The update is that OP and Samia are gonna get married. Hes living away from his family to be more independent, and they made a deal with their parents(samia's side) that theywnpuld have a religious ceramony before moving in togeather. They will soon be married and are happy togeather 🎉
This makes sense lol, Arabs/Muslims in general typically won't mind your background as long as you convert to Islam. Unless they're super racist, the religion generally comes first.
She claims to not have trauma, yet she was sexually active at 12. My guess is that the "activity" _is_ the trauma. She grew up being taught by her peers that validation came from sex and carried that until it boiled over. It doesn't excuse her actions, but I understand.
Yeah... when she said that I was a little concerned. Mind you - some of the kids in my grade school were becoming "active" at that time too, so it's no guarantee that it was a traumatic experience.
@@stonalisa3729 Ngl, it was fooling around with stuff that felt good but we had no concept of until later. Looking back, I cringe a little now... but hey, at least I didn't really blink when I went down on my first real girlfriend.
I think she was saying that she had no trauma prior to having sex which could be a cause for having sex at that age. Because getting run through to that degree at that age has to be traumatising
@@stonalisa3729 Not a clue. I mean, it was a Catholic school that only taught Sex Ed in 7th and 8th grade at the time and what I remember was basically "Sex is bad before marriage" without even going into what sex actually was, besides "laying with a man and a woman" or something biblical sounding. I just remember all of the giggles and whispering that happened whenever someone admitted to an experience (always with someone of a similar age; never heard anyone 'bragging' about getting someone older, thankfully). I really just think, as @jablue said, that it was basically just basically exploring their bodies. I mean, the sad truth of the matter is that puberty begins anywhere between 8/9-13/14 for girls/boys respectively, and that part of that means beginning to become aware of their bodies, and others. Is it something that we want to know? No, as adults we consider it disturbing because of how society has taught us, and they definitely shouldn't be having children at that age, but unless you want to be a helicopter parent, there's a good chance that at least some of them will experiment, even if you give them a good sex ed.
There’s no excuse for cheating whatsoever. She’s victim blaming (in a way), b/c instead of taking accountability for her sh*tty action, she would rather place the blame on OP as a way to make herself feel better.
You clearly don’t know what victim blaming is. Victim blaming would be blaming a rxpe victim for dressing too slutty or blaming an abuse victim for marrying an abuser.
Yes they should’ve especially when her father was harassing him. He even wanted to press charges for a kiss they she agreed to. His parents did the right thing. If anything would’ve escalated it could’ve been bad for him. They protected him the best they could. However his family should’ve had his back with Marie. She cheated regardless of what she said happened. Cheating is a deal breaker.
@@chinaking918to be fair idc what race or background they have if I find a random boy in my daughter’s room I’m pressing charges too, don’t hide shit from parents even when you know the outcome to telling them is bad (I wouldn’t personally care) because them finding out on their own will only make it worse
@@RacingAs7 honestly true but in that case it’s kinda worse, they know you personally and are still going behind your back like that means they truly don’t respect you as a person, keep in mind I’m saying this separate of their situation I don’t blame him for doing that to this specific parent I’m just giving my pov if I was the parent
@@toomi195 True. But it seems it was, in fact, due to race. OP never mentions whether or not Samia was a muslim or if his family had other beliefs. Only the races they were from
@@analyticgeometry9014 I wouldn't go that far from this alone. It is at least understandable as a lot of, if not most, Arabs are muslim. It is, admittedly, a misguided assumption, and a frankly irrelevant one, as it was never a point made in the video
All of this could've been avoided if OP's and his ex's families were less racist. And regarding Marie, this is why you shouldn't start having sex at 12. I honestly feel bad for her, she's not going to have an easy life.
@@Maninawig😂😂you think American Christian or Republican is the only type of conservative? No, you're just biased and naive. Conservative can mean any culture. I don't think you know what it means. Your own family isn't the only conservatives
As someone from France I can tell you that Samia's arab family is much more racist. Black usually avoid marrying outside race out of inferiority complex and avoiding racist remarks from in-laws. Arabs developed independently the same version of the N word "Zanj". The french translated the book Arabian nights and edited out all the tons of anti black racism and the phobia of Arab men of their wives cheating with the black slave which is the main theme in main plot and 75% of subplots. Also black illegal immigrants pass by North Africa before reaching Europe where they experience a violent and traumatic racist experience by local Arabs and they are still sold to slavery by locals in the middle of the Sahara.
CONSERVATIVE adjective 1. averse to change or innovation and holding traditional values. 2. (in a political context) favoring free enterprise, private ownership, and socially NOUN 1. a person who is averse to change and holds traditional values 2. a person favoring free enterprise, private ownership, and socially traditional ideas.@@Maninawig
They are terrified of confronting their own demons by themselves. They have a big issue with being alone in general. The most logical solution for someone who has a habit of cheating is to just be single and sleep around instead of putting their partner through emotional abuse.
I mean, your partner can be your therapist, it's just in regards to cheating, you usually already don't have a "partner" that's qualified to be both your therapist and still get help for themselves.
Probably one of if not the most tolerant places on earth, yet people treat it like it's the capital of racism; even back during the USA's slaver days they never chopped of the reproductive organs of slaves like in the Arab-Muslim slave trade.
Racism isn't an American thing. Racism and especially anti black racism is worldwide phenomenon. In Samia's arabic culture being black= slave. They even have their own N word centuries before Colombus. France brought some Senegalese soldiers to stay for a while in quarter in Sidon Lebanon. People till this day still call that place "the quarter of slaves" blacks in Iraq still have to give up their places to Arabs in public transportation.
This didn’t have anything to do with the country it was the culture/ religion their family’s and community were part of. He was African origin that tends to be more conservative and the ex was Arab. He even said that their families wanted them to be married to someone in their culture. Not because of France itself.
@@mhawkins829Very true but I think the commenter here was saying that America is such a mixed pot that the stigma of interracial marriage and cultural differences is less here than other places around the world.
I don't understand why they pitty the cheater in these stories. Or even golden child or the abuser. Like people don't care about op in these. Like is this happening in real life?
Right. It’s like where are their morals and integrity? Ppl are too quick to defend ppl bs actions. Then pushing the blame on a girl who has nothing to do with anything. Ridiculous.
Real life is messy and not every story with a perpetrator involves people who are entirely undeserving of pity. Especially in the case of a Golden Child since that's just another form of abuse that many people don't like to acknowledge because they are getting the better end of the deal. Bottom line, empathy is important judging people with no nuance is idiotic.
Because she's broken and hurt, hurt people hurt people. She's a victim of life and a perpetrator at the same time. You can empathize with someone and still admonish them for their actions.
The girl was a nymphomaniac. I don't know how common that is, but it's a genuine thing. Some of them learn to live with it while others lose themselves in it; some even lose the feeling of pleasure, which can lead to mutilation or more aggressive forms of sexual activity. It's actually a pretty depressing life cause they don't understand their issue and don't know how to control it.
@@Olimar92Her starting at 12 was likely a huge contributing factor to her current problems viewing sex as the only way for her to feel validation as so many of her relationships in her formative years were based solely on sex
@@Olimar92 Some people on another comment tried to defend it and said "there's really no right age to start sex." Kinda messed up. I've seen people talk about that stuff and be like "Well I had sex at 13 for the first time, and it was with my nanny!" and a lot of people praise him for it, and he also believes that he turned out fine. Uh, no, my guy(in the case of the person I met), you're a cheating bastard that has a very problematic view on women, and can't keep a single relationship going for more than a few months, and everything you share on your twitter is just messed up and reeks of insecurity.
Naw man, she knew going into the relationship that you were in love with another woman and thought she would be enough to make you forget her. She played a risky fucking game and lost, that's on her. You should never get into a relationship with someone who can't love you fully, that won't end well for either of you
40 partners before she turned 18, and having multi-partner encounters at 15? No wonder this girl didn't know how to process actual love and romance. Her entire adolescence from puberty to adulthood was one long recurring emotional trauma after another. I'm sorry, but this person is likely never going to be someone safe to marry.
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To be fair to Marie, that kind of love shared between OP and Samia is the kind everyone wants to experience. I hope OP and Samia manage to rekindle and give themselves that honest shot as a couple. They sound nothing short of blessed, both as individual people and as a pair. Wishing them all the best.
Reconnect with Sammie. Even if she has moved on, you can date within her circle. You need people that will have your back. Its sad that you only seem to have your mother. As for your ex, she has lost pair bonding. She needs to abstain from sex until she can find another way to cope with anxiety. She has to separate the status of her life from emotions while also fusing her character with her emotions. In short, dont be upset by the weight. Be upset you can't lift it. Then, be happy you know your limitations. Then, be happy you can be stronger. Then, be happy you have people you can ask for help. Be the action hero that when they jump on screen the music plays and suddenly there is hope. It doesn't matter how much the hero has lost or suffered or if he loses, his character is more important then the status. Be that for yourself.
He did talk to Samia. Dude posted 5 months ago that they got to talking, went to counciling, and are soon to be married.. As for Marie, she still stuck on OP and ended up in hospital when she found out the childhood sweethearts were dating, and her folks blame them for Marie's condition and moved to give her a fresh start... again.
@@Maninawig Yo that shit be great , could you please send the link to the post/the video. Never mind homeboy i found them they probably are married as of now cuz that post was 5 months ago
Hearing about the birthday and tux and samia made me cry fr. It's been a while since I've cried. It made me remember of my ex and how those little things she'll do for me and how loved i felt that time.
Let's be honest we all had that friendship Samia and Op some of us got the happy ending😊 some of us got the sad ending😢 and some of us was able to rekindle flames
You should not forgive her because at heart, it’s not what YOU want. And frankly, those noisy neighbours are being horrible people, trash talking you since you were little, this kind of environment is toxic. Get away from there
I've heard so many times that once you get into that sort of lifestyle you reach the hundreds easily so she may have ended up having thousands of partners considering how young she started and what it became to her.
I'm now 7 Minutes in so I don't know hot it ends, but I'm very angry and sad about how their families would do such a thing. I went no contact with my mom and stepdad, because I married the woman I loved and they would not stop making my life miserable because of that. And it was the best decision of my life.
This could be solved with one single line: "LADY, YOU DON'T NEED ME YOU NEED A THERAPIST." The woman stalked op, lied to get into a relationship with him, wasn't satisfied, cheated, then misguided trying to be the bad person to save the relationship (whatever that means lol), and went mad later. That lady should be forgiven to even approach men while she tighten her loose bolts. She will never, ever be happy.
Parallel societies, same here in Germany. We never had multi culturalism as in the USA but live pretty much in segregated communities in parallel. Hence extremist views of people coming already from conservative to backwards societies get reinforced in a miniature echo chamber leading to unbelievable levels of racism and control over individuals. My mother works in child protection and they have cases you wouldn't believe possible. E.g. one Romani girl had attempts on her life made by both mother and brother just because she was seen in public with a boy upon which her family got shunned by their community, the brother's wedding cancelled and a death warrant for the girl issued by their clan's "king". The driving forces for immigration here were economical and since the majority of the population consists of natives there simply never was a melting pot or need to engage with the newcomers leading to these parallel worlds existing just streets away from eachother with tribal laws and rulers controlling many of the small minority enclaves and the state and police only getting involved if problems seep out of their boundaries. Honour murders, forced marriages, abduction back to the homeland of children adapting too much to the new country by their community's view have sadly become a "normality"
just read the 1yr update after a couple meetings with samia after running into her in the market, a vacation togheter a lot of crying resentment and feelings being let out(a lot of individual and couples therapy). THEY'RE MARRYING!
She had more holes than colander... I'm so sorry for the guy, I have to admit he has a lot os strength to not kill both seriously out of joke... We know even in the hood never piss of the Samoan or try to mock them, because they will end you with fist "old school".
That what really pisses me off about insecure people they do terrible things then use the insecurity tried to justify it anybody who takes pity on an insecure person is nothing but a damn fool
That is blatantly wrong. The culture that advanced humanity (the West) is definitely not equal to primitive cultures in Africa who kill Albinos to use their bones for “medicinal properties.”
1st The fact that uncle wants to talk about forgiveness yet when he's offered that he bitches about it speaks volumes, hypocrite. 2nd THAT YOUNG?! Who the Hell starts sleeping around at the age 12?!
Poor woman. Being sexually active at 12 is a really traumatizing experience, and I really hope she can heal fully. Away from OP and her ex, and start an honest and calmer life. Hope things work out with Samia
Lots of wrong from marie,maries exbf, and maries parents. I got a feeling that marie did want to change and want to start anew, but she started a new relationship with a lie. 2) got a feeling ex bf is trying to sabotage Marie as a revenge for maries cheating 3) they lack guidance to marie by telling her to tell the thruth before everything get serious.
So, OPs 304 fiancé claimed to be a virgin and that she wanted to wait for marriage but got knocked up by some other chap while in a relationship with OP? If I was OP I'd forgive her, if only for my own peace of mind but never forget and never take her back. She made her bed and he wasn't in it. She's literally learned the meaning of F around, find out.
I can definitely sympathize with Marie. She didn't start having sex at 12; she was raped at 12. It's no wonder her understanding of sex and love was so messed up. This does not at all excuse what she did to op, but I do believe she deserves some compassion here. It's not a black and white situation. I hope that op can move on with his life and heal from this. And I also hope that Marie can get the help she desperately needs and can learn to love and respect herself.
I don’t get how people can think like this and think it’s ok. I’m referring to his family. Is it some kind of a mental dysfunction? It’s blatantly obvious he’s in the right yet they all think he’s in the wrong. Am I missing something?
Damn i kinda feel bad for her. She said she started having sex at age 12. By 15 she was sleeping with 2 dudes at the same time and by age 18 she slept with atleast 40 people and stopped counting after that. And she thinks she doesn't have any trauma? Saying she didnt feel loved unless she had sex but after sex she felt empty? She needs deep emotional therapy and shame on her parents for coddling and enabling her behavior
Maria needs to stop having sex. I think she has a bit of nymphomania (spelling?) and sex addiction and that she was trauma from being sexually active so young. She never learned how to separate love and sex and now only feels love while having sex. The problem is that most of her partners don't love her and are just using her because she is available. I think she started to learn in her celibate relationship with op (I think he said they were waiting until marriage) what it means to love without sex, but her addiction to sex led her to cheat with AP, who I pity because he is a simp that is chasing after a bad woman who will never love him. I think her only chance of a normal, healthy relationship is to stop having sex until she gets married. She needs to find someone who will love her and that she can love without sex being in the equation. She won't be able to find this person if she keeps sleeping around, so the first order of business is to deal with her sex addiction.
that mess up her parents would should flip out if they knew what she did at age 12 question was force trick lied to do it or stipid and desperite her parents should sent her to rehap for that
Yeah, a 12 year old having a sex life is evidence of a very bad childhood. Not having self worth, seeking love from others through sex. Yeah, I hope this story is fake, because she probably got SA as a kid.
It's not your fault it's your ex's fiancee's fault because she cheated on him and she got pregnant and they blamed it on his childhood ex's and they wanted him to forgive her and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for cheating on him and she got pregnant and they blamed it on his childhood ex's and they wanted him to forgive her and you don't have to apologize for anything it's her fault not yours.
>french There's your problem Seriously though, OP way too soft, and that neighbourhood and extended family is way too fucking nosey and talkative. Needs to make some serious cuts as to who is in his life, and follow his heart a little more, regardless of whether the extended community approves or not. They can support his love, or be trod underfoot.
"I will forgive her if you let me sleep with your wife" this is the best.
So good
The only way to reply to idiots argument is to stop at their level and play their stupid game which OP did flawlessly.
Don't forget sleep with her for 2 months
He us cool and funny as hell. He deserves better.
Best part is he said "I will never forgive you you are dead to me" pot calling the kettle black 😂
The update is that OP and Samia are gonna get married. Hes living away from his family to be more independent, and they made a deal with their parents(samia's side) that theywnpuld have a religious ceramony before moving in togeather.
They will soon be married and are happy togeather 🎉
How do I find his post?
commenting on there to say that the username its u/Gueza98
This makes sense lol, Arabs/Muslims in general typically won't mind your background as long as you convert to Islam. Unless they're super racist, the religion generally comes first.
@@ninelcisneros6090 just copy paste the title of the video on google, you'll find the original post.
@@ninelcisneros6090the user name is u/Gueza98
She claims to not have trauma, yet she was sexually active at 12. My guess is that the "activity" _is_ the trauma. She grew up being taught by her peers that validation came from sex and carried that until it boiled over. It doesn't excuse her actions, but I understand.
Yeah... when she said that I was a little concerned. Mind you - some of the kids in my grade school were becoming "active" at that time too, so it's no guarantee that it was a traumatic experience.
@@KageKobushigrade school is definitely way too young. Who taught these kids this stuff?
@@stonalisa3729 Ngl, it was fooling around with stuff that felt good but we had no concept of until later. Looking back, I cringe a little now... but hey, at least I didn't really blink when I went down on my first real girlfriend.
I think she was saying that she had no trauma prior to having sex which could be a cause for having sex at that age. Because getting run through to that degree at that age has to be traumatising
@@stonalisa3729 Not a clue. I mean, it was a Catholic school that only taught Sex Ed in 7th and 8th grade at the time and what I remember was basically "Sex is bad before marriage" without even going into what sex actually was, besides "laying with a man and a woman" or something biblical sounding.
I just remember all of the giggles and whispering that happened whenever someone admitted to an experience (always with someone of a similar age; never heard anyone 'bragging' about getting someone older, thankfully). I really just think, as @jablue said, that it was basically just basically exploring their bodies.
I mean, the sad truth of the matter is that puberty begins anywhere between 8/9-13/14 for girls/boys respectively, and that part of that means beginning to become aware of their bodies, and others. Is it something that we want to know? No, as adults we consider it disturbing because of how society has taught us, and they definitely shouldn't be having children at that age, but unless you want to be a helicopter parent, there's a good chance that at least some of them will experiment, even if you give them a good sex ed.
There’s no excuse for cheating whatsoever. She’s victim blaming (in a way), b/c instead of taking accountability for her sh*tty action, she would rather place the blame on OP as a way to make herself feel better.
That’s not victim blaming at all. where tf is the logic?
You clearly don’t know what victim blaming is. Victim blaming would be blaming a rxpe victim for dressing too slutty or blaming an abuse victim for marrying an abuser.
@@thatoneguy9816 it is. He is the victim of betrayal, and she puts the blame for this betrayal and all that resulted on him.
Women and accountability ☕
@@thatoneguy9816 She's blaming OP for her cheating. OP is a victim of a cheater.
Op's parents should have never separated op from Samia in the first god damn place man
Yes they should’ve especially when her father was harassing him. He even wanted to press charges for a kiss they she agreed to. His parents did the right thing. If anything would’ve escalated it could’ve been bad for him. They protected him the best they could. However his family should’ve had his back with Marie. She cheated regardless of what she said happened. Cheating is a deal breaker.
@@chinaking918to be fair idc what race or background they have if I find a random boy in my daughter’s room I’m pressing charges too, don’t hide shit from parents even when you know the outcome to telling them is bad (I wouldn’t personally care) because them finding out on their own will only make it worse
@@angelarias3395 How was op random when they were childhood friends , I know kissing was wrong but dude separating them was wrong aswell
@@RacingAs7 honestly true but in that case it’s kinda worse, they know you personally and are still going behind your back like that means they truly don’t respect you as a person, keep in mind I’m saying this separate of their situation I don’t blame him for doing that to this specific parent I’m just giving my pov if I was the parent
@@angelarias3395pressing charges is definitely going overboard
Sad that racism still ruins relationships 😢 OP is a great genuine man who deserves better in life.
Not racism, but religious beliefs and culture. If you believe in Jesus but your spouse believes in Muhammad, it won't be an easy relationship
@@toomi195 True. But it seems it was, in fact, due to race. OP never mentions whether or not Samia was a muslim or if his family had other beliefs. Only the races they were from
@@darryl0745 absolutely true. Toomi195 seems to be a bit racist as they think being arab makes a person Muslim :P
@@toomi195 Arabs are extremely racist towards blacks. They even have their own N word.
@@analyticgeometry9014 I wouldn't go that far from this alone. It is at least understandable as a lot of, if not most, Arabs are muslim. It is, admittedly, a misguided assumption, and a frankly irrelevant one, as it was never a point made in the video
All of this could've been avoided if OP's and his ex's families were less racist.
And regarding Marie, this is why you shouldn't start having sex at 12. I honestly feel bad for her, she's not going to have an easy life.
Why did he call it "conservative"? I have met plenty of conservative mixed families
I'm Brazilian... And when I say that they call me crazy... Shit country
@@Maninawig😂😂you think American Christian or Republican is the only type of conservative? No, you're just biased and naive. Conservative can mean any culture. I don't think you know what it means. Your own family isn't the only conservatives
As someone from France I can tell you that Samia's arab family is much more racist. Black usually avoid marrying outside race out of inferiority complex and avoiding racist remarks from in-laws. Arabs developed independently the same version of the N word "Zanj". The french translated the book Arabian nights and edited out all the tons of anti black racism and the phobia of Arab men of their wives cheating with the black slave which is the main theme in main plot and 75% of subplots. Also black illegal immigrants pass by North Africa before reaching Europe where they experience a violent and traumatic racist experience by local Arabs and they are still sold to slavery by locals in the middle of the Sahara.
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Why do cheaters always try to get their betrayed spouses to help/teach them to be better people? Your partner is not your therapist.
They are terrified of confronting their own demons by themselves. They have a big issue with being alone in general. The most logical solution for someone who has a habit of cheating is to just be single and sleep around instead of putting their partner through emotional abuse.
I mean, your partner can be your therapist, it's just in regards to cheating, you usually already don't have a "partner" that's qualified to be both your therapist and still get help for themselves.
I hope he and Samia got back together
Some guy just replied he found ops real name and turns out he and samia are getting married
@nayanD69 Oh my gosh, Link please?!
@@nayanD69I’m going to stop reading comments now and just believe this is real and leave happy
I love how people talk shit about America but majority of people here would’ve given no shits about OP and his ex being together.
Probably one of if not the most tolerant places on earth, yet people treat it like it's the capital of racism; even back during the USA's slaver days they never chopped of the reproductive organs of slaves like in the Arab-Muslim slave trade.
Racism isn't an American thing. Racism and especially anti black racism is worldwide phenomenon. In Samia's arabic culture being black= slave. They even have their own N word centuries before Colombus. France brought some Senegalese soldiers to stay for a while in quarter in Sidon Lebanon. People till this day still call that place "the quarter of slaves" blacks in Iraq still have to give up their places to Arabs in public transportation.
Actualy tru
This didn’t have anything to do with the country it was the culture/ religion their family’s and community were part of. He was African origin that tends to be more conservative and the ex was Arab. He even said that their families wanted them to be married to someone in their culture. Not because of France itself.
@@mhawkins829Very true but I think the commenter here was saying that America is such a mixed pot that the stigma of interracial marriage and cultural differences is less here than other places around the world.
I don't understand why they pitty the cheater in these stories. Or even golden child or the abuser. Like people don't care about op in these. Like is this happening in real life?
A lot of people don't care about others if someone plays victim it's sad how often people get away with their bullshit.
Right. It’s like where are their morals and integrity? Ppl are too quick to defend ppl bs actions. Then pushing the blame on a girl who has nothing to do with anything. Ridiculous.
Real life is messy and not every story with a perpetrator involves people who are entirely undeserving of pity.
Especially in the case of a Golden Child since that's just another form of abuse that many people don't like to acknowledge because they are getting the better end of the deal.
Bottom line, empathy is important judging people with no nuance is idiotic.
Because for these people women can do no wrong, so they'll grab on to any thread of innocence they can find
Because she's broken and hurt, hurt people hurt people. She's a victim of life and a perpetrator at the same time. You can empathize with someone and still admonish them for their actions.
The girl was a nymphomaniac. I don't know how common that is, but it's a genuine thing. Some of them learn to live with it while others lose themselves in it; some even lose the feeling of pleasure, which can lead to mutilation or more aggressive forms of sexual activity. It's actually a pretty depressing life cause they don't understand their issue and don't know how to control it.
Kind of scary she started at 12. Like that kind of thing can start up that young?
@@Olimar92Her starting at 12 was likely a huge contributing factor to her current problems viewing sex as the only way for her to feel validation as so many of her relationships in her formative years were based solely on sex
Just call it a white
yup. its sad .. hope she gets treatment for that..
@@Olimar92 Some people on another comment tried to defend it and said "there's really no right age to start sex." Kinda messed up. I've seen people talk about that stuff and be like "Well I had sex at 13 for the first time, and it was with my nanny!" and a lot of people praise him for it, and he also believes that he turned out fine. Uh, no, my guy(in the case of the person I met), you're a cheating bastard that has a very problematic view on women, and can't keep a single relationship going for more than a few months, and everything you share on your twitter is just messed up and reeks of insecurity.
Ahhhh yes, the “born again virgin” thats a crock of shit
Naw man, she knew going into the relationship that you were in love with another woman and thought she would be enough to make you forget her. She played a risky fucking game and lost, that's on her. You should never get into a relationship with someone who can't love you fully, that won't end well for either of you
40 partners before she turned 18, and having multi-partner encounters at 15?
No wonder this girl didn't know how to process actual love and romance. Her entire adolescence from puberty to adulthood was one long recurring emotional trauma after another.
I'm sorry, but this person is likely never going to be someone safe to marry.
Damn imagine you accidentally get engaged to the towns bicycle 😅
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@@thatonemelody Unfortunately you're not first therefore saying it now means little
@@WeaponXSigma false since that doesnt apply to replies. it could specifically mean that i am the first to reply to such a comment
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It's a shame friendships like this only come once in a lifetime
To be fair to Marie, that kind of love shared between OP and Samia is the kind everyone wants to experience. I hope OP and Samia manage to rekindle and give themselves that honest shot as a couple. They sound nothing short of blessed, both as individual people and as a pair. Wishing them all the best.
I REALLY wanna know what happened between OP and Samia. Fingers crossed that they get back together.
some comments above says they get back together and married, no link unfortunately
Reconnect with Sammie. Even if she has moved on, you can date within her circle. You need people that will have your back. Its sad that you only seem to have your mother.
As for your ex, she has lost pair bonding. She needs to abstain from sex until she can find another way to cope with anxiety. She has to separate the status of her life from emotions while also fusing her character with her emotions. In short, dont be upset by the weight. Be upset you can't lift it. Then, be happy you know your limitations. Then, be happy you can be stronger. Then, be happy you have people you can ask for help. Be the action hero that when they jump on screen the music plays and suddenly there is hope. It doesn't matter how much the hero has lost or suffered or if he loses, his character is more important then the status. Be that for yourself.
He did talk to Samia. Dude posted 5 months ago that they got to talking, went to counciling, and are soon to be married..
As for Marie, she still stuck on OP and ended up in hospital when she found out the childhood sweethearts were dating, and her folks blame them for Marie's condition and moved to give her a fresh start... again.
@@Maninawig Yo that shit be great , could you please send the link to the post/the video. Never mind homeboy i found them they probably are married as of now cuz that post was 5 months ago
Samia and op is a prime example why Destiny always put people knowing their time together is only temporary
Dude marry samia already.. Elope and marry if she agrees.. This guy still loves her
apparently they did marryy
11:20 You don't have to doubt. She threw you under the bus with defaming you, it's obviously true that she's manipulative, lying and cheating.
Glad to see the updates in the comments that OP and Samia are going to get married.
someone who cant take responsibility for cheating shouldnt be in your life
Hearing about the birthday and tux and samia made me cry fr. It's been a while since I've cried. It made me remember of my ex and how those little things she'll do for me and how loved i felt that time.
There's no saving for that girl... I pity the next dude she will fish...
If this story is real, I hope op reconnected with Samia, and is happy now.
He didn't post the full story, he's getting married to Samia.
Let's be honest we all had that friendship Samia and Op some of us got the happy ending😊 some of us got the sad ending😢 and some of us was able to rekindle flames
You should not forgive her because at heart, it’s not what YOU want.
And frankly, those noisy neighbours are being horrible people, trash talking you since you were little, this kind of environment is toxic. Get away from there
At 12?! Nah. THATS TRAUMA
She stopped counting after 40 bodies?? I am a 39f and I only have 3! WTH??
I stopped at 200 looking for love in all the wrong places
I've heard so many times that once you get into that sort of lifestyle you reach the hundreds easily so she may have ended up having thousands of partners considering how young she started and what it became to her.
I'm now 7 Minutes in so I don't know hot it ends, but I'm very angry and sad about how their families would do such a thing.
I went no contact with my mom and stepdad, because I married the woman I loved and they would not stop making my life miserable because of that. And it was the best decision of my life.
This could be solved with one single line:
"LADY, YOU DON'T NEED ME YOU NEED A THERAPIST."
The woman stalked op, lied to get into a relationship with him, wasn't satisfied, cheated, then misguided trying to be the bad person to save the relationship (whatever that means lol), and went mad later.
That lady should be forgiven to even approach men while she tighten her loose bolts. She will never, ever be happy.
What the hell is going on in France?
I heard some people are in paris
Parallel societies, same here in Germany. We never had multi culturalism as in the USA but live pretty much in segregated communities in parallel. Hence extremist views of people coming already from conservative to backwards societies get reinforced in a miniature echo chamber leading to unbelievable levels of racism and control over individuals. My mother works in child protection and they have cases you wouldn't believe possible. E.g. one Romani girl had attempts on her life made by both mother and brother just because she was seen in public with a boy upon which her family got shunned by their community, the brother's wedding cancelled and a death warrant for the girl issued by their clan's "king".
The driving forces for immigration here were economical and since the majority of the population consists of natives there simply never was a melting pot or need to engage with the newcomers leading to these parallel worlds existing just streets away from eachother with tribal laws and rulers controlling many of the small minority enclaves and the state and police only getting involved if problems seep out of their boundaries. Honour murders, forced marriages, abduction back to the homeland of children adapting too much to the new country by their community's view have sadly become a "normality"
"Ofc I will forgive, but you guys the one who want to finance her and the child right? Right...??"
"What? Why you all fell silent?"
just read the 1yr update after a couple meetings with samia after running into her in the market, a vacation togheter a lot of crying resentment and feelings being let out(a lot of individual and couples therapy). THEY'RE MARRYING!
You can't turn a 304 into a housewife
She had more holes than colander... I'm so sorry for the guy, I have to admit he has a lot os strength to not kill both seriously out of joke... We know even in the hood never piss of the Samoan or try to mock them, because they will end you with fist "old school".
Those that want you to forgive you can forget simple.
That what really pisses me off about insecure people they do terrible things then use the insecurity tried to justify it anybody who takes pity on an insecure person is nothing but a damn fool
All cultures are equal
That is blatantly wrong. The culture that advanced humanity (the West) is definitely not equal to primitive cultures in Africa who kill Albinos to use their bones for “medicinal properties.”
You'd think but not the case a lot are hated on
She really should have talked to someone about her mindset, because she's trapped only hindering herself.
1st The fact that uncle wants to talk about forgiveness yet when he's offered that he bitches about it speaks volumes, hypocrite.
2nd THAT YOUNG?! Who the Hell starts sleeping around at the age 12?!
Poor woman. Being sexually active at 12 is a really traumatizing experience, and I really hope she can heal fully. Away from OP and her ex, and start an honest and calmer life.
Hope things work out with Samia
Marie alrealdy has her unconditional lover, but she is crazy and can't try to heal herself.
Seems to me his now Ex-Fiancée thought she needed a boyfriend/husband when she instead needed therapy.
Am the only one who hopes the OP and Samia to end up together?
I really hope OP still ends up with Samia
40 people by 18?
I'm surprised she still had treads on the tyres after all that wear
And I'm really surprised she only fell pregnant once
MAYBE AN UPDATE?! Well. This is going to keep me up at night..
search up "Fiancée Cheated on Me, Got Pregnant and Blamed It on My Childhood Ex, Now Everyone Pities Her france" and the og story should come up
once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater! can never trust anyone who lacks a moral compas
Lots of wrong from marie,maries exbf, and maries parents. I got a feeling that marie did want to change and want to start anew, but she started a new relationship with a lie. 2) got a feeling ex bf is trying to sabotage Marie as a revenge for maries cheating 3) they lack guidance to marie by telling her to tell the thruth before everything get serious.
I'm confused as to why OP even broke up with Samia to begin with. Story kinda weird, ngl
So, OPs 304 fiancé claimed to be a virgin and that she wanted to wait for marriage but got knocked up by some other chap while in a relationship with OP? If I was OP I'd forgive her, if only for my own peace of mind but never forget and never take her back. She made her bed and he wasn't in it. She's literally learned the meaning of F around, find out.
I can definitely sympathize with Marie. She didn't start having sex at 12; she was raped at 12. It's no wonder her understanding of sex and love was so messed up.
This does not at all excuse what she did to op, but I do believe she deserves some compassion here. It's not a black and white situation.
I hope that op can move on with his life and heal from this. And I also hope that Marie can get the help she desperately needs and can learn to love and respect herself.
How are they believing that she cheated for 2 months because the Ex is back in town for 10 days
Im sorry did i just hear 12!!!!!!!! OH MY GOD!
You can read the last update. Surviving infidelity.
Title:A one year update from DDay.
I don’t get how people can think like this and think it’s ok. I’m referring to his family. Is it some kind of a mental dysfunction? It’s blatantly obvious he’s in the right yet they all think he’s in the wrong. Am I missing something?
She was playing with him, and using him.
Bet you a dollar Marie was sat at the table with OP at the wedding in a deliberate set up.
Edit: Jesus Christ it's even worse.
I hope he ends up with the other girl. The stupidty of the family who didn't even believe him is dumb. just be together and move forward.
Damn i kinda feel bad for her. She said she started having sex at age 12. By 15 she was sleeping with 2 dudes at the same time and by age 18 she slept with atleast 40 people and stopped counting after that. And she thinks she doesn't have any trauma? Saying she didnt feel loved unless she had sex but after sex she felt empty? She needs deep emotional therapy and shame on her parents for coddling and enabling her behavior
Maria needs to stop having sex. I think she has a bit of nymphomania (spelling?) and sex addiction and that she was trauma from being sexually active so young. She never learned how to separate love and sex and now only feels love while having sex. The problem is that most of her partners don't love her and are just using her because she is available. I think she started to learn in her celibate relationship with op (I think he said they were waiting until marriage) what it means to love without sex, but her addiction to sex led her to cheat with AP, who I pity because he is a simp that is chasing after a bad woman who will never love him. I think her only chance of a normal, healthy relationship is to stop having sex until she gets married. She needs to find someone who will love her and that she can love without sex being in the equation. She won't be able to find this person if she keeps sleeping around, so the first order of business is to deal with her sex addiction.
Can yall leave the link for all the posts you read?
Dad stay in your daughters life
>I am French
Well I see the problem
Modern woman experience right here.
Bro cheating is cheating it wouldnt matter if she was jealous of your ex anyways 😦
And they say body count doesn’t matter 😂
Start a new. Forget your past. For get samia or whatever.. forget Marie..
Describes compulsive mental illness "i hope its not a compulsive mental illness"
Bruh
that mess up her parents would should flip out if they knew what she did at age 12 question was force trick lied to do it or stipid and desperite her parents should sent her to rehap for that
Bro got sent back 💀(sry if this offends anyone)
Bullet nah , bro dodged inter continental ballestic missile
to be fair, he is french so its legit
no no no be with someone else in the future not marie my guy
Wait if he said he’s French so his grammars bad but then he says he’s African?
Wow what a tale... hope op and samiya elope soon
Yeah, a 12 year old having a sex life is evidence of a very bad childhood. Not having self worth, seeking love from others through sex. Yeah, I hope this story is fake, because she probably got SA as a kid.
Dude 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ run.
After 40 she didn't count 😂😂At this point your girlfriend belongs to the street 😂
i js subscribed cuz you have entertained me while i am sick
i also have a question
what shader and shader settings???
having intercourse at 12's mad.i used to watch cartoon's at that age
Goddman it. DID HE MEET SAMIA or NOT >?
yup. they r married. marie didnt take that well and ended up in hospital. her family decided to move to other place for a fresh start.
YTA If he doesn’t go find Samia
It's not your fault it's your ex's fiancee's fault because she cheated on him and she got pregnant and they blamed it on his childhood ex's and they wanted him to forgive her and that's not right and she should pay for her actions and go to hell for what she has done to him and if you guys can't see that then you guys are delusional and she doesn't deserve anything for cheating on him and she got pregnant and they blamed it on his childhood ex's and they wanted him to forgive her and you don't have to apologize for anything it's her fault not yours.
Scratched???
>french
There's your problem
Seriously though, OP way too soft, and that neighbourhood and extended family is way too fucking nosey and talkative. Needs to make some serious cuts as to who is in his life, and follow his heart a little more, regardless of whether the extended community approves or not. They can support his love, or be trod underfoot.
40 people 💀
40+? 💀💀💀💀
Idk Sex ar 12 anf over 40 partners at 17 sounds like Trauma to me
12?!!!! 😂😂 wtf
WHO WAS IN PARIS???
My brain fried at 40
Does anyone know how he gets these stories
Reddit and subscriber email
@@nightking8490 wdym by subscriber email. I know about reddit but i cant find these stories like these.
Lol love reddit creative writing novelas
12 she was sleeping around