Brad Bourgeois I’m sorry to hear that. Please don’t give up on your wife while she’s given up on herself. She can do this. She needs support. Also give yourself grace. You can only do so much. You’re only human. I’m a recovering addict who’s married to a recovering addict as well and I got sober before them. It wasn’t easy to watch them deteriorate.. but I kept trying my very best to get them the help that they deserve. He’s 4 years sober now. You have my thoughts and best of luck with you and your wife. She can get through this.
To Brad: I’m sorry. My dad died and it caused me to relapse. I was clean for about 7 years. My husband is trying his best to help me. I went from heroin to alcohol. I’m sorry I know she hates how she feels and what she is putting onto you guys. Just hold on for her ❤️
God bless you don't give up on her , losing her mom obviously triggered the year long OF usage , pray and stick by her side you maybe the only consistent thing that's positive in her life GOD bless you , I KNOW it's hard to see people you love in that trap , stay supportive and loving her .
I totally understand when you say, “what comes easy doesn’t last” You right on that sis. Stay positive and balanced you are a role model for so many of us here. Thanks 🙏
In situations like this, the system (deliberately) stacks the odds against you. A case worker telling you that you were not doing enough while you were doing EVERYTHING is just infuriating
That first year is tough and it seems to get a little easier as time goes on. My daughter passed away 2 years after I became clean. I had every reason to relapse - and in fact, everyone expected me to. But I didn’t, I used her death as fuel to change my life. I may have been sober for those two years, but I was doing nothing with my life. I kept pushing somehow, and last December I graduated college, currently working on my Bachelors in Social work. I was severely depressed, waking up every morning screaming her name for 6 months, but I knew that there was a reason for it - and now as time has gone on I can see the reasoning for it all... because I am who I am today. It’s hard fighting temptation, but the reward you receive afterwards is so much bigger. If you are struggling, just hang on I promise it will get better.
That would be HARD Af to say no..esp when you were struggling so much ..says alot about your character girl. Proud of you! I'm 10.5 years clean and it would still even be hard
I'm a fellow New Yorker, Mom, Heroin Addict, with a little over 2 years clean. You are really inspiring and I have yet to find another youtuber who is as completely real and honest about the struggle of the mind involved with this disease and how hard certain times in recovery are. I feel like I've spent the last 2 years trying to catch up and had to learn how to catch up and move forward all at the same time. lol Which isn't easy when you have no idea who you even are! I'm back in college to get my bachelor's in Psychology in Addictions so I'm better able to help others, and I will definitely be showing your videos and continuously supporting you. Thank you for being you.
You take You everywhere you go (Jessica Kent, 2019). Words of wisdom right there :). Anyway, what you do is awesome and also, I love this intro :) Good job on that one :) Take care.
“You take you wherever you go” Damn thanks Jessica that really hit me and I️ needed that. I️ keep thinking I️ need to move away from here and it’ll all be good..... ehhh wrong
You're so strong. I'm not an alcoholic, but I can relate to the awkwardness of having to be around people who drink when you know that you are a person that needs to not drink. I believe that your positive message of hope is reaching so many people. Keep doing what you're doing!
Jessica Kent thank you for replying!! My gf and I are both struggling. We’ve made a conscious decision to finally stop the bullshit and get our lives together. It’s hard, but it’s soooo worth it!
WE ARE ONE omg. No ones ever sent me love and light before. I’m always the one sending it! Thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU!! Sending it right back at you love ❤️ your username made me all fuzzy inside. If no ones ever told you this, allow me to be the first to say that although I dk AT ALL, you’re a dope ass soul.
WE ARE ONE your messages have made me quite emotional in a good way though. No one knows the struggle I’ve been thru mostly due to the shame associated with addiction. The only one that knows is my partner who was also in the struggle with me. We both refuse to go back to the shit that made us hate ourselves and our lives. You’re right-yesterday is in the past. We just have to take it one day at a time. Addiction is something no one understands unless they’ve been thru it themselves. Thank you for understanding.
I’m 19 years old and I am truly inspired by all of the videos you post, you seem like a beautiful individual inside and out and even though I don’t know you I feel so proud of how far you have come! Keep going girl! ☺️ x
So I came here from a buzzfeed video featuring one of your prison recipes, and I found myself scrolling through your content and clicking on this video first. I''ve never been in prison, quite the opposite; I work in criminal justice, and I have to say this video really opened my eyes and helped me understand a point of view that I have never stood from. This can really help people understand how family members with a checkered past struggle and how they can develop some empathy that is so very lacking for ex felons. Keep doing what you're doing, I think this kind of content is so important.
Love that you did this particular video. You've mentioned these things in other videos, but this topic was very clear. The transitions you had to deal with and constant decision making is what led to you turning your life around. For anyone struggling in this phase, this video, I'm sure is very helpful. ✊🏼❤️
Might want to screenshot this cuz this may be the absolute best comment section on TH-cam... Sincere and caring people sharing advice and motivation to inspire others who are struggling through addiction, pain and life.. this is what community means. People helping people because they care about people. There world needs more of yall.
Found your channel just a few days ago, and I am hooked. I for one have never been even close to that world, but you're one hell of a story teller. Could listen to you all day long. Keep fighting (and that goes for not only Jess but for everyone out there). Love from Sweden.
Lol yeah the geographical change never works, tried that too. 4 years sober and I still have stupid shit run through my head. I look at my son and remember how I had NOTHING and NO ONE. My life now is all I could have ever asked for and I'll be damned if I ever mess that up. Love you Jess and love your message💕❤
I listened to many stories about addiction but have never seen it explained as well as you explain it. My son is an addict who has been in and out of jail and prison for the last 10 years. I’m learning so much from you. Thanks for sharing your story.
I cant imagine the triggers or desire u faced. I quit smoking in 1990 and still to these day I still crave to smoke. In fact just the other day, my neighbor was smoking on the porch and I went over just to inhale 2nd hand smoke. I know it sounds ridiculous but so true.
j pepper I’m the exact same way I quit smoking 3 years ago this past week and people think I’m crazy as hell for loving the smell of any tobacco and I still have cravings every once in a while too
Thank you for sharing your journey. As a parent that has a Daughter in prison right now She loves the fact that she's been sober for 10 months. Your videos help our family to help her make this transition from prison back into societee and I thank you so much for your sharing with us
I'm not an addict. I've never even had a drink but... I work with addicts and your channel means so much to me simply because it allows me to better understand my patients in a way that they may not yet feel comfortable
You say so much in your videos that people in sobriety need to hear. I wish I had a friend like you when I was changing my lifestyle and getting away from partying. Each of your videos is a gift of motivation, strength and support to any addict or person on recovery who sees it. Love your channel, love your work, and love you girl!
Out of all of the TH-camrs I've watched grow, you're the only one who has stayed the same. You didn't start putting tons of ads on your videos when you got bigger, your content has stayed the same, and you're just as real as before. You're amazing girl and so inspiring!!! Hope you have a great New Year's!! ❤
YES INTRO!! also i 100% get what your saying. i was addicted to pot (not H or M but still) and it TOOK OVER MY LIFE for 10 years. after quitting i still have so much temptation every day. i LOVE the smell to this day and remember when i first quit the first month i smelt weed EVERYWHERE even at my banking job. and literally i’d have to talk to myself into reminding myself the life i want versus the life I had. It’s not easy and it still happens but like you said it’s worth it, even when there’s struggle. SOBER GANG lol
As someone whos binge watched and re watched almost every single video of yours, your story after prison inspires me the most. It makes me realize how blessed i am that dealing wasnt even an option in my area and life. Unbelievably grateful to have stumbled upon you MONTHS ago. Thank you Jess for deterring another 19 yr old from taking that path
Jess you made me laugh when you did the Christina “da da da da” thing haha! I love listening to your stories and learning what you have gone through and how far you have come!
A SOBER, healthy, and happy 2020 to you, Reese, your girls, and ALL of your followers. 366 days, one at a time. 💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜
Dear Jess, I'm a former Wisconsin CO / Sergeant. 1 day after my official last day with the DOC, was when I was arrested and got my OWI charge. I've subscribed, and watched almost every video you have posted, I also have a new TH-cam channel with a garbage first video! I just want you to know that I love what you are doing. This is all so good. For former inmates, and CO'S alike, it so beautiful to hear you talk bluntly, and honestly, about what you know/ experienced. I took the job thinking I would make a difference, I took pride in the relationships I built, I believe I made a difference to maybe 10% of the population I served, but I know how absolutely awful the prison system is, so I know that no matter what I said while I worked, these inmates had a lot more hours of negative influence, so, recidivism. If ya ever wanna reach out to talk about my experience with the Wisconsin DOC (I worked in a max, and then the states intake prison) I'll gladly chat with you. I love what you're doing. Keep it up, stay sober, be proud. You're changing lives, Much love, Jimmy
I am very proud of you and your determination to get your daughter back and your sober life. Your channel helps so many people. The people that say hateful things to you are the ones that have problems and are jealous of your success. I am a retired law enforcement officer and spent over 12 years working narcotics. I wish some of the people I dealt with turned out as successful as you.
You are honest and brave Jessica. You are a beautiful sole, and it comes through in your face and eyes. Keep speaking your truth. It is encouraging AF!
This was a great video. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. Micah truly saved you. I’m so proud of you and even more proud that you swallow your pride and share all this with us! You are amazing and I love you! Thank you!
You share your soul with others to help them... I can see the pain written on your face with these trips to your past. You walk through your triggers to help others deal with theirs. You should know that what you are doing is an awesome thing. Devoting your life to others adds back to your soul the pieces that addiction took. Every day you walk the road you are on is a win. For you and the people you are helping. Thank you Jessica.
So much truth in this video. Especially the thing about being sober not being one but thousands of small desicions to do right. Swimming is a good metaphor for it, it takes constant sustained effort and Will but also know how, coordination etc. And the moment you stop swimming, even if you’ve been doing it for years, you sink.
That would be so hard to deal with. Glad you are a strong woman and got through it. I have had some hard situations to get through myself and it was difficult but i made it. You help me get through every day and be strong and wake up every morning believing there is hope. Thanks Jess for being there for me. Love you girl.
*i just love listening to Jess. I’ve been there, I’ve felt that pain. I struggle every day to stay sober and be the best mum I can. But she’s right, I’m about to graduate with an honours degree in psychology and I’m making a great life for my son and I. It’s possible, the only way you can fail is if you give up!*
Congratulations on getting to where you are today & resisting the temptation to slip back into the bad stuff. Bless all the people who helped you along the way.
I watched this video last night just because I love your channel. I’ve personally never struggled with addiction, but your channel has made me more sympathetic to those that have. My cousin who recently got sober (yay! Let’s celebrate that for a moment!) just posted about how she feels left out now that she’s sober and that no one wants to talk to her. I just sent her this video hoping it can help her. I can’t believe I never thought of doing this before because you both have had some similar struggles in life. I really hope this will help her. Chanelle, if you’re reading this, just know I love you and I’m rooting for you even if we’re distant cousins and have only met a handful of times. I know we all want the best for you. ❤️
"You take you with you....everywhere you go" That is simple....and profound. Damn. Love your channel Jessica. You do good work on here with your testimonials. Thank you for sharing with us.
I JUST subscribed. This channel caught me totally off guard. This is the first of its kind. Thank you so much for sharing your life and opening up to us. I grew up and witnessed as an outsider the '80s crack epidemic on the west coast. Three words: OH.MY.GOD. The only comparison I had to that was WW Z or Another 28 days. I had seen this as an outsider. I have never heard from the position going through these changes and what brought them there. I just knew I was scared as hell of drugs and the users but I didn't realise how scared they were. So thank you for opening up this world to us and also showing that change can/does happen.
I was sober for 200+ days but with the holidays, I relapsed twice within the past 2 weeks. Dabbling back into my old habits made me remember why I chose to be sober. It only furthered my commitment to stay sober all of 2020 and if all goes well, the rest of my life! It is a struggle sometimes!
“I will have everyone begging me to stop partying once I flip that switch,” - bruhhh that was me. People still to this day do not understand my alcohol sobriety; “just have a drink, it’s a celebration!” ...but if I were to have one, I would have all of them, and then yes, you would very much regret my presence.
I was going to ask if you went to meetings. Like then and now. Guess I don't have to ask that now. And dude I really hope you're proud of yourself. I mean first year out and having so many temptations. I don't know if I would have been that strong. I also hope you realise how many people you help on here. Life is fucking tough but seeing someone go through all the horrible shit you have been through and come out the other side a strong amazing woman/mother/girlfriend/friend/ daughter etc. You deserve a medal. You really do. You are someone that people look up to now. I bet you didn't think that you'd be in this position 10 plus years ago. You're truly an inspiration. Sorry just had to let you know in case some days you may forget or not realise the positive impact you have on people now. You're a rockstar. Xx
Girl, I know all to well about that temptation!! Me, my fiance, and our daughter packed up our car and moved from Louisiana to Pennsylvania, then to Maryland.....we have been sober for 6 years now!! P.S. I don't think I've seen someone as strong willed as you, good for you girl!! You are a amazing person!!
You kind of remind me of Anne Shirley from "Anne with an e" and I absolutely love it! Thank you for your videos, I'm new to your channel and I'm so happy I found it. I'm one year younger than you, struggling with different but equally severe problems and you give me hope and remind me of my own strength. Thank you, God bless you and have a wonderful New Year's! ♡
Girl you are impressive. I’ve been very lucky in my life. I started watching your videos because of dear friends with a son in and out of prison because of drugs. I continue to watch because I admire your ability to persevere.
I love your honesty! I struggled with addiction(s) for many years. I literally dropped my clothes, and checked myself into a psych ward. My parents offered to pay for rehab, but it's voluntary.
I needed this video. Its hard to explain why id sometimes rather go back to the most miserable time of my life. Love you and your videos. Your recovery is truly inspiring
What comes easy doesnt last....I love that. And wow thats amazing that you stuck towards your goals and refused to go back to your old ways no matter how "easy" all that temptation seemed. Def paid off, thanks for sharing
You help me so much, Jess. I’m in active addiction right now and I needed this video. I love watching your videos because day by day you do help me in so many ways. I aspire to live a life you have now.
It takes 100% dedication to stay sober & have a life of recovery. It really is the BEST life ever & worth every hurdle jumped and every year cried. Keep it positive girl ⭐️❤️
Damn. I so appreciate your content, Jess. I grew up very sheltered, and now I work at a school with students who have either been in similar situations or their parents have. This content helps me to better understand the community I serve. I so appreciate your openness to share and wish you all the best in the new year!
I've been really struggling in my faith and my ability to say no to the wrong people. It's so hard to resist human interaction when you're only surrounded by the wrong people. You're right, it does make you feel like a recluse sometimes. I know it's not the same as what you went through, but hearing you say all of that really really helps. thank you.
You are such a good person and always give hope to people. I’m a recovering heroin addict my mom always told me the fights not over until it’s over! Love you Jess 😘😘
I know your videos are primarily about addiction, but the same mentality has helped me personally with other mental problems that affect me. To be vague I have a mood disorder that prevents me from taking care of myself and creates delusions. It feels impossible at times to push myself to seek help from others and maintain recovery because of it. The temptation to return to that dark place where I *think* that I’m comfortable is hard to reject. Thank you for your videos. Thank you for helping me realize there is no hole too deep to climb out of. I hope you know that you’re helping a wider audience than those specifically struggling with addiction/law. ❤️
I'm so happy you didn't fall back into your old lifestyle. Your story is inspirational for a couple of reasons: 1) You're very pretty, and it's so easy to think that physically beautiful people have it made, but you illustrate that there's so much more to people than what they look like. 2) more importantly, you show that it's possible to battle these demons and win. Thank you for baring your soul on TH-cam. I know that you are helping people. Especially those of us who aren't addicts to understand the addicts in our lives. ❤
so many of the struggles you face with addiction, reminds me of my own eating disorder. i know this is made from the perspective of falling back into the addiction lifestyle, it fits mine so perfectly. i started watching these videos because i was curious, but it’s so odd to feel them helping me along my journey
avionmember101 me too!! Anorexia for 10+ years, now (semi) recovered, but sometimes when she talks about her struggle with addiction it reminds me so much of how I sometimes struggle to not fall back into this hell!
Hey i understand and support your movement. Dont give up. Ive been to prison 10 years ago. I never returned. The system is stacked against you but you have to remain. Positive and keep pushing.
Your daughters love the daylights out of you now, but the day that you sit down with them and have THAT conversation of all that you went through, they're gonna walk through a whole new realm of respect for you. You're freaking HARD CORE, honey. You were tested so many times but you overcame it all. Ist Corinthians 10:13. Thank you for being you and God bless you all!
Every day we have to go over the pros and cons of staying sober or staying addicted, its a day by day process and sometimes some days are tougher than others to get by and stay sober. Just remember all the pain we caused ourselves,our kids, and our family, usually that is enough to WANT to stay clean and add another day of sobriety to our calendar. Happy New Years Jessica and family.!!2020.
I just love you. Your strength and perseverance is such an inspiration. Many people would have folded under those circumstances!! You have a mighty soul, heart, and mind!
thank you for sharing your story! With each video, I understand more some of the struggles my son went through. Iwant to help him, but he has to want it. It makes my heart sink knowing I can't help my own child. You have given me a better understanding of some of his problems. I will be approaching him in a much better way when he gets released. Sorry, I am writing so much on your videos. I never had anyone to talk to that would understand.
You are so awesome! That's some power of will there! If you can handle this situation on your own, without any kind of substance that would fuzz your mind then you can handle anything 😁 it is tempting to use something to make our life easier for a while...but as soon as it's gone we are back at the same situation without a solution to solve it.
I can totally relate to you. Everything I went through was similar. What I was taught was "Every good thing, will come to an end. Some last longer than others. But if it's truly meant to be, you will have it again." Doing things the right way, takes time. That has taught me to appreciate Everything Even More.
You are absolutely correct with that it is easy to give up. We all have struggles in our lives and the way is to keep on fighting, keep on running til you get to your goal. You can take small steps and with endurance or perseverance you will get to your goal, you are going to win. You can analyse what you have now and make a practical plan and stick to your plan or strategy.
Your story is so inspiring..I’ve been clean for 49 days and it’s a struggle but not near what you went through .. this gives me motivation that everything will work out if I have faith and just don’t give up💕
So proud of your journey! Watching these videos really helps to remind me that I can move past my temptations, thank you for sharing your stories, Jess!
Very powerful video. I hope many people see this. You are living proof there is a beautiful life awaiting those who doubt that is possible for them. Keep up the good work Jessica.
To be clear, moving away from all your connects and the place where all of your experiences revolved around drugs, makes it A LOT easier to stay sober. I've been sober over 4 years and I know without a doubt that I couldn't have done it without moving far away from my old town. Of course, you can find drugs anywhere, but the more you do to purposely make it harder on yourself, the better. Great video!
i love how positive jess is about all of this. Im 13 and addiction runs in both sides of my family and i have always been terrfied of getting addicted to things as simple as advil (yes i know that sounds crazy) but both my grandfathers and my father were acholics. i really appreciate jess shining light on something my family would never talk about and now i know what to avoid. so thank you jess 💕
There is always more to your story to learn. Can't believe baby daddy's sister moved in with you. How hard that must have been to live with people partying. I love your willpower. So hard to "opt out" of the party when it is right there too. It's so nice when I finally got past the urges to drink. It took more than 2 years for that so KEEP PUSHING PEOPLE! Love ya Jess and all the Ride or Dies here. HAPPY NEW YEAR NEW YOU!
I am so very proud of you Jessica. I am clean but all I constantly think about is giving myself another OD because I don't believe I will be saved twice. My self-hatred is extreme and deserved.
Happy New Year. Thank you for sharing your honesty. You have so much to be proud of. I have been afraid of getting into trouble my entire life. I never broke the law, I do have family and friends struggling with addiction. My addiction is Nicotine. I can't stop vaping. I have serious PTSD due to childhood trauma and I could have easily gone down the same road. I have been tempted. I support you and your subscribers. My Service Dog supports me. With Love.
OMG, when u mentioned that about what that DHS worker said. I had flashbacks. The EXACT same thing happened 2 me, but I Didn't give in I keep fighting and when I won (best feeling in the world) she had the nerve 2 come up 2 me & say "I knew u could do it" & want a hug!!! Unbelievable right I just turned around & left. Thanx Jessica 4 starting this channel. Sometimes people just need 2 know there not alone. Sending lots of love 2 u & ur family. Have a wonderful & safe New Year.💜
Thank you so much for continuing to share your stories and things you’ve learned with us, it’s keeping me straight and conscious of my actions and consequences. THANK YOU.
same here, my bf and i have made some positive changes this past year to help us onto the path of sobriety so to speak. we moved away from our town and toxic "friends," but the final step is literally checking into detox. we come so close, we've called and gotten all of our shit together for it. it's just that final leap, we keep finding reasons to put it off. some are legitimate, most are bullshit. we can't keep living like this, we're in a terrible limbo. my family helps us get what we need and we hustle here and there, but it's the first time in my life i've ever been unemployed, and it's been about nine months. it makes me feel like complete and utter garbage to know we're mooching off my family. we do things to help my mom but it's not enough. she is so unbelievably supportive of us and her love is genuinely unconditional. she deserves a sober and self reliant daughter/son-in-law. blah anyway, just know that i know how you feel and i'm rooting for you so hard. and i keep telling myself that any change in regards to achieving sobriety is a positive thing, no matter how small.
rachel zuckett I’ve been where you are. Check into treatment. That’s what has to happen and you both know it. Life is so much better and brighter on the clean side. I’ve been clean and sober for 7 months now and I have a good job (for the first time in years), I’ve mended the relationships with my family. And I had to leave the 5 year relationship I was in. I’ve never seen 2 people use together then get clean together, your running buddy can be a big trigger. Put YOURSELF first.
I’ve never been addicted to drugs (although i smoke weed just not addictively) but im extremely addicted to self harm, i haven’t cut in nearly a year but its been a constant battle over 5 years to not do it, relapses and all. your story really helps me figure out ways to not cut. Thank you for inspiring me Jessica ❤️
Thank you! I needed to hear this today im fighting my own battle and i know its sooo hard to not give up! Some days i have to take it moment by moment and just keep making good choices! Love u girl! Ride or die!
My wife was clean for almost 11 years, her mother's death caused her to relapse. It's been over a year and I'm still trying to help her recover.
Brad Bourgeois I’m sorry to hear that. Please don’t give up on your wife while she’s given up on herself. She can do this. She needs support. Also give yourself grace. You can only do so much. You’re only human. I’m a recovering addict who’s married to a recovering addict as well and I got sober before them. It wasn’t easy to watch them deteriorate.. but I kept trying my very best to get them the help that they deserve. He’s 4 years sober now. You have my thoughts and best of luck with you and your wife. She can get through this.
@@ladyk777 Thanks, it's been very difficult at times, but she has been improving. Hopefully she'll be able to get through this.
To Brad:
I’m sorry. My dad died and it caused me to relapse. I was clean for about 7 years. My husband is trying his best to help me. I went from heroin to alcohol. I’m sorry I know she hates how she feels and what she is putting onto you guys. Just hold on for her ❤️
Your wife is lucky to have you supporting her. Best of luck to both of you ❤🇬🇧
God bless you don't give up on her , losing her mom obviously triggered the year long OF usage , pray and stick by her side you maybe the only consistent thing that's positive in her life GOD bless you , I KNOW it's hard to see people you love in that trap , stay supportive and loving her .
I totally understand when you say, “what comes easy doesn’t last”
You right on that sis.
Stay positive and balanced you are a role model for so many of us here. Thanks 🙏
#FACTS 🙏🙏💯💯💯
Absolutely!!!
It’s always difficult when your old life calls.
Brought me to tears with this one because I relate so much. Having a hard morning thanks for this
Sorry you had a bad morning. Hope the rest of the day was better. Keep plugging away at it. Good luck.
In situations like this, the system (deliberately) stacks the odds against you. A case worker telling you that you were not doing enough while you were doing EVERYTHING is just infuriating
That first year is tough and it seems to get a little easier as time goes on. My daughter passed away 2 years after I became clean. I had every reason to relapse - and in fact, everyone expected me to. But I didn’t, I used her death as fuel to change my life. I may have been sober for those two years, but I was doing nothing with my life. I kept pushing somehow, and last December I graduated college, currently working on my Bachelors in Social work. I was severely depressed, waking up every morning screaming her name for 6 months, but I knew that there was a reason for it - and now as time has gone on I can see the reasoning for it all... because I am who I am today. It’s hard fighting temptation, but the reward you receive afterwards is so much bigger. If you are struggling, just hang on I promise it will get better.
I like the clean mom that stops at nothing to do right by their children,it's called being responsible ,well done Jess
That would be HARD Af to say no..esp when you were struggling so much ..says alot about your character girl. Proud of you!
I'm 10.5 years clean and it would still even be hard
Heighton 720 10.5 years!!! Wow!!! I can not wait to be able to say that❤️❤️❤️Congrats to you and your hard asssss work I’m sure!!😊👍🏼
I'm so so so so so proud of you for 10+ years sober ♥ sending you love
I'm a fellow New Yorker, Mom, Heroin Addict, with a little over 2 years clean. You are really inspiring and I have yet to find another youtuber who is as completely real and honest about the struggle of the mind involved with this disease and how hard certain times in recovery are. I feel like I've spent the last 2 years trying to catch up and had to learn how to catch up and move forward all at the same time. lol Which isn't easy when you have no idea who you even are! I'm back in college to get my bachelor's in Psychology in Addictions so I'm better able to help others, and I will definitely be showing your videos and continuously supporting you. Thank you for being you.
You take You everywhere you go (Jessica Kent, 2019). Words of wisdom right there :). Anyway, what you do is awesome and also, I love this intro :) Good job on that one :) Take care.
My dad always said that
it's a super commonly used rehab/na catchphrase lol. no shade on jess, just sayin she didn't make that up.
And I’ve often told my peeps “you are going to take YOU wherever you go so change YOU first” you go girl!
“You take you wherever you go” Damn thanks Jessica that really hit me and I️ needed that. I️ keep thinking I️ need to move away from here and it’ll all be good..... ehhh wrong
Go to a meeting they will tell you that 10 times every hour.
You're so strong. I'm not an alcoholic, but I can relate to the awkwardness of having to be around people who drink when you know that you are a person that needs to not drink. I believe that your positive message of hope is reaching so many people. Keep doing what you're doing!
I needed a video like this. I’m struggling with demons myself and you inspire me to keep trucking. Thank you Jess
Keep fighting 🖤💪
Jessica Kent thank you for replying!! My gf and I are both struggling. We’ve made a conscious decision to finally stop the bullshit and get our lives together. It’s hard, but it’s soooo worth it!
WE ARE ONE omg. No ones ever sent me love and light before. I’m always the one sending it! Thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU!! Sending it right back at you love ❤️ your username made me all fuzzy inside. If no ones ever told you this, allow me to be the first to say that although I dk AT ALL, you’re a dope ass soul.
WE ARE ONE your messages have made me quite emotional in a good way though. No one knows the struggle I’ve been thru mostly due to the shame associated with addiction. The only one that knows is my partner who was also in the struggle with me. We both refuse to go back to the shit that made us hate ourselves and our lives. You’re right-yesterday is in the past. We just have to take it one day at a time. Addiction is something no one understands unless they’ve been thru it themselves. Thank you for understanding.
Same. She keeps me sane.
Jess I love your honesty so much, words cannot describe! Thank you for being you and sharing your journey🖤🖤🖤
I’m 19 years old and I am truly inspired by all of the videos you post, you seem like a beautiful individual inside and out and even though I don’t know you I feel so proud of how far you have come! Keep going girl! ☺️ x
So I came here from a buzzfeed video featuring one of your prison recipes, and I found myself scrolling through your content and clicking on this video first. I''ve never been in prison, quite the opposite; I work in criminal justice, and I have to say this video really opened my eyes and helped me understand a point of view that I have never stood from. This can really help people understand how family members with a checkered past struggle and how they can develop some empathy that is so very lacking for ex felons. Keep doing what you're doing, I think this kind of content is so important.
Love that you did this particular video. You've mentioned these things in other videos, but this topic was very clear. The transitions you had to deal with and constant decision making is what led to you turning your life around. For anyone struggling in this phase, this video, I'm sure is very helpful. ✊🏼❤️
“What comes easy never lasts.” I’m taking this quote to heart. Thank you. 🖤
IM OBSESSED WITH THE NEW INTRO!!!💕💕
Omg this is the earliest I've ever been!! I really needed some Jess in my life today because it's been a tough one.
Pollie Catherine Shackelford I feel ya, girl.
Might want to screenshot this cuz this may be the absolute best comment section on TH-cam... Sincere and caring people sharing advice and motivation to inspire others who are struggling through addiction, pain and life.. this is what community means. People helping people because they care about people. There world needs more of yall.
Found your channel just a few days ago, and I am hooked. I for one have never been even close to that world, but you're one hell of a story teller. Could listen to you all day long. Keep fighting (and that goes for not only Jess but for everyone out there). Love from Sweden.
Lol yeah the geographical change never works, tried that too. 4 years sober and I still have stupid shit run through my head. I look at my son and remember how I had NOTHING and NO ONE. My life now is all I could have ever asked for and I'll be damned if I ever mess that up. Love you Jess and love your message💕❤
I listened to many stories about addiction but have never seen it explained as well as you explain it. My son is an addict who has been in and out of jail and prison for the last 10 years. I’m learning so much from you. Thanks for sharing your story.
I cant imagine the triggers or desire u faced. I quit smoking in 1990 and still to these day I still crave to smoke. In fact just the other day, my neighbor was smoking on the porch and I went over just to inhale 2nd hand smoke. I know it sounds ridiculous but so true.
j pepper I’m the exact same way I quit smoking 3 years ago this past week and people think I’m crazy as hell for loving the smell of any tobacco and I still have cravings every once in a while too
Thank you for sharing your journey. As a parent that has a Daughter in prison right now She loves the fact that she's been sober for 10 months. Your videos help our family to help her make this transition from prison back into societee and I thank you so much for your sharing with us
I'm not an addict. I've never even had a drink but... I work with addicts and your channel means so much to me simply because it allows me to better understand my patients in a way that they may not yet feel comfortable
You say so much in your videos that people in sobriety need to hear. I wish I had a friend like you when I was changing my lifestyle and getting away from partying. Each of your videos is a gift of motivation, strength and support to any addict or person on recovery who sees it. Love your channel, love your work, and love you girl!
you’re so strong jessica!! keep it up. you are an example to many of how great sobriety is
Out of all of the TH-camrs I've watched grow, you're the only one who has stayed the same. You didn't start putting tons of ads on your videos when you got bigger, your content has stayed the same, and you're just as real as before. You're amazing girl and so inspiring!!! Hope you have a great New Year's!! ❤
You have no idea how much I needed to hear this right now
YES INTRO!! also i 100% get what your saying. i was addicted to pot (not H or M but still) and it TOOK OVER MY LIFE for 10 years. after quitting i still have so much temptation every day. i LOVE the smell to this day and remember when i first quit the first month i smelt weed EVERYWHERE even at my banking job. and literally i’d have to talk to myself into reminding myself the life i want versus the life I had. It’s not easy and it still happens but like you said it’s worth it, even when there’s struggle. SOBER GANG lol
Her journey is soo hard and she keeps goin she is really inspiring and so so strong!!!!
I wish you the best for you and all your family.
this is by far one of my favorite of your videos. you are such an inspiration to anyone with any background. this message should be heard by all
The more hurdles you have on your road to success, the more impact and a stronger statement your current success makes. You are an inspiration. 👍😍
As someone whos binge watched and re watched almost every single video of yours, your story after prison inspires me the most. It makes me realize how blessed i am that dealing wasnt even an option in my area and life. Unbelievably grateful to have stumbled upon you MONTHS ago. Thank you Jess for deterring another 19 yr old from taking that path
Proud of you, happy new year from Essex UK from a huge fan and admire of yours xx
Jess you made me laugh when you did the Christina “da da da da” thing haha! I love listening to your stories and learning what you have gone through and how far you have come!
A SOBER, healthy, and happy 2020 to you, Reese, your girls, and ALL of your followers. 366 days, one at a time.
💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜⭐️💙💜
Dear Jess,
I'm a former Wisconsin CO / Sergeant.
1 day after my official last day with the DOC, was when I was arrested and got my OWI charge.
I've subscribed, and watched almost every video you have posted, I also have a new TH-cam channel with a garbage first video!
I just want you to know that I love what you are doing. This is all so good. For former inmates, and CO'S alike, it so beautiful to hear you talk bluntly, and honestly, about what you know/ experienced.
I took the job thinking I would make a difference, I took pride in the relationships I built, I believe I made a difference to maybe 10% of the population I served, but I know how absolutely awful the prison system is, so I know that no matter what I said while I worked, these inmates had a lot more hours of negative influence, so, recidivism.
If ya ever wanna reach out to talk about my experience with the Wisconsin DOC (I worked in a max, and then the states intake prison) I'll gladly chat with you.
I love what you're doing. Keep it up, stay sober, be proud.
You're changing lives,
Much love,
Jimmy
I am very proud of you and your determination to get your daughter back and your sober life. Your channel helps so many people. The people that say hateful things to you are the ones that have problems and are jealous of your success. I am a retired law enforcement officer and spent over 12 years working narcotics. I wish some of the people I dealt with turned out as successful as you.
You are honest and brave Jessica. You are a beautiful sole, and it comes through in your face and eyes. Keep speaking your truth. It is encouraging AF!
This was a great video. I can’t imagine what you’ve been through. Micah truly saved you. I’m so proud of you and even more proud that you swallow your pride and share all this with us! You are amazing and I love you! Thank you!
You share your soul with others to help them...
I can see the pain written on your face with these trips to your past.
You walk through your triggers to help others deal with theirs.
You should know that what you are doing is an awesome thing.
Devoting your life to others adds back to your soul the pieces that addiction took.
Every day you walk the road you are on is a win.
For you and the people you are helping.
Thank you Jessica.
So much truth in this video. Especially the thing about being sober not being one but thousands of small desicions to do right.
Swimming is a good metaphor for it, it takes constant sustained effort and Will but also know how, coordination etc. And the moment you stop swimming, even if you’ve been doing it for years, you sink.
That would be so hard to deal with. Glad you are a strong woman and got through it. I have had some hard situations to get through myself and it was difficult but i made it. You help me get through every day and be strong and wake up every morning believing there is hope. Thanks Jess for being there for me. Love you girl.
*i just love listening to Jess. I’ve been there, I’ve felt that pain. I struggle every day to stay sober and be the best mum I can. But she’s right, I’m about to graduate with an honours degree in psychology and I’m making a great life for my son and I. It’s possible, the only way you can fail is if you give up!*
Congratulations on getting to where you are today & resisting the temptation to slip back into the bad stuff. Bless all the people who helped you along the way.
I watched this video last night just because I love your channel. I’ve personally never struggled with addiction, but your channel has made me more sympathetic to those that have. My cousin who recently got sober (yay! Let’s celebrate that for a moment!) just posted about how she feels left out now that she’s sober and that no one wants to talk to her. I just sent her this video hoping it can help her. I can’t believe I never thought of doing this before because you both have had some similar struggles in life. I really hope this will help her. Chanelle, if you’re reading this, just know I love you and I’m rooting for you even if we’re distant cousins and have only met a handful of times. I know we all want the best for you. ❤️
"You take you with you....everywhere you go" That is simple....and profound. Damn. Love your channel Jessica. You do good work on here with your testimonials. Thank you for sharing with us.
I JUST subscribed. This channel caught me totally off guard. This is the first of its kind. Thank you so much for sharing your life and opening up to us. I grew up and witnessed as an outsider the '80s crack epidemic on the west coast. Three words: OH.MY.GOD. The only comparison I had to that was WW Z or Another 28 days.
I had seen this as an outsider. I have never heard from the position going through these changes and what brought them there. I just knew I was scared as hell of drugs and the users but I didn't realise how scared they were. So thank you for opening up this world to us and also showing that change can/does happen.
I seen a lady in the Bellevue square mall yesterday wearing yellow a bee kind sweatshirt!
You are so inspirational, Jess! I found your videos by accident, but now I'm completely obsessed. You go, girl!
I was sober for 200+ days but with the holidays, I relapsed twice within the past 2 weeks. Dabbling back into my old habits made me remember why I chose to be sober. It only furthered my commitment to stay sober all of 2020 and if all goes well, the rest of my life! It is a struggle sometimes!
“I will have everyone begging me to stop partying once I flip that switch,” - bruhhh that was me. People still to this day do not understand my alcohol sobriety; “just have a drink, it’s a celebration!” ...but if I were to have one, I would have all of them, and then yes, you would very much regret my presence.
I was going to ask if you went to meetings. Like then and now. Guess I don't have to ask that now. And dude I really hope you're proud of yourself. I mean first year out and having so many temptations. I don't know if I would have been that strong. I also hope you realise how many people you help on here. Life is fucking tough but seeing someone go through all the horrible shit you have been through and come out the other side a strong amazing woman/mother/girlfriend/friend/ daughter etc. You deserve a medal. You really do. You are someone that people look up to now. I bet you didn't think that you'd be in this position 10 plus years ago. You're truly an inspiration. Sorry just had to let you know in case some days you may forget or not realise the positive impact you have on people now. You're a rockstar. Xx
Girl, I know all to well about that temptation!! Me, my fiance, and our daughter packed up our car and moved from Louisiana to Pennsylvania, then to Maryland.....we have been sober for 6 years now!!
P.S. I don't think I've seen someone as strong willed as you, good for you girl!! You are a amazing person!!
God you are so strong! I love your videos because you are so honest and raw. ❤️
You kind of remind me of Anne Shirley from "Anne with an e" and I absolutely love it!
Thank you for your videos, I'm new to your channel and I'm so happy I found it. I'm one year younger than you, struggling with different but equally severe problems and you give me hope and remind me of my own strength. Thank you, God bless you and have a wonderful New Year's! ♡
Girl you are impressive. I’ve been very lucky in my life. I started watching your videos because of dear friends with a son in and out of prison because of drugs. I continue to watch because I admire your ability to persevere.
I love your honesty! I struggled with addiction(s) for many years. I literally dropped my clothes, and checked myself into a psych ward. My parents offered to pay for rehab, but it's voluntary.
I needed this video. Its hard to explain why id sometimes rather go back to the most miserable time of my life. Love you and your videos. Your recovery is truly inspiring
What comes easy doesnt last....I love that. And wow thats amazing that you stuck towards your goals and refused to go back to your old ways no matter how "easy" all that temptation seemed. Def paid off, thanks for sharing
You help me so much, Jess. I’m in active addiction right now and I needed this video. I love watching your videos because day by day you do help me in so many ways. I aspire to live a life you have now.
It takes 100% dedication to stay sober & have a life of recovery. It really is the BEST life ever & worth every hurdle jumped and every year cried. Keep it positive girl ⭐️❤️
Damn. I so appreciate your content, Jess. I grew up very sheltered, and now I work at a school with students who have either been in similar situations or their parents have. This content helps me to better understand the community I serve. I so appreciate your openness to share and wish you all the best in the new year!
I've been really struggling in my faith and my ability to say no to the wrong people. It's so hard to resist human interaction when you're only surrounded by the wrong people. You're right, it does make you feel like a recluse sometimes. I know it's not the same as what you went through, but hearing you say all of that really really helps. thank you.
You are such a good person and always give hope to people. I’m a recovering heroin addict my mom always told me the fights not over until it’s over! Love you Jess 😘😘
I know your videos are primarily about addiction, but the same mentality has helped me personally with other mental problems that affect me. To be vague I have a mood disorder that prevents me from taking care of myself and creates delusions. It feels impossible at times to push myself to seek help from others and maintain recovery because of it. The temptation to return to that dark place where I *think* that I’m comfortable is hard to reject. Thank you for your videos. Thank you for helping me realize there is no hole too deep to climb out of. I hope you know that you’re helping a wider audience than those specifically struggling with addiction/law. ❤️
I'm so happy you didn't fall back into your old lifestyle.
Your story is inspirational for a couple of reasons: 1) You're very pretty, and it's so easy to think that physically beautiful people have it made, but you illustrate that there's so much more to people than what they look like. 2) more importantly, you show that it's possible to battle these demons and win.
Thank you for baring your soul on TH-cam. I know that you are helping people. Especially those of us who aren't addicts to understand the addicts in our lives. ❤
Love that intro girl! 🤍
You. Are. A. Boss. - So much respect and admiration. Love you Jess.
so many of the struggles you face with addiction, reminds me of my own eating disorder. i know this is made from the perspective of falling back into the addiction lifestyle, it fits mine so perfectly. i started watching these videos because i was curious, but it’s so odd to feel them helping me along my journey
avionmember101 me too!! Anorexia for 10+ years, now (semi) recovered, but sometimes when she talks about her struggle with addiction it reminds me so much of how I sometimes struggle to not fall back into this hell!
Hey i understand and support your movement. Dont give up. Ive been to prison 10 years ago. I never returned. The system is stacked against you but you have to remain. Positive and keep pushing.
Your daughters love the daylights out of you now, but the day that you sit down with them and have THAT conversation of all that you went through, they're gonna walk through a whole new realm of respect for you. You're freaking HARD CORE, honey. You were tested so many times but you overcame it all. Ist Corinthians 10:13. Thank you for being you and God bless you all!
Every day we have to go over the pros and cons of staying sober or staying addicted, its a day by day process and sometimes some days are tougher than others to get by and stay sober. Just remember all the pain we caused ourselves,our kids, and our family, usually that is enough to WANT to stay clean and add another day of sobriety to our calendar. Happy New Years Jessica and family.!!2020.
I just love you. Your strength and perseverance is such an inspiration. Many people would have folded under those circumstances!! You have a mighty soul, heart, and mind!
Early!! omg it's 2020 tomorrow for me in New Zealand you done amazing this year Jess💛
thank you for sharing your story! With each video, I understand more some of the struggles my son went through. Iwant to help him, but he has to want it. It makes my heart sink knowing I can't help my own child. You have given me a better understanding of some of his problems. I will be approaching him in a much better way when he gets released. Sorry, I am writing so much on your videos. I never had anyone to talk to that would understand.
It’s so so hard not to go back to that life! But thankfully we both on the right side now 💕
Hey Jess! Temptation is the devil in disguise. Im so glad you didnt go back and you grew to become an inspirational woman. Stay gorgeous 🐨💚
I just wanted to say that i have 8 years sober and I am going through some shit, and really needed to hear this today!
You are so awesome! That's some power of will there! If you can handle this situation on your own, without any kind of substance that would fuzz your mind then you can handle anything 😁 it is tempting to use something to make our life easier for a while...but as soon as it's gone we are back at the same situation without a solution to solve it.
I can totally relate to you. Everything I went through was similar. What I was taught was "Every good thing, will come to an end. Some last longer than others. But if it's truly meant to be, you will have it again." Doing things the right way, takes time. That has taught me to appreciate Everything Even More.
You are absolutely correct with that it is easy to give up. We all have struggles in our lives and the way is to keep on fighting, keep on running til you get to your goal. You can take small steps and with endurance or perseverance you will get to your goal, you are going to win.
You can analyse what you have now and make a practical plan and stick to your plan or strategy.
Your story is so inspiring..I’ve been clean for 49 days and it’s a struggle but not near what you went through .. this gives me motivation that everything will work out if I have faith and just don’t give up💕
So proud of your journey! Watching these videos really helps to remind me that I can move past my temptations, thank you for sharing your stories, Jess!
Very powerful video. I hope many people see this. You are living proof there is a beautiful life awaiting those who doubt that is possible for them. Keep up the good work Jessica.
To be clear, moving away from all your connects and the place where all of your experiences revolved around drugs, makes it A LOT easier to stay sober. I've been sober over 4 years and I know without a doubt that I couldn't have done it without moving far away from my old town. Of course, you can find drugs anywhere, but the more you do to purposely make it harder on yourself, the better. Great video!
i love how positive jess is about all of this. Im 13 and addiction runs in both sides of my family and i have always been terrfied of getting addicted to things as simple as advil (yes i know that sounds crazy) but both my grandfathers and my father were acholics. i really appreciate jess shining light on something my family would never talk about and now i know what to avoid. so thank you jess 💕
There is always more to your story to learn. Can't believe baby daddy's sister moved in with you. How hard that must have been to live with people partying. I love your willpower. So hard to "opt out" of the party when it is right there too. It's so nice when I finally got past the urges to drink. It took more than 2 years for that so KEEP PUSHING PEOPLE! Love ya Jess and all the Ride or Dies here. HAPPY NEW YEAR NEW YOU!
I am so very proud of you Jessica. I am clean but all I constantly think about is giving myself another OD because I don't believe I will be saved twice. My self-hatred is extreme and deserved.
Happy New Year. Thank you for sharing your honesty. You have so much to be proud of. I have been afraid of getting into trouble my entire life. I never broke the law, I do have family and friends struggling with addiction. My addiction is Nicotine. I can't stop vaping. I have serious PTSD due to childhood trauma and I could have easily gone down the same road. I have been tempted. I support you and your subscribers. My Service Dog supports me. With Love.
Thank you for reminding us how tough we need to be every single day! Its not a given for a lot of us
OMG, when u mentioned that about what that DHS worker said. I had flashbacks. The EXACT same thing happened 2 me, but I Didn't give in I keep fighting and when I won (best feeling in the world) she had the nerve 2 come up 2 me & say "I knew u could do it" & want a hug!!! Unbelievable right I just turned around & left. Thanx Jessica 4 starting this channel. Sometimes people just need 2 know there not alone. Sending lots of love 2 u & ur family. Have a wonderful & safe New Year.💜
Thank you so much for continuing to share your stories and things you’ve learned with us, it’s keeping me straight and conscious of my actions and consequences. THANK YOU.
Just found you Chanel 2 days ago I can’t stop watching it it’s amazing how you are sober now
watching yr videos are helping me get sober. I'm still struggling though. thanks
Keep fighting! You're a warrior 🖤💪
same here, my bf and i have made some positive changes this past year to help us onto the path of sobriety so to speak. we moved away from our town and toxic "friends," but the final step is literally checking into detox. we come so close, we've called and gotten all of our shit together for it. it's just that final leap, we keep finding reasons to put it off. some are legitimate, most are bullshit. we can't keep living like this, we're in a terrible limbo. my family helps us get what we need and we hustle here and there, but it's the first time in my life i've ever been unemployed, and it's been about nine months. it makes me feel like complete and utter garbage to know we're mooching off my family. we do things to help my mom but it's not enough. she is so unbelievably supportive of us and her love is genuinely unconditional. she deserves a sober and self reliant daughter/son-in-law. blah anyway, just know that i know how you feel and i'm rooting for you so hard. and i keep telling myself that any change in regards to achieving sobriety is a positive thing, no matter how small.
rachel zuckett I’ve been where you are. Check into treatment. That’s what has to happen and you both know it. Life is so much better and brighter on the clean side. I’ve been clean and sober for 7 months now and I have a good job (for the first time in years), I’ve mended the relationships with my family. And I had to leave the 5 year relationship I was in. I’ve never seen 2 people use together then get clean together, your running buddy can be a big trigger. Put YOURSELF first.
I’ve never been addicted to drugs (although i smoke weed just not addictively) but im extremely addicted to self harm, i haven’t cut in nearly a year but its been a constant battle over 5 years to not do it, relapses and all. your story really helps me figure out ways to not cut. Thank you for inspiring me Jessica ❤️
Thank you! I needed to hear this today im fighting my own battle and i know its sooo hard to not give up! Some days i have to take it moment by moment and just keep making good choices! Love u girl! Ride or die!