I've been a marriage counselor for 40 years. Here's what I figured out.

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  • @ZendelAtkinson
    @ZendelAtkinson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; they're all unique. What makes one person happy might not make another person happy. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were almost divorcing because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to work through them. It was a tough time, but we came out stronger.

    • @SERIKAmrabat
      @SERIKAmrabat 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I truly understand the importance of your words, and I genuinely want to find happiness too. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart at the moment, I can't imagine my life without her; my love for her is big. I really want her to return, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to mend things.

    • @ZendelAtkinson
      @ZendelAtkinson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Letting someone you deeply care for go is always difficult, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual mentor who preserved the unity of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

    • @SERIKAmrabat
      @SERIKAmrabat 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your guidance is well-received. I'll quickly search for her online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; her absence is keenly felt.

    • @ZendelAtkinson
      @ZendelAtkinson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Welcome... You should

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      “No problem in a marriage can’t be fixed except unwillingness” says Rabbi Friedman

  • @RachelByers-h7v
    @RachelByers-h7v 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I wish I could share this with my niece. For me that doesn't work because I'm 68 and I've never been married. This is all amazing advice. I wish I were married.

    • @whatdoyoulivefor735
      @whatdoyoulivefor735 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      There's still time 😊

    • @samchs222
      @samchs222 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I hope you find someone that needs u

  • @christinechitambala9504
    @christinechitambala9504 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Zambia ,Africa here!!

  • @fgh456-e5d
    @fgh456-e5d 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart❤️So beautiful. My father is jewish, not me, he is still LIVING and not existing on the planet.
    In my heart i feel close to jewish people in a special way. I love how you talk about love, marriage and intimacy. You are a great wayshower
    for me. May you live long and prosper. Shalom🍃🪲🌺🌻❤️

  • @Sanderson55
    @Sanderson55 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    "As long as we enjoy something it is not an addiction, it is passion" Well if you can enjoy something with passion, but it cause problems in your life, it is an addiction.

    • @Smokillo
      @Smokillo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ikr??! You can also “enjoy” something but also suffer negative effects

    • @yvonnesegers3214
      @yvonnesegers3214 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for this, Rabbi! 🕊

    • @marleneschoenfeld4939
      @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I don't know how you put up with all my qveching but I still very unhappy.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Then you are confused but not addicted.

    • @ho100cabl
      @ho100cabl 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      If you do something with all your freedom of choice, it must be a reason, addiction it’s a very nice idea in western world, to not ask ourselves the question of WHY I like to do that? and then blame the addiction; now you are a victim, guess who will help you? Who will give treatment? The same ones who invented the idea, and now are making profit with you

  • @lisablount7578
    @lisablount7578 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    True. The one you know the flaws of is much better than trading it in on an upgrade. The upgrades always wind up as downgrades. And the kids HATE the step parents. It’s a nightmare. So much fear in marrying since “ the pill “ ( all the pills not just “ the “ pill which is sadistic to a woman’s body so was the other methods and abortion is the ultimate horror of all the horrors. We really do need you Mr Rabbii. I’m not even Jewish. Thanks God. I love you Mr Rabbi. You speak the truth.

    • @ThePinkPantha21
      @ThePinkPantha21 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for saying this. People glorify second marriages. Of course a second spouse is "good" because each of you learned something in the previous marriage and instead of applying what you learned and growing it, people just move on to another one.

  • @kathleenmolo4520
    @kathleenmolo4520 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I think I figured it all out!

  • @Adeleef
    @Adeleef 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We love and alleviate you around the world and back 🌎

  • @lisablount7578
    @lisablount7578 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Nobody blushes anymore because it’s so exciting and the blush happens very young. Maybe you’re right to advise young marriage. But you need the grandparents in on this to help out. To guide. To be part of a family. Let’s all stop going to church and do church at home with mo more of the social distancing or money changing in the temple jeshua got angry about that. We have the technology to stay home eat meals and watch your videos and others like you’s videos. Thank you Mr Rabbii. You are amazing. I love you !!!!! I’m not even Jewish.

  • @elizabethbooth5446
    @elizabethbooth5446 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thank you rabbi

  • @MannaAba
    @MannaAba 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Hi…. I am here!

  • @ma.meladesevilla1727
    @ma.meladesevilla1727 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Poverty binds married couple because they have nothing else but each other. It is teste and proven in reality❤❤❤.

    • @jjwang2314
      @jjwang2314 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is a curse when the couple eventually rise above poverty after years of hardship and supporting each other.

  • @rebeccacastillo4789
    @rebeccacastillo4789 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you Rabbi Friedman ❤

  • @maryw4609
    @maryw4609 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Serious topic great knowledge thanks for lighting up with a few funnies look forward to hearing more be well❤🕎

  • @marleneschoenfeld4939
    @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A good cry is very cathartic.

  • @rachelkennedy2161
    @rachelkennedy2161 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you all for sharing ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🇬🇧🇮🇱🗽✡️

  • @James-qz6vi
    @James-qz6vi 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Don’t people get addicted to things because it gives them pleasure? For example, alcohol and drugs makes the pain go away. I’m confused about “it’s not an addiction if it gives you pleasure?”

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Ask an alcoholic why he drinks? Or better yet, what happened when he stopped.
      Being numb is not pleasure. If you are confused and in pain, but anesthesia makes you forget for a period, that isn’t pleasure. It isn’t a passion or spark for life. It’s anti-life.

    • @James-qz6vi
      @James-qz6vi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x how about pornography? People get pleasure until their wife divorces them. Addiction always ends in devastation.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@James-qz6vi Perhaps for you, imperfect people = divorce. I have no effective debate for this mindset.

    • @James-qz6vi
      @James-qz6vi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@MichaelPrudhomme-u7x We are all imperfect. Not sure what your mindset is. The only cure for alcoholism is a spiritual awakening. Unfortunately, It doesn’t usually happen until rock bottom hits. Life is messy.

    • @ho100cabl
      @ho100cabl 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Really??? Ask anyone who stop drinking or drinks moderately why? (Outside of the cult of AA) there is nothing to do alcohol and spirituality, we as humans we explore things, try new experiences, start liking things or enjoying or stop enjoying experiences, with alcohol there is NO difference!

  • @reneprovoost1287
    @reneprovoost1287 หลายเดือนก่อน

    where do you sign up

  • @squaretriangle9208
    @squaretriangle9208 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The children take precedence especially if one of the parents behaves bad towards them
    I likey very much how you entangled the trauma mental illness issue😊 although I think it depends on the person what is a scare for one person is a trauma for another

  • @lisablount7578
    @lisablount7578 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    The measure of a man should not be his provision power only. He should also be valued for his ability to have fun with his family and he should not have to do performance enhancing legal or illegal drugs or alcohol to
    Perform and thereby earn earn earn or do porn to avoid cheating on his wife. I’ve heard son sad sad stories. Heal our Land Mr Rabbi. Feminism was a failure. Johnny Cash knew it. He wrote When The Man Cones Around.

  • @STMV411
    @STMV411 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How can I sign up?

  • @thetorturedsoulalifeonloan1411
    @thetorturedsoulalifeonloan1411 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    1252pm. What should I do when the wife keeps the marriage 3rd to the trouble with the children over 20 years always 1st

    • @texasgoddess323
      @texasgoddess323 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Assuming you have sat down to have a serious conversation with her, what was her response? Have you two gone to therapy with a third party?🌻

  • @gregchandler900
    @gregchandler900 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I don’t know if I agree that if someone who is addicted to nicotine can laugh about it and the problem goes away. Drugs bring lots of enjoyment to people and they can’t just laugh about it and it goes away, I’m confused

  • @daraabdullah293
    @daraabdullah293 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Only children had fun at covid time no school on play stationall day. Husband and wife's they got sick of each others faces

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      After the mandate was eased, I tried to get the mask off my youngest. He didn’t want to. He was hiding in there.
      His shyness and withdrawal from social growth encouraged by Covid tyrants.
      I understand that tensions and loneliness affected many adults, but maybe kids didn’t have all the fun as their academics and play were suppressed during vital formative years.

  • @7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he
    @7spiritprayerwarrior-sf9he 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What course? Does Rabbi have a course???

    • @karlachannahmenko8622
      @karlachannahmenko8622 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There’s a marriage course coming up June 26th I believe.

  • @arulmary603
    @arulmary603 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Marriage is 1st task given by God, so all profession, labour, teachers, scientists etc boosts up marriage, God trusted humanity to rule on his creation.

  • @ytsi7505
    @ytsi7505 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why did דוד only get happy in the מרחץ when he remembered מילה maybe קידושין ונישואין is also a מצווה in the גוף?

  • @PraiseBeToGodOurLord
    @PraiseBeToGodOurLord 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Whats the difference between marriage and being close to God? I believe you're saying that we should be dependent on one another in marriage when we should only be dependent on God.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Perhaps vulnerable is a better word than dependent

  • @christinechurch8181
    @christinechurch8181 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What if the unfaithful partner brings vanerial diseases to the marriage?

  • @ytsi7505
    @ytsi7505 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    14:31 How does someone marry a גוי if or a כהן with גרושה if no בחירה in who just if?

  • @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ
    @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Convid

  • @marleneschoenfeld4939
    @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How can you torture me so much? I wanted to show the Rebbe that no one could love him more than me - I got pregnant because he was talking about having more children - and when I went to the Rebbe on succot I asked for a brucha to get a get. He couldn't understand what I was saying
    and he looks at Rabbi Groner who oppenned his eyes and nodded and the Rebbe gave me the bracha that I should have every thing I need. I NEVER wanted to be married and definitely no children -- but with all your enthusiasm you brainwashed me to get married and have children
    (Wircberg)

    • @marleneschoenfeld4939
      @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lubavitch destroyed me.

    • @marleneschoenfeld4939
      @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Where should I go now? Being a vegetable is not an option. That's not how I show the Rebbe that I would do anything for him.

    • @marleneschoenfeld4939
      @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      OUT is not an answer - I need a roof over my head etc.

    • @marleneschoenfeld4939
      @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You say OUT but you won't even let me get e-mailes from people who might be able to help me.

  • @lisablount7578
    @lisablount7578 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    It’s cheaper to keep her. In every way.

  • @ytsi7505
    @ytsi7505 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    For that 8:19 you have a similar answer to the example of children that are born from sexual sin בעצם it shouldn’t reproduce its just for בחירה purposes?

  • @daraabdullah293
    @daraabdullah293 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The problem is man marrys for one reason only, on the other side women gets married for millions of reasons you name it 😅

  • @lisablount7578
    @lisablount7578 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Talk about prenups

  • @mariebarrett7177
    @mariebarrett7177 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    💜

  • @robbysetiawan969
    @robbysetiawan969 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🎉🎉

  • @happycustomer3448
    @happycustomer3448 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Why are certain couples poor?

  • @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ
    @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I dont get it. I was not locked down. We r in America. Who was locked down?

    • @running.lawyer
      @running.lawyer 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      NYC

    • @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ
      @MARCIA.ZZZZZZ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@running.lawyer my friends live in NYC. They went out.

    • @michaelmelamed9103
      @michaelmelamed9103 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      We were for two weeks in NYC and the elderly were locked down many months and the kids were barred from school for months you forgot

  • @marleneschoenfeld4939
    @marleneschoenfeld4939 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Wasn't it you who said -" You can't marry all of them - You liar you trickster.

  • @farshadkhabiri
    @farshadkhabiri 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🎀🎀🎀🎀🎀

  • @Redwing635s
    @Redwing635s 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    the word is a double edge sword 426r6 jesus6 4 1 what are you in 4 love 5 god 74 amen 14 55