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- The 7 videos titled “Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing” are a series of self-reflections and insights about vulnerability, transparency, my work with clients, and sharing my Personal Healing Process.
The videos cover a range of contemplations, specifically around my relationship to making and sharing videos on TH-cam, my work as an Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist, and how trauma reenactment shows up in the most sophisticated of ways in my life.
Perhaps, my approach and organization of sharing these ideas gravitate more towards some kind of manifesto, a declaration announcing where I’ve been and where I’m going.
I was mindful of you, the audience, when filming. Specifically, I held the intention that my personal stories and life experiences might serve as encouragement to understand your own.
Maybe through the normalization of talking more about how Attachment Trauma impacts our lives in many ways, over the course of many years, we might begin to see our collective options for change and healing.
Also, I realize there is a risk with the level of vulnerability I offer here. However, the alternative of solidifying around a guarded privacy only serves to reinforce the limitations of persona-management, which would more uphold a choice to align with disconnect and not relationship.
And if any of my previous videos hold water, then they attest to the fact that I value relationships and emotional connection. As I have said for years, “Emotional Connections Matter!”
I took certain inspiration from a specific TH-cam Channel called “Yes Theory” to challenge myself regarding degrees of exposure and revealing myself here.
The “Yes Theory” videos, while sometimes initially presented as a fun and silly premise, mostly deliver a heartfelt intention grounded in the power of connecting with strangers and celebrating our humanity.
Additionally, I also considered how I might present if I were to give a Ted Talk, albeit my version comes with permission to go beyond the standard twenty minutes and sans a stage.
It’s a very bizarre world indeed to be so personal while talking to a video camera alone in a room with the awareness that we (the viewer and I) don’t know each other. It is bizarre to give others access to the most fragile parts of my heart and strongest resources for my healing work.
Please watch with respect.
The end of this video includes me asking for help around the evolution of my work. I ask for help with collaborations, spreading the message of better relating, and engaging a larger in-person audience through lectures and workshops. As we all know, no one can do it alone. I cannot do it alone. I need to learn how to ask for more help, find it, and even more importantly, practice letting it in.
If you are just learning of me and my work, thank you for your interest and curiosity. If you are one of the longtime supporters who have followed me for years, I feel heartfelt gratitude.
Thank you everyone.
Alan Robarge, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist
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Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing
I’m listening, deeply. Thank you for sharing such a tender part of yourself.
Your brain-
Your heart- as if I could know these things….
Are beautiful.
That you keep showing up in the world, fills me with the faith of existence. Show up big and small, as you would. As wisdom tells you.
The light in me, sees the light in you. I’m grateful.
Dr Robarge, what a Herculean task you have undertaken. Although there was the siren call of future monetization, there is more to it than that. You plumb the depths of self, explore the brilliance of your mind, harness your humbleness and give. Your content is unique in being informed by the contemplative undergirding western concepts. Your content is complex and multilayered and one has to listen and reflect deeply. I only recently become aware of your channel and have been helped tremendously as have so many others. I have been in therapy for sometime and your content grounds me. Thank you. I hope to be a member of your community.
This is Jennifer Sinclair. I became a permanent member of his private membership group after these 7 videos!!!! Alan, your videos are AMAZING. You made tons of videos!!! Take a break, Alan!!!! It will take me months/years to watch all your videos. Give yourself a break! I am now a paid member of yours for decades! Please don't delete your videos!!! You are the greatest!!!!!!!
I love how nuanced your presentations are...not black and white. The light you've shown relationships has greatly helped me understand myself.
When you add in your poetic understanding of things it shows that you're an artist of life!!
Thanks for the compliments and thanks for valuing my efforts.. Glad this is of benefit.
"Will you be the face of God?" What a moving, magnificent custom! If you could point in the direction of the referenced book, maybe with a link to your original video citing it or whatever is most convenient for you, that would be great. Thank you so much for all the insightful, healing videos that you create and share.
I agree!
I think it's from inner gold by Robert johnson :)
Hi Alan, your identity, your creation, is not defined by your work or your accomplishment or titles! I know you know that, or I hope you feel that deeply. And, feel free to visit me in Annapolis... I have a guest room you can stay in!! Best to you in EVERYTHING.
I have gained so much insight and growth from your videos. Your authenticity and intelligence stirs my soul each and every video I have watched. Thank you for all you do and all you are. 💜
I felt similar writing on Quora. You write your heart out and give an excellent answer but people are asking the same or similar questions again and again. Quora perpetuates by burying your questions and my answers under layers and layers. For me, I'm not writing for my own ego, I'm writing explain relationship patterns, specifically through my own lens and experience. I did this freely, voluntarily, and asking for nothing. And I am happy to share HOWEVER, I felt like Sisyphus. I don't need that. I don't need to feel like a monkey writing Shakespeare for someone else's website while on a treadmill and chasing a banana as rewardfor my ego. Some people do, I guess. I can certainly relate to your experience with content.
Spare room for you here in London 😊❤️
Massachusetts too, Alan!
That was so beautiful..
I wish I some day can trust so much that I can surrender and let go
like a leaf on a river
Thank you for the kind words. Glad this sparked reflection.
You're so articulate, and its really helpful. Thankyou ❤
I appreciate the kind comments. I hear you about the invisible category. It's so important to keep talking about this history.
This is a conversation in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. You're invited to join us. www.alanrobarge.com/community
I have never felt more seen and understood than I have watching your videos. You provide language and context to these emotions and behaviors that really help me better understand myself. Thank you
I appreciate the comment. Thank you for sharing that my work speaks to you. And thank you for valuing my effort.
If you connect with the videos then you're also invited to join us in our conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. www.alanrobarge.com/community
Alan this content is invaluable! I’m so happy to have found you - it’s honest, direct, insightful and often funny. Also not speaking from a script is what helps me relate to you and the integrity and passion of your intent. Thanks for doing this!
I appreciate the kind words. Thank you for valuing my efforts. Glad the videos connect for you.
Also, if you like these videos then you may like taking part in the conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. Similar topics come up in the Community. I welcome you joining us: www.alanrobarge.com/community
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I discover your channel after a breakup that just turn my world upside down. Alan, as a gay person who lives in middle eastern country I never ever seen someone who can understand me that clearly, more than myself! even without knowing me, its just beautiful. Like your soul and mind is connected with mine. Your work is amazing. I am 32 years old and I cried while watching one of your video ‘growing up as a gay person’ it was like seeing my young and scared self again, that poor boy have to hide and act all the time... I am trying to heal of my fresh breakup wound and I wish I discovered your channel just before I met my last partner. My partner still struggles with his identity and just prefer to stay single over his happiness..
Thanks for your understanding, you have seen us and validates us that we are not broken and not alone. I want to hug you ♥️🌸
Thank you for all the insight
you're welcome
Thank you, and your channel is a true blessing.
I appreciate the kind words. Glad my work brings you benefit.
If you haven't already heard about it, you may also like taking part in the conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. You're invited to join us: www.alanrobarge.com/community
I love you. I have this major anxiety which never seems to leave. I have a preoccupied anxious attachment which also switches to fearful avoidant. Your videos have been helping me❤️
You know, Alan. I wanted to share this with you. You're not as good as the posts you did yesterday. Something can be rewarding, even if you're doing it for free. Let me tell you. I forgot about you and your channel for a while. Years ago I was shattered emotionally and I turned to your channel. It helped me listening to you speak. Now, today, even though I'm in a different place, I just thought, let me see what Alan is up to and I started watching this video series again. So you're not as good as the post you made yesterday. Thanks
Totally relate to your story of your therapist encouraging you to surrender. Brought me to necessary tears. Much love. ❤️
I always enjoy watching your videos
Thank you.
This is so beautiful. I am learning a lot.
Thanks. Glad this is helpful.
I found your channel this week while experiencing a break up as my partner of 3 years is emotionnaly shut and I made the decision to leave him. I never came across anything like you and how you explain the dynamics and patterns. I immediately listened to 3 and 4 and 5 more of your videos and subscribed. You are an experienced professional and I thank you so very much for doing these videos. You are explaining exactly what I knew and revealed a lot which made me think that my decision however difficult was the right one I feel supported while I listen to you. For all the dimwits who can't see your true value they can just go on watching other channels. Thank you so very much for your help/time and energy in making these videos.
Empathy to you. Wishing you self-gentleness. Thank you for valuing my effort. It has taken me years of study and healing process. Glad it brings you benefit.
If the videos are helpful then you may also like taking part in the conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. It can be helpful learning with others who are also learning. You're invited: www.alanrobarge.com/community
Just discovered this insightful brilliant man's words ....love his honesty in all that he's sharing ....more power to your honest strong authentic message
You videos really help me understand myself
Thanks for the feedback. Glad my work brings benefit.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience.
Thank you, thank you, thank you, Alan.
You are very welcome. Glad you like this one.
If you like this content then you may also like getting in on the conversations on similar topics in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. You're welcome to join us. www.alanrobarge.com/community
I always have and continue to appreciate your content, Alan. I find I benefit from listening multiple times to process the different layers to what you are saying. Thank you for continuing to have the channel and to keep the videos up. That have and continue to be helpful to me and others.
Great to hear that. I appreciate the kind words. Thank you for valuing my work and efforts. Glad it is of benefit for you.
Since this content is helpful, if you haven't already heard about it, I want to share about the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. You may be interested in chiming in on the conversations. I welcome you joining us. www.alanrobarge.com/community
Thank you so much ! You have helped me so much ! I really , really appreciate your work ! As my grandma said « keep on keeping on ! »
Thank you for the appreciation and thanks for valuing my work. Glad you find it of benefit. Also thanks for the encouragement.
I enjoy listening. Thank you for sharing 🙂
Thanks for the feedback. You're welcome.
0:35 lol alan 😆
I’ve gotten so much healing, understanding, direction and clarity from your videos that I’m not not going to comment.
I appreciate you Alan. From the deepest depths of my heart, I thank you. Huge gratitude for your sacrifice of time, energy and sharing your truth with us here. This is a hard video for you to do and share and I hear you. I get you. I think you’re even more incredible now. 🤍💕
Thank you for the kind words and for seeing my efforts. Glad this content is beneficial. Thanks for valuing my work.
I also want to share, since you like the videos, you may also like chiming in on the conversations around similar topics in the Improve Your Relationships Community Program. It includes talking about all types of relationships not just partner relationships. I welcome you joining us. www.alanrobarge.com/community