@@LittlePoet Awhh,,Oh and HOW!!😘 ((hugs)) Glad We're all getting our shots!..And your so right let's get our bright beautiful clothes out and ready to go Live again😊
Haaaaa! Yes we can all go to the wedding... wearing beautiful outfits and amazing shoes... and have Susan do our hair and makeup!!! I think that’s a plan! Lol!
What kind of man talks to an ex girlfriend on the phone for 45 minutes, invites her to lunch, and holds onto her hand as she says goodbye when he is about to marry someone else?? The kind you don't need.
I’d say the type of man who is very full of himself does this. What a lucky gal to get him. Hah!! Susan, sorry he was creepy enough to do this to you. The upside is you’ll never wonder if you missed out!! 😀
Personally, I think the whole "lunch date" stinks. As many have said, he could have told you over the phone, but wanted to do it in person, why? He brought up your videotaping, which was a bone of contention while you were dating, why? He invited his ex to his wedding, why? He sounds like a real jerk, trying to come across noble but actually being hurtful and passive aggressive. Not worth your time or a moment of regret. You are way too good for him, Susan. Regards from Crete.
Thank you Susan....after really thinking about it I assume he knew if he told me over the phone he would never see me again but he wanted to see my face when I found out he was going to marry Janet. That is very much who he is...he has a wonderful side...a good man and he has another side that can be quite "different"...I wish them well..... Love you and thank you for being here! xxoo Susan
Sounds to me he wanted a free video for his wedding wake up smell the coffee your such lovely person move on who needs a man when you have good girlfriend's enjoying your life susan life to short we just come through pandemic live for today count are selves lucky we survived this horrible virus xxx
What was that man thinking!?!? Taking his ex-girlfriend out on a date right before his wedding day!?! I feel sorry for his Bride-to-be!!! She's going to marry him without even knowing what kind of guy he is....Honey, you certainly dodged "THAT" bullet........ How Awful
It’s very sweet of you to think of sending a gift, but you already gave him the gift of your time on the phone and then your presence at lunch. There is nothing you could send to top that. Buy yourself the gift; you deserve it more!
Agree with this too. I think I know you a bit and you will send a gift and a card, though. And, my husband calls that 'taking the high road'. But, as a member of your fan club, don't spend too much!!! ;)
@@sharonstrickland6421 What's Janet sappose to think, she doesn't know you. Stay away from the whole thing. Your path in life will benefit from knowing that all three of you will be o.k. and there's better days to come for you.
You really dodged a bullet with this guy. I know you get lonely but alone is better then being with the wrong person.You have such nice taste in everything.❤️
I was thinking the same thing. What was he thinking, taking an ex for lunch then confronting her with that information. Sounds to me like revenge or boasting. She's well rid of him
Dearest Susan, I can so feel your pain. A month ago, the man I was with for 10 years invited me over to talk. We broke up one year ago and I had to move to a new area and knew no one. Then..the big C hit...so I was completely alienated. When I got the invite I was happy. I got dressed up and he hugged me and it felt so good to see him. IT was Valentine's day and he gave me chocolates and a bouquet of roses which were beautiful. Being in the home I was in for 10 years made me cry. After he dried my tears he went on to tell me he was dating a woman 20 years my junior, who was in fantastic shape who made him feel just great about himself. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I left, scraping up what little dignity I had left. I couldn't help but wonder why he did this. Certainly...it was covert cruelty. To make myself feel better I immerse myself in color. I get out my pencils, my paints and I create beautiful women out of scraps of paper and glitter. I also get in the car with my Yorkie (and my bearded dragon!) and take pictures of beautiful things. Then I buy myself a great dinner. I also use crystals . It all helps.
From my personal life experience, is if you choose to just be boyfriend girlfriend thing for ten years, then a man is just holding on to the relationship until someone better comes along! Marriage is more of a commitment,but there is always a chance that can end too! 🙏🏻😇But in my own life I have seen that if a man puts God first , he will put you first and cherish you and honor you ! Doing things God's way does make a difference, me and my husband Never had sex before marriage and we got engaged after four months, and three months later, we we're married in the LA Temple and that was 29 year's ago, and four children later! We own a company together and we work together and we have great fun all the time! We're still madly in love 😍😍 to this day,and I'm forever greatful to the Lord! Most of my friends are single and it's hard to see people you love your best friends lonely!
You must have been on his mind that entire breakup for him to still think about paying you back in such a hurtful way... or at all for that matter. He'll never have the chance to hurt you like that again.
Susan dear, he was your EX for a reason and this lunch was to allow you to stop checking for those text. You are so dear and so precious he never did deserve a woman like you.
I think there is a difference between living together and getting married. It has to do with commitment. If a man isn’t comfortable making a commitment to you, he certainly is saying a lot by asking you to be his room mate. I agree with other comments here. Good riddance. And, poor Janet.
Agree totally. I tell friends, myself, and will tell my daughter " don't even move a toothbrush across the street until you are married." Seriously, if you want the benefits of being married to me , they only come with actual marriage. JS.
You look beautiful in everything...but I must say, I don't think it's the clothing...I think its your aura...it speaks volumes...Love, kindness, there is a gentleness that you exude...Just love you! I think the ex might have issues....maybe regrets....or maybe you have some kind of affect on him...COME to my WEDDING...this is ODD...wonder what Janet would think... I know how much you yearn to meet LOVE again ( I see it in your eyes )......I believe with all my heart YOU WILL...You felt bad because YOU know YOU deserve that LOVE...the waiting is hard...and time is precious...I remember waiting SO LONG for LOU... It will come Sues!!
Oh Tammy you bring tears to my eyes because I think you understand...it's not that I don't feel complete without a man...but I just have all this love to give and I feel there is this man out there that is like me....wanting to share the beauty of life and perhaps not be so alone. I start a volunteer job downtown in May....there are so many good people who volunteer....something just told me to " GO" so I have hope to enrich my life in many ways. I have never seemed to " understand" life as much as I do now...I know you are younger than me, but it really is amazing how things stop being so mysterious as we age! I know how much you love Lou and you come right out and say this is the love of your life...and every time you say it I cry...good tears.It's so important to have believed in true love....Love you!!! Have a wonderful week! I loved your hair so much in that little bang/bob!!! So cute!!! xxoo Sues
Omg. I can't believe he brought you to dinner to tell you this. You are a class act and I can't imagine how it must have felt. You are beautiful and I'll bet you will have a special person show up that will appreciate what a treasure you are!!!
I have just discovered your channel, and I am ecstatic! I have watched just three of your videos, and I am so impressed with you already. You have a warmth and innocence, mixed with compassion and intelligence, that is so lacking in today's world. I cannot wait to binge-watch more of your videos. I consider myself a thrifty person, like you, and the things I possess are very meaningful to me...family things, mostly, chock full of memories. My small apartment is very eclectic, and it is my refuge. I spend a lot of time outdoors, because that is who I am, but when I need solace and peace of mind, my apartment provides that for me. You are truly a gem. Thank you for bringing light and love into the world!
I find it odd that your ex- didn't tell you, over the phone, that he's getting married. I find it odd that he invited you to his wedding. I find it odd that he watches your videos. Poor Janet.
Yes, it is Very Off and uncomfortable. I would skip the gift, etc. Think about why you want to do that. I would not. To me it would have been considerate to tell you about his plans over the phone. Good luck with the vaccine, I just got second shot.
I'm so glad you sent that narcissist on his way. There was absolutely no reason for him to invite you to dinner, especially after speaking to you at length only the previous day, other than to rub his "happiness" and upcoming wedding in your face. I would bet my life that he didn't tell his fiancee about this little outing, hahaha! And telling you to "get some footage from HIS wedding?"...What was that about? Why the heck would you care about getting footage from his wedding? Ugh. And guessing how narcissistic he must be to do all that, I am sure that he will be watching this video, hoping you'll mention him. Well, all he has to do is read the comments here. That oughtta give him a good idea of what a catch he is. Good riddance Susan.
Susan, you are a beautiful accomplished woman. What a thoughtless, unkind human being. You deserve so much more from a partner. What a good miss! Onward.
Asking you out, telling you he was getting married, then asking you to come to the wedding is like a slap in the face not only to you, but to his bride to be. Shows the caliber of this man. You dodged a bullet. And from me to you... You can get better than him.
How can I say this without sounding strange.... I wish we were friends. Whenever I watch your videos, it makes me feel so much better and I feel so connected to you and I don't even know you, for goodness sakes! Anyway, about your ex-boyfriend, please don't feel badly for too long.. let the feelings come and go. You are such a lovely person, beautiful, fun, sensitive, insightful.. shall I go on? LOL. I hope this passes soon for you. You bring so much through your videos and I certainly look forward to them. Thanks for being who you are. (Yes, this post sounds super weird, I get it.. )
Susan, When I’ve gone through devastating breakups, I was always aware that God draws close to the broken hearted. Ask Him and He will comfort you. You are so worthy of love.❤️
Susan, it does make a difference. A marriage proposal is not the same as being asked to live together. In your heart, you knew that and made the right choice.
You hit the nail on the head. I was a little disappointed when she made that comment. If I'm not good enough to be your wife, then I'm sure the hell not good enough to be your live in partner. Not knocking anyone for the way they choose to live their lives, but for me, I don't play the role of baby mamma or girlfriend very well. I'm wife material, and if you can't embrace that and marry me, we sure as hell will not be living together.
@@lauraleehenry5657 I feel the same way. These days women seem comfortable living with a man, but I grew up, and it sounds like you did too, with the idea that marriage was the standard, and anything else would be an insult. When I'm with a man, I want to be able to say " Let's get married," he responds with, "What are you doing next Tuesday?"
Oh Susan, I am so sorry to hear that your ex-boyfriend carried on like that. His behavior was so inappropriate. But don’t worry. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. God has someone very special for you and I hope he comes into your life this year! Hope you feel OK after the vaccine shot. Love and God Bless, Mary ❤️🤗❤️
Thank you Mary....I feel a shakeup coming and I am getting ready for some changes! It means the world to be able to talk this out with m=you and our gal pals here! It feels so good to be connected! Happy new week to you!!!
Susan, I think you look beautiful always. And I think you were more than gracious and kind under those circumstances of your boyfriend asking you to go to lunch to tell you about his happy news. I myself would not go to the wedding. But just remember "Rejection is God's protection, and this too shall" pass. All I can say is that men are definitely wired differently. ( Weirdo) Much love ❤❤❤
How was he inappropriate? He broke it to her in person and wanted to remain friends. Now I maybe missing something here, a backstory, because I just started watching her . I do think she is a lovely woman. Any man would be lucky to have her as a friend or love interest. She’s so sweet!
Spending time with people that are not on your wavelength is like putting spoiled milk back in the refrigerator and expecting it to be good the next day. Toss the spoiled milk. Say goodbye forever to this old boyfriend. ♥️♥️♥️
Awe, I love those final words you said about your ex that you'd never forget him and that he taught you so much. It says so much about you. Don't be surprised when soon God will open many windows of opportunities for you. 🙂
Poor Janet!! 🤣 You go, Susan, and thank you so much for the light and comfort you give us. You have no idea how much your channel means to me. I`ve watched your videos every week since 2018 and they have helped me through some really hard times. I wish you the very best!!
Thank you so much, Irene...you have helped me too..every week...it's amazing how much I cherish this place we have here where we can be ourselves and share secerets! I just love you and thank you so much for beign here for me and Desi!
Here is your why...we have to grieve the loss even if it is from the past. Feel it...walk through it...and then come out the other side. And feel that sun on your face and know this....God has you right where you are supposed to be. Keep the Faith and focus on your future! Hugs. ♡
thatgirlmadge ... re: grieving the loss etc correct, ... I agree, timing ... God knows ~ HE (God) is the Ultimate Match Maker ! & only wants the BEST MATCH for us ~ tfs, : )
It IS the love and support of others that helps us through tough times, and you are definitely this for me dear Susan. Thank you for your loving and wise words. You look BEAUTIFUL in your new clothes!
Susan, I think you handled the situation really well. When you said you were so glad to get back into your own car and back to your own place, I could hear your sense of relief of your own independence. I totally understand that.
You have beautiful style. I love seeing how you shop and the quality things you select for your apartment and yourself. I'm sorry your ex left you feeling wistful, but it's easy to understand. It's a final end.
What your ex did was cruel. It sounds like something my ex would do if I still had contact with her. These people do it to make them feel better. They are narcissists who cant show empathy to others. I would cut all contact with him and concentrate on yourself. You are doing a great job at creating a great life. I would rather be on my own (even lonely) than be with the wrong person. Dont forget you are a beautiful person.
A ex is a ex for a reason, don’t look back. I’m going through a very rough time. When it all gets to be to much, I get out of the house take a drive, a walk, and sometimes go to Dollar Tree. My other thing is redoing things. Right now I’m working on a piece of furniture that belong to someone very dear. Her husband, her daughter and herself all died within two weeks of each other from CoVID complications. I’m doing this to honor her and to always have something of hers close by. Have a good week.
Lea - I’m sorry to hear of your loss. What a beautiful way to remember your friend and her family, by redoing a piece of her furniture. A lovely way to keep busy to help you through this time. 🌷
There comes a time when we realize we can learn to live alone . I am older now at 77 and my husband passed away we were married 38 years.Now I have my son living with me.I love my cable movies and DVDS and I love my books.I write my stories for San Pedro My Hometown and they love my stories.We live at the top of the mountains in Fawnskin Ca with all the seasons.I am just in another phase of my life where I have my husband's large police retirement and my retirement of 35 years and Social security. Enough to live comfortably and be happy with wonderful memories.I am content.
I felt blue today and took myself to my favorite nursery and walked thru all the plants and flowers and then splurged on a beautiful, sunny yellow hibiscus tree for my deck. And I would feel just as you did hearing this news while out to lunch w the Ex. I felt happy and relieved with you as you got back to the comfort of your car and DROVE AWAY! 😉🌼
I feel that you were meant to talk to your ex boyfriend. He didn’t have to ask you to lunch, but seeing him gave you the answer that you had been wondering about while you were curious when checking in to see if he texted you. There was your final answer. Plain and clear. You needed this to close another chapter of your life. And I bet with all the beautiful clothes you just bought, someone will come into your life and love you the way you should be loved. You’re a beautiful woman, inside and out, and your personality is so serene and wonderful. Don’t forget... you deserve the best. Never seconds. xo
I think you have the love of your life, Susan. Desi couldn't take his eyes off you while you were modelling. There is nothing purer than the love of a pet 🥰♡
That was weird that your ex-boyfriend took you on a date to tell you that he was getting married. I would've done the same thing as you. It sounds like he wanted you to be a free videographer at his wedding.
that's what I was thinking!!!!! I didn't want to say, but it does sound like he wanted you to do his filming, Susan. You are sooooo much more than that. I would skip the gift. You are very kind to be so thoughtful.
Video his wedding?? What a passive-aggressive dig. It’s also not honorable to meet an ex for lunch right before your wedding. Dishonorable people do dishonorable things.
I’m glad you made a video this week. I can understand why you hesitated, nearly skipped this week, and we would have understood. We all have weeks where an incident throws us off kilter. But you were brave and shared your story and that made a lot of us (well me at least) feel better, like this kind of thing doesn’t only happen to me!
Thank you so much Jane :)! We truly are connected and life just seems easier knowing we are not alone! I hope your new week is a great one! xxoo Susan & Desi
The most important thing you said is that you didn't love him, he probably felt that at the time. Also, you say he wanted to spend more time with you, but you needed to do your thing first filming , you both needed different things in a relationship, and that's o.k. He thinks enough of you to share his happiness with you, you handled it great wishing him the very best, Brava.
@@prudencelay6067 I agree totally with your comment ... except to add: yet knowing all this, it’s often hard to learn the extent and speed ( as perceived by us) in which the other party moved on. @ Little Poet/SUSAN, may each of your two individual lives be blessed with true love, unselfish devotion, genuine joy and enthusiasm for living, as you each follow your hearts journey. -Hugs to you, Susan.
Exactly she told him she didn't live him. I can only imagine how that made him feel. My question is why is Susan expecting to receive a text from a man she tells she doesn't love.
Thanks for quoting Joni at the end. Here's the end of the song that I think is important for your week--"Oh, but now old friends they're acting strange and they shake their heads, they say I've changed. Well, something's lost but something's gained in living every day."
Your ex was not the right person for you. God has chosen the perfect husband for you when the time is right...... we must be patient for God’s time is always perfect. So, until then enjoy every day to the fullest and enjoy little Desi’s company too.... he is so precious. ❤️
You always make me smile with your adventures, shopping, meeting old friends, and just living life to the fullest. I've been a widow for a little over two years now and your stories, positive attitude and overall sincerity has inspired me to look at my future in a much more positive light. Thank you!!
Thank you so very much for the thoughtful, heartfelt sharing. I came upon your channel through Melony & Molly. I've just started checking in to more videos/content, that is geared toward the more mature woman. Rockstrmom is another I just recently began checking in on. I must say that your ability to film warmed my heart. I began watching the video about the gypsy and was interrupted. When I came back I thought I would view the most recent recording. Just want you to know that you are an inspiration to this "almost," 62 yr. Old woman who has decided to take better care of herself. I'm using many different modes of inspiration but, had to take this moment to let you know that I felt validated and that I had learned a few new things as well as being reminded of some wonderful things I know and deeply feel, but had forgotten. This pandemic has made me fearful of the human contact I know is so essential to my overall wellbeing. Thank God I live in a home with a loving, thoughtful husband and two sons that are within seconds available for a chat. Otherwise I feel I would be in a deep self invoked depression. I enjoy you soft, even voice but know if I viewed in mute i would still be uplifted by the beauty you share. Remember...ya dodged a bullet. A thoughtful man would have known you and not LED you to a DATE to share his, "happiness," i appreciate how diplomatic you were about his "intention," but maybe it's my cynical self talking. But I think you nailed it...he could have just told you over the phone. As a fiance, Janet, I would not be so cheerful in knowing he invited you to a meal at one of your old, "favorite," spots. You showed integrity and left before who knows what he had in mind. Really, I don't know how the two of you ended, but it seems he was not acting with, sensitive/good faith intentions. Your, "Mr. Right," will be much more in touch with who you are...October huh? That's not too far away! Peace and prosperity, Cindy
He would have to be ignorant not to realize that what he did was hurtful and inconsiderate. I definitely would not go to the wedding nor feel obligated to send a gift!!! He should have told you over the phone...not take you to dinner and rub it in your face. Sorry that happened to you and I hope you meet someone this year that is as kind as you are. Good luck!!
Right! He was getting ready for the set up to let her down. I bet he was hoping that she was ready for a relationship again so he can watch her fall apart after breaking news to her.
I think he invited Susan to the wedding because he wanted to soothe his own feelings. That's selfish to not only Susan but to Janet, who probably has not clue what he was up to.
@@kristinburton4953 you don’t know Jesus then. He loves her more than anyone man or anyone else. He created her and formed her in her mother’s womb and knows how many hairs are on her head. Hr knows her heart and what is best for her. He directs her path. Look up and Read Jeremiah 29:11and believe it!
@@kristinburton4953 Jesus cares but we all have to accept and live through our mistakes and bad choices. If you are not a believer you won’t understand and that is ok. Jesus does have the answer. If you or this beautiful woman in this video calls out to Him sincerely, He will answer and heal. That does not mean you won’t have to face the consequences of your choices in life but He will work them out for good. He will renew you and your life.
@@kristinburton4953 The first part of your comment is true, the second part not so true. That’s ok, you and I are free to believe what we choose. Best to you and yours!
@@kristinburton4953 you sound angry or angry at God. I’m sorry about that, I truly am. It’s odd that you would select the one line about # of hairs on someone’s head instead of everything else I wrote to comment to. Matter of fact you are right. There is much more to Jesus love than knowing the number of hairs a person has. In a few days we will celebrate how much more that love is. Jesus who was sinless came to earth and took your sins and my sins upon him and was beaten and tormented and spat on and a crown of thorns put upon his head and whipped until you could see his bones as his flesh tore off. And then he was nailed through his hands and feet upon wood and stabbed with a spear pouring out what little was left of his almost lifeless body and he gave up willing his life. That my friend is LOVE. He could have called upon his father in Heaven and thousands of angels to rescue him from this horrible cruel death, but took our place upon the cross and died for you and for me. So yes there is much more to his love. I don’t know where Satan steered you wrong but you better believe Jesus is very real. Heaven is very real and so is hell. I don’t even know you but Jesus does and would not want you to perish in that horrible place. He is giving you and everyone a chance to come to him even with the smallest of faith of a mustard seed and he already loves you so much and wants you to be with him forever as your daddy abba in Heaven forever in paradise. That’s the most important thing here. HIS LOVE, not the love of anyone else but his love stretched out from arm to arm on a cross for you and me and the world. He had done so many tangible blessings in my life. Things I have seen and things I haven’t. Please know he loves you and gives you free will to love him back but chose wisely. For it will matter forever where you will spend eternity. I encourage you to stop being angry and let go of any pain or unforgiveness and ask Jesus into your heart again. He’s waiting and ready. 🙏❤️
@@kristinburton4953 Mostly....We dont seek God with out entire hearts...we dont listen ...and we choose in our immaturities...but Jesus definatetly cares about oir marriages...our family...we just dont see clearly as we should...(atleast most ppl) People are messy and broken and we bring it to the marriage....Until we allow God to be the master of our relationsbips we will struggle harder than we need to.
No matter how nice he seems to be, he is trying to hurt you. If you don't stop it, it will go on. He will sent you pictures from the wedding, from vacation and on and on. And everytime you will feel this hurt, even though you are perfectly fine. Don't let him get away with it.
Thanks for sharing. My advice: write this man off your life. You can do better and you will when the time is right. I am alone too right now and it will stay that way if and when I meet the right man. I feel free to do as I please without having to try pleasing anybody. I enjoy your videos.
Oh Susan, I just found your channel, and LOVE what you share. I’m 61 and I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to watch you, a lady of my generation talk of life, emotions, shopping, etc. I’m so sorry that your ex asked you to lunch, only to drop that bombshell on you. No wonder you’re not together any more. As I watched you, I could feel you genuinely happy for him and his new lady. But could it be that by seeing him with a wonderful new love in his life made you realise that’s what you would like for yourself, not with him obviously!! At one point in the video you mentioned “walking down the aisle” of the store. It made my ears prick up. Anyway, you are beautiful, delightful, I am so enjoying your videos. They inspire me, make me think, and make me smile!! Thank you so much 🙏
You are amazing I just need to tell you that you must write a book I love listening to you share! I believe that you are going to be blessed with that right gentleman that you do deserve!! Great job on modeling your findings! Be blessed thank you
@@LittlePoet yes, that was a strange comment from him. You are in different levels of consciousness , Vibration. He is Not what is Best in your Life. 💚💙💚
Most of the time, you should never go have lunch with an ex. It's like going to a high school reunion and they're jealous that you did better than they did or if they did better the point of meeting up was to rub in your face. Unfortunately I learned the hard way.
Of course you want him to be happy. You're a good person! And yes, I feel it does matter that a man wants to move in but not fully commit. Hope you and Desi do well and are healthy!
Aerobics, chocolate, going to the hot springs in my area, and calling/seeing a friend helps get me out of a slump. Works every time. I wish you and Desi good health and lots of love. Desi is so cute!
You are such a lovely lady; beautiful aura, grace, style, fortitude. Your pearls of wisdom are being heard and collected. You are exactly what our world needs right now and I am grateful to have found you in this season of loneliness and isolation. I’m a retired English teacher and I so love your handle and references to poetry and books. I escape to nature when I’m feeling down and listen to beautiful piano or orchestra music. I dig deep into The Word and focus on spiritual blessings that surpass the ugliness of the world. Cheers to you and shopping🙏🏻
Two things stand out as odd to me: 1) I think most women would be uncomfortable if their fiancé went out with an ex girlfriend. It’s odd he didn’t tell you on the phone. 2) This is irrelevant but ....he pulled out his wallet to show you a picture -usually pictures are on a phone. Something seems off about the guy. Just leave him in the past.
@@LittlePoet Susan, I have had both vaccines. Medical virologists recommend good, healthy Sleep before and after the vaccines. Some recommend Melatonin. I take Melatonin Sustained Release, Pure Encapsulations. Stay Well, Hugs to you and Desi. 🌷
Oh Susan, my friend and mentor, you definitely are not alone. We all adore you. You handle life with class and depth and aplomb. When I'm down it seems a nap or a good night's sleep is the reset I need. LOVE LOVE LOVE your new frocks and your elephants... such fun!😙🙏
Really a heart felt video, girl. There is only one area where, with all due respect, I disagree. Asking a woman to live with him and asking a woman to marry him is a very big difference in the way a man thinks of a woman. As you mentioned, you weren't in love with this man and he apparently felt the same.. I speak with ladies in the same kind of relationship and it's always the same. If you give a man a minute without you, he'll most likely find the woman he will marry. You know the old saying, "If you love someone, set them free. If they return to you, they love you. If they don't, they never did." Your home is lovely and that's what got me to your channel, I'm doing a re-do of my apartment and it's fun!
Susan, I am new in this channel and truly love and admire how brave you are to express yourself ... thank you for having the courage to say all this... it teaches me so much strength in making yourself so vulnerable .... You truly are an amazing lady!.. and this guy its so confused and lost ... and definitely missing out I believe..Much love ❤ Nikki
You are an absolute delight, so talented in many areas. There is a Gorgeous man out there for you. Keep on being you. We're all here for you dear girl. ❤
I heard something on the radio about a year ago and it has stuck with me. It was about our connections with other people - any connection we may have with others. She talked about how life is challenging and how we are social beings and we look to interact with others. Then she said: ‘after all, we are all here to walk each other home’. Isn’t that the truth? We may not know it, but every interaction we have, adds to each other’s ultimate journey, home.
that is so true never thought about it like that until I saw the movie "Eat Pray Love" and it made sense. it helped me to stop holding grudges, finding my happy and growing as a person
It’s so odd that your- ex invited you to lunch to share the news of his upcoming nuptials. Especially when he could have very easily told you over the phone. Poor Janet....she probably had no clue. My thinking is you dodged a bullet with that one.
He did it to hurt her. Susan rejected him so that was his revenge. He could be a wonderful man who found someone to marry him. He clearly rubbed it in when he asked Susan out to dinner.
No to the lunch date, a BIG no to going to the wedding. He prolly wanted to see you one more time to soothe his ego (get a little revenge) and to see if he felt a spark for you. Ex'es and NOT your friends. ❤️
I think you felt the way you did because what he did was plain strange! Please don’t send him a gift. Please don’t. When I’m sad I soak in a hot bath ... or go shopping.
Susan, we have so much in common...First we share a first name. I'm 71, divorced and thought I would find love again. I actually connected on the internet with an old boyfriend thru a school site. We chatted for a few weeks and he asked me to lunch. I was so excited, had a wonderful lunch and then he called to tell me he was engaged. I was so disappointed but that was 15 years ago and except for a few dates and a failed relationship I haven't found IT. I get lonely sometimes but I have my pets and I bought a horse at 68 and that's my interest now. Love love your videos, you are a beautiful soul.
greetings from South Africa, Soweto to be exact, i love your videos. i just turned 50 in September. here i was thinking life is over before my dreams even began, you have given me a new perspective of life or have affirmed what i have been denying that age is a state of mind. love what you do...dont stop you are highly appreciated!
I love your lovely line of elephants! It reminds me of a recent video of a man who was like an elephant whisperer. To make a long story short, the man died and caught on video was a line of elephants, without any human prompting, walking to his home and standing silently outside for a period of time. They were very quiet and still. It seemed they intuited that he was no longer alive and came to honor him. I cried.
That was a beautifully lovely, heartfelt expression of feelings and thoughts about the the ex. Thank you When I am feeling blue, I buy myself a special coffee, go for a walk, change my sheets, cook myself some really tasty food, paint my toenails and burn some incense. One of those, if not all of them, always helps me nurture myself.
The blue floral skirt and white top look fabulous on you!! 💕 Sending you lots of love. Even if he wasn’t the one for you, it still hurts a little bit. Music and dancing always makes me feel better when I’m feeling a little down.
I love Tommy Hilfiger bags and clothes. They last forever. I’m so glad you went for some retail therapy. You deserved it after lunch with your ex. You deserve someone that loves you so much that you feel it every time you look into his eyes. You are an incredible woman and God will send you someone special. I pray I will find someone special also. But if I don’t, I am happy with my life. I count my blessings everyday. Thank you for always speaking to my soul.❤️❤️🙏🏻 Good luck on your 2nd vaccine. I’m getting mine on the 6th. Prayers for Desi! I’ll miss you both.
Me too - my 20 month old grand daughter saw a lady in front of us in line once and saw just the little Tommy Hilfiger flag on the edge of her top and she looked and me and said “MiMi’s”! I have so many Tommy things, LOL!👶🏼
When I am feeling a little down, I get out in nature and go for a walk by myself. Often, that involves going to the beautiful botanical gardens just outside our city. I live within a National Park area, so I also enjoy hiking there, especially when I can grab a friend to join me. Hoping you and Desi fair well this week. Wishing you many blessings!
Love all of your lovely new spring clothes-this week and last !! You dodged a bullet with the ex-sorry but he's getting married in May and having lunch with an ex-really??!! This is so wrong in so many ways. And come one Susan, until that right man comes along-you have the perfect little man who adores everything about you. The look in his eyes as he looks up at you makes me want to cry! Take care next week (I had my second shot a month ago and felt fine !) and keep us posted on the little man's minor surgery!! I will say a little prayer for him! Monnie ps-we are certainly lucky to have this little girlfriend's club!! It's one of the highlights of my week!!
This video came at a perfect time for me. I wish we were having lunch together because I can see your ex for what he is and you could see my ex for what he is n we could give each other the best advice n laugh! May God bless your heart n mind with peace and the ability to let go!
When I am feeling down, sometimes a car ride alone with the music blaring going down some beautiful country roads is all I need to boost me up. If I am feeling down about bills or how I am going to afford an expensive home repair or car repair, I know it sounds dumb but I watch TH-cam documentaries about poverty in America and I feel so grateful and blessed with what I have.
Sweet lady, your prince is finding his way to you. He has come from a long way, through many storms and troubles. But he has never quit trying to find you. You are his dream, the one who makes his heart race. And when you meet him, you will know it was worth the wait. I love you sweet friend 💛
He didn't want you to spend more time with him and not do videos - he didn't want you to have a life.I have a male friend who stops in once in a while to have coffee - and I have SO learned not to mention a thing about my life, or he ignores me, disappears for weeks at a time. The genuine narcissist. But I'v got such a full life that he can't take a piece of it away. I love my freedom and my faith.
When I hurt, i shop too! Or sleep, then pull my self up by the boot straps and move on. We all have different ways to deal with life. We have to do what works for us. You exude genuine vibes and I so enjoy you!💜
Exactly. His ego was hurt and now I think this was his way of letting you know he found someone who loved him. I think he told you in person for effect..to satisfy himself. Men have big egos. That's my experience anyway.
Yep, thats what I was thinking, he wanted to rub it in, should have just told him you are with someone now that you think may be the real thing and you are very happy. Narcissistic ! Yep dodged a bullet with this one.
@@cathyandresiak1975 My thoughts exactly! If he were a gentleman, he would have gently told her over the phone after she sent him the text. But he took the narcissistic route and rubbed it in her face.
I’m so glad that guy is an EX. He lacks empathy & would never be deserving of you. 🥸 Like you, I’m hoping this is my year for new love - I have waited so so long. God bless us both this year, & keep the faith, dear little poet. Never lose faith in yourself
I so also remember those black floral print dresses with the flutter split sleeves So 70s. Love It! And Susan's Paisley top tonight I just Love that too.!🌷
Handbags! Did somebody say handbags?! I love, love, love handbags. Recently, sold some, but gave lots of them to my family. I'm trying to discipline myself to quit buying them. So, haven't bought one in a few months. I just want to say, being alone in a wonderful home you've made for yourself and being gorgeous, I'm sure helps with the "being alone" thing. 🙂
I always love to see your videos. I love to hear what has happened in the week. you and your sweet Desi ...I sometimes can see myself in some of your stories. I realize that a lot of things that happened to you have happened to me in the past. I have a lot of hats and I wear lots of them every day....👍🏼🙏🏼💕Sending hugs prayers and kindness with lots of love. 💕👍🏼🙏🏼💗🦋💞
I know-Umm,,Lets "all" go to the Wedding!! 🤣🤣 It'll be FUN!!🥳
I love you Sandy! I should LIVE STREAM IT WITH SARCASM! :)......but seriously, I want them to be very happy!!!
@@LittlePoet Awhh,,Oh and HOW!!😘 ((hugs)) Glad We're all getting our shots!..And your so right let's get our bright beautiful clothes out and ready to go Live again😊
HAHAHAHA
i would dress up and eat all the food lmao!! and free cake!!
Haaaaa! Yes we can all go to the wedding... wearing beautiful outfits and amazing shoes... and have Susan do our hair and makeup!!! I think that’s a plan! Lol!
What kind of man talks to an ex girlfriend on the phone for 45 minutes, invites her to lunch, and holds onto her hand as she says goodbye when he is about to marry someone else?? The kind you don't need.
100% AGREE! THANK YOU!!! Love you Dixie!!!
I’d say the type of man who is very full of himself does this. What a lucky gal to get him. Hah!! Susan, sorry he was creepy enough to do this to you. The upside is you’ll never wonder if you missed out!! 😀
Narcissist
A man who had fond memories of someone he cared deeply about.
@@TheDriftwoodlover EXACTLY!
Susan, always remember this: you're not being rejected; you're being protected.
Amen! Amen! Amen! That is so very true!!!!!
Absolutely!
Hey Girlfriend,
Things happen for a reason. Just remember the universe has your back ❤ And a little retail helps. LOL. Love to you and Desi 🐕
Bingo! Best comment yet!🌿❤
Amen this is so true iwas protected so i no.
Personally, I think the whole "lunch date" stinks. As many have said, he could have told you over the phone, but wanted to do it in person, why? He brought up your videotaping, which was a bone of contention while you were dating, why? He invited his ex to his wedding, why? He sounds like a real jerk, trying to come across noble but actually being hurtful and passive aggressive. Not worth your time or a moment of regret. You are way too good for him, Susan. Regards from Crete.
Well said.
I would add no gift and no card for a jerk.
I agree he took her lunch to hurt her.
Thank you Susan....after really thinking about it I assume he knew if he told me over the phone he would never see me again but he wanted to see my face when I found out he was going to marry Janet. That is very much who he is...he has a wonderful side...a good man and he has another side that can be quite "different"...I wish them well..... Love you and thank you for being here! xxoo Susan
Sounds to me he wanted a free video for his wedding wake up smell the coffee your such lovely person move on who needs a man when you have good girlfriend's enjoying your life susan life to short we just come through pandemic live for today count are selves lucky we survived this horrible virus xxx
What was that man thinking!?!? Taking his ex-girlfriend out on a date right before his wedding day!?! I feel sorry for his Bride-to-be!!! She's going to marry him without even knowing what kind of guy he is....Honey, you certainly dodged "THAT" bullet........ How Awful
Sign from above! We should all be so lucky to avoid a train wreck before it happens!😂
My mom always said “better alone than in bad company”.. seems like you’re definitely better without him!
So very true. My mum always told me the same sort of thing
It’s very sweet of you to think of sending a gift, but you already gave him the gift of your time on the phone and then your presence at lunch. There is nothing you could send to top that. Buy yourself the gift; you deserve it more!
You are so kind and understanding!
I would not send a gift or attend the wedding. Save yourself from further hurt and humiliation.
Agree with this too. I think I know you a bit and you will send a gift and a card, though. And, my husband calls that 'taking the high road'. But, as a member of your fan club, don't spend too much!!! ;)
@@LittlePoet I was thinking the same thing, buy yourself a gift. You always look so beautiful in all the things you find.
@@sharonstrickland6421 What's Janet sappose to think, she doesn't know you. Stay away from the whole thing. Your path in life will benefit from knowing that all three of you will be o.k. and there's better days to come for you.
You really dodged a bullet with this guy. I know you get lonely but alone is better then being with the wrong person.You have such nice taste in everything.❤️
You said almost word for word what I was thinking!
Exactly! Dodged a bullet.
Very True!
I agree with you, who ever dosn't deserve here
I was thinking the same thing. What was he thinking, taking an ex for lunch then confronting her with that information. Sounds to me like revenge or boasting. She's well rid of him
We are connected! Instead of buying a gift for them, buy a special gift for yourself!
That is exactly what I was thinking....DO NOT SPEND A DIME...the wife will not allow it anyway!🤣
Yes I agree ❤️
Dearest Susan, I can so feel your pain. A month ago, the man I was with for 10 years invited me over to talk. We broke up one year ago and I had to move to a new area and knew no one. Then..the big C hit...so I was completely alienated. When I got the invite I was happy. I got dressed up and he hugged me and it felt so good to see him. IT was Valentine's day and he gave me chocolates and a bouquet of roses which were beautiful. Being in the home I was in for 10 years made me cry. After he dried my tears he went on to tell me he was dating a woman 20 years my junior, who was in fantastic shape who made him feel just great about himself. I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I left, scraping up what little dignity I had left. I couldn't help but wonder why he did this. Certainly...it was covert cruelty. To make myself feel better I immerse myself in color. I get out my pencils, my paints and I create beautiful women out of scraps of paper and glitter. I also get in the car with my Yorkie (and my bearded dragon!) and take pictures of beautiful things. Then I buy myself a great dinner. I also use crystals . It all helps.
to bring you down. passive aggressive to say the least. yikes
Some men are just plain A-holes. Sorry for the language but it's the truth. I hope karma is real.
From my personal life experience, is if you choose to just be boyfriend girlfriend thing for ten years, then a man is just holding on to the relationship until someone better comes along!
Marriage is more of a commitment,but there is always a chance that can end too!
🙏🏻😇But in my own life I have seen that if a man puts God first , he will put you first and cherish you and honor you ! Doing things God's way does make a difference, me and my husband Never had sex before marriage and we got engaged after four months, and three months later, we we're married in the LA Temple and that was 29 year's ago, and four children later! We own a company together and we work together and we have great fun all the time! We're still madly in love 😍😍 to this day,and I'm forever greatful to the Lord! Most of my friends are single and it's hard to see people you love your best friends lonely!
You are so lucky because he is a spiteful man. Next!!!!❤
You must have been on his mind that entire breakup for him to still think about paying you back in such a hurtful way... or at all for that matter. He'll never have the chance to hurt you like that again.
There’s nothing like retail therapy when you are feeling blue, and you looked fabulous in all the clothes.
Susan dear, he was your EX for a reason and this lunch was to allow you to stop checking for those text. You are so dear and so precious he never did deserve a woman like you.
Yes that was his cruel message for her to stop checking for those messages. Was sending out a very strong message of move on with your life.
"Not that it makes a difference." Yeah, but it DOES make a difference, and we know it. "Let's move in together" does not equal "Marry me."
I agree....yes.!!!
Maybe at that time he was not ready to make a complete commitment but as you grow older people usually change and become more committed.
I think there is a difference between living together and getting married. It has to do with commitment. If a man isn’t comfortable making a commitment to you, he certainly is saying a lot by asking you to be his room mate. I agree with other comments here. Good riddance. And, poor Janet.
Agree totally. I tell friends, myself, and will tell my daughter " don't even move a toothbrush across the street until you are married." Seriously, if you want the benefits of being married to me , they only come with actual marriage. JS.
You look beautiful in everything...but I must say, I don't think it's the clothing...I think its your aura...it speaks volumes...Love, kindness, there is a gentleness that you exude...Just love you! I think the ex might have issues....maybe regrets....or maybe you have some kind of affect on him...COME to my WEDDING...this is ODD...wonder what Janet would think... I know how much you yearn to meet LOVE again ( I see it in your eyes )......I believe with all my heart YOU WILL...You felt bad because YOU know YOU deserve that LOVE...the waiting is hard...and time is precious...I remember waiting SO LONG for LOU... It will come Sues!!
I completely agree
Oh Tammy you bring tears to my eyes because I think you understand...it's not that I don't feel complete without a man...but I just have all this love to give and I feel there is this man out there that is like me....wanting to share the beauty of life and perhaps not be so alone. I start a volunteer job downtown in May....there are so many good people who volunteer....something just told me to " GO" so I have hope to enrich my life in many ways. I have never seemed to " understand" life as much as I do now...I know you are younger than me, but it really is amazing how things stop being so mysterious as we age! I know how much you love Lou and you come right out and say this is the love of your life...and every time you say it I cry...good tears.It's so important to have believed in true love....Love you!!! Have a wonderful week! I loved your hair so much in that little bang/bob!!! So cute!!! xxoo Sues
Pearls Of Wisdom From one timeless beauty to another.
-Susan, your sweet, gentle spirit reflects perfectly thru the eye of your camera. Xxoo
Very kind words
Omg. I can't believe he brought you to dinner to tell you this. You are a class act and I can't imagine how it must have felt. You are beautiful and I'll bet you will have a special person show up that will appreciate what a treasure you are!!!
I have just discovered your channel, and I am ecstatic! I have watched just three of your videos, and I am so impressed with you already. You have a warmth and innocence, mixed with compassion and intelligence, that is so lacking in today's world. I cannot wait to binge-watch more of your videos. I consider myself a thrifty person, like you, and the things I possess are very meaningful to me...family things, mostly, chock full of memories. My small apartment is very eclectic, and it is my refuge. I spend a lot of time outdoors, because that is who I am, but when I need solace and peace of mind, my apartment provides that for me. You are truly a gem. Thank you for bringing light and love into the world!
I find it odd that your ex- didn't tell you, over the phone, that he's getting married. I find it odd that he invited you to his wedding. I find it odd that he watches your videos. Poor Janet.
Yes, it is Very Off and uncomfortable.
I would skip the gift, etc. Think about why you want to do that. I would not. To me it would have been considerate to tell you about his plans over the phone. Good luck with the vaccine, I just got second shot.
Yea, poor Janet
exactly he really craves attention
Agree!
Poor Janet is right.
I'm so glad you sent that narcissist on his way. There was absolutely no reason for him to invite you to dinner, especially after speaking to you at length only the previous day, other than to rub his "happiness" and upcoming wedding in your face. I would bet my life that he didn't tell his fiancee about this little outing, hahaha! And telling you to "get some footage from HIS wedding?"...What was that about? Why the heck would you care about getting footage from his wedding? Ugh.
And guessing how narcissistic he must be to do all that, I am sure that he will be watching this video, hoping you'll mention him. Well, all he has to do is read the comments here. That oughtta give him a good idea of what a catch he is. Good riddance Susan.
Yes he absolutely was trying to rub his happiness in her face.
especially since he didn't like her taking videos while they were dating
@@davidlee4245 o
I bet he doesn't even watch her videos
Susan, you are a beautiful accomplished woman. What a thoughtless, unkind human being. You deserve so much more from a partner. What a good miss! Onward.
Asking you out, telling you he was getting married, then asking you to come to the wedding is like a slap in the face not only to you, but to his bride to be. Shows the caliber of this man. You dodged a bullet. And from me to you... You can get better than him.
Thank you Mary...I agree. I never would have gone had I known he was getting married....love you!
@@kristinburton4953 maybe he thinks he is more important than he is.
@@kristinburton4953 Sure, Janet - er, I mean “Kristin.” Good luck, sister.
@@kristinburton4953 Bet he didn't tell his wife-to-be though...
@@kristinburton4953 Wow. What an insightful observation. I guess I'll never be able to place that bet. Damn!
How can I say this without sounding strange.... I wish we were friends. Whenever I watch your videos, it makes me feel so much better and I feel so connected to you and I don't even know you, for goodness sakes! Anyway, about your ex-boyfriend, please don't feel badly for too long.. let the feelings come and go. You are such a lovely person, beautiful, fun, sensitive, insightful.. shall I go on? LOL. I hope this passes soon for you. You bring so much through your videos and I certainly look forward to them. Thanks for being who you are. (Yes, this post sounds super weird, I get it.. )
Susan, When I’ve gone through devastating breakups, I was always aware that God draws close to the broken hearted. Ask Him and He will comfort you. You are so worthy of love.❤️
Susan, it does make a difference. A marriage proposal is not the same as being asked to live together. In your heart, you knew that and made the right choice.
You hit the nail on the head. I was a little disappointed when she made that comment. If I'm not good enough to be your wife, then I'm sure the hell not good enough to be your live in partner. Not knocking anyone for the way they choose to live their lives, but for me, I don't play the role of baby mamma or girlfriend very well. I'm wife material, and if you can't embrace that and marry me, we sure as hell will not be living together.
@@lauraleehenry5657
Amen, Lauralee. My sentiments, also. In my day, it was called "shacking up". How times have changed, or should I say, "values".
@@lauraleehenry5657 I feel the same way. These days women seem comfortable living with a man, but I grew up, and it sounds like you did too, with the idea that marriage was the standard, and anything else would be an insult.
When I'm with a man, I want to be able to say " Let's get married," he responds with, "What are you doing next Tuesday?"
Oh Susan, I am so sorry to hear that your ex-boyfriend carried on like that. His behavior was so inappropriate. But don’t worry. You are a beautiful woman inside and out. God has someone very special for you and I hope he comes into your life this year! Hope you feel OK after the vaccine shot. Love and God Bless, Mary ❤️🤗❤️
Thank you Mary....I feel a shakeup coming and I am getting ready for some changes! It means the world to be able to talk this out with m=you and our gal pals here! It feels so good to be connected! Happy new week to you!!!
@@LittlePoet k(k0l
Susan dodged a bullet.
Susan, I think you look beautiful always. And I think you were more than gracious and kind under those circumstances of your boyfriend asking you to go to lunch to tell you about his happy news. I myself would not go to the wedding. But just remember "Rejection is God's protection, and this too shall" pass. All I can say is that men are definitely wired differently. ( Weirdo) Much love ❤❤❤
How was he inappropriate? He broke it to her in person and wanted to remain friends. Now I maybe missing something here, a backstory, because I just started watching her . I do think she is a lovely woman. Any man would be lucky to have her as a friend or love interest. She’s so sweet!
Spending time with people that are not on your wavelength is like putting spoiled milk back in the refrigerator and expecting it to be good the next day. Toss the spoiled milk. Say goodbye forever to this old boyfriend. ♥️♥️♥️
That made me laugh
Awe, I love those final words you said about your ex that you'd never forget him and that he taught you so much. It says so much about you. Don't be surprised when soon God will open many windows of opportunities for you. 🙂
He taught her (and us) always drive yourself! I love it.
Poor Janet!! 🤣 You go, Susan, and thank you so much for the light and comfort you give us. You have no idea how much your channel means to me. I`ve watched your videos every week since 2018 and they have helped me through some really hard times. I wish you the very best!!
Thank you so much, Irene...you have helped me too..every week...it's amazing how much I cherish this place we have here where we can be ourselves and share secerets! I just love you and thank you so much for beign here for me and Desi!
Here's my solution: I never talk to exes.
True. I would be setting myself up for failure if I did it.
Me neither!! I've always said they are exes for a reason. Move on...
I AGREE NEVER LOOK BACK !
I'm 64 and I still haven't learned my lesson on that!
Smart.
Here is your why...we have to grieve the loss even if it is from the past. Feel it...walk through it...and then come out the other side. And feel that sun on your face and know this....God has you right where you are supposed to be. Keep the Faith and focus on your future! Hugs. ♡
Thank you so much!
thatgirlmadge ... re: grieving the loss etc correct, ...
I agree, timing ... God knows ~ HE (God) is the Ultimate Match Maker ! & only wants the BEST MATCH for us ~ tfs, : )
@@LittlePoet always. I have been right where you are. And where you are is perfect. Perfect for growth.
Elephants are incredibly, beautiful, intelligent animals.
No one needs elephant tusks more than the elephant does.
Oh Susan , I'm so glad you decided to share this with us , I can only imagine what was going through your head , lived your purse.
It IS the love and support of others that helps us through tough times, and you are definitely this for me dear Susan. Thank you for your loving and wise words. You look BEAUTIFUL in your new clothes!
Susan, I think you handled the situation really well. When you said you were so glad to get back into your own car and back to your own place, I could hear your sense of relief of your own independence. I totally understand that.
DONT EVER CHANGE YOUR STYLE SUSAN, ITS BEAUTIFUL AND SO FEMININE, AND THAT IS ALWAYS IN STYLE🦋💕
I love you so much!!!
Guys don’t have a clue. Sue he sounds very ordinary and the guy that will come into your life will be extra special and not just ordinary.
No this guy sounds like he knew exactly what he was doing...to hurt her.
@@davidlee4245 yes you are right, but I think in his mind he didn’t think he was.
You have beautiful style. I love seeing how you shop and the quality things you select for your apartment and yourself. I'm sorry your ex left you feeling wistful, but it's easy to understand. It's a final end.
What your ex did was cruel. It sounds like something my ex would do if I still had contact with her. These people do it to make them feel better. They are narcissists who cant show empathy to others. I would cut all contact with him and concentrate on yourself. You are doing a great job at creating a great life. I would rather be on my own (even lonely) than be with the wrong person. Dont forget you are a beautiful person.
A ex is a ex for a reason, don’t look back.
I’m going through a very rough time. When it all gets to be to much, I get out of the house take a drive, a walk, and sometimes go to Dollar Tree.
My other thing is redoing things. Right now I’m working on a piece of furniture that belong to someone very dear. Her husband, her daughter and herself all died within two weeks of each other from CoVID complications. I’m doing this to honor her and to always have something of hers close by.
Have a good week.
So sorry for your loss!!
Lea - I’m sorry to hear of your loss. What a beautiful way to remember your friend and her family, by redoing a piece of her furniture. A lovely way to keep busy to help you through this time. 🌷
You are doing the right things.Be happy.
Thank you ladies. I apologize for kinda dampening the mood. Susan, the guy lost a treasure. But you were wise to move on.
AN (not A) ex is AN (not A) ex for a reason. AN before vowels.😉
There comes a time when we realize we can learn to live alone . I am older now at 77 and my husband passed away we were married 38 years.Now I have my son living with me.I love my cable movies and DVDS and I love my books.I write my stories for San Pedro My Hometown and they love my stories.We live at the top of the mountains in Fawnskin Ca with all the seasons.I am just in another phase of my life where I have my husband's large police retirement and my retirement of 35 years and Social security. Enough to live comfortably and be happy with wonderful memories.I am content.
Hi linda, were you referring to San Pedro California? Just curious as I was born there and have never heard anyone mention it before.
Well...If i had all that for Retirement...I wouldn't get married again either!
Ummm. He's an ex for a reason. Just remember that. Good luck to his new lady.
You should have declined lunch,
and then you would have been in control.
She'll need it!
I felt blue today and took myself to my favorite nursery and walked thru all the plants and flowers and then splurged on a beautiful, sunny yellow hibiscus tree for my deck. And I would feel just as you did hearing this news while out to lunch w the Ex. I felt happy and relieved with you as you got back to the comfort of your car and DROVE AWAY! 😉🌼
I feel that you were meant to talk to your ex boyfriend. He didn’t have to ask you to lunch, but seeing him gave you the answer that you had been wondering about while you were curious when checking in to see if he texted you. There was your final answer. Plain and clear. You needed this to close another chapter of your life. And I bet with all the beautiful clothes you just bought, someone will come into your life and love you the way you should be loved. You’re a beautiful woman, inside and out, and your personality is so serene and wonderful. Don’t forget... you deserve the best. Never seconds. xo
I think you have the love of your life, Susan. Desi couldn't take his eyes off you while you were modelling. There is nothing purer than the love of a pet 🥰♡
Exes are exes for a reason! No contact is the only way to go once it's over, in my opinion. Like the bag!
I agree,my ex keeps coming round to see if I'm ok,!? Guilt!!!! It hurts terribly.Keep away!x
That was weird that your ex-boyfriend took you on a date to tell you that he was getting married. I would've done the same thing as you. It sounds like he wanted you to be a free videographer at his wedding.
No, he wanted to see her hopefully fall apart for his ego! What a pure jerk!
I agree!!
that's what I was thinking!!!!! I didn't want to say, but it does sound like he wanted you to do his filming, Susan. You are sooooo much more than that. I would skip the gift. You are very kind to be so thoughtful.
Video his wedding?? What a passive-aggressive dig. It’s also not honorable to meet an ex for lunch right before your wedding. Dishonorable people do dishonorable things.
No he does not want a free videographer. He did the whole thing with the intention to hurt her.
You are such a class act! I really am happy I found you here. You make my heart smile ❤
I’m glad you made a video this week. I can understand why you hesitated, nearly skipped this week, and we would have understood. We all have weeks where an incident throws us off kilter. But you were brave and shared your story and that made a lot of us (well me at least) feel better, like this kind of thing doesn’t only happen to me!
Thank you so much Jane :)! We truly are connected and life just seems easier knowing we are not alone! I hope your new week is a great one! xxoo Susan & Desi
The most important thing you said is that you didn't love him, he probably felt that at the time. Also, you say he wanted to spend more time with you, but you needed to do your thing first filming , you both needed different things in a relationship, and that's o.k. He thinks enough of you to share his happiness with you, you handled it great wishing him the very best, Brava.
You clearly didn’t want the relationship and I’m sure he picked up on that. He moved on as everyone should, life is short.
@@prudencelay6067 I agree totally with your comment ... except to add: yet knowing all this, it’s often hard to learn the extent and speed ( as perceived by us) in which the other party moved on.
@ Little Poet/SUSAN, may each of your two individual lives be blessed with true love, unselfish devotion, genuine joy and enthusiasm for living, as you each follow your hearts journey.
-Hugs to you, Susan.
Exactly she told him she didn't live him. I can only imagine how that made him feel. My question is why is Susan expecting to receive a text from a man she tells she doesn't love.
Thanks for quoting Joni at the end. Here's the end of the song that I think is important for your week--"Oh, but now old friends they're acting strange and they shake their heads, they say I've changed. Well, something's lost but something's gained in living every day."
Isn't that a wonderful song....I just love it and to think she was only 25 when she wrote it!!!! Thank you Teresa!!! My SISTA!!!
my favorite song! her voice, the meanings....
Your ex was not the right person for you. God has chosen the perfect husband for you when the time is right...... we must be patient for God’s time is always perfect. So, until then enjoy every day to the fullest and enjoy little Desi’s company too.... he is so precious. ❤️
Rosemary ~ I agree w/ your comment 100%, tfs
Susan was married twice, she had her time. Leave God out of this because he ain't in the business of multiple marriages.
You always make me smile with your adventures, shopping, meeting old friends, and just living life to the fullest. I've been a widow for a little over two years now and your stories, positive attitude and overall sincerity has inspired me to look at my future in a much more positive light. Thank you!!
Thank you so very much for the thoughtful, heartfelt sharing. I came upon your channel through Melony & Molly. I've just started checking in to more videos/content, that is geared toward the more mature woman. Rockstrmom is another I just recently began checking in on.
I must say that your ability to film warmed my heart. I began watching the video about the gypsy and was interrupted. When I came back I thought I would view the most recent recording.
Just want you to know that you are an inspiration to this "almost," 62 yr. Old woman who has decided to take better care of herself. I'm using many different modes of inspiration but, had to take this moment to let you know that I felt validated and that I had learned a few new things as well as being reminded of some wonderful things I know and deeply feel, but had forgotten.
This pandemic has made me fearful of the human contact I know is so essential to my overall wellbeing. Thank God I live in a home with a loving, thoughtful husband and two sons that are within seconds available for a chat. Otherwise I feel I would be in a deep self invoked depression.
I enjoy you soft, even voice but know if I viewed in mute i would still be uplifted by the beauty you share.
Remember...ya dodged a bullet. A thoughtful man would have known you and not LED you to a DATE to share his, "happiness," i appreciate how diplomatic you were about his "intention," but maybe it's my cynical self talking. But I think you nailed it...he could have just told you over the phone.
As a fiance, Janet, I would not be so cheerful in knowing he invited you to a meal at one of your old, "favorite," spots.
You showed integrity and left before who knows what he had in mind. Really, I don't know how the two of you ended, but it seems he was not acting with, sensitive/good faith intentions.
Your, "Mr. Right," will be much more in touch with who you are...October huh? That's not too far away!
Peace and prosperity,
Cindy
He would have to be ignorant not to realize that what he did was hurtful and inconsiderate. I definitely would not go to the wedding nor feel obligated to send a gift!!! He should have told you over the phone...not take you to dinner and rub it in your face. Sorry that happened to you and I hope you meet someone this year that is as kind as you are. Good luck!!
He absolutely did this to hurt her.
He knew what he was doing..."let's go to OUR favorite restaurant"??? I would definitely skip the wedding gift.
Right! He was getting ready for the set up to let her down. I bet he was hoping that she was ready for a relationship again so he can watch her fall apart after breaking news to her.
I think he invited Susan to the wedding because he wanted to soothe his own feelings. That's selfish to not only Susan but to Janet, who probably has not clue what he was up to.
@@KimberlyLetsGo soothe his own feelings how? You think he felt guilty?
I know you are hurting. Take it to Jesus, He is the ultimate healer. Take care💕 You are absolutely gorgeous btw, his loss.
@@kristinburton4953 you don’t know Jesus then. He loves her more than anyone man or anyone else. He created her and formed her in her mother’s womb and knows how many hairs are on her head. Hr knows her heart and what is best for her. He directs her path. Look up and Read Jeremiah 29:11and believe it!
@@kristinburton4953 Jesus cares but we all have to accept and live through our mistakes and bad choices. If you are not a believer you won’t understand and that is ok. Jesus does have the answer. If you or this beautiful woman in this video calls out to Him sincerely, He will answer and heal. That does not mean you won’t have to face the consequences of your choices in life but He will work them out for good. He will renew you and your life.
@@kristinburton4953 The first part of your comment is true, the second part not so true. That’s ok, you and I are free to believe what we choose. Best to you and yours!
@@kristinburton4953 you sound angry or angry at God. I’m sorry about that, I truly am. It’s odd that you would select the one line about # of hairs on someone’s head instead of everything else I wrote to comment to. Matter of fact you are right. There is much more to Jesus love than knowing the number of hairs a person has. In a few days we will celebrate how much more that love is. Jesus who was sinless came to earth and took your sins and my sins upon him and was beaten and tormented and spat on and a crown of thorns put upon his head and whipped until you could see his bones as his flesh tore off. And then he was nailed through his hands and feet upon wood and stabbed with a spear pouring out what little was left of his almost lifeless body and he gave up willing his life. That my friend is LOVE. He could have called upon his father in Heaven and thousands of angels to rescue him from this horrible cruel death, but took our place upon the cross and died for you and for me. So yes there is much more to his love. I don’t know where Satan steered you wrong but you better believe Jesus is very real. Heaven is very real and so is hell. I don’t even know you but Jesus does and would not want you to perish in that horrible place. He is giving you and everyone a chance to come to him even with the smallest of faith of a mustard seed and he already loves you so much and wants you to be with him forever as your daddy abba in Heaven forever in paradise. That’s the most important thing here. HIS LOVE, not the love of anyone else but his love stretched out from arm to arm on a cross for you and me and the world. He had done so many tangible blessings in my life. Things I have seen and things I haven’t. Please know he loves you and gives you free will to love him back but chose wisely. For it will matter forever where you will spend eternity. I encourage you to stop being angry and let go of any pain or unforgiveness and ask Jesus into your heart again. He’s waiting and ready. 🙏❤️
@@kristinburton4953
Mostly....We dont seek God with out entire hearts...we dont listen ...and we choose in our immaturities...but Jesus definatetly cares about oir marriages...our family...we just dont see clearly as we should...(atleast most ppl)
People are messy and broken and we bring it to the marriage....Until we allow God to be the master of our relationsbips we will struggle harder than we need to.
No matter how nice he seems to be, he is trying to hurt you. If you don't stop it, it will go on. He will sent you pictures from the wedding, from vacation and on and on. And everytime you will feel this hurt, even though you are perfectly fine.
Don't let him get away with it.
Thank you...this stops now, I promise! I hope they are happy and leave me be to have a good life!
Don't allow him to contact you again. DON'T put yourself in the role of other woman. 😱
Yes!!
Thanks for sharing. My advice: write this man off your life. You can do better and you will when the time is right. I am alone too right now and it will stay that way if and when I meet the right man. I feel free to do as I please without having to try pleasing anybody. I enjoy your videos.
I so agree with you, it's called killing with kindness. Be on the lookout for this underlining abuse.
Oh Susan, I just found your channel, and LOVE what you share. I’m 61 and I can’t tell you how wonderful it is to watch you, a lady of my generation talk of life, emotions, shopping, etc. I’m so sorry that your ex asked you to lunch, only to drop that bombshell on you. No wonder you’re not together any more. As I watched you, I could feel you genuinely happy for him and his new lady. But could it be that by seeing him with a wonderful new love in his life made you realise that’s what you would like for yourself, not with him obviously!! At one point in the video you mentioned “walking down the aisle” of the store. It made my ears prick up. Anyway, you are beautiful, delightful, I am so enjoying your videos. They inspire me, make me think, and make me smile!! Thank you so much 🙏
You are amazing I just need to tell you that you must write a book I love listening to you share! I believe that you are going to be blessed with that right gentleman that you do deserve!! Great job on modeling your findings! Be blessed thank you
It sounds to me that maybe he wanted a free photographer! He just couldn't get up enough nerve to ask! You deserve better! ❤
good point!!!
@@LittlePoet yes, that was a strange comment from him. You are in different levels of consciousness , Vibration. He is Not what is Best in your Life. 💚💙💚
That thought crossed my mind too….
You are a Sweet, gracious lady and oh so lucky that he is Janet’s problem now!! Count your blessings!! Have a great week!
One of the best feelings in the world...get in my car and go HOME! Love your channel!
Oh my! I loved all things Carole Little! Ex-husbands deserve none of our attention. I live in the present, not the past!
Most of the time, you should never go have lunch with an ex. It's like going to a high school reunion and they're jealous that you did better than they did or if they did better the point of meeting up was to rub in your face. Unfortunately I learned the hard way.
Of course you want him to be happy. You're a good person! And yes, I feel it does matter that a man wants to move in but not fully commit. Hope you and Desi do well and are healthy!
Susan, I'm sorry you had that experience, you dodged a bullet. Better alone than in bad company.
I hope you are doing well. Your videos are my favorite part of the week.
Ah, thank you so much, Felicia!!! I love seeing you and all our gal pals here!!!!
Aerobics, chocolate, going to the hot springs in my area, and calling/seeing a friend helps get me out of a slump. Works every time. I wish you and Desi good health and lots of love. Desi is so cute!
You are such a lovely lady; beautiful aura, grace, style, fortitude. Your pearls of wisdom are being heard and collected. You are exactly what our world needs right now and I am grateful to have found you in this season of loneliness and isolation. I’m a retired English teacher and I so love your handle and references to poetry and books. I escape to nature when I’m feeling down and listen to beautiful piano or orchestra music. I dig deep into The Word and focus on spiritual blessings that surpass the ugliness of the world.
Cheers to you and shopping🙏🏻
Two things stand out as odd to me: 1) I think most women would be uncomfortable if their fiancé went out with an ex girlfriend. It’s odd he didn’t tell you on the phone. 2) This is irrelevant but ....he pulled out his wallet to show you a picture -usually pictures are on a phone. Something seems off about the guy. Just leave him in the past.
Love the way Desi lovingly looks at you when you model your new clothes!
Isn't that the cutest!!!
@@LittlePoet Susan, I have had both vaccines. Medical virologists recommend good, healthy Sleep before and after the vaccines. Some recommend Melatonin. I take Melatonin Sustained Release, Pure Encapsulations. Stay Well, Hugs to you and Desi. 🌷
He loves that blue skirt as much as I do!
Oh Susan, my friend and mentor, you definitely are not alone. We all adore you. You handle life with class and depth and aplomb. When I'm down it seems a nap or a good night's sleep is the reset I need. LOVE LOVE LOVE your new frocks and your elephants... such fun!😙🙏
Really a heart felt video, girl. There is only one area where, with all due respect, I disagree. Asking a woman to live with him and asking a woman to marry him is a very big difference in the way a man thinks of a woman. As you mentioned, you weren't in love with this man and he apparently felt the same.. I speak with ladies in the same kind of relationship and it's always the same. If you give a man a minute without you, he'll most likely find the woman he will marry. You know the old saying, "If you love someone, set them free. If they return to you, they love you. If they don't, they never did." Your home is lovely and that's what got me to your channel, I'm doing a re-do of my apartment and it's fun!
Susan, I am new in this channel and truly love and admire how brave you are to express yourself ... thank you for having the courage to say all this... it teaches me so much strength in making yourself so vulnerable .... You truly are an amazing lady!.. and this guy its so confused and lost ... and definitely missing out I believe..Much love ❤ Nikki
You are an absolute delight, so talented in many areas. There is a Gorgeous man out there for you. Keep on being you. We're all here for you dear girl. ❤
I heard something on the radio about a year ago and it has stuck with me. It was about our connections with other people - any connection we may have with others. She talked about how life is challenging and how we are social beings and we look to interact with others.
Then she said: ‘after all, we are all here to walk each other home’. Isn’t that the truth? We may not know it, but every interaction we have, adds to each other’s ultimate journey, home.
that is so true never thought about it like that until I saw the movie "Eat Pray Love" and it made sense. it helped me to stop holding grudges, finding my happy and growing as a person
It’s so odd that your- ex invited you to lunch to share the news of his upcoming nuptials. Especially when he could have very easily told you over the phone. Poor Janet....she probably had no clue. My thinking is you dodged a bullet with that one.
He did it to hurt her. Susan rejected him so that was his revenge. He could be a wonderful man who found someone to marry him. He clearly rubbed it in when he asked Susan out to dinner.
@@davidlee4245 Oh I’m sure right about him wanting to hurt her. 😞
When I feel blue I play music, from the past...nostalgic to me stuff...lifts my spirit.
When I feel down I go outside and enjoy nature, Gods beautiful creation encourages me, all the birds singing is special.
You are so open & vulnerable! You can inspire others to do what is so very difficult, and to be kind through it, and explore your way through it.
No to the lunch date, a BIG no to going to the wedding. He prolly wanted to see you one more time to soothe his ego (get a little revenge) and to see if he felt a spark for you. Ex'es and NOT your friends. ❤️
Nah he is not interested in Susan. He is doing everything with the intention to hurt. Hurt people hurt people.
I think you felt the way you did because what he did was plain strange! Please don’t send him a gift. Please don’t. When I’m sad I soak in a hot bath ... or go shopping.
Susan, we have so much in common...First we share a first name. I'm 71, divorced and thought I would find love again. I actually connected on the internet with an old boyfriend thru a school site. We chatted for a few weeks and he asked me to lunch. I was so excited, had a wonderful lunch and then he called to tell me he was engaged. I was so disappointed but that was 15 years ago and except for a few dates and a failed relationship I haven't found IT. I get lonely sometimes but I have my pets and I bought a horse at 68 and that's my interest now. Love love your videos, you are a beautiful soul.
I think the horse was a better deal... 🥰
greetings from South Africa, Soweto to be exact, i love your videos. i just turned 50 in September. here i was thinking life is over before my dreams even began, you have given me a new perspective of life or have affirmed what i have been denying that age is a state of mind. love what you do...dont stop you are highly appreciated!
I love your lovely line of elephants! It reminds me of a recent video of a man who was like an elephant whisperer. To make a long story short, the man died and caught on video was a line of elephants, without any human prompting, walking to his home and standing silently outside for a period of time. They were very quiet and still. It seemed they intuited that he was no longer alive and came to honor him. I cried.
Yes! they are just lovely creatures aren't they?❤❤❤❤
I heard about that and apparently some of the elephants traveled hundreds of miles to be there to honour that man
My goodness - what you just said about those elephants: I especially needed to hear that right now, dear heart + thank you!
Oh that makes my night Jeannee!!!
Susan you are the essence of both style and grace! Sending that gift shows how classy and graceful you are! 💕
Your hair is so pretty in this video! And oh yes shopping for sales!!
That was a beautifully lovely, heartfelt expression of feelings and thoughts about the the ex. Thank you
When I am feeling blue, I buy myself a special coffee, go for a walk, change my sheets, cook myself some really tasty food, paint my toenails and burn some incense. One of those, if not all of them, always helps me nurture myself.
The blue floral skirt and white top look fabulous on you!! 💕 Sending you lots of love. Even if he wasn’t the one for you, it still hurts a little bit. Music and dancing always makes me feel better when I’m feeling a little down.
I love Tommy Hilfiger bags and clothes. They last forever. I’m so glad you went for some retail therapy. You deserved it after lunch with your ex. You deserve someone that loves you so much that you feel it every time you look into his eyes. You are an incredible woman and God will send you someone special. I pray I will find someone special also. But if I don’t, I am happy with my life. I count my blessings everyday. Thank you for always speaking to my soul.❤️❤️🙏🏻 Good luck on your 2nd vaccine. I’m getting mine on the 6th. Prayers for Desi! I’ll miss you both.
Me too - my 20 month old grand daughter saw a lady in front of us in line once and saw just the little Tommy Hilfiger flag on the edge of her top and she looked and me and said “MiMi’s”! I have so many Tommy things, LOL!👶🏼
When I am feeling a little down, I get out in nature and go for a walk by myself. Often, that involves going to the beautiful botanical gardens just outside our city. I live within a National Park area, so I also enjoy hiking there, especially when I can grab a friend to join me. Hoping you and Desi fair well this week. Wishing you many blessings!
Love all of your lovely new spring clothes-this week and last !! You dodged a bullet with the ex-sorry but he's getting married in May and having lunch with an ex-really??!! This is so wrong in so many ways. And come one Susan, until that right man comes along-you have the perfect little man who adores everything about you. The look in his eyes as he looks up at you makes me want to cry! Take care next week (I had my second shot a month ago and felt fine !) and keep us posted on the little man's minor surgery!! I will say a little prayer for him! Monnie
ps-we are certainly lucky to have this little girlfriend's club!! It's one of the highlights of my week!!
This video came at a perfect time for me. I wish we were having lunch together because I can see your ex for what he is and you could see my ex for what he is n we could give each other the best advice n laugh! May God bless your heart n mind with peace and the ability to let go!
When I am feeling down, sometimes a car ride alone with the music blaring going down some beautiful country roads is all I need to boost me up. If I am feeling down about bills or how I am going to afford an expensive home repair or car repair, I know it sounds dumb but I watch TH-cam documentaries about poverty in America and I feel so grateful and blessed with what I have.
I do that too!!!
Sweet lady, your prince is finding his way to you. He has come from a long way, through many storms and troubles. But he has never quit trying to find you. You are his dream, the one who makes his heart race. And when you meet him, you will know it was worth the wait.
I love you sweet friend 💛
Susan was married twice. She has had her prince.
@@davidlee4245
Mind your own business.Susans life is between her and God.You are not her god nor anyone elses
Well, when I feel blue I usually have a good cry. Crying is therapeutic and it makes me feel better. Shopping and eating something sweet helps! 🎂
Stick with a cup of tea, or you'll get fat.
He didn't want you to spend more time with him and not do videos - he didn't want you to have a life.I have a male friend who stops in once in a while to have coffee - and I have SO learned not to mention a thing about my life, or he ignores me, disappears for weeks at a time. The genuine narcissist. But I'v got such a full life that he can't take a piece of it away. I love my freedom and my faith.
When I hurt, i shop too! Or sleep, then pull my self up by the boot straps and move on. We all have different ways to deal with life. We have to do what works for us. You exude genuine vibes and I so enjoy you!💜
Yep, he wanted to let you know someone loved him.
You didn’t love him, remember?
You might have a point there.
Exactly. His ego was hurt and now I think this was his way of letting you know he found someone who loved him. I think he told you in person for effect..to satisfy himself. Men have big egos. That's my experience anyway.
Yep, thats what I was thinking, he wanted to rub it in, should have just told him you are with someone now that you think may be the real thing and you are very happy. Narcissistic ! Yep dodged a bullet with this one.
@@cathyandresiak1975 My thoughts exactly! If he were a gentleman, he would have gently told her over the phone after she sent him the text. But he took the narcissistic route and rubbed it in her face.
I agree. He did it to show her someone loved him.
I’m so glad that guy is an EX. He lacks empathy & would never be deserving of you. 🥸 Like you, I’m hoping this is my year for new love - I have waited so so long. God bless us both this year, & keep the faith, dear little poet. Never lose faith in yourself
Love the black floral top. You look fantastic in it and yes I remember that 70s look!
I so also remember those black floral print dresses with the flutter split sleeves So 70s. Love It!
And Susan's Paisley top tonight I just Love that too.!🌷
Yes, that top is gorgeous on you!
Handbags! Did somebody say handbags?! I love, love, love handbags. Recently, sold some, but gave lots of them to my family. I'm trying to discipline myself to quit buying them. So, haven't bought one in a few months.
I just want to say, being alone in a wonderful home you've made for yourself and being gorgeous, I'm sure helps with the "being alone" thing. 🙂
I always love to see your videos. I love to hear what has happened in the week. you and your sweet Desi ...I sometimes can see myself in some of your stories. I realize that a lot of things that happened to you have happened to me in the past. I have a lot of hats and I wear lots of them every day....👍🏼🙏🏼💕Sending hugs prayers and kindness with lots of love. 💕👍🏼🙏🏼💗🦋💞