I don't think that will be enough to get you through learning new technology and improving your skills. Some people might be smart enough to just coast through it and do it for the money but I think that is the exception. Also, I would rather work with someone that is passionate about their work - the quality and dedication just naturally flow from that passion. Isn't passion what separates a career from a job? I think the "if you aren't passionate about..." statement applies to all careers. I don't believe in any of the gate-keeping bullcrap though. Every programmer is learning no matter how much experience or education they have.
Ah I see your perspective! I was not passionate AT ALL about programming in the beginning (for about 2 years) and a lot of people told me to quit because of that!! However I just had some weird gut feeling that was telling me to just keep at this. I'm personally happy I didn't listen to that advice because I had to figure out what the hell was going on first. I think it can be hard to be passionate about something you don't fully understand and interest not passion is enough to learn something. However I understand your perspective!
I do think though that a lack of passion can be useful though. If you are not emotionally invested in what you are doing I think it gives you an advantage when addressing problems because you can see things pragmatically, rather than being enmeshed. A little indifference can be healthy.
"I don't believe in any of the gate-keeping bullcrap though" - it does exist. She is only getting it because she is young and new in the field. Once she gets more experience and excels, they snide remarks will go away.
@@MayaBello Just read this. I agree with you. I hadn't really considered that lack of passion could be a result of struggling to understand and do the job but that makes perfect sense. I think programmers and employers need to manage their expectations of new developers. I remember when I pushed my first commit, which was just a path change in a script, I was beyond thrilled. I thought "I am a professional programmer now!!" I knew I had a lot to learn and so did my boss. I found joy in the simplest of victories. I was given the simple assignments while I got a handle on source control, the IDE and the other tools. I think I was very fortunate to start at the company I did. People were kind and helpful. They wanted me to succeed.
@@evemarietou RIGHT? That was top tier story telling. Especially the puppet. The goosebumps one ond tho are you afraid of the dark one were good the only storieswto make me legit uneasy as a kid
LOL, gatekeeping, can confirm. When I was in college in the early 2000s, the engineers and comp sci folks would mock Windows all the time and extol the virtues of Linux. So I decided to install Red Hat. Little did I know that got mocked, too, because pfft, because the SMART people use Debian. Or was it FreeBSD, because actually Linux is stupid? Well, whatever, because I was a computer art major. Nobody could argue with me that I wasn't a software engineer because I never claimed to be one. ;) I just sort of... ending up being a full stack developer after graduation. As a white woman I didn't have that culture shock. It's interesting to hear your experiences with that!
This was so relatable! Especially your first point it can be hard to connect with devs without a lot of those common hobbies/interest
And the gate keeping!
omg the example of "there are more women in frontend because it's like applying makeup" hit so close to home😤 I'm glad that you pointed out gatekeeping because a lot of newcomers get discouraged from those problematic people!
Yeah I definitely got discouraged, growing up a lot of people didn't tell me to quit when it got tough. So when so many people were telling me to quit I was like "Wow I guess I suck that bad" Also side note, you know something what's crazy too, I feel like on Twitter the gatekeeping community is STRONG!! I see some posts and I'm like "What are y'all saying" lol. I'm new to the Twitter community but some statements made take me back to college.
Gate keeping is basically the "System of White Supremacy."
Im 20 years old, a mexican girl who is waiting for her DACA approval, living in kansas, and I just started college since i've graduated highschool, I got into coding and am in a training program at my school and i'm the only woman, there is diversity in the males but no women. it's a big university too so it's insane to me that not one other girl was recruited or even joined. i was looking up tutorials on kali linux and i ended up on your video and im so happy i did!!! You said a lot of what i have been feeling, and i had no idea that what i was feeling was culture shock. You gave me so much advice and brought up a whole topic nobody around me has ever showed me because none of my friends know what im even doing and the people i work with are all men. Thank you for your words and advice, i am wishing you nothing but success, and youre already doing an amazing job breaking barriers and bringing up conversations that need happen. I truly admire you and am looking forward to watching all your other videos!
Thank you for writing this! Comments like these keep me going, so thank you so much!! You got this and you inspire me!!! ❤️
Hey girl I’m also waiting on my DACA. Looking to start learning HTML/ CSS soon. Good luck!
Omg, I studied physics/nuclear engineering for two years and the culture was exactly the same! I got so discouraged because of it! Classmates were extremely unfriendly and elitist, teachers were always trying to make fun of you and kept saying "If you don't know this, you have no business being here". That school gave me so much anxiety, so I'm glad I quit but I also regret it, I was so passionate about physics but not at the cost of my mental health.
My mental health struggled so much 😭😭 I'm low key still not okay
So sorry to hear that but If you still want to pursue physics or programing you should, there is many free bootcamps I am on one righ now. I am on my late 30s and still following my passion. Is never to late.
@@leticiaespino7251 thank you, I decided to pursue IT now, it offers much more flexibility than science ☺️ I did a course on QA and loved it
@@SvobodovaEva so happy for you ❤️. Best wishes stay strong.
@@MayaBello hey Maya
Don't know about how you are doing now. Also didn't watch the video yet.
But wanted to just mention
Who is any one to judge you?,
Has aby one been in your shoes?,
No right?
So let them talk and you just keep doing your stuff.
They have different talents most likely.
But guess what ?
Most likely you do too!
I am in my first year as a computer science student and you're so inspirational. P.s your voice is so soothing 😌
I love hearing code and Tech advice from Women. We need more women like you in Tech. I’m a 36 year old that’s been in the field since I was 18. This gave me hope. Thank you Maya! Keep up the great work!
I have been in the IT industry for over 20 years and I'm still learning about new processes, new testing technics and only now learning about automation testing and coding in python.
I love anime and Teen Titans lol. I caught that Ed Edd and Eddy clip as well 👀.
That gatekeeper voice 😂. “You’re not a software engineer”. You had too much fun with the production value on this video lol.
You know I made it to number 5 and the end of the video 😉. The collaborative part of coding is what I’m looking forward to.
😂😂😂 I hope I didn't come off like I was bashing anime! Lol I tried to add so many disclaimers. I LOVED Ed Edd and Eddy too haha I sneaked that clip in there! Lol I love editing haha. I used to find editing clips of myself cringy but adding the memes helps because I get to make phone of myself
I wish teen titans actually got to finish out ... The first two seasons of young justice are great
Being able to talk about your interest with others is so real - No one really knew about the shows I watched so side convos were difficult at times.
‘Be comfortable being uncomfortable’ used to be my mantra for real.
Keep it up - Love the editing!
Yeah in the beginning I was fine with sharing my culture with people and explaining things but then after awhile it gets tiring. I was like man I wish there was just ONE person that got me. Especially going from being surrounded by Black people to being the only one. sometimes I would Google pictures of Michele Obama because I would go weeks without seeing another black person And then later down the line I met a Black Professor and she is part of the reason I started doing better in school. We were from the same city and for one it was so powerful to see a Black women in a leadership position with a phd and 2. she told it to me straight and really challenged and motivated me.
@@MayaBello So happy your professor encouraged you! I guess I took the lazy route in terms of sharing my culture, I tended to feel people out and hear what they are talking about. The conversations would always be about things I didn't know about or had no interest in.
@@MayaBello The thing about real engineers are back end is true because that's engineering.. front end is like dressing up code. That's just fact. I am a physicist and we dont' call people that do basic stuff physicists lol, it's technicians. In regards to women, it's also true generally women get into the less "hard" parts of anything... however software engineer is also stupid. You should seek to be software lead project manager that's where money is..
Totem pole..
lowest, UI design
middle software engineer backend
top project manager...
see how it goes back to useless people (technically speaking) ? project managers maintain profit balance and or bring in clients/manage them.. they're the best.. so idiots at the lowest and middle fight each other instead of being project oriented
Bro that front-end engineering comment was spot i personally choose front end beacuse paved a path for me to enter programming easier as i was already a graphic designer nothing to do with gender
I also find that most people can appreciate frontend work more, because they can easily see it, so that can contribute to the job choice too imo. I am considering going that way after finishing my CS degree, because i don’t like being alienated from people with non-tech jobs, and it’s more fun when you can show your friends what you’re working on😁
“Why do you want to stand by the gate anyway?” 🙌🙌🙌
👏🏾👏🏾I’m loving this I needed this 👏🏾👏🏾
Keep going sis! ❤️❤️❤️
I love these types of videos because they prove that I actually SHOULD get into this field! haha! I'm so unique and I hate boring, mindless work and routine! Thanks for keepin it real girl, and I am proud to be starting my journey to hopefully work with beautiful souls like you one day.
It's also funny that you talk about connecting with other devs. At my first programming job all the other devs were REALLY into pro football. I don't mind pro football - I'd love to go to a game in person - but I don't follow it at all. I felt like I was on the outside of every conversation. Talking about other people playing a sport is probably in the top 3 most boring conversation topics I can think of. It really doesn't matter your sex, race, or background, it's a crapshoot whether or not you will hit it off with your co-workers.
I'm not a software engineer or anything close to this, but my boyfriend is an intern rn and everything you said is so true. I spent a week with him and watched him work and he is definitely the only black person currently in the Charleston office. But he definitely loves it!
he's also in so many meetings that it doesn't make sense. I'm honesly you guys and gals are able to finish your projects with the amount of meetings you're in
it be so lonely out here! I just joined a new team and there's 3 of us and I'm SHOOK!
yeah and the more senior you get the more meetings you have. The staff software engineer on my team is in meetings all day I'm just like, how do you have time to get to your tasks???
Charleston, SC?
@@tarayahjones6672 yes
im at the first minute of the video and i already pressed the like button.. giving credits to the sources you got the idea from is a rare thing, kudos!
Aww thank you!!!
Thank you so much for making this video! I appreciate that you're trying to make it more informational rather that scary. Honestly, the culture and co-workers in the main thing I worried about as someone who is newly getting into the field. Especially as a young women, I'm just so worried people are going to constantly talk down to me or say belittling things, especially in the beginning when I'm still getting me feet wet. It's definitely intimidating. But it's great to see role models like you who are doing the darn thing! Thanks for the great content! 😊
Great video dear! I'm an older backend eng and can validate everything in your video. Please stay in the business! Will it ever be easy? No. But you will become stronger/wiser and successful through your uniqueness. Yours in tech, M.S.
Thanks for this! I've been feeling like quitting so many times because it's so frustrating and people are so different than me. Luckily, we have videos like this to inspire us!!! Gatekeeping is real and feelings of constant failure.
You have such a wholesome personality!
I am not a gate keeper, but I ran into many gate keepers. Gate keepers you find in all industries and all types of jobs. From the very bottom up to the very top. People are just people, and this is the simple truth, people are assholes LOL. Whether your black, white, Asian, Hispanic. I am from NYC and people very, very prideful in acting like assholes. I am Latino from the Caribbean and I have seen it all. The reality I've notice in mostly all jobs you work in there are groups and you got your gate keepers. The gate keepers want to set the standard and tell you how things are done and how these are the norms even though this isn't the truth. The groups just want to fit in and be invisible pretty much. So, I've worked in many types of different industries and despite what type of work it is, you need to have good soft skills to deal with the gate keepers and also learn to walk away and leave them speaking to themselves. This is my own opinion and my experience from working many different types of jobs.
Excellent video!
Thanks for your perspective! I am JUST starting out. I’m preparing to apply for a bootcamp soon. I needed a little encouragement and this did the trick!
I’m watching this in 2023… I can sooooo relate to this! I’ve got some stories I need to share
Thank you for this content ! wish I knew these tips before starting my IT degree. ❤️ I've experienced gatekeeping with the kind of os I use. I was completely new to using CLI and Linux and I heard a lot of "oh wait, how can you not know CLI haha". 🙄
This is such a wholesome video☀️ the tv show comparisons, your choice of words, voice and background music....it’s just so comforting💜
aww thank you 😭😭❤️
Youre such a beautiful soul. I love how humble you are and the vulnerability and honesty in this video! Super helpful!
aww thank you Pauline!!
Never knew it was possible to fall in love at first video.
I love this video. Thank you!! I liked and subscribed :)
Thank you for subscribing Melody!!!
Main thing people need to understand about this industry is that you will not be successful if you don’t put the extra time and work.
love your energy seems natural keep grinding.
I absolutely agree all those point you said.
right know i making A UX UI design from scratch for a costumer and making that design using grids.
all those new web devs that are having hard time using floats and blocks, YaLL need to use grid and flex-box, you can learn it its supper easy and helpful.
by the WAY I AM an African Canadian, shout out to all black coder.
Loving your videos as always! Luckily I haven't personally experienced any Gate-keeping examples but I know it certainly exists!
I also definitely agree with your passionate statement - passion certainly comes when you are invested and actively trying to understand / break down and tackle a problem and the thrill that comes with that!
Diversity is definitely important especially in this field, again there is a lack of minorities and women in tech, in which I feel members of these groups are needed, to provide a range of insights, ideas and experiences to a team.
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lmao honestly said it better than me 😂😂
@@MayaBello Ahaah not at all 😅 - it's great that you can speak on and bring light to such experiences 👏🏿👏🏿, keep at it you're smashing it right now!
Yeah Dexter pilot didn't quite do it for me either. My my gf made me power through a few episodes, then I was HOOKED
This is the first I hear of how teamwork works for a Software Engineer. Thanks for sharing!
You're welcome!!
Need more videos like this for US. Thanks for this, sis.
Thank you for talking about gatekeeper culture and feeling like you can't relate to ANYONE on your team. When you find one ...keep them because they are few and far between.
I don't care what people eat, watch or listen to, languages, styles, etc, if someone got a lot of years of experience but won't do Unit-tests on your code, then to me, you are not senior engineer, and got a lot to learn. Don't @ me :D
I agree with you, but for example, what if a doctor says, "I'm a surgeon, but I don't clean my hands.".
It's not such a personal opinion, there must be quantitative way of evaluating someone's values.
You can't control what people say to you but you can control how you respond to it.
If you faced isolated events like people laughing at you or being passive-aggressive, welcome to life lol. It happens everywhere.
You come to sales or retention department and people will laugh in your face if you can't meet your monthly targets. Are you going to quit?
Don't let that discourage you. Don't let little things like that pierce through you because if you let the opinions of other eat you up from the inside, you won't wanna go to work. Period.
On a smaller team, you might work by yourself more, but even then, you're coordinating your work with others, participating in stand-ups and checking in periodically. I consider excessive gatekeeping as a toxic workplace red flag.
I was totally a bad fit for the tech culture! My soft skills were atrocious, despite the fact that I understood software and coding.
glad i discovered your channel.
Thanks so much! Love this video you’re so chill and explain things so good appreciate it :)
Thank you for this video! I am just starting to learn coding and the Dexter analogy really helped me feel more confident! I related to almost all of your viewpoints! Keep up the great work!
Thank you for this ... I've been trying trying to teach myself and it has been incredibly difficult in regards to trying to push past these issues.
you are welcome! No matter what, keep going! you got this!
@@MayaBello thank you. Im speaking with an actual celebrity. I really appreciate it. SINCE I HAVE YOU HERE, I was wondering if I might graciously request some aid. I am new to all of this and I really have an interest in kali linux and cyber security on top of pyrhon and was wondering if you could point me in the right direction or connect me to a mentor or any resource that could help with that? This is pretty difficult to navigate alone.
Omg😍😍I love this video. I am so in love with your channel. I couldn't stop watching till the end.
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
This video is so awesome! Thank you for making it!
Thank you for watching and supporting!!
I'm new to the field after a career change. Thank you
Thank you for the dope content!
you're welcome!! I'm glad you liked the video!!
I course Computer Engineering and do not like neither games nor animes. It is shocking the amount of people in my field that are literally obsessed about both.
I feel you!! I was definitely the odd one out! I remember in study groups people would play video games as a study break and I would either just keep going and burn myself out or go in the corner and watch TH-cam 😭
I literally love this video
I must admit that this video gave me a lot of motivation, I am studying now in college- web development and at first time I was not sure about it but slowly the mind and thought develops and it is an addictive feeling.
I wanted to know if you have a Facebook page that I can follow you there as well.
you're amazing.
Always good info. A happy subscriber!
Aww thank you!! I appreciate the support! 😄
I absolutely adore you and your videos! You have such a great teaching style.
I would love it if you would do a 'Code Along' series where you go through step by step writing practical programs. Maybe, each video could go over in depth, a piece of a program that you would put all together at the end of the series.
Much Love,
- An aspiring girl coder trying to find her piece of independence.
You are so sweet genuine. Very helpful review and down to earth. Touched points nobody else done before.
appreciate the honesty!
You are amazing. 🌸I needed this . Thank you !
YOU GOT THIS GABRIELA!! 💖💖💖 Keep going!
When you come to the vedio because you know the title has an or not ( | )a line.
Then you ask your self did I really needed advice, I see code every where I look
Hahaha i love this video. It's funny and it'll keep you goin. It helps a lot. Thank you so much!
You are so kind, smart and pretty! I wish I had such colleagues then I'll get my first dev job. That will be definitely what to talk about with them😄👌
Thank you for the kind words 😭💖
Not me being into studying languages currently still learning Japanese and Korean
Whoaaa that team situation is whewwwww chile. Lmao....thanks for letting me know that because I had no idea about that.
Loved this!
thank you!!! I was a little worried about this video, but the response has been good so far! 💕
Thank you so much for this amazing video! I’m trying to get more into the coding world and see how it really is like. I am going towards the field of data analytics and AI but I’m also interested in software engineering. I love all your content and advice!
Lady, I'm a full grown adult. Video games can be fun, but are not my life. About 99% of anime is overrated. Lots of immature people into it. I like traveling, gardening, health, language learning, art, robotics, psychology, etc. I steer clear from people who have a personality compromised of two forms of media 🙄
I hate how toxic the tech industry is. I admire women who can endure it, but I'm moving closer to the business side because of the toxicity. Life is too short for me to surround myself with...idiots.
Every toxic thing you see on Reddit is legit pushed into your face in person in the tech field.
Hello my friend, how's it going? Your channel is amazing I've been enjoying a lot watching your videos it's good to improve my knowledge in programming languages and to pratice my English. By the way I'm from Brazil and currently I'm working as a Network Enginner and I started to learn Python to solve and automate my script when I'm configurating some CISCO swithes and routers. So believe or not I don't like to play games lol, it's weird to say that because most of my classmates they love to play video games. About animes I confess that I love specially now that I'm joining in some English meeting with Japanese via zoom, I'm really interested to learn Japanese as my six language, because you know I already speak JavaScript and a bit of C++. See you, thanks
Hi, I'm good! I hope to one day visit Brazil!!!
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yessssssss! Lizzie Gordo Miranda, I was obsessed! 😭🙈
that was awesome, I've been in IT for 6 years now and have felt so much out of my element because of the culture shock. Watching this vide has giving me hope
what do you think is the best way to start learning code?
The best way to start learning to code I would say is trying an hour of code! More info in this video: th-cam.com/video/VeP4IFmGc7g/w-d-xo.html
Yeah, I am sticking to computer science
I totally feel this!! Thank you for putting into words what some of the challenges with becoming a SWE are 🙂
Love all of this advice, totally fits with my experiences.
I really wish there was more understanding of how much social work there is in software engineering. I would 1000x rather have a less experienced person with great interpersonal skills than a genius who alienates nearly everyone around him. Seriously, the best two things an intern can show me during interviews is basic, fizzbuzz-level technical knowledge and good communication.
Great video , and solid information. I like to really understand what I am getting into and videos like this are great. Also I love seeing the TH-cam channels of melanated ladies in tech. I follow so many at this point I genuinely think it’s the norm lol , I’m going to be shocked when I finally get a job and it’s not mostly women of color 😂
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I guess a gatekeeper has no interest in being useful. But if they do notice something that a newbie could do to improve in their role, they could point it out to them in a constructive way. Nothing wrong with improving each day even if things are difficulty initially 🌱🌱🌱🌱🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻🌻
So true !!!! This is the growth mindset
I worked some years as a programmer. I think that a rather large fraction of programmers are on the autism spectrum. The last place I was there were 5 other programmers, and only one of them ever asked a question about me as person/my previous experiences - and he didn't understand simple irony. At lunch, they talked about things - not people (except themselves) or society; when they talked about news, it was only about tech news. I stopped after 9 months.
Sound like nerds to me lol
the editing is really good!
I’m at the end of college and I know how to write really simplified code and find errors and stuff but I don’t know if this would help me outside school, any thoughts please?
I agree 100% with the "if you aren't passionate about programming you shouldn't do it". The reason I feel that way is that programming is hard, technology is constantly changing, etc. If you are just in it for the money I don't think that will be enough to get you through learning new technology and improving your skills. Some people might be smart enough to just coast through it and do it for the money but I think that is the exception. Also, I would rather work with someone that is passionate about their work - the quality and dedication just naturally flow from that passion. Isn't passion what separates a career from a job? I think the "if you aren't passionate about..." statement applies to all careers. I don't believe in any of the gate-keeping bullcrap though. Every programmer is learning no matter how much experience or education they have.
Ah I see your perspective! I was not passionate AT ALL about programming in the beginning (for about 2 years) and a lot of people told me to quit because of that!! However I just had some weird gut feeling that was telling me to just keep at this. I'm personally happy I didn't listen to that advice because I had to figure out what the hell was going on first. I think it can be hard to be passionate about something you don't fully understand and interest not passion is enough to learn something. However I understand your perspective!
I do think though that a lack of passion can be useful though. If you are not emotionally invested in what you are doing I think it gives you an advantage when addressing problems because you can see things pragmatically, rather than being enmeshed. A little indifference can be healthy.
@@MayaBello so glad to hear this perspective.
"I don't believe in any of the gate-keeping bullcrap though" - it does exist. She is only getting it because she is young and new in the field. Once she gets more experience and excels, they snide remarks will go away.
@@MayaBello Just read this. I agree with you. I hadn't really considered that lack of passion could be a result of struggling to understand and do the job but that makes perfect sense. I think programmers and employers need to manage their expectations of new developers. I remember when I pushed my first commit, which was just a path change in a script, I was beyond thrilled. I thought "I am a professional programmer now!!" I knew I had a lot to learn and so did my boss. I found joy in the simplest of victories. I was given the simple assignments while I got a handle on source control, the IDE and the other tools. I think I was very fortunate to start at the company I did. People were kind and helpful. They wanted me to succeed.
😁 self teaching myself as a hobby.
i cannot imagine being laughed at at a study group wow. so horrible
still traumatized low key 😭
Would it be possible to major cyber security and computer science
Also as an aside. The show "Are you afraid of the dark?" Anyone ?
It’s a classic. Loved it as a kid, and I’ve revisited episodes as an adult and they hold up!
@@evemarietou RIGHT? That was top tier story telling. Especially the puppet. The goosebumps one ond tho are you afraid of the dark one were good the only storieswto make me legit uneasy as a kid
@@kymaeryk 100%! "The Dream Girl" and "The Tale of the Lonely Ghost" are spooky as hell to this day.
@@evemarietou I need to watch those two they sound interesting. I remember Alex mac and alan strange as well
Loved that show
You hit it right on the nose
Would you say it’s a really competitive job market and flooded market?
Keep up the good work
Teen titans 😍😭
Funny 😃 but facts💯💯💯
😂😂 thank you!
I’m into anime heavily
I just came in to look at your shiny beautiful skin...Carry on
Thank you for this
Lol I lost it during the voice changes
LOL, gatekeeping, can confirm. When I was in college in the early 2000s, the engineers and comp sci folks would mock Windows all the time and extol the virtues of Linux. So I decided to install Red Hat. Little did I know that got mocked, too, because pfft, because the SMART people use Debian. Or was it FreeBSD, because actually Linux is stupid? Well, whatever, because I was a computer art major. Nobody could argue with me that I wasn't a software engineer because I never claimed to be one. ;) I just sort of... ending up being a full stack developer after graduation.
As a white woman I didn't have that culture shock. It's interesting to hear your experiences with that!
same and I still watch teen titans.
I love starfire so much 😭😭 and beast boy is a vibe
Her: "You made it to number 5, you know you liked this video" Me: "Oh snap, I did make it to number 5...and I do like this video"
You're pretty for a programmer. 😍
Luckily On my team we have a good mix of men and women, which helps with the micro aggressions and gate keeping . I hope tech becomes more diverse !
Proud family👀 sister sister😂
😂😂😂 yooooo those 👏🏿were 👏🏿my 👏🏿SHOWS 👏🏿 Haha I tried bringing up these shows with people and it was honestly like I was speaking a different language
@@MayaBello ohhh nawww lol you cant add them to the squad lol
2:38 Admittedly honest based on your inability to name 1.
This sounds like INTP dream job 👀
Does anyone know if she's single...
asking for a friend?