That's how so many fights and estrangements ignite...when people create a crazy false story in their head, especially about another person's motives or intent.
Zynara Ng me2 I cried, because I didn't get it this deep when my mom told me about how my experiences (as a kid) were not always exactly what happened.
I love Brene...just love her... I purchased a Kindle HD, downloaded the book.. I just can't seem to get into reading on the Kindle. I need to buy Rising Strong hardcopy... I've read Brene's first 2 books, for course they were hard copy. I gotta ready Rising Strong...
It's like watching your own brain work in survival mode. Something I have been noticing recently. I will catch myself and say out loud, no, that's not what it is. What is the root of the issue?
What’s hard is to keep telling yourself the right story. Because my stories include old habits and as soon as I stop thinking about it, it feels like the old self hate self distrust puts itself back in the drivers seat, and I have to immediately take it out and rewrite it again. It makes me feel like I’m lying to myself when I try to change the narrative to something more positive and casting myself in a more Favorable light
After watching this, if I start ruminating, I ask myself "What story are you making up?" and it immediately stops the spin cycle. I am sure the question activates another part of the brain. It has been a game changer for me.
I've just now gotten curious about my emotional triggers. The whole left v right, conservative v liberal business thats been going on absolutely tears me up. My parents argued a lot when I was growing up. I wonder if they are connected in some way
0:00 - Are You Hooked on a False Story? - Brene Brown REM NOTES: The truth is that you should not believe everything you believe to be true as true until you fact check it. WHY? Because your parents and your "teachers in life and the issues of life" may not have taught you what is true when it comes to friendship/relationship situations. Since you ALWAYS behave in alignment with what you believe, it will become evident to those people in your circles of influence that you believe a lie or two or more about friendship/relationship issues of life. Brene brings this least traveled discussion between people to light. th-cam.com/video/5RsPjFnNdw4/w-d-xo.html
Interesting, but it sounds as if a step is missing. Wouldn't the reckoning be: a button was pushed, let me figure out why, after I ask this person what they meant by that comment, gesture etc. If it was intended because my "stories" about this person are accurate that is one thing I can deal with. If the person was just sighing for no reason, that is completely different.
1:04-1:05...what is she saying? She spoke way too quickly there and I cannot figure out that one word, "The stories you make up about your fall need to be really...." Really what? I even slowed it down and cannot understand at a slower speed either...
Some people's automatic reaction is negative. Even if they don't have all the facts, they still go to a negative place. I don't think I will ever understand why people must do that.
lisa a romano is much better at explaining codependency issues than brene as I find that she uses a lot of words to explain the core of the issue, its like she just rambles on and on before she makes her point, yawn
That's how so many fights and estrangements ignite...when people create a crazy false story in their head, especially about another person's motives or intent.
I feel what she is describing is an awakening to self-awareness.
+TheLeigha72 Yeah I think it's a kind of mindfulness. That's really interesting.
Totally. #1 skill 🤍
This piece really speaks to me. Thank you Brene!
Zynara Ng me2 I cried, because I didn't get it this deep when my mom told me about how my experiences (as a kid) were not always exactly what happened.
Never long enough...just when I am getting into it, the clip ends...
Can you imagine meeting her in a bar? what great conversation you would have
providing you are able to sustain the discussion Bro. ! she is very very smart and INTROVERT !
there is so much truth and accuracy in this. thank you
NAILED IT. Love this woman
I wish she was my therapist
You and the rest of us.
lol. That's not the type of social worker she is but therapists like myself utilize a lot of her work to help clients.
You can perform therapy on YOU with these truths already.
Ingenious analysis. My brain is squeaking with astonishment.
This really resonated with me.....thank you.
Just finished this book, her best I believe. The woman is a genius.
The negative monologue .Thank you both
So much wisdom in this great clip!!! Thank you for sharing!
My two favorites! 😍
Acceptance is everything.
Thank You Oprah for all that You do :)
Thank you
What amazing interview and thanks for all I received from you I am from Lima, Perú
Waouh! Thanks a lot Brene ! That’s give power to improve myself
Wow............brilliant to both of you......Amazing but im sure I do it!
So good!
I LOVE that book! It has been a GIFT to me..Thank you .
I love Brene...just love her... I purchased a Kindle HD, downloaded the book.. I just can't seem to get into reading on the Kindle. I need to buy Rising Strong hardcopy... I've read Brene's first 2 books, for course they were hard copy. I gotta ready Rising Strong...
Wow - Love love love, thank you !!
Omg Brene you are the best!
I really enjoyed this.....
Brilliant 🌟
It's like watching your own brain work in survival mode. Something I have been noticing recently. I will catch myself and say out loud, no, that's not what it is. What is the root of the issue?
I need to change alot of stories I've been telling myself for years.
I am so glad to have found this channel~ :-)
Love her work...
love this woman💖
I want more of this interview...where is it??????
What’s hard is to keep telling yourself the right story. Because my stories include old habits and as soon as I stop thinking about it, it feels like the old self hate self distrust puts itself back in the drivers seat, and I have to immediately take it out and rewrite it again. It makes me feel like I’m lying to myself when I try to change the narrative to something more positive and casting myself in a more
Favorable light
After watching this, if I start ruminating, I ask myself "What story are you making up?" and it immediately stops the spin cycle. I am sure the question activates another part of the brain.
It has been a game changer for me.
Hey OWN! Could you broadcast Earthlings?
Very interesting...thank you!..
“…because they have been socialized to be emotionally self-reliant and to feel ashamed of needing anything from anyone, particularly from a woman.”
She is really good
I've just now gotten curious about my emotional triggers. The whole left v right, conservative v liberal business thats been going on absolutely tears me up. My parents argued a lot when I was growing up. I wonder if they are connected in some way
Well. That book's going on my wishlist now...
But actions do speak louder than words
I want to know more...what happens next?!
Which book they are talking about? Can anyone let me know it so I can go buy one? Thanks? Happy holidays!
Just wow.
Could have used this last night b4 I went crazy.
0:00 - Are You Hooked on a False Story? - Brene Brown
REM NOTES: The truth is that you should not believe everything you believe to be true as true until you fact check it. WHY? Because your parents and your "teachers in life and the issues of life" may not have taught you what is true when it comes to friendship/relationship situations.
Since you ALWAYS behave in alignment with what you believe, it will become evident to those people in your circles of influence that you believe a lie or two or more about friendship/relationship issues of life.
Brene brings this least traveled discussion between people to light.
th-cam.com/video/5RsPjFnNdw4/w-d-xo.html
Goes back to what Miguel Ruiz said about "assumption".
Explain ?
lisa fox "Assumption hardens into fact" Neville Goddard
Interesting, but it sounds as if a step is missing. Wouldn't the reckoning be: a button was pushed, let me figure out why, after I ask this person what they meant by that comment, gesture etc. If it was intended because my "stories" about this person are accurate that is one thing I can deal with. If the person was just sighing for no reason, that is completely different.
1:04-1:05...what is she saying? She spoke way too quickly there and I cannot figure out that one word, "The stories you make up about your fall need to be really...." Really what? I even slowed it down and cannot understand at a slower speed either...
"...need to be really tested."
🔥🔥🔥
Some people's automatic reaction is negative. Even if they don't have all the facts, they still go to a negative place. I don't think I will ever understand why people must do that.
❤️
Instead of creating a crazy story, go the the dictionary of self
What ?
lisa a romano is much better at explaining codependency issues than brene as I find that she uses a lot of words to explain the core of the issue, its like she just rambles on and on before she makes her point, yawn
:)