I'm pretty sure that my ex of 5/6 months is in a rebound, she was 'low hanging fruit' she told him she liked him & was an ex colleague he had friend zoned years back. He had her lined up before he broke up with me out the blue, no indication anything was wrong. I've gone no contact two days after we broke up & its been two months now. I'm hoping this will work.
When you said that they wanted to be single then went on a couple dates and mixed up the feelings is what happened to me. They hung out a few times not even 3 weeks after the end of our relationship and then soon after I got word they were officially dating.
I think ultimately it wouldn't matter who made the decision. If your ex was dumped, then it would hit their self-esteem and they might want to find someone who cared (you). However, if your ex dumps them, then they might consider they made a mistake by ending your relationship as this new one hasn't lasted very long, and might think of reaching out to you.
@@dominiccampana7385 thanks for your question. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back. Nothing works / happens 100% of the time, but if you have been dumped your best chance of success is to implement my version of the 'no contact rule'. This gives your ex space to miss you and think about you, if they have any remaining romantic, emotional attraction.
2 months out of a 3yr relationship with my ex and we have a 1yo daughter. She just informed me that she's officially in a new relationship. Her new BF is like the exact opposite of me and I guess I am a jerk but I literally laughed aloud when I heard how he "compares" to me financially, career-wise, sexually and socially - it really boosted my self esteem because it definitely isnt an upgrade for her from me, it's a major downgrade. I do however feel sad today because she has apparently moved on and I dont want to hold out hope of her coming back. I normally wouldnt care about her and just let it go, but because of our daughter, I do care and I must still love my ex.
You sound like a grown adult I think you deserve better people shouldn’t have to chase love… for me and maybe you can give me a some advice my exes parents were in her life to much… she said she lost feelings for me romantically but I was confused as I did most things right and some things wrong… I’m still in college I like to take life a little more seriously not all peaches and cream like she thinks… she wanted a lot of attention and I gave it to her id put down homework and drop all my stuff down so I can pay attention to her… I loved her so much I thought everyday was going smooth… she didn’t trust me because she had trust issues it wasn’t fair because she believed everyone’s else’s word and not mine… We’d go out and I’d pay for everything… id work my ass off she had her drivers license and never drove to my house bc her parents didn’t allow her and she wanted me to talk to her parents about it… I mean eventually one day she’s gonna drive why not right now?!?! I was putting in a 110% she devaluated me because her life was shittier than mine she only had like 5 friends would only work weekends and did not like working I gave her the tools so that way she can fix everything but she didn’t want to help her self… she wrote me love letters all the time and I loved it but is it gonna make my life easier? As far as in money or her visiting me? all she wanted was more more more if she really wanted to spend time with me she would’ve drove over to my house so that way she can spend more time with me… she never had any master goals in mind a future job a goal that she wanted to reach… she doesn’t know what she wants and I realize that I know what I want she was only holding me down but I still would care for her… I’m not saying I’m perfect but I fixed things in the relationship that she wanted me to change and still was fixing them she just didn’t wanna fix anything her self one sided relationship and the only reason I didn’t realize it was because she would cry in front of me and manipulated me even tho I told her what to do she had no motivation to fix things… I got no closure I went to her house and tried to fix things up with her.. 2 weeks I’m telling you she got a new bf the parents were comparing me to him and told me he had a full time job, and he was 26 while she’s about to turn 21… I can’t have a full time job I provided her with the most that I could’ve and my “most” wasn’t enough her parents also showed me pictures of her and her new boyfriend say how “happy” she was… if you had a daughter and she had a boyfriend for 2 years and 2 weeks later she had another boyfriend and you think that’s right ur hella trippin…sometimes I didn’t even wanna have sex and I’d have it only bc she wanted it… she used me in so many ways and now I realize I deserve better… she would tell me in arguments that I could be easily replaced by another dude that wanted to put in more effort but it was always about her and never about me because she never wanted to change… you can’t help a person that doesn’t wanna change for the better she has to much time in her hands never kept her self busy she’s waiting for a guy that’ll just move her out of her shitty ass parents house so that way she can live with him… she depends on a guy to do that for her not her self wrong attitude to have you should rely of ur self for everything not someone else and that’s where I went wrong depended on her for my happiness I didn’t realize it needed to be half and half one day she will probably realize how much of a good boyfriend I was to her but for that day I won’t be around I just need to work on my self for now as I have a dream job and a dream car something she never had herself
Im almost a year through break up now. It does indeed get easier. First 3-4 months are hell. Pure hell. Especially when they move on instantly or almost instant. Some rebounds work and no amount of wishing and hoping will bring them back. If theyre happy we just got to wish them the best. Especially if kids are in the middle. Its tough, but stay the course. Every relationship encounters troubles. It wont always be smooth sailing its getting through those rough waters as a couple that stands the test. I believe my ex hasnt delt at all with our breakup and outsourced. One day i hope it catches up but ill be gone by then. Already getting there. Just have to kill hope.
My ex is trying everything possible to make it work with the rebound because of her ego. . . . She doesn't want people to think that her decision was wrong.
I lost 4 family members in a year and was depressed, had raised his children and grandchildren as my own. He came back once I had moved on causing Drama in my new relationship.. I feel if they leave you in your time of need they don't deserve another chance?
Vincent, My ex and myself broke up December 09 2020. Within a weeks time he was with another woman and stayed with her less than 2 months. He broke up with her and got into a third relationship not much longer. He married this one. Now get this, we hadn't been broken up 5 months at this time. This has definitely got to be a rebound.
It is 100% guaranteed. I know this from doing that exact cycle for years.. .....It really stunted my growth and had to constantly re-up on new women and each time it kept coming back. That nonsense can really have u walking around for years on end with unresolved pain
Met a wonderful woman 9 months ago, she was married early at 19 and had 3 kids with a guy over 40 years and he died of a heart attack but for 7 years at the end he was committing adultry which she proved out. She was never treated very well and she always wanted to see what dating was like but was married. After no dating for 2 yrs she started and dated a few men then met me. She did not bank on a great relationship. I fell in love and made weak kneed mistakes, told her I loved her which she could not reciprocate. She met a guy about 4 months ago and told me she wanted to focus on him and see where it goes. She asked me for space. We had a great time in every way. In 31 days, No Contact now. We had spirited conversations but we never fought. What you say? Hope to here a comment from you. She told me all we have left is marraige. Thank you Mr Vincent for you sharing
What about when the get engaged to a guy they have known 2.5 weeks. Broke up with you the day they met them after 3.5 years with her 3 kids involved from her previous marriage. Now less then 3 months later they are getting married next week. She still contacts me daily…. I’m so hurt and confused….
@@vincentbos she just acts like we are best friends still. She texts me every day. Asks me to see the kids about one time a week. Asked me to to lunch last week.
My ex was asking for break, and 1 week later I find out that she went out with someone else, and I was too needy push her till she finally ends the relationship with me. We break up, and now she's spending her most free time with that new guy, but the way they're moving doesn't seem like they're in a romantic relationship. It can be friend plus, she can't be alone, I don't have any idea, and she can be hot and cold when she's not with him, but if they're together, she wouldn't pick my call or reply message
@@vincentbos Hi, morning, today is good, it usually comes & goes. But for most part listening to your wonderful videos & reading stories which are similar has been a great help. Counseling locally has put me on my feet. I've asked God to take care of him, he's going to need it.
My ex and ibwere together 4years, we broke up almost 4 months ago(we lived together) she met this kid a week after we broke up. She had to pack up and move out and stayed with him. Went into NC immediately and im still in it 60days now. But through the grape vines i heard 2 weeks ago he left for school and they decided not to do LDR.
We were together for 3 years. He broke up on November 8th 2020 because of my mental health (i realised what had happened to me after the brakup and i went there to tell him the story to erase his reason for breakup). 1 week After the breakup he started dating another girl, but we were still talking out until 1 month after the brakup. I found out about her when i went there and saw them two. Then i stalked her and found out about the time they started dating. This is now 3 months. When i was there i asked him to mail or bring me my stuff but he wanted to make a meeting out of it so we could have another talk. One week ago he called me and found a reason to delay meeting me, because he didnt felt like seeing me. I even told him i only wanted my things because of the other girl so he could move on and he offered me to bring me the things the next days but not feeling it, or give him time so he would like to even see me. I am so confused they are now 3 months together but only she shows him off, he doesnt show anything of her on his insta or so.
Is he a rebound if she goes to see him 3 days after the breakup? She says that he is similar in character to me, and for the first two weeks when they went to see each other, she told me that she loved me. After 2-3 months they got in a relationship, she says that whenever I call she will answer me. When we are in the same bar, she looks at the phone, looks nervous, is silent and doesn't talk to him much and looks at me several times. Because as they began to see each other, she raised everything to the level as like she continued our relationship with him, all with him are goes very fast . It has all the signs of a rebound relationship?
Together with me for 8 months, left 2 weeks ago, because of an argument. B4 our fight he was attached to me. Said I love you all the time.. We argued and he left 2 weeks ago. Then told me, he loved me 4 days ago.. Then yesterday, told me move on with my life he's seeing someone else.. Told me to leave him alone... I went ghost
We dated for 1 year and 2 months. After 2 weeks of dumping me she is seeing someonr imeadiately. I can say our relationship and our emotions before is deep.
I’ve done your version of no contact rule, I reached out after 3 weeks ( I know mistake ! ) went back to know contact. He contacted me 3 weeks later with an I miss you text. He was in a rebound relationship 2 weeks after we broke up our 6 years relationship. I responded initially being cool then I went too strong - he backed away. Went in no contact again. He contacted me after 3 months witn another I miss you text saying he wants to see me and wants me back. We live 4h away, he’s driving to see me tomorrow. I’m nervous !!!! He said no-one is me and he misses what we have. I’m very nervous to see him … but no contact, works guys!!! Don’t lose hope. His rebound was a girl he knew, an old friend of his. He said to me he’s single but I don’t really believe that…. Any tips for me please???
Hi Blue, thank you for your comment and I'm so happy for you. This is an exciting time, but try to stay relaxed. I suggest tomorrow you behave in a happy, fun and carefree way. If you would like audio coaching today (in prep for tomorrow) I will try and fit you in. Check my website for more details on my coaching. Stay positive and good luck :)
My partner of 12 years (wife of 7) left me for a mutual friend ...barley an explanation..claimed she loved me but not 'in love with me' anymore...they are living together less than a month later of us breaking up.is it a rebound?
We were together 8 years. She left me almost a year ago. We had a son together 4 years ago who i havent seen since she left me. She was in a rebound relationship a month later. She from time to time will unblock me briefly to indirect see how I am. I do reply, telling her im shattered and miss them. The guy shes dating doesnt like her talking to me, and I feel like she blocks me to not rock the boat in their relationship. I could be wrong but I feel like she still has feelings for me. It was 8 years, we had a son together yet she still chooses to not make the rebound jealous and always reblocks me out of nowhere even its just normal conversation about how our sons doing. I didnt flirt with her or do anything to make the guy jealous. He just simply doesnt want her talking to me. I dont want to move on. I want my family back. What do I do and whats your take on this? Clearly her attraction for him is higher than it is for me because she chooses to block me to please him. Note : We will be having just a normal healthy coparent converstion about our son and bam block out of nowhere. I know its cause he finds out were talking and she just doesnt want to rock the boat. Whats sad is I 100% believe and *know* if he werent there getting bent cause were talking she would not block me. Shes letting him be controlling wtf do I do how do i get my family back dude
Also this last year I have done alot of self work and learned to love myself. It would be impossible to not see the change in me. Whenever she blocks me I ofc go back into no contact...until she unblocks me months later to see how I am. The cycle is rinse and repeat.
Hi Tangerine, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about what has happened to you. Sadly, there is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back. There is no 'paint by numbers' advice that will guarantee success. What we have to do is try and increase your odds. Firstly, you need to be approachable. Any communication you do have needs to be happy, carefree and fun. Secondly, you need to continue the self-improvement that you have already started, and thirdly, you need to date other people to grow your value as a romantic option. There is of course a lot more to this, but unfortunately I only have so much time I can dedicate to my YT comments. I have to prioritse my coaching clients and I'm sure you can appreciate that. The most important thing though is that you live your life to the full and are the best dad you can be, if you get the opportunity to see your son in the future. There is no definitive way to make your ex decide to reconcile your relationship, and hence the best place to be is when you are feeling OK with either outcome, because with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
Thanks for your comment Dee Gee. Even if your ex had an affair (emotional or physical) this is different to having a full-on, serious relationship. There would still be uncertainty if a relationship would work between both people.
We broke up a little over 2 weeks ago. We were together 10 years. He felt I didn’t put enough time and effort into the relationship but still said I was the best girlfriend he ever had. The breakup was pretty civil and he told me he met someone and did not do anything with her YET but wants to get to know her. I get the feeling she was in the picture for a few months. I have been NC since 3 days after the breakup (so 2 weeks so far) Wondering if I should just move on. Very painful.
@@myhappyscrappyplace344 this will be incredibly painful and there is no time limit for feeling better. I suggest trying to 'move forward' which means you aren't putting your life on hold, but at the same time it's very possible that one day you might hear from your ex again. I suggest you listen to my podcast mini-series on the 'Dumper Experience'. Here is the link - th-cam.com/video/mjNZ_pd8msA/w-d-xo.html
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago I was the who became quite needy after we broke with in a week she started dating casually one of her's good college friend now they both look quite happy also my ex stalks my Instagram from one of her fake account she don't know this that I know this is it a rebound? please reply
Hi couch....after 12 years and 2 kids my wife left the marriage and blames me for her unhappiness.....it's been 5 months since we separated after living in our new house for 6 months ....now she and kids moved in with another guys house ....as it's the only space she could afford...I don't belive it ....and think he's more than just her landlord ....
Hey Vincent, my ex broke up After 3,5years and we lived together for over a year. After he broke up, he went dating with an employer and kind of friend. They already slept with each other and went on holiday After two weeks. I think it is a rebound but i am not sure bc they already knew eachother befor… what do you think?
Hi Vanessa, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It certainly sounds like this connection has rebound relationship red flags. The fact they knew each other prior shouldn't affect things too much because romantically everything will be new and unknown. How are you feeling today?
@@vincentbos hi vincent, thanks for asking! Not very good but okay…i tryed NC but without any announcement and he reachs out to me so often and asked about how i am, when he can pick up some stuff (i forced him to leave our flat until i found a new one) or he asked about my grandma, who is very ill… it stress me so much, that he is always showing up on my phone and acts so polite and sometimes like nothing happens! I am scared that it doesn’t bother him at all to contact me and that he already moved on… the break up was 5 weeks ago… i cant belive how he can act like that! 😔
Hi Vanessa, this is a very challenging time for you, but you will get through this. Please may I ask how old you and your ex are? What country do you live in?
Your English is fantastic Vanessa! You are very good :) If you need extra support, I have an audio coaching service. Where we can speak about your situation in more depth. Let me know if you would like more details on this. The important thing to remember is that with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
My ex decided he wanted space and a break but I checked on tinder and there was his profile. This was three days into the break. But my ex still maintained he was upset and thought space might help and after that I just became needy. A month later we split completely and I went into no contact for 30 days, then reached out. We text, although my ex was a little cold, for about a week. Then it was obvious my ex wasn’t in the right space. After a few day my ex was spotted with another person holding hands.
Thank you for your comment. I don't promote the 30 day No Contact rule and i'm sorry to hear that you were badly advised to use that system. My suggestion is that you watch my playlist called 'The No Contact Rule' and get to understand my theory.
My ex and I was together 8 years we broke up 6 months ago and she’s already dating someone and it seems to be moving very fast. Also lots of posts on social media with the new guy . It’s horrible . At the end of the day even if it’s a rebound it could grow into love . Obviously the more time you spend with someone the more they will fall for the person. Am I wrong ?
Hi. So I dated a girl for almost five years and we generally had a happy connection. We didn't fight, we had very many good memories, etc etc. The last few months of our relationship were hard with everything going on in the world and both of us being seniors in college. My mistake was that I didn't put in everything for her. I went on cruise control so to say. We didn't have good communication and that attraction fell without a peep. She cried when she left me, hugged me for a few minutes, made a few strange offhand comments that I didn't notice at the time, but looking back seemed as tho she felt she wasn't good enough. She begged me to be her friend and to watch our show when it came back out. I felt this was school stress cause we went through something similar for a week back in March, so I gave her two weeks of space. I didn't know the NC rule anyway. After like two weeks I reached out and we talked, but something seemed off. That made me worried and so I brought up getting back together prematurely and we argued over that. I was a jerk and she got mad. I then have her a month of space before deciding that I wanted to apologize for what I did. She wouldn't respond to my four texts and just to be sure she at least got my apology, I had a mutual friend send one. She was still mad over what I had said and was creeped out by like 3 facebook posts that I had made. I apologized for the posts, said it wasn't my intent, and said I wouldn't do them anymore. She then proceeded to unfriend my family and I from social media. That was November 20th-ish. I took more time to reflect and build on myself and also to give her space. This is where I realized what went wrong with us. On December 25th I learned that she started going out with somebody new like three weeks after our breakup. Now I haven't stalked her or asked about her, I've just minded my business, but what I do know is that they went on a few dates places where her and I went and they had Christmas together. Since I don't know much, it's hard to say whether she's slowly dipping into a few dates or whether they officially started dating soon after. My ex isn't a player, she's a good person. It still hurts like shit that she moved to a new guy after 3 weeks. I know that she has felt this way for a while. Mutual friends talked to me about her not feeling the same for a few months and she even told a friend that she loves me, but isn't in love with me. Of course I fucked up after I snapped at her (tho her love comment was after that). I made quite a few mistakes and it doesn't look great.. but it's also hard to know what we had and our pure friendship.. and that it could all be over so abruptly. I know that's life, but it's sad. It's also sad to know that she dated him so suddenly. I'm trying to move on, but my gut tells me that she'll be back. Any advice?
Hi Taylor, I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My suggestion is to watch this video here which explains my theory of what I believe will give you the best possible chance of success. Link - th-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/w-d-xo.html
Rebound can last well over a year in case of limerence, I think she is very attracted by physical appearance (tall, masculine and muscular) which is why she never had butterflies with me (being not tall and muscular). If it fails I still do not believe she would be back to me as she was never really attracted and tried to force it without success
Hi Josselin, in my opinion if two people are in a relationship for longer than a year then they have likely built more solid foundations by this stage. However, this doesn't mean a relationship will last forever.
we were together for more than 5 years .she broke up with me on December 24 2020.she said now she has no feeling for me ..and she was dating a new guy for 1 month.what are the chances that she will come back to me?
Hello Amit, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My best suggestion is for you to click this link here and watch this video - th-cam.com/video/mjNZ_pd8msA/w-d-xo.html
Vincent : Is it a rebound if we were living together ( relationship ) during 8 years and after 3 months and a half , she is already dating a new guy ? Thanks a lot for a quick response
Vincent, If we where together for 16 years and she is in a relationship after a month or so bu is hiding it from the outside world is it a rebound? Why would they be hiding it?
Is this a rebound: my husband and I seperated 3/2020, he met a woman on “Tinder” dated her for a couple months “caught feelings” she left him cus he’s toxic. We got back together for a year. Then We broke up again in late 2021 and a month later he was back with this “Tinder” gf moved her in with her kids into our house (after a month!) & it’s been 9 months now, he was calling me while being with her but I put a stop to it by filing a police report and now he has a warrant for violation of the restraining order I have against him, the “Tinder” gf has no idea. Is she considered a rebound ? He’s love bombing her calling her the same pet names , basically recycling our old relationship
Hi Tania, thank you for your question and I’m very sorry to hear about your situation. I would suggest focusing on your own journey rather than dating labels. It sounds like he is toxic and you have put a restraining order on him, so his relationship status should now be irrelevant to you. The fact you are still feeling this intrigue suggests your subconscious level of romantic, emotional attraction is higher than you would probably like. Have you considered having an audio coaching call with me to discuss this in more depth?
Hi Vincent how would you explain if my ex partner was talking to a girl at beginning of August and he left me at the end of August and my ex told me that they slept together but it won’t happen again and they were talking like friends only at the beginning would you class that as a rebound are something more serious and do you think that relationship will last or develop more
Hi Aga, great question. I think irrespective of what happened during August, your ex and this new person would not have had opportunity to get to know each other very well by that stage and everything still seems rushed. I would suggest there is a good chance that this will be a rebound relationship.
3y, neglected her,pushed her away, neglected myself as well, she met someone and 2 weeks later broke up w. me. It was in this january,2020. I went NC. Aplogized honestly few weeks later for my behaviour and if she is single, lets meet. Back and forth for about a month, she went with the other guy. I said cool. NC since then. She reaches out every 2-4weeks: random texts, calls somehing along the lines "miss you, thinking of you, i love you, but this is what it is. Im so sorry, i already regret it, but i stay with this guy. Seems I have to learn something so I stay. Wonder what the hell I am doing here. I want to be with you. I am afraid things would not work between us. I am confused. I miss you, thinking of you, i am torn, but here is passion, and blablabla, hey how are you. hope you are doing well. My soul is pain. Life is shit" she reached out last time 3 weeks ago "hi, just I hope you are doing ok".
Hi Thomas, thank you for your comment and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. If your ex contacts you but doesn't want to get back with you, then I suggest you say something such as "I will always see you as more than a friend, please contact me if you are single". This will mean she only contacts you if she is in a position to date.
I found out my ex has hickies and we work together and he isn’t even dating this girl. This was three weeks after we dated I am with god now and I am so proud of myself that I am not resulting to that kind of behavior
So my situation is that i was with my partner for 15 and a half years. We broke up a little less than 2 months ago. I fell into depression etc that led to the break. I started to work on myself. New job, therapy etc. The realtionship was rocky but good. She jumped into a relationship with this new guy after around 4 weeks. They are in LDR for now. Its a long term friends and they know each other well enough. I dont know who the guy is yet as she wont divulge. She was thinking of giving me another go before this new thing but then this new thing happened and boom. Shes very happy. She says he isnt her usual type but i know little about him and she wants to commit to their relationship. Im trying to get her back and my family. But i think i have to give up. She really wants friendship and knows i cant but she does have feelings for me i believe unless im dilided.
@@lewistaylor3267 they are still together. She posts endlessly romantic crap online. I dont look, just hear about it. She has hit gym got in shape and such. They spend every hour they can online together. Been almost a year now and he hasnt visited. He waiting for his parents to pay for his trip over next year. I know the dude. He doesnt work, lazy as sin, fat etc not someone she goes for but shes head in the clouds. I leave it be and work on my own life and kids. Try and stay as distant as i can. Shes very happy so i wish her and him the best. Got myself a new gf etc but unsure whether it will work. Guess possible rebound for myself lol
I was in an intense relationship for seven weeks. Together every single day. She suddenly broke up with me and refused to talk things out. A week and a half later she’s with a new guy. Been with him almost twice as long as she was with me. Is it still a rebound at that point?
Hi Vincent, my ex jumped right into dating a guy that she works with. He was hitting on her during our biggest struggle. We been broken up for 2.5 months now and she still dating him. But she still loves all my fb post and still tells me she still thinks about me. Just a few weeks ago, she told me she still loves me. She says, it’s nothing with this guy, he just filled time for her. But I’m not sure I believe her. What do you think? I’m so confused right now.
Hi Justice, thank you for your question. I’m very sorry to hear of your situation. Your ex is unlikely to stay in this new relationship forever. More than likely, it will end over the next few months. However, that doesn’t mean you will reconnect with her unless the previous problems have been resolved.
Hi Vincent, me again seyed. I just wanna start off with saying how much your channel and videos have helped me move forward. I know you've done some videos about being blocked etc. I just wanted to ask u something and then hopefully request another video about this issue. As u knew I was in a LDR and I had my ups and downs. When she split up (broke up) with me around August, she blocked me after a week or so. Then after two weeks block she unblocked me back. I was in no contact but stupidly reached out.... I know I shouldn't of but it happened anyway. At first casual speaking she seemed responsive and nothing major but she was quite cool. But I still didn't text her etc and gave her some more space. But last (4 days ago) I couldn't help but texted again telling her how much I missed her etc... I kind of messed up as she said "It's over pls understand and move on etc" I know I believe in the FAB (fading affect bias) thing and i am sure things will settle as time pass. But I be honest I messed up big time as I staryed saying (out of anxiety) I will kill myself etc and I know it's all awful. She texted "Stop this childish behaviour etc and move on. To me it's finish, but I don't know about u so thats your problem, leave me alone pls and stop it" etc... I got angry and blocked her... After literally 5 minutes she blocked me from everywhere too. I've unblocked her back but I'm still blocked. I just wanted to know have my chance finished or is there still a hope in the future. Will I get unblocked in the future or is it done for good? Please I would be grateful if u could answer and do another video. Thanks in advance Vincent.
Hello Seyed, thank you for your kind words. I'm very sorry to hear about what has happened. No one knows when 'the story ends'. We know this is the end of a chapter, but it doesn't mean it's the end of the book. However, recent events would have lowered the level of romantic emotional attraction that your ex felt for you. It's possible that in the future this could grow again, but this is not guaranteed. The best advice I can give you is to move forward with your life, because there is no guarantee your ex will want to contact you again (although it's certainly possible one day she will). If you have thoughts of self-harm then you must contact a local doctor. What you text your ex is very serious and I think it''s important you contact a local doctor to speak about this with. Please remember that you will feel happiness again and with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
@@ivy3839 I get u and appreciate it. It's been a year now and I've moved on of course.... It took huge amount of time but I'm finally stable and have moved on completely. All my other ex's have reached out but I really don't feel anything and just responding out of respect and that's all. It was hard but not impossible. Thanks again
My ex wife left me while I was getting help for alcohol and fixing myself. Not only did she leave me she got with her coworker who I knew and met and that’s married himself with a child and another one on the way as we speak. They have been together for a year now
Hi 25 years together - was already talking to another women at the end of May she has been single for 3 and half years. Broke up June 21. Slept with her no sex 3 weeks later after the break up, and then one week later they had sex, but was still having sex with me and l week ago Aug 28 told me it was his girlfriend and he loves her. At the beginning he was telling me that she was his crutch, which he did not want to lose cause hr would fall apart. He also told me 3 weeks ago, that before he made her is girlfriend he wanted to make sure that she was not away out. Is this a rebound
My ex literally checks almost all these boxes and has reached out during NC 2 times in 3 months with the rebound without him knowing and she always does this and tries to convince me she is happy when I don't even ask. And told me recently that "things are moving quickly with this new guy", yet in the same phone call told me she missed me and was sad talking to me. But also she is happy with him? Lol... Then why are you wasting an hour on the phone with me while you are out of town to convince me you are happy if you truly have moved on?? Women are crazy. I didn't reciprocate any feelings even though I wanted to. I tried to avoid the call completely by sending her a text saying we dont need to talk. She called anyway lol
Why does my ex of 3 months have extremely low standards for her rebound (possible monkey branch). New guy has cheated with several women over the past 2 weeks... mutual friends have provided her with evidence and she doesn't even seem to care... If a girl even looked at me, she used to lose her mind.
@@vincentbos Thank you for the reply... You rule. I think her ego is trying to make it work with the new guy. The mutual friend who provided her with the evidence isn't her main core of friends... It's only a small fraction. To her main friends, they likely don't know what's going on, and I think she wishes to continue the illusion of the perfect relationship... And it's DEFINITELY not that lol.
we have 5 years relationship and after a week we broke up she dated a guys which is her co worker is that rebound or they can make long term relationship?
We were together for 28 years but had split up for a year 23 years when he left for a woman straight away. He came back to me and our daughter and we had two more children. This ex got married herself but she kept on messaging my husband. After 28 years he left and moved in with her. She had got divorced and was never able to have any children. She blocked me on Facebook, friended my children on FB and plastered all over there how my husband was her soulmate - even when we were still together. We are not even divorced yet.
I'm so sorry to hear this Nicola. You are experiencing a terrible, shocking situation, but there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will feel happiness again. This might be with your ex again in the future, or maybe it won't be. The important thing to know though, is you will feel happiness again.
@@vincentbos thank you. I don’t want to get back with him because l could never get past the cruel way he dropped me and humiliated me. May God send me a good man, when he feels it’s right for me.
Hey vincent its been 4 months, no rebound , but dear god shes gotten petty and hot and cold at work🤕 im trying to keep distance but im tired of her thinking im her doormat 😤
Hi Justin, I'm very sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Try to stay stable minded in her presence. keep things on point, be polite and try to do the best job you can.
@@vincentbos im battleing bowel disease now, i get scoped in DEC, its funny really she wants to come back but shes young trying to be something shes not , she asked me last week what my problem wss i had a "bad attiude" 🙄 i replied you aint cared in months why ask now 🙄 she yelled oh no im all over that went to slamming stuff and huffed off 🙄 now shes tight lipped nose in the air mad at me 🙄
@@Bucky1836 i'm very sorry to hear about your health difficulties. You are clearly going through a difficult time from multiple angles. Your best chance of living a drama free life and growing attraction, is to be happy, carefree and fun. I appreciate these are feelings that won't be flowing easily right now, but that is the best set of traits to try and showcase.
@@vincentbos im trying to just been in lotta pain 🤕 even the older women co workers say to hold fast and take care of me and ignore her shes being a child but wants me , i made my mind up....I Want To Heal ....period and i am 😇😌
Boss having a really hard time thinking weather I should write to my wife about me leaving Spain. Someone told I should let all out on her how I feel. So in love with her
Hi Inserter, I'm sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Your children live with your ex, so you will have to speak to her regarding your thoughts of moving back to the UK. So at some stage this will need to be discussed, but I don't suggest writing it in a letter. A text message would be a better choice I believe. However, I doubt telling your wife this will make her instantly want to get back in a relationship with you.
I think mine bread crumbed me then wanted a break and found out she was going on dates we fought off and on from aug 39 to first week sept been on no contact since. I think she seeing some one but being very secretive we both cheated on each other but then had major surgery and became a weak man
@@vincentbos oh man I did tell her I’m be so damn successful and have everything she wanted x10 she motivated me bad thing is she left me when I was down from 2 major surgeries but that lawsuit gonna catapult me into starting business and not going to fail I’ve hit physical therapy hard started gym with pool trying to get into college for business programs to study done a lot of research on myself bibles gospel music. I have so much damn motivation the guy she mo keyed to is gonna look like a damn banana when I get done and when comes back that’s her ass that’ll be my revenge.
Her there my x went in a relationship before breaking up with me. The reason behind my break up was I neglected her. But after she was in relationship with someone she was in relationship with me as I had met with an accident and she didn't tell me about her new relationship. I came to know about her new relationship after a month from my friends. After that I beged for her to come back only once and stopped contacting her for one week. After that she started calling me back to ask me how I m doing . I used to talk with her normally and end my conversations . She also used to do video calls later . She used to make me jealous of her bf when I used to flirt with her. Once she found out that I m talking with one girl and she got angry and texted all my friends and that girl too and said not to contact me. Then that other girl blocked me . Then my ex started reply single text and started to act distant. But if I go silent for even one or 2 days she gets angry and calls me and asks whether only she should msg me or not . What should I do in this situation . It's been 1 month and half for my break up . Please really need your suggestions because my friends also left me and my girlfriend also
Hi Terell, thank you for your question. I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. I think this is very early days. If you do everything right, then you stand a great chance of trying to reconnect one day.
@@vincentbos yes ive done everything right since the breakup. However, when we first broke up I told her I agreed and we should and I ignored some of her bread crumbing text. What do you think are my changes?
@@vincentbos yea I wasn’t sure. She messaged me on Wednesday a sexual photo edit of one of our pics. Then after I didn’t respond I found out that she started talking to a new guy Wednesday night and now she’s posting photos of her on his car and they haven’t even been talking for a week..thoughts?
My husband cheated on me for four months so I told him to leave then he came back three mouths later stay for two months then left and moved in with the woman now it's been a year they been living together and says he's not happy but can't come back he's to deep in
Thank you for your comment and I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Keep moving forward and concentrate on your own journey towards a happier future.
My boyfriend and I was together for 3 years,he is 29,I am 35.he don't like to work,he said I nagging him and I always on his back,long story Short,he dumps me for a 55 yrs old woman,he moves in with her, and he loves her so very much
Hello Kessian, I’m very sorry to hear about your situation. How far apart do you and your ex now live? There is a strong possibility this is a rebound relationship that he is now in.
I’m so sorry to hear about your struggle. I hope my channel is helping. Let me know if you would like more information about my audio coaching. Stay positive and focus on you.
7 year relationship. Overall a good relationship, in the end I was getting complacent and she was losing attraction. Took her a little over a month to start dating the “family friend” she had lined up. I initiated NC right away. It’s been 7 months and haven’t heard from her besides a birthday wish. She views my IG story all the time too.
She’s still with him. It’s a long distance relationship he lives about 9 hours away. She pretty much stayed with him in the summer and now is back here. He’s the complete opposite of me.
Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. My suggestion is to keep moving forward with your life and posting positive stories regarding your life. Don't get too connected to whether she views your story, try and post good stories for you and make new connections.
For me it's been one year and 7months since the Break-Up of June 23 of 2020 a 6yrs relationship. And I'm still thinking about her wondering trying to understand why she walked away? 6 years we had together and it wasn't bad at all I took care of her I was paying the bills I was doing everything that that a man supposed to do, I don't know what happened even though she took a trip all girls the Florida and I remember her coming back remember this I remember all of this right after I recover from covid-19 June 23rd of 2020 I remember when she called me on the phone to tell me this I don't know if she's with someone right now probably she is because it's already been one year 7 months I'm pretty sure she's jumping to another relationship but I don't wonder if she thinks about me I don't know but I still do think about her everyday I guess that's the only thing you can do but I wonder if she left me for someone else
You deserve better you are a great man I am 21 maybe you can give me some advice? my exes parents were in her life to much… she said she lost feelings for me romantically but I was confused as I did most things right and some things wrong… I’m still in college I like to take life a little more seriously not all peaches and cream like she thinks… she wanted a lot of attention and I gave it to her id put down homework and drop all my stuff down so I can pay attention to her… I loved her so much I thought everyday was going smooth… she didn’t trust me because she had trust issues it wasn’t fair because she believed everyone’s else’s word and not mine… We’d go out and I’d pay for everything… id work my ass off she had her drivers license and never drove to my house bc her parents didn’t allow her and she wanted me to talk to her parents about it… I mean eventually one day she’s gonna drive why not right now?!?! I was putting in a 110% she devaluated me because her life was shittier than mine she only had like 5 friends would only work weekends and did not like working I gave her the tools so that way she can fix everything but she didn’t want to help her self… she wrote me love letters all the time and I loved it but is it gonna make my life easier? As far as in money or her visiting me? all she wanted was more more more if she really wanted to spend time with me she would’ve drove over to my house so that way she can spend more time with me… she never had any master goals in mind a future job a goal that she wanted to reach… she doesn’t know what she wants and I realize that I know what I want she was only holding me down but I still would care for her… I’m not saying I’m perfect but I fixed things in the relationship that she wanted me to change and still was fixing them she just didn’t wanna fix anything her self one sided relationship and the only reason I didn’t realize it was because she would cry in front of me and manipulated me even tho I told her what to do she had no motivation to fix things… I got no closure I went to her house and tried to fix things up with her.. 2 weeks I’m telling you she got a new bf the parents were comparing me to him and told me he had a full time job, and he was 26 while she’s about to turn 21… I can’t have a full time job I provided her with the most that I could’ve and my “most” wasn’t enough her parents also showed me pictures of her and her new boyfriend say how “happy” she was… if you had a daughter and she had a boyfriend for 2 years and 2 weeks later she had another boyfriend and you think that’s right ur hella trippin…sometimes I didn’t even wanna have sex and I’d have it only bc she wanted it… she used me in so many ways and now I realize I deserve better… she would tell me in arguments that I could be easily replaced by another dude that wanted to put in more effort but it was always about her and never about me because she never wanted to change… you can’t help a person that doesn’t wanna change for the better she has to much time in her hands never kept her self busy she’s waiting for a guy that’ll just move her out of her shitty ass parents house so that way she can live with him… she depends on a guy to do that for her not her self wrong attitude to have you should rely of ur self for everything not someone else and that’s where I went wrong depended on her for my happiness I didn’t realize it needed to be half and half one day she will probably realize how much of a good boyfriend I was to her but for that day I won’t be around I just need to work on my self for now as I have a dream job and a dream car something she never had herself
My name is Bunny,my ex husband was cheating on me while i was sick and getting better....he throw me out of my house had me lock up in jail preventing me from seeing our daughter,while is new girl friend soend time with her,we were married for 16 years he has not seen or talk to me in 8 months...
After no contact since September she reached out on November 9th To tell me they she was an automobile accident Then later on that day she completed her college course and those work through text messages So that's twice in one day she text in a morning to tell me about the automobile accident She was involved in then Later on that evening text me to tell me that she completed her college course What she completely 3 weeks ago before she told I congratulate are on the college course You gonna haccident I told her that I was glad she made it through OK and it was enough in major Then yesterday morning or youngest son called me to tell me that he missed me And he was thinking about me and he said he love me and Misses And she testing the waters
This sounds positive with your ex reaching out to you. I suggest you listen to this podcast where I discuss my thoughts on what to do if your ex contacts you - th-cam.com/video/yqhFDP_4308/w-d-xo.html
@@vincentbos ok here's my store My ex girlfriend have been pressure me to marry her We do have is 3 together we've been together for 3 years we've been on trips together Took the kids on trips New Year's Eve going into 2020 her sister aks me when were we getting married my ex girlfriend her brothers and sisters are married and her best Friend is married She had been pressuring me i was going to do it I was trying to preparing for her planning for her so our state one on lock down because of the pandemic She told me I was too comfortable and that she was doing wifely duties and didn't have a ring on her finger so I told her once the governor lift a bear we can go ring shopping But in May she broke up with me We was a part for 4 weeks 3 weeks from May 17 till about June 10 About the rain June 14th she disappeared on me when we were supposed to go look for the ring together I think she was done with that gas deal trying to figure out if she was going to keep me or him She told me she wanted me around her everyday she wanted to wake up with me every day My 1st break up she told me that she let somebody get close to her as she said that the 2nd time she went over to his house he gave her a key to his house and a ring to put on her finger but she rejected the ring When she told me why I couldn't do that she said that I know are longer and the new guy making moves quicker than I am Like I said I was trying to prepare for her was in trying to rush into a marriage I was going to do it but I want it to do it my way So my only guilt was not being around her every day because I work so much You got into a big argument in July Now a lot of times she have this respect to me call me on my name disappeared on me But she have always told me she loved me and that she want me with her every night meaning come home to her I stood a coming to my house again which I told you I was trying to prepare for her ex my house up and ran it out and then be all there were far and then by house to put her in ItNow her mother's birthday party was angel I and I was going to propose to her at her mother's birthday party but we got into a big argumentAnd that's when she told me as she lost interest In me So I fail back So come August in which is my birthday moth she didn't wish me a Happy Birthday we didn't talk none of August So I reached out to her in September After she got mad at me because I look better social media page and sent I took a picture of a comment somebody made about her on Social media she got mad at me as sent me a picture of the new guy she's dating Then early September the 9th I reached out to her and try to get her to come back to me yes I begged a little bit but she told me know G moved on she told me that she knew I had the rain and she told me that if she would have took my ring I wouldn't have change she said she didn't want to have my ring on her finger and I'm not around her every day So she says she moved or and she says she wants to see and give him a chance and I'm just so in denial and I'm so hurt none so crushed about this because how somebody with a few months take my 3 years I have vested in her I was good to her and her kids
And I been in no contact since September 9th no calls no text But I know she's been hanging with the other guy Of always did what she acts dove me and the guy is opposit of me I think she might have grass is greener syndrome but then again no one her even if it is a rebound she's going to force it to work And that 1st break up we got in May when we got back together she told me that she hurt me so I will realize smh
@@lukeskywalker313 thank you for your comments explaining your situation. It sounds like there was a communication blockage, misunderstanding and perhaps some complacency within the relationship. The main thing now is that you concentrate on your own journey. This is what is vital. Move forward with positivity and ambition for the future. If your ex contacts you one day, then you will have the choice of how to proceed from that moment.
Lol ex girlfriend has and ‘ is ‘ in a full steam ahead rebound ( with my best friend ) now ex friend.. And guess what.. he’s a medically diagnosed Sociopath! Popcorn at the ready
@@vincentbos very betrayed by ‘ 2 ‘ people that were meant to mean something. We were going through a rough patch but ‘ working it out ‘ and still physically involved. When I said to her we gotta slow it down, she reacted by doing this to me. She’s selfish, unprepared to search her own sole and rather cover up her emotions to avoid it. Then rebounded with my ex pal who’s a sociopath ( she doesn’t know his mental state ) ( yet ) I think they also overlapped before their rebound. She posted on Instagram that they were together, surely she’s done that to get a reaction out of me? It’s evil. 7 weeks no contact and going strong
I'm pretty sure that my ex of 5/6 months is in a rebound, she was 'low hanging fruit' she told him she liked him & was an ex colleague he had friend zoned years back. He had her lined up before he broke up with me out the blue, no indication anything was wrong. I've gone no contact two days after we broke up & its been two months now. I'm hoping this will work.
When you said that they wanted to be single then went on a couple dates and mixed up the feelings is what happened to me. They hung out a few times not even 3 weeks after the end of our relationship and then soon after I got word they were officially dating.
Also, would there be any difference in the way It effects it wether he eventually leaves her or she eventually leaves him?
I think ultimately it wouldn't matter who made the decision. If your ex was dumped, then it would hit their self-esteem and they might want to find someone who cared (you). However, if your ex dumps them, then they might consider they made a mistake by ending your relationship as this new one hasn't lasted very long, and might think of reaching out to you.
@@vincentbos but why is that? Like why would they realize what they lost and why would they wanna reach back out to you?
@@dominiccampana7385 thanks for your question. There is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back. Nothing works / happens 100% of the time, but if you have been dumped your best chance of success is to implement my version of the 'no contact rule'. This gives your ex space to miss you and think about you, if they have any remaining romantic, emotional attraction.
Rebound in one week after breakup i think, or 2w. Like mania i saw that. Quickly. Thanks for your video
2 months out of a 3yr relationship with my ex and we have a 1yo daughter. She just informed me that she's officially in a new relationship. Her new BF is like the exact opposite of me and I guess I am a jerk but I literally laughed aloud when I heard how he "compares" to me financially, career-wise, sexually and socially - it really boosted my self esteem because it definitely isnt an upgrade for her from me, it's a major downgrade.
I do however feel sad today because she has apparently moved on and I dont want to hold out hope of her coming back. I normally wouldnt care about her and just let it go, but because of our daughter, I do care and I must still love my ex.
You sound like a grown adult I think you deserve better people shouldn’t have to chase love… for me and maybe you can give me a some advice my exes parents were in her life to much… she said she lost feelings for me romantically but I was confused as I did most things right and some things wrong… I’m still in college I like to take life a little more seriously not all peaches and cream like she thinks… she wanted a lot of attention and I gave it to her id put down homework and drop all my stuff down so I can pay attention to her… I loved her so much I thought everyday was going smooth… she didn’t trust me because she had trust issues it wasn’t fair because she believed everyone’s else’s word and not mine… We’d go out and I’d pay for everything… id work my ass off she had her drivers license and never drove to my house bc her parents didn’t allow her and she wanted me to talk to her parents about it… I mean eventually one day she’s gonna drive why not right now?!?! I was putting in a 110% she devaluated me because her life was shittier than mine she only had like 5 friends would only work weekends and did not like working I gave her the tools so that way she can fix everything but she didn’t want to help her self… she wrote me love letters all the time and I loved it but is it gonna make my life easier? As far as in money or her visiting me? all she wanted was more more more if she really wanted to spend time with me she would’ve drove over to my house so that way she can spend more time with me… she never had any master goals in mind a future job a goal that she wanted to reach… she doesn’t know what she wants and I realize that I know what I want she was only holding me down but I still would care for her… I’m not saying I’m perfect but I fixed things in the relationship that she wanted me to change and still was fixing them she just didn’t wanna fix anything her self one sided relationship and the only reason I didn’t realize it was because she would cry in front of me and manipulated me even tho I told her what to do she had no motivation to fix things… I got no closure I went to her house and tried to fix things up with her.. 2 weeks I’m telling you she got a new bf the parents were comparing me to him and told me he had a full time job, and he was 26 while she’s about to turn 21… I can’t have a full time job I provided her with the most that I could’ve and my “most” wasn’t enough her parents also showed me pictures of her and her new boyfriend say how “happy” she was… if you had a daughter and she had a boyfriend for 2 years and 2 weeks later she had another boyfriend and you think that’s right ur hella trippin…sometimes I didn’t even wanna have sex and I’d have it only bc she wanted it… she used me in so many ways and now I realize I deserve better… she would tell me in arguments that I could be easily replaced by another dude that wanted to put in more effort but it was always about her and never about me because she never wanted to change… you can’t help a person that doesn’t wanna change for the better she has to much time in her hands never kept her self busy she’s waiting for a guy that’ll just move her out of her shitty ass parents house so that way she can live with him… she depends on a guy to do that for her not her self wrong attitude to have you should rely of ur self for everything not someone else and that’s where I went wrong depended on her for my happiness I didn’t realize it needed to be half and half one day she will probably realize how much of a good boyfriend I was to her but for that day I won’t be around I just need to work on my self for now as I have a dream job and a dream car something she never had herself
Im almost a year through break up now. It does indeed get easier. First 3-4 months are hell. Pure hell. Especially when they move on instantly or almost instant. Some rebounds work and no amount of wishing and hoping will bring them back. If theyre happy we just got to wish them the best. Especially if kids are in the middle. Its tough, but stay the course. Every relationship encounters troubles. It wont always be smooth sailing its getting through those rough waters as a couple that stands the test. I believe my ex hasnt delt at all with our breakup and outsourced. One day i hope it catches up but ill be gone by then. Already getting there. Just have to kill hope.
My ex is trying everything possible to make it work with the rebound because of her ego. . . . She doesn't want people to think that her decision was wrong.
If there isn't a true connection, then at some stage she will end the relationship because otherwise she will see it as holding her back in life.
@@vincentbos her rebound is a emotional manipulator whenever he feels threaten he starts love bombing and after that some guilt trip...
@@phyoxxs it sounds a difficult situation. However, most people won't remain in a relationship that isn't fulfilling long-term.
@@vincentbos i hope so too . because i miss my ex so much.
@@phyoxxs with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
In a relationship off and on for 29 years! It only took him 18 days to get on dating apps! As far as I know his first relationship was 3 months later!
Rebound red flags there for your ex.
I lost 4 family members in a year and was depressed, had raised his children and grandchildren as my own. He came back once I had moved on causing Drama in my new relationship.. I feel if they leave you in your time of need they don't deserve another chance?
Vincent, My ex and myself broke up December 09 2020. Within a weeks time he was with another woman and stayed with her less than 2 months. He broke up with her and got into a third relationship not much longer. He married this one. Now get this, we hadn't been broken up 5 months at this time. This has definitely got to be a rebound.
Totally
It is 100% guaranteed. I know this from doing that exact cycle for years.. .....It really stunted my growth and had to constantly re-up on new women and each time it kept coming back. That nonsense can really have u walking around for years on end with unresolved pain
Met a wonderful woman 9 months ago, she was married early at 19 and had 3 kids with a guy over 40 years and he died of a heart attack but for 7 years at the end he was committing adultry which she proved out. She was never treated very well and she always wanted to see what dating was like but was married. After no dating for 2 yrs she started and dated a few men then met me. She did not bank on a great relationship. I fell in love and made weak kneed mistakes, told her I loved her which she could not reciprocate. She met a guy about 4 months ago and told me she wanted to focus on him and see where it goes. She asked me for space. We had a great time in every way. In 31 days, No Contact now. We had spirited conversations but we never fought. What you say? Hope to here a comment from you. She told me all we have left is marraige. Thank you Mr Vincent for you sharing
What about when the get engaged to a guy they have known 2.5 weeks. Broke up with you the day they met them after 3.5 years with her 3 kids involved from her previous marriage. Now less then 3 months later they are getting married next week. She still contacts me daily…. I’m so hurt and confused….
I'm so sorry to hear your story. What does she say when she contacts you?
@@vincentbos she just acts like we are best friends still. She texts me every day. Asks me to see the kids about one time a week. Asked me to to lunch last week.
My ex was asking for break, and 1 week later I find out that she went out with someone else, and I was too needy push her till she finally ends the relationship with me. We break up, and now she's spending her most free time with that new guy, but the way they're moving doesn't seem like they're in a romantic relationship. It can be friend plus, she can't be alone, I don't have any idea, and she can be hot and cold when she's not with him, but if they're together, she wouldn't pick my call or reply message
Hi Ousman, thanks for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My suggestion is to implement my version of the 'no contact rule'.
Oh my God, same here
@@wendyparchment9911 thank you for your comment. How are you feeling today?
@@vincentbos Hi, morning, today is good, it usually comes & goes. But for most part listening to your wonderful videos & reading stories which are similar has been a great help. Counseling locally has put me on my feet. I've asked God to take care of him, he's going to need it.
@@wendyparchment9911 thank you for your kind and supportive words. What elements are you struggling with most right now?
My ex and ibwere together 4years, we broke up almost 4 months ago(we lived together) she met this kid a week after we broke up. She had to pack up and move out and stayed with him. Went into NC immediately and im still in it 60days now. But through the grape vines i heard 2 weeks ago he left for school and they decided not to do LDR.
We were together for 3 years. He broke up on November 8th 2020 because of my mental health (i realised what had happened to me after the brakup and i went there to tell him the story to erase his reason for breakup). 1 week After the breakup he started dating another girl, but we were still talking out until 1 month after the brakup. I found out about her when i went there and saw them two. Then i stalked her and found out about the time they started dating. This is now 3 months. When i was there i asked him to mail or bring me my stuff but he wanted to make a meeting out of it so we could have another talk. One week ago he called me and found a reason to delay meeting me, because he didnt felt like seeing me. I even told him i only wanted my things because of the other girl so he could move on and he offered me to bring me the things the next days but not feeling it, or give him time so he would like to even see me. I am so confused they are now 3 months together but only she shows him off, he doesnt show anything of her on his insta or so.
Try your hardest to focus on your own journey and path to happiness.
Damn, exactly what happened to me too :(
Is he a rebound if she goes to see him 3 days after the breakup? She says that he is similar in character to me, and for the first two weeks when they went to see each other, she told me that she loved me. After 2-3 months they got in a relationship, she says that whenever I call she will answer me. When we are in the same bar, she looks at the phone, looks nervous, is silent and doesn't talk to him much and looks at me several times. Because as they began to see each other, she raised everything to the level as like she continued our relationship with him, all with him are goes very fast . It has all the signs of a rebound relationship?
Together with me for 8 months, left 2 weeks ago, because of an argument. B4 our fight he was attached to me. Said I love you all the time.. We argued and he left 2 weeks ago. Then told me, he loved me 4 days ago.. Then yesterday, told me move on with my life he's seeing someone else.. Told me to leave him alone... I went ghost
We dated for 1 year and 2 months. After 2 weeks of dumping me she is seeing someonr imeadiately. I can say our relationship and our emotions before is deep.
I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. There is a strong possibility she is now in a rebound relationship.
@@vincentbos im.moving on
How are you? I'm in a similar situation.
I’ve done your version of no contact rule, I reached out after 3 weeks ( I know mistake ! ) went back to know contact. He contacted me 3 weeks later with an I miss you text. He was in a rebound relationship 2 weeks after we broke up our 6 years relationship. I responded initially being cool then I went too strong - he backed away. Went in no contact again. He contacted me after 3 months witn another I miss you text saying he wants to see me and wants me back. We live 4h away, he’s driving to see me tomorrow. I’m nervous !!!! He said no-one is me and he misses what we have. I’m very nervous to see him … but no contact, works guys!!! Don’t lose hope. His rebound was a girl he knew, an old friend of his. He said to me he’s single but I don’t really believe that…. Any tips for me please???
Hi Blue, thank you for your comment and I'm so happy for you. This is an exciting time, but try to stay relaxed. I suggest tomorrow you behave in a happy, fun and carefree way. If you would like audio coaching today (in prep for tomorrow) I will try and fit you in. Check my website for more details on my coaching. Stay positive and good luck :)
Have you been together since then ? Has he tried again contacting ?
My partner of 12 years (wife of 7) left me for a mutual friend ...barley an explanation..claimed she loved me but not 'in love with me' anymore...they are living together less than a month later of us breaking up.is it a rebound?
Hi Alexander, thank you for your comment and I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. This is certainly a rebound relationship 'red flag'.
We were together 8 years. She left me almost a year ago. We had a son together 4 years ago who i havent seen since she left me. She was in a rebound relationship a month later. She from time to time will unblock me briefly to indirect see how I am. I do reply, telling her im shattered and miss them. The guy shes dating doesnt like her talking to me, and I feel like she blocks me to not rock the boat in their relationship. I could be wrong but I feel like she still has feelings for me. It was 8 years, we had a son together yet she still chooses to not make the rebound jealous and always reblocks me out of nowhere even its just normal conversation about how our sons doing. I didnt flirt with her or do anything to make the guy jealous. He just simply doesnt want her talking to me. I dont want to move on. I want my family back. What do I do and whats your take on this? Clearly her attraction for him is higher than it is for me because she chooses to block me to please him. Note : We will be having just a normal healthy coparent converstion about our son and bam block out of nowhere. I know its cause he finds out were talking and she just doesnt want to rock the boat. Whats sad is I 100% believe and *know* if he werent there getting bent cause were talking she would not block me. Shes letting him be controlling wtf do I do how do i get my family back dude
Also this last year I have done alot of self work and learned to love myself. It would be impossible to not see the change in me. Whenever she blocks me I ofc go back into no contact...until she unblocks me months later to see how I am. The cycle is rinse and repeat.
Hi Tangerine, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about what has happened to you. Sadly, there is no 100% guaranteed way to get your ex back. There is no 'paint by numbers' advice that will guarantee success. What we have to do is try and increase your odds.
Firstly, you need to be approachable. Any communication you do have needs to be happy, carefree and fun.
Secondly, you need to continue the self-improvement that you have already started, and thirdly, you need to date other people to grow your value as a romantic option.
There is of course a lot more to this, but unfortunately I only have so much time I can dedicate to my YT comments.
I have to prioritse my coaching clients and I'm sure you can appreciate that. The most important thing though is that you live your life to the full and are the best dad you can be, if you get the opportunity to see your son in the future.
There is no definitive way to make your ex decide to reconcile your relationship, and hence the best place to be is when you are feeling OK with either outcome, because with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
What happens if the dumper did line up someone and had an emotional connection before ending the relationship? How does that change the dynamics?
Thanks for your comment Dee Gee. Even if your ex had an affair (emotional or physical) this is different to having a full-on, serious relationship. There would still be uncertainty if a relationship would work between both people.
We broke up a little over 2 weeks ago. We were together 10 years. He felt I didn’t put enough time and effort into the relationship but still said I was the best girlfriend he ever had. The breakup was pretty civil and he told me he met someone and did not do anything with her YET but wants to get to know her. I get the feeling she was in the picture for a few months. I have been NC since 3 days after the breakup (so 2 weeks so far) Wondering if I should just move on. Very painful.
@@myhappyscrappyplace344 this will be incredibly painful and there is no time limit for feeling better. I suggest trying to 'move forward' which means you aren't putting your life on hold, but at the same time it's very possible that one day you might hear from your ex again. I suggest you listen to my podcast mini-series on the 'Dumper Experience'. Here is the link - th-cam.com/video/mjNZ_pd8msA/w-d-xo.html
@@myhappyscrappyplace344 any updates? im in a similar situation but 17 year relationship ended for a coworker
I was with my ex for a year and a half, and then he dumped me in April, its been 6 months since then but he found someone else 4 months after he left.
My ex broke up with me 3 months ago I was the who became quite needy after we broke with in a week she started dating casually one of her's good college friend now they both look quite happy also my ex stalks my Instagram from one of her fake account she don't know this that I know this is it a rebound? please reply
Hi couch....after 12 years and 2 kids my wife left the marriage and blames me for her unhappiness.....it's been 5 months since we separated after living in our new house for 6 months ....now she and kids moved in with another guys house ....as it's the only space she could afford...I don't belive it ....and think he's more than just her landlord ....
I'm so sorry to hear this. What country do you live in and how far apart do you and your ex now live?
BY watching this I'm beggining to understand him, because we are talking while he is in Rebound
How are you feeling today Emily?
@@vincentbos sir Im backing off Im hurt by showing me how happy he is with his rebound please tell a little advice 😭
Hey Vincent, my ex broke up After 3,5years and we lived together for over a year. After he broke up, he went dating with an employer and kind of friend. They already slept with each other and went on holiday After two weeks. I think it is a rebound but i am not sure bc they already knew eachother befor… what do you think?
Hi Vanessa, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It certainly sounds like this connection has rebound relationship red flags. The fact they knew each other prior shouldn't affect things too much because romantically everything will be new and unknown. How are you feeling today?
@@vincentbos hi vincent, thanks for asking! Not very good but okay…i tryed NC but without any announcement and he reachs out to me so often and asked about how i am, when he can pick up some stuff (i forced him to leave our flat until i found a new one) or he asked about my grandma, who is very ill… it stress me so much, that he is always showing up on my phone and acts so polite and sometimes like nothing happens! I am scared that it doesn’t bother him at all to contact me and that he already moved on… the break up was 5 weeks ago… i cant belive how he can act like that! 😔
Hi Vanessa, this is a very challenging time for you, but you will get through this. Please may I ask how old you and your ex are? What country do you live in?
@@vincentbos hi! Yes of course! :) we are both 30 and we are living in Germany! Pls excuse some mistakes when it comes to my englisch 🙈
Your English is fantastic Vanessa! You are very good :)
If you need extra support, I have an audio coaching service. Where we can speak about your situation in more depth.
Let me know if you would like more details on this.
The important thing to remember is that with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
My ex decided he wanted space and a break but I checked on tinder and there was his profile. This was three days into the break. But my ex still maintained he was upset and thought space might help and after that I just became needy. A month later we split completely and I went into no contact for 30 days, then reached out. We text, although my ex was a little cold, for about a week. Then it was obvious my ex wasn’t in the right space. After a few day my ex was spotted with another person holding hands.
Thank you for your comment. I don't promote the 30 day No Contact rule and i'm sorry to hear that you were badly advised to use that system. My suggestion is that you watch my playlist called 'The No Contact Rule' and get to understand my theory.
My ex and I was together 8 years we broke up 6 months ago and she’s already dating someone and it seems to be moving very fast. Also lots of posts on social media with the new guy . It’s horrible . At the end of the day even if it’s a rebound it could grow into love . Obviously the more time you spend with someone the more they will fall for the person. Am I wrong ?
Hi.
So I dated a girl for almost five years and we generally had a happy connection. We didn't fight, we had very many good memories, etc etc. The last few months of our relationship were hard with everything going on in the world and both of us being seniors in college. My mistake was that I didn't put in everything for her. I went on cruise control so to say. We didn't have good communication and that attraction fell without a peep. She cried when she left me, hugged me for a few minutes, made a few strange offhand comments that I didn't notice at the time, but looking back seemed as tho she felt she wasn't good enough. She begged me to be her friend and to watch our show when it came back out.
I felt this was school stress cause we went through something similar for a week back in March, so I gave her two weeks of space. I didn't know the NC rule anyway.
After like two weeks I reached out and we talked, but something seemed off. That made me worried and so I brought up getting back together prematurely and we argued over that. I was a jerk and she got mad.
I then have her a month of space before deciding that I wanted to apologize for what I did. She wouldn't respond to my four texts and just to be sure she at least got my apology, I had a mutual friend send one. She was still mad over what I had said and was creeped out by like 3 facebook posts that I had made. I apologized for the posts, said it wasn't my intent, and said I wouldn't do them anymore. She then proceeded to unfriend my family and I from social media.
That was November 20th-ish. I took more time to reflect and build on myself and also to give her space. This is where I realized what went wrong with us.
On December 25th I learned that she started going out with somebody new like three weeks after our breakup. Now I haven't stalked her or asked about her, I've just minded my business, but what I do know is that they went on a few dates places where her and I went and they had Christmas together. Since I don't know much, it's hard to say whether she's slowly dipping into a few dates or whether they officially started dating soon after.
My ex isn't a player, she's a good person. It still hurts like shit that she moved to a new guy after 3 weeks. I know that she has felt this way for a while. Mutual friends talked to me about her not feeling the same for a few months and she even told a friend that she loves me, but isn't in love with me. Of course I fucked up after I snapped at her (tho her love comment was after that).
I made quite a few mistakes and it doesn't look great.. but it's also hard to know what we had and our pure friendship.. and that it could all be over so abruptly. I know that's life, but it's sad. It's also sad to know that she dated him so suddenly. I'm trying to move on, but my gut tells me that she'll be back.
Any advice?
Hi Taylor,
I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My suggestion is to watch this video here which explains my theory of what I believe will give you the best possible chance of success. Link - th-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/w-d-xo.html
Rebound can last well over a year in case of limerence, I think she is very attracted by physical appearance (tall, masculine and muscular) which is why she never had butterflies with me (being not tall and muscular). If it fails I still do not believe she would be back to me as she was never really attracted and tried to force it without success
Hi Josselin, in my opinion if two people are in a relationship for longer than a year then they have likely built more solid foundations by this stage. However, this doesn't mean a relationship will last forever.
we were together for more than 5 years .she broke up with me on December 24 2020.she said now she has no feeling for me ..and she was dating a new guy for 1 month.what are the chances that she will come back to me?
Hello Amit, thank you for your question and I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. My best suggestion is for you to click this link here and watch this video - th-cam.com/video/mjNZ_pd8msA/w-d-xo.html
Me two year and ldr.Any update
Vincent : Is it a rebound if we were living together ( relationship ) during 8 years and after 3 months and a half , she is already dating a new guy ? Thanks a lot for a quick response
Hi Raul, thank you for your question. I believe that dating someone new after 3 months is a rebound relationship red flag.
@@vincentbos Thank you so much dear Vincent , feel more secure by your professional answer
Vincent, If we where together for 16 years and she is in a relationship after a month or so bu is hiding it from the outside world is it a rebound? Why would they be hiding it?
Is this a rebound: my husband and I seperated 3/2020, he met a woman on “Tinder” dated her for a couple months “caught feelings” she left him cus he’s toxic. We got back together for a year. Then We broke up again in late 2021 and a month later he was back with this “Tinder” gf moved her in with her kids into our house (after a month!) & it’s been 9 months now, he was calling me while being with her but I put a stop to it by filing a police report and now he has a warrant for violation of the restraining order I have against him, the “Tinder” gf has no idea. Is she considered a rebound ? He’s love bombing her calling her the same pet names , basically recycling our old relationship
Hi Tania, thank you for your question and I’m very sorry to hear about your situation. I would suggest focusing on your own journey rather than dating labels. It sounds like he is toxic and you have put a restraining order on him, so his relationship status should now be irrelevant to you. The fact you are still feeling this intrigue suggests your subconscious level of romantic, emotional attraction is higher than you would probably like. Have you considered having an audio coaching call with me to discuss this in more depth?
Hi Vincent how would you explain if my ex partner was talking to a girl at beginning of August and he left me at the end of August and my ex told me that they slept together but it won’t happen again and they were talking like friends only at the beginning would you class that as a rebound are something more serious and do you think that relationship will last or develop more
Hi Aga, great question. I think irrespective of what happened during August, your ex and this new person would not have had opportunity to get to know each other very well by that stage and everything still seems rushed. I would suggest there is a good chance that this will be a rebound relationship.
Maxim of relationships : Rebounds never last 🤔
3y, neglected her,pushed her away, neglected myself as well, she met someone and 2 weeks later broke up w. me. It was in this january,2020. I went NC. Aplogized honestly few weeks later for my behaviour and if she is single, lets meet. Back and forth for about a month, she went with the other guy. I said cool. NC since then. She reaches out every 2-4weeks: random texts, calls somehing along the lines "miss you, thinking of you, i love you, but this is what it is. Im so sorry, i already regret it, but i stay with this guy. Seems I have to learn something so I stay. Wonder what the hell I am doing here. I want to be with you. I am afraid things would not work between us. I am confused. I miss you, thinking of you, i am torn, but here is passion, and blablabla, hey how are you. hope you are doing well. My soul is pain. Life is shit" she reached out last time 3 weeks ago "hi, just I hope you are doing ok".
Hi Thomas, thank you for your comment and I'm sorry to hear about your situation. If your ex contacts you but doesn't want to get back with you, then I suggest you say something such as "I will always see you as more than a friend, please contact me if you are single". This will mean she only contacts you if she is in a position to date.
My Ex started a relationship a few weeks then dumped me saying I was behaving needy
I found out my ex has hickies and we work together and he isn’t even dating this girl. This was three weeks after we dated I am with god now and I am so proud of myself that I am not resulting to that kind of behavior
So my situation is that i was with my partner for 15 and a half years. We broke up a little less than 2 months ago. I fell into depression etc that led to the break. I started to work on myself. New job, therapy etc. The realtionship was rocky but good. She jumped into a relationship with this new guy after around 4 weeks. They are in LDR for now. Its a long term friends and they know each other well enough. I dont know who the guy is yet as she wont divulge. She was thinking of giving me another go before this new thing but then this new thing happened and boom. Shes very happy. She says he isnt her usual type but i know little about him and she wants to commit to their relationship. Im trying to get her back and my family. But i think i have to give up. She really wants friendship and knows i cant but she does have feelings for me i believe unless im dilided.
Update?
@@lewistaylor3267 they are still together. She posts endlessly romantic crap online. I dont look, just hear about it. She has hit gym got in shape and such. They spend every hour they can online together. Been almost a year now and he hasnt visited. He waiting for his parents to pay for his trip over next year. I know the dude. He doesnt work, lazy as sin, fat etc not someone she goes for but shes head in the clouds. I leave it be and work on my own life and kids. Try and stay as distant as i can. Shes very happy so i wish her and him the best. Got myself a new gf etc but unsure whether it will work. Guess possible rebound for myself lol
@@sneakygrim483 keep strong brother!
I was in an intense relationship for seven weeks. Together every single day. She suddenly broke up with me and refused to talk things out. A week and a half later she’s with a new guy. Been with him almost twice as long as she was with me. Is it still a rebound at that point?
Nigga YOU were the rebound
Hi Vincent, my ex jumped right into dating a guy that she works with. He was hitting on her during our biggest struggle. We been broken up for 2.5 months now and she still dating him. But she still loves all my fb post and still tells me she still thinks about me. Just a few weeks ago, she told me she still loves me. She says, it’s nothing with this guy, he just filled time for her. But I’m not sure I believe her. What do you think? I’m so confused right now.
Hi Justice, thank you for your question. I’m very sorry to hear of your situation. Your ex is unlikely to stay in this new relationship forever. More than likely, it will end over the next few months. However, that doesn’t mean you will reconnect with her unless the previous problems have been resolved.
Well, we are well into May and they are still together, so it’s time for me to move on as hard as it may be, it’s time to move on with my life…
Hi Vincent, me again seyed. I just wanna start off with saying how much your channel and videos have helped me move forward. I know you've done some videos about being blocked etc. I just wanted to ask u something and then hopefully request another video about this issue. As u knew I was in a LDR and I had my ups and downs. When she split up (broke up) with me around August, she blocked me after a week or so. Then after two weeks block she unblocked me back. I was in no contact but stupidly reached out.... I know I shouldn't of but it happened anyway. At first casual speaking she seemed responsive and nothing major but she was quite cool. But I still didn't text her etc and gave her some more space. But last (4 days ago) I couldn't help but texted again telling her how much I missed her etc... I kind of messed up as she said "It's over pls understand and move on etc" I know I believe in the FAB (fading affect bias) thing and i am sure things will settle as time pass. But I be honest I messed up big time as I staryed saying (out of anxiety) I will kill myself etc and I know it's all awful. She texted "Stop this childish behaviour etc and move on. To me it's finish, but I don't know about u so thats your problem, leave me alone pls and stop it" etc...
I got angry and blocked her... After literally 5 minutes she blocked me from everywhere too. I've unblocked her back but I'm still blocked. I just wanted to know have my chance finished or is there still a hope in the future. Will I get unblocked in the future or is it done for good? Please I would be grateful if u could answer and do another video. Thanks in advance Vincent.
Hello Seyed, thank you for your kind words. I'm very sorry to hear about what has happened. No one knows when 'the story ends'. We know this is the end of a chapter, but it doesn't mean it's the end of the book. However, recent events would have lowered the level of romantic emotional attraction that your ex felt for you. It's possible that in the future this could grow again, but this is not guaranteed. The best advice I can give you is to move forward with your life, because there is no guarantee your ex will want to contact you again (although it's certainly possible one day she will). If you have thoughts of self-harm then you must contact a local doctor. What you text your ex is very serious and I think it''s important you contact a local doctor to speak about this with. Please remember that you will feel happiness again and with or without your ex, you will have a positive future.
Your chances are 0 believe me as a woman. You acted very immature and more than once. Move on! You have killed any attraction this lady had for you.
@@ivy3839 I get u and appreciate it. It's been a year now and I've moved on of course.... It took huge amount of time but I'm finally stable and have moved on completely. All my other ex's have reached out but I really don't feel anything and just responding out of respect and that's all. It was hard but not impossible. Thanks again
@@spiritualrituals9603 great to hear, well done!!!
My ex wife left me while I was getting help for alcohol and fixing myself. Not only did she leave me she got with her coworker who I knew and met and that’s married himself with a child and another one on the way as we speak. They have been together for a year now
I'm very sorry to hear of this terrible situation for you. It's important you focus on your journey and your own route to happiness in 2021.
@@vincentbos I appreciate it and u are 100% right. That will be my main focus besides our kids
@@barbersmurff2592 happiness can be round your next corner. Stay positive.
I was married for 18 years. My wife demanded a divorce and a week later was dating a co worker.
Hi 25 years together - was already talking to another women at the end of May she has been single for 3 and half years. Broke up June 21. Slept with her no sex 3 weeks later after the break up, and then one week later they had sex, but was still having sex with me and l week ago Aug 28 told me it was his girlfriend and he loves her. At the beginning he was telling me that she was his crutch, which he did not want to lose cause hr would fall apart. He also told me 3 weeks ago, that before he made her is girlfriend he wanted to make sure that she was not away out.
Is this a rebound
My ex literally checks almost all these boxes and has reached out during NC 2 times in 3 months with the rebound without him knowing and she always does this and tries to convince me she is happy when I don't even ask. And told me recently that "things are moving quickly with this new guy", yet in the same phone call told me she missed me and was sad talking to me. But also she is happy with him? Lol... Then why are you wasting an hour on the phone with me while you are out of town to convince me you are happy if you truly have moved on?? Women are crazy. I didn't reciprocate any feelings even though I wanted to. I tried to avoid the call completely by sending her a text saying we dont need to talk. She called anyway lol
Why does my ex of 3 months have extremely low standards for her rebound (possible monkey branch). New guy has cheated with several women over the past 2 weeks... mutual friends have provided her with evidence and she doesn't even seem to care... If a girl even looked at me, she used to lose her mind.
Your ex must see something in her rebound, that isn't clear to everyone else. This relationship is unlikely to last many months.
@@vincentbos Thank you for the reply... You rule. I think her ego is trying to make it work with the new guy. The mutual friend who provided her with the evidence isn't her main core of friends... It's only a small fraction. To her main friends, they likely don't know what's going on, and I think she wishes to continue the illusion of the perfect relationship... And it's DEFINITELY not that lol.
we have 5 years relationship and after a week we broke up she dated a guys which is her co worker is that rebound or they can make long term relationship?
There is no way of knowing for certain how the future will be. However, what we can say is that this has the red flag of a rebound relationship.
We were together for 28 years but had split up for a year 23 years when he left for a woman straight away. He came back to me and our daughter and we had two more children. This ex got married herself but she kept on messaging my husband. After 28 years he left and moved in with her. She had got divorced and was never able to have any children. She blocked me on Facebook, friended my children on FB and plastered all over there how my husband was her soulmate - even when we were still together. We are not even divorced yet.
I'm so sorry to hear this Nicola. You are experiencing a terrible, shocking situation, but there is light at the end of the tunnel and you will feel happiness again. This might be with your ex again in the future, or maybe it won't be. The important thing to know though, is you will feel happiness again.
@@vincentbos thank you. I don’t want to get back with him because l could never get past the cruel way he dropped me and humiliated me. May God send me a good man, when he feels it’s right for me.
Hey vincent its been 4 months, no rebound , but dear god shes gotten petty and hot and cold at work🤕 im trying to keep distance but im tired of her thinking im her doormat 😤
Hi Justin, I'm very sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Try to stay stable minded in her presence. keep things on point, be polite and try to do the best job you can.
@@vincentbos im battleing bowel disease now, i get scoped in DEC, its funny really she wants to come back but shes young trying to be something shes not , she asked me last week what my problem wss i had a "bad attiude" 🙄 i replied you aint cared in months why ask now 🙄 she yelled oh no im all over that went to slamming stuff and huffed off 🙄 now shes tight lipped nose in the air mad at me 🙄
@@Bucky1836 i'm very sorry to hear about your health difficulties. You are clearly going through a difficult time from multiple angles. Your best chance of living a drama free life and growing attraction, is to be happy, carefree and fun. I appreciate these are feelings that won't be flowing easily right now, but that is the best set of traits to try and showcase.
@@vincentbos im trying to just been in lotta pain 🤕 even the older women co workers say to hold fast and take care of me and ignore her shes being a child but wants me , i made my mind up....I Want To Heal ....period and i am 😇😌
@@Bucky1836 stay as positive as you can and improve every single day.
He dump me in April and he moved on to an older woman,I heard he used to cheat on me
Boss having a really hard time thinking weather I should write to my wife about me leaving Spain.
Someone told I should let all out on her how I feel.
So in love with her
Hi Inserter, I'm sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Your children live with your ex, so you will have to speak to her regarding your thoughts of moving back to the UK. So at some stage this will need to be discussed, but I don't suggest writing it in a letter. A text message would be a better choice I believe. However, I doubt telling your wife this will make her instantly want to get back in a relationship with you.
I think mine bread crumbed me then wanted a break and found out she was going on dates we fought off and on from aug 39 to first week sept been on no contact since. I think she seeing some one but being very secretive we both cheated on each other but then had major surgery and became a weak man
Let's now try and focus ahead. The best chance of getting your ex back is ironically by moving forward with your life.
@@vincentbos oh man I did tell her I’m be so damn successful and have everything she wanted x10 she motivated me bad thing is she left me when I was down from 2 major surgeries but that lawsuit gonna catapult me into starting business and not going to fail I’ve hit physical therapy hard started gym with pool trying to get into college for business programs to study done a lot of research on myself bibles gospel music. I have so much damn motivation the guy she mo keyed to is gonna look like a damn banana when I get done and when comes back that’s her ass that’ll be my revenge.
@@michaelcolvin8702 yes, use the pain as fuel. Transform the frustration into success.
Her there my x went in a relationship before breaking up with me. The reason behind my break up was I neglected her. But after she was in relationship with someone she was in relationship with me as I had met with an accident and she didn't tell me about her new relationship. I came to know about her new relationship after a month from my friends. After that I beged for her to come back only once and stopped contacting her for one week. After that she started calling me back to ask me how I m doing . I used to talk with her normally and end my conversations . She also used to do video calls later . She used to make me jealous of her bf when I used to flirt with her. Once she found out that I m talking with one girl and she got angry and texted all my friends and that girl too and said not to contact me. Then that other girl blocked me . Then my ex started reply single text and started to act distant. But if I go silent for even one or 2 days she gets angry and calls me and asks whether only she should msg me or not . What should I do in this situation . It's been 1 month and half for my break up . Please really need your suggestions because my friends also left me and my girlfriend also
Me and my ex broke up exactly 1 month ago and we went out for 13 months and lived together for 3..what do you think?
Hi Terell, thank you for your question. I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. I think this is very early days. If you do everything right, then you stand a great chance of trying to reconnect one day.
@@vincentbos yes ive done everything right since the breakup. However, when we first broke up I told her I agreed and we should and I ignored some of her bread crumbing text. What do you think are my changes?
@@terelljohn5375 I think you still stand a good chance in the long-term. Here is a video that might help - th-cam.com/video/hhVwqlIEhDM/w-d-xo.html
@@vincentbos yea I wasn’t sure. She messaged me on Wednesday a sexual photo edit of one of our pics. Then after I didn’t respond I found out that she started talking to a new guy Wednesday night and now she’s posting photos of her on his car and they haven’t even been talking for a week..thoughts?
@@vincentbos appreciate your time so much!!
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My husband cheated on me for four months so I told him to leave then he came back three mouths later stay for two months then left and moved in with the woman now it's been a year they been living together and says he's not happy but can't come back he's to deep in
Thank you for your comment and I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. Keep moving forward and concentrate on your own journey towards a happier future.
My boyfriend and I was together for 3 years,he is 29,I am 35.he don't like to work,he said I nagging him and I always on his back,long story Short,he dumps me for a 55 yrs old woman,he moves in with her, and he loves her so very much
Hello Kessian, I’m very sorry to hear about your situation. How far apart do you and your ex now live? There is a strong possibility this is a rebound relationship that he is now in.
@@vincentbos we don't live very far apart and thanks for answering ,I'm hurting so much
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7 year relationship. Overall a good relationship, in the end I was getting complacent and she was losing attraction. Took her a little over a month to start dating the “family friend” she had lined up. I initiated NC right away. It’s been 7 months and haven’t heard from her besides a birthday wish. She views my IG story all the time too.
She’s still with him. It’s a long distance relationship he lives about 9 hours away. She pretty much stayed with him in the summer and now is back here. He’s the complete opposite of me.
Thank you for your comment. I'm sorry to hear about your breakup. My suggestion is to keep moving forward with your life and posting positive stories regarding your life. Don't get too connected to whether she views your story, try and post good stories for you and make new connections.
@@vincentbos thank you!
@@stepMboy it's my pleasure
For me it's been one year and 7months since the Break-Up of June 23 of 2020 a 6yrs relationship. And I'm still thinking about her wondering trying to understand why she walked away? 6 years we had together and it wasn't bad at all I took care of her I was paying the bills I was doing everything that that a man supposed to do, I don't know what happened even though she took a trip all girls the Florida and I remember her coming back remember this I remember all of this right after I recover from covid-19 June 23rd of 2020 I remember when she called me on the phone to tell me this I don't know if she's with someone right now probably she is because it's already been one year 7 months I'm pretty sure she's jumping to another relationship but I don't wonder if she thinks about me I don't know but I still do think about her everyday I guess that's the only thing you can do but I wonder if she left me for someone else
You deserve better you are a great man I am 21 maybe you can give me some advice? my exes parents were in her life to much… she said she lost feelings for me romantically but I was confused as I did most things right and some things wrong… I’m still in college I like to take life a little more seriously not all peaches and cream like she thinks… she wanted a lot of attention and I gave it to her id put down homework and drop all my stuff down so I can pay attention to her… I loved her so much I thought everyday was going smooth… she didn’t trust me because she had trust issues it wasn’t fair because she believed everyone’s else’s word and not mine… We’d go out and I’d pay for everything… id work my ass off she had her drivers license and never drove to my house bc her parents didn’t allow her and she wanted me to talk to her parents about it… I mean eventually one day she’s gonna drive why not right now?!?! I was putting in a 110% she devaluated me because her life was shittier than mine she only had like 5 friends would only work weekends and did not like working I gave her the tools so that way she can fix everything but she didn’t want to help her self… she wrote me love letters all the time and I loved it but is it gonna make my life easier? As far as in money or her visiting me? all she wanted was more more more if she really wanted to spend time with me she would’ve drove over to my house so that way she can spend more time with me… she never had any master goals in mind a future job a goal that she wanted to reach… she doesn’t know what she wants and I realize that I know what I want she was only holding me down but I still would care for her… I’m not saying I’m perfect but I fixed things in the relationship that she wanted me to change and still was fixing them she just didn’t wanna fix anything her self one sided relationship and the only reason I didn’t realize it was because she would cry in front of me and manipulated me even tho I told her what to do she had no motivation to fix things… I got no closure I went to her house and tried to fix things up with her.. 2 weeks I’m telling you she got a new bf the parents were comparing me to him and told me he had a full time job, and he was 26 while she’s about to turn 21… I can’t have a full time job I provided her with the most that I could’ve and my “most” wasn’t enough her parents also showed me pictures of her and her new boyfriend say how “happy” she was… if you had a daughter and she had a boyfriend for 2 years and 2 weeks later she had another boyfriend and you think that’s right ur hella trippin…sometimes I didn’t even wanna have sex and I’d have it only bc she wanted it… she used me in so many ways and now I realize I deserve better… she would tell me in arguments that I could be easily replaced by another dude that wanted to put in more effort but it was always about her and never about me because she never wanted to change… you can’t help a person that doesn’t wanna change for the better she has to much time in her hands never kept her self busy she’s waiting for a guy that’ll just move her out of her shitty ass parents house so that way she can live with him… she depends on a guy to do that for her not her self wrong attitude to have you should rely of ur self for everything not someone else and that’s where I went wrong depended on her for my happiness I didn’t realize it needed to be half and half one day she will probably realize how much of a good boyfriend I was to her but for that day I won’t be around I just need to work on my self for now as I have a dream job and a dream car something she never had herself
My name is Bunny,my ex husband was cheating on me while i was sick and getting better....he throw me out of my house had me lock up in jail preventing me from seeing our daughter,while is new girl friend soend time with her,we were married for 16 years he has not seen or talk to me in 8 months...
She replaced me with other men she think grass is greener than other side.
I'm sorry to hear this. You will feel happens again. Keep moving forward.
After no contact since September she reached out on November 9th To tell me they she was an automobile accident
Then later on that day she completed her college course and those work through text messages So that's twice in one day she text in a morning to tell me about the automobile accident She was involved in then Later on that evening text me to tell me that she completed her college course What she completely 3 weeks ago before she told I congratulate are on the college course You gonna haccident I told her that I was glad she made it through OK and it was enough in major
Then yesterday morning or youngest son called me to tell me that he missed me And he was thinking about me and he said he love me and Misses
And she testing the waters
This sounds positive with your ex reaching out to you. I suggest you listen to this podcast where I discuss my thoughts on what to do if your ex contacts you - th-cam.com/video/yqhFDP_4308/w-d-xo.html
@@vincentbos but she never apologize for dumping me and getting into a rebound relationship
So is possible she testing the waters
@@lukeskywalker313 some dumpers won't apologise, but might still want to reconnect. She will likely be testing to see how you react to her contact.
@@vincentbos is that a good sign
@@lukeskywalker313 if an ex reaches out for an unnecessary reason then yes it's a good sign, but nothing can be certain until it's certain.
My ex just broke up with me 2 weeks ago
I'm very sorry to hear about that Marie. How are you feeling?
@@vincentbos okay but don’t like it what my ex boyfriend is doing to me by being ion a rebound but still
Today he got with someone else after we broke up I know it’s a rebound
Relationship is his favorite word dqmn
Did you count how many times I said it? ;)
@@vincentbos 100
@@vincentbos ok here's my store
My ex girlfriend have been pressure me to marry her We do have is 3 together we've been together for 3 years we've been on trips together Took the kids on trips New Year's Eve going into 2020 her sister aks me when were we getting married my ex girlfriend her brothers and sisters are married and her best Friend is married She had been pressuring me i was going to do it I was trying to preparing for her planning for her so our state one on lock down because of the pandemic She told me I was too comfortable and that she was doing wifely duties and didn't have a ring on her finger so I told her once the governor lift a bear we can go ring shopping But in May she broke up with me We was a part for 4 weeks 3 weeks from May 17 till about June 10 About the rain June 14th she disappeared on me when we were supposed to go look for the ring together I think she was done with that gas deal trying to figure out if she was going to keep me or him She told me she wanted me around her everyday she wanted to wake up with me every day My 1st break up she told me that she let somebody get close to her as she said that the 2nd time she went over to his house he gave her a key to his house and a ring to put on her finger but she rejected the ring When she told me why I couldn't do that she said that I know are longer and the new guy making moves quicker than I am Like I said I was trying to prepare for her was in trying to rush into a marriage I was going to do it but I want it to do it my way So my only guilt was not being around her every day because I work so much You got into a big argument in July Now a lot of times she have this respect to me call me on my name disappeared on me But she have always told me she loved me and that she want me with her every night meaning come home to her I stood a coming to my house again which I told you I was trying to prepare for her ex my house up and ran it out and then be all there were far and then by house to put her in ItNow her mother's birthday party was angel I and I was going to propose to her at her mother's birthday party but we got into a big argumentAnd that's when she told me as she lost interest In me So I fail back So come August in which is my birthday moth she didn't wish me a Happy Birthday we didn't talk none of August So I reached out to her in September After she got mad at me because I look better social media page and sent I took a picture of a comment somebody made about her on Social media she got mad at me as sent me a picture of the new guy she's dating Then early September the 9th I reached out to her and try to get her to come back to me yes I begged a little bit but she told me know G moved on she told me that she knew I had the rain and she told me that if she would have took my ring I wouldn't have change she said she didn't want to have my ring on her finger and I'm not around her every day So she says she moved or and she says she wants to see and give him a chance and I'm just so in denial and I'm so hurt none so crushed about this because how somebody with a few months take my 3 years I have vested in her I was good to her and her kids
And I been in no contact since September 9th no calls no text
But I know she's been hanging with the other guy Of always did what she acts dove me and the guy is opposit of me I think she might have grass is greener syndrome but then again no one her even if it is a rebound she's going to force it to work And that 1st break up we got in May when we got back together she told me that she hurt me so I will realize smh
@@lukeskywalker313 thank you for your comments explaining your situation. It sounds like there was a communication blockage, misunderstanding and perhaps some complacency within the relationship. The main thing now is that you concentrate on your own journey. This is what is vital. Move forward with positivity and ambition for the future. If your ex contacts you one day, then you will have the choice of how to proceed from that moment.
Lol ex girlfriend has and ‘ is ‘ in a full steam ahead rebound ( with my best friend ) now ex friend..
And guess what.. he’s a medically diagnosed Sociopath!
Popcorn at the ready
How are you feeling Slim?
@@vincentbos very betrayed by ‘ 2 ‘ people that were meant to mean something. We were going through a rough patch but ‘ working it out ‘ and still physically involved. When I said to her we gotta slow it down, she reacted by doing this to me.
She’s selfish, unprepared to search her own sole and rather cover up her emotions to avoid it. Then rebounded with my ex pal who’s a sociopath ( she doesn’t know his mental state ) ( yet ) I think they also overlapped before their rebound.
She posted on Instagram that they were together, surely she’s done that to get a reaction out of me? It’s evil.
7 weeks no contact and going strong
I was married for 18 years. My wife demanded a divorce and a week later was dating a co worker.
I'm sorry to hear this. You will feel happiness again.