@@siscomatos he does have moments of it. But the majority of the podcast he absolutely is a silly goose. This almost had zero of his silliness. I would say his podcast is normal 10% serious and 90% silly goose. This felt like the opposite of that. It’s possible I have missed his completely serious episodes. I haven’t seen every single episode
Those people only think that because he's comfortable making eye contact. For some reason people think you can only be autistic when you can't/don't make eye contact. It comes from ignorance!
@@9babyblu100%. All those outdated stereotypes are why it took me till 30 to accept I even could be autistic. People used to tell me it felt like I was staring into their soul, but I think it’s just because I maintained too much eye contact 😂 When people make me explain now, I reference the things that are less talked about, but were the things I noticed first. Like, not intuitively knowing things I don’t have previous experience with. I always felt like everyone else got the memo on what to wear, what to say, and how to act in all these new situations, and I just missed it. Even now, if I’m going somewhere new, I have to look up pictures or watch videos to see how other people are existing so I won’t stick out so much. I don’t mind sticking out a little bit, but if I at least look somewhat “normal” then it makes everyone else take my more unique traits/choices as just fun quirks. For the first few years I was afraid to mention it to too many people, because I “don’t look autistic”, but then I realized that I only “don’t look autistic” to allistics or people who have no idea what autism is in reality 😂 Fellow autistics know so quick, which is so validating.
@@melissastory1993 Exactly! My son (6y/o) is on the ASD spectrum. He didn't make much eye contact as a toddler but now only when he's in trouble. He (and my 14y/o) daughter look almost disassociated when they're being corrected. But if they're comfortable, they are fine with eye contact. It's frustrating that the masses only see ASD thru stereotypes. I use that frustration over the years and try to educate people so others have a better understanding.
@@9babyblu yeah, when I was getting my daughter assessment they asked about eye contact and sounded genuinely shocked when I said we don’t monitor eye contact in our household. Which is weird because you’d think they’d have enough other autistic parents that I wouldn’t be the only one with that answer.
51:34 I had to be sat down and spoken to by a manager about how sarcastic I was because nobody could tell if I was joking or being an asshole. I was always joking, but how could they know?? They just thought I was being mean, rude, dismissive, downright unpleasant. It's this. This is the more articulate version of the conversation my sous chef and I had that changed the way I relate to people. 59:11 oh man, the first time I clapped a friend on the back, he was so goddamn proud of me 😂 it's like he knew I had reached a milestone of human connection! 18 years later, I vividly remember him saying, "There you go!"
@@kylebrake556 Not sure what you mean by diferoption, but i don't think they would get stuck in arguments. Duncan is very agreeable and would definitely find Rainn's points of views interesting, and vice-versa.
I'm crying. His decriptions of social perceptions were relatable for me. I'm mid thirties and realizing I'm on the spectrum. My brothers are diagnosed and I noticed we shared a majority of syptoms during one of their evaluations. Thanks for speaking on the vulnerability of getting diagnosed.
When Rick's mom described his learning style, it reminded me so much of my child. When we do homework I discovered asking, "Can you show me how to do this?" or "How would this work? I didn't learn to do it the way they teach you. Can you walk me through it?" results in answers instead of anxiety.
I don't know if I have autism (I'm going to get tested in a couple of weeks) but your story reminds me of my experience growing up. I had some difficulties with math in 4th grade (I was pretty good up to 3rd grade) and my dad was getting mad at how my teacher was teaching me and that it was "wrong" and I should do it this way. He would also get mad when he would ask me to solve a problem in my head and it would take me a long time. I can do math on paper and at this point I have even done calculus (I got a degree in computer science) but I am terrible at visualizing numbers in my head. I used to get so much anxiety with math and hated it because of the anxiety it would bring me from those experiences. However when people ask me a question I am really good at answering their questions especially tech-related.
As an adult who is undiagnosed but almost certainly has autism, this episode was so validating in a totally novel way. This joint exploration of the self and our shared experiences is very inspiring.
I come back to this episode once every couple weeks. This episode makes me feel very comfortable, like spending time with good friends. Isn’t it crazy how TH-cam and a podcast can give me that deep safe feeling just by watching a video. Thanks Rick and Rainn. This is a great one.
I've been following Rick for a while and when he does talk about being neurodivergent, I feel like it's really important and vulnerable for him, but it's so valuable for people that may not have understood the things that come with autism before. Rec encourage me to do my own research. It helps me understand certain people in my family, who have autism and a whole lot of us have ADHD, which is also neurodivergent, including myself. I really appreciate how Rick can be funny and then serious. That's the best balance. I clicked on this for Rick but I think I'll stay listening for Rainn.
We strive to be a community that allows for open and honest conversations like these. Thank you for listening and please stick around! Lots of more great content to come!
Good job Rick and Rain! Great first podcast man!!! :D the most annoying thing a podcast host can do it cut off their guest and interrupt them frequently. Youre really good at communicating Rain, let the guest present their ideas and you do an incredible job at navigating and steering a conversation. Well done!
"I just want to acknowledge what you may be feeling right now and thankyou for feeling brave enough to feel it here" ❤BOOM If only everyone could have someone to hold space for them this way.
1:03:29 A characteristic issue of autism is that it presents an "asymmetric profile". Neurotypicals are more or less good doing a lot of things, there's a certain regularity within the "average." But people on the spectrum have that "irregular/spiky" profile, they can be very very good at two or three things, but have enormous difficulties in two or three other things that, for most people, are simple and everyday skills (like you are very good in intense periods of concentration, hyperfocus, but the anxiety of talking on the phone or keeping order with bills/deadlines is almost impossible) And we are not necessarily talking about savant-type ability, it's just that irregularity in the social/emotional skills profile; you can't cope (at least not for a long time, burnout is a thing) with all the common "expected" things of a neurotypical. Little things that are taken for granted in everyone are not "natural" for people on the spectrum, you just don't get it (but of course you can rationalize them, that's masking, like playing a highly curated script about social skills)
Holy SHIT-the excitement I felt seeing this mash-up. I’m like 30 second in, and I’m prepared for some life-changing dialogue. I’m sure I won’t regret saying this in an hour, but: PERFECT FIRST GUEST
1:15:38 I relate to this so hard. Lack of understanding the issue does not equal lack of understanding the emotion. Once the issue is revealed to someone who had not yet seen it, they can then feel all of the empathetic emotions come flooding in retroactively. So I have been called selfish and cold, yet I am extremely sensitive to the emotions and feel them very deeply once understood. It’s ironic in my case because I’m usually intuitive and basically tell people how they feel before they know. Later on they tell me I’m right - but while they’re processing, being right is not what they need. If left unaddressed, this imbalance between ignorance and empathy can easily lead to depression and isolation as the ignorant person feels constant guilt, shame, or embarrassment as they catch up to the understanding. It can turn into a proactive avoidance as a mechanism of preventing future wrongdoing. This avoidance mechanism is largely subconscious; it’s not until months or years later that you realize how alone and alienated you are.
Coming from working in the healthcare sector, there's something we talk about called compassion fatigue. It means that the extension of your compassionate instincts can be taken too far because your boundaries are being pushed without consent. The consent part is sometimes missed, or replaced with "you chose your job". I would say that while Rainn has spoken about doing it monthly by month and by his choosing, be careful how far you go because I've seen the most conscious and put together people break down from compassion fatigue leading to complete burnout layered with heavy guilt for feeling like they've failed.
So true. I'm a catastrophic work comp adjuster x 21 years and deal with deaths and severe life altering injuries. And IT IS draining. Being a super empath, I have learned to block some of the stuff, but I feel so drained after even a day of listening to people complain and project and be devastated all day long. And boy are my arms tired....sorry had to add that. 😂 but yes these types of jobs are sooo draining.
When Rick said they called for help but not to play! I relate to that so much. Looking back as a late diagnosed as well I remember as a girl in school helping girls with their work thinking we were friends but we were not.
Rick's story his parents told about him being in special classes in school was so similar to mine. It was mainly a confidence issue for me, I never thought I could do the work. As an adult I wish I could tell that child how smart they were. Thanks for being so open, Rick.
This was me too.. to get things done I'd need someone with me (mirroring) for my brain to kick in and do it. And also there's an aspect of executive dysfunction where you don't know where to start. It may seem simple to others.. but it can be overwhelming. And the cherry ontop is finding out you're dyslexic too.. so you're a visual thinker.. so you see things in your brain like it's a projector.. and teachers are like.. why can't they do the task. Our brains are different and we never got a God damn instruction manual.. and there's no helpline to call just hold music (people having no idea how to help) and trying but making things worse and you feel more incapable with neurotypical solutions to neurodivergent brains. Okay I'm done 😊 haha Great podcast. ❤🎉
As an adult, who mainly works and has little to no time with friends, this ep is a great example why I love podcasts. I would love to have these kinds of conversations but that isn't available to me right now. I listen/watch a lot of comedian podcasts and it fills the gab for wit and humor in my life. This pod will help fill the love and passion I have for these kinds of conversations/topics. I really appreciate that. Sometime life can disconnect you. Things like like connect me back to the things I love
I’ve never known religion, I come from a home of scientists. I’m far too pragmatic to ever believe in any one religion, and I philosophically define myself as an absurdist. Nonetheless, this was a fascinating watch, and was well worth the time spent. Looking forward to more. I hadn’t heard of the Baha’i faith before just now, but I do see the value for many to lead a life with spirituality at the forefront. Not that either of you said this, but I do resent the idea that being spiritual is a prerequisite to having a strong moral compass, or even that it’s a prerequisite to finding a ‘tribe’. I have, and love and adore all of my people, and they run the gamut of religious beliefs.
Nice post. As far the connection between morality and spirituality, i would say morality exists not in the physical world but the mental, emotional world. So moral terms like responsibility and generosity are felt. We talk about a moral compass on a soul level. I think the connection between the moral compass and spirituality, or the soul, is just semantic. It's just making the distinction from the physical to the emotional and conceptual. Not sure how i clear i was but again, great post!
If you ever do repeat, guess I definitely think you should have him on again seeing how you converse and the way that you guys speak was so wonderful. Im on a new journey with autism as an adult and I soooo appreciate this
Hello, I completely agree that Buddhism, stoicism and QiGong definitely transformed my life. But when i finally accepted Jesus and was open to meeting him and understanding him, all nuances in my life were taken away. Jesus made it so my life was perfectly catered to my unique creation. If you like the facts, I say definitely speak to Jesus and make the decision for yourself.
Episode 1? Could be episode 300 with the quality! Great job Rainn love to see this side of you! The down to earth, genuine human to human interactions. Love it.
Rick’s hesitance to talk about his diagnosis related to the judgement you get from it… is something that I’ve also come to the same conclusion. I’ve lost so many friends after the diagnosis. The selling aspect he’s talking about I just experienced all last year and now I’ve processed how so many people that used to be in my life never believed me I was autistic then when I acted autistic, they were turned off.
At 49:31 - i have never related to something more. "I never knew if it was a joke or not," and the subsequent development of that kind of sense of humor, where joking and sincerity are not mutually exclusive... That really resonates with me
As a currently undiagnosed neurodivergent this was a very powerful conversation for me. Thank you both for doing what you do. I relate to both of your experiences in different ways and the past 3 years have been a time of discovery for me. Its been enlightening and difficult and hard to deal with but ultimately necessary and good. I cant wait to keep watching more from both of you!
This was fantastic, Rainn and Rick. If we as a species could take this compassion/expansion of your "family" mindset to a systemic approach of political policy like food and wealth disparity, health care, etc, the world would be a better place.
I listened to this several times in a row after coming from your appearance on his podcast (he has a podcast). Relate a lot to his story, thank you for helping him tell it.
See, the autism discussions are so important, especially for women. Women with autism present in a different way than what is typically recognized as being "autistic". So many in my life were like "duh, we know".. But there were a few who said I wasnt.. I thought the same too, like.. You have no idea what I do when people arent around. You know the masked me. You have nooo idea what goes on in my head. It got worse when everyone started self diagnosing on tiktok.. Now, everyone thinks everyone is just making up that they're autistic to be "different"
I’ve been an atheist and an agnostic. The freedom and clarity I feel is out of this world once I realized I can’t do life on my own or for myself anymore but I need Jesus. I follow my relationship with Christ not religion. ❤️
I relate so so much too Rick's a journey with Autism because I had to face the hard reality that I have autism and it has been a nightmare of a struggle for me to try to get diagnosed and get help and treatment that I need and life has been very difficult for me because of the mental and autistic things that I struggle with. I have appointment set up, but they're not for like 7 months down the road because it's so hard to get into the doctor for these types of things.
There’s so much honesty, vulnerability, open mindedness, and acceptance in this podcast. It’s truly refreshing that two people can have a conversation about deep rooted ideologies without conviction and with nothing but respect. I appreciate this so much.
11:57 this is what kills me because this is the same person who has a black family statue like it's a "funny thing" whats funny that you "own" a black family. but any hint of jokes about jews and you're afraid- save it dude and do better. actually.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you both for sharing, being open and letting us into such a wonderful and insightful conversation. Can’t wait to tune into the next pod. Much love to you both!
I’ve never understood the “what’s the middle ground of religious beliefs” way of thinking. The different religions openly shun and discredit filings from others, and most of them are very exclusive. Nearly every one claims to be the only Truth (Christianity; when Jesus says “I am the way the truth and the life. No one comes to the father except through me.) It’s like seeing 1+3=4, 2+3=4, and 3+4=4, then saying “well, they all agree on 4, so that’s the main point”, while ignoring the fact that only one is truly correct and cohesive.
this was such a good episode i listened it twice in row. i think i also am autistic at 28 years of age, scared but relieved at the same time because it explains so much. i can relate to Rick almost fully. glad i have my doctors appointment soon so i can start my journey. sincerely, thank you Rainn and Rick!!
This is amazing Rainn and Rick... I got turned onto Rick recently, and I love deep conversations like this. Especially the talk about Rick feeling threatened recently etc. I'm not Jewish and I'VE seen the change recently. Anti-Semitism was always this weird dumb thing I never truly understood and always saw it as niche idiots. This has gone from me laughing at the idiots to me being annoyed with the amount of anti-semitism happening, and is now full-blown disturbing... It's honestly scary what has happened these past 2 years.
I don't ever feel the need to comment on a video or whatever, but I had to for this one. This being the first Soul Boom, I feel happier, lighter, smarter, and more connected to the world around me just from listening to you two talk. Rainn and Rick are the breathe of fresh air we all need to fill our bodies with. Thank you for starting this Rainn and thank you Rick for being you. I can't wait to hear the next one! Side note: did you guys know that Rick Glassman has a podcast? It's not mentioned in this episode at all but just a fun TIL I thought I'd share.
Haha, great screen name Josh! 😂 I love creating/coming up with really good, funny, and clever word/word-pun combinations as well lol, so props to you for this one sir! 😁👍🏼👍🏼
I’m an autistic self advocate and ambassador on the board of an autism self advocacy organization. I live for these conversations. And I also love my autism. I’d love to talk to you both! lol I just paused this video at the point of breaking down autism and brushing on the topic of masking. I have spent the last few years on my own personal hero/healing journey. I had to stop this video and post another comment stressing the part about more in depth of the autistic experience. I would love to talk with you guys about it all. I have a few special interests. Some of which simultaneously come and go in cycles. But for the past I don’t even know how many years at this point, the top interests have been autism, psychology, spirituality and philosophy. With a side of mental health and wellness. As I mentioned earlier, I live for these conversations and would love to speak with you guys in more depth. Let me know👍🏻
How interesting. I have been around Jewish people throughout my life but this clicked. Paraphrase - there is a shorthand of directness with Jews. It is cultural. As a non Jew, I have always felt the need to brace myself as this seemingly paradoxical “cultural shortcut” feels overwhelming, exclusive, and like bullying. I say paradoxical because Jews seem to value the inclusivity of a tribe, yet it feels exclusive from the outside. This was an “aha” moment for me to deepen my understanding of a culture and reconsider my response. It isn’t necessarily personal. I strive to acknowledge and see the humanity in all people. You have rounded the edges. Thank you. ……back to the podcast. More gold- “that didn’t feel good. What was your intent?”
I'm high and really enjoying this conversation. I love it when people get straight to the point especially with ADHD although my weed helps me focus insanely. It's when I can be creative for long periods of time instead of being distracted every 10 minutes or grow restless doing one thing.
I really appreciated his honesty and sharing his vulnerable side when discussing being autistic and his diagnosis. I'm also on the spectrum and it's hard to find this kind of authenticity even among autistic content creators.
Subscribed! Really good convo i felt included and relate to so much of this. We always have room to improve! "I didn't realize as a kid that I had autism, I thought I was just Jewish" love it 😂
I honestly don’t know if I want to seek diagnosis at 31, because I guess I just don’t even want to learn how to make myself act like most of the people around me. I don’t want to pathologize my struggle with existing. Maybe I also don’t even feel worthy of trying to make others live around a mental state that just impacts my internal functioning at this point. I can hate myself, that’s fine, I really have spent 31 years getting comfortable with that idea and learning how to just be as small and flexible as possible to be functional in society. I majored in communication, then got a post graduate degree in communication just to learn what’s going on in other people’s brains. Like Rick I learned facial expressions and studied them intensely because I was sick of feeling lost. I’ve built a life, a career, a family, without an autism diagnosis. But man the visible relief Rick is expressing when explaining his reaction to getting diagnosed really is making me think. I’m so happy for this man I know nothing about 😂😊
I left my religious beliefs behind in my 20s, and good riddance, but I think there is great value to be found in rituals, mediation, self reflection, etc, that all can be considered “spiritual” practices - the fact I am an agnostic/atheist doesn’t take any of those things away from me. I consider myself a spiritual person, and also an agnostic atheist person at the same time. I think Rainn put it nicely when he mentioned ‘throwing the spiritual baby out with the religion bath water’ (paraphrasing). I hope many more people can find the value in traditions, rituals, meditations and the like.
I am currently in the process of being assessed for ASD at age 32 after over a decade of misdiagnoses (major depression, social anxiety, BPD, bipolar) and listening to your experience feels so validating it’s exactly what I’m feeling right now thank you very very very much for sharing this I cannot tell you how much this just helped me
omg, I am 32 and I have social anxiety, avoidant personality disorder, ADHD and bipolar as diagnosis. Although I feel the bipolar is wrong and it might be autism, my cousin is autistic. which of you diagnosis do you think are false or do you mean that they have all been false?
Same I’m also in the process of being assessed and I’ve ran through the list of diagnoses and nothing fit like autism but what’s funny is I’ve been in mental health services since I was 2 and some who nobody picked up on it
He's talking about CULTURE when speaking of Judisium. This is how I feel when I am around fellow Asian people because we share many of the same traditions
🙋🏼♀️ - I’m autistic too! ❤ Late diagnosed (in my late 30s) and it was such a relief in so many ways to finally get a broader understanding of some parts of myself.
Wow! so much learning from this episode. I never imagined to watch a podcast and at the same time to be learning to rethink again some stuff, about honesty, mental health, and life itself, I really loved to hear Rick`s story, I believe you are amazing, and I have this reflection: In a world where almost everyone wants to be liked, and mostly of the time acts to impress others, and hide its own authenticity, when someone is able to took off that mask and talk about its real feelings , there is a beauty (that comes from within) and I guess people instantly recognize ( in a soul level spirit) and that awareness brings an instant laugh , cause laugh its joy.. ♥ Sorry for sharing that though of mine... and maybe can seems repetitive from me, ( cause I am always saying good stuff about Rainn) But the quality of this conversation has so much to do with the rich capacity of Rainn to listen, to want to know about others and learn. Even if he may say he has some trouble for relationships but what I cant stop noticing its his beautiful willingness to extract gold from conversations and try to get to know the essence of his guests. He puts a soul-attitude that I adore, THANK YOU RAINN
Rainn Wilson your examples of autistic coded characters are spot on and already shows a vast array of different presentations. Your own life example of autistic masking is also spot on and is echoed by many autistic individuals. I actually watched this as I thought it was you talking about your own autistic experience as I had no idea who Rick was. Thank you both for sharing.
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I have a feeling this is going to be good.
Every successful podcast launch starts with @rickglassman, right Bobbi?
Snap your fingers now
Soulboom Rainn Wilson God Comedy and you? There is any possible way to this of not being a sucess?
Wow what are the chances.. i have the same exact feeling
we love ya bud
I’ve gone back and forth on religion, and boy are my arms tired
Phenomenal joke
😂😂😂
I don't get it. This arms tierd joke flies over my head 😢
@@arnarorsigriarson8596it’s Rick Glassman’s inside joke, for lack of a better term
@@louieo.blevinsmusic4197 Yeah, I figured. But what is it a reference to?
This is one of the first time I've seen Rick be "out of character" or not being "on" comedically. It's really cool to see this side of him.
check his podcast, lots of sincere moments amongst the absurdity
@@albydaniels oh I listen to his podcast frequently.
This is amazing
@@llxxlxxlxxllhe very regularly gets serious on TYSO, not sure what you mean
@@siscomatos he does have moments of it. But the majority of the podcast he absolutely is a silly goose. This almost had zero of his silliness. I would say his podcast is normal 10% serious and 90% silly goose. This felt like the opposite of that. It’s possible I have missed his completely serious episodes. I haven’t seen every single episode
People who say Rick doesn't have autism don't understand what ASD is.
Those people only think that because he's comfortable making eye contact. For some reason people think you can only be autistic when you can't/don't make eye contact. It comes from ignorance!
@@9babyblu100%. All those outdated stereotypes are why it took me till 30 to accept I even could be autistic.
People used to tell me it felt like I was staring into their soul, but I think it’s just because I maintained too much eye contact 😂
When people make me explain now, I reference the things that are less talked about, but were the things I noticed first. Like, not intuitively knowing things I don’t have previous experience with. I always felt like everyone else got the memo on what to wear, what to say, and how to act in all these new situations, and I just missed it. Even now, if I’m going somewhere new, I have to look up pictures or watch videos to see how other people are existing so I won’t stick out so much. I don’t mind sticking out a little bit, but if I at least look somewhat “normal” then it makes everyone else take my more unique traits/choices as just fun quirks.
For the first few years I was afraid to mention it to too many people, because I “don’t look autistic”, but then I realized that I only “don’t look autistic” to allistics or people who have no idea what autism is in reality 😂 Fellow autistics know so quick, which is so validating.
@@melissastory1993
Exactly! My son (6y/o) is on the ASD spectrum. He didn't make much eye contact as a toddler but now only when he's in trouble. He (and my 14y/o) daughter look almost disassociated when they're being corrected. But if they're comfortable, they are fine with eye contact.
It's frustrating that the masses only see ASD thru stereotypes. I use that frustration over the years and try to educate people so others have a better understanding.
@@9babyblu yeah, when I was getting my daughter assessment they asked about eye contact and sounded genuinely shocked when I said we don’t monitor eye contact in our household. Which is weird because you’d think they’d have enough other autistic parents that I wouldn’t be the only one with that answer.
This is how you have a genuine and respectful conversation.
The Marshall Rug Gallery plug + the *wink* made me cackle 😂
51:34 I had to be sat down and spoken to by a manager about how sarcastic I was because nobody could tell if I was joking or being an asshole. I was always joking, but how could they know?? They just thought I was being mean, rude, dismissive, downright unpleasant. It's this. This is the more articulate version of the conversation my sous chef and I had that changed the way I relate to people.
59:11 oh man, the first time I clapped a friend on the back, he was so goddamn proud of me 😂 it's like he knew I had reached a milestone of human connection! 18 years later, I vividly remember him saying, "There you go!"
duncan trussel would be another perfect guest too
I agree, but also I feel the two would just argue diferoption circles around one another
Good rec, I would also like to see David Choe
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@@kylebrake556 Not sure what you mean by diferoption, but i don't think they would get stuck in arguments. Duncan is very agreeable and would definitely find Rainn's points of views interesting, and vice-versa.
@@ericyoungbloodor David Cross
I'm crying. His decriptions of social perceptions were relatable for me. I'm mid thirties and realizing I'm on the spectrum. My brothers are diagnosed and I noticed we shared a majority of syptoms during one of their evaluations. Thanks for speaking on the vulnerability of getting diagnosed.
When Rick's mom described his learning style, it reminded me so much of my child. When we do homework I discovered asking, "Can you show me how to do this?" or "How would this work? I didn't learn to do it the way they teach you. Can you walk me through it?" results in answers instead of anxiety.
I don't know if I have autism (I'm going to get tested in a couple of weeks) but your story reminds me of my experience growing up. I had some difficulties with math in 4th grade (I was pretty good up to 3rd grade) and my dad was getting mad at how my teacher was teaching me and that it was "wrong" and I should do it this way. He would also get mad when he would ask me to solve a problem in my head and it would take me a long time. I can do math on paper and at this point I have even done calculus (I got a degree in computer science) but I am terrible at visualizing numbers in my head. I used to get so much anxiety with math and hated it because of the anxiety it would bring me from those experiences. However when people ask me a question I am really good at answering their questions especially tech-related.
Rick Glassman as the first guest sign me uuuppp!!!!
Creed was the 1st guest
Rick is The Podcastmaker
? this is the second episode my guy
@@RG-tm7uq It literally says Ep 1
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"The self love movement is beautiful and necessary, but not at the expense of growth"
Beautiful 👌.
The self love movement is what has lead to the hedonistic society we now have.
At the expense of growth.
You can’t find a better podcaster than the glass master.
It's almost insane (meant in the most positive way) how sincere this is. Thanks for sharing, being vulnerable both.
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As an adult who is undiagnosed but almost certainly has autism, this episode was so validating in a totally novel way. This joint exploration of the self and our shared experiences is very inspiring.
Rick Glassman has a very strong presence in the podcast and dramatic acting community
Don’t forget about his basketball and Magic The Gathering acumen. A true man for all seasons.
Cant just make a blanketed statement like that
you can…but please appease us with the proper blanket drop.
He's also got a foot in the flooring game too.
This reads like it was written by Glassman, lol.
RICK GLASSMAN IN THE FIRST EP?! Let’s go!!
I come back to this episode once every couple weeks. This episode makes me feel very comfortable, like spending time with good friends. Isn’t it crazy how TH-cam and a podcast can give me that deep safe feeling just by watching a video. Thanks Rick and Rainn. This is a great one.
I've been following Rick for a while and when he does talk about being neurodivergent, I feel like it's really important and vulnerable for him, but it's so valuable for people that may not have understood the things that come with autism before. Rec encourage me to do my own research. It helps me understand certain people in my family, who have autism and a whole lot of us have ADHD, which is also neurodivergent, including myself. I really appreciate how Rick can be funny and then serious. That's the best balance. I clicked on this for Rick but I think I'll stay listening for Rainn.
We strive to be a community that allows for open and honest conversations like these. Thank you for listening and please stick around! Lots of more great content to come!
Looking forward to it.
Two award winning actors just sitting down for a chat, can’t beat that!
@greatjobent huh… they are both in fact award winning actors… and this is in fact a chat… sooooo
@@jeremymonahan3710 greatjobent was so embarrassed by his comment, that he deleted his entire channel. lol
I'm now curious as to what they said 🤔
Good job Rick and Rain! Great first podcast man!!! :D the most annoying thing a podcast host can do it cut off their guest and interrupt them frequently. Youre really good at communicating Rain, let the guest present their ideas and you do an incredible job at navigating and steering a conversation. Well done!
hope you'll tune in next week!
*starts a new podcast
*Gets Rick Glassman
So glad to see Rick is still willing to help out small content creators
We all gotta start somewhere!
-Rainn
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@@mmalandsbirdies4012 it's a joke bruh. Maybe you should get tested for the 'tism
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Got it,
I'm not myself, no sense of humor w/ out mead. 😂
"I just want to acknowledge what you may be feeling right now and thankyou for feeling brave enough to feel it here" ❤BOOM
If only everyone could have someone to hold space for them this way.
1:03:29 A characteristic issue of autism is that it presents an "asymmetric profile". Neurotypicals are more or less good doing a lot of things, there's a certain regularity within the "average." But people on the spectrum have that "irregular/spiky" profile, they can be very very good at two or three things, but have enormous difficulties in two or three other things that, for most people, are simple and everyday skills (like you are very good in intense periods of concentration, hyperfocus, but the anxiety of talking on the phone or keeping order with bills/deadlines is almost impossible) And we are not necessarily talking about savant-type ability, it's just that irregularity in the social/emotional skills profile; you can't cope (at least not for a long time, burnout is a thing) with all the common "expected" things of a neurotypical. Little things that are taken for granted in everyone are not "natural" for people on the spectrum, you just don't get it (but of course you can rationalize them, that's masking, like playing a highly curated script about social skills)
Holy SHIT-the excitement I felt seeing this mash-up.
I’m like 30 second in, and I’m prepared for some life-changing dialogue. I’m sure I won’t regret saying this in an hour, but: PERFECT FIRST GUEST
The guy who likes child predators is the perfect first guest ? 🤔
This is the most important articulation of autism diagnosis I've ever come across.
1:15:38 I relate to this so hard. Lack of understanding the issue does not equal lack of understanding the emotion. Once the issue is revealed to someone who had not yet seen it, they can then feel all of the empathetic emotions come flooding in retroactively. So I have been called selfish and cold, yet I am extremely sensitive to the emotions and feel them very deeply once understood.
It’s ironic in my case because I’m usually intuitive and basically tell people how they feel before they know. Later on they tell me I’m right - but while they’re processing, being right is not what they need.
If left unaddressed, this imbalance between ignorance and empathy can easily lead to depression and isolation as the ignorant person feels constant guilt, shame, or embarrassment as they catch up to the understanding. It can turn into a proactive avoidance as a mechanism of preventing future wrongdoing. This avoidance mechanism is largely subconscious; it’s not until months or years later that you realize how alone and alienated you are.
Coming from working in the healthcare sector, there's something we talk about called compassion fatigue. It means that the extension of your compassionate instincts can be taken too far because your boundaries are being pushed without consent. The consent part is sometimes missed, or replaced with "you chose your job".
I would say that while Rainn has spoken about doing it monthly by month and by his choosing, be careful how far you go because I've seen the most conscious and put together people break down from compassion fatigue leading to complete burnout layered with heavy guilt for feeling like they've failed.
So true. I'm a catastrophic work comp adjuster x 21 years and deal with deaths and severe life altering injuries. And IT IS draining. Being a super empath, I have learned to block some of the stuff, but I feel so drained after even a day of listening to people complain and project and be devastated all day long. And boy are my arms tired....sorry had to add that. 😂 but yes these types of jobs are sooo draining.
When Rick said they called for help but not to play! I relate to that so much. Looking back as a late diagnosed as well I remember as a girl in school helping girls with their work thinking we were friends but we were not.
Rick's story his parents told about him being in special classes in school was so similar to mine. It was mainly a confidence issue for me, I never thought I could do the work. As an adult I wish I could tell that child how smart they were. Thanks for being so open, Rick.
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This was me too.. to get things done I'd need someone with me (mirroring) for my brain to kick in and do it. And also there's an aspect of executive dysfunction where you don't know where to start. It may seem simple to others.. but it can be overwhelming.
And the cherry ontop is finding out you're dyslexic too.. so you're a visual thinker.. so you see things in your brain like it's a projector.. and teachers are like.. why can't they do the task.
Our brains are different and we never got a God damn instruction manual.. and there's no helpline to call just hold music (people having no idea how to help) and trying but making things worse and you feel more incapable with neurotypical solutions to neurodivergent brains.
Okay I'm done 😊 haha
Great podcast. ❤🎉
As an adult, who mainly works and has little to no time with friends, this ep is a great example why I love podcasts. I would love to have these kinds of conversations but that isn't available to me right now. I listen/watch a lot of comedian podcasts and it fills the gab for wit and humor in my life. This pod will help fill the love and passion I have for these kinds of conversations/topics. I really appreciate that. Sometime life can disconnect you. Things like like connect me back to the things I love
I’ve never known religion, I come from a home of scientists.
I’m far too pragmatic to ever believe in any one religion, and I philosophically define myself as an absurdist.
Nonetheless, this was a fascinating watch, and was well worth the time spent. Looking forward to more.
I hadn’t heard of the Baha’i faith before just now, but I do see the value for many to lead a life with spirituality at the forefront. Not that either of you said this, but I do resent the idea that being spiritual is a prerequisite to having a strong moral compass, or even that it’s a prerequisite to finding a ‘tribe’. I have, and love and adore all of my people, and they run the gamut of religious beliefs.
Nice post. As far the connection between morality and spirituality, i would say morality exists not in the physical world but the mental, emotional world. So moral terms like responsibility and generosity are felt. We talk about a moral compass on a soul level.
I think the connection between the moral compass and spirituality, or the soul, is just semantic. It's just making the distinction from the physical to the emotional and conceptual.
Not sure how i clear i was but again, great post!
If you ever do repeat, guess I definitely think you should have him on again seeing how you converse and the way that you guys speak was so wonderful. Im on a new journey with autism as an adult and I soooo appreciate this
Rainn is on Rick's podcast, it's pretty great. You'll find it if you just search both their names on here.
Multiple award winning businessman, comedian, and actor, Rick Glassman? Sweet guest.
Buddhism and Stoicism have been the grounding of my life for the past 20 years. I'm also autistic. ❤
Hello, I completely agree that Buddhism, stoicism and QiGong definitely transformed my life. But when i finally accepted Jesus and was open to meeting him and understanding him, all nuances in my life were taken away. Jesus made it so my life was perfectly catered to my unique creation. If you like the facts, I say definitely speak to Jesus and make the decision for yourself.
Episode 1? Could be episode 300 with the quality! Great job Rainn love to see this side of you! The down to earth, genuine human to human interactions. Love it.
Wow, thank you!
So true! I did not log in that this was the first episode until you pointed it out.
Rick’s hesitance to talk about his diagnosis related to the judgement you get from it… is something that I’ve also come to the same conclusion. I’ve lost so many friends after the diagnosis. The selling aspect he’s talking about I just experienced all last year and now I’ve processed how so many people that used to be in my life never believed me I was autistic then when I acted autistic, they were turned off.
I flew here from the TYSO podcast and boy are my arms tired. Can’t wait to listen to this new pod! RICK! RICK! RICK! RICK!
For the alg. Rick is rapidly becoming the most sought after Episode 1 Podcast Guest in the bizz.
Rick Glassman is phenomenal.
Him and his child predator friends!
18:30 love the whole goal of Soul Boom of finding the commonality of religions.
If anyone is interested it's the concept of Perennial Philosophy!
"Everyone at marshall rug gallery are family 😊" LMAO
That was the most slick ad read I've ever seen in a podcast and they aren't even a sponsor.
rick and rainn are some of my favorite humans. but that painting behind rainn is definitely one of my favorite paintings
also please turn the lava lamp on next time. incredible ep , just needs 1 oz more mood lighting
Having the glass man on for the first episode feels like cheating in the best way and I’m here for it
I cant wait for the Steve Carroll Episode
Oh my God please
Rainn honestly man keep this stuff up I love this… honestly the most honest/ loving/ funny asf podcast can’t wait for me to
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I didn’t know how much I needed to see this today. Thanks to the both of you. Keep sharing your experiences, strengths and hope!
At 49:31 - i have never related to something more. "I never knew if it was a joke or not," and the subsequent development of that kind of sense of humor, where joking and sincerity are not mutually exclusive... That really resonates with me
Congrats Rainn on getting award winning dramatic actor Rick Glassman
As a currently undiagnosed neurodivergent this was a very powerful conversation for me. Thank you both for doing what you do. I relate to both of your experiences in different ways and the past 3 years have been a time of discovery for me. Its been enlightening and difficult and hard to deal with but ultimately necessary and good. I cant wait to keep watching more from both of you!
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This was fantastic, Rainn and Rick. If we as a species could take this compassion/expansion of your "family" mindset to a systemic approach of political policy like food and wealth disparity, health care, etc, the world would be a better place.
THIS.
As a Buddhist monk and huge fan of the Office and Rainn Wilson , this is now my favorite podcast 😊 🙏
I listened to this several times in a row after coming from your appearance on his podcast (he has a podcast).
Relate a lot to his story, thank you for helping him tell it.
See, the autism discussions are so important, especially for women. Women with autism present in a different way than what is typically recognized as being "autistic". So many in my life were like "duh, we know".. But there were a few who said I wasnt.. I thought the same too, like.. You have no idea what I do when people arent around. You know the masked me. You have nooo idea what goes on in my head. It got worse when everyone started self diagnosing on tiktok.. Now, everyone thinks everyone is just making up that they're autistic to be "different"
autism is fake, look at the rate of diagnosis over the past few decades, its totally manufactured.
I’ve been an atheist and an agnostic. The freedom and clarity I feel is out of this world once I realized I can’t do life on my own or for myself anymore but I need Jesus. I follow my relationship with Christ not religion. ❤️
bruhh Rick as the first guest??? heck yeahh
I relate so so much too Rick's a journey with Autism because I had to face the hard reality that I have autism and it has been a nightmare of a struggle for me to try to get diagnosed and get help and treatment that I need and life has been very difficult for me because of the mental and autistic things that I struggle with. I have appointment set up, but they're not for like 7 months down the road because it's so hard to get into the doctor for these types of things.
There’s so much honesty, vulnerability, open mindedness, and acceptance in this podcast. It’s truly refreshing that two people can have a conversation about deep rooted ideologies without conviction and with nothing but respect. I appreciate this so much.
11:57 this is what kills me because this is the same person who has a black family statue like it's a "funny thing" whats funny that you "own" a black family. but any hint of jokes about jews and you're afraid- save it dude and do better. actually.
As a lady diagnosed with autism in her late 20s, I really appreciated this conversation
From the bottom of my heart, thank you both for sharing, being open and letting us into such a wonderful and insightful conversation. Can’t wait to tune into the next pod. Much love to you both!
I'm a 34 year old man and I am crying. Thanks Rainn and Thank you Rick.
SECTRUUUUUUUM 😉
Take your meds
I will if you will, sounds like you need them pal
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I’m 34 and we’re still just boys
"that didn't feel good, what was your intent" got me so good. I love it
The core difference between spirituality and religion, is that you’re *beholden* to something outside yourself, whereas in spirituality you’re not.
Honestly, best Guest!
Spirituality as in you are beholden to nothing > means letting go of all that is not nothing. There is no core but God! Blessings to you all friends
Thats just like, your opinion, man.
So from the outside observers perspective there is no difference?
When we die there is nothing. Sorry kids.
Man,,,, there’s something about Ricky…. Deep convo, nice episode, insightful,,,,, boom complimented 🫵🏻..
I could have watched 6 more hours of this! Loved it so very much :) Rick Glassman's memory is unmatched :)
I’ve never understood the “what’s the middle ground of religious beliefs” way of thinking. The different religions openly shun and discredit filings from others, and most of them are very exclusive. Nearly every one claims to be the only Truth (Christianity; when Jesus says “I am the way the truth and the life. No one comes to the father except through me.)
It’s like seeing 1+3=4, 2+3=4, and 3+4=4, then saying “well, they all agree on 4, so that’s the main point”, while ignoring the fact that only one is truly correct and cohesive.
Couldn't have picked a better first guest. Rick is the man
Great guests, Great host and great conversations make for a great pod. Its got to be a winner.
Glassman is a great first guest, easy subscription; congrats Rainn!
People are complex. Which is one of the things that makes life interesting. I am grateful for this podcast. ❤
Grateful you watched!
this was such a good episode i listened it twice in row. i think i also am autistic at 28 years of age, scared but relieved at the same time because it explains so much. i can relate to Rick almost fully. glad i have my doctors appointment soon so i can start my journey. sincerely, thank you Rainn and Rick!!
This is amazing Rainn and Rick... I got turned onto Rick recently, and I love deep conversations like this.
Especially the talk about Rick feeling threatened recently etc. I'm not Jewish and I'VE seen the change recently.
Anti-Semitism was always this weird dumb thing I never truly understood and always saw it as niche idiots. This has gone from me laughing at the idiots to me being annoyed with the amount of anti-semitism happening, and is now full-blown disturbing... It's honestly scary what has happened these past 2 years.
I don't ever feel the need to comment on a video or whatever, but I had to for this one. This being the first Soul Boom, I feel happier, lighter, smarter, and more connected to the world around me just from listening to you two talk. Rainn and Rick are the breathe of fresh air we all need to fill our bodies with. Thank you for starting this Rainn and thank you Rick for being you. I can't wait to hear the next one! Side note: did you guys know that Rick Glassman has a podcast? It's not mentioned in this episode at all but just a fun TIL I thought I'd share.
Haha, great screen name Josh! 😂
I love creating/coming up with really good, funny, and clever word/word-pun combinations as well lol, so props to you for this one sir! 😁👍🏼👍🏼
@@eyezaropin right back at cha! Might I suggest an alternative to your SN? @eyezaropin2020
Redbar has launched an investigation into you Rainn, I wouldnt get too comfortable in your new little show fat boy. Redbar is watching.
I’m an autistic self advocate and ambassador on the board of an autism self advocacy organization. I live for these conversations. And I also love my autism. I’d love to talk to you both! lol I just paused this video at the point of breaking down autism and brushing on the topic of masking. I have spent the last few years on my own personal hero/healing journey. I had to stop this video and post another comment stressing the part about more in depth of the autistic experience. I would love to talk with you guys about it all. I have a few special interests. Some of which simultaneously come and go in cycles. But for the past I don’t even know how many years at this point, the top interests have been autism, psychology, spirituality and philosophy. With a side of mental health and wellness. As I mentioned earlier, I live for these conversations and would love to speak with you guys in more depth.
Let me know👍🏻
How interesting.
I have been around Jewish people throughout my life but this clicked.
Paraphrase - there is a shorthand of directness with Jews. It is cultural.
As a non Jew, I have always felt the need to brace myself as this seemingly paradoxical “cultural shortcut” feels overwhelming, exclusive, and like bullying. I say paradoxical because Jews seem to value the inclusivity of a tribe, yet it feels exclusive from the outside.
This was an “aha” moment for me to deepen my understanding of a culture and reconsider my response. It isn’t necessarily personal.
I strive to acknowledge and see the humanity in all people. You have rounded the edges.
Thank you.
……back to the podcast.
More gold- “that didn’t feel good. What was your intent?”
I'm high and really enjoying this conversation. I love it when people get straight to the point especially with ADHD although my weed helps me focus insanely. It's when I can be creative for long periods of time instead of being distracted every 10 minutes or grow restless doing one thing.
i randomly came across a short of rick talking about autism and he hit the mark im autistic zand the way he explained it makes absolute sense
Me too.. hit home
I really appreciated his honesty and sharing his vulnerable side when discussing being autistic and his diagnosis. I'm also on the spectrum and it's hard to find this kind of authenticity even among autistic content creators.
Never really seen this side of Rick. Thanks for bringing that out of him, Rainn.
This is incredible. What an episode!
Ricky is a great guest to kick it off with! Loved the ep
Knowing how big of an "Office"-fan Rick is, gives me so much second-hand enjoyment!!
Subscribed! Really good convo i felt included and relate to so much of this. We always have room to improve! "I didn't realize as a kid that I had autism, I thought I was just Jewish" love it 😂
I honestly don’t know if I want to seek diagnosis at 31, because I guess I just don’t even want to learn how to make myself act like most of the people around me. I don’t want to pathologize my struggle with existing.
Maybe I also don’t even feel worthy of trying to make others live around a mental state that just impacts my internal functioning at this point. I can hate myself, that’s fine, I really have spent 31 years getting comfortable with that idea and learning how to just be as small and flexible as possible to be functional in society. I majored in communication, then got a post graduate degree in communication just to learn what’s going on in other people’s brains. Like Rick I learned facial expressions and studied them intensely because I was sick of feeling lost. I’ve built a life, a career, a family, without an autism diagnosis. But man the visible relief Rick is expressing when explaining his reaction to getting diagnosed really is making me think. I’m so happy for this man I know nothing about 😂😊
I want to buy from Marshall Rug Gallery now!!😂
RICK! RICK! RICK! RICK! RICK! RICK!✊
I left my religious beliefs behind in my 20s, and good riddance, but I think there is great value to be found in rituals, mediation, self reflection, etc, that all can be considered “spiritual” practices - the fact I am an agnostic/atheist doesn’t take any of those things away from me.
I consider myself a spiritual person, and also an agnostic atheist person at the same time. I think Rainn put it nicely when he mentioned ‘throwing the spiritual baby out with the religion bath water’ (paraphrasing).
I hope many more people can find the value in traditions, rituals, meditations and the like.
I am currently in the process of being assessed for ASD at age 32 after over a decade of misdiagnoses (major depression, social anxiety, BPD, bipolar) and listening to your experience feels so validating it’s exactly what I’m feeling right now thank you very very very much for sharing this I cannot tell you how much this just helped me
omg, I am 32 and I have social anxiety, avoidant personality disorder, ADHD and bipolar as diagnosis. Although I feel the bipolar is wrong and it might be autism, my cousin is autistic. which of you diagnosis do you think are false or do you mean that they have all been false?
Same I’m also in the process of being assessed and I’ve ran through the list of diagnoses and nothing fit like autism but what’s funny is I’ve been in mental health services since I was 2 and some who nobody picked up on it
Rick is a great guest
#1 Comedian/Podcaster in the World
Only makes sense he'd be episode #1
He's talking about CULTURE when speaking of Judisium. This is how I feel when I am around fellow Asian people because we share many of the same traditions
🙋🏼♀️ - I’m autistic too! ❤ Late diagnosed (in my late 30s) and it was such a relief in so many ways to finally get a broader understanding of some parts of myself.
Wow! so much learning from this episode. I never imagined to watch a podcast and at the same time to be learning to rethink again some stuff, about honesty, mental health, and life itself, I really loved to hear Rick`s story, I believe you are amazing, and I have this reflection: In a world where almost everyone wants to be liked, and mostly of the time acts to impress others, and hide its own authenticity, when someone is able to took off that mask and talk about its real feelings , there is a beauty (that comes from within) and I guess people instantly recognize ( in a soul level spirit) and that awareness brings an instant laugh , cause laugh its joy.. ♥ Sorry for sharing that though of mine... and maybe can seems repetitive from me, ( cause I am always saying good stuff about Rainn) But the quality of this conversation has so much to do with the rich capacity of Rainn to listen, to want to know about others and learn. Even if he may say he has some trouble for relationships but what I cant stop noticing its his beautiful willingness to extract gold from conversations and try to get to know the essence of his guests. He puts a soul-attitude that I adore, THANK YOU RAINN
Rainn Wilson your examples of autistic coded characters are spot on and already shows a vast array of different presentations. Your own life example of autistic masking is also spot on and is echoed by many autistic individuals.
I actually watched this as I thought it was you talking about your own autistic experience as I had no idea who Rick was. Thank you both for sharing.
I'm on board, Rainn kept me at peace many of nights on Repeat 😂. All 9 seasons!
Best guest you could have gotten. 🎉
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