Power Struggle Triggers in Relationships | JUST B DIVORCE
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There's no such thing as a perfect marriage or relationship; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've found out that there's always a way to fix things. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because we had problems in our marriage, but we managed to sort them out. It was a tough period, but we survived
I really get why what you're saying matters, and I honestly want to find happiness too. I've got a partner, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine life without her; my love for her is strong. I really miss her, and I'm fully committed to bringing her back. We've explored different paths, like therapy, to fix things.
Releasing someone you love is always a daunting task, but in my situation, I had the support of a spiritual advisor who prevented the disintegration of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters
Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.
You are Welcome
Naw that ain't it. But keep trying to justify getting abused.
your authenticity is so refreshing, i could listen to you talk about this for days.
Same here!
Me too!😉🙏💯❤️😉🌞😎
This is why I love her.
I was a huge fan of Bethenny Ever After, and to be honest, truly honest, Jason felt like a gaslighter and intimidated by Bethenny's success. I know she's not easy, but there was something petty and mean-spirited about him even before the SkinnyGirl contract. She deserved better.
Exactly! It was difficult to watch the way he treated her. Bethenny really put so much effort into making it work. She wasn't met halfway.
I think he watched her on the housewives and targeted her because hes nothing but a grifter.
@@Ruth78620and who would even know to inherently look out for this kind of predatory behavior!?! Scary AF.
She chose him to have a baby with and to marry. She's too smart to have not thought about what she was doing.
'All my worldly goods to thee I pledge.' Marital vows. Think about them.
Something Bethenny said that is so true and so profound was: “If it doesn’t feel right, it’s wrong.” So spot on…. and you don’t really need to justify what it is that doesn’t feel right- sometimes you can’t pinpoint or describe it, but it’s just a deep, gut feeling that eventually carried Bethenny through the divorce with grace, power and her daughter, all intact. 💕
That's so true, I struggle to understand whyI don't listen to that gut feeling......
Grace? She dragged it out for 10 years because she didn't want to abide by the prenup. There were definitely two in a tango on that divorce.
I agree. And sometimes because of our upbringing/experiences through life, we are trained to hit the snooze on those internal alarms. We are taught to ignore our gut. Which is tragic.
This is EXACTLY the script of my first marriage without the pregnancy. My father was walking me down the aisle and said we can still call it off. You feel too deep into it. 😢
All I can say is THANK GOD you and Brynn are out of that situation.
Brynn is close to her father, so what's sad is everyone talking trash about him so she can read it
@@marciamakoviecki3295how do you she's close with him?
Watched Bethany Getting Married. I knew it wasn't gonna last when you were editing your book the morning of your wedding. Brides in love are bursting with joy on their wedding day....not editing a book. 🙃
She wanted the baby
I loved this way for 10 years.
I’ve been alone now for 23 years. I can walk into my home and be at peace.
No going back.
I've never been married and after listening to this I am 100% right in my decision.
SAME
Yep me too.
Same!!!!
There is a wonderful lawyer called James Sexton on TH-cam and he talks about marriage and about how, instead of premarital counseling, couples should see a divorce attorney so they can really understand everything including the importance of a prenup. He is amazing! Very logical and very pragmatic about things. Thank you for your video.
I always listen to his interviews. He’s so smart.
@@pauletteyoung112 I so agree with you. He’s not angry, he is amicably divorced and he has a very realistic view of marriage and the work it takes to keep it healthy as well as all of the necessary steps required prior to the actual wedding. I am happily divorced but I love listening to James talk. I saw him of soft white underbelly first and I was really captivated by his brutal honesty and outlook 😁
And how he emphasizes that marriage is the most importantly BUSINESS contract you will ever enter into without getting any legal guidance beforehand. So true!
What's his name?
@@Megan6772 James Sexton
He was right about 1 thing only and ...now you have your lil Peanut!!!!
I believe EVERYTHING YOU ARE SAYING!! I REMEMBER YOU CALLING HIM INSIDE JASON AND OUTSIDE JASON!!!
Good lessons. Marriage is a contract. Also, choose the parent for your children carefully.
My marriage never was and never will be a contract. We are married because we love and respect each other. Too bad she made bad choices and feels this way. She's a business woman, everything is a contract to her....
I've been married over 40 years. It is a contract. As she says not romantic. That is separate.
@@janeellis4926 that's too bad
It’s great that you can now vent and purge all of this. I’m so hooked watching. You are truly brilliant. I can only imagine during this time you must have been in full survival mode, rather terrifying.
Everybody who watched Bethenny Ever After (or whatever it was called), saw how TOXIC Hoppy was. Everything was Bethenny's fault. He was always just after her money. It's like he targeted and groomed her. Just my two cents. And he was too tied to his parents. I save these episodes. So entertaining and informative! I've waited over a decade to hear this story.
Where do you see the video
Yes! Remember that vacation they went on when he was verbally abusive to her? Such a nightmare.
@@schoolcounselor6479Hulu and Peacock use to have the show on. It might still be check it out.
@@Randa_Dibayes, her eyes seemed empty. I don’t know how to describe it. Her eyes didn’t light up. You couldn’t see any happiness. It should be the happiest time of your life (getting married and/or having a baby) and it didn’t feel like it was for her 😞. He was so jealous, instead of being proud of her.
Ditto. I too have been waiting for her side. He was awful.
This series is going to be riviting, and I am tuning in to every new posting. I have been on "team Bethenny" since RHONY. You were always the most interesting character (and most admirable) on the show because you had a goal and were determined to make your dream a reality. I felt very sorry for the way a "friend" treated you on that show and was very concerned that you may not be able to emotionally handle that terrible treatment. But you are strong and thank God you overcame it just like you have overcome this tortuous divorce. Like any true fan, I was hoping your ex was the real deal and a really good upstanding guy. But some of what I saw of his behavior on the show began to feel "off" to me. It seemed like he wanted you to be "the little woman" and also that he really didn't have a clue as to who you really were. It was obvious that he was from a different world from you, had a very different life experience and wasn't very savvy compared to you. Anyway, thank you for putting the information out there for other women who need help with this issue today or might need it for tomorrow. And once again, you have my admiration for once again being a survivor who came through the storm stronger and wiser.
Thank you for posting this series. It is a good reminder that marriage is something to take very seriously. After 50 I dont feel there is any point to getting married. Have & enjoy the relationship just do not get married.
I been waiting for her to speak on this. Her daughter is old enough now and clearly they are close enough for this. Good for her. I’m glad for her. Always shocked me how she shut down when it came to him was not like her but she got her baby and it’s not about the package it’s comes in it’s the gift. Hope this is healing for her and even her daughter cuz more you know your parents you know yourself in my opinion
I remember watching "Bethenny's getting married" years ago and she said to her (now ex-)husband "That's OUR money, honey" and I was so alarmed, cause something in me was screaming "That's not exactly true, that's HER money, he didn't make a dime!"
Jason and his lying notary mother need to go to JAIL!!
I think hearing more about this specific detail of the situation would be very helpful to anyone who has been in this awful circumstance- man or woman!
What about the lawyer! He knew she wasn't there in the meeting with the notary.
Men who are toxically attached and enmeshed with their parents are a huge red flag
@@maddyj8436 I wonder if Jason manipulated his mother into doing that for him. It sounds like something he would do and probably hounded her so much about it that she felt she had no choice.
FINALLY SOMEONE SPEAKING OUR TRUTH!! ❤❤❤
I can’t imagine parents/grandparents coming overnight every two weeks. For what?!
PROTECTING THEIR ASSET. HIS FAMILY WAS IN ON THE STEAL
Huge red flag…imposing others on you, your home, your time. What evil bastards! Are people truly heinous like this?! And while you are sick in bed?
As a parent of 2 adult sons I would never want to visit their homes every other week, that is unthinkable! We ALL have lives.
How does a mother raise a son to be so devious and then to be a part in it? 🤯
Seriously! This makes me livid- I used to be in a relationship similar to this…. I think it’s actually emasculating when the guys’ Mom and Dad “need” to constantly be coming over… that behavior is so whack. I’m just so glad that B has risen out and above it.
We visited both sets of my grandparents every other weekend. I was the only grandchild on both sides. Grandchildren are special and what a gift they can be to each other. How they interacted is a different story. We were, luckily, a close knit family.
Grandparents usually live with you, historically. Only since the atom bomb it changed. Why? Really? Um, so they have an actual relationship with you and your family and are present to help you with things, typically unless they're nefarious somehow.
Thank you for bringing these back! So real and authentic!
How was his mother never charged with forgery and identity fraud??? 😱
What did his mother do?
@@gigilaroux762 SHE WAS THE ILLEGAL NOTARY
She committed fraud by illegally notarizing documents with an expired notary license and out of state. Totally illegal.
Totally!!!
@@cypriasosa DID BF SPARE HER FROM PROSECUTION? PART OF THE APT DEAL?
Thank you for being so transparent with your fans about such a difficult and traumatic time in your life, Bethenny. We’ve been riding with you for a long time and those of us who have seen your trajectory know how rocky the path has been. You are an inspiration to NYC women like myself who have carved their own way, made no apologies for it and survived their dysfunctional childhoods. If you ever need a new Assistant, I’m your person! Lots of love from a long time fan in Brooklyn, NYC! ❤
every sunday my ex husband wanted to spend the entire day with his brother and sister in law and their children. I am an attorney I work six days a week. I just could not go to someone else's home every sunday for the entire day. My ex husband could not understand. I get all of this
Sounds like he needed to make more money so you weren't forced to spend so much time away from your family who I'm sure needed you.
I’m living for this series
Long time fan here. I remember the helicopter incident on the show, I saw the toxic power dynamic. He looked like he was compensating and insecure. He would force you into these awkward situations, forcing you to try to develop relationships with people (his group friends at that bar😵💫). It was cringy af and reminded me of my divorce with a guy similar to him, but a bit worse. That’s when I knew you were in trouble because this guy was a REAL problem.
I work in the legal business and worked with lawyers and I still lost in my divorce but at least I got rid of him. Thank goodness we didn’t have kids. I’m glad you regained yourself and your daughter.
thank-you Bethenny for sharing all this to help those who may need some help. I'm so sorry you had to go thru all this--but you are so strong, smart, street-smart too, you are such an inspiration to so many of us. What a rock star you are!
The original video mentioned her ex MIL was the notary on the contract. Why was it omitted in this video? It's important people know son and mother were in cahoots.
My personal thoughts is she doesn't want brings grandmother painted as a thief, also possibility that she wasn't aware of his dishonesty
To add to your point, B originally stated that the MIL had an expired license AND was for another state
@@mcarr3655 Yes!!! major bombshells new viewers don't know.
You come alive talking about this stuff and that's why I'm tuning out
It's called venting. It's been along time and she couldn't talk about this stuff.
Hearing all the behind the scenes is so eye opening to me. I remember watching the wedding and relationship show, being so happy for B not really knowing what was happening behind the scenes. You never really know what a person is going through 🙏🏼🫶🏼 B is such a survivor & the great thing out of that whole experience is Bryn! I remember when she was born on TV & why they named her Bryn. She’s the blessing out of this storm!
I always thought Jason had a lot of money and came from really wealthy family. My eyes and ears are very open to what she’s teaching us.
I remember on the show you were always crying
I just recently watched Bethenny ever after, again and I was completely blown away how much Jason used to manipulate her. You could see the anguish in her face and I even yelled at the TV “run Bethenny” as if I were in the movie Interstellar. I hated how much he mistreated her.
Same!
🌹You are amazing Bethenny! Thank you for continuing to share these incredible podcast. You are definitely helping other women. This is so relatable. Continued Blessings and Support. ~Love&Light♥️Carli
Bethany tells it like it is
The way SHE sees it, yes😂😂😂😂😂
I have followed you since you first went on housewives…I am so happy you are out of that mess and you and Bryn look so happy together! I think he couldn’t handle how successful you were!
loving this new content, Bethenny -- there's are lot of people out here that need to hear this advice!!!
Loving this series so so so much ❤
I LOVE B’s realness and authenticity
🙌🙌🙌total love and respect for you Bethenny! You’re a special human, thank you for sharing with us, I am just so grateful for you!💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖
It is true, we do allow ppl to marry so easily. I can understand the triggering as my own divorce, thirty-eight years ago, is being triggered. I shouldn't have conceded so much of my hard earned property, albeit peanuts comparatively, but I wanted out so much I did.
Love you Bethenny. Thank you for this. 🙏❤
Bethany, you’ve always been my favorite since the beginning. I love your strength the way that you’re blunt and come out and say how feel and your independence. I don’t even know you and I could tell you that God wasn’t for you from that TV wedding and everything you could tell you just felt like it was too much.
Omg you are scaring me. My daughter wants a divorce after 15 years of marriage. Her salary is 3 times that of her husband...they own multiple properties. I hope to God they can be amicable.
So happy you FINALLY broke free Bethenny!
He will get half of the assets acquired during the marriage including properties. He IS due that as would a wife if the tables were turned. If he doesn’t ask for spousal support, she need not pay. If there are children under 18 child support and joint custody will be part of the divorce settlement.
Your daughter’s future social security payments and 401k/Roth can also be divided as well since he makes less. If he goes after that too.
Best to remain respectful and cool during the process.
This needs to be a movie blockbuster.
BTW, am in awe of how strong you are, and what a great role model you are for your daughter AND any woman out there fighting for THEIR LIFE!!
Thank you for speaking on daying yes, when yes is no. That was both my marriages that I never wanted.
Wow what a nightmare. I’ve been through this but not this extreme. You are so strong!
One thing I learned after a divorce (with a lot less money..) is if you have money or assets going in..NEVER NEVER EVER COMINGLE! This means cars accounts etc. keep anything separate and do not use commingled funds for any improvements payments or refinance…you WILL regret it.
This is extremely honest. Appreciate that. Thank you for sharing.
I love Bethenny so much and I am so grateful she is finally sharing this with us- but bc it’s salacious or to defame Jason, but bc anyone who has followed B since the beginning KNEW there was something wrong. I am continually impressed by Bethenny. I wish I lived in NYC bc I would love working with this woman!
Thank you for sharing
Taking a step back WHILE the ball is in motion, going 1K miles an hour, is impossible. For anyone. The struggle is real for so many. Your openness in sharing the disaster that got you your beautiful child is worth telling. Personally I look back and wish I had listened to my gut, no matter who it hurt. Thanks kid. Ya did good. ☮️🥰
I agree! Always follow your gut feeling ❤❤❤
You are true warrior! Smart, savvy and chic!
Thanks Bethany. Been waiting for this
Thank you, real talk
Omg this is crazy. But thank you for sharing because it helps a lot of other people navigate their own situations. Hopefully it's a breath of relief now.
I’m so invested!! I can’t wait for them all
Bethany you are a real one. Thank you for telling this story. I can see and feel how hard it is and you just want to move on. But it's gonna help a lot of women. You're a girls girl. ❤️
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, Bethany. ❤ Thank you for sharing some of the darkest and hardest moments of your life. You're right about attorneys. We are the best attorney for ourselves don't pay anyone😂❤.
I did watch your show and when you had the baby ❤️🎀 the relationship was not meant to be but in the end you got a beautiful DAUGHTER ❤️
I feel you are such and imzpiratiion for young middle aged all. Wemon bethany
Thank you for all that you giv up
And that you can overcome anything and succeed
Thank you
You're AMAZING... EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON !!🙏💯❤️😉🌞😎
God bless you, I felt that. I have been married, NEVER ever again. I am so sorry for your pain. I felt like I understood everything you said tough my experience was slightly different. I am not wealthy by the struggle was real on a smaller scale. God bless you what a nightmare. X
I might be you in a parallel universe.. you’re telling my story. 🤯
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I had no idea what you were going thru to get divorced. I fill so bad for you nobody deserves that. I have always loved watching you on Housewives then your own show and your talk show. There were lots of red flags on your show especially on the boat that you all were on him doing things to make your anxiety go up. You are a very strong woman. Love you Bethany.
Bethenny you give great advice with what happen in your divorce
Several times you refer to your business as, “I hit the lottery”. NO Bethenny..you MADE the lottery! I remember watching Bethenny getting married and Bethenny ever after..I remember a scene where it was just audio and you were in Mexico and you were BEGGING HIM…”please be happy. Can’t you be happy? I’m doing the best I can to make you happy.” I was SO sad for you. I KNEW you were in deep and needing to GET OUT!
I always wondered what he did for a living. To find this out makes him even more disappointing.
@@shawntaefarmer6807 I think she said he was a pharmaceutical sales associate. So for a “normal” person they make pretty good money. It’s a six figure income. BUT he did ALWAYS act like Bethenny “owed” him in some way. I mean from what we were allowed to see.
@@lisadangelo5124 He always rubbed me the wrong way. I'm glad she's finally getting to tell her side of the story.
Hiya Bethenny, Thankyou for sharing take care Luv Ontario Canada 🐝🇨🇦
@bethenny I realize you hated the Bravo spin-offs and it wasn’t what you pitched, but I think it was addictive and the best reality tv show I ever saw. It still holds up. I never watched Tori and Dean. I do think it did show a decent amount of building the SG business , but I enjoyed the rest of it as well.
I love your honesty 👌 sending love from Scotland 🏴 ohh by the way your peanut is absolutely beautiful and you should be very proud of yourself with bringing up such a lovely young lady, xx
*Thank you for going through all this for us!!! I can't imagine how painful it is to talk about.* 🙏🏻
I remember when Bethenny was weeping inside & outside on front of the former nanny. At the time, she couldn't say what was happening but now we know.😢
Never been married I had to rebuild my entire adult life to find my peace ☮️ so much abuse. I can’t even imagine you in this competitive world. Your fight got you through. I admire your will.
Speaking not only your truth…but many others less successful, and yet minimized and gaslit women everywhere nonetheless.. You are Brave young woman… and the love of your daughter, seems to have driven you to this place…Coming to terms with our own demons is tough work. I admire your spirit, your intellect, your snarkiness, but mostly, you demonstrate daily… the fight against misogyny and mean girls everywhere..Brin too is beyond lovely..good work B!
Eagerly awaiting your next “adventure “!!!!❤Annie
I remember the sharing of the apartment on RHONY it looked tense!
Wow, you've been through hell and back, thank you for sharing this. We all are "he would never" in the start....
How wonderful are they?
Loved this video. I wish I was thirty years younger to go help them.
I always hated him. Seriously I could tell he was a narcissistic user. I hated his parents too. They reminded me of my ex and his parents.
So sorry you have gone through this Bethenny. I think as a culture we need to look at marriage again (it was made to control people thousands of years ago) and with the numbers of over 50% getting divorced then the other half lets look at how many women are stuck in an abusive relationship and can't get out. You got out - the money can be made again. Once entering into a marriage whatever you make during the marriage he has a right to half. You should get Mel B on the show too. I think this is truly raising awareness of narc abuse and how devastating it is.
What a life! What stories!
There is no excuse not to read every contract. At the very least, have your lawyers write up a summary of each clause, but do not ever sign anything you don’t know everything that’s said.
From watching the show i had a feeling if things ever ended, he and his parents would their true selves. There was just always something insincere about them. Glad youve made it to the other side of the nightmare.
You should write a book about this!!this is unreal!!
Narcs want you to be miserable so you just got to not let them trigger you..they get nicer when you don't react in ANY way. They leave you alone when they get no more satisfaction from your reactions
Bethenny Bethenny Bethenny, I al so proud of you and your accomplishments self taught brilliant wisdom focusing every second on supporting and supporting $$ and Emotionally) Brynnie Pie.
LOVE PREVAILS ALL and with children, regardless of the circumstances, when your intentions revolved around love as they do in your case, it’s OK it works out.
I don’t pretend to understand the amount of stress you experienced, but I do know that decision you made on the whim or planned , even if it hurt you giving up your time with your girl for grandparents, was all for the best interest of your heart and soul. Your pretty Brynnie pie.
Nothing else matters, and you took in own hands with the support of the judge and moved out some of the madness. I feel like I know you as you wear your heart on your sleeve, and I’m telling you, I am a fan of yours who analyzes you based on your heart. You need to take a deep breath and trust that every decision you have made selflessly even if you cried in private because you felt it was the best for Brynn; was made by LOVE AND Brynn knows this in her heart today, and knew it in her heart as a little gem.
Your motherly instincts kicked in, even when you bypass the judge the attorneys, and you made sure you followed your heart, which will never leave you a stray when it comes to your daughter.
Thank you for sharing with us 10 year challenges for a two year agreement. You had to go through this to teach others 😅who knows possibly your own daughter. You handled everything like a pro. You put love your heart and Bri’s heart first.!!YA…. Se acabó finito.
I’m proud of the person that you are. I am honored. I receive feedback from you when you have the opportunity and I hope you know how much I adore you and truly you for always putting your daughter first.
You are a gem Bethenny. I also know this is very painful for you with the loss of your mother and again, I want you to hold your head high and smile. Smile because you her another opportunity to know her grandbaby. It is obvious how much they do each each other.
You have your daughter, the lotto . Brynn won the jackpot with Bethenny Frankle & mommy.
Thank you so much for this. How can we reach you for specific questions.
The surprise Birthday! I felt your overwhelming pain!!!! Ouch
Just as I say with my son………thank God for our children, despite how our relationships ended. Bryn is a blessing and I’m sure you’d go through it all over again, just to have Bryn💕Never date someone who makes MORE money than you-it will end like this. Dear Abbey
Your honesty is admirable but If I was your daughter, it would hurt me immensely to hear my mother say that she low key regretted having me….
In laws every weekend would drive me crazy. I don't even want to be around my parents like that
This is fascinating… thank you for sharing ❤
Blessings happen when we least expect it
Facts! Even when the woman makes less money but more than enough to do what she wants it's a power struggle!
You were like the best storyteller in the best podcast are unbelievable what you remember
Beyond frightning for you to prove Ownership of your apartment.
I found this mind blowing at the deceit of your former partner. Was he of the belief that never again he would work? Luv a Duck!
I photo copy every document that requires my signature.
I purchase 3 diaries per year.
One is only for documents I sign so I have proof if something blows up I can relate back to my diary.❤❤❤❤ Melbourne.