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I’m twice married and currently widowed RIP to my husband Men show and tell us who they are at the beginning. We just ignore the red flags, the narcissist with their love bombing the emotionally unavailable dudes with their flaky attitudes, but we women pretend we don’t see the red flags. I’m dating and quite aware of red flags. I’ve been turning down more guys than I go out on a date with😂 For instance, if you tell a guy what your job is or your hobby and he starts criticizing or throwing water on your ideas, that’s a red flag and that’s happened to me and those guys are surprised that I turned them down
I was married 47 years in a controlling relationship. Now I am free to be with different men and please myself. I will be very careful about who I choose for my next mate...if I ever do lol 😊
Great video! It really confirmed my decision to end a dating relationship I recently had. This man had many great qualities, yet had some major qualities that didn’t align with me. He really deserves a woman who will accept him as he is; I just cannot be that woman.
This is great! This is so eye opening! I am finding that I am meeting men who have no interests of their own. They do not go anywhere or do anything. I am a travel agent and I travel and explore my local area. I go to concerts and events. I want someone who has interests and goes places or does things. I want someone who does these things with me.
A guy can go out all the time and still have zero interests or hobbies. I dated a guy briefly, and he travels every fortnight or month to different countries, but he has zero interests, and goes out every night because he is lonely. He can't handle being by himself, that's why he's never cultivated any interests or hobbies. And just because he travels, doesn't mean he is worldly either. He's not 😅
Nice one! The thing that let's me know I'm manifesting the guy I desire is his connection with spirit. When we can have an open conversation about spirituality and how it shapes us as individuals. ❤
I want someone who is committed to valuing my freedom and independence, 2 who lifts me up and makes me feel safe 3. Someone who accepts me for the way I am ❤
This video was awesome and I needed to hear this. Why does it take so long for some of us to see when we have been in an abusive relationship. I never knew what a narcissist was until my sister and then realized I was also in a relationship with a narcissist. 9 years and I still am waiting and don’t know why cause it’s destroying my life, my spirit and who I am and I have forgotten who I am.
@@samanthagutman848 The first point he made in this video about the insecure man perfectly describes my ex-husband. It all makes sense now. I hope you can find liberation and healing. And love.
The good signs I notice is when core values are aligned. It's my experience that if core values are not alike/similar, it doesnt matter hiw much chemistry there is, it won't work. Unless one of you is willing to bend a bit, or if that core value isn't that big of a deal to one of you and you can overlook/abide by it. Example: one partner believes in God and the other doesn't. Won't work! The God fearing one or believing one might get pulled away from instead of drawing the other one towards God. One partner thinks it's ok to drink and drive, even when it's only 1 glass of wine, and the other it's a hard no. Won't work. The drinker and driver is showing a disregard for the law, himsel/herself, and you and anyone else on the road.
You know what's sad...everything Mat listed should be common sense and come naturally to most people that want to be a good person while they're on this planet. Everyone should know that supporting your partner, communicating with them through rough patches, and not cheating are the right things (among many others) to do for a successful relationship. it's pathetic that most people failed adulting 101 and then they bring it into relationships.
What I fell for was the future plans and commitments he made with me and then he broke up with me spur of the moment after 7 months later. The other thing I noticed was that he had a bunch of not so good friends. I believe people rub off on each other, and that bugged me. Sure as Bob, he left twice and went to spend these weekends with these bad friends that were single and drank a lot. These men were basically single because they could not commit and would jump from one woman to the other, or just sleep around. They drank way too much too. Another red flag to me was that he was still actively friends with a few of his exes. That bugged me a lot and I asked him to stop. He did but I think he did it to keep me happy, and in the end we broke up anyway. His ex wife also had way too much influence still. He was very intermeshed with her. Didn't want her back but was like a puppet sometimes.
the future version is the idealized version of who you think he might be. i have discovered that time, not too much time, what seems like a consistency in character is not...when this happens it's time to cut the cord. i met a man who seemed to be helpful but it was all make believe...i realized the inconsistency and told him so...he disappeared on his own...i found him out and he was gone...like ghosted gone. a month later he knocks on my door and looking at him through my peephole...i ghosted him...i was gone. i see him around from time to time and walk right past him as if i never knew him and when i look from my side gaze he's watching me walk away and all i can do is smile and mentally pat myself on the back because i can keep walking with my head held up high. i believed in him but he did not believe in himself and i still believe in me and he was left wondering. ladies walk away and never look back...no second chances...they guy is not about you, he's about himself and cannot keep up the pretenses.
Thank you Mat for this video. I’ve been battling myself on my decision to let a guy go who didn’t support my independence, could not/would not talk through conflict, and I couldn’t exactly identify the specific things that were making intuition alarms go off which I ultimately I listened. This was someone online who I hadn’t met yet, who I told I would not make any type of commitment without meeting in person. He kept letting me know he wanted to”go all in” was moving way too fast, and would feel deflated, and would shut down when I’d reinforce my boundary. Thank you for this video as it’s provided clarity and reaffirms my decision to walk away/let him go! 🫶🏻
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Three "C's" of a good relationship...
1) commitment
2) communication
3) compromise
With these, everything else can come to fruition.
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I’m twice married and currently widowed RIP to my husband
Men show and tell us who they are at the beginning. We just ignore the red flags, the narcissist with their love bombing the emotionally unavailable dudes with their flaky attitudes, but we women pretend we don’t see the red flags.
I’m dating and quite aware of red flags. I’ve been turning down more guys than I go out on a date with😂
For instance, if you tell a guy what your job is or your hobby and he starts criticizing or throwing water on your ideas, that’s a red flag and that’s happened to me and those guys are surprised that I turned them down
Currently not dating. Lost my narcissistic husband of 46us years and don’t want the wrong guy again
You put up with him 46yrs? Lady focus on your healing!
How are you doing
Sending you lots of love and light 🌸🕯
I was married 47 years in a controlling relationship. Now I am free to be with different men and please myself. I will be very careful about who I choose for my next mate...if I ever do lol 😊
@munaadhamy it's what we did. Took the marriage vows seriously. Not saying it's right tho.
#1 he is caring, generous and good manners
Great video! It really confirmed my decision to end a dating relationship I recently had. This man had many great qualities, yet had some major qualities that didn’t align with me. He really deserves a woman who will accept him as he is; I just cannot be that woman.
Very well said. I gave up on my ex and found the other guy who is much more suitable for me. He does focus on me and everything
This is great! This is so eye opening! I am finding that I am meeting men who have no interests of their own. They do not go anywhere or do anything. I am a travel agent and I travel and explore my local area. I go to concerts and events. I want someone who has interests and goes places or does things. I want someone who does these things with me.
THIS. Everyone just lives online today and never leaves their house. It's awful.
A guy can go out all the time and still have zero interests or hobbies. I dated a guy briefly, and he travels every fortnight or month to different countries, but he has zero interests, and goes out every night because he is lonely. He can't handle being by himself, that's why he's never cultivated any interests or hobbies. And just because he travels, doesn't mean he is worldly either. He's not 😅
Nice one! The thing that let's me know I'm manifesting the guy I desire is his connection with spirit. When we can have an open conversation about spirituality and how it shapes us as individuals. ❤
Consistency of his word & actions towards me
Mat I found your videos a few years ago when my now husband and I started dating! Love your videos ❤
He is clean , no tobacco or other drug habits . Bodily clean !
Love these messages Good presentation full of valid points, intentions, and positive feedback Thank You
Excellent video and sent to my daughter in her 20s so she can get this valuable advice early on!
Thank you Matt❤much needed education .
Very well said , your videos are true and honest.
You really talk for both sides.
Love it❤
TH-cam's commercials are horrible.
Whether he remembers what your doing and takes a genuine interest
Nice video. Thanks for focusing on the positive-what you should have in a relationship. Not just what to avoid.
I want someone who is committed to valuing my freedom and independence, 2 who lifts me up and makes me feel safe 3. Someone who accepts me for the way I am ❤
This video was awesome and I needed to hear this. Why does it take so long for some of us to see when we have been in an abusive relationship. I never knew what a narcissist was until my sister and then realized I was also in a relationship with a narcissist. 9 years and I still am waiting and don’t know why cause it’s destroying my life, my spirit and who I am and I have forgotten who I am.
@@samanthagutman848 The first point he made in this video about the insecure man perfectly describes my ex-husband. It all makes sense now. I hope you can find liberation and healing. And love.
I have this man but when i mention the word “commitment” he ask me “why am i trying to put words in his mouth”. Hmmm i may slowly pull away.
Someone who follows through the promises he makes. Eg: if he says I promise to make more time for us and actually follows through with it.
I loved this.
Thnk you Matt; this was long overdue needed .... thnk you ; funny I've been analyzing & noticing these things before
This is helpful
The good signs I notice is when core values are aligned.
It's my experience that if core values are not alike/similar, it doesnt matter hiw much chemistry there is, it won't work. Unless one of you is willing to bend a bit, or if that core value isn't that big of a deal to one of you and you can overlook/abide by it.
Example: one partner believes in God and the other doesn't. Won't work! The God fearing one or believing one might get pulled away from instead of drawing the other one towards God.
One partner thinks it's ok to drink and drive, even when it's only 1 glass of wine, and the other it's a hard no. Won't work. The drinker and driver is showing a disregard for the law, himsel/herself, and you and anyone else on the road.
You know what's sad...everything Mat listed should be common sense and come naturally to most people that want to be a good person while they're on this planet. Everyone should know that supporting your partner, communicating with them through rough patches, and not cheating are the right things (among many others) to do for a successful relationship. it's pathetic that most people failed adulting 101 and then they bring it into relationships.
What I fell for was the future plans and commitments he made with me and then he broke up with me spur of the moment after 7 months later.
The other thing I noticed was that he had a bunch of not so good friends. I believe people rub off on each other, and that bugged me. Sure as Bob, he left twice and went to spend these weekends with these bad friends that were single and drank a lot. These men were basically single because they could not commit and would jump from one woman to the other, or just sleep around. They drank way too much too.
Another red flag to me was that he was still actively friends with a few of his exes. That bugged me a lot and I asked him to stop. He did but I think he did it to keep me happy, and in the end we broke up anyway. His ex wife also had way too much influence still. He was very intermeshed with her. Didn't want her back but was like a puppet sometimes.
Brilliant
the future version is the idealized version of who you think he might be. i have discovered that time, not too much time, what seems like a consistency in character is not...when this happens it's time to cut the cord. i met a man who seemed to be helpful but it was all make believe...i realized the inconsistency and told him so...he disappeared on his own...i found him out and he was gone...like ghosted gone. a month later he knocks on my door and looking at him through my peephole...i ghosted him...i was gone. i see him around from time to time and walk right past him as if i never knew him and when i look from my side gaze he's watching me walk away and all i can do is smile and mentally pat myself on the back because i can keep walking with my head held up high. i believed in him but he did not believe in himself and i still believe in me and he was left wondering. ladies walk away and never look back...no second chances...they guy is not about you, he's about himself and cannot keep up the pretenses.
Mat, I got a question. How can I get a date with online dating? I've never been successful at it. I think it's completely impossible
Fix your profile and you will find success
Thank you Mat for this video. I’ve been battling myself on my decision to let a guy go who didn’t support my independence, could not/would not talk through conflict, and I couldn’t exactly identify the specific things that were making intuition alarms go off which I ultimately I listened. This was someone online who I hadn’t met yet, who I told I would not make any type of commitment without meeting in person. He kept letting me know he wanted to”go all in” was moving way too fast, and would feel deflated, and would shut down when I’d reinforce my boundary. Thank you for this video as it’s provided clarity and reaffirms my decision to walk away/let him go! 🫶🏻