Trevor's 'it's not like she was my girlfriend' is a CLASSIC excuse. It goes like this: Bootycall: What I did wasn't bad, it's not like I said we're exclusive! Situationship: What I did wasn't bad, you're not my girlfriend! Girlfriend: What I did wasn't bad, we're not married! Babymomma: What I did wasn't bad, I never said I wanted marriage! Fiancee: What I did wasn't bad, I need more time to decide before the wedding! Wife: What I did wasn't bad, it's not like you're my mother, get off my back! It never ends. They will blame women for their bad behavior until the cows come home. And women get sabotaged by their internalized guilt. The "good woman" who can stop male abuse by merely being good enough does not exist. Don't fall for it.
Y’all, telling another woman that her clothes sexualize her isn’t ok. Knock it off. Women have the right to feel proud of the hard work they put into their bodies without pressure from society to fit a convention that maybe they don’t actually fit. Let the lady serve and stuff your comments.
Also like, she has obviously worked hard at the gym. I don't see any reason why she shouldn't show off the results???? Everything she wore was tasteful and if it was on a different kind of body nobody would bat an eye.
Yeah it is giving "you should cover up if you don't wanna to be $€xually harassed" type of $lit$h@ming comment. Just like the posts online where women with fuller figures are just doing their jobs and they are told that their bodies are inappropriate for work.
Trevor threatened to send his (non)girlfriend's nudes to her son if she revealed the truth... That's how the show has the texts. She released those texts as well.
14:34 they showed the MILDEST texts, they got way weirder and the whole situation is honestly triggering for DV in terms of the threats he gave the the “not girlfriend” for exposing him.
@@P1kiepi3Yes! A lot more! After LIB and perfect match he allegedly ghosted her and she said she would make their texts public and he threatened to hit her.
3:29 thank you for saying this lol. I’m so tired of seeing people accuse women who just happen to have curves, natural or not, of sexualizing or bringing sexualization onto themselves. Like imagine being a woman trying to just exist with breasts and everyone thinks you’re trying to sexualize yourself. Like just stop it lol.
That "which I thought was strange" from Chelsea at 12:05 is the sanest and coolest thing I've heard her say 😂😂😂 I hope she is thriving in her friendships & in learning to feel worthy & loved without another person telling her!!
"I don't know how to be a good husband you just hear happy wife happy life" bro it's RIGHT THERE, do things and behave in ways that would make your wife happy??? Not hard
he’s basically saying he needs to see someone actively model those behaviors rather than just tell him “if your wife is happy then everything is fine”. I think his feelings make sense for someone who grew up with a careless, cheating father & a complacent mother.
Girl, I was looking forward to your video all day!!!!! This was such a fun one. I do gotta say though, I definitely agree that AD can and should be allowed to wear whatever she wants. She is absolutely stunning. BUT but but, I do think that she holds SOME of the responsibility in this situation. I watched a great Jessie Woo collaborative video today that was really enlightening regarding this show. It made me consider a few things. - Sometimes, the people we choose as partners are a mirror reflection of us. A lot of what Clay was doing is stuff that AD often mirrored, but in her own way. - She knew Clay was the type of man who treated her like this in the past, but her desire to fix men (which she admitted to), made her walk into the arms of a man who told her from the beginning that he didn't want to be married. She recently said in a podcast that he even mentioned his unwillingness in the pods. They both knew the outcome of this and went ahead with the risk. - I don't think there's anything wrong with loving your beauty as a woman, but there's something about the way AD chose to lead with her body because she knew she looked good...kinda like Clay did too. Her walking down the aisle to him only making a comment about her body...not even her beautiful face or dress or soul. Nope, he opened his mouth and said "Okay body." And she was like hell yeah, that's what you should be proud of. Idk, that just felt off to me. - Also, AD just said in an interview that her and Clay remain flirty friends...like straight up engagement to situationship? That's terrifying ngl. But anyway I absolutely love your videos! Please keep them coming, I'm locked in to your channel haha
Exactly! Why do you have to see someone being a good husband or boyfriend in order to know what it looks like? That's just another excuse which is why I don't give any grace to Clay. There are people who are making lots of excuses for him and im not falling for it.
On one hand, I come from a pretty dysfunctional family and didn't know what a loving relationship looked like, let alone a healthy one. So sometimes I have unhealthy behaviours/reactions/impulses that, looking back, are based off what I saw + experienced as a kid with my parents. So I get when Clay says he didn't have healthy relationships modeled to him. THAT SAID, I've been in therapy for years, watch countless hours of relationship therapy videos, listen to hours of therapy podcasts, talk to friends, talk to my partner, etc. etc. to figure out how I can best show up day after day in all my relationships (romantic and platonic). So I DON'T understand why Clay just uses his parents' relationship as an excuse like AD'll just have to put up with shitty behaviours or lack of commitment. Like wtf is that, take your life into your own hands, you're a grown man.
@ligli500 Yeah. Clay said that he went to therapy but he's not in therapy right now probably. So he's going on a show and he's aware of his problems. But he's using this show as free therapy and thats what I don't respect.
There are soo many Sarah Annes desperate for a man that they want and don't care by any means type of personality . HOUSE BUILT ON SAND . SPEAKS TO BOTH THIER TRUE NATURE. CHELSEA should have also been called out on her karen antics , gaslighting and LYING that also speaks volumes on who she really is as a person
they definitely didn’t show the timeline of jess and jimmy’s convo during the reunion because it’s not like it’s scripted and they were prepared. they added it in afterwards for us to see
IDK If you've already seen it yet, but I'd LOVE if you'd do these kinds of videos for Love Is Blind - SWEDEN cause that was SUCH an excellent season (and reunion - lots of tea all throughout!)
i mean trevor's ex was in on it with him up until he ghosted her before the season aired so I feel bad that he threatened her life but something in the milk ain't clean
honestly im kinda on chelsea's side for airing sarah ann and jeramey's dirty loundry on international tv, since both of them are so obviously only concerned with their image and in being good "entertainment", we can only say what chelsea did was to make it more entertaining for us. If they weren't so obsessed with their "image" they wouldn't be in this mess
absolutely loving these videos bc of your personality. idgaf about these types of shows at all so big kudos to you bc i never click on these videos abt this like i do yours
They're gonna find body glitter all over that set for the next five seasons. Like the same way you have a christmas tree and years after you still step on those needles around your apartment.
i hate that they didn't show ALLLL the trevor texts. because he lied yet again. the rest of the texts show that he had absolutely no intention of getting married.
The rumor for why Chelsey didn't get time was that they cut their arguments to make it look like she was insane because Jimmy was lovy on camera but was going out with girls from the show and his girlfriends after lying to Chelsey about going to bed. I believe it not because I think Chelsey is perfect but because Jimmy gives me snake in the grass.
All this talk about 'pick mes' is crazy because every woman who goes on this show is literally there to get picked. That's the whole point of the show. Let's just keep it real. Just look at AD and Chelsea. Both of them desperately wanted to be picked so bad
The thing about the body glitter is, the body glitter Amy had was tasteful and Sarah Ann’s was obnoxious and too much. A good representation of the women though too lol.
girl, I’ve got bad news regarding AD and Clay…. AD’s been on a couple podcasts and she said that they’re “flirty friends” who are “all over each other” …so…. any hope I still had for her is lost lol.
I literally came to the reunion to see Chelsea get whacked about her behavior the whole season and I left disappointed. At least Trevor and Sara Ann got their lashings but Jeramey didn't get enough. I now know for sure AD is stupid but I still love her. I still need the Lacheys to retire. At this point, let TikTok host next time. At least I discovered your channel thanks to the mess
the text screenshots were all over social media lol in surprised they didn’t read more. Also Jeremy and Laura would never have gotten married anyway, Sarah Ann or not, Laura was a jerk the whole time. I mean him and Sarah ann wont work out either tbh
17:56 because having a stable role model in your life builds resilience, clay has very low resilience bc of the lack of decant examples made in his life, yes AD had a broken home but she found role models in her life and built resilience, he’s a grown man but a grown man that was never given an example of what a man should be, it’s not unreasonable if you understand resilience as a whole bc clays life set him up with very little and now he’s putting in the work to get there still doesn’t deserve AD she’s way too good for him but he’s putting in the work.
Nah Chelsea had every right to call out their bullshit relationship lmao
YES while MEGAN FOX SHOULD HAVE BEEN TAKEN TO TASK ON HER GASLIGHTING AND KAREN ANTICS
Girl gave us the tea
It’s kinda goes back to her calling out jimmy’s personal business tho
Loved it.
@@urgentlyj Absolutely true.
Trevor's 'it's not like she was my girlfriend' is a CLASSIC excuse. It goes like this:
Bootycall: What I did wasn't bad, it's not like I said we're exclusive!
Situationship: What I did wasn't bad, you're not my girlfriend!
Girlfriend: What I did wasn't bad, we're not married!
Babymomma: What I did wasn't bad, I never said I wanted marriage!
Fiancee: What I did wasn't bad, I need more time to decide before the wedding!
Wife: What I did wasn't bad, it's not like you're my mother, get off my back!
It never ends. They will blame women for their bad behavior until the cows come home. And women get sabotaged by their internalized guilt. The "good woman" who can stop male abuse by merely being good enough does not exist. Don't fall for it.
AD needs to hear it
You ate w this I’m so serious
🥇🏆🏆 MVP COMMENT!!! 🏆🏆🥇
Exactlyyy
THIS COMMENT NEEDS A SUPER PIN
Y’all, telling another woman that her clothes sexualize her isn’t ok. Knock it off. Women have the right to feel proud of the hard work they put into their bodies without pressure from society to fit a convention that maybe they don’t actually fit. Let the lady serve and stuff your comments.
They say “AD is sexualizing her body” like is she suppose to take it off or something 😂 insanity
Also like, she has obviously worked hard at the gym. I don't see any reason why she shouldn't show off the results???? Everything she wore was tasteful and if it was on a different kind of body nobody would bat an eye.
Yeah it is giving "you should cover up if you don't wanna to be $€xually harassed" type of $lit$h@ming comment. Just like the posts online where women with fuller figures are just doing their jobs and they are told that their bodies are inappropriate for work.
people stay sexualizing black women's bodies
It’s just another form of racism and misogyny,
Trevor threatened to send his (non)girlfriend's nudes to her son if she revealed the truth... That's how the show has the texts. She released those texts as well.
Give Trevor an Oscar bc he was trying real hard w that 3 seconds of trying to push out a tear
Giving it his ALLLLLL 😂😂😭 I was losing it
gripping onto his Perfect Match contract for dear life
“don’t threaten me like that ever again in your CRUSTY life” 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Sarah Ann looking so proud at being with Jeremay now like honey he ain’t no prize 😂 they 100% deserve each other shame won’t last tho
14:34 they showed the MILDEST texts, they got way weirder and the whole situation is honestly triggering for DV in terms of the threats he gave the the “not girlfriend” for exposing him.
WAIT THERE WAS MORE 😭😭😭
@@P1kiepi3Yes! A lot more! After LIB and perfect match he allegedly ghosted her and she said she would make their texts public and he threatened to hit her.
AD looked FLAWLESSSSSSSSSS her style always hits fr fr. and amy also looked amazing
AD be chasing after red flags like bulls at the rodeo 😂🤣
3:29 thank you for saying this lol. I’m so tired of seeing people accuse women who just happen to have curves, natural or not, of sexualizing or bringing sexualization onto themselves. Like imagine being a woman trying to just exist with breasts and everyone thinks you’re trying to sexualize yourself. Like just stop it lol.
i’m so glad they got called out, bc they were acting better then everyone else. 😭😭💀💀
Your makeup looks so good I barely paid attention to what you were saying lol
hahah thanks love 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
That "which I thought was strange" from Chelsea at 12:05 is the sanest and coolest thing I've heard her say 😂😂😂 I hope she is thriving in her friendships & in learning to feel worthy & loved without another person telling her!!
"I don't know how to be a good husband you just hear happy wife happy life" bro it's RIGHT THERE, do things and behave in ways that would make your wife happy??? Not hard
he’s basically saying he needs to see someone actively model those behaviors rather than just tell him “if your wife is happy then everything is fine”. I think his feelings make sense for someone who grew up with a careless, cheating father & a complacent mother.
@@hiphiphoogray Like a child needing to be shown how to cut their food. A lack of initiative is the biggest red flag in a potential partner.
Like don't cheat, Clay. Start there.
“Hold on tight spider monkey” you know what’s up haha
Love a fellow twilight fan
i love you guys sm, thank you for 50k, you’re all saur sweet 💗💗💗
PLS DO MORE REACTION CONTENT I LOVE HEARING U SPEAAAAAKKKK I like ur voice n ur opinions
I hate when i find a new creator i like but they have only like 4 vids of the style that brought me to them
Girl, I was looking forward to your video all day!!!!! This was such a fun one.
I do gotta say though, I definitely agree that AD can and should be allowed to wear whatever she wants. She is absolutely stunning. BUT but but, I do think that she holds SOME of the responsibility in this situation. I watched a great Jessie Woo collaborative video today that was really enlightening regarding this show. It made me consider a few things.
- Sometimes, the people we choose as partners are a mirror reflection of us. A lot of what Clay was doing is stuff that AD often mirrored, but in her own way.
- She knew Clay was the type of man who treated her like this in the past, but her desire to fix men (which she admitted to), made her walk into the arms of a man who told her from the beginning that he didn't want to be married. She recently said in a podcast that he even mentioned his unwillingness in the pods. They both knew the outcome of this and went ahead with the risk.
- I don't think there's anything wrong with loving your beauty as a woman, but there's something about the way AD chose to lead with her body because she knew she looked good...kinda like Clay did too. Her walking down the aisle to him only making a comment about her body...not even her beautiful face or dress or soul. Nope, he opened his mouth and said "Okay body." And she was like hell yeah, that's what you should be proud of. Idk, that just felt off to me.
- Also, AD just said in an interview that her and Clay remain flirty friends...like straight up engagement to situationship? That's terrifying ngl.
But anyway I absolutely love your videos! Please keep them coming, I'm locked in to your channel haha
Exactly! Why do you have to see someone being a good husband or boyfriend in order to know what it looks like? That's just another excuse which is why I don't give any grace to Clay. There are people who are making lots of excuses for him and im not falling for it.
People who make excuses for him probably have bad dating habits and wonder why it’s not working out, too many folks lack critical thinking skills.
On one hand, I come from a pretty dysfunctional family and didn't know what a loving relationship looked like, let alone a healthy one. So sometimes I have unhealthy behaviours/reactions/impulses that, looking back, are based off what I saw + experienced as a kid with my parents. So I get when Clay says he didn't have healthy relationships modeled to him.
THAT SAID, I've been in therapy for years, watch countless hours of relationship therapy videos, listen to hours of therapy podcasts, talk to friends, talk to my partner, etc. etc. to figure out how I can best show up day after day in all my relationships (romantic and platonic). So I DON'T understand why Clay just uses his parents' relationship as an excuse like AD'll just have to put up with shitty behaviours or lack of commitment. Like wtf is that, take your life into your own hands, you're a grown man.
@ligli500 Yeah. Clay said that he went to therapy but he's not in therapy right now probably. So he's going on a show and he's aware of his problems. But he's using this show as free therapy and thats what I don't respect.
There are soo many Sarah Annes desperate for a man that they want and don't care by any means type of personality . HOUSE BUILT ON SAND . SPEAKS TO BOTH THIER TRUE NATURE. CHELSEA should have also been called out on her karen antics , gaslighting and LYING that also speaks volumes on who she really is as a person
girl you are STUNNING! im gagged
going over the outfits made me subscribe ugh loveeee
The devil works hard, but shay works harder! So glad this video is out!!
Sarah Ann is giving 2004 prom night.
16:12 bro up and left 😭😭😭
they definitely didn’t show the timeline of jess and jimmy’s convo during the reunion because it’s not like it’s scripted and they were prepared. they added it in afterwards for us to see
You seem like you would be so fun to gossip with, absolutely love your energy!
can we talk about how good mother looks 🥹🤍
watching these videos without ever watching a single episode of LIB is incredible, like your friend telling you about workplace drama
Your blush in this look is everything, that color is so gorgeous ❤️🔥
20:27 When you said "Jimothy," I turned notifications on 😂
Girl Trevor’s ex posted the texts on socials a couple weeks ago
The way I'm e a t i n g these videos uppp!! Love you girlie 😁
IDK If you've already seen it yet, but I'd LOVE if you'd do these kinds of videos for Love Is Blind - SWEDEN cause that was SUCH an excellent season (and reunion - lots of tea all throughout!)
Yk i was hesitating watching it but i will now
AGREE. my second fave LIB after this season lol
Congrats for 50k! Been loving all the love is blind commentary 👏🏽💘
THE DOUBLE HEAD WHIP FROM TREVOR TO JIMMY AT 15:43 IM DYINGGGGGG
Whenever shay uploads, I'm SAT
ur blush looks STUNNING
i've been avoiding reunion videos bc i wanted to watch your commentary first 😭❤️
Yesssss grabbing my cup of tea right naurrrrrrr
purrrrrrr
Very authentic delivery with rich contents.
i mean trevor's ex was in on it with him up until he ghosted her before the season aired so I feel bad that he threatened her life but something in the milk ain't clean
They gotta be going easy on Chelsea because they think she’s crazy
I got recommended your America’s Next Top Model video earlier today and have been binging your videos ever since I’m obsessed
Gained a new subscriber, loving you’re videos
I just broke my leg and ankle on Tuesday and when I tell you this just made my whole night 🥺. I’ve been waiting on this video all week🥰
honestly im kinda on chelsea's side for airing sarah ann and jeramey's dirty loundry on international tv, since both of them are so obviously only concerned with their image and in being good "entertainment", we can only say what chelsea did was to make it more entertaining for us. If they weren't so obsessed with their "image" they wouldn't be in this mess
so real. the misogynoir dripping from every conversation about AD is appalling. honestly
love your reactions omg 💘so glad that I found ur channel. Hi from Kazakhstan
absolutely loving these videos bc of your personality. idgaf about these types of shows at all so big kudos to you bc i never click on these videos abt this like i do yours
I LOVE IT HERE TBH
Vanessa: we asked a simple question babes😤
jeramey: well you ain't getting a simple answer🤫🤐
literally just finished binge watching all of your love is blind videos this morning so happy to be here ❤️ love your videos
you make youtube worth watching again - subscriber 50001
Sarah Ann also apologized to Laura and then immediately yelled into the camera that she was not sorry before going jet skiing
16:29 it’s worse actually, AD says they’re “flirty friends” :)
They're gonna find body glitter all over that set for the next five seasons. Like the same way you have a christmas tree and years after you still step on those needles around your apartment.
I love your videos. you make me cackle! I'm so glad I found you through this messy tv show lol.
Chelsea has no right to talk about anything. They spent way too much time on Sarah Ann and Jeramey and not enough on Chelsea’s crazy abusive behavior.
You were right she did a q&a on her instagram and they were invited but was busy with other projects working on
YAYYYY!!! HAPPY 50K!! ❤️
i hate that they didn't show ALLLL the trevor texts. because he lied yet again. the rest of the texts show that he had absolutely no intention of getting married.
The rumor for why Chelsey didn't get time was that they cut their arguments to make it look like she was insane because Jimmy was lovy on camera but was going out with girls from the show and his girlfriends after lying to Chelsey about going to bed. I believe it not because I think Chelsey is perfect but because Jimmy gives me snake in the grass.
Shay I’m so happy for your channel growing! I’ve been watching you for years be consistent ❤
oh my gosh, i’ve been subbed to you too since i saw your first comment of my vids ages ago, you are soooo sweet, manifesting the same for you 💖💐💞💞
YESSSS
Im from Brazil, I recently found your channel and Im obsessed😂 I was waiting for this videoooo
AD was actually insane for meeting up with Matthew after the show, he was such a dangerous unhinged narcissist
Nick and Vanessa are so weird together 😭😭
I love your videos but I wish you posted this last week. I've watched too many of these already. Still watching yours tho because yours are superior.
All this talk about 'pick mes' is crazy because every woman who goes on this show is literally there to get picked. That's the whole point of the show. Let's just keep it real. Just look at AD and Chelsea. Both of them desperately wanted to be picked so bad
also i adore your commentary sm we are always on the same page bestie hahahaha i low key kiki with you when i watch your videos lol
The thing about the body glitter is, the body glitter Amy had was tasteful and Sarah Ann’s was obnoxious and too much. A good representation of the women though too lol.
Been waiting for your recap!! Love yaa
girl, I’ve got bad news regarding AD and Clay…. AD’s been on a couple podcasts and she said that they’re “flirty friends” who are “all over each other” …so…. any hope I still had for her is lost lol.
You should comment runway shows or event premiere outfits. I love your take on the outfits!!
Girl I was waiting for this video. You are so funny ❤
YASSSSS was waiting for this video!
Happy 50k, shay!! You definitely deserve it girl, hope ou get all that ad sense to buy all the pretty girl things you want!!
AD is too good for a man
love this lip on you, looks gorgeous ✨✨
I literally came to the reunion to see Chelsea get whacked about her behavior the whole season and I left disappointed. At least Trevor and Sara Ann got their lashings but Jeramey didn't get enough. I now know for sure AD is stupid but I still love her. I still need the Lacheys to retire. At this point, let TikTok host next time. At least I discovered your channel thanks to the mess
Okay but I need the link to this hair the color is perfect 😭
the text screenshots were all over social media lol in surprised they didn’t read more. Also Jeremy and Laura would never have gotten married anyway, Sarah Ann or not, Laura was a jerk the whole time. I mean him and Sarah ann wont work out either tbh
Is your cat a ragdoll? I’d love to have that breed one day because they’re cuddly ❤
i look forward to your commentary, we are so similar!!
i’ve been loving watching your videos
I absolutely love your makeup today!! It looks so pretty, I love the way you did your blush!
Happy 50k! 💚
17:56 because having a stable role model in your life builds resilience, clay has very low resilience bc of the lack of decant examples made in his life, yes AD had a broken home but she found role models in her life and built resilience, he’s a grown man but a grown man that was never given an example of what a man should be, it’s not unreasonable if you understand resilience as a whole bc clays life set him up with very little and now he’s putting in the work to get there still doesn’t deserve AD she’s way too good for him but he’s putting in the work.
Congrats on 50k 🎉
I’m gonna need to know your outfit details 📝
YOURE SO PRETTY MY GOD I see you sun kissed cutie x
I’ll be using the term “ten minute Jimothy” from now on
Jimmy looks like Humpty Dumpty + a beard
Omg you made me laugh through this. 😂😂😂
I heard AD might be the next bachelorette!
hi im new but im stayingggg also ur so beautiful
clay and his mom were mad that ad said she didnt want to end up like her but they need to be serious who would want that
AWE Happy 50k!