~Production Notes~ Before I sat down to edit this I completely forgot I even filmed it. I saw it on my schedule a couple of days ago and though: Oh, this would be interesting to script. And I think that shows just how much my brain was actually not working that day. Also this is quite possibly the last video I am going to publish from this day, so it will be the last time you will be subjected to me from that day. Question to see if anyone actually reads this (and because I'm interested): Is it obvious that I hunt through every video for the weirdest looking frames for thumbnails? Becaue I defenitely do. I also kind of obviously copied Bernadette Banners speaking style in the voiceover, but that is literally what I'm trying to explain in the video, so I don't care. At which point does the philosophical detour around the ten minute mark become tradition? I just realized I missed a great opportunity to make some Autism $peaks puns...
Thanks for the video, and topic. You were examining whether there was an actual authentic way to communicate. . ,? I've studied some linguistics and a whole bunch of other related stuff. So I thought I'd share my very best understanding, because I used to ask those same questions. Some of this you may have studied already, I don't know for sure. Here we go: The aspects of communication include - the words spoken - tone of voice - facial expressions - body language So when a person is communicating and what they say, and how they say it, plus facial expressions, plus body language, are *** all saying the same thing*** they are said to be "Congruent." (one of my many favorite words!) It doesn't matter what style works for them(autistic or anything else) as long as all those aspects are in alignment, they are congruent. Incongruent means they say one thing, for example, but some other aspect is not "saying" that same thing (often body language) So I may mask some of my preferences, to make it easier for someone to understand, but as long as I'm communicating in a "whole" way, it is authentic : ) People often misunderstand me because they, most likely, have been misinformed about this fundamental knowledge. They're looking for some random, arbitrary "signals" instead of congruency! For example, lack of eye contact has nothing to do with truthfulness. That's a real common misperception, you've maybe heard. Hope that's useful : ) Really helpful videos, thanks!
thank you for your thoughtful (as in containing thoughts) comment I‘m not sure I entirely agree though. This theory only covers whether a speech act is perceived as ‚authentic‘ by a listener/a second party, not the speaker themselves. For that I would argue that the communicative intend would need to be involved as well. (if not even more aspects if one was to look at acting, where the intent is to make an audience believe a performance is authentic while it is by definition not) But for my purposes I will stick with communicative intent since that is where I perceive my communication to be inauthentic. There seem to be a number of people who perceive me as being a very genuine (/authentic) person. Thus I would assume that the parameters of my communication as you defined them seem to some degree to be congruent. I however perceive this same communication of mine to be disgenuine, because I intended some or all if the aspects to be different. Additionally, with the model you described, a person who has for example difficulties coordinating might be completely incapable of making all aspects be congruent and therefore would be incapable of authentic communication. Then again, I dislike the term authentic, because it appears to me that there are certain societal expectations encapsulated within. As in a certain type (usually appearing extroverted) of communication is preferred to be seen as authentic.
@@jontje5537 I see, Thank you. I had watched the first 2 star wars movies a few months ago (in the order they came out, not the chronological order. So i watched 4 and 5) so i knew i had seen it from somewhere. i kept getting it confused with the Fire Nation symbol from Avatar: The last Airbender.
Hey I am autistic too and I date a Swedish person from Gävle who is undiagnosed autistic and I study to be a linguist. Can we be friends and I ask questions about Sweden? Thank you so much :)
~Production Notes~
Before I sat down to edit this I completely forgot I even filmed it. I saw it on my schedule a couple of days ago and though: Oh, this would be interesting to script. And I think that shows just how much my brain was actually not working that day.
Also this is quite possibly the last video I am going to publish from this day, so it will be the last time you will be subjected to me from that day.
Question to see if anyone actually reads this (and because I'm interested): Is it obvious that I hunt through every video for the weirdest looking frames for thumbnails? Becaue I defenitely do.
I also kind of obviously copied Bernadette Banners speaking style in the voiceover, but that is literally what I'm trying to explain in the video, so I don't care.
At which point does the philosophical detour around the ten minute mark become tradition?
I just realized I missed a great opportunity to make some Autism $peaks puns...
Thanks for the video, and topic.
You were examining whether there was an actual authentic way to communicate. . ,? I've studied some linguistics and a whole bunch of other related stuff. So I thought I'd share my very best understanding, because I used to ask those same questions.
Some of this you may have studied already, I don't know for sure.
Here we go:
The aspects of communication include
- the words spoken
- tone of voice
- facial expressions
- body language
So when a person is communicating and what they say, and how they say it, plus facial expressions, plus body language, are *** all saying the same thing*** they are said to be "Congruent."
(one of my many favorite words!)
It doesn't matter what style works for them(autistic or anything else) as long as all those aspects are in alignment, they are congruent.
Incongruent means they say one thing, for example, but some other aspect is not "saying" that same thing (often body language)
So I may mask some of my preferences, to make it easier for someone to understand, but as long as I'm communicating in a "whole" way, it is authentic : )
People often misunderstand me because they, most likely, have been misinformed about this fundamental knowledge.
They're looking for some random, arbitrary "signals" instead of congruency!
For example, lack of eye contact has nothing to do with truthfulness. That's a real common misperception, you've maybe heard.
Hope that's useful : )
Really helpful videos, thanks!
thank you for your thoughtful (as in containing thoughts) comment
I‘m not sure I entirely agree though. This theory only covers whether a speech act is perceived as ‚authentic‘ by a listener/a second party, not the speaker themselves. For that I would argue that the communicative intend would need to be involved as well. (if not even more aspects if one was to look at acting, where the intent is to make an audience believe a performance is authentic while it is by definition not)
But for my purposes I will stick with communicative intent since that is where I perceive my communication to be inauthentic.
There seem to be a number of people who perceive me as being a very genuine (/authentic) person. Thus I would assume that the parameters of my communication as you defined them seem to some degree to be congruent. I however perceive this same communication of mine to be disgenuine, because I intended some or all if the aspects to be different.
Additionally, with the model you described, a person who has for example difficulties coordinating might be completely incapable of making all aspects be congruent and therefore would be incapable of authentic communication.
Then again, I dislike the term authentic, because it appears to me that there are certain societal expectations encapsulated within. As in a certain type (usually appearing extroverted) of communication is preferred to be seen as authentic.
I have no idea what's going on with me.
this has been bothering me for a little bit but... what is the symbol on that shirt? I feel like I've seen it somewhere but i can't remember.
it’s the symbol of the rebel alliance from the star wars films
@@jontje5537 I see, Thank you. I had watched the first 2 star wars movies a few months ago (in the order they came out, not the chronological order. So i watched 4 and 5) so i knew i had seen it from somewhere. i kept getting it confused with the Fire Nation symbol from Avatar: The last Airbender.
Hey I am autistic too and I date a Swedish person from Gävle who is undiagnosed autistic and I study to be a linguist. Can we be friends and I ask questions about Sweden? Thank you so much :)
That’s cool! Sure.
You can ask, but I’m not sure I will be able to answer as I am not from Sweden.
@@jontje5537 I'm sorry. I thought you were for some reason :)
No problem :) you’re not the first person to think that.