This should be broadcasted in every khutbah. A lot of parents do this and I doubt they will watch videos related to it. The message need to get across to these parents cuz they don’t and won’t listen to their kids
To be fair, being a parent is tough. Very tough. One day when Allah blesses you with children you mighy understand the things they go through. It works both ways
It’s important for those who aren’t parents to also watch it so we all can learn so JazakAllah So my much for sharing really everyone should know about how to handle these situations 😊
Salam from Penang. This is very helpful in making me feel less guilty about minimising my time with my parents. I love them dearly, but some things are impossible..i make duas. I pray for them to be righteous for the sake of Allah. If I erase the boundaries, my controlling mom would interfere with too many things..and I'm married with my husband being also subjected to things he dislikes.
my dear sizz same situation for me... I'm in abroad..what about delivery post delivery without mom...?? I juss wanna to know, I cant see any one same situation in my friend circle... they all dearest and enjoy stay with mom...
Thank you for this, I ask Allah to forgive me for the way I raised my children alone, I have no excuses for my behaviour, I accept accountability and ask Allah to help my children raise my grandchildren with Sabr and Love just like our beautiful Prophet Muhammad pbuh
It is good that you seek forgiveness but just from my experience some muslim parents especially mothers are very harsh with themelves when it could be detrimental and in some cases they really did a great job with what they had.
😢😢why im crying while scroll the comments... somany of them going same like as my situation.. its very hard parents are alive but same time we live like an orphan..any way gratitude to rabb only dua🤲🤲🤲
Mag Allah grant us understanding and awareness to become the best version of ourselves trough our beloved prophet Muhammad “Alayi Salam” (Peace be upon him) Ameen🤲🏼❤
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said: "Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness, and He grants reward for it that He does not grant for harshness." Sunan Ibn Majah 3688 Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Jazakallah zhair, I find myself in a similar situation with my father which I love dearly but at times I don't know if i must keep my distance from him. This talk help me alot. May Allah reward you abundantly in this world and in akhirah insha Allah.
What to do if a father dislikes his daughter to a degree that whatever she asks for, he deliberately do not want to do that, nothing major but simple day to day tasks or things of need. Just because she doesn't earn. And verbally hurts her for not earning. What should that daughter do?
That won’t stop if you start earning.. I highly recommend working towards independence so all your needs are met by you.. but don’t expect things to change.. Inshaallah they will but with parents like that typically they just pick on another element.. their abuse comes from their own insecurity.. if you can observe your parent and note how they breathe, their facial features, their tone, the words they use like a third party.. you’ll start to notice the influence of fear and shaytan; so it’s not about you really; it’s about them; you just happen to be means of expressing that unfortunately.. you’ll slowly stop taking their words to heart and distancing your heart and protecting it… hopefully this helps… IA
My mother curses me for no reason even when I’m trying to be good to her, I’m afraid her dua against me will be accepted even if I’m didn’t do anything wrong. I don’t know why she chooses to curse me when I’m always trying to be nice to her
To all those parents watching this, Fear Allah, Fear Allah and Fear Allah- follow what Rasulallah SAW said, And to children, fear Allah fear Allah, and never disrespect your parents.
Rabbir hamhuma kama Rabbayani Sagheerah. Rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata aayun wa ja'alna lil muttaqeena imama. Whoever is going through this, may Allah heal you completely, help you and guide your parents. May Allah forgive all of my sins and help me to fulfill the rights of my parents. May Allah forgive my parents and guide them to the straight path and reward them for whatever good they have done to me. May Allah purify the tongues of my parents, may Allah make them from among the righteous. May Allah grant me a good husband who doesn't cause me pain, anxiety, tears or trauma and also good in-laws that love me more than my parents. May Allah heal my heart, grant peace to my mind and grant me Shifa in my illnesses. ya Allah protect me from bad people. Ya Allah grant me a husband who doesn't backbite, slander, lie, curse, abuse, cheat or hurt anyone. Ya Allah bless me with true practicing Momin man to be my husband and make me worthy of having such spouse in my life. aameen
To a certain extent I hate Allah. We were commanded to maintain our relationship with our parents. I am tired of my mom. My emotions are ignored by the one who created me. I truly hate Allah.
Hey look, I understand, but blaming Allah is not gonna solve your issues. Humans have free wills. Blame those people, not Allah, he is just, remember He is gonna question your mom on the day of the judgement. Your duty is to remain respectful and control your behaviour. Again, I understand you very well. I don't have love for my parents but I have to be respectful too.
Agreed with above comment.. your mom’s behavior is her own; as for keeping relations with parents, this Imam spoke about this previously. What you owe to your parents is Salam when you see them and Eid Mubarak; that’s all that’s required for keeping relations. Anything above and beyond that is up to you; if you can mentally handle it. I’ve built resilience over time and was able to see my dad once every few years.. it was still hard but that’s all I could handle.. Allah knows our efforts and intentions best.. don’t let your mom’s behavior turn you into a human being you won’t like.. let the cycle end with you.. May Allah protect you and guide you and your mom… ❤
It is your parents , not Allah , even if u hate Allah , Allah understands why , even if u are tired of your parents remember Ayub (AS) such a heart breaking story and i am sorry that your parents made u hate Allah, that is not allowed in Islam wish u the best inshaa’Allah
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Alll we hear are the rights of parents and never about the rights of children. This was so valuable to me. Thank you for this.
I was a victim of this and it made me reject Islam for many years. I suffered from depression and anxiety. May Allah forgive my father.
This should be broadcasted in every khutbah. A lot of parents do this and I doubt they will watch videos related to it. The message need to get across to these parents cuz they don’t and won’t listen to their kids
To be fair, being a parent is tough. Very tough. One day when Allah blesses you with children you mighy understand the things they go through. It works both ways
@@carlhaikal92yes, but we have a guide in the Quran. There is no justification for spiritually abusing your children
@@motomoto2555 yup. I don't disagree.
It’s important for those who aren’t parents to also watch it so we all can learn so JazakAllah So my much for sharing really everyone should know about how to handle these situations 😊
Subhan Allah may Allah protect all our Children during this Difficult Times Ameen yaa Rabbal Alameen 🇵🇸
Ameen
Excellent topic.. not discussed enough considering how many kids are being abused..
Such an important question - emotional abuse can affect people for lifetime and damaging
Salam from Penang.
This is very helpful in making me feel less guilty about minimising my time with my parents. I love them dearly, but some things are impossible..i make duas. I pray for them to be righteous for the sake of Allah. If I erase the boundaries, my controlling mom would interfere with too many things..and I'm married with my husband being also subjected to things he dislikes.
my dear sizz same situation for me... I'm in abroad..what about delivery post delivery without mom...?? I juss wanna to know, I cant see any one same situation in my friend circle... they all dearest and enjoy stay with mom...
Thank you brother finally we have the other side too many lectures on parents rights! Children have rights too thank you 🙏🏻
May Allah guide us on the right path. Subhan'Allah, Alhamdulillah
Ameen
Being treated badly by a mother in law is also a huge problem in our society...I've been told by ppl many times that it's a cultural thing
Thank you for this, I ask Allah to forgive me for the way I raised my children alone, I have no excuses for my behaviour, I accept accountability and ask Allah to help my children raise my grandchildren with Sabr and Love just like our beautiful Prophet Muhammad pbuh
Dont beat yourself up too much no parent is perfect we all have flaws.
It is good that you seek forgiveness but just from my experience some muslim parents especially mothers are very harsh with themelves when it could be detrimental and in some cases they really did a great job with what they had.
😢😢why im crying while scroll the comments... somany of them going same like as my situation.. its very hard parents are alive but same time we live like an orphan..any way gratitude to rabb only dua🤲🤲🤲
Mag Allah grant us understanding and awareness to become the best version of ourselves trough our beloved prophet Muhammad “Alayi Salam” (Peace be upon him) Ameen🤲🏼❤
Bedankt
Ich hoffe, dass sich das viele Eltern ansehen und zu Herzen nehmen. Um der Kinder und ihrer selbst willen! 🤲
Jazak Allah khayran
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Messenger of Allah(ﷺ) said: "Allah is Gentle and loves gentleness, and He grants reward for it that He does not grant for harshness."
Sunan Ibn Majah 3688
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
What goes round will come round later in life.. 😂🤣🤪💯🎯
Daily Dhikr Reminder .🌼♥️.💚Bismillah
1. SubhanAllah 2. Alhamdulillah
3. La illaha il Allah 4. Allahu Akbar
Jazakallah zhair, I find myself in a similar situation with my father which I love dearly but at times I don't know if i must keep my distance from him. This talk help me alot. May Allah reward you abundantly in this world and in akhirah insha Allah.
What to do if a father dislikes his daughter to a degree that whatever she asks for, he deliberately do not want to do that, nothing major but simple day to day tasks or things of need. Just because she doesn't earn.
And verbally hurts her for not earning. What should that daughter do?
That won’t stop if you start earning.. I highly recommend working towards independence so all your needs are met by you.. but don’t expect things to change.. Inshaallah they will but with parents like that typically they just pick on another element.. their abuse comes from their own insecurity.. if you can observe your parent and note how they breathe, their facial features, their tone, the words they use like a third party.. you’ll start to notice the influence of fear and shaytan; so it’s not about you really; it’s about them; you just happen to be means of expressing that unfortunately.. you’ll slowly stop taking their words to heart and distancing your heart and protecting it… hopefully this helps… IA
My mother curses me for no reason even when I’m trying to be good to her, I’m afraid her dua against me will be accepted even if I’m didn’t do anything wrong. I don’t know why she chooses to curse me when I’m always trying to be nice to her
Allah doesn't accept duaa from the abuser even if they're the parent. May Allah guide us all, Ameen
Yes a Unjust Doaah will not reach the roof of the house
@@RubyEmpower is there a Hadith for this?
Allah will never accept the dua against you unless you are in the wrong !, and Allah never breaks his promises !
Always make Duah for your Parents...you might not know their struggles..Ameen yaa Rabbal Alameen
S.A.W ❤❤❤❤ Masha Allah
Yasir Qadi also has a great khutba regarding child abuse
That's right, and it's more detailed. So please everyone go and watch it.
Bismillah.waalaikum salam warahmatullahi wabara katuh
To all those parents watching this, Fear Allah, Fear Allah and Fear Allah- follow what Rasulallah SAW said,
And to children, fear Allah fear Allah, and never disrespect your parents.
Keep making duas
Rabbir hamhuma kama Rabbayani Sagheerah.
Rabbana hablana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata aayun wa ja'alna lil muttaqeena imama.
Whoever is going through this, may Allah heal you completely, help you and guide your parents.
May Allah forgive all of my sins and help me to fulfill the rights of my parents. May Allah forgive my parents and guide them to the straight path and reward them for whatever good they have done to me. May Allah purify the tongues of my parents, may Allah make them from among the righteous. May Allah grant me a good husband who doesn't cause me pain, anxiety, tears or trauma and also good in-laws that love me more than my parents. May Allah heal my heart, grant peace to my mind and grant me Shifa in my illnesses. ya Allah protect me from bad people. Ya Allah grant me a husband who doesn't backbite, slander, lie, curse, abuse, cheat or hurt anyone. Ya Allah bless me with true practicing Momin man to be my husband and make me worthy of having such spouse in my life. aameen
❤❤
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To a certain extent I hate Allah. We were commanded to maintain our relationship with our parents. I am tired of my mom. My emotions are ignored by the one who created me. I truly hate Allah.
Hey look, I understand, but blaming Allah is not gonna solve your issues. Humans have free wills. Blame those people, not Allah, he is just, remember He is gonna question your mom on the day of the judgement. Your duty is to remain respectful and control your behaviour. Again, I understand you very well. I don't have love for my parents but I have to be respectful too.
Agreed with above comment.. your mom’s behavior is her own; as for keeping relations with parents, this Imam spoke about this previously. What you owe to your parents is Salam when you see them and Eid Mubarak; that’s all that’s required for keeping relations. Anything above and beyond that is up to you; if you can mentally handle it. I’ve built resilience over time and was able to see my dad once every few years.. it was still hard but that’s all I could handle.. Allah knows our efforts and intentions best.. don’t let your mom’s behavior turn you into a human being you won’t like.. let the cycle end with you.. May Allah protect you and guide you and your mom… ❤
It is your parents , not Allah , even if u hate Allah , Allah understands why , even if u are tired of your parents remember Ayub (AS) such a heart breaking story and i am sorry that your parents made u hate Allah, that is not allowed in Islam wish u the best inshaa’Allah
Sometimes We need to take stock and reflect regarding our own life...Allah only wants the Best for His slaves...Ameen
May Allah swt soften your mother’s heart 🤲🏽🤲🏽🤲🏽
Jazaka Allah khair for your wise words and advice. May Allah rewars you. Ameen
Keep making duas