Why I Left My Wife
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Our relevance in life does not come from marriage.
Well said friend.
But everything is about marriage unless u don't understand the end is for us to understand our final union with God as d brides of Christ. Which is why satan hates marriage. It reminds him of that union with God. Never underestimate marriage
@@ikwikwi bro, chill out
@grateful2tmh199 my free speech bothers u,right? Truth is truth. The advice must be balanced especially if u wanna use d bible. So, relax.
@@grateful2tmh199 I have to side with the response that Satan hates marriage ... people don't get this fact
@@ikwikwiBest Comment
Very encouraging to hear African man of substance say marriage does not give relevance to a person. Most Africans however think and talk as if getting married or being married is a qualification to become a human being! Marriage is great institution, but being married doesn't make anyone more valuable than the unmarried adults.
Marriage is not an achievement
@@webbsetfact!
Exactly!
@@webbset I agree with you .. very correct
There is more to life than marriage … I agree with you totally
***The wrist watch was 200USD not 2000USD***
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Reason we fight each other:
Emptiness, insecurity and frustration‼️
Succinctly put Sir!
That stuck with me as well.
This hit me too
Insecurity is the key. When you are not assured of your value, you seek validation from wife by putting her down and devaluing her, then she becomes rebellious to assert herself.
Great teaching, if you have ear, better hear. Marriage can destroy you if you dont listen. Thank you sir.
Thanks for listening
So if a man discovers that the one he got married too.. is not fully into the marriage.. is pulling out for peace a right thing to do as a Christain
@@DrCharlesApoki hi I’m a young 33 year old man how are u sir I just came across your video I’m going to watch it now haven’t seen this before 😊
Wise words from a wise man
You are a great man sir.
True. My relevance ought to come from responsibility and productivity. Thank you sir
Do not become consumed by physical things, you cannot take them with you when you go, place your prime focus on improving yourself in all ways and staying spiritually, mentally and physically sound. Take care of your family, your finances and your goals but remember you are bigger than all of those things. Be strong and guard your mind from possessiveness, unnecessary quarrels and distractions that do not benefit you. Thank You Dr. Apoki
Thank you, marriage has become a source of bitterness for most families.
fact
Thanks for your advice. We as men should not attach ourselves to any material instrument. But rather use material instruments to serve our greater purpose to God and humanity.
This man changed my life, saved my home , I became a fool in my relationship, learnt a lot from this man
God bless you, you are my spiritual inspiration and a mentor, please don’t change you have a lot of people following your footsteps
Thanks for your kind words.
''Any price you pay for peace in your home is wisdom!!!'' Apostle Arome Osayi!!!
Dr Apoki I came across your channel and I am amaze as a jamaican living in NY and as familiarize my self with the African culture. You are one of the few African that has that belief in regards to marriage and I must say I applaud you.
Personal frustration and insecurity is a very big problem to some people.
Smart humble man 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽. Release anything that may disrupt your peace.
Your words and presence are a blessing. God bless u.
Thank you Dr Charles Apoki for the teaching 🙏🙏🙏
WOW,this gentleman blew me away!!! Who would of thought marriage isnt a priority,that your kids or the things you own or possess aren't a priority!!! That kind of thinking and believe is definitely a deep understanding of spirituality and real purpose in this universe!!! May this man live long,so that he can teach everyone what life really means!!!SALUTE to Dr Charles Apoki,he reshaped my philosophical sphere to another dimension!!!God Bless you my KING!!!
Kindly spare your children Sir. That's your blood and fresh who did not apply to be born
Thank you for the advice and shearing your experience with us the younger generation especially some of us that live in the western countries ..
I've learned to let go, why? Naked l came, naked shall I returned, until you're a victim you may not understand what the doctor is saying, thanks so much dr.
Yes u are right
exactly.. some people after watching this video may not fully understand what has happened or transpired and what the doctor is trying to say ... only those who can read in-between the lines could... so let's just keep it this way ... wisdom is available for all..... but only those with insight can identify it and cherish it.... this life is really complicated... marriage... relationships....old age..... women... finances are the most complicated concept in human existence.... and very problematic..... the good thing about listening to Doctor is that as a young man in my 40s... I have to learn from him about marriage and investing so I don't make mistakes and know what to avoid... this man is a great man.... having had to let go and take a more humble position in the scheme of things he initiated with a lady he basically trained from youth on.... that's the truth about life ... at a point you have got take a more humble position for the peace and unity of the entire family else there will be era when your ego clash with that of your partner and it will be a disaster... this man has to let go for his personal peace which is priceless... I am not saying he woman did anything wrong here.... she is a great hardworking woman and very respectful and industrious... don't get me wrong... but she being in charge now is a different story altogether.... I can go and on and on
Earthly marriage is ought to mirror the marriage between christ and the church.... and it is said christ in me, the hope of glory... do what you will with that information
Daddy , prostate surgery is not ur portion sir . We younger men need Great mentors like u around. I followed u on TH-cam nd believe me i have learnt alot Sir .very much 💯.
You have been my Hero from Nigeria Graduate Fellowship. I remember you being the Guest Speaker at our NCGF conference in Warri where you shared your humble beginning and your family. Your openness is examplary using your life experience to teach other. I bought many of your books in that conference with Ufuoma your son and your wife at the stand. I treasure your life lessons you share and it helps me in my Christian life as an ordained Priest. I pray that God will bless and keep you in good health. You will live long and happy life with your let go approach to marriage and properties. That has been my approach knowing that peace is better than contention. God bless you.
Dr sir...
This is for me.
Directly speaking to me.
I'm saving this to listen to over again.
Many thanks Dr Charles Apoki you're a great man.
You are very welcome
THANK YOU SIR FOR YOUR WORDS OF WISDOM...GOD BLESS YOU SIR.❤
God bless you Sir. You're indeed full of wisdom.
Well said , very insightful
Wow! Doc, I just came across your video. Your words are a rare jewel. Thank you, Sir. All the way from 🇳🇦 Namibia.
GOD bless you Sir. I can’t wait for the privilege to meet you. Thanks a lot for the good work
Appreciate your wisdom Dr Charles. As a young Nigerian man, it is refreshing to hear such calm and reasonable guidance from an older African man. I aspire to be a source of similar wisdom when I reach your age. Watching your videos is like listening to my father or grandfather speak
I appreciate that
""Me, I'm having fun."".... I love that. 🙌🏽👍🏽
The caption of this video suggests that Dr Apoki left his wife. However, that does not appear to be the case. What I got is that rather than contend with issues that makes marriage a drudgery, one should focus on relevance through contribution to humanity and productivity
Very intelligent insight.
@@DrCharlesApoki 🙏🙏
True! happiness and fulfillment can only be found from within.
The sad thing which I gleaned from this video, is that you can never satisfy a woman regardless of the "control" that Dr Charles preaches.
Amen. Very True Dr. God bless you.
Thank you sir for this great advice
Thanks , i will take this advice to look for contentment outside Marriage.
❤ This teaching here made my church service today, God bless you Sir 🙏
You are foolish
Do you pick any topic from somewhere or you got inspiration for sermons? This should've been discussed long time ago,many have suffered in marriages.
Thank you Dr. Charles for the insights!
Perfectly said..Thanks Dr
God bless you Sir for the advice
thank you for words of wisdom
Your words is like food to ME sir, very encouraging...
This advice is priceless
I love this counselling.
Love you sir, thanks for this great eye opening short words❤
Great leason! More grace Sir🙏
So sad sir
I wish you Gods grace to go through this period
Great!
Thank you
Best advice I have heard in a while!
My Dad warned me not to go into joint-business with my wife! He said it is a no no! He said "Support your wife in her business, but please don't go into business with your wife"
Did you listen?
@@davidharrison7608 I guess I am stubborn, I only from my own experiences
We should not stop drinking water bc a certain man was drowned...others hv succeeded in doing same....
Your dad's opinion may be valid as conflicting opinions at work can affect your marriage at home. However, what your dad warned you about works perfectly fine for some people. In fact some men don't mind allowing the wife make the decisions for the business because he trusts her judgement for the benefits of the home. Truthfully, some women make better decisions than their spouses in business.
@@jumokea2274 Women in action 😄
Am very happy to see this channel today this is best channel I have ever seen ❤
My goodness! you are so right!!
Great wisdom better to contend for your peace 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You said it all. Thank u
Wow! I respect you sir.....
It wasn't a mistake that a Nigerian in Georgia stumbled on your videos.
She is masculine indeed, for you not to know how much those schools generate yet you contributed most of the financing is unbelievable but I really like your understanding just for peace of mind. Keep it up. Life is too short.
But you have not heard her side of the story.
@@TheLegend-uq1gzbecause he's a man that has spoken
@TheLegend-uq1gz Her side of the story on what? .He is still married. Dr. is just giving words of wisdom to people fighting in marriage because of material things or money that can lead to divorce.
Wisdom and Education is priceless.
You're a model Dr. Thanks for this wise counsel
My pleasure
I AM NOT SURPRISED THAT TYPICAL CHURCH FOLKS CAN'T WATCH A SIMPLE VIDEO AND UNDERSTAND WHAT I AM SAYING.
WHAT IS IN THIS VIDEO THAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND.
YOU WANT TO DO APROKO ABOUT DIVORCE ABI? CONTINUE.
Sir no mind them!
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They want to do aproko. Don't mind them.
Did you divorce or retain your marriage with a renewed mind?
@@folasadejubaadeoye797 Simply watch the video to the end.
My geography teacher Mr. Bamuza once said " valuable as knowledge is the power to acquire it independently is more valuable".
The answer to your question is in the video.
Watch it to the end.
Very good encourage words
Thank you sir very very educating words of wisdom
You are great sir ....I respect you indeed❤
Your thought pattern is out of this world, sir! God bless you.
Thank you Dr. You have a new follower today.
"So find that area for minimal contact and functionality and dwell there".
I won't forget that. Thank you Sir.
Well said!
I'm very concerned and I hope you will not be lonely. In life you need someone to talk to (someone closer than a brother) unless otherwise
Very very well said.... very true
Wisdom 101...thank you Sir
I wish I could just see you for a day. I don’t mind flying from Uk to see you in delta state.
Wise words.. well spoken..but a good looking man like you can't be left single...we will be restless
Thank you sir. Verry deep.
Got a subscriber
You took out your gloves and landed for powerful punches. Thank your sharing this.
Thank you Doc
Well said Doctor
Beautiful sir. You have said it well.
Words of wisdom
This man just earned my respect for life! Full of wisdom 🎉🎉
Thanks a lot for sharing sir
Deep wisdom here
Awesome revelations . May the Almighty God bless you richly .
Powerful words of wisdom! Salute 🫡
Peace to you Elder it is my pleasure to make this statement about your video outstanding just outstanding May the Creator protect and keep you
Amen
Alway full of wisdom... my God 😮
Great insight my friend and mentor.
Much appreciated
I've finally found a Mentor, every word was just directed to me. Thankyou Sir
Well said sir
Thank God I have landed on this video. Am going through divorce with property involved. God bless u doctor.
I am really touched , and rejuvenated .. Thank you sir for sharing these blessings ... Cause as i live i learn, and as i learn i grow ... And what i've learnt from you today is a blessing ... And i want to say a very Big thank you sir ... God bless 🙏 you
Wise man, well said ❤
You made my day Dr.
You’ve earned my respect Dr.
God bless you sir Dr. C. Apoki , you just describe my situation, thank you sir, no matter what the children must answer their father’s name
Bless you Sir🤝👏👏👏👏
You are absolutely right sir.
Thank you sir
It took a 3rd view for a renewal of the mind. God bless you, Sir 🙏🏿
Hmmm, this is food for thought, just learnt something new today and so grateful to listen to you Sir. I nearly took my life some few months ago, thanks to my children who stood in for me and cried on what their dad was doing to me. I just realised something as in marriage is not worth fighting nor dying for. Thank you sir for this words of motivation. God bless you 🙏
Thank you very much sir ❤
I agree with you sir only on the condition that both partners have a level of maturity and understanding. A family can run into financial bankruptcy if you try that with a spouse who is not a good manager. I speak from experience.
On this note, kudos to your wife. She is a great woman if your investments are secure in her hands.
Absolutely
Deep. ❤
Your idea about how to handle life and marriage is quite understood.
There is one area I want to point at. Many women are not actually fighting to be around their children in the midst of a crashed marriage. It is a known fact that the children will definitely bear their father's name and we are not doubting it.
The reason why you see some of us trying to make sure things are done according to the law and that the children stay around us until they attain their adult age is because some men deliberately and practically dent the children's mind against their mother just because they want to cut off from her entirely and have the children all to themselves since they bear his name(for example, the alleged action by Emeka Ike on his children). To me, that is a sign of pain and frustration in the life of such men. Many men forget that the fact that the children bear their names doesn't kill the fact that they are also the biological children of their mother and her blood runs through/in them. Bearing your name as the father doesn't mean that the children should abandon their mother just because they have a surname to bear. That cannot be my dear.
The men need to understand that we are not fighting to take away the children from them and the law didn't give a responsible woman the custody of the children of the marriage because they want to take the children away from their father. No! It is simply because the mother has proven to be the one that can stay more closer to the children in training and planting good care in them at the time they are feeble, younger and unable to actually know their left or right. The law wasn't sick when it was planned that way and it is for the overall best of the man, woman and the children, if only they play their responsible parts well.
Thank you sir. I agree. Ive been in a failed relationship with my childs mother and i agree with these things
When I let go of the need to control the situation, the fear of not being in my daughter's life, I found peace. Your fear can destroy you before u recieve any physical wound 🙏
I thank God i found you on TH-cam, subscribed immediately.