I am thinking about what am I accomplishing since I was born. I am keeping up with the news, but what about my life and my news. I think that silence is good because it gets one away from the news and allows one to focus on what one is doing instead of what others are doing.
I also always felt like I’ve never belonged…I’m very different amongst my friends….learning how to mask was survival. Self help books helped me get through during those dark times alone. Finding out that I’m neurodivergent in 2023 was life changing. Neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. Makes so much sense now. I was a people pleaser, was so burnt out chasing the validation…chasing the dopamine. I went through a period of isolation to find myself. As cliche as it sounds, loving myself as I am was the answer. Just like you, my circle is very small now too, I don’t waste my energy with people who don’t align with me or fill my cup. Life changing and so peaceful. 😊☮️💟✨
People think we need to chase external things and thinking it's cool. Meanwhile, spending time learning and accepting who we are is a cringe. It's ok we are not the "normal" type so I stop trying since nothing has worked so far. It helps keeping the circle small with quality people. No dramas no trying hard to fit it. Loving that peace❤️
The dance between solitude and connection is sacred. When we learn to embrace our own presence first, authentic relationships naturally bloom. It's not about where we are, but how deeply we can connect - first with ourselves, then with souls who resonate with our inner light✨
Yep something I wish I knew sooner. Would have saved tons of troubles trying to fit in. We live in a fast-paced society and most of the time we don't know when to slow down to look inward.
@@HealthCores You're right - finding stillness in this fast-paced world is one of life's biggest challenges. Isn't it liberating when we finally realize we don't need to fit in? We already belong, just as we are.
I am learning the centering prayer, somehow i got into it in the past days, it resonates. I am not scared of silence, it begins to feel warm. I am trying to sit with it all….
Long road ahead of you . But the other side will worth all this hustle. What I can say to you is that everything that is happening right now in your life has meant to be and you will be just fine . Just have patience with yourself. The road to healing, inner peace , joy and love is long but is worth pursuing.
@ what I can tell you in advance is that you will find peace , joy and love down the road if you go through with it . Because is not a road for everyone. Good luck
I like your idea of going outside and watching and connecting with the animals and birds. Alan Watt on the debess channel used to talk about life before television, when people would meet outside and not stay in the house. He died on 2021-03-04. Electronics has isolated people's meeting in person and also has brought people together like this channel.
When I grew up I spent most of my time in the mountains and entertained myself without any screen. Now no screen no fun and people don't know what to do with themselves.
I'm very similar to you, I'm basically a loner at heart, always have been. I was an awkward kid too who didn't fit in. A latch-key kid left to my own devices, dysfunctional family...things are better now, I have a few friends that I see or talk to sometimes, but even though I enjoy a lot of solitude, it still gets lonely sometimes.
It sounds like you’ve come a long way, even with a tough start. Solitude can be peaceful, but yeah, that loneliness creeps in. Having a few good friends helps, even if it’s just once in a while.
New to your channel, im a techie, ur stuff rly relates to me, u rly help me clam down and summarize things i have been feeling and thinking. ur helping me see things a bit more clearly
Thanks for speaking so honestly. As you say, many seek validation and connection "out there," but it really begins with us. Finding value in who we are and what we do. For deep thinkers, superficial interactions never satisfy. Most people are caught up in their distractions, always running from themselves. Afraid of silence. Of being alone. But it's in the silence that we connect with the vastness inside, often while in Nature. And the more peaceful and at ease we become, the more out of synch we can be with others. They chase external trappings of success to impress others and ignore their own unhappiness in order to conform to the world around them. Some of us will never "fit in." Krishnamurti once said, "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
That quote from Krishnamurti hits hard. It’s true, stepping away from the noise and connecting with yourself can feel isolating, but it’s also freeing. Chasing what truly matters beats fitting into a world that feels broken.
I think as you mentioned, the key of connectedness. I’ve been thinking about friendships often, past two years. I turn 40 next month. But it’s also the quality time being with certain people, being vulnerable, asking the deeper questions, having hard conversations as well with people. I think Trevor Noah said, friendships are a choice. I’m happy to kick back at a 7/11 with just 1-2 mates and talk random stuff
Turning 40 is a big milestone, and it’s natural to reflect on friendships and connections. Quality time with the right people, even over something simple, really matters. Trevor Noah’s right friendships are a choice, and the best ones feel effortless.
We are not guaranteed tomorrow. I am recovering from liver surgery. I went from a vibrant lady, to homebound fighting for my life. Make life beautiful embrace the beauty, reach out to someone today, be kind, show love in return the void you have will be overfilled with blessings. I pray peace, comfort into your life. You are a blessing through your videos. Never know who you will reach🦅
Children approach each other because there is no judgement Adults would consider another unworthy of their attention just because they wear cheap clothes. There is also the problem of men risking being 'me too'ed', women finding creeps, and then just automatic distrust and them wondering what your 'angle' is. Societal collapse is enevitable.
We as adults become too judgmental and jaded. It's because of our experiences and can't blame us. But that's where we begin loosing touch with the world around us.
Yes I’m in California too. Everything has literally skyrocketed in price. Not exaggerating one bit. I don’t know where I will be ending up this year 2025.
I first started to generate love for myself. Sounds a bit strange. I mean really a lovely feeling. Mostly before sleeping. After it became normal I asked universe for a women who is: and counted my points. I meant, you know me, there must be a woman who fits and who needs me. One week later I met my gf. This is 4,5 years ago. I Just used universal tinder.
Hey sometimes the universe answers us in the most mysterious way. I was there too and one day it just happened. Been married with our daughter and we don't have much but we do have a loving small family. Cheers and all good things take time.
I think u cannot feel lonely but still have desire to express yourself. I also think these videos might help other people who are struggling with loneliness.
When was the last time you spent time in silence to embrace yourself?
I am thinking about what am I accomplishing since I was born. I am keeping up with the news, but what about my life and my news. I think that silence is good because it gets one away from the news and allows one to focus on what one is doing instead of what others are doing.
Yep , It's hard to be alone when you don't know who your alone with.
And that's the very reason to embrace solitude - to learn about that beautiful soul that you are 🤍
I appreciate the realness man
Absolutely. I am glad to share my trials and tribulations or trying to fit it most of my life.
I also always felt like I’ve never belonged…I’m very different amongst my friends….learning how to mask was survival. Self help books helped me get through during those dark times alone. Finding out that I’m neurodivergent in 2023 was life changing. Neurodivergent in a neurotypical world. Makes so much sense now. I was a people pleaser, was so burnt out chasing the validation…chasing the dopamine. I went through a period of isolation to find myself. As cliche as it sounds, loving myself as I am was the answer. Just like you, my circle is very small now too, I don’t waste my energy with people who don’t align with me or fill my cup. Life changing and so peaceful. 😊☮️💟✨
People think we need to chase external things and thinking it's cool. Meanwhile, spending time learning and accepting who we are is a cringe. It's ok we are not the "normal" type so I stop trying since nothing has worked so far. It helps keeping the circle small with quality people. No dramas no trying hard to fit it. Loving that peace❤️
The dance between solitude and connection is sacred. When we learn to embrace our own presence first, authentic relationships naturally bloom. It's not about where we are, but how deeply we can connect - first with ourselves, then with souls who resonate with our inner light✨
Yep something I wish I knew sooner. Would have saved tons of troubles trying to fit in. We live in a fast-paced society and most of the time we don't know when to slow down to look inward.
@@HealthCores You're right - finding stillness in this fast-paced world is one of life's biggest challenges. Isn't it liberating when we finally realize we don't need to fit in? We already belong, just as we are.
That feeling when you realize that it's OK to not be normal like everyone else is priceless ❤️
Hoping you and your family are safe from the fires.
Thanks bro we are still nervous about the fire but for now we are OK
Man, this video hits home with me on every level.
Sup man. Hella crazy how so many of us feel this way and the world is overcrowded.
@ ill say one thing. As damn cheesy as it is, I dont feel alone when i have my kid with me.
my fam is the center of my world bro. I take my daughter fishing with me when I can. They really keep me in touch with life. I feel you.
I am learning the centering prayer, somehow i got into it in the past days, it resonates. I am not scared of silence, it begins to feel warm. I am trying to sit with it all….
You will learn to love and enjoy the silence. Best thing I found that beats all the medicine out there 🙏
Long road ahead of you . But the other side will worth all this hustle.
What I can say to you is that everything that is happening right now in your life has meant to be and you will be just fine .
Just have patience with yourself.
The road to healing, inner peace , joy and love is long but is worth pursuing.
I think I just got started on this new path. It’s been a crazy past year. I am looking forward to see where this will take me. Thanks.
@ what I can tell you in advance is that you will find peace , joy and love down the road if you go through with it . Because is not a road for everyone. Good luck
I like your idea of going outside and watching and connecting with the animals and birds. Alan Watt on the debess channel used to talk about life before television, when people would meet outside and not stay in the house. He died on 2021-03-04. Electronics has isolated people's meeting in person and also has brought people together like this channel.
When I grew up I spent most of my time in the mountains and entertained myself without any screen. Now no screen no fun and people don't know what to do with themselves.
It’s always great to hear from you. Thanks
Hey it's great to hear from you. Thanks for staying around with me through these tough life lessons.
Your talks just really resonate with me. Especially right now
Hang in there. It's not easy walking alone. Been there too many years. But take the time you need to have an honest conversation with yourself.
I'm very similar to you, I'm basically a loner at heart, always have been. I was an awkward kid too who didn't fit in. A latch-key kid left to my own devices, dysfunctional family...things are better now, I have a few friends that I see or talk to sometimes, but even though I enjoy a lot of solitude, it still gets lonely sometimes.
It sounds like you’ve come a long way, even with a tough start. Solitude can be peaceful, but yeah, that loneliness creeps in. Having a few good friends helps, even if it’s just once in a while.
@@HealthCores Thanks!
Excellent talk. Great thoughts and ideas. I hope you are safe from the fires there. They are devastating. People have lost their homes.
Thank you. We are safe from the fire. It's sad and I hope the fire will be put out soon.
New to your channel, im a techie, ur stuff rly relates to me, u rly help me clam down and summarize things i have been feeling and thinking. ur helping me see things a bit more clearly
I am glad that I could help. Take time alone and learn to embrace the peace and yourself is life changing ❤️
Your videos are the realist keep it up!
I speak to my own stories as how I experienced them. Thanks for hanging out with me on these trips🙏
I’m with u bro keep going ❤
That's all we can do 🙏
Man ❤️insanely accurate to me. The podcasts, the coaches , the mentoring 😂 really appreciate your content
Yeh save yourself all that time and money and get out there to a quiet place. Your soul will thank you ❤️
That was excellent.
I love coming to your Tedtalks! ☺️
Hey always great to hear from you❤️
Thanks for speaking so honestly. As you say, many seek validation and connection "out there," but it really begins with us. Finding value in who we are and what we do. For deep thinkers, superficial interactions never satisfy.
Most people are caught up in their distractions, always running from themselves. Afraid of silence. Of being alone. But it's in the silence that we connect with the vastness inside, often while in Nature. And the more peaceful and at ease we become, the more out of synch we can be with others. They chase external trappings of success to impress others and ignore their own unhappiness in order to conform to the world around them. Some of us will never "fit in."
Krishnamurti once said, "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
That quote from Krishnamurti hits hard. It’s true, stepping away from the noise and connecting with yourself can feel isolating, but it’s also freeing. Chasing what truly matters beats fitting into a world that feels broken.
The majority are definitely adjusting well to this profoundly sick society. I don’t envy that at all.
Standing Ovation!
I think as you mentioned, the key of connectedness. I’ve been thinking about friendships often, past two years. I turn 40 next month. But it’s also the quality time being with certain people, being vulnerable, asking the deeper questions, having hard conversations as well with people.
I think Trevor Noah said, friendships are a choice.
I’m happy to kick back at a 7/11 with just 1-2 mates and talk random stuff
Turning 40 is a big milestone, and it’s natural to reflect on friendships and connections. Quality time with the right people, even over something simple, really matters. Trevor Noah’s right friendships are a choice, and the best ones feel effortless.
@@HealthCoresright on, well said!
Thanks for the video. I feel the same way as you and im sure many other do as well. Still unsure how to navigate this strange world.
Indeed a strange world. I am still trying to figure it out as we speak. But at least I figured out part of myself and it made living a little easier.
God damn this hits hard ❤ 😢
We are not guaranteed tomorrow. I am recovering from liver surgery. I went from a vibrant lady, to homebound fighting for my life. Make life beautiful embrace the beauty, reach out to someone today, be kind, show love in return the void you have will be overfilled with blessings. I pray peace, comfort into your life. You are a blessing through your videos. Never know who you will reach🦅
Nothing is guaranteed and you are right. Anything can be taken away from us at anytime.
I am content and happy with myself now.
That's honestly all we could ask for 🙏
Children approach each other because there is no judgement Adults would consider another unworthy of their attention just because they wear cheap clothes. There is also the problem of men risking being 'me too'ed', women finding creeps, and then just automatic distrust and them wondering what your 'angle' is. Societal collapse is enevitable.
We as adults become too judgmental and jaded. It's because of our experiences and can't blame us. But that's where we begin loosing touch with the world around us.
🙏🙏
My friend. Watching your video is like seeing playing my character. Fishing/Lonely.
Many great men in history found enlightenment while spending time alone. Nothing wrong with connecting with yourself 🙏
😃😃😃💕💕💕👍👍👍
I was an artist that were sweats.
I know myself now.
I meant an artist that wore sweats.
this is my life. this is meee
Hang in there. There is always a way. It took me a while to figure it out and you too will get through it.
@ thank you 🙏
无恶不作作恶多端报复坏事做尽的他才会。真善美做人就不会
Nature coping isn't for everyone especially if it's a bear and mountain lion country 😂
Yeh it's not for everyone. Better out here though than being stuck inside behind the desk like I did for years.
so what is the End Goal now ??? Death is 100 % guarantee .... so what about other goals ? reaching Nirvana or Enlightenment ?
nahhh...I love my lazy life sitting around like a bum. Beats the hustle life that was slowly killing me.
@@HealthCores how's about sex ? do you feel bored ?
Living in america with the high living cost alone, must be absurd to cope how great life there is lol OOF😂
Try living in California. It's crazy here!
Yes I’m in California too. Everything has literally skyrocketed in price. Not exaggerating one bit. I don’t know where I will be ending up this year 2025.
I first started to generate love for myself. Sounds a bit strange. I mean really a lovely feeling. Mostly before sleeping. After it became normal I asked universe for a women who is: and counted my points. I meant, you know me, there must be a woman who fits and who needs me.
One week later I met my gf. This is 4,5 years ago. I Just used universal tinder.
Hey sometimes the universe answers us in the most mysterious way. I was there too and one day it just happened. Been married with our daughter and we don't have much but we do have a loving small family. Cheers and all good things take time.
Sounds and looks like you got way more issues than you obsessively speak of on your videos. You are still not happy , good luck
RECEIPE PLS :)
他才会。我完全不
If you don’t feel lonely, stop using these videos and using people as a sounding-board for your life’s problems. Something to think about 🤔
I think u cannot feel lonely but still have desire to express yourself. I also think these videos might help other people who are struggling with loneliness.
I think his point is how he used to do different things just to avoid feeling lonely but finally learned how to be okay with it