He’s honestly speaking FACTS!! I’ve always thought this. The majority of men are not attractive and women will ALWAYS be the “sexier sex”! This is what I find so disturbing today. Even the ugliest of men are getting 🐱 and running games on women. And the women are giving away the 🐱 to just any man.😩 It’s got everything upside down.
@@BetterLoveMovement you right. Very right actually. Very few men can walk in a room and women say “oohhh girl he’s fine look at his gorgeous face and or body “. There’s pretty women all over but only a handful of truly Handsome well built men and that’s just looks I don’t mean personality income circumstances included. Women since they are little are enforced about their looks hair upkeep etc boys are taught brush teeth brush hair that’s about it. I think biology made just a handful of men gorgeous enough to get sex easily and frequently without much hassle so most men 95% have to work hard for sex. Men were designed to work harder stronger bigger so Mother Nature saw no need to make most men gorgeous but more so to work hard and provide and most men are motivated by success but also to attract women with their resources $$$. Women are generally more good looking as you say just by biology. Women are smaller weaker physically fertility is shorter so Mother Nature gave women beauty in excess to make up for women lack of strength and fertility. Women are born with breasts and booty since teens and no gym time is required vs men have to go to gym for years and eat good just to get decent results. And if he’s undisciplined the muscles can go away pretty quickly. Men are fertile till 70 years old easily no medication needed vs women are fertile till 47. Biology really made us opposites in a lot of ways but we need each other to further our blood line. We each have strengths and weaknesses and we were designed as men and women to complement each other. And if you don’t work it out with someone they will die alone no legacy aged out of the dating market men can date longer than women due to fertility is longer but most 65 year old men will not be able to get 42 year old women some will but most won’t. Women have it harder for long term relationships due to limited fertility. A man can have a traditional family at 50 vs women she won’t be having any kids of her own.
I don't understand why some of these men who are extremely homely and have a boring or weird personality and are broke think that they deserve to have beautiful super models throwing themselves at them when they will sit there and tell you that they hate single mother's and hate older women and hate overweight women and unattractive women. These men wouldn't be single if they lower standards in women but even if they got a good homely woman they would ruin her.
I love how Tony’s face genuinely lights up when he interacts with his wife and kids. It’s so genuine. You can tell he not only loves his wife, but likes her too. Healthy black love. God fearing. Prosperous. God Bless y’all ❤
@@fah232alot of these guys don't appreciate it they complain and alot of time it's just for control nothing to really complain about....can't even just be happy smh! Maybe when they see more men like Tony they will understand!
Remember that Tony Gaston ....every man is different... gas is expensive to use to drive for drive.... Don't Make easy access to you... cheap date easy sex.....
‘Everybody is looking for perfection’, ‘Everyone wants something they are not’ are the truest words and completely sums up the dating culture in today 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Tony hit the nail on the head like wow!
I am thankful God led me to your channel. I have been watching your videos for a few years. I am 41 and met my husband at 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your videos are uplifting, encouraging, and I have learned so much
To me two main things thing have changed. The number of women aware of the games men play, and consequently the number of women moving reactively to these games, whether by fighting fire w/ fire, or writing off men for good.
People are having first dates too soon. It's dangerous to say that men who want to go on coffee dates are generally "safer" when it comes to character. We need to get to know people longer so we can properly discern their intentions whether you're going on a steak date or a coffee date.
If a man can’t afford a date, it’s not my responsibility to worry about his finances he shouldn’t be dating multiple women because it doesn’t take all day to recognize sunshine.
I dated a man that wore glasses, was not my type, was even what a lot of people would call fat, and found out the man was on Instagram liking half naked women photos, was texting his ex, hearting his ex photos on FB, never discussed a future with me, and was very secretive with his phone. The man even went on social media and turned off his active status so that he could be able to lie to me by telling me he hadn’t been on social media or doesn’t be on there much. I broke up with the man for lying and all he said when I asked him never to call me again was, “ok”. I dated that guy for 18 mos and now I am mad at myself for getting played by a guy that initially wasn’t my type. The guys that aren’t that attractive physically are the worst ones.
Seriously!!! My ex wasn’t my type at all!!! The little he did for me; he constantly threw it in my face. He lied to me directly in my face a few times and them gaslit me when I got upset… he tried to tear down my self esteem and when he couldn’t break me he then blindsided me and tried to get me kicked out lmaooo.. as woman we cannot win!!!
This sounds like my story, I dated a cornball, thinking he was "nice" and I was being too picky. Almost 2yrs later, dude turned out to be a huge liar, and an addict of many things. He was so disrespectful when I called him out on his nonsense towards the end. The whole time I'm thinking, is he serious?? He don't even look THAT good to be that rude! I would show ppl his picture and they'd tell me, "that dude is pushing his luck" lol. So, moral of the story, stay picky and get you someone who is your "type"
@@TheRealStoryOfMyLife1 we can win. I know I go about saying all wrong. I be in fornication. I won’t sleep with anyone but that one man, and I will make him and myself get tested for HIV, Herpes, and all other sexually transmitted diseases before we sleep together. We share our results. I am super safe with my health because I am a nurse, but it’s still sin. When we know better, God expects us to do better.
Yup, I went for the ones that were not my preference because it was suggested. Big Mistake! They act way worse when given a chance. Do not date the geek if you are not feeling him
I agree!! But them femininity coaches are gonna have a fit when they see this. They have been telling women for the last 2-3 years to say “no” to coffee dates! We talk about the red pill men but the “feminine” coaches are the other side of this coin. Great message as always 🙌🏾!
@@jessicascreenwritingservices yes! They are red pill with a silk press! 😩😂 I have listened to most of them and 99% are working for the adversary even the ones who are claiming to be Christians.
Well I agree but I think it’s for a reason. Bc if you are aware of the red pill, some of their propaganda is telling men that treating women and paying for dates (or anything including giving compliments) is SIMPING. So just as tg mentioned the men who will fake trick just to get a woman in her back, *some * of these coffee date men are doing it bc they don’t believe in investing any money in women before sex (and by the 3rd date). So the gold digger level up girls were reacting to some of that (while also expecting men’s money with games and pretending but no intention of sleeping with or dating them either 🙄)
Thank you for saying it. It be the ugly ones with money and nice everything and they think their money and material possessions are enough and get upset bc you don't want them.
When I was dating my wonderful wife; I never bought anything for her or took her out to eat. We just went out to the park to talk in the evening and that was it. She never asked for anything. We have been married for 20 years and she doesn’t go to work but she takes care of our home and the kids and she can buy whatever she wants. But she takes care of our money like it’s going to run out tomorrow. I’m the luckiest man on earth.
My recent ex fiancé was six foot and made 6 figures. He recently discarded me for his side in an extremely cruel and insensitive manner. Though I am heartbroken I know it’s a blessing in disguise. I’ll leave justice in Gods hands. Won’t let him or any man break me down…I’ll fall, but I’ll get back up with Gods hand. Have taken a vow of abstinence and obtain Tony’s knowledge.
If you show too much interest in someone it’s a turnoff!!! This has always been strange to me, people play too many games and are worried about what society thinks!! If you like someone you want to spend time with them!! This goes for men and women!! Getting to know someone is always awkward in the beginning…. Delusional is right!! People have unrealistic expectations and are looking for perfection and they are perfect themselves!!
I am thankful God Led me to your channel a few years ago. I am 41 and have been with my husband since I was 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your channel is very encouraging, inspirational and have opened my eyes up to spiritual growth.
Girl there are at least a million men similar to Toni in this world, the difference is, is one has a platform and over half of the others don’t. Toni seems to be a good man and please believe there are many good men out there.
Wonderful message. As I progress in my 30s, I've learned to concentrate more on my relationship with Christ, and invest more into my life. Singleness is not fatality lol. Just have too occupy until God, says 👌🏿.
“You an atheist, you dumb. Just point blank period.” Truer words never spoken 🙌👏 Bless you Tony for being so candid in such a fake & politically correct world we are in at the moment.
I don’t even try to understand it because I have prayed to God to get me out of some horrible situations and he did and I have prayed for specific blessings in my life and he did it. I can’t believe people don’t believe in God.
It’s unfortunately true when Tony Gaskin says men are “ugly”, but what I find from visiting dating sites is that they don’t put much on their physical appearance, I mean nice haircut, little smile, presentable clothes, and their selfies are so…. “scary”. I don’t find them attractive. I don’t want to generalize there are exceptions. I personally try to not be picky and don’t mind the height as long as I like what I see, and I would be more then happy to go on a date on a simple coffee to have a quality conversation. Thank you for this video.
The whole coffee date is a hit or miss, I’ve seen men give advice about taking the girl that looks easy to sleep with on a coffee date & the girl who they want to take serious on a dinner date, sometimes those coffee dates aren’t with good intentions
I love how Tony lights up around his wife. Everyone deserves a love like that in their lifetime. Faith, love, discipline, consideration, and compassion seems to be key 😄🙏🏾
Toni treated his wife as a queen on first date but telling men to take women for coffee. African Americans are not it. Leave these men alone there are Africans. White men that will treat you well
I am so thankful for you brother Tony.. I respect your honesty and authentic approach on dating, marriage and life in general. You have been a positive light in so many lives, and that light is spreading. Godbless you and your family!
Thank you for sharing this. I'll be married 10 years next year and we're in a rocky spot. My husband has recently expressed blame to me for the current difficulties in his life- finances, health and fair business. Some things I agree with others I do not. But he needs to hear this about taking responsibility so he can work his way out of his funk.
Who is real and who is fake keeps me from men. I’ve had my share of problems and want to live the rest of my life at peace. You are doing a great job Mr. Tony. At my age I’m good single. Thank you for you work.🙏🏾
"No one has it all. And if someone has it all, they don't want you". Pause and stare into camera for effect 😂😂😂 That was funny Tony. I know, I know... you not joking, butttt 😂
You have to move and carry yourself as ugly 😂😂😂 Tony please lol. But that's definitely the delusion. The guy I'm interested in is probably under 5'7 so he definitely needs to humble himself. Height doesn't bother me, but I have a feeling he thinks he's all that lol. Sir you're 5'7... calm down
So he can’t think he’s all that because he’s 5’7 lmao y’all sound ridiculous. Most aren’t athletes so his height doesn’t matter. If he’s attractive and in shape, he’s doing better than 90% of men.
@@kingleyo9277he definitely can think he's all that but he still has to understand how the world sees a 5'7 man. Just like I have to understand how the world sees a plus size woman like myself. I've never heard any woman say she prefers a man of that height.. most want someone at least 6 ft (even tony said it in the video) lol. Now will women accept a shorter man? Of course but on average... a 5'7 man is gonna get looked over every time regardless of whether he is in shape or not. & to my original point.. height isn't that big of a deal to me like I stated lol but everyone has to remain humble. We are all ugly to someone regardless of if we are small, big, short, tall, fit or unfit.
Guess what love lol I have beat out plenty of tall guys lol no matter the internet narrative YALL keeping wanting to believe lol you also have to throw in the fact society has been brainwashed to believe these things especially women because they spend way more time on the internet and watching television. Most women are literally only repeating what they hear some other women say and what they see on tv. My opinion and my experience has been totally different, women want a good looking man first and foremost . A tall and ugly and ok like guy has never beat my out of anything with women. If he’s attractive and tall maybe but he also may not meet your standard in the bedroom, it all depends. A tall attractive guy who has swag, confident, has a personality and all those other things are super rare. So yea maybe that guy is requested more when women are asked that question but women are literally thinking of the perfect guy when asked that question lol again I have had beautiful tall and short women from all kinds of different races. Trust me women make exceptions for very handsome men no matter their height, who are in shape and especially when the sex is good.
I usually agree with Tony and love his messages but na, at 10:30 I had to stop it and type. I can’t agree with this one. He literally said to women, “you need a lame, you need a square, you need someone who doesn’t give you that spark” well that simply is telling women to settle and NOT go after someone they are attracted too. I absolutely DO NOT agree. When people end up dating someone that isn’t their type, it can be a recipe for disaster in so many ways. There is a slight chance that it can go successful and they may “grow” to love them, but there is 8 Billion people on this planet. Just because dating gets tough, I will never approve for someone settling. What we need to tell women (and men) is to go after what they are attracted too but make sure that person is ALSO mentally healed, financially stable, respectful, loving, GOD fearing, etc! So in all They have attributes outsides of their looks!!! Also, we need to tell people the same thing they want in a person make sure they bring it to the table themselves! That way everyone wins 🤷🏽♂️ just my opinion.. but settling for someone lame and boring, NO!!!!
Good morning I been following you for a while I appreciate your videos This one right here hit me I’m going through this right now! I been single for last 4 years I was picky at first but I learned my lesson now what comes into my path is not good! They only be talking about sex or trying to be in control! I don’t give no vibes when I meet this gentleman! I basically just stay to myself
I enjoyed the bread there and I love the chicken fettuccine but it’s so funny cause once I was dating this NBA player and I wanted to go there for dinner and he was like no I don’t eat at chains restaurants lol
You’re one of the WISEST MEN ON PLANET EARTH…knowing you is a DIVINE BLESSING; you’re 💯 CONSISTENT…PRAISE GOD FOR ANSWERING YOUR CALLING…much love and blessings to your Sons ❤❤
55:07 I used to believe that women who were beautiful with perfect bodies were treated better by men. When I saw Saweetie and Quavo tussling in the elevator, God gave me a revelation that it doesn’t matter if you are a beautiful woman, men will still cheat and mistreat you. I see now looks does not give you a preferential treatment pass with men. It’s about respecting yourself and requiring respect.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂MR. TONY YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ARE OVER THE TOP !!!! I CANT WITCHU !!! THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS.PALATABLE. "DONT LET MY CONFIDENCE OFFEND YOUR INSECURITY " WOW !!! 😮
I am so impressed, and Godly proud of you Mr. Gaskins! The wisdom God has placed upon you is unmatched! Makes me wanna get back into that secret place with the Lord! God bless you ‼️
I agree I’m not big on a man spending a certain amount of money on me on the first date. Firstly we might not click so he’s not out of a lot of money. Secondly like Tony mentioned he’s taking multiple women on dates. And lastly I’m not forced to sit through a dinner or whatever he had planned out if I’m not feeling him. I’m able to leave quickly and go on my merry way
I am with you. I was in a long relationship and have not dated in a while. Back in the day, I dated casual and met for small meals. It worked for me because it was some that I did not connect with.
This a real gem dropper right here. If we don’t tuck this intel in our back pockets. Geez TG served game on this one!!!!! Happy Thanksgiving everyone……
I just want to say thank you for allowing God to use you in the area of relationship between men & women. As a saved woman, they enemy tired to make me think something wrong with me because I refuse to accept foolishness. It amazes me that there’s fully grown men out here still playing little boys games especially at the age 47yrs old. I thank God for the leading of His Spirit and whole enough to see when someone is broken that’s not good for me
I am over age of 50 and want to date BUT terrified for many reasons. Online dating seems scary and just talking to strangers...... scary too.Yes you are right on so many levels
8:04 There's a lot between blowing $100 each date vs. $7 coffee... Where's the balance🤷🏾♀️... He doesn't have to spend excessively nor be cheap. How people start usually gets worse over time as they get more comfortable, and what happened to creativity. When I was single, I preferred thoughtful dates rather than the typical doing what everyone else was doing. Also, if he's dating so many women that dates are adding up getting expensive, so he wants to just take everyone to get coffee, then he's dating too many women and needs to narrow it down to his top 2 to decide from. Prioritize and balance, b/c while most women don't care where they go or if they take them anywhere, there are women who have a higher standard who have more options and don't limit themselves to just any one group of men, so they may see that as little to no effort in pursuing them. There's nothing wrong with anyone's standards or lack of standards in general- it just depends what's right for each individual to accept what works for them and reject what doesn't. People have to be honest so they'll stop wasting each other's time being mismatched...Let coffee people go on dates and Meringue lesson people, dinner and movie people, hiking people, etc go on the types of dates they enjoy, but don't shame any of them for what it is they want for their standards
I don’t think Tony understands how unintentionally funny he is at times.😂
"Men is naturally ugly." @ 12:32
He is a whole comedian. There are times I would be hollering and need to pause the video because he says some things so casually.🤣🤣🤣🤣
Right!!! I’m still ROTFL over ‘Men is naturally ugly’ he’s saying out loud what we all thinking though
“If you got veganism…. Not veganism, vitiligo.” 😭😭😭😭😭
true 🤣🤣
I screamed when you said that men are naturally ugly 😂😂
He’s honestly speaking FACTS!! I’ve always thought this. The majority of men are not attractive and women will ALWAYS be the “sexier sex”! This is what I find so disturbing today. Even the ugliest of men are getting 🐱 and running games on women. And the women are giving away the 🐱 to just any man.😩 It’s got everything upside down.
@@BetterLoveMovement you right. Very right actually. Very few men can walk in a room and women say “oohhh girl he’s fine look at his gorgeous face and or body “. There’s pretty women all over but only a handful of truly
Handsome well built men and that’s just looks I don’t mean personality income circumstances included. Women since they are little are enforced about their looks hair upkeep etc boys are taught brush teeth brush hair that’s about it. I think biology made just a handful of men gorgeous enough to get sex easily and frequently without much hassle so most men 95% have to work hard for sex. Men were designed to work harder stronger bigger so Mother Nature saw no need to make most men gorgeous but more so to work hard and provide and most men are motivated by success but also to attract women with their resources $$$. Women are generally more good looking as you say just by biology. Women are smaller weaker physically fertility is shorter so Mother Nature gave women beauty in excess to make up for women lack of strength and fertility. Women are born with breasts and booty since teens and no gym time is required vs men have to go to gym for years and eat good just to get decent results. And if he’s undisciplined the muscles can go away pretty quickly. Men are fertile till 70 years old easily no medication needed vs women are fertile till 47. Biology really made us opposites in a lot of ways but we need each other to further our blood line. We each have strengths and weaknesses and we were designed as men and women to complement each other. And if you don’t work it out with someone they will die alone no legacy aged out of the dating market men can date longer than women due to fertility is longer but most 65 year old men will not be able to get 42 year old women some will but most won’t. Women have it harder for long term relationships due to limited fertility. A man can have a traditional family at 50 vs women she won’t be having any kids of her own.
I don't understand why some of these men who are extremely homely and have a boring or weird personality and are broke think that they deserve to have beautiful super models throwing themselves at them when they will sit there and tell you that they hate single mother's and hate older women and hate overweight women and unattractive women.
These men wouldn't be single if they lower standards in women but even if they got a good homely woman they would ruin her.
@@blkyogi999 You are very blessed indeed!!
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I love how Tony’s face genuinely lights up when he interacts with his wife and kids. It’s so genuine. You can tell he not only loves his wife, but likes her too. Healthy black love. God fearing. Prosperous. God Bless y’all ❤
This! I totally agree! It’s very genuine.
@@fah232alot of these guys don't appreciate it they complain and alot of time it's just for control nothing to really complain about....can't even just be happy smh! Maybe when they see more men like Tony they will understand!
Remember that Tony Gaston ....every man is different... gas is expensive to use to drive for drive....
Don't Make easy access to you... cheap date easy sex.....
Yes, he immediately had dreamy eyes when she came in. That’s beautiful.
It’s not even their looks, it’s the soul that is unattractive. Sometimes it feels safer not to bother at all.
Say that!
‘Everybody is looking for perfection’, ‘Everyone wants something they are not’ are the truest words and completely sums up the dating culture in today
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Tony hit the nail on the head like wow!
"If someone has it all, they don't want you." (blank stare) Best line ever Tony! lol lol lol
I am thankful God led me to your channel. I have been watching your videos for a few years. I am 41 and met my husband at 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your videos are uplifting, encouraging, and I have learned so much
so sorry to hear about your husband. Bless you ❤️
I am so sorry for your loss
💐🙏🏼 So sorry 😘🤗
😢 Hopefully, God will bless you with another wonderful man one day if that is your desire.🙏🏽❤️
So sorry for your loss. ❤
To me two main things thing have changed. The number of women aware of the games men play, and consequently the number of women moving reactively to these games, whether by fighting fire w/ fire, or writing off men for good.
Good point
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The revolution is here yea
Yep
Tony’s whole energy changes when he talks to his wife. It’s so beautiful to see. He warms up and softens 😂 it’s so so cute. That’s that love love.
Just because something is common doesn’t make it normal. We gotta stop accepting what’s common as synonymous to normal
It was the men are naturally ugly and unbearable for me. 😭🤣🤣
I think it’s smart to meet up for coffee or tea to see if you both have a connection.
People are having first dates too soon. It's dangerous to say that men who want to go on coffee dates are generally "safer" when it comes to character. We need to get to know people longer so we can properly discern their intentions whether you're going on a steak date or a coffee date.
12:55 my mother used to tell me this..”never get a man that THINKS he looks better than you. You’re asking for trouble”
If a man can’t afford a date, it’s not my responsibility to worry about his finances he shouldn’t be dating multiple women because it doesn’t take all day to recognize sunshine.
I dated a man that wore glasses, was not my type, was even what a lot of people would call fat, and found out the man was on Instagram liking half naked women photos, was texting his ex, hearting his ex photos on FB, never discussed a future with me, and was very secretive with his phone. The man even went on social media and turned off his active status so that he could be able to lie to me by telling me he hadn’t been on social media or doesn’t be on there much. I broke up with the man for lying and all he said when I asked him never to call me again was, “ok”. I dated that guy for 18 mos and now I am mad at myself for getting played by a guy that initially wasn’t my type. The guys that aren’t that attractive physically are the worst ones.
Seriously!!! My ex wasn’t my type at all!!! The little he did for me; he constantly threw it in my face. He lied to me directly in my face a few times and them gaslit me when I got upset… he tried to tear down my self esteem and when he couldn’t break me he then blindsided me and tried to get me kicked out lmaooo.. as woman we cannot win!!!
This sounds like my story, I dated a cornball, thinking he was "nice" and I was being too picky. Almost 2yrs later, dude turned out to be a huge liar, and an addict of many things. He was so disrespectful when I called him out on his nonsense towards the end. The whole time I'm thinking, is he serious?? He don't even look THAT good to be that rude! I would show ppl his picture and they'd tell me, "that dude is pushing his luck" lol. So, moral of the story, stay picky and get you someone who is your "type"
@@kimberlys347 yes, I agree.Stay picky and get you someone your type.
@@TheRealStoryOfMyLife1 we can win. I know I go about saying all wrong. I be in fornication. I won’t sleep with anyone but that one man, and I will make him and myself get tested for HIV, Herpes, and all other sexually transmitted diseases before we sleep together. We share our results. I am super safe with my health because I am a nurse, but it’s still sin. When we know better, God expects us to do better.
Yup, I went for the ones that were not my preference because it was suggested. Big Mistake! They act way worse when given a chance. Do not date the geek if you are not feeling him
"Nobody has it all, and if somebody does have it all. They don't want you!!!!"😂😂😂 If you can't say Amen, say Ouch!
Men being “naturally ugly” is the truest statement I’ve heard in a while 😂😂
😂😅 ikr, inside out ugly like Whitney said in Waiting to Exhale 😆
I agree!! But them femininity coaches are gonna have a fit when they see this. They have been telling women for the last 2-3 years to say “no” to coffee dates! We talk about the red pill men but the “feminine” coaches are the other side of this coin. Great message as always 🙌🏾!
Facts! They make it seem like going out to coffee is a cardinal sin. It’s insane.
@@jessicascreenwritingservices yes! They are red pill with a silk press! 😩😂 I have listened to most of them and 99% are working for the adversary even the ones who are claiming to be Christians.
Not all but a lot don't have it quite right that's for sure
Well I agree but I think it’s for a reason. Bc if you are aware of the red pill, some of their propaganda is telling men that treating women and paying for dates (or anything including giving compliments) is SIMPING. So just as tg mentioned the men who will fake trick just to get a woman in her back, *some * of these coffee date men are doing it bc they don’t believe in investing any money in women before sex (and by the 3rd date). So the gold digger level up girls were reacting to some of that (while also expecting men’s money with games and pretending but no intention of sleeping with or dating them either 🙄)
@@lynne4948 Not red pill with a silk press! 😂 💀😂
Thank you for saying it. It be the ugly ones with money and nice everything and they think their money and material possessions are enough and get upset bc you don't want them.
Not the I’m ugly affirmations Tony! 😂😂
Tony you and Bishop R.C. Blakes are two of the best voices on the topic of relationships
You are so right. I enjoy them both.
Dating seems so hard and I don't even date 😂😂😂😂 Lord I just want to pray for what I want and meet him at the grocery store the next day 😂😂😂😂❤❤❤
Those chick flicks have us hoping for this but naw it don't work so
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Same here 🙌🏻
It’s hard to approach women in public nowadays because of social media! It’s like ppl wanna see pics rather than in person
When I was dating my wonderful wife; I never bought anything for her or took her out to eat. We just went out to the park to talk in the evening and that was it. She never asked for anything. We have been married for 20 years and she doesn’t go to work but she takes care of our home and the kids and she can buy whatever she wants. But she takes care of our money like it’s going to run out tomorrow. I’m the luckiest man on earth.
My recent ex fiancé was six foot and made 6 figures. He recently discarded me for his side in an extremely cruel and insensitive manner.
Though I am heartbroken I know it’s a blessing in disguise. I’ll leave justice in Gods hands. Won’t let him or any man break me down…I’ll fall, but I’ll get back up with Gods hand.
Have taken a vow of abstinence and obtain Tony’s knowledge.
Sorry you’re going thru this! Stay strong! Gods rejection is your protection 🙏🏾❤️
I have taken that same vow. 🙏🏽
If you show too much interest in someone it’s a turnoff!!! This has always been strange to me, people play too many games and are worried about what society thinks!! If you like someone you want to spend time with them!! This goes for men and women!! Getting to know someone is always awkward in the beginning…. Delusional is right!! People have unrealistic expectations and are looking for perfection and they are perfect themselves!!
"You gotta be careful how you handle your insecurities." (TG) That blessed me! Keep up the good work brother.
Not the men getting surgery on they knees Tony. What you call it a KNEE-BL?!?! HILARIOUS!!!! I can’t!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😤🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
The twinkle in his eye whenever his wife come around lol
I am thankful God Led me to your channel a few years ago. I am 41 and have been with my husband since I was 19. He passed from Covid on 1/8/22. Your channel is very encouraging, inspirational and have opened my eyes up to spiritual growth.
I’m sorry for your loss. I am sending you a hug 🫂
Sis so sorry for your lost 🙏🏾
Sorry for your loss
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I'm going to keep working on me bc I'm not attracted to what's attracted to me
This! Same here.
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Every time I’ve given guys that aren’t my type a chance it backfired
It’s not just superficial things, it’s peoples mindset as well. People don’t want to commit, communicate, play games, etc.
Tony you are such an inspiration...I wish there were a million other men like you in the world!!!
Girl there are at least a million men similar to Toni in this world, the difference is, is one has a platform and over half of the others don’t. Toni seems to be a good man and please believe there are many good men out there.
Tony, your delivery is what makes you the best. You are the big cousin dropping gems. Keep on doing what you do, we need you!
Wonderful message. As I progress in my 30s, I've learned to concentrate more on my relationship with Christ, and invest more into my life. Singleness is not fatality lol. Just have too occupy until God, says 👌🏿.
Social Media has played a major part in some of the delusion
"If you're an atheist, you're dumb." The way I hollered 😭😭😭😂😂. I detect no lies!!
Tony really does light up when his wife comes around.. after 16 years! Absolutely beautiful! 👏🏽👏🏽
The face you made after you said they dont want you 🤣😆
@@_RidethemaverickI was like I know my phone or the video aint froze 🤣😆
“You an atheist, you dumb. Just point blank period.” Truer words never spoken 🙌👏
Bless you Tony for being so candid in such a fake & politically correct world we are in at the moment.
I don’t even try to understand it because I have prayed to God to get me out of some horrible situations and he did and I have prayed for specific blessings in my life and he did it. I can’t believe people don’t believe in God.
1Peter 4:8. That is the Foundation! Anything Else is Lies!
@@mmxw2294What have You given him Back for those Blessings?
I was laughing so hard when he said this 😂😭 Tony is soo friggin funny!
He took me out with this one 😆
@30 When his wife popped in 🥰 His whole face changed and his eyes lit up. Love to see love ❤️
It’s unfortunately true when Tony Gaskin says men are “ugly”, but what I find from visiting dating sites is that they don’t put much on their physical appearance, I mean nice haircut, little smile, presentable clothes, and their selfies are so…. “scary”. I don’t find them attractive. I don’t want to generalize there are exceptions. I personally try to not be picky and don’t mind the height as long as I like what I see, and I would be more then happy to go on a date on a simple coffee to have a quality conversation. Thank you for this video.
The whole coffee date is a hit or miss, I’ve seen men give advice about taking the girl that looks easy to sleep with on a coffee date & the girl who they want to take serious on a dinner date, sometimes those coffee dates aren’t with good intentions
Coffee is cheap.
So if the lady doesn’t sex him, he only lost $20
Exactly coffee is for women he see no value especially when u know he’s making money
The one coffee date I went on was a disaster and the guy was just trying to treat me like a booty call. I will never do a coffee date again.
I’ve been dating for many many years, and I can tell you with certainty that Man usually never asked me on coffee dates, so I agree
Tony always advised women to suggest a coffee date for the first date, so you can keep it short and sweet and see if u like the person. That's all.
And sometimes the ppl who have it all, can be ugly inside, So still don’t have it all.
That's true! No such thing as 'having it all'.
A “Knee-B-L” 😂 I’m through
he cracks me up🤣 I appreciate that he can deliver these gems in a way that makes us laugh🙏🏽
@@itsbeeva yes 😂
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I love how Tony lights up around his wife. Everyone deserves a love like that in their lifetime. Faith, love, discipline, consideration, and compassion seems to be key 😄🙏🏾
Yooo Tony is hilarious lmaooooo he said “now when she sees your knees”😂😂😂😂
Toni treated his wife as a queen on first date but telling men to take women for coffee. African Americans are not it. Leave these men alone there are Africans. White men that will treat you well
I know TG be 100% serious but 13 mins into the message and I’m laughing! It’s the truth but also entertaining! Thanks TG!
lol thought i was the only one he said the funniest stuff with the most serious face 😂
Me to
Very funny! I just rolled when he said “If someone has it all then they don’t want you.” 😂😂😂
I was laughing also. I'm glad no longer delusional, but once was and many still are so I got some good lol's
Yes yes
I am so thankful for you brother Tony.. I respect your honesty and authentic approach on dating, marriage and life in general. You have been a positive light in so many lives, and that light is spreading. Godbless you and your family!
A stay at home mom works more than full time. Your wife does work. She does not need to worry about finances
A full time that's have support from husband without support, full time work triple.
Thank you for sharing this. I'll be married 10 years next year and we're in a rocky spot. My husband has recently expressed blame to me for the current difficulties in his life- finances, health and fair business. Some things I agree with others I do not. But he needs to hear this about taking responsibility so he can work his way out of his funk.
Who is real and who is fake keeps me from men. I’ve had my share of problems and want to live the rest of my life at peace. You are doing a great job Mr. Tony. At my age I’m good single. Thank you for you work.🙏🏾
Ahahha I LOVE when Sherrie bugs you it’s so funny 😂
I’m learning everything Tony says is the TRUTH.
“Let’s meet for coffee” ☕️
I ain’t got no problem with that ‘cause I love coffee.☕️ ❤. Coffee and a nice bookstore
"No one has it all. And if someone has it all, they don't want you". Pause and stare into camera for effect 😂😂😂
That was funny Tony. I know, I know... you not joking, butttt 😂
Dang 😢
You have to move and carry yourself as ugly 😂😂😂 Tony please lol. But that's definitely the delusion. The guy I'm interested in is probably under 5'7 so he definitely needs to humble himself. Height doesn't bother me, but I have a feeling he thinks he's all that lol. Sir you're 5'7... calm down
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So he can’t think he’s all that because he’s 5’7 lmao y’all sound ridiculous. Most aren’t athletes so his height doesn’t matter. If he’s attractive and in shape, he’s doing better than 90% of men.
@@kingleyo9277he definitely can think he's all that but he still has to understand how the world sees a 5'7 man. Just like I have to understand how the world sees a plus size woman like myself. I've never heard any woman say she prefers a man of that height.. most want someone at least 6 ft (even tony said it in the video) lol. Now will women accept a shorter man? Of course but on average... a 5'7 man is gonna get looked over every time regardless of whether he is in shape or not. & to my original point.. height isn't that big of a deal to me like I stated lol but everyone has to remain humble. We are all ugly to someone regardless of if we are small, big, short, tall, fit or unfit.
Guess what love lol I have beat out plenty of tall guys lol no matter the internet narrative YALL keeping wanting to believe lol you also have to throw in the fact society has been brainwashed to believe these things especially women because they spend way more time on the internet and watching television. Most women are literally only repeating what they hear some other women say and what they see on tv. My opinion and my experience has been totally different, women want a good looking man first and foremost . A tall and ugly and ok like guy has never beat my out of anything with women. If he’s attractive and tall maybe but he also may not meet your standard in the bedroom, it all depends. A tall attractive guy who has swag, confident, has a personality and all those other things are super rare. So yea maybe that guy is requested more when women are asked that question but women are literally thinking of the perfect guy when asked that question lol again I have had beautiful tall and short women from all kinds of different races. Trust me women make exceptions for very handsome men no matter their height, who are in shape and especially when the sex is good.
“If someone has it all… they don’t want Chu” ((pause, camera stare))😂😂😂😂
Real talk/Much appreciated Tony!
Tony has me cracking up 😂😂😂😂 speak the truth brother
You can tell he feels those butterflies when his wife comes in! Love it🤍🙌🏽
I usually agree with Tony and love his messages but na, at 10:30 I had to stop it and type. I can’t agree with this one. He literally said to women, “you need a lame, you need a square, you need someone who doesn’t give you that spark” well that simply is telling women to settle and NOT go after someone they are attracted too. I absolutely DO NOT agree. When people end up dating someone that isn’t their type, it can be a recipe for disaster in so many ways. There is a slight chance that it can go successful and they may “grow” to love them, but there is 8 Billion people on this planet. Just because dating gets tough, I will never approve for someone settling. What we need to tell women (and men) is to go after what they are attracted too but make sure that person is ALSO mentally healed, financially stable, respectful, loving, GOD fearing, etc! So in all They have attributes outsides of their looks!!! Also, we need to tell people the same thing they want in a person make sure they bring it to the table themselves! That way everyone wins 🤷🏽♂️ just my opinion.. but settling for someone lame and boring, NO!!!!
Good morning I been following you for a while I appreciate your videos
This one right here hit me I’m going through this right now! I been single for last 4 years I was picky at first but I learned my lesson now what comes into my path is not good! They only be talking about sex or trying to be in control! I don’t give no vibes when I meet this gentleman! I basically just stay to myself
It’s SO true, everyone in the dating world is super delusional and think they are a “catch” 😂. We need to be more realistic
Man Tony! I’m early in. So, the doctor made one of them right 😂😂😂. Go head and collect the comedian check too cause you keep us cackling 👏🏾.
This message is for the real ones🤷🏾♀️ for ppl who can handle it
Your right Tony! Ain’t nothing change. But I have to say it’s harder now to decipher who’s real and who’s not
This video is gold. I appreciate you Tony! God bless you!
I don't drink coffee so I'm good on the coffee dates lol. I rather cheesecake factory 😂
Me too cheesecake n food me
The lemon meringue cheesecake is FIRE🔥
@@queenkeesh8660I stayed quiet on that whole internet debate bc I rock with that restaurant lol
I enjoyed the bread there and I love the chicken fettuccine but it’s so funny cause once I was dating this NBA player and I wanted to go there for dinner and he was like no I don’t eat at chains restaurants lol
The Cheesecake Factory video was a FAKE skit. It was allegedly a social experiment to get conversation going.
“Aquafina” tho’ LOL!!!😂😂😂😂
Thanks!
I can't with Tony calling himself "little" 5'10"😂...
Tony, you have truly blessed me with this word. God Bless You and your family.
Omggg now Tony you did something when you said the 6’s thing. Omg that’s crazy 😮🔥
After hearing you speak facts like this, I'm definitely a subscriber.
Great video!! All useful and true information! Been married for 16 years as well.
You’re one of the WISEST MEN ON PLANET EARTH…knowing you is a DIVINE BLESSING; you’re 💯 CONSISTENT…PRAISE GOD FOR ANSWERING YOUR CALLING…much love and blessings to your Sons ❤❤
55:07 I used to believe that women who were beautiful with perfect bodies were treated better by men. When I saw Saweetie and Quavo tussling in the elevator, God gave me a revelation that it doesn’t matter if you are a beautiful woman, men will still cheat and mistreat you. I see now looks does not give you a preferential treatment pass with men. It’s about respecting yourself and requiring respect.
The prettier you are the more their insecurities cames out.
👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾 Mr. Gaskins never Misses! 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 Message received!
Thank you for giving out this information freely! I have some work to do!!!!!
Uncle Tony. Thank you for this evening service. This blessed me.
God bless you Tony. We appreciate you for your work and honesty 🩷
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂MR. TONY YOUR FACIAL EXPRESSIONS ARE OVER THE TOP !!!! I CANT WITCHU !!! THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS.PALATABLE. "DONT LET MY CONFIDENCE OFFEND YOUR INSECURITY " WOW !!! 😮
What we are seeing and hearing today, bears out what you are teaching us.
We need authenticity, reasonableness and a willingness to grow.
You better preach Tony 🙌 😊
I am so impressed, and Godly proud of you Mr. Gaskins! The wisdom God has placed upon you is unmatched! Makes me wanna get back into that secret place with the Lord! God bless you ‼️
“men naturally ugly” 😭 now hold on Tony lol
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I love TG a man of God, take care of his family 🙏🏾
Cooking and getting some wisdom at the same time. My kind of night.
27:57 😂😂💀 always right on time! Thanks for always being real and keeping it 💯! There's not another coach like you.
😂😂😂😂 Tom, Dick, and Harry is insaneeee
I agree I’m not big on a man spending a certain amount of money on me on the first date. Firstly we might not click so he’s not out of a lot of money. Secondly like Tony mentioned he’s taking multiple women on dates.
And lastly I’m not forced to sit through a dinner or whatever he had planned out if I’m not feeling him. I’m able to leave quickly and go on my merry way
I am with you. I was in a long relationship and have not dated in a while. Back in the day, I dated casual and met for small meals. It worked for me because it was some that I did not connect with.
This a real gem dropper right here. If we don’t tuck this intel in our back pockets. Geez TG served game on this one!!!!! Happy Thanksgiving everyone……
I needed this honest humorous read. Thank you for always speaking truth even when it hurts.
Ask the lord if you can lie about it got me on the floor🤣🤣
That moment of silence after " they don't want you" 😅
Hilarious 😂
I just want to say thank you for allowing God to use you in the area of relationship between men & women. As a saved woman, they enemy tired to make me think something wrong with me because I refuse to accept foolishness. It amazes me that there’s fully grown men out here still playing little boys games especially at the age 47yrs old. I thank God for the leading of His Spirit and whole enough to see when someone is broken that’s not good for me
I am over age of 50 and want to date BUT terrified for many reasons. Online dating seems scary and just talking to strangers...... scary too.Yes you are right on so many levels
8:04 There's a lot between blowing $100 each date vs. $7 coffee... Where's the balance🤷🏾♀️... He doesn't have to spend excessively nor be cheap. How people start usually gets worse over time as they get more comfortable, and what happened to creativity. When I was single, I preferred thoughtful dates rather than the typical doing what everyone else was doing.
Also, if he's dating so many women that dates are adding up getting expensive, so he wants to just take everyone to get coffee, then he's dating too many women and needs to narrow it down to his top 2 to decide from. Prioritize and balance, b/c while most women don't care where they go or if they take them anywhere, there are women who have a higher standard who have more options and don't limit themselves to just any one group of men, so they may see that as little to no effort in pursuing them. There's nothing wrong with anyone's standards or lack of standards in general- it just depends what's right for each individual to accept what works for them and reject what doesn't. People have to be honest so they'll stop wasting each other's time being mismatched...Let coffee people go on dates and Meringue lesson people, dinner and movie people, hiking people, etc go on the types of dates they enjoy, but don't shame any of them for what it is they want for their standards
Tony ALWAYS gives a word! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 thank you!
So many gems in this message 👌🏽
I hope that one day I find the fit for me, whatever shape, size, or income bracket that comes in.