Bride Loses Her Best Friend Over a Strapless Dress! | Say Yes To The Dress Bridesmaids
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ม.ค. 2019
- Bride Tammy Carter is adamant on getting a strapless dress for the bridesmaids, however her best friend is refusing to wear that neckline for religious reasons.
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Shawanda was willing to be a hostess. she was willing to take the less visible /less glamorous role and still help out the bride. this wasn't about a power struggle but about the bride having no respect for her best friend's boundaries or religious convictions.
Absolutely. If it was about a power struggle then she would have found it demeaning to be a host and refused to do so.
Ohh yess! Didn't even think of that.
And if they are best friends the bride already knows how religious and conservative her friend is. The bride is the one who was on a power trip, she wanted to flex her muscle and make the friend do something that made her uncomfortable.
AMEN!
Christianity is not popular, but a believer is willing to sacrifice people in honor of the Lord. Sorry, not sorry. My eternal soul matters MORE than your wedding
Give the woman a piece of fabric that matches and drape it over her shoulders? Respect others boundaries and needs.
Your Quirk exactly
My thoughts exactly! I was basically screaming “shawl” by the end.
Another great solution. The largest bridesmaid needed a shawl. Her arms looked bad in all the dresses. Getting a dress that flatters and is comfortable for everyone is the goal.
@@aplicqu8761 i don't even think she looked bad. But she herself wasn't feeling it, so that don't matter anyway
Even making her show herself on camera was just mean and unnecessary. Making her show more than she is comfortable with on world wide tv? Screw her friends!
I literally HATE how they made Shwanda look like the villain! Being someone who hates showing skin, being more comfortable in clothes that cover my body, and being religious myself, I am completely on Shwanda's side.
Like my sister wants to get married soon, and there's no doubt she'll ask me to go along with her to choose dresses, and I've told her/my mother/my entire family so many damn times that I hate wearing strapless dresses because of how anxious I am about my body, that if she still went along with the whole strapless idea then I would without a doubt stand up to her about my comfort! And if she acts like how this bride did with Shwanda, I'll be so bloody heartbroken because I love my older sister and my comfort/happiness in what I wear should come first in her books. Even if it's the same colour that's fine, but I NEED to cover my body because I'm so self conscious that everybody would judge me/say that my body is ugly!
It legit pains me to tears to watch this clip, but I can't help but come back to it every so often because of how much I relate Shwanda.
Seriously though, the last dress she tried on had a tiny little strap around her neck, and Shawanda was okay with that. What's the difference, really? She freaked out about taking out that TINY little strap. The same amount of skin was showing.
It shouldn’t matter what you want it all about the bride
@@maryclaremayo6157the straps gave her a tiny amount of confidence that the dress will not fall off accidentally flashing everyone.
@@beckyedwards5771sorry, but someone’s religious beliefs are more important than a dress.. even if it’s for a wedding
The bride was being a b-word
💯 I would respect anyone's religious convictions or concerns about modesty
I'm actually with the bridesmaid on this one. If I had a friend who was that uncomfortable with not wearing straps, I'd compromise because you can't force someone to wear something that they are uncomfortable with, especially for religious beliefs or convictions. No ma'am.
Than she shouldn’t be in the wedding
@@beckyedwards5771 Yea I agree
@beckyedwards5771, she said she would host (which is honestly rude af for the bride to even say, like she can't even come as a guest? she still has to be serving you?) like if strapless dresses are so important to the bride and she didn’t want to wear one because she's not comfortable showing skin, they could have compromised as having her as a guest or even a shawl or cape added to her dress. the brids was trying to bully her but the bridesmaid refused to let her hold that power over her.
@@beckyedwards5771many people who are close to a bride have and feel the pressure of being in the wedding. My best friend and I expect each other to be in each other’s weddings but we would never put each other in the position of demanding one compromises the other’s values like that even if that means we don’t completely match up to the bridesmaid style we have in mind.
literally NOBODY there was respecting her boundaries including the workers.
Why not compromise with a halter?
If they were really best friends the bride would respect her right to have straps
@@devinreis5811 right at least it still didn’t have straps,just a little neck string no ones really going to see.
Why couldn`t she wear the dress with the straps on & the others with the straps off?
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“I wonder if this is really about religion or a power struggle” It is so obviously about religion. She looked so uncomfortable taking those straps off.
I think is a little bit of bit. Swanda's attitude is a bit shitty from the start. But you are right. She does look uncomfortable.
Mei Long She wasn’t in the greatest mood, yeah, but if my friend had been badgering me about my religion for a while, as is implied with the bride saying she “thought she’d give in by now”, I wouldn’t be looking forward to this day either. But it all could be edited to make both the bride and the brides mate look bad, and the friend maybe did have some second motive to be like this. I don’t know, who really knows what went on and why.
She was feeling naked and we all felt it...at least I think
@@eloisagarcia3300 I agree. She looked so uncomfortable. As the bride said, "letting some straps ruin a friendship", she was just as guilty! If you are good friends with someone, or best friends as implied here, why would you force someone you care about to be so horribly uncomfortable?!
She looked violated😢
I’d rather lose my best friend than have her force me to do something I definitely don’t wanna do.
EXACTLY THIS!
I'm not religious but I respect the fact that she decided to be a hostess than give up on her standards. Well done!
This bride didn’t “lose” her best friend, she chose a strapless dress over her best friend and kicked the out of the wedding (tehnically out of the bridesmaids) just because she had certain boundaries about HER body and the bride couldn’t respect that.
I hate how Lori and everyone else was going along with the bride's framing of it too. Just no. A lot of the time, probably most of the time, bridesmaids acting like this are just being stubborn because it is the bride's day. But in this case it was religious beliefs and about someone who wasn't comfortable showing that much of her body. And that is perfectly okay.
@@dragonofmordor true
how can you lose a friend over some damn clothing 🤦🤦🤦🤦 thats weird it dont even have to be a big deal that she didnt get to stay a brides maid they can still be friends and she dont have to wear that dress strapless just childish
she didn’t kick her out she thought she would give in and if you can’t wear what the BRIDE wants then don’t be in it it’s HER dream wedding.
I’m ngl the strapless was the same as with those 1 inch sleeves. I think it’s deeper than just clothing
The fact that she didn’t see that her friend was so uncomfortable wearing a strapless dress and chose to ignore it, makes me mad.
Betzaida Altamirano it’s called selfishness. Yes, the wedding is the bride snd grooms day, but your guests should always feel okay or comfortable so your day can go perfect. Just let her wear the straps man. Ñ
She wasn't that uncomfortable if she came out in a spaghetti strapped dress. She's awkward and jealous. I'm pretty sure the Bride talked to her about the dresses weeks beforehand. There's always 1.
Maya H stop hating on people based on their religion...it is her beliefs and you have yours. Stop thinking you are better then other people becouse you aren’t.
@Maya H WTF is wrong with you? It's not about religion. She feels uncomfortable, you can see it. I felt uncomfortable seeing her.
Your comment ist absolutely disgusting.
Totally UNRELATED but your name Betzaida, is such a beautiful name!
"I just thought that she would give in." That really says it all for me. I understand the bride wanting things to be in her vision, and maybe there's a lot of background between their friendship that we don't know about; but trying to grind down someone's boundary about their body is unacceptable.
You go Shawanda, you don't need friends who disrespect your boundaries or believes.
And they have the audacity to make her feel like the villain
“I thought she would give in”
So you were trying to manipulate her out of her modest beliefs?
Thats what i was thinking. Disgusting behaviours. When the straps were taken down, you could tell she felt like she was being striped naked infront of a crowed. I felt so awful for her. Sick to my stomach even. And her "best friend" is mad that she couldnt break her. Some best friend that is.
That is what I think
@@countbeccula Right! Not simply a religious issue - though that might shield her - but this is deeply personal and private. Something painful that is not discussed. They would all look better with straps anyway.
@@countbeccula So can I ask this, when she put on the spaghetti strap dress was there a difference in skin in reveal as to when the spaghetti straps where pulled down?
@@8kikyo_ not neccessarily but its all about comfort because those itty bitty straps make a dress feel more secure than a strapless one that could feel more exposing and that it could fall down i dont know how to explain it other than the straps make it feel more secure
I’m usually of the “whatever the bride says goes” attitude but not when it personal beliefs. Asking someone to compromise their religious beliefs for you isn’t something a real friend would ever ask of you
I don’t think it was exactly that when Tammy said the color shawandas face just showed that she hated it. And I don’t think it was a big deal. The straps she had wasn’t really hiding anything
@@baileydavis1786 it made her more confident bc she knew she had something over her shoulders
@@uccello297 or maybe supported like it wouldn't fall and expose more than she is comfortable with(I personally hate strapless dresses for this reason)
Yeah that wasn't HER wedding tho.
Force your bridemaids to be dressed from head to toe on your own day. Today wasn't about her, if anything she could've just brought a vest.
As a friend you shouldn't force your friends into something, they don't feel comfortable in. You're not picking out decorations, you're dressing people who are dear to you. You should be considering their thoughts.
"If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" That question goes both ways.
well said
I'm with Team Shawanda! Love all the support for her in the comments! It's a shame it had to end that way.
That’s like forcing a hijabi girl to take her hijab off “if she’s your best friend” it’s her religious belief you have to respect that! If she’s your maid of honor she can stand out in straps!
Or full sleeved gown ☺ which is what I'd probably wear 🤗
And yes girl, I couldn't agree more!
💯 exactly.
@Glamorous Taee Well, once she realizes what kind of a friend you are, she wouldn't want to come anyway...
Except that the hijab is intended to demean, oppress, and shame women, as if we are siren-like temptresses, and cannot keep our legs closed around men other than our husbands. Whereas, a person's individual standard for modesty can be about her own self-respect.
Brier-Rose HopeDiamond well actually it is not. A proper muslim home should allow u to wear hijab if u want or dont want to. Some families are just corrupt like in every other religion. There will always have strict families in the world. I happen to wear hijab by choice as a 14 year old. My muslim friend does not. Not trying to be rude or anything just pls dont judge an entire religion just bc there are some bad eggs. Or dont base the fact that some ppl have to wear hijab bc some ppl actually have a choice
once i saw shawandas face when the straps came down my heart really fell... a true friends should respect her religious beliefs and i really felt for her 🥺
She looked VERY uncomfortable
@Autumn Shouse yeah but with strapless it just draws the eyes to the cleavage a lot more and she obviously didn't feel comfortable to her body being shown that way
Still, it’s the BRIDES wedding, not hers. She should at least try
なかむらKarina usually i‘d completely agree, but not if it goes against her religious beliefs. that‘s just a no-go.
Okay but she is showing it to the whole world now.
I feel so bad for Shawanda, she’s entitled to her own body and what covers it. I think it’s absurd that her “best friend” wouldn’t compromise at all with her beliefs. She could’ve given her a silk shawl to cover her shoulders with, it would’ve been classy and matched the theme of the others.
I'm not religious, but if they're actually best friends, then the bride KNEW she had these religious convictions beforehand. The disrespect and disregard for her boundaries is insane.
“If strapless is more important than friendship then what is it worth” so why can’t you let her have two little straps?
Jessica-Lee Pearson because it’s not shawanda’s wedding.
Raven LaShelle but if she’s her “best friend” she should allow her to wear 2 little straps. it VERY obvious she doesn’t want to betray her beliefs. so what’s the problem?
So true!!!! If she was really her best friend she would respect her religion and boundaries!
@@SalemElaine ...but some very religious people believe showing too much is a sin and it goes against God. And going against God means you are going to hell (according to them). And nobody will risk eternal damnation for a dress...
I'm not religious but people ought to put that into consideration.
@@mistid1485 That's not fully the mentality of it, but you're on the right track. We aren't afraid of angering God and going to hell. The whole point of Jesus is that we aren't held accountable for when we do go against God. If anyone is only a Christian because of fear, I'm afraid they've missed out on the point.
It's like, "I am in love with God and I will not compromise my relationship with Him over anything". If a spouse has certain reasonable wishes their partner will, out of love, go out of their way to respect them. It's more like that.
Shes been friends with her for years but she still can't respect her religion???
that's not best friend, that's best snake
Caroline shaw seriously.
I wouldn't either
@@yesyes-bl7hj huh??????
@@diamondcrystal9308 yes it's my wedding I would do it the way I want 💀
Yeah, normally it's the friend's fault in these videos, but I'm definitely on Shawanda's side here. I couldn't imagine wearing something that went against what I was raised to wear, or something that made me so uncomfortable.
Not just that, my friend's would never ask it of me! Bride was being very inconsiderate.
HOLD YOUR GROUND! No one should be made to feel uncomfortable about wearing a dress. The consultants didn't help either. If I was that friend I wouldn't step foot in that shop again for the way they treated her. They had total disrespect for her beliefs. That is not how you run a business. The bride thought she could bully her into wearing the dress. The best friend did the right thing. I would walk away too.
Shawanda (bridesmaid): “It’s like me against the rest of the world”
Nah hun the rest of the world got your back it’s just your bad friendship that make you feel that way
Yeah😍😍😍😍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
My aunt was religious. If I wore strapless, she'd flip a table. But when I wore a white lace cape over it (with 3/4 sleeves), she loved the dress.
Ingrid Witty I want to like this but it’s on 666 and I don’t wanna ruin it
@@Lana-os9zv 😂😂😂😂
I completely understand how that feels...
Can I just say, I'm so impressed with how understanding the comment section was with Shawanda. I wasn't expecting that.
Shawanda was clear from the beginning about her beliefs, the bride just ignored that and demanded her way. I wonder , did Shawanda go as a hostess?
back in 2019 when this was uploaded everyone was against shawanda, im glad they switched up
@@nickysoicky can u send the link to the other video
i agree with everyone about shawanda also to it look like the dress doesn’t support her bust really well. you need to get a dress that can help suit everyone not just what you want
@@adriannafearon1235 yeah plus keeping the straps on just for her would also be okay I mean it’s a little different from others but it’s not like it’s a different dress at all😅
I stand with the bridesmaid. Wanting to be modest is admirable. 🌹 Bride should respect people's boundaries. "HOST IT IS." 🙌🏼 No one should EVER compromise personal integrity to please others. That's what I call ✨CLASS✨👑
"I just want my sexy bone covered." Legit best way to say "Let me dress the way I believe I should." Honestly, to each their own, we have body positivity but we seem to forget that many still dress conservatively.
Im an atheist.. and i hurt when they took hurt straps down.. that little piece of fabic msde her feel more comfortable.. respect.
@@nobody-xh6ii But why should she be forced to wear something she DOESN'T WANT TO?
@@celestialvenus6711 then she shouldn't have agreed to be a bridesmaid if she knew she wanted strapless.
But that dress was beautiful with the straps.
Lets forget about religion its just fine straps...if she felt more confident why don't just let her?
Bubble Butt wrong. she looked like she liked the dress with the straps, but as soon as they came off, she looks very exposed.
Celestial Venus BECAUSE ITS NOT HER WEDDING. She can come as a guest lol
I feel so bad for Shawanda. She looked so sad when she was told to leave. Girl, if your friend ditches you over a dress, it's not worth it. ):
Maya H sometimes people need to respect other peoples lines. she didnt feel comfortable with a strapless dress and if her "friend" couldn't respect that then it was right to leave. there is many dresses out there that would look good on her and something that she felt comfortable with.
Maya H Look I personally dont agree with you but i respect your opinion, but i think you can be more polite instead of calling her a weirdo, its offensive in my opinion and doesn't make you look good
Maya H Yes and that is why i am saying that i respect the way you feel towards her, but i also think you can show more respect. It can really hurt people by your comment because to me you're implying religious people are freaks and i juat think you can tone it down with the words i would consider as insults, now you might not agree and that is totally ok we have different opinions.
Maya H Ok I totally respect how you feel and i dont know if you are saying just to state out your opinion or to try to make people be on your side. Either way i think it makes you look like you dont know what you are talking about but again i respect how you feel and respect your views, but i do think its wrong. 🤷♀️
Flurry The Gem Hybrid thank you
I love how she stood up for herself till the very end
" if strapless is more important than friendship" The irony of those exact words coming out of this bride's mouth... She knew her "best friend" has a strong preference in dressing modestly, yet she pushed SO hard and was absolutely unwilling to compromise / budge a single bit even after choosing to include her into the wedding. As her "best friend" she should've seen how uncomfortable her friend was when they removed the straps from that dress. terrible friend.
I applaud shawanda for sticking to her beliefs and not sacrificing her standards under pressure
besides, the dress doesn't look nice strapless. At all
Absolutely
I think in this situation they just need to find mutual respect in each other's decisions.
@@stoned5698 mutual respect would have been choosing the dress but letting her wear it with the straps.
I'm sorry they are not best friends because best friend you know each other good bad and ugly the bride was very unfair shawanda was willing to wear the blue dress even though it has straps while she could not leave it alone
I get that it’s her wedding, but I find it ironic how she says, “If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth” but doesn’t take into consideration that she doesn’t want to wear a strapless dress because of religion. I just think that she should’ve respected her religious beliefs a bit more
I completely agree, however, I think the best friend should have stressed more that it was about religion and not just that she didn't like the dress. Just not liking the dress you should make the sacrifice and wear the dress but when it comes to something like religion, you should absolutely stand your ground and have your beliefs be respected. Every last one of them should be ashamed of themselves for trying to bully her.
It goes both ways. It's the braid's wedding. You wear what she wants you to wear for that day. Her friend did the right thing.
@@LittleImpaler Religion is off-limits, though. Should a Muslim woman take off her hijab or a Jewish person take off their yamulke because of the aesthetics she wants for her wedding? The woman didn't just find religion. She was a member of her religion and was immodest due to that long before the bride got engaged. You can't expect anyone to temporarily halt their religious principles for your wedding or any other reason. She's well rid of the bride as a so-called friend. Good riddance!
@@ILoveRomances It's her friend's wedding. Period. Don't like it, be a guest. This goes both ways. Her friend who is over religious shouldn't have agree to be a bride's maid. Are you telling if it was the other way round, that if it's the religious friend's wedding Her best friend should object to a very modest bridesmaid dress?
It goes both ways. It's the friend's wedding you put on what the bride wants. Don't like it, don't go.
@@LittleImpaler If it were the other way around, the best friend would be objecting on the grounds of personal preference, not religious objection. There's a reason the U.S. will not send you to war due to religious objections but will if you just don't want to go. Apples and oranges.
The bride knew her friend's religious principles and had the audacity to think she should override them for her. That's a total lack of respect for who her friend is and what she believes in. So, if she's pro-life due to religious reasons, she should go with her to the abortion clinic because she's a friend? Miss me with that. No one should ever ask or expect you to betray yourself for them. Like I said, if it were just a matter of fashion preference, suck it up and wear it, but if it's about your core religious beliefs, stand your ground and dare the other person to say something.
If my friend humiliated me like this on national tv I would never speak to them let alone attend their wedding.
If that was me, I won't even attend the wedding as a host.
This is probably one of the first ones where I side with the bridesmaid because she shouldn't be pushed out of her comfort zone her wedding or not
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I'm sorry but you knew your best friend had this issue before getting married. She told you before you went dress shopping. Why are you surprised? Why embarrass her like this? A little variation would not have hurt as long as all the dresses were the color you chose. If it were me I would have dropped out of your wedding for good. You were being completed selfish and belittled your so called best friend. I admire her for standing up for her beliefs.
@@LAShadz I agree with everything you said.
Absolutely agree
Jeon Jungkook then she doesn’t have to be in the wedding
Alternative title: Best friend gets disrespected because of her beliefs
I honestly feel bad for the best friend
that is sad
I am genuinely confused, I need someone to explain something to me. How is it not ok for the bride to think her friend would wear without the straps on her wedding day when her friend seemed just fine with the straps. Not sleeves. Not even shoulder sleeves... thin straps that tie behind the neck. Is it not reasonable to think she would be fine without as well. I'm asking because personally i think it's weird, i have friends similar in conservatism except they would not be caught going to bed in those straps with others around because it basically shows everything already.
I do understand the straps can give support for bigger chests though, I am asking about the covering issue that everyone seems to be focused on.
@@SiriustheYao it's more of a body issue. even though the straps are very thin, if she's uncomfortable without it, then that would be stepping over her boundaries. at first I thought they were choosing dresses for the bride, and for me, that would've been terrible if the friend was dictating what the bride would wear. tho that's not the case. even though "it's her wedding after all", she should still respect her friend's boundaries. I hoped that they would at least give her the chance to wear the straps and make the other ones strapless as she wishes. "it's just gonna be a couple hours anyways", it won't make a huge difference if one bridesmaids is wearing thin straps. it's her wedding but still, it's her friend's body.
"If strapless is more important than friendship, what is it worth?" Honey this question goes both ways.
I just watched this on TV and had to look up what the Internet had to say about it, and I am SO glad to see that the comments are overwhelmingly on Shawanda's side! I am so sad that Tammy and the rest pulled the "bride" card and railroaded Shawanda into wearing a dress she wasn't comfortable with. She was polite, respectful and classy throughout in her behaviour, and Tammy completely disrespected her boundaries and beliefs. I can't believe she had the audacity to come out with "If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" while LITERALLY placing her need for strapless bridesmaids' dresses above her friend's boundaries and comfort level! Grrrr!
Girl if she's not comfortable with it, then you don't have the right to force her or emotionally blackmail her.. PERIOD!
If it were me, I would just choose a color, and let the bridesmaids pick what style dress they want
Rachelle Rodrillo that's what my best friend did. We all say down, and searched through and found ones with the same color and similar material. Then she made an options list and everyone could pick what they wanted from the list to wear. It turned out beautiful and I am highly religious and it worked out perfectly for everyone!
😁😁😁😁😁😁
Jesus if I was the bride I would have given her a costume version of the dress that covers her and gives her straps while getting the original for the other girls. Like what type of find would I be to force my maid of honor to be uncomfortabl
I agree. I’m not even a religious person but it’s common decency that if someone feels a dress is too “sexy” for them or they do not feel comfortable based off of religious or self made morals and aren’t just claiming such to get their way I would respect it! Who am I to tell someone they must wear strapless, something that they wouldn’t even wear for themselves and feel exposed bride or not?! I feel so bad for her. Seriously all she wanted was straps, she even compromised and was willing to do those small straps versus the more covering one she preferred. That dress with the others the same but strapless would’ve looked great!! No one would’ve even paid attention honestly! If I ever have a wedding with bridesmaids (I’m more of a just a short private small ceremony with no bridesmaids or groomsmen and then fellowship with family and friends and not spend much$$) I would give a color palate, a fabric, what length I’d prefer (while taking everyone’s standards and morals into consideration of course. I’m not opposed to some long and some short dresses as long as same fabric and overall look) I would send them on their way! After all they’re paying for it. They should find something they can afford, in whatever neckline or strap they feel comfortable in. I think brides forget that bridesmaids can look good and flow great together without being in identical dresses. I’d even let my bridesmaids have hairstyles they prefer as I know some girls don’t like to have hair up if In strapless. There’s ways to line them up and arrange it for it to look good. It’s so sad how people have lost respect for others. Im glad to see in the comments many haven’t. It’s refreshing to say the least.
Bride: “If strapless is more important than friendship, what is it worth?”
My thoughts exactly. She shouldn’t have to ignore her religion for your strapless dress.
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what's the correlation between religion and a strapless dress?!?!?! Religious people are so strange...
@@alessandroiannonemusic The correlation is that lots of religious people prefer to dress more conservatively, and for some, a strapless dress is less conservative. It can show cleavage, and even if it's fitted not to show cleavage, it still shows a good amount of skin.
@@kayandkaycorp13 and that's the problem? Showing skin? you're not naked, and you're not less religious if you show your collar bone....
@@alessandroiannonemusic I'm not religious, though I am spiritual, and I believe that God doesn't really care how much skin you show. But for some people, they believe that God wants them to dress modestly. Even if that means covering up to the collarbone. Maybe something about avoiding leading men to temptation or other sexist stuff.
I personally believe the bridesmaid is just using religion as an excuse but actually just has insecurity issues about her body. No shame in that, everyone has insecurities. But sometimes a woman will say she's insecure about a body part and her friends will try to build her up, telling her how pretty she is, etc, but it doesn't actually solve anything because the problem is much deeper and sometimes it's just easier to let her wear straps.
This is heart breaking. Makes my stomach turn. I feel so sorry for that bridesmaid. No one should have to wear anything they think is indecent.
RESPECT FOR SHAWANDA STICKING TO HER BELIEFS. That Bride should have compromised. Smh. It’s her fault she lost her best friend not the strapless dress….
I'm so proud of EVERYONE in the comments for applauding her for standing up for her beliefs. She wasn't rude about it at all, either. The bride was the disrespectful one in this episode, for sure! I respect the lady for not giving in and for NOT going against her beliefs! EVEN though she felt humiliated! Shame on the bride! I just hope she never allowed the bride to talk her into going against them in the end!
I am not Muslim or Christian. I would not agree to do sleeveless or show cleavage for any wedding either. The bride needs to be respectful. I am a size 6. Respect her religion.
I don't know if it's just her belief. Is there a religious belief against Tiffany blue too? Because she had the same attitude about the color as well. I just think that if she was so uncomfortable she maybe should have suggested a pashmina.
Sorry if I misspelled that word.
If the bridesmaid wants straps give this bridesmaid what she feels comfortable in. Those strapless gowns were ugly af
@@katie4335 I didn't want to deal with that, so I eloped.
NOAH'S MOMMY2012 they should have given her a shawl to wear
Girl, you didnt lose a friend because she didnt like the dress you chose, you lost a friend because you couldnt respect her beliefs and her opinions. She was being so mature about it, she didnt force you to chose anything you didnt like, she backed out. You tried to manipulate her emotions to get her to wear something that made her uncomfortable and compromised her beliefs. You keep saying she's your best friend, but you're not treating her like one. I hope she wore a beautiful, conservative dress to that wedding, something she felt comfortable in, and I bet she looked fabulous.
is it a crime to like a dress? her friend was being very unreasonable. using religion as an excuse to not wear a strapless dress. she could just wear the dress with straps without being so rude and unreasonable. i agree her friend could’ve given her a shawl or something but then it wouldn’t look good because no one else wanted the shawl or would wear it. how is the bride going to please one person? she can’t just give up what she wants because one person doesn’t want a strapless dress.
Lol if she can't wear strapless then it's not the bride's fault, wedding isn't about maid of honor or bridesmaids it's about the bride and groom, whatever bride's want it should be follow. Can't you see that girl keep contradicted the bride, if she want to be followed then she should pay for the bride's wedding all of what should bride's gonna pay and be the bride lmao.
Why she just couldn't do all the bridesmaid strapless and just have her best friend with some spaghetti straps or something or just all of the a cover up or a jacket or something. She did not have to lose her best friend over bridesmaid dress
Who’s side is the comment ? I’m confused
these replies are so weird. the friend was being reasonable because the brides maids all have to match its a culture. and using religion isnt "an excuse" whatsoever for example my religion is rlly strict on what parts of the body you reveal in public so if that was me i woulda been acting the same exact way because thats my religion and im not abouta disobey it just because my "friend" wants me to 🤦🏽♀️
My mom got married recently and she compromised for me because she knew how uncomfortable I would be in a sleeveless dress. I would’ve worn a pantsuit, but I compromised by wearing a dress with sleeves just to make her happy and make me comfortable at the same time
always come back to watch this. she stuck her ground and was NOT gonna budge! great reminder that boundaries are GOOD!! this has helped me learn to set boundaries even for my own family. never have i ever felt better since i drew the line with them. so thankful for this episode ❤️
It’s not about the dress being more important than the friendship, it’s about the fact that the bride, her “best friend” can’t respect the choices she makes regarding her body. If it makes her uncomfortable, you shouldn’t be forcing her to do it.
The thing is that she wasn't forced into the bridal party she was asked knowing full well what the bride wanted especially because they were best friends but on the other had the bride definitely should have had more respect twords the bridal parties opinions especially knowing that her best friend had her beliefs on what to wear
@@wifflebat681 she forced her to wear something strapless. That’s her “best friend” and she’d rather choose a dress than have her best friend in her bridal party. All she had to do was allow her friend to keep the straps and all would be good, but no, she would rather have the “perfect bridal party dresses” than the “perfect bridal party” and then she got mad when her friend walked out. She can’t get mad that her friend didn’t want to wear something that went against her beliefs.
@@nicocheree9344 no I know but what I was saying is that when you're asked to be a part of a bridal party you agree to wear what the bride wants you too, now is the bride wrong for not wanting to make a compromise yes and no, yes because if she was supposed to he the brides best friend the bride would have known about how her friends limits but at the same time it is her wedding, im not here trying to start arguments with anyone but I want people to see that they both could have handled the situation better then they did is all
@@wifflebat681 they could of handled it better but the bride was ultimately trying to force her “friend”. Obviously the friend knew what she wanted but that doesn’t mean that she has to sacrifice her beliefs and being comfortable just because it’s her friends wedding. Compromising on a strap for the dress isn’t a big deal, she isn’t ruining her wedding. She could still have the sweetheart neckline and color and everything else; but she can’t let her friend wear the strap?
@@wifflebat681 its hard to handle the situation differently when one person is not willing to listen to the other.
**Everybody comforting the bride when she made the problem**
Shawanda- *being by herself and crying without support*
Is that what happen in the full epsidoe ? I would love to watch the full epsidoe. I like the strapless dress. But I'm more for the 1 shoulder to me it looks more classy and elegant. I love the one that Lindsey had on. But I didnt not like how it fit underneath her bodice. But i loved the bow though on the one shoulder strap.
@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 who cares! She's uncomfortable, that's all that matters! If she was really her best friend than she'd be okay with putting straps on the dress, shes an awful friend and doesn't deserve good friends.
I really hate the bride's attitude. She's the one who forced her to wear that dress. She's a horrible friend, it's like a strapless dress is worth more then their friendship
@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 she shouldn't be upset when her "best friend" decides to drop out of the wedding then, she gave her best friend a choice to wear the dress or not be in the wedding; she chose not to be in wedding. She shouldn't be sad and cry because of her stupid decision she gave her, no one should feel bad. It's not even like the bride is PAYING for the dress (which she should regardless), she would be making her "best friend" pay 100+ dollars for a dress she'd only wear once that SHE'S NOT EVEN COMFORTABLE IN, what fairness is that?
@@brianna-reneejeanjordan9160 but it doesn't matter though, she doesn't feel comfortable in it and shouldn't be forced into it (especially if SHE would have to pay for it), if she was really her best friend they'd allow her to wear straps, especially if it's "not that big of a deal" for her not to wear straps it shouldn't be a big deal for her to wear straps.
the comments on this video are so much more sympathetic toward the bridal party member with boundaries than they were on the video where a bride’s sibling was a masc lesbian uncomfortable in a dress and that’s super telling.
No means no. 🙄 You knew she was modest before you chose her as a bridesmaid.
“If strapless is more important than friendship” Uh, I’m sorry, but it’s this woman’s RELIGION vs friendship, not strapless. If you were a real friend, why are you putting her in a position where she has to choose between her religious beliefs or her friendship with you? The situation could be so easily resolved by the bride allowing that one bridesmaid to wear a coverup! I’m not religious but if one of my bridesmaid was, I’d want her to customize the dress to fit her beliefs. I’d never ask her to compromise her beliefs for my special day. That’s so selfish.
I wholeheartedly agree
Finally someone said it!
Or some wear straps
Ikr? Like I can name 3 ways to fix this situation off the top of my head. Coverup, some type of 'jacket', or KEEPING THE STRAPS ON! UghHhHhh
I’m a Christian and my prom dress was strapless. My bridesmaid dress will be strapless if the bride wants too.
The friend didn't decide that "strapless was more important than friendship". The bride did smh.
Mina E.D exactly
Ikr she threatened her to wear a strapless dress
I liked the black dress on Shawanda! She looked beautiful!
She's the bride. She chooses her *_own_* wedding dress. End. Of. Story.
I’m not religious at all, but I believe you should respect people’s boundaries especially in relation to their bodies
Exactly. Your body, your rules.
Then she aint gotta be in the wedding. At the end of the day its the brides wedding. If she got an issue with showing she aint gotta be in it
I respect that but you don’t want to be the one to ruin your friends wedding because I don’t like a dress
Then she should have politely declined the invitation to be in her best friend's wedding. The bride has a right to choose the dresses she wants for her wedding.
Yes I do believe that however the dress is on for a few hours. She was willing to sacrifice her place in the wedding for a dress, that my friend is not religion that is attention seeking.
The producers clearly showed who they agreed with through the editing. Shawanda got dorky music and the bride got sad face close ups and touching music. Whyyyy?
Oh because they don't really respect the friends wishes unless the bride is being overly rude they always put the bride first ...
I get it's her day but the friend wasn't trying to steal the limelight of the friend she was just uncomfortable and they couldn't understand that
Ace Queen she shouldn't have accepted the role as briadsmaid in the first place, because she knew at the gecko that her friend wanted strapless.
Nick lense But it shows that she didn’t know the bride wanted strapless. She was surprised to find out at the appointment.
Also, they are “best friends”... the bride should have known how Shawanda would feel about it. No no no
I know. It was annoying
Because the bride is always right... on tlc at least 🤦🏽♀️
I love you Shawanda😂👏🏻💕 I love how she smiles while everyone about to cry Iconic 👍🏻🤣💕 my greetings from the Arabain gulf
i dont understand why the bride could've just bought shawanda a strapped dress while the other bridesmaids wear strapless dresses
You can see how uncomfortable she was when they removed the straps... I actually felt for her. Looked nicer with the straps anyway!!
Elizabeth Jones honestly I felt so bad for her when they did that!! I get having a vision for your wedding but you also have to respect your friends boundaries, this women had a good set of bridesmaids in comparison to other episodes for this show!
@@justinehamilton140 Absolutely!
I felt that
Because i was in a situation like that before ;-;
Straps look so good on her, and it suited the dress pretty well- The bride was extremely selfish and inconsiderate. They are straps, for God's sake!-
ikr i feel bad for her
She actually looked hurt to have to say that she'd rather be a host..she really loves her friend and wanted to be in the wedding but no one should have to violate their personal beliefs because of a DRESS A FREAKING DRESS
And time factor doesn’t make a good enough excuse to compromise.
@My Opinion people can believe what they want, she wasnt trying to forcer ger beleifs of modesty onto the other bridesmaids, but in turn they were trying to force her to wear something she was uncomfortable with and its not ok,
They have some strange Master-Sl. friendship.
Yeah agree. And then the girl in the short blonde hair was acting like shwanda was making it a big deal cause she that it could be a "power struggle" instead of religion. Im not a very religious person but I feel uncomfortable with strapless dresses two and I wouldn't want to go to a wedding if I cant enjoy myself there with everyone. She wasnt even being rude at all too.
And the bride had the audacity to say, "Fine! Go ahead, go take your clothes off." to her 'best friend' like an owner yelling at a dog.
Big respect for Shawanda, for her commitment to her believes and morals.
We should respect others believes
If the girl feels uncomfortable showing off her skin, allow her to cover with a delicate tule or something.
She was not rude about her request. Showing off cleavage and skin is a choice.
"If strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?"
Shawanda chose her BELIEFS over her friendship.
The bride chose STRAPLESS over her friendship.
I wanted to smack the bride across the face
But now the whole World already saw Shawanda's shoulders. Wth!!!
Caitlin Kloss yeah but it’s not her wedding yes I understand where you are coming from, but it’s only wearing one dress for a few hours.
Caitlin Kloss finna yeet her across the universe
@@LucidDreamer15 no one should be asked to set aside their religion... even for just a few hours. That's just plain ole disrespectful.
Totally agree. And I felt the same way about the others there judging her and criticizing her for not caving.
Man, she just looks so uncomfortable. You would be a horrible friend to make your supposed “best friend” that uncomfortable
And she is an horrible friend also for trying to change the bride style of dresses
@@yazminecaraballo8863 Are you religious, I'm just asking so to have a good spirited debate with you, on why you think she's just as horrible as the bride.
@@yazminecaraballo8863 the bride acting like two straps is gonna ruin her whole wedding...it really doesn't make that much of a difference. you wouldn't make a hijabi take off her hijab, and in the end the bridesmaid said she's just not going to be a bridesmaid if they keep breaching her boundaries and the bride's acting like she ruined everything.
I’m your 1.1k like
Exactly what i said
the friendship wasn't worth keeping. when you can't respect someone's boundaries and beliefs you can't be friends.
Shwanda Won here.
No she wasn't supposed to give in when you can't reciprocate the same feelings for her.
Love it! Her ultimatum backfired big time 😂
I respect Shwanda, a dress doesn’t define a friendship
The bride didn’t respect Shwanda’s beliefs
a dress doesn't define how religious you are either. she didn't ask her to wear a ""slutty"" dress, it was a strapless revealing nothing g.
Lauryn - I get that this is about the bride but no one should ever be forced into wearing something they’re not comfortable with, wedding or not. The bride should respect other’s boundaries.
Ranya Taha hi
Yes
@@nabeeha3131 Well is the bridesmaid had problems with feeling comfortable then maybe not get dressed with THIN straps. Most kids have wear uniforms that are uncomfortable. Most people who go to crunch have to wear outfits that are uncomfortable. Most business and court offices have to wear uncomfortable suits. It's not about being comfortable have the time, it's about respect and being there for a best friend. If that bridesmaid had problems with strapless for about 5+ hours like this then she shouldn't have been made a bridesmaid.
"I just thought she'd give in"
ON HER RELIGIOUS BELIEFS?! For a tacky strapless dress?!
Righttttt
you can tell they have underlying issues besides religion
even a blind person can see there are more issues but sis don't agree to be a bridesmaid
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If you have a wedding what kind of bridesmaid dress would you choose for the ceremony
I'm on Shawanda's side on this. She's better off without the Bride as a best friend. The Bride should have accommodated her out of respect not just for her beliefs, but also for their friendship. This bride was wanting her friend to give up her values. A true friend would never ask that.
Agree 💯
I had my bridesmaid dresses made. I selected the color and fabric. They each chose their own style dress. Not one complaint and the pictures were great.🥰
I really hope Shawanda sees these comments and rests assured that she was not wrong in this situation. You weren't saying no just to be difficult. You had your very valid reservations. I'm an aspiring fashion designer and I know that some of my friends are more reserved than others, so I don't force them to wear certain garments that they're uncomfortable with. I just work around it. Now you know she wasn't your true friend, Shawanda
I agree
Shawanda needs to get along with the bride
My heart goes to Shawanda.
F#@! The bride.
I watched it....Shawanda actually gave in!!!
@@aliciamirelleemmanuel8965 huh?
The look on the best friends face when she had to take the straps down just so the bride could picture the dress strapless was unreal. She was EXTREMELY uncomfortable to say the least. This wasn't about a power struggle at ALL. The bride was being inconsiderate and showed a complete lack of respect and care for her "best friend". Pick a dress with straps and when you look back at the wedding pictures, you can say you picked friendship over the "perfect" brides maids dress. THAT shows more character. I HATED the ending with everyone consoling the bride. It was the best friend that needed consoling, NOT the bride.
Shawanda was too nice to her, if it was me, she would have problems sitting
You could tell she was uncomfortable before the straps went down but she was willing to deal with it until the straps were gone.
I agree.
@@prettyrecklesdes exactly! She was already compromising and clearly uncomfortable with the dress even before the straps went down! The bride already knew how shawanda felt and just did not care.
With a "friend" like the bride, who needs enemies? If she were a true friend, she would have chosen 2 styles, so that ALL the bridesmaids were happy.
A true friend will always honor the convictions and principles of another friend, whether or not they agree. If you truly love someone, asking them to violate their conscience is flat out unacceptable.
I simply HAVE to say something -- when you have a number of bride's maids of many differing body shapes, it will be almost impossible to find one single dress type that will suit all of them. Seeing the three different women who tried on dresses -- it was obvious that most of them looked hideous in the dresses they modelled. My suggestion would have been to have one dress colour, one fabric choice, and then each bride's maid could have whatever type of dress she would like (within reason, of course). Why didn't these "so called" professional stylists make that suggestion. It seemed so obvious to me. That would have settled allllllll the possible bickering over who liked which dress. AND it would have saved a very important relationship between Tammy and Shawanda. Too bad that Tammy chose to ditch her BFF over a very minor issue (straps or no straps). I would say Tammy was definitely NOT a best friend. Shawanda is better off without her, but I am sure she is going to be grieving this painful reality. My heart goes out to her. I agree with Shawanda that modesty of dress is something which a religious person should observe, especially in church. She was very brave to have stuck to her beliefs, painful as it may have been. God Bless you Shawanda. He sees you and understands what you have given up to honour Him. So do we.
The girl looks like she was bout to cry when she was in that blue dress and they took the straps down
Sophia Mergine omg like the look on her face I just wanted to give her a hug and have a whole wedding in a bridesmaid dress she feels comfortable in
Yes it felt like she was going to have a breakdown
I thought that was so wrong! I actually got mad!
they didn't even ask for her permission first, like wtf
“I thought she would give in” I don’t like that attitude at all. It screams “I don’t care about your boundaries”
Lauren Fields exactly!
Good point!
Exactly!
It also screams I will get what I want no matter what. Feelings and boundaries? I don't know her
I get the bride has a look she is going for, that's fine. HOWEVER REAL friends only come by, once in a lifetime. If that is your REAL friend, the Bride should respect her friend's boundaries. She could've put Shawanda in a dress w/Straps so she is comfortable and then put the other bridesmaids in Strappless dresses. Or put all the bridesmaids in different dresses but all connect w/ the Brides theme/Vision, that are comfortable for the other b-maids wishes, if possible, then that way all the b-maids are in dresses they like that are still w the brides vision. Come on now its not hard!!
She Knows her best friend is Conservative, she could have respected her wishes. I think she did that on purpose to get her out of the bridal party, Not cool. Good job Shawanda for sticking to your beliefs. What's crazy at the end, then that heffa has the nerve to cry about it Girrrrrrl Bye!!!!!!! stop it!!!!!!👋
I COMPLETELY respect the friend for saying this isn't me. She intimately said "I will support you as your friend while being a guest to ensure your vision for your bridal party is fullfilled." If you know your friend is very conservative why would you EVER demand they compromise their convictions?
Shawanda’s first dress was the best one! Tasteless bride and no respect for her “best friend’s”boundaries. She was willing to step down and be a hostess, and they were still being awful towards her.
bride: if strapless is more important than friendship than what is it worth
me: umm you should take your own advice honeyyy
I am s
Lmfao, freaking hilarious
Why should she have to wear something she doesn’t want on her wedding day it’s her big day not hers if it was the friends wedding she would have to cover up
I personally think it was kind of rude for the bridesmaid to want the bride to change her whole wedding just so that she can be happy when is the bride‘s day but I also see where she’s coming from I feel like they could’ve made a compromise where she had a dress that was strapless but she had a piece of fabric that could cover it and still match the dress but I still think that the bridesmaid should have made the attempt to at least be a little bit more considerate to what the bride wanted on her wedding day
@@mazanicruz6417 uhm, so give up her own morals and values to make a person happy for one day? lmfao
“If strapless is more important than friendship then what is it worth?”
Have you tried asking yourself that question, love?
True, very true.
It’s her wedding though.
DAONUT guitar it doesn’t mean you can treat people like shit tho. In the grand scheme of things the wedding is going to last a day and looking back on your photos you won’t care what anyone else is wearing as long as they are presentable and not in a white dress.
On the other hand I’m one of these people that couldn’t give a damn about weddings and think they’re a huge waste of money so I’m obviously not gonna care about bridesmaid dresses
@@nataliejaynexxx I totally agree
I was wondering the same
"if strapless is more important than friendship, then what is it worth?" Literally I could easily turn that around "Is your best friend comfort worth a strapless dress?" Apparently for this bride its dresses over friendship.
Her friend should respect her belief and make an exception for her best friend without insulting her as well. Shes not considered a best friend but a fiend
"Shawanda is religious and she's taking it very seriously "
What is religion to you A JOKE???
Eros Love I agree with you! It seems like it is exactly that in the brides eyes, a joke. Bride wanted to bully her best friend into wearing a dress she knew the friend would absolutely hate. Her friends feelings didn’t matter in her eyes. She thinks her friend was being ridiculous with her beliefs of covering chest and knees and having straps. This is terrible that a ‘dress’ (actually religious beliefs) broke up a friendship. The bride willingly put it on the line when she could’ve avoided it if she actually cared. The best friend was uncomfortable in the dress even with the straps but was willing to wear it for the bride at her wedding. She was being a true friend. Bride isn’t a good friend.
She a person who’s like: I respect your religion! ❤️
Friend: cool ima Christian❤️
Her: ew you’re so oppressive and God is dead
At the end of the day it’s her wedding. She could put something over the dress but she didn’t even think to say that.
I know a lot of laid back religious people ..it's not that hard to comprehend
Eros Love chill my dude
“I just thought she’d give in”. How damn disrespectful! She’s not going to give in when she’s told you it’s her religious beliefs! I think shawanda got a lucky escape from that selfish woman!
I just want to know what kind of brain problems the groom have to ask this disgrace for a woman to marry him
I personally think it was kind of rude for the bridesmaid to want the bride to change her whole wedding just so that she can be happy when is the bride‘s day but I also see where she’s coming from I feel like they could’ve made a compromise where she had a dress that was strapless but she had a piece of fabric that could cover it and still match the dress but I still think that the bridesmaid should have made the attempt to at least be a little bit more considerate to what the bride wanted on her wedding day
@@mazanicruz6417 a simple strapped dress that is a bit different than other brides made dress is not going to affect the whole wedding and they have been bestfriend for so long and the bide cant even consider that her friend is very religious, she needs to respect that she wants to cover up her body.
@@mazanicruz6417 the bridesmaid wont be able to chose between the brides happiness and her religion. I am afraid that you cant really see the whole picture here
@@leajinlinszhy8517 I can see the whole picture here. I understand where both sides come from but I do think that there was a compromise that didn’t require her choosing one or the other
Shawanda is correct. Her boundaries are her boundaries. The bride should respect that. If the bride says Shawanda is her best friend why would she treat her this way?
This bride’s behavior was shockingly disrespectful toward someone who was supposed to be her “best friend”. I also dress modestly due religious beliefs, and I can’t imagine having any actual friends who would tell me, “oh I know this goes against your beliefs, your values, and makes you incredibly uncomfortable, but I just don’t care.” That’s not a friend worth having! When I got married I had my bridesmaids pick out their own dresses; they all just had to be in the same color and length, and everyone was really confident and happy with their dress and they looked great!
"Shes my bestfriend and she cant wear a dress for a few hours"
Thats like telling a muslim lady to take off her head scarf for a few hours or try bacon just once.
Those two are NOT similar comparisons. One is more so a personal preference and the second is FORBIDDEN IN THE RELIGION.
@@rinyaskyline I 100% agree with you. There is a huge difference between showing your shoulders because you believe you should be modest to being harshly punished for showing a little too much skin than you should.
The bride did have a right to be picky and I see a flaw with the bridesmaid. The straps she agreed with, but they Barely covered much of her. As soon as the straps came down, she had a problem. Was I the only one who noticed that small difference? I know saying this is going to have people attack me, but people really are over religious. And yes, I am religious myself.
@@rinyaskyline some Muslim ladies do not wear a headscarf, whilst the others feel uncomfortable without one. It is not the best comparison, but it still works ❤️
You are wrong
@@mumzy897, I would be interested on what you see wrong. I feel like your comment is a little vague and would genuinely be interested in your opinion. I do not wish to argue, I just enjoy listening to others opinions. Much appreciated! 😊
how did they twist it to be the fault of the friend who stood up for her convictions? The bride did it only for the aesthetics so if anyone "ended the friendship for the strapless", it was her.
But Shawanda was being difficult by complaining about the color and making rude faces from the very beginning. She seemed to have a lot of "opinions" and complaints about everything. I think there was more under the surface going on than just "religious beliefs."
@@GameChanger597 what complaint did she make besides color and her religious beliefs. Even if she made faces she didn’t say anything because she understood it was her friends wedding. The bride acknowledged that she was incredibly religious and still refused to accept that. I would have said a lot more.
@@GameChanger597 I see you've been replying to comments with the same argument.. I think Shawanda made the right decision, She knew where to hit the brakes when she knew when to hit the brakes.
Yeah it was all edited to make her seem in the wrong.
@@GameChanger597 i have to disagree she truly wasn't comfortable in a strapless dress and i don't see why they couldn't accommodate straps for her and have everyone else have strapless.
For people that still don’t understand, how would you feel if somebody told you to take off your hijab for a few hours just for their wedding?
Not really the same. There's nothing in the bible that says you have to cover your neck and shoulders. And if she's fine with that dress with the straps, it's still showing the same amount of skin without. That being said, she should be comfortable in her clothes and the bride shouldn't make her wear something she doesn't want. The thing with the straps vs the non straps is the support. she doesn't feel supported by the strapless dress, and you can see it. Because again, she was fine until they took the strap down. which that skinny strap isn't covering shit. so it's not about modesty but support.
The bride is use to getting her own way, and when she said either wear it or be a host. She showed just how much she didn't care about her feelings.
It’s not that the bridesmaid is being petty or stubborn, the dress goes against her religious beliefs and makes her feel horrible. I feel bad for Shawanda.
I feel bad for her too
The bride knew how religious the friend was and she knew that the friend wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing that...
Some women feel uncomfortable with showing cleavage.
It’s her wedding though
Jadin Hackett
the fact that it’s her weeding doesn’t mean it’s okay for her to step over her best friend boundaries and forcibly make her were something she’s obviously uncomfortable with
What kind of best friend are you if you’re totally okay with your best friend being totally uncomfortable trough your whole weeding just because of a dress
I think it’s sad for the bridesmaid
I see that the bride wants strapless and everyone should respect that, but when someone is clearly uncomfortable in a dress because of their religious beliefs, it is not fair to them out there. Idk just my 2 cents:)
I totally agree
exactly!! it wasn’t just to be difficult, nor a matter of difference of opinion, but religion is really not something to be messed with. especially with her being the maid of honor, it really wouldn’t look out of place at *all* for her to wear a dress that’s a little bit different
You read my mind and said it better than I could’ve
@@katelynsousa6591 yeah even if it’s not particularly religious but they’re just very uncomfortable about it I think it’s wrong to back her into a corner like that
Idk it just bothers me for one reason and one reason only. Doesn’t Shawanda have to sign off for the release of the episode? If she was uncomfortable, why did she sign off? Why was she okay with being on national television in a strapless dress, but not okay going to support her friend at her wedding?
You agreed to be a bridesmaid, so you have to do what the bride wants. She could have ask for a light covering
Lost a friendship for the same reason. No one should be made to feel uncomfortable, in the name of friendship.
Real talk, though: the dress looked better with the straps on.
Geenah Acevedo the ruffle one???
@@emmettolson3499 The blue one (I assume) that the best friend was wearing at the end. It absolutely did look so much better with the straps.
@@emmettolson3499 no the blue one, it looked much better
Factssssssss
@@kekekong9 Yep. Removing the straps made it look tacky, cheap and uncomfortable. The straps gave it a classy, classic look. The poor woman wearing it stood tall when the straps were up, but became stooped and defensive when they were removed. I'll never understand a bride who would prefer to make a friend uncomfortable or, as in this instance, lose the friend completely.
The Bride acting like she’s the victim when she chose to lose her friend because she didn’t want to wear a strapless dress because she was uncomfortable with it and it Wasn’t modest
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Is the BRIDES day!! Not her wedding so she needs to wear what the bride wants or if u dont want to then get out of the group..
@@grlgvvng wow, you cared so much about my comment you felt the need to respond 🥺 I'm honoured
@@yazminecaraballo8863 1. She didn’t feel comfortable
2. It’s part of her religion
she’s obviously very religious and didn’t feel comfortable wearing the dress without straps I understand it’s her wedding but at least be considerate of others feelings .
@@yazminecaraballo8863 if i were her i would also be a host I would NEVER choose a friend over my religion if anything the bride was being disrespectful for not respecting her culture and what she believes in the bride is a fake friend.
Being a best friend means being able to respect the other’s boundaries and not forcefully push them over their limits.
"I just thought she would give in." No you thought you could force her.