First off, you are gorgeous! Secondly, thank you for sharing your story. We adopted our son from South Korea a year ago and vlogged the experience as well. Adoption was so emotional and best experience for us. I loved listening to your story so I appreciate again your willingness to share!
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my video. I appreciate your time. I’m so happy to hear you’ve adopted. It honestly takes a very special heart to do that 🥹
Rider Scott was then some of sort of assistant/deputy in the AG’s office under the first Bush administration (?) I think. Lots was made of “guanxi” (“connections”) in Chinese culture but it’s pretty handy in America too. 🤗
Oh that's so cool! I had no idea. I do know that Janet Reno former US attorney general had a huge role in allowing me to come to America. I never met her, but will always be extremely grateful for her 🥹
When we moved from Toronto, Canada to Texas, my girls were used to addressing the teachers as Ms…. , Mr ….. or Mrs….. They got yelled for doing that and was told to address the teachers as ma’am or Sir.
Oh no, I'm so sorry that's awful. That's so weird because Mrs & Ms is still a respectable way to address an elder. I guess mam & sir makes me feel a little "younger" haha. When I moved to LA I got scolded for using all 4 terms. So I completely stopped 😭😂
It truly is. We've all had different journeys and backgrounds which make these adoption stories even more unique 🥹 I'm adopted from the Aunhi Provence in eastern china
I have just subscribed, I watched your video last night when you had your dad with you ❤️and tonight your mum and grandmother❤️❤️. I was surprised that someone said to your mum, that they were surprised at them adopting as they didn’t know the baby, wow I cannot imagine someone saying that, if you are pregnant you really do not know the baby until it is born. By the way, I found out in my 60’s that I was adopted 😳 to say I was shocked at that is an understatement. But I had loving parents also. Lovely videos I have enjoyed watching them, wishing you well and greetings from Scotland🏴
Aww🥰 thank you for taking the time to get to know me, I genuinely appreciate your time. Wow that’s so crazy, thank you for sharing your story ♥️ I can’t imagine not knowing until later in life, and I’m sure you have one fantastic unique story to share as well 🥹 makes me feel very fortunate that my story resonates with someone else all the way around the world 💙🌎
Thank you so much for telling your story. I love that you’re smiling even though you had a rough beginning. I can relate to you on being a banana. I wasn’t adopted by my step dad since I was 11 is white and I grew up in Connecticut. Very White. I didn’t date Asian men until recently and we are married. He is (Vietnamese but from France) though. Keep being the light and continue to practice gratitude.
Aww thanks so much 🥹 we have more in common than we think. You and I can both be bananas 🍌 together. I'm sure you have wonderful stories, as well and your own unique challenges growing up. If I had these feelings being adopted as a baby, I'm sure you have a whole different set of feelings being 11yrs old. I'm sure you vividly remember your feelings and thoughts during your adoption process? Yes? If you ever come visit the LA area please let me know. Would love to stay connected with those who share similarities in life with me. I do try to keep a positive light and try to be grateful for this lil life. I know things are never perfect, but they're far better than the alternative & still being orphaned 🥹
Have you ever thought about going back to china to find your birth family,I bet they didn’t want to give you up but one child rule was terrible god bless you❤
I actually have. Especially more in the past couple years. Something like that would definitely take a lot of time and preparation, but would be such a cool experience. Thank you for taking the time to watch 🫶🏼🥹
Thanks for sharing your Chinese adoption experience. I watched the videos with your mum and your dad aslo. Your parents seem like lovely, kind, gentle and supportive parents. I found it interesting that the laws were waived to allow for your relatively unplanned adoption. Those laws have been in place to protect the welfare of intercountry adoptees. Not every intercountry adoption is perfect or safe. Family backgound checks need to be completed at a minimum. Even then, those processes are not perfect. In America in 2024 still, in some states if an adoptive family decides they don't want the adopted child any more, they can just advertise them on the internet for rehoming, like an unwanted pet. That is plain disturbing. Apart from the trauma this can cause the adoptee on top of their existing trauma, it puts them at terrifying risk of predators. Nearly every single sending country since intercountry adoption began decades ago, has been plagued with illicit or illegal adoptions. Including China which has recently ceased intercountry adoption except for limited exceptions. The recent PBS Frontline documentary highlights some of the atrocious, illgeal and illicit intercountry adoption practices over the decades. South Korea isn't the only country with questionable intercountry adoption histories. Children have become a commodity in intercountry adoption. Supply and demand has also oepened the whole industry to questionable practices. Children have also been used as political pawns. I do believe that every child needs and deserves to have its own family. And in an ideal world this would happen. Obviously, it doesn't. I think that children should be supported to stay with their birth families and in their community where possible and that adoption should be a last resort. As the Hague Convention recommends. I was a Vietnamese war oprhan, adopted and raised in Australia. I was given up by my birth mum in April 1975 for overseas adoption because I was Amerasian. I was sent to my adoptivee family on a Operation Babylift flight in April 1975. I am one of the very rare VN war orphan adoptees to have found their birth parent. I was very lucky to find my VN mum in 2007, 32yrs after she gave me up for overseas adoption. In 2024, at 53 I have just found my American birth father info with the help of DNA testing and an Australian TV channel's research. Sadly, my birth father passed in 2019. He was are of my conception, but not the outcome. He dispapperaed when his US base was disestabilshed in 1971. A fairly common scenario, thanks to war etc My birth father was an American serviceman. Being Amerasian, there was very real stigma and also fear that the Communisits would harm Amerasian children and their families when they won the war. Because of this fear, driven by propaganda at the time, my mum kept me hidden inside from 0-3 yrs old, until the week she gave me up for adoption. Thankfully, I was only in the orphanage for a few days to process my overseas adoption. I was severely malnourished, even though I 'd lived with my mum and my maternal grandmother. I weighed 7.7 kgs or about 17lbs. I'd had no medical care, dental care, socialisation, I had anaemia, scabies, a nasty ear infection and was described by medical staff in Australia as a starving, listless waif. I am grateful that I was adopted by an Australian family. I went from poverty and neglect and social stigma, to living in a comfortable middle class family of 6, with a pool and tennis court. I went to lovely elite private schools, and had amazing overseas holidays. I had the best of everything and every opportunity to reach for the stars. Unfortunately, my adoptive parents became very physically and emotionally abusvie after about a decade. Sadly, the abuse was so bad I developed terrible mental health issues and almost died from a suicide attenmpt at 21. It was never my adoption, or the pain of not knowing who my birth parents was that drove me to want to die, it was the trauma and abuse I experienced, hands down. Whilst not knowing who my birth parents were, whether they'd survived the war or not, whether I would ever get to know them, caused me immense emotional pain, it was at least manageable, compared to the family abuse. I am connceted to intercountry adoptee peers adopted from every country imagineable, South Korea, Vietnam, Cambodia, China, Taiwan, Chile, Colombia etc. Some have had good experiences as intercountry adoptees, some have had outright abusive and traumatic experiences. Some of us were abused from the outset of adoption, some later on. One thing many of us note, is that it would be good if there was more following up of our welfare over the years. Some of us like myself were adopted by Christians. Some of us were terribly abused by supposed Christian parents, including sexually. Some of our abustive adoptive parents were even ministers. So, being Christian doesn't always mean a person is a good person. The Hague Convention, and other individual receiving countries have strict adoption laws and procedures in place to hopefully protect the rights of the intercountry adoptee as best as possible. History has taught us that this hasn't always been done well. Holt adoption agency, a supposedly Christian based organisation has done some of the most illegal, questionable and disgusting things in the name of "saving kids." like kidnapping children in some instances, coercing mothers, lying to mothers and duping them into giving up their children for intercountry adoption and plain falsifying children's idenitities etc. They have been driven by profit as much as their supposed Chrisitan beliefs. No doubt there will eventually be a class action lawsuit against Holt and similar agencies that have knowingly conducted, illegal and illicit adoptions.
Hi y'all! Thank you so much for watching! Appreciate you 🥰
First off, you are gorgeous! Secondly, thank you for sharing your story. We adopted our son from South Korea a year ago and vlogged the experience as well. Adoption was so emotional and best experience for us. I loved listening to your story so I appreciate again your willingness to share!
Thank you so much for taking the time to watch my video. I appreciate your time. I’m so happy to hear you’ve adopted. It honestly takes a very special heart to do that 🥹
Your parents and uncle and aunt are good people. 😭
VGood to hear you being sincere about the beautiful childhood you had.
Thank you, I was truly blessed 🙏
Wow - what an incredible journey, Molly! Appreciate you even more, and even more convinced that God's grace is everywhere!
Thank you so much 🥹 I definitely feel blessed by his grace
@@mollymarrsThank you for your sharing your amazing story. I love every bit of it!
Rider Scott was then some of sort of assistant/deputy in the AG’s office under the first Bush administration (?) I think. Lots was made of “guanxi” (“connections”) in Chinese culture but it’s pretty handy in America too. 🤗
Oh that's so cool! I had no idea.
I do know that Janet Reno former US attorney general had a huge role in allowing me to come to America. I never met her, but will always be extremely grateful for her 🥹
Loved hearing your story! What a blessing.
It was kinda all over the place. But I’m glad you liked. Ty for taking the time to listen to me. Means a lot 🥹💕
Your mother had told me sum of your story when i worked with her! Soo awsome how far u have come
Aw thank you so much for keeping with me, means a lot 🥹🤍
When we moved from Toronto, Canada to Texas, my girls were used to addressing the teachers as Ms…. , Mr ….. or Mrs….. They got yelled for doing that and was told to address the teachers as ma’am or Sir.
Oh no, I'm so sorry that's awful. That's so weird because Mrs & Ms is still a respectable way to address an elder. I guess mam & sir makes me feel a little "younger" haha. When I moved to LA I got scolded for using all 4 terms. So I completely stopped 😭😂
Every adoption story is amazing!!! Love hearing your story!!❤What a blessing!!! Just wandering where exactly in China were you born/adopted???
It truly is. We've all had different journeys and backgrounds which make these adoption stories even more unique 🥹 I'm adopted from the Aunhi Provence in eastern china
@ I’m from Hebei Province! But live in PA… Definitely is an interesting and unique stories of adoption!!
love your story and testimony, God blessed your life. Ji Ling, 季灵， was that your Chinese name?
Yes! Yea it is. Thank you 🥹 I appreciate you taking the time to watch my video
I have just subscribed, I watched your video last night when you had your dad with you ❤️and tonight your mum and grandmother❤️❤️. I was surprised that someone said to your mum, that they were surprised at them adopting as they didn’t know the baby, wow I cannot imagine someone saying that, if you are pregnant you really do not know the baby until it is born. By the way, I found out in my 60’s that I was adopted 😳 to say I was shocked at that is an understatement. But I had loving parents also. Lovely videos I have enjoyed watching them, wishing you well and greetings from Scotland🏴
Aww🥰 thank you for taking the time to get to know me, I genuinely appreciate your time. Wow that’s so crazy, thank you for sharing your story ♥️ I can’t imagine not knowing until later in life, and I’m sure you have one fantastic unique story to share as well 🥹 makes me feel very fortunate that my story resonates with someone else all the way around the world 💙🌎
Come back to Texas, Molly! we miss you😘
I'll visit again soon!
Thank you so much for telling your story. I love that you’re smiling even though you had a rough beginning. I can relate to you on being a banana. I wasn’t adopted by my step dad since I was 11 is white and I grew up in Connecticut. Very White. I didn’t date Asian men until recently and we are married. He is (Vietnamese but from France) though. Keep being the light and continue to practice gratitude.
Aww thanks so much 🥹 we have more in common than we think. You and I can both be bananas 🍌 together. I'm sure you have wonderful stories, as well and your own unique challenges growing up. If I had these feelings being adopted as a baby, I'm sure you have a whole different set of feelings being 11yrs old. I'm sure you vividly remember your feelings and thoughts during your adoption process? Yes?
If you ever come visit the LA area please let me know. Would love to stay connected with those who share similarities in life with me. I do try to keep a positive light and try to be grateful for this lil life. I know things are never perfect, but they're far better than the alternative & still being orphaned 🥹
Have you ever thought about going back to china to find your birth family,I bet they didn’t want to give you up but one child rule was terrible god bless you❤
I actually have. Especially more in the past couple years. Something like that would definitely take a lot of time and preparation, but would be such a cool experience. Thank you for taking the time to watch 🫶🏼🥹
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Thank you for watching 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Our younger one "was" adopted, also from China. We prefer to use "was" as opposed to "is."
Oh that’s so cool! I hope they’ve been a blessing to you 🙃
Hi, greetings from Australia. You are Beautiful.
Hi, aww thank you 🥹 I’m so happy to hear my videos have reached you
Thanks for sharing your Chinese adoption experience. I watched the videos with your mum and your dad aslo. Your parents seem like lovely, kind, gentle and supportive parents. I found it interesting that the laws were waived to allow for your relatively unplanned adoption. Those laws have been in place to protect the welfare of intercountry adoptees. Not every intercountry adoption is perfect or safe. Family backgound checks need to be completed at a minimum. Even then, those processes are not perfect. In America in 2024 still, in some states if an adoptive family decides they don't want the adopted child any more, they can just advertise them on the internet for rehoming, like an unwanted pet. That is plain disturbing. Apart from the trauma this can cause the adoptee on top of their existing trauma, it puts them at terrifying risk of predators.
Nearly every single sending country since intercountry adoption began decades ago, has been plagued with illicit or illegal adoptions. Including China which has recently ceased intercountry adoption except for limited exceptions. The recent PBS Frontline documentary highlights some of the atrocious, illgeal and illicit intercountry adoption practices over the decades. South Korea isn't the only country with questionable intercountry adoption histories. Children have become a commodity in intercountry adoption. Supply and demand has also oepened the whole industry to questionable practices. Children have also been used as political pawns.
I do believe that every child needs and deserves to have its own family. And in an ideal world this would happen. Obviously, it doesn't. I think that children should be supported to stay with their birth families and in their community where possible and that adoption should be a last resort. As the Hague Convention recommends.
I was a Vietnamese war oprhan, adopted and raised in Australia. I was given up by my birth mum in April 1975 for overseas adoption because I was Amerasian. I was sent to my adoptivee family on a Operation Babylift flight in April 1975. I am one of the very rare VN war orphan adoptees to have found their birth parent. I was very lucky to find my VN mum in 2007, 32yrs after she gave me up for overseas adoption. In 2024, at 53 I have just found my American birth father info with the help of DNA testing and an Australian TV channel's research. Sadly, my birth father passed in 2019. He was are of my conception, but not the outcome. He dispapperaed when his US base was disestabilshed in 1971. A fairly common scenario, thanks to war etc
My birth father was an American serviceman. Being Amerasian, there was very real stigma and also fear that the Communisits would harm Amerasian children and their families when they won the war. Because of this fear, driven by propaganda at the time, my mum kept me hidden inside from 0-3 yrs old, until the week she gave me up for adoption. Thankfully, I was only in the orphanage for a few days to process my overseas adoption. I was severely malnourished, even though I 'd lived with my mum and my maternal grandmother. I weighed 7.7 kgs or about 17lbs. I'd had no medical care, dental care, socialisation, I had anaemia, scabies, a nasty ear infection and was described by medical staff in Australia as a starving, listless waif.
I am grateful that I was adopted by an Australian family. I went from poverty and neglect and social stigma, to living in a comfortable middle class family of 6, with a pool and tennis court. I went to lovely elite private schools, and had amazing overseas holidays. I had the best of everything and every opportunity to reach for the stars.
Unfortunately, my adoptive parents became very physically and emotionally abusvie after about a decade. Sadly, the abuse was so bad I developed terrible mental health issues and almost died from a suicide attenmpt at 21. It was never my adoption, or the pain of not knowing who my birth parents was that drove me to want to die, it was the trauma and abuse I experienced, hands down. Whilst not knowing who my birth parents were, whether they'd survived the war or not, whether I would ever get to know them, caused me immense emotional pain, it was at least manageable, compared to the family abuse.
I am connceted to intercountry adoptee peers adopted from every country imagineable, South Korea, Vietnam, Cambodia, China, Taiwan, Chile, Colombia etc. Some have had good experiences as intercountry adoptees, some have had outright abusive and traumatic experiences. Some of us were abused from the outset of adoption, some later on. One thing many of us note, is that it would be good if there was more following up of our welfare over the years. Some of us like myself were adopted by Christians. Some of us were terribly abused by supposed Christian parents, including sexually. Some of our abustive adoptive parents were even ministers. So, being Christian doesn't always mean a person is a good person.
The Hague Convention, and other individual receiving countries have strict adoption laws and procedures in place to hopefully protect the rights of the intercountry adoptee as best as possible. History has taught us that this hasn't always been done well. Holt adoption agency, a supposedly Christian based organisation has done some of the most illegal, questionable and disgusting things in the name of "saving kids." like kidnapping children in some instances, coercing mothers, lying to mothers and duping them into giving up their children for intercountry adoption and plain falsifying children's idenitities etc. They have been driven by profit as much as their supposed Chrisitan beliefs. No doubt there will eventually be a class action lawsuit against Holt and similar agencies that have knowingly conducted, illegal and illicit adoptions.