I have to say this… I absolutely love the decision you have made to start a Podcast with your husband. The conversations are relatable and as a woman who grew up in church it’s so refreshing to hear the real versus the sugar coated. For the both of you to be honest about your past lives and the struggles you still experience is what needs to be heard. I subscribed to you because you’re not afraid to say you love God and I’m sticking around for the realness.
@OnlyOneJess but let's be honest... I was raised pentecostal I mean back in the day, old time pentecostal. So yes wr sat people down who sin. The simply told us don't havr sex....but we had far less sexual offenses back then, than we do now. I literally had a 12yr old with chlamydia. Gonorrhea, and herpes in my ER last night 😩 this baby is 12 and she said she don't even know who gave her what. So I'd much rather have it the way it was when we came up than these kids today. I'm very cautious about my 3 and 1yr old
Jess, the way Jonathan openly encourages you to speak and live in your truth, without shame or judgment… I can only imagine his covering behind closed doors. 🙏🏽 I’m not sure if it’s part of the “black/caribbean church culture” but I’m sure many of us share the same stories. The common denominator is often the hyper focus on shaming/denouncing someone who has sinned. I know it’s pushed a lot of people away from the physical building of church (I’m sure it also happens in other cultures as well). I think one of the most important things we can learn, practice and share is the importance of cultivating a personal relationship with God. When all else is stripped away, God is still in the midst.
I just turned 49 yrs old this month and the message of forgiveness is so necessary and I receive that message and I thank God for using you as a vessel for me to hear and receive this message. I've heard it before but I truly get it today so thank you so much. I love this podcast and beautiful couple. God's continual blessings over your lives. Thank you so much. Much love ❤
Hey I’m full black and nope not an island thing we couldn’t do Harry Potter , Pokémon , Yu-Gi-oh etc lol but when you look into the spiritual behind it you understand
so glad i got to this video early. i’m a pk too and the sweltering shame that’s built into caribbean based christian churches is very detrimental to young minds that are bound to explore. i’m a young adult now and i live my life without shame, and i am less connected to my father’s church and more connected to God for myself. once i went away to college i literally felt God keeping me. seeing how other kids lose all their discipline when they’re free was scary. finding God for myself was the self awakening i needed to realize some of the hypocrisy i’ve faced within church growing up. my parents weren’t as strict as the people in his congregation tried to be, but once your pastor’s kid everyone thinks you’re their kid too because of that spotlight. so glad i could relate my experiences to you guys tho, keep the podcasts coming ❤
Y'all better PREACH! This hit different, especially when I am almost twice your age and I got this message sent to me FROM GOD through you both. God Bless your union and keep sharing. Y'all are definitely making a positive difference. Yall are so adorable and fun to watch as well on "Your Podcast," even with serious topics. I love it!!!
It is a commandant and sex outside of marriage is adultery. All of these topics are great that you guys are doing! Honestly when people see young adults living for God it inspires the youth and older adults to do the same😊
I am a 44 year old woman who grew up with old school belizean parents. They never spoke about sex. I am the youngest of 7. They let my siblings "educate " me on sex. I had to figure it out on my own basically because they didn't know much either. I changed the narrative with my children by having open conversations with my them. Thanks Jess and Jonathan for this podcasts and creating this safe space for us❤
Great conversation! When we started school, every year at the beginning of school from K-College, my mom sat us down and talked to us. She would say, never let anyone touch you (she would point in the area), never take medicine from people! Things like that, then as we got older the talks got more deep! Cause here’s the thing, if not parents, then who? 🖤🖤🖤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
First of all, I LOVE you two doing this together it is so refreshing and relatable. I feel like this is going to be something so big. You both are very insightful and honest & so many people (young and older) will be enlightened in many different ways. Go Jess, great move! I agree with Jonathan...you can be open, but not accepting of everything. Thats the difference between a friend and a parent...a parent will let you in on information based on age/time of course, but will also let you know what they expect of you. Boundaries still have to be set even when being open. You also have to remember not to be overly open anout everything.
Jonathan that message was for me I think almost the last seven minutes. Thank you. You said God unconditional forgiveness. A tear fell and I knew it was for me. Thank you so much.
No girl it makes you approachable. I love you guys bcuz you’re so real and you know God and it doesn’t make you holier than thou. When I was a child it was one or the other.
Before the “podcast” I NEVER knew you were Caribbean. Makes me so happy feels like I can relate to you even more Christian, Caribbean and an influencer LOVE IT
Yall betta preach 🙌🏾🙌🏾 Y’all are ministering to so many, I’m loving watching these “podcasts” lol Speaking so many truths that people have went through and felt stuck with no outlet, someone got free from watching this. God bless you both, keep it going!!!!
I'm not a PK but as someone who got baptized at a young age ... when I really think about it shame is the main reason I fell off my walk... I felt so dirty and broken to the point where I believed God could never love someone like me ... because of an experience like that I think if the churches have a safe space for young people there's so much we don't have go through or experience just to understand the why.
Whew!!! That was some GREAT unpacking!!! It does help me in the path of raising my child. Beautiful open conversation and YES WE ALL SEE THE CALLING FOR JOHNATHAN 😂😂 He gives chills sometimes, come on thru Pastor! ❤❤
This is such a good conversation. I grew up in the Christian church and the topic of sex was never really talked about much. Thankfully my mother did a good job at being attentive and not holding back. I have definitely vowed to be open and honest with my son and any other kids I may have. Thank you both for being open about this for the younger community.
This is so refreshing to hear. I’m not a PK lol but we were very involved. Church Sundays, Tuesdays, choir practice Wednesdays, bible study Thursday. Like I’m a kid, I wanna have fun, Sunday enough for me😭 I’m a believer, but I haven’t consistently been to a church since I got out of high school & I’m in my mid 20’s. It’s hard for me since it was pushed on me as a child & I never understood the reasoning of why we had to go so many days out the week. I really wanna get back into it & find a church home, but I’m struggling especially now since I’m in nursing school & my nose stay in those books, but I also want to learn how to understand the Bible & be more in touch with God.
I love that you both decided to do a podcast ! I enjoyed both episodes so far, you both are full of wisdom and yet also remain to be relatable. Keep it going ! 🎉
Jess girl you might be on to something with the podcast. I mean I started watching this morning and came right back to it on my lunch. I love the topic,really enjoy the energy and how y’all feed off each other. Please keep this up!!!
I had this dilemma but not from being a pastor kid but from having strict helicopter parents they wanted and expected perfection so I had a complete double life that led me to making a lot of mistakes in the dark because I couldn’t go to anyone for advice or real conversations so I just tried to hide and figure everything out on my own. Ex hygiene, sex, etc
Its so ...whats the word, refreshing. Love the podcast because it's very genuine what you guys are trying to do. I grew up with Caribbean parents and churchy, i wish i had a podcast like this when i was younger. 😊 great job Jess. Good pivot with where to go next with your platform
This was so relatable it’s funny I was a preacher kid too and have some of the same experiences including getting baptized at 8/9. I did it all in the church and the pressure was real!!!!
😂 demon thing, cause I don't let my children watch those things either. But for real, especially these new age things, some crazy lessons being taught in these shows. Have to be careful
In the words of my grandmother- it’s not cursing unless you put God in front of it. You can da-n all you want, but when you say God da-n now your cursing!! - oh how I miss that woman! ❤
Jonathan. That somebody was me. Thanks for that. You hear it all the time but how you said it, and the song that was referenced, it connected. God bless you guys.
This was a great conversation. I enjoyed this podcast too. I agree with y'all and that's also how I see things. We need to be realistic in church. Being strict don't guarantee holiness. I was curious too as a teen. And don't school the girls only, school the boys too! Keep the podcasts coming❤
Generational legacies and generational curses are synonymous. The pressure of living up to adult standards as a kid can cripple you (legacy). The pressure to do better when you don't see better cripple you (gen curses). Both are Anxiety Triggers.
Thank you for this. I can so relate and sadly never stepped back into a church again after I left religion at age 26. The pressure is real. This was a great segment. Thank you both.❤
So sorry that you didn’t get the proper experience in the Lord’s House. Not ALL churches are this way, I pray that the Lord guides you to one that is tailored just for you
Hey Jess!!!! YOU SOUND LIKE ME!!!! Lol. My dad is a Pastor as well and you know what I have learned since I've gotten older? When the enemy can't can't get to the parents, they come after the children. So, it wasn't just you. It was an attack of the enemy on your parents. When you r parents raise you to know the Word and the give you to God, they know you'll find your way back! I have the same testimony! My sister and I tell my dad some of the stuff we were doing (we're 36 and 37 now) and he just be looking at us crazy! When he preaches, we always end up in his messages. He told God that he would serve him, he just wanted God to take care of us (me and my sister). That's it!!! Love you guys talks! Much love and blessings to you guys!
i be in my dads messages too! lol our parents did the best they could with what they had and im forever grateful for the tools they gave me. shout out to us pastors kids! lol
Great PodCast! I’m 56yo. My kids are your age. I have 3 girls. My hubby and I read a book to them called “What’s Happening To My Body” at age 8 of the eldest. The younger 2 were 7 and 5. We always keep an open door policy in our house. Every family is different but that worked for us.
I'm a preacher's kid and I appreciate that there was no pressure felt for me to be anyone other than who I am. I definitely have a great balance between being a PK and all social things. I'm in my late 30s. My brother is similar to me and my sister...well she was on rebel time LOL. But most folks grow out of it.
I actually like the air quotes when you say podcast. It is something that will make your logo for whatever name you select unique. I teach marketing and design.
10:51 My kids would likely say this❤ 😅 ...my reason is -It was in protection of their innocence and newness in Christ. Both deal with Idolizing other beings and conjuring spirits. I didn't/don't want other things to come against my childs belief in God. 🌱 Budding faith - is new and developing during young years. Similar to the midset of a gardener...you can not control the direction a seed will sprout but you can give the plants a fence and proper support to grow in a safe space. 💫💚💜🤗 God is good. I am so proud of you and your truth. Remain Blessed.
Jess you are so blessed to have a man who can join you in your career and with so much charisma. I love it and love y’all ❤ I’m loving the podcast. Just doing my nails and hair listening to y’all 😂
We grew up in a lot of religion and not relationship. The old church way of ‘scaring’ the hell out of us. So much trauma and no true relationship with God. Yes! We have to died with home we share our nakedness too. The world speaks of itching. We have to truly use discernment
This is so good!!! Hesitated to suggest this to a Sista' friend but I've gotta do it. I think it will be helpful for something she's dealing with. I'm sure you both are setting many folks free💜👏🏿✨
It is such a blessing finding your channel. I honestly feel like God this is when I needed it the most. May God keep your marriage strong and strive! Love your channel ❤❤❤ #new subscriber!!!
After those push-ups with you reading a book on his back Jonathan's name will forever be J-Strong to me....and he doesn't need IG because he's married to Jess lol. Y'all are like my younger cousins and I love y'all. Especially the looks you give him when he starts spitting the Word!
While I’m not a PK, my father was. My Grandfather was an Episcopal/Anglican Priest who came to America with my dad. I went to religious based school from K-College. I get it.
This was a great conversation. I am glad you guys shared your experiences. Many of us have the same experiences. Thanks for sharing. Keep up with the podcast
Even if the experiences you shared aren’t relative to all PK’s, I think we can all agree that being a PK is one of the loneliest experiences. Not only are we on a pedestal (and admittedly, we do project others’ desires + expectations onto ourselves), but when we need a moment to just be human, we have no one to talk to. IYKYK. But I love your Union bc you have each other and that BIG context and relatability which is being a PK. my boyfriend is also a PK. I’m also 3 years older lol It’s beautiful to watch you share your testimonies and “overcome” TOGETHER with the fullness of God’s joy and liberty. 🤍🤍
I grew up with lots of 'church pressure' as well, though not a pastor's, kid. One of Jehovah's Witnesses. I feel that all of this conversation is so real and very relatable to me too. I felt the same kind of fear and lived in a similar bubble. I waited till I got married to 'do the dirty' as I used to call it and in so doing I bonded with my husband yes at the same time was so unprepared for reality because there is so much shade on this topic; what is acceptable, what isn't acceptable and what mistakes really look like as a young person etc. I was 39 when I got married. I wish it would have been okay to make the mistake of having sex early and was taught what that looks like to take as many precautions as possible if that was the choice I wanted to make; as opposed to having made the mistake of getting married at the wrong time, to the wrong person. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband. But we didn't get married at the right time or for the right reason. If sex wasn't such a mystery to me, I wouldn't have rushed into getting married. I was more afraid of the consequences of what people would think about me as opposed to the consequences for my life for having the wrong partner simply because I was tired of waiting. I didn't 'get in trouble' but I effectively ruined my life. Ironic.
A 5hr service?!!! How can someone speak that long. 😭😭 at what point do we stop singing the entire Kirk Franklin catalogue. Omg I would’ve been resentful too
This is my first time commenting on TH-cam ever but I had to lol. It's crazy how you was raised EXACTLY like me and my siblings when I thought only my church was "crazy" lol naw but being a preacher's kid and the excessive church and not getting reasons for why we couldn't do things. And definitely the pedestal 🤦🏽. I felt this whole "podcast" 😂 And lastly I love yaw chemistry 💖
I didn’t understand why me and my siblings would have to go to church. Our parents stayed at home. When I became a teenager I wouldn’t go. Now I think God for my mother coming upon a year this 😢month without her. Be blessed and happy with your family that you have in your life 💞🌺💞🌼💞🌸🦋🌈🙏🏾
Lol just like you Jess. I was like let me try and got pregnant on my first time, family is in ministry! I was 16! What I tell my daughter is pregnancy/ raising a child was the easiest out of all the other consequences that they don't talk about.
Oh my goodness, this was a wonderful, serious and needed to be heard vlog. You two made it enjoyable I laughed so much, my husband came into the room and asked what was so funny? He only knows you by me saying, I'm watching Jess the lady that does the Factor adds 😂. Please keep them coming . I really get excited when I get a notification that you are on🙏❤️
One more thing I agree that opening up is a way to let go and free yourself but I never trusted anyone because I always felt like they would just judge me and tell everyone about it. Yeah no! 😂😂😂
I’m late but the biggest disservice we could to do our kids is not give them a space safe to ask questions and explore their own walk. Growing up, I HATED that I couldn’t ask “why?” When I didn’t understand anything. I left the church at 16 and never looked back. Church still feels like a harbor for shame and judgement. I’m glad I do not parent how I was raised. A lot of adults forget they were children once and it’s disgusting the way how they carry on sometimes.
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lol the fact that he looks like all of them lol
low keyyyy lol like one big mixture of fineness
he does look like them all and it's cute lol
Lol I was looking at the pictures like “yeah, I can see that”, “I can see that one too” lol
I agree!!
I don't see it at all😅
I have to say this… I absolutely love the decision you have made to start a Podcast with your husband. The conversations are relatable and as a woman who grew up in church it’s so refreshing to hear the real versus the sugar coated. For the both of you to be honest about your past lives and the struggles you still experience is what needs to be heard. I subscribed to you because you’re not afraid to say you love God and I’m sticking around for the realness.
Thank you so much! There really is freedom in transparency and this podcast is helping us as well! Thank you for watching ❤️
@OnlyOneJess but let's be honest... I was raised pentecostal I mean back in the day, old time pentecostal. So yes wr sat people down who sin. The simply told us don't havr sex....but we had far less sexual offenses back then, than we do now. I literally had a 12yr old with chlamydia. Gonorrhea, and herpes in my ER last night 😩 this baby is 12 and she said she don't even know who gave her what. So I'd much rather have it the way it was when we came up than these kids today. I'm very cautious about my 3 and 1yr old
This is such an amazing conversation and so important
Jess, the way Jonathan openly encourages you to speak and live in your truth, without shame or judgment… I can only imagine his covering behind closed doors. 🙏🏽
I’m not sure if it’s part of the “black/caribbean church culture” but I’m sure many of us share the same stories. The common denominator is often the hyper focus on shaming/denouncing someone who has sinned. I know it’s pushed a lot of people away from the physical building of church (I’m sure it also happens in other cultures as well). I think one of the most important things we can learn, practice and share is the importance of cultivating a personal relationship with God. When all else is stripped away, God is still in the midst.
I just turned 49 yrs old this month and the message of forgiveness is so necessary and I receive that message and I thank God for using you as a vessel for me to hear and receive this message. I've heard it before but I truly get it today so thank you so much. I love this podcast and beautiful couple. God's continual blessings over your lives. Thank you so much. Much love ❤
Thank y’all for sharing, these conversations are so necessary 🩵
getting real vulnerable each week! glad they are helpful and not just a bunch of talking
Hey I’m full black and nope not an island thing we couldn’t do Harry Potter , Pokémon , Yu-Gi-oh etc lol but when you look into the spiritual behind it you understand
I love these podcasts so much! I appreciate the transparency, testimonies, humor, and words of wisdom. Please keep the "podcasts" coming! 🙏🏽
Thank you so much!! ❤️
so glad i got to this video early. i’m a pk too and the sweltering shame that’s built into caribbean based christian churches is very detrimental to young minds that are bound to explore. i’m a young adult now and i live my life without shame, and i am less connected to my father’s church and more connected to God for myself. once i went away to college i literally felt God keeping me. seeing how other kids lose all their discipline when they’re free was scary. finding God for myself was the self awakening i needed to realize some of the hypocrisy i’ve faced within church growing up. my parents weren’t as strict as the people in his congregation tried to be, but once your pastor’s kid everyone thinks you’re their kid too because of that spotlight. so glad i could relate my experiences to you guys tho, keep the podcasts coming ❤
Y'all better PREACH! This hit different, especially when I am almost twice your age and I got this message sent to me FROM GOD through you both. God Bless your union and keep sharing. Y'all are definitely making a positive difference. Yall are so adorable and fun to watch as well on "Your Podcast," even with serious topics. I love it!!!
🥹 thank you so much!! 🤍🤍
It is a commandant and sex outside of marriage is adultery. All of these topics are great that you guys are doing! Honestly when people see young adults living for God it inspires the youth and older adults to do the same😊
I am a 44 year old woman who grew up with old school belizean parents. They never spoke about sex. I am the youngest of 7. They let my siblings "educate " me on sex. I had to figure it out on my own basically because they didn't know much either. I changed the narrative with my children by having open conversations with my them. Thanks Jess and Jonathan for this podcasts and creating this safe space for us❤
When you said cursing doesn’t take away your salvation and Jonathon said “nothing does” 🙌🏾🙌🏾💯💯
Great conversation! When we started school, every year at the beginning of school from K-College, my mom sat us down and talked to us. She would say, never let anyone touch you (she would point in the area), never take medicine from people! Things like that, then as we got older the talks got more deep! Cause here’s the thing, if not parents, then who? 🖤🖤🖤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
First of all, I LOVE you two doing this together it is so refreshing and relatable. I feel like this is going to be something so big. You both are very insightful and honest & so many people (young and older) will be enlightened in many different ways. Go Jess, great move!
I agree with Jonathan...you can be open, but not accepting of everything. Thats the difference between a friend and a parent...a parent will let you in on information based on age/time of course, but will also let you know what they expect of you. Boundaries still have to be set even when being open. You also have to remember not to be overly open anout everything.
Jonathan is the 5”2 version of Michael B Jordan…and he should take it as a compliment because that guy looks good!
he does take it as a compliment he just doesnt want people to think that he's walking around calling himself michael b jordan lol
Jonathan that message was for me I think almost the last seven minutes. Thank you. You said God unconditional forgiveness. A tear fell and I knew it was for me. Thank you so much.
PK's have it hard love y'all!!
we made it out alive lol love you!
No girl it makes you approachable. I love you guys bcuz you’re so real and you know God and it doesn’t make you holier than thou. When I was a child it was one or the other.
Thank you!! 🥹🙌🏾
Thank you!! 🥹🙌🏾
Before the “podcast” I NEVER knew you were Caribbean. Makes me so happy feels like I can relate to you even more Christian, Caribbean and an influencer LOVE IT
Yall playing.. Jess.. is that you. 🔍. Because the consistency is wooow 😂❤
LOLL im tryna tell yalllll
Yall betta preach 🙌🏾🙌🏾
Y’all are ministering to so many, I’m loving watching these “podcasts” lol
Speaking so many truths that people have went through and felt stuck with no outlet, someone got free from watching this. God bless you both, keep it going!!!!
Thank you so much!
I really enjoy listening to you two! Y’all are my best friends in my head 😂. But honestly it’s so refreshing how real y’all keep it
I'm not a PK but as someone who got baptized at a young age ... when I really think about it shame is the main reason I fell off my walk... I felt so dirty and broken to the point where I believed God could never love someone like me ... because of an experience like that I think if the churches have a safe space for young people there's so much we don't have go through or experience just to understand the why.
Whew!!! That was some GREAT unpacking!!! It does help me in the path of raising my child. Beautiful open conversation and YES WE ALL SEE THE CALLING FOR JOHNATHAN 😂😂 He gives chills sometimes, come on thru Pastor! ❤❤
This is such a good conversation. I grew up in the Christian church and the topic of sex was never really talked about much. Thankfully my mother did a good job at being attentive and not holding back. I have definitely vowed to be open and honest with my son and any other kids I may have.
Thank you both for being open about this for the younger community.
This is so refreshing to hear. I’m not a PK lol but we were very involved. Church Sundays, Tuesdays, choir practice Wednesdays, bible study Thursday. Like I’m a kid, I wanna have fun, Sunday enough for me😭 I’m a believer, but I haven’t consistently been to a church since I got out of high school & I’m in my mid 20’s. It’s hard for me since it was pushed on me as a child & I never understood the reasoning of why we had to go so many days out the week. I really wanna get back into it & find a church home, but I’m struggling especially now since I’m in nursing school & my nose stay in those books, but I also want to learn how to understand the Bible & be more in touch with God.
I’m not an islander, but I couldn’t watch anything witch related either😭 Wizard’s of Waverly Place, Enchanted, Harry Potter, none of it lol.
From the Heart Church Ministries is a good church home.
@@ReminisceNaturalsSame
Loving the consistency. You're spoiling us. 😊😂
I love that you both decided to do a podcast ! I enjoyed both episodes so far, you both are full of wisdom and yet also remain to be relatable. Keep it going ! 🎉
I feel like at this point yall should just own it and call it. The "Podcast" 😂❤ I love it!
Jess girl you might be on to something with the podcast. I mean I started watching this morning and came right back to it on my lunch. I love the topic,really enjoy the energy and how y’all feed off each other. Please keep this up!!!
This was soooo good!! Great conversation! And much needed advice for children! Come on Youth Pastor!! 🙌🏽🙏🏽👏🏽
Y’all are hilarious together 😂 And You two do have a Podcast. A Good One…Luv the transparency 💜
Seeing his face next to Michael B Jordan .. they definitely look alike no doubt
I had this dilemma but not from being a pastor kid but from having strict helicopter parents they wanted and expected perfection so I had a complete double life that led me to making a lot of mistakes in the dark because I couldn’t go to anyone for advice or real conversations so I just tried to hide and figure everything out on my own. Ex hygiene, sex, etc
Its so ...whats the word, refreshing. Love the podcast because it's very genuine what you guys are trying to do. I grew up with Caribbean parents and churchy, i wish i had a podcast like this when i was younger. 😊 great job Jess. Good pivot with where to go next with your platform
This was so relatable it’s funny I was a preacher kid too and have some of the same experiences including getting baptized at 8/9. I did it all in the church and the pressure was real!!!!
YT Nieceyyyy!...and Nephew! Coming thru with weekly consistency 😊 I love this for US! ❤
Love listening to these two beautiful wise souls💚✨️
😂 demon thing, cause I don't let my children watch those things either. But for real, especially these new age things, some crazy lessons being taught in these shows. Have to be careful
Thank you guys for sharing. I love hearing your thoughts and experiences. It helps others!
In the words of my grandmother- it’s not cursing unless you put God in front of it. You can da-n all you want, but when you say God da-n now your cursing!! - oh how I miss that woman! ❤
I absolutely love these "podcasts"/ "vlogs"!!!!
Jonathan. That somebody was me. Thanks for that.
You hear it all the time but how you said it, and the song that was referenced, it connected. God bless you guys.
This was a great conversation. I enjoyed this podcast too. I agree with y'all and that's also how I see things. We need to be realistic in church. Being strict don't guarantee holiness. I was curious too as a teen. And don't school the girls only, school the boys too! Keep the podcasts coming❤
Generational legacies and generational curses are synonymous. The pressure of living up to adult standards as a kid can cripple you (legacy). The pressure to do better when you don't see better cripple you (gen curses).
Both are Anxiety Triggers.
These unfiltered conversations boy I tell you they have me blushing out of embarassment for you, but they're so needed...
Thank you for this. I can so relate and sadly never stepped back into a church again after I left religion at age 26. The pressure is real. This was a great segment. Thank you both.❤
So sorry that you didn’t get the proper experience in the Lord’s House. Not ALL churches are this way, I pray that the Lord guides you to one that is tailored just for you
@@sondraphillips6316Amen, your words are so soothing to her.
Jess .. you got a good man
... I see this podcast..yes girl ..I am calling it.. this podcast with both of you is the start of an amazing journey...
Hey Jess!!!! YOU SOUND LIKE ME!!!! Lol. My dad is a Pastor as well and you know what I have learned since I've gotten older? When the enemy can't can't get to the parents, they come after the children. So, it wasn't just you. It was an attack of the enemy on your parents. When you r parents raise you to know the Word and the give you to God, they know you'll find your way back! I have the same testimony! My sister and I tell my dad some of the stuff we were doing (we're 36 and 37 now) and he just be looking at us crazy! When he preaches, we always end up in his messages. He told God that he would serve him, he just wanted God to take care of us (me and my sister). That's it!!! Love you guys talks! Much love and blessings to you guys!
i be in my dads messages too! lol our parents did the best they could with what they had and im forever grateful for the tools they gave me. shout out to us pastors kids! lol
Honestly the imitation of Caribbean parents took me out 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Hello guys, I just love the podcast conversations, you two look great together and may God bless you both always🙏🏾😊
These podcasts are really good..
Im also loving how constant they are ❤
Jonathan is a wise young man!! This podcast was good y'all ❤
He’s a blend of all three!
Pleaseeeee make it a podcast that's available on actual sites so I can listen to these in the carrrrrr
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Thoroughly enjoyed this "podcast." Great job Jess and Jonathan!!!
Your topics and discussions are current and we appreciate you both for keep the conversations going. ❤
Great PodCast! I’m 56yo. My kids are your age. I have 3 girls. My hubby and I read a book to them called “What’s Happening To My Body” at age 8 of the eldest. The younger 2 were 7 and 5. We always keep an open door policy in our house. Every family is different but that worked for us.
I'm a preacher's kid and I appreciate that there was no pressure felt for me to be anyone other than who I am. I definitely have a great balance between being a PK and all social things. I'm in my late 30s. My brother is similar to me and my sister...well she was on rebel time LOL. But most folks grow out of it.
I actually like the air quotes when you say podcast. It is something that will make your logo for whatever name you select unique. I teach marketing and design.
Oooo.. I like the way you thinking right now! Thank you lol
I do appreciate you guys, you are both so inspiring, so refreshing. Keep doing what you're doing!
10:51 My kids would likely say this❤ 😅 ...my reason is -It was in protection of their innocence and newness in Christ. Both deal with Idolizing other beings and conjuring spirits.
I didn't/don't want other things to come against my childs belief in God. 🌱 Budding faith - is new and developing during young years. Similar to the midset of a gardener...you can not control the direction a seed will sprout but you can give the plants a fence and proper support to grow in a safe space. 💫💚💜🤗
God is good. I am so proud of you and your truth. Remain Blessed.
Love the honesty.
Jess you are so blessed to have a man who can join you in your career and with so much charisma. I love it and love y’all ❤ I’m loving the podcast. Just doing my nails and hair listening to y’all 😂
Loll thank you!! 🤍🤍
We grew up in a lot of religion and not relationship. The old church way of ‘scaring’ the hell out of us. So much trauma and no true relationship with God.
Yes! We have to died with home we share our nakedness too. The world speaks of itching. We have to truly use discernment
Thank you. I really needed to hear this. I am working on forgiving myself.
Jon and Jess, the cutest couple out here. Young, gifted and black.
Not a Christian, not a young person, but enjoyed this PODCAST 👌🏽 ❤
The honesty is refreshing ❤
Beautiful way of ending. Message/advice well recieved
This is so good!!! Hesitated to suggest this to a Sista' friend but I've gotta do it. I think it will be helpful for something she's dealing with. I'm sure you both are setting many folks free💜👏🏿✨
this episode made me feel safe ❤
I enjoyed this conversation! SN: Your husband speaking Potwa👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
conviction is the correct word i would say instead of shame
Would love to hear a deep dive on how Jonathan overcame his addiction and what he does today to remain clear of that.
It is such a blessing finding your channel. I honestly feel like God this is when I needed it the most. May God keep your marriage strong and strive! Love your channel ❤❤❤ #new subscriber!!!
Thank you so much! 🥹🤍🤍
I grew up in church as well I can very much relate!! I still ended doinv the opposite but I learned and still learning from my past mistakes.
It's the back to back videos for me!! Yessss...podcast
I am enjoying your podcast. And love that your doing it together with Jonathan ❤. Also love your transparency. Keep up the good work!!
After those push-ups with you reading a book on his back Jonathan's name will forever be J-Strong to me....and he doesn't need IG because he's married to Jess lol. Y'all are like my younger cousins and I love y'all. Especially the looks you give him when he starts spitting the Word!
Not J strong 😭😂😂😂😂
Loved this episode it was so relatable thank you Jess and Jonathan ❤
This was an awesome conversation.
While I’m not a PK, my father was. My Grandfather was an Episcopal/Anglican Priest who came to America with my dad. I went to religious based school from K-College. I get it.
That is the holy sprite that is leading you to talks about this topic.God bless.
This was a great conversation. I am glad you guys shared your experiences. Many of us have the same experiences. Thanks for sharing. Keep up with the podcast
Even if the experiences you shared aren’t relative to all PK’s, I think we can all agree that being a PK is one of the loneliest experiences. Not only are we on a pedestal (and admittedly, we do project others’ desires + expectations onto ourselves), but when we need a moment to just be human, we have no one to talk to. IYKYK.
But I love your Union bc you have each other and that BIG context and relatability which is being a PK. my boyfriend is also a PK. I’m also 3 years older lol It’s beautiful to watch you share your testimonies and “overcome” TOGETHER with the fullness of God’s joy and liberty. 🤍🤍
Thank you so much for sharing and continuing with the podcast really appreciate you and loving the constant content 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰🥰🥰
Preach, Jonathan!
I grew up with lots of 'church pressure' as well, though not a pastor's, kid. One of Jehovah's Witnesses. I feel that all of this conversation is so real and very relatable to me too. I felt the same kind of fear and lived in a similar bubble. I waited till I got married to 'do the dirty' as I used to call it and in so doing I bonded with my husband yes at the same time was so unprepared for reality because there is so much shade on this topic; what is acceptable, what isn't acceptable and what mistakes really look like as a young person etc. I was 39 when I got married. I wish it would have been okay to make the mistake of having sex early and was taught what that looks like to take as many precautions as possible if that was the choice I wanted to make; as opposed to having made the mistake of getting married at the wrong time, to the wrong person. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband. But we didn't get married at the right time or for the right reason. If sex wasn't such a mystery to me, I wouldn't have rushed into getting married. I was more afraid of the consequences of what people would think about me as opposed to the consequences for my life for having the wrong partner simply because I was tired of waiting. I didn't 'get in trouble' but I effectively ruined my life. Ironic.
Wow, so sorry Ma’am. Thanks for sharing your story.
FAVE "podcast"❤
A 5hr service?!!! How can someone speak that long. 😭😭 at what point do we stop singing the entire Kirk Franklin catalogue. Omg I would’ve been resentful too
This is my first time commenting on TH-cam ever but I had to lol. It's crazy how you was raised EXACTLY like me and my siblings when I thought only my church was "crazy" lol naw but being a preacher's kid and the excessive church and not getting reasons for why we couldn't do things. And definitely the pedestal 🤦🏽. I felt this whole "podcast" 😂 And lastly I love yaw chemistry 💖
lol heyyyyy :) thank you!! Honestly I love my old church, they are my family but just like every family you got some crazy people in there 😂
I didn’t understand why me and my siblings would have to go to church. Our parents stayed at home. When I became a teenager I wouldn’t go. Now I think God for my mother coming upon a year this 😢month without her. Be blessed and happy with your family that you have in your life 💞🌺💞🌼💞🌸🦋🌈🙏🏾
oh honey, your mama is still here with you. just in the spirit realm. hang in there ❤❤
Your parents, at the time, probably felt like dirty sinners (as people think); but didn’t want their kids to be sinners.
Lol just like you Jess. I was like let me try and got pregnant on my first time, family is in ministry! I was 16! What I tell my daughter is pregnancy/ raising a child was the easiest out of all the other consequences that they don't talk about.
Oh my goodness, this was a wonderful, serious and needed to be heard vlog. You two made it enjoyable I laughed so much, my husband came into the room and asked what was so funny? He only knows you by me saying, I'm watching Jess the lady that does the Factor adds 😂. Please keep them coming . I really get excited when I get a notification that you are on🙏❤️
I just love y’all. Keep it going. So relatable and real. 💕💕💕
One more thing I agree that opening up is a way to let go and free yourself but I never trusted anyone because I always felt like they would just judge me and tell everyone about it. Yeah no! 😂😂😂
I’m late but the biggest disservice we could to do our kids is not give them a space safe to ask questions and explore their own walk. Growing up, I HATED that I couldn’t ask “why?” When I didn’t understand anything. I left the church at 16 and never looked back. Church still feels like a harbor for shame and judgement. I’m glad I do not parent how I was raised. A lot of adults forget they were children once and it’s disgusting the way how they carry on sometimes.
Jess I love you and Jonathan so much good conversation I enjoyed very much❤❤❤❤❤
I use instagram and facebook through a browser, so I understand. 😅😂 Love the “podcast” and keep them coming! 💕