DUTCH CULTURE SHOCK | American living in The Netherlands

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  • @dimitridoes7936
    @dimitridoes7936 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Tipping and service ... you ar 6:18 e being served generally well, and you can ask for something additionally ...10% tip or similar is for something exceptional - otherwise just round it op to the .5 or .0 figure.

  • @Stormyys
    @Stormyys 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    We don't use stop signs a lot as they tend to be dangerous as drivers tend to ignore them which leads to T-bone collisions. in NL a lot of time and research is put into road design to make them as safe as possible for people, bikes and cars.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Oh really? I feel like there’s a much bigger risk without a stop sign and just expecting the people to check if cars are coming 😨😨 but obviously I’m sure actual research has been done to prove otherwise 😂 I do feel like drivers are train to pay wayyyy more attention here so that’s a good thing!

    • @esaedvik
      @esaedvik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@GrobbenFamily I think the Dutch have an extensive driving school, like we do in the Nordics and you have to pass tests etc. too. Yielding to all traffic from the right (unless otherwise marked) is much simpler than putting stop signs everywhere. As is yielding to pedestrians 100% of the time. I do wish we had turn right on red rule here too. Roundabouts are super nice too when you get used to them.

    • @JelmerStienstra
      @JelmerStienstra 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GrobbenFamily th-cam.com/video/42oQN7fy_eM/w-d-xo.htmlfeature=shared

    • @johanlugthart7782
      @johanlugthart7782 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@esaedvikbefore you want right on red, first look at the statistics. It's really deadly for cyclists and pedestrians.

    • @Handwithaface
      @Handwithaface 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GrobbenFamily Basically, stop signs are a last resort if your road design is really bad. We tend to have good road design, so no need for stop signs.

  • @PatQuakernaat
    @PatQuakernaat 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Realise that the amount of festivals in Gorcum is lots less of what it was pre-covid
    The city centre had 32 pubs/cafe's in the 80's.
    People are also very pre-occupied with some sort of club such as sports, film, social, handcraft or art etc.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Oh is that so! That’s surprising! I heard that before Covid it was much different but didn’t really to that extent!

  • @framegote5152
    @framegote5152 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    about smoking .... I don't even know anybody that smokes. It is even not allowed in public places.

    • @Lilygirl283
      @Lilygirl283 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That's not true, i know plenty that smoke..

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It’s not allowed in public places in Colorado either! It’s just more of a social thing there. I feel like here at parties you have the group outside smoking cigarettes while there they are smoking weed. 😂

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ah okay good to know it does exist maybe it’s more different groups of people

    • @framegote5152
      @framegote5152 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@Lilygirl283it is... I know a lot of people and none of them smoke. But then, I don't know you.

    • @snroos1860
      @snroos1860 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Lilygirl283 How can yo say, that what @framegote5152 said, is not true??? Do you know him/her? And it is not allowed to smoke in public places!!
      There are very few people within my family and friends, that smoke. And yes I know other people that smoke too. It used to be a lot worse (as a non-smoker).

  • @esaedvik
    @esaedvik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Imagine what owning a car costs if public transit is expensive, gas alone is 3-4 times what it costs in the US. I would imagine there's alternatives for a monthly cost too? Unless the train to Utrecht was like an express type train and not a local commuter. Insurance is less expensive though, I think. At least here in the Nordics it is.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes the gas is so expensive. We do own a car but it’s electric (my husband drives it) so occasionally I need to take the train places while he is working! It is actually just a local bus that cost that much but you are right there is monthly membership that make it more affordable but I just don’t use it enough to get one!
      That is correct, insurance is much more affordable here!

  • @vincenzodigrande2070
    @vincenzodigrande2070 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The smoking... It used to be less for a while, but since the esmoker tons and tons of people started smoking again, and young people started smoking. I think they should do more about that, it is literally impossible to go out, or to work for a day without smelling cigarettes several times. I think they could for example ban filters completely, that would help, and ban additives, and ban the throw-away esmoker.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Those are all potential options I think it’s always hard to ban things in a democracy as people will feel they’re getting their freedoms taken away 🫤

    • @vincenzodigrande2070
      @vincenzodigrande2070 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@GrobbenFamily I guess though you could ask who's freedoms are taken away more, surely the ones that appreciate clean air are also impeded in their freedom now. Besides, the filters have a rather huge environmental impact.

  • @matthijsclaessen8152
    @matthijsclaessen8152 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The hugs and the three kisses habits are changing. As a Dutchie myself I do not know what’s the use anymore. It changes with every combination of people and type of gathering.
    Oh well, it will find a new ‘normal’ I guess.
    😀

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Oh okay so it’s not just me not knowing what to do. 😂😂

  • @gerbentvandeveen
    @gerbentvandeveen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I don't know exactly what you are looking for? But Groothuis. A well-known construction company. Has several houses that they offer. These are owner-occupied homes. Greetings from Spakenburg, Netherlands.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ah so the rental options they do in similar layout but the ones for purchase having a bigger variety? That makes sense! We do plan to buy as soon as possible so that gives me hope!

  • @ElMariachi1337
    @ElMariachi1337 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As you already mentioned, housing is an issue in NL, but therefore the timespan of someone renting a single house is probably a lot longer then in the US (esp on social housing which is the most common sort of housing here other then buying an house). So I guess that's one of the main reasons why our houses come with no floors and I think it's a lot nicer to choose your own floor rather then having to live in a house for a longer period of time with a floor that might not be of your taste at all. Same goes for closets; some people prefer a huge wall closet, others not so much, in the end you simply get to choose your own floors and furnuture to make the house really your own.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That makes sense!

  • @jmolofsson
    @jmolofsson 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very good observations!
    😊
    Since a long time, I live in Spain. But in my youth, I spent two semesters in Utrecht, and we return to Flanders and Holland every now and then.
    However, it did surprise me that busses and trains are so expensive. I don't think you being wrong, not literally, but I do wonder whether you may have missed something… like monthly tickets or other reductions.
    😉

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thank you 😊
      Yes there are monthly memberships to make it cheaper but I only take it on rare occasions when I need to get somewhere while my husband is working. Normally we drive places in his car. So since it’s only every once in a while it’s almost worth it to have a monthly memberships!

  • @mavadelo
    @mavadelo 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tipping might not be mandatory, if people tip there are some unwritten rules. Tip according to your bill for example. Don't be a cheapskate and tip 2 euro on a 998 euro bill. For smaller amounts it is usually rounding up to the nearest 0 or 5 or a "laat de rest maar zitten" if you pay cash. People working in bars often are students trying to make some extra money, although they don't "work for tips", most of them can really use it ;) Study miight not be as expensive as in the States, it is still fairly expensive compared to other European countries. But nobody here expects "20% of the bill"
    As for them not helicoptering like a soccermom around you... thank jobe for that. Yes, you call for them here. That is not because the "donn't work for tips" but because they don't need to "flip tables". If you go out for dinner and drinks you can take all the time you want. You need something, you raise your hand, you want to pay you raise your hand. If they come once or twice to ask if everything is to your liking than that is more than enough. I would feel highly unconfortable with the US way of working.
    "everyone smokes": factually wrong, it is about 18% of the population. That is about 3% more than in America. The only places where you are allowed to smoke basically is your own home and outside. So I don't know why you would even make that claim.

  • @TheLeagueOfNefariousGentlemen
    @TheLeagueOfNefariousGentlemen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Restaurants in America want you to eat and go away. Free up the table for the next customer. The service has nothing to do with giving you a pleasant experience. They just want you to hurry up.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      That is true in most cheaper places. Not so much in the more high end restaurants though!

    • @transient_
      @transient_ 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      That, and because they are underpaid, they actually need the tips.

  • @Handwithaface
    @Handwithaface 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We do have sports in school though. I've never heard of a Dutch school that doesn't have sports as part of the standard curriculum. Just no specific sports, just general PE.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes this is what I meant! We have PE in America too but that is mandatory but there are also many extra curricular activities like cheerleading, soccer, football, band, etc available to take after school at the school!

  • @esaedvik
    @esaedvik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A hint, the mic needs to be near you for it to capture audio well. Worth it to grab a wireless lavalier mic or something. Rode, DJI and Hollyland make some great ones. Or just have the camera much closer to you. Content itself is great though :)

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for the tip! Originally we planned on just doing vlog style videos but it seems the viewers enjoy sit down videos most so I will have been doing them more often! I definitely will get a mic in the near future 😊

  • @Carnovach
    @Carnovach 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I just looked into the smoking thing you mentioned, but it is only 20% of the Dutch people that are smoking. Sorry, but that is not everybody. I have never been smoking, I dislike it. Greetings, Roelof.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ah yes the way I said to may have been at bit extreme but (especially in the summer) there has not been a single time I’ve gone to a restaurant or cafe and not seen someone smoking! This was just a big difference to what I’m used to!

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Although on google the rate of people who smoke in America is still quite high, it is for what I know MAJORITY e-cigarettes without the awful smell or even a nice fruity smell 😂

    • @Carnovach
      @Carnovach 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      In a cafe or restaurant you ae not alowed to smoke. Greetings, Roelof.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Of course not inside but outside on the patio

  • @patrickhendrikskingston9303
    @patrickhendrikskingston9303 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I would be very annoyed when the waiter comes check me all the time. I love it that we get the time to enjoy our diner.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  หลายเดือนก่อน

      I definitely understand that point of view but as some one who is used to it, it’s very frustrating for me to have to wait and call someone over anytime I need something! Like just last weekend I got a tea but they forgot the honey I asked for and by the time I was actually able to get someone’s attention the tea was cold. In the states it is a “rule” to check up on every table within 2 minutes of receiving their order incase they need anything. It’s pretty simple to me to just say no we are good!

    • @patrickhendrikskingston9303
      @patrickhendrikskingston9303 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @GrobbenFamily I can understand. It's difference of culture and in which culture you grew up...

  • @AnaryaVhargon
    @AnaryaVhargon 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hahahaha, yeah, I can imagine some of our habits are a shock of you. I never liked the 3 kisses or hugs... just a hallo is fine by me. And the congratulate everyone in the room is, even for me the real Dutchie, weird and I never understood hahaha . My sneakily adopted youtube granddaughter looks good and happy! Hope you guys had a happy Easter!

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ohh see we are on the same page!
      I don’t mind a little hug but more then that is doing a lot! 😂 she is so so happy and healthy we are grateful for that 💜 thank you! You as well 😊😊

  • @SuperNovaSirius
    @SuperNovaSirius 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Okay, but stop signs on EVERY streetcorner here in the Netherlands is BONKERS. Here there's not a square grid of expected intersections, hahaha. We have streets crisscrossing and going EVERYWHERE! The right-goes-first rule (unless specified) is way more convenient for Dutch infrastructure. Love seeing this video, though. Thanks for sharing.

  • @NunTheLass
    @NunTheLass 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Smoking is a bit class-related. The elites never smoke. The people 'that think for themselves' still do. I really think it's an education thing.

  • @frits1954X2
    @frits1954X2 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Most people in the Netherlands see smoking weed as it is for the weak, why else would you want to mess with your brain?
    Best regards
    Frits

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ah makes sense but messing with your lungs is a-okay? 👍🏽😂

    • @JustMe-sh8nd
      @JustMe-sh8nd 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      do you drink a beer or a glass of wine sometimes?

    • @esaedvik
      @esaedvik 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@JustMe-sh8nd Alcohol in small amounts is beneficial, smoking has no upsides really. It's a wild story how it even became a thing. (I don't smoke or drink)

  • @bartlucassen9145
    @bartlucassen9145 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Nobody smokes of my close relatives and friends. Just a few collegae.

  • @mariannegodart9387
    @mariannegodart9387 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    About 20% of the Dutch smoke; in restaurants and public places it’s forbidden

  • @mariannegodart9387
    @mariannegodart9387 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have about 400 colleagues; just about 10 are stll smokers

  • @daluzsoares
    @daluzsoares 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You explained this well, say hi to your husband

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you 😊 will do!

  • @pgScorpio
    @pgScorpio 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everybody smokes? Check your facts before telling nonsense!
    Less than 20% of the Dutch smoke, adults even less than 14%. And smoking is prohibited in all public places, including cafés and restaurants!

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I do understand it was a bit exaggerated when I said everyone but..
      I don’t know where you live but every SINGLE time I go out to a cafe or restaurant and sit outside there is someone smoking. I think there has really not been a single time I’ve gone out and not seen atleast one. If it is illegal then why do all of the tables have ashtrays?

  • @ericburbach632
    @ericburbach632 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I totally agree about those smokers...... so annoying and unhealthy

  • @gerbentvandeveen
    @gerbentvandeveen 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Maybe it's for the rims of your new car. Also a good idea to drive less. (LOL)

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂😂😂 yes, even yesterday Rauns hip was hurting him and so he asked me to drive (just a 5 minute drive) but it was down a countryside road where there isn’t really 2 lanes and a car was coming from the opposite direction so I pulled a little to far to the right and drove a tiny bit in the mud… Raun was not happy I got the car dirty but I figured better to drive in the mud than risk hitting oncoming traffic. 😂 he drove in the way home 😅😂

  • @drekruizinga8696
    @drekruizinga8696 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Iḿ not smoking...so not evryone. Most people i know dont smoke, so your fact is wrong

  • @ChrisTop-k9p
    @ChrisTop-k9p 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Everybody smokes??? 19% of dutch adults smoke.

    • @GrobbenFamily
      @GrobbenFamily  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This is true, I was wrong in saying everyone smokes as I know that is not true. It just felt like it as I have never gone to a cafe and NOT seen someone smoking. This felt like a lot compared to what Im used to which was seeing maybe 2 people a year smoking back in the States.

    • @ChrisTop-k9p
      @ChrisTop-k9p 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GrobbenFamily in the USA it's about 12%.. please use facts instead of feelings. (This is what I also tell my girlfriend) 😀

  • @rob2hae445
    @rob2hae445 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What a bullshit about smoking, for many years it's forbidden in cafe's etc.
    In the US you're to pay 20% as rip, because service prrsonel get underpaid..
    If you want to explain, then you have to the whole story around it .
    And it's not forbidden to wear a bike helmet, so what is your point.
    For living 9 monts living in the Netherlands you need to understand much more things.
    Complaining about how small the houses are. Maybe is it that we are living in a small country with the highest density of people per km2.
    Sorry but maybe its better that you wait with posting so much nonsens, untill you better understand the Dutch culture.
    Luckily I know that most Americans are much more smarter.
    Succes with your integration here.

  • @ericburbach632
    @ericburbach632 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    also annoying, those 3 kisses !!!

  • @chrisodebeek787
    @chrisodebeek787 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Tall and blond.