How I Kick Anxiety's Butt
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ส.ค. 2017
- I've had anxiety over travelling and going places for about 10 years years, and I've been tackling it for the last 6 years! (Got my numbers slightly mixed up in the video haha).
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I suffer from crippling anxiety, I don't stray far from home. I'm terrible at socialising and have very few friends as I have trust issues. My fight or flight always ends up in flight! I'm on meds now for my anxiety and depression!! But following amazing guys like you gives me a lot of advice and help! Thanks Jamie mate 😸😻
Get a dog. Mine was the best thing that ever happened to me. Dogs distract you from your own issues, they make you go outside and they actually make it fun doing so. You can take them with you almost anywhere and that way can support you in stressful situations.
Never found anyone else who is scared of sickness, inculding sickness away from comforting places. Hopefully some new techniques will help me out, thank you:)
The last time I was this early, I thought I was a girl
Fred same
I have a twin brother, and I just love him to death. He's the one that helps me out to cope with my anxiety at school by making greet the guards or teachers that pass by and then says 'Social Skills +1' or when I hold the door for a stranger he says 'Politeness +2' and stuff. He's the best
When I have anxiety it feels like a metal cage around my heart, closing in slowly, I get fidgety, and I need to scream, but I never can, so to help I often for for bike rides, walks, drive, just get out of my house. It always feel tons better. Writing down my feelings also helps, and finishing a project helps, but im often to wired to work on a project for that satisfied feeling.
You're so awesome also your hair is fantastic
Hi Jamie I have very bad social anxiety and what helps me the most is listening to music so it cuts down on the noise outside and also if people see i have headphones in their less lightly to talk to me because part of my social anxiety is that i can't talk to people. I've been dealing with my anxiety since i was a teenager (im 34 now) it has gotten better though and i can stay out longer periods of time now but i still do listen to music when i'm out, i just can't bear the noise from people and cars.
watching this cause i have really high anxiety
I get panic attack when I think about telling my parents that I'm trans because they are trans/homophobic. It sucks
My mother is completely transphobic, and it makes me feel like I'll never be able to ask for a chest binder and/or other ftm products
getting a counsellor may help, if your still in school you can get one through that
NotANormalLoser me too so im planning to come put officially once I'm 18 and out of school and move out of the country. Lmao 😂
Thank you for sharing these techniques. I have anxiety and I feel I've been doing better but every once in a while it comes back and tries to take over my life. Reminding myself that the anxiety goes away and nothing bad happens even during the worst moments is one way I've coped. Another is seeing it as a bully and just ignore it when I can. When I can't, I remind myself that I choose to be happy. Once the anxiety passes, I can still have a good day. Having that outlook helps me too.
Thanks for this video! Different levels and reasons for anxiety is something everyone feels at least once in their life, but we never really discuss it as like a normal thing. The points you raised about mindfulness with breathing and distractions of shifting your focus, really resonates with me. It's something I've been practising lately because people aren't always available to have a chat, so it's good to have little things that make me feel empowered and think 'i've got this!' ☺♥
Wow thankyou so much for making this video! This is honestly the best video I've watched that has the best advice/tips for dealing with anxiety :)
LOL! "Living on a prayer" is indeed good for filling your head. I will try it next time I am anxious. I get super anxious whilst waiting for trains, so I will try it then. I often find having earphones in helps me, regardless of whether I have the music on or not - I think it calms me as it makes sounds around me less harsh.
Hi Jamie.... wonderful video. I have been dealing with anxiety all my life and I truly understand what you are going through. Thank you...thank you....thank you for sharing your feelings. You can't believe how much you have helped just letting us know how you feel and how you help yourself cope. Best wishes!!!
Omgosh I love the song advice!! It's a super cool method to practice mindfulness and stay grounded
Hi Jamie :)
I have anxiety in public transport, in a big city, I understand you well. Breathing doesn't work for me, I'll try to sing, thank you for the tip. And I have two tips for you and for others: when it come I start to count (minutes of the travelling, red cars, yellow cars, ...) or I start to speak in my head in a different language - just for thinking hard about something else and push my brain to work and not to thinking about anxiety and make it worse. The second tip: imagine you have a child with you, or a stranger who is lost in the city, and you have to accompany them to the place you go (you will end up there with no idea how you got there and it will seem fast).
I don't say it works for everyone but it helped me :)
I really agree with the way you feel about your anxiety; meaning that I feel a lot of the same things. When I have to go somewhere new, and I have lots of time to think about it and ponder it, I'll feel very nauseous and like my heart is racing (even though it isn't), and very jittery in my own skin. I got on medication, and it makes so many more things possible for me. I'm going to college, I'm living on my own, and the anxiety isn't there every day. I'm watching this right now because I just drank a large Starbucks drink (bad idea, with anxiety...) and this video really helped me. I think that when I feel jittery and like I have a lot of pent-up energy, I might start running!
Jamie, you're such an inspiration! This sounds strange but you and Shaaba really remind me of me and my boyfriend and I love watching both of your channels! Stay awesome! X
I actually found belting out songs to be really helpful with depression in the past, so thought it was cool you mentioned singing. My go-to is the Pitch Perfect soundtrack, haha. And the other day, when I was super full of anxious energy for no reason, I just felt like I really needed to rock out to an energetic song and air-drum my way out of it, so I sat and scrolled through all my classic rock until I found a good one. Unfortunately, I was in a library, so I had to air-drum as loud as possible in my head like your singing :)
Thanks for sharing Jamie ☺ I'm gonna try some of your tips, I get anxiety like that off and on and yea its not fun at all. I find listening to music helps, gardening and my dogs that get me out on walks.
I may be getting to go to the Tavistock centre to eventually getting hormone blockers!!! Ur one of my biggest role models and through your videos my mum has become more comfortable with me transitioning because of the information you give in your videos so thankyou so much!
It's vkookie chuck yay! good luck, i hope all goes well for you
I have anxiety about my health too and being sick away from home (especially now that i have IBS lol), but I also have depression, general anxiety, social anxiety, and intrusive thoughts. Consistent exercise helps me, as is writing down every anxiety that i have in the moment, and like you said, releasing the nervous energy through movement and talking aloud to yourself or someone else. You can write down your anxieties and say "if this thing happens that i'm nervous about, then i will ____" and make a little plan like i'm sure we all do anyway. Try to remind yourself that there are many people out in the world including strangers that will try to help you out if you are in a bind (like if you're lost, if you need a bathroom, if you forgot something.) I think it's especially hard for trans people to be trusting that people will help them out, but there are plenty of good people in the world.
I never had it, but now severe daily anxiety, panic attacks and PTSD. My husband died very tragically, and I found him, then my mother died right after, diagnosed with terminal cancer weeks after he died and lost our home with our 5 kids when widowed. Life crashed in under a year, and my whole main support team died.
BA BF I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. I can't even begin to imagine your struggle. You hang in there for your children. They need you now more than they ever have. You all will keep each other going and you'll get through it together. Keep reminding yourself to stay strong because you have an important purpose! ❤
I realise this is an old video but I just watched it and can relate to it. I totally understand the part of realising the nervous energy. It does help and it's actually totally natural to do those things to release it. For example, if I'm nervous about something, I might jump up and down a bit or just shake my hands or just do some random moves and say out loud like "ugghh, I'm nervous.". I used to try to hide all feelings of anxiety and nervousness and that just made everything a hundred times worse.
I really wanna hug you right now because of how far you've transitioned ^^ I'm so proud! And I look up to you OwO
That's so funny that you mention singing. I have anxiety about driving in tunnels and in bad weather. I get through it by singing Christmas songs or having other people sing them. I just randomly started doing that, I guess because they're cheerful, and like you said, it distracts me.
you sir, are a very cool dude
this video was very interesting to me, i cant explain the way its interesting but like its interesting to see how others suffer with anxiety and deal with it, i dont think any of these would help me (except the singing in your head thing - defo gotta try that out) but props to you for being brave enough to make this :PP
For the general anxious feeling at home listening to loud music, dancing and working out really helps me. I always take headphones, chewing gum and something for panic attacks that I got at a pharmacy. I've never used it though but just holding the little bottle helps me enormously. It's like a safety net, a way out. I'm much better now then I was last year as well but sometimes it still overcomes me even when I thought I was doing perfectly fine. Well, I guess some things never truly go away but you can learn to deal with them. I will also try out singing a song in my head the next time I get the weird feeling!
chewing gum also works for me, and if i feel a panic attack coming I try to ocupy my mind making groups of things, by alphabet, for example, dog breeds with A, B, C, that kind of things helps me so i can think about something other than the panic attack. I hope it helps you out
Alba Jaramillo That's a good tip as well, thanks! It will probably help me as I like those kind of things (I always divide words into their syllables and count them in sentences)
Ben Greenleaf great! I hope you have a great day :)
Alba Jaramillo Thank you! You too :)
I am going through an anxiety period right now and this really helped. I usually sing the ABC's but your suggestion was way better!
I get anxiety when I perform onstage but drama and music are something I really enjoy doing. I keep avoiding auditions and i turn down roles i get. This video was really nice to watch because I know others suffer with it however I still don't know how to deal with mine and it is holding me back in life :)
Perfect timing. I had an anxiety attack before i could even see the fair at the lark today
Good explanation. I will try some of these. Thanks man.
I'm battling anxiety too, and you're doing great fren ❤ thanks for the video
I just want to say I love you and this video so much!😂💕
I have so much anxiety and sometimes it is really hard to deal with sometimes so thank you for this video. I will try and kick my anxiety's butt💕👌🏻
What I do is I treat anxiety like a friend. It's me after all, so I help myself get what I want and accept that I am anxious and use it for good, like studying more and playing. I just do it. And I tend to do what is best for me and I want and that helps me focus even more when anxiety comes in. It's part of who you are, don't kick it out. haha
I wish you luck in overcoming it absolutely!
I've got anxiety about being tought and at school. Oh, it starts soon (in 2 days in poland) and I am already panicking about panicking 😂😂😂
I could go with the short answer to your question (poorly), but instead I'll comment. Forgive me if I ramble, as I tend to do.
How do I deal with anxiety? Man, Idk. Anxiety's just... hard to deal with. I'm so glad you've found things that have helped you and having the support of your (very wonderful smart & intelligent) girlfriend Shaaba is great! We all could use someone (not necessarily an S/O, but someone we consider close) to help us through our anxieties, whatever they might consist of.
For me, I just always scrambled for things to do, to distract myself from the constant head-noise. I've only recently (as in the last few months, in the time my longtime girlfriend of almost 7 years since broke up with me) realized just how much and how badly I disassociate when I am under stress and I haven't found much of anything that really grounds me. I find when I'm disassociating particularly bad, I just panic and I want to be anywhere but where I am, and I feel a lot of pressure on me-- like a physical weight all over me and everything just goes mute. I don't feel anything, I don't hear anything, I don't smell anything-- all my senses just shut off. Sensory overload maybe? I think? And the only thing that really seems to help with that is for me to go somewhere quiet and just lay down, concentrate on breathing.
Thankfully that doesn't happen too often, but it did happen recently and it's pretty frightening when it does.
This all taught me just how much I had depended on my girlfriend to ground me, too, bc whenever I was feeling anxious and needed to do something, she'd do something with me. Whether that was going somewhere or just playing a video game with me depended on the moment, but it was helpful.
I also used writing as a means of venting or even just distracting myself from whatever problems were plaguing me.
The problem, however, is I've never figured out a way to take my anxiety head on-- only to distract myself from it or ways to calm myself down from some of the more overwhelming parts of my anxiety. This only causes me more issues, as I would do things other than the things I needed to do-- the necessary things that I projected as my source of anxiety in certain cases (like homework while I was in school).
So idk I try to give myself pep talks, but I just laugh inwardly at myself and I am terrible, awful at accepting compliments.
my brother had extremely bad agoraphobia (fear of going outside) for years, even missing his GCSEs because of it and refusing to leave home. 15 years later, he's the manager of a 5* hotel in the lake district and is married with a baby! It gets better!!!
I panic when either me or somebody else has to throw up. It helped me a lot to inform my friends about my anxiety and they support me in difficult situations - especially two friends, who suffer from the same anxiety. Talking about it seems to be a good way. Anyways, thanks for your tips, might need them when doing my year abroad next month without any of my friends :/
It’s a good and informative video…it helps to all... I love this kind of video…
When I was suffering from anxiety I just took my dog with me whenever I'd go somewhere where I might run into problems. He was a distraction, but also kind of moral support. Sadly he passed away about 3 months ago.
JAMIE we have the exact same anxiety this is so helpful ❤️
oh my god I didn't think it was normal for my hands to get tingly when I'm anxious. thank you for this Jamie x
Me neither, but I read it a while back and was so relieved haha! You're welcome :)
you give me so much inspiration to progress with my transition and i'm really thankful for that x
3!! I do this and I have no idea how it started but I automatically hum London Bridge is Falling Down in my head (and sometimes outloud) and it helps
Thank you for making this video!(:
My go to song is:
The Winkers Song (Misprint) by Ivor Biggun And The Red Nosed Burglars.
I have anxiety around young people, particularly a group.
I get all tense just try to think of something else, because people look funny at me all the time, I know it, I can feel their eyes on me.
I'm FTM and pre-T, I don't bind because my family would be tremendously uncomfortable about it, and my chest is quiet big so no matter what I wear it's visible, so people are so confused because I look like a 14 years old boy at first but then I'll say I'm 20 and... well nothing.
Sorry Jamie that I need to vent under your video but I never talk about it, it's all in my head and sometimes I wonder if I'm just making it up.
A.m Omg, me af. Even the same age. My chest is big, 42DD. So binding is _out of the question._ Haha. I'm learning to just live with the fact that I'm different and shouldn't be ashamed of it! Who cares what those people think? There are plenty of people who think no differently of me and that's what matters. It'll all come together in the end. 😁 I got a lucky break though (kinda???) since breast cancer runs _heavily_ in my family, I might be able to justify a double mastectomy in the near future.
Kadomex man I get all the you shouldn't care about others and stuff, but to me others are the response my other family members would have, I'm italian and my family is really big (count like 15/16 cousins) so to me it really matters what other think.
About breast cancer is a double edged knife, don't call it if you can, even if I understand it 'cause sometimes that's my same thought.
Kadomex - I'm a DD (last time I measured years ago, probably closer to an E cup now) and I'm pretty skinny too (fuck my actual life) but I can still bind.
The tri-top from Underworks is a fucking legend, trust me; it doesn't make me completely flat, but flat enough to pass for sure (I go stealth at college so it works). I tried another Underworld binder (997 I think) but it kept rolling up because the bottom of it was too loose on me (I have shitty body proportions) and it didn't compress enough.
GET THE RIGHT SIZE though; I got it too tight once by accident and I legit couldn't breathe in it, so whatever size it says is right, GET THAT SIZE!
__ thanks for the tip, I know I can bind, my problem is my family not the size, as they would be uncomfortable to see me like that and I would be too, I'm feeling that binding is still to intimate for me to let others see.
I still don't have a binder but have heard of Underworks, I will aid your suggestion in the near future.
A.m Yeah I get it. My intermediate family is very comfortable with it but I havent come out to my extended family yet so there's definitely a sense of anxiety there. Especially when my grandmother is a very devoted Christian and we've always had a close relationship. I'm unsure if she'll be able to completely accept who I am and it would kill me if she rejected the idea. But I mean as far as total strangers go, never waste your fucks on them. & Yes, a double edged sword indeed.
I have social anxiety and when I'm anxious I run my nails up and down my arm; it tickles and is kind of soothing.
Hey Jamie , I find listening to music and using a fidget spinner really helpful with my anxiety
Heather K Procter 19 that's really interesting cause fidget spinners make it worse. But I've found that puddy really helps!
I1m having the same issue, im so glad you made this video
I haven't heard of the singing in the head technique. I will try it next time I get anxious. I have social anxiety its making finding a job very challenging.
Love u Jamie
Hey dude, loved the vid but you made a tiny mistake in the title: "anxieties" should be "anxiety's"
dragonfliott Oops! Thanks! :D
The song that's my go-to song is "Beat It" by Micheal Jackson
Jamie, do you have a tumblr or something we can ask you questions on? I doubt youll ever see, let alone respond to this, but i figured id give it a shot.
This helps :)
Im experimenting right now, but I'm having really bad panic attacks about thinking of cutting my hair short. A few years ago when I moved I had short hair, and for some reason got bullied really badly for it. Now I don't want my hair short, but I can't rock long hair sadly.
I told my parents and the teacher, my parents talked to the kid's parents and the teachers just gave her a warning... Now the idea of dying my hair never came in mind or has it ever appealed to me, I'll consider that ^^
😍ilysm omfg
Love u !
Shaaba is the cure to your anxiety. Give her a kiss and you are free 😂😂
He's so cute :')
Suga Daddy army!
I'm 18 and I have horrible anxiety :L but I want to try CBD oil but I can't because I'm not 21...I've heard such great things but because it's a product of marijuana (no CBD oil doesn't get you high) I've been reading about other things I could take or do and I've tried all the relaxation techniques but they don't help me...and a bunch of the supplements have horrible side effects so :/
My god, he's gorgeous
I'm getting really anxy about eating. What should I do. I keep thinking about starving myself and becoming anorexic or something aghhh help
just smile it's important to do something about it now before it progresses any further. How old are you and where are you from? If you're still in school there tend to be school counsellors or a teacher you trust who could point you in the right direction of who to seek help from. Going to the doctors too would be helpful, and don't let them belittle it. Tell them everything and say you need some help. As Jamie said, it's not a forever thing, you will get better, but it is important to get to the root of the problem and to have support. I have terrible anxiety and depression and will go days without eating anything and then binge. I'm trying to tackle the cause of the anxiety and depression before I worry about getting my eating in order, since with one the other should follow. Good luck :)
Elinor Jones I'm 14. I start at my new school tomorrow. My parents probably suspect something is up.
just smile good luck with that tomorrow :) Are you going in to high school? I'm from the UK so I forget what year people start high school in other countries (we're in the same school ages 11-18 unless they leave at 16 to go to a 16-18 college). If you're parents suspect, it might be an idea to talk to them about it, they'll just want to help. I'm 24 and recently shared some things about my anxiety and depression that made him get angry, but he was just upset that I am hurting so much, he apologised the next day profusely. So don't worry about them reacting badly if that is a concern of yours, they ultimately want you to be okay and even if they need a day or two to process, they'll come around and more than likely be then ready to help in any way they can.
rip i have aphantasia and can't use my imagination to distract me from my anxiety
Your hair!
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I don't mind you being in my face, Jamie ;)) (sors)
Ok I'm watching your videos for at least one year WHY IS IT JUST NOW I REALIZE HOW BIG AND BEAUTIFUL YOUR EYES ARE K I M IN LOVE
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