I would love that too. That's what I would want in a therapeutic relationship. Less one sided, and more equal, so that it feels like I'm talking to a person.
I don't see why you can't date a former patient if there's a mutual attraction and the patient is discharged. The key word is former. If it's two to three years after for therapists to do so, I don't see why the same concept doesn't apply for Drs/psychiatrists.
I wouldn't want to date my therapist only because of the power play. I would feel they know all about me and I nothing about them. I do not imagine it would end well. However I would be ok with a hug or comfort if I am very upset.
@@RaceySpacey I can see why you wouldn't, but I don't think this should be banned more generally. If I tell someone my life story at a bar while they tell me nothing and then I have sex with them was I exploited? I don't think so. So it still depends.
Right now I go to a support group run by a mental healthcare professional. A peer support person attends and participates in the discussions...I do not feel like this person has power over me, but apparently even if I leave the group I still can't have any contact with this person according to his organization's rules. This seems kind of unfair because he isn't a professional and we just happened to meet in that space. :/
It’s inappropriate for the therapist to talk about themselves? How? What if they’re using their past experiences to correlate with YOUR problem. I don’t see how that’s inappropriate? Obviously if they’re fully talking about their selves, it’s wrong but still
It's against their code of ethics. They feel like the client will start feeling for therapist / counselor in an inappropriate way. There's a whole book pretty much of the ethics of counselors and therapists they have to go through to even be hired.
@@SomeOne-zw6kh The "Code of Ethics" is largely braindead HR-esque policies written to protect against potential lawsuits, actual ethics has nothing to do with it. The problem with their draconian policies is that each Therapist-Client relationship is radically different from each other, so passing policies pretending they're all the same rather than putting each in its own context is absurd.
Reads better than being set up to be humialted by a urologist and her female students with your pants down. And then to have to go another couple of years in pain knowing you may be ruined for life with a racist laughing herself al the way to the bank.
Oh wow this is very nice can you tell me about your relationship how it was then when you met her and how it is going and what are the problem you have been faced .is she still doing the job of therapist or left it
Hello Dear I am happy to hear that. I wish you both a happy life. This is called in professional ethics the "two-year rule". My question is: Did you tell her that you wanted to marry her during the treatment period and then she told you that you had to finish treatment and wait two years or what? What is the correct way and time to express desire and feelings in a way that does not violate professional boundaries and does not lead to the psychiatrist referring the client to another psychiatrist because he expressed that? my regards
If the problem with potential relationship is information disparity then wouldn’t it be ok to start a relationship if former therapist shares enough info about him? Also it’s clearly ok and also preferable for therapist to depict their struggles and how they overcame them if client goes through similar problems.
I had met my therapist years before I started working with her, and the attraction was immediate. I would have asked her out but then Covid hit. Now, out of pure chance, I was looking for a therapist and it was her. We hugged after our first session and it was electric. I don't know what I'm going to do at my next session. It is very hard to find a therapist like her in my area who is deeply into the spiritual scene like I am and has the same rare belief system.
I dated my Thanatologist for 4.5 months after being in private sessions for over two years. Realize that the unconditional love, attention, and non-judgment don’t necessarily transfer into a romantic situation. On the contrary, they turned out to be a dismissive avoidant and it wAs all about “me” adapting to their stonewalling and dismissiveness. Now I’m in therapy with previous ptsd symptoms. While I don’t think any of this was intentional-there WAS a lot of love there--separate the profession from the person. I paid a high price for this risk. I lost one of my favorite people.
I asked my good friend, who is a plumber, if he would kindly like to fix a plumbing issue I had. He replied- "Sorry buddy, for _obvious_ reasons I can't do that for you. However, I'm a member of a guild of numerous other _unrelated_ plumbers who would be happy to oblige". We chuckled together over a beer and marveled at the perculiar notion that _KNOWLEDGE_ ceases to work when your bestie is requested to do it. What strange and wonderful world we all inhabit...
I had one call me at my parents home while my mom was “leaving us” from cancer. For Months!! She hadn’t seen me as her client for about 4 months. I also just had a newborn on my own. She kept insisting that I get together with her and her partner, (I’m straight, w/ no judgement) for pot lucks w/ her friends, or road trips?! She was doing it so much her partner got mad at me! She blamed it on Me!! It was awful as I really looked up to her while I was seeing her as my therapist for two years through some pretty rough times. Too weak then to really be any kind of firm w/ her, I didn’t have a clue. Still stings. She hates me too-I never would let her come visit or get together...apparently “it’s all my fault.” 😳 Now that time has passed by, it pisses me off. I was so vulnerable.
I wish my therapist would rant to me, i would have way more comfortable and less feeling like im being judged.
I would love that too. That's what I would want in a therapeutic relationship. Less one sided, and more equal, so that it feels like I'm talking to a person.
I don't see why you can't date a former patient if there's a mutual attraction and the patient is discharged. The key word is former. If it's two to three years after for therapists to do so, I don't see why the same concept doesn't apply for Drs/psychiatrists.
I wouldn't want to date my therapist only because of the power play. I would feel they know all about me and I nothing about them. I do not imagine it would end well. However I would be ok with a hug or comfort if I am very upset.
@@RaceySpacey I can see why you wouldn't, but I don't think this should be banned more generally. If I tell someone my life story at a bar while they tell me nothing and then I have sex with them was I exploited? I don't think so. So it still depends.
Lawsuit. Lawsuit.
Right now I go to a support group run by a mental healthcare professional. A peer support person attends and participates in the discussions...I do not feel like this person has power over me, but apparently even if I leave the group I still can't have any contact with this person according to his organization's rules. This seems kind of unfair because he isn't a professional and we just happened to meet in that space. :/
It’s inappropriate for the therapist to talk about themselves? How? What if they’re using their past experiences to correlate with YOUR problem. I don’t see how that’s inappropriate? Obviously if they’re fully talking about their selves, it’s wrong but still
It's against their code of ethics. They feel like the client will start feeling for therapist / counselor in an inappropriate way. There's a whole book pretty much of the ethics of counselors and therapists they have to go through to even be hired.
@@SomeOne-zw6kh The "Code of Ethics" is largely braindead HR-esque policies written to protect against potential lawsuits, actual ethics has nothing to do with it. The problem with their draconian policies is that each Therapist-Client relationship is radically different from each other, so passing policies pretending they're all the same rather than putting each in its own context is absurd.
I was 19, my therapist was 26. Married 5 years after the day I met her (2 years after therapy ended).
Waw
Reads better than being set up to be humialted by a urologist and her female students with your pants down. And then to have to go another couple of years in pain knowing you may be ruined for life with a racist laughing herself al the way to the bank.
Oh wow this is very nice can you tell me about your relationship how it was then when you met her and how it is going and what are the problem you have been faced .is she still doing the job of therapist or left it
Hello Dear
I am happy to hear that.
I wish you both a happy life. This is called in professional ethics the "two-year rule". My question is: Did you tell her that you wanted to marry her during the treatment period and then she told you that you had to finish treatment and wait two years or what? What is the correct way and time to express desire and feelings in a way that does not violate professional boundaries and does not lead to the psychiatrist referring the client to another psychiatrist because he expressed that?
my regards
But does a therapist not see you as unattractive coming with all the package? You know wht I mean?
I never befriend my boss on my Facebook page nevermind my medical physicians. Just plain inappropriate for the both of us
If the problem with potential relationship is information disparity then wouldn’t it be ok to start a relationship if former therapist shares enough info about him?
Also it’s clearly ok and also preferable for therapist to depict their struggles and how they overcame them if client goes through similar problems.
You can self-disclose as long as it’s appropriate and is in the best interest of the client.
I had met my therapist years before I started working with her, and the attraction was immediate. I would have asked her out but then Covid hit. Now, out of pure chance, I was looking for a therapist and it was her. We hugged after our first session and it was electric. I don't know what I'm going to do at my next session. It is very hard to find a therapist like her in my area who is deeply into the spiritual scene like I am and has the same rare belief system.
Update us if you eventually say something to her. 😊
Wht happened???
I dated my Thanatologist for 4.5 months after being in private sessions for over two years. Realize that the unconditional love, attention, and non-judgment don’t necessarily transfer into a romantic situation. On the contrary, they turned out to be a dismissive avoidant and it wAs all about “me” adapting to their stonewalling and dismissiveness. Now I’m in therapy with previous ptsd symptoms. While I don’t think any of this was intentional-there WAS a lot of love there--separate the profession from the person. I paid a high price for this risk. I lost one of my favorite people.
I asked my good friend, who is a plumber, if he would kindly like to fix a plumbing issue I had. He replied- "Sorry buddy, for _obvious_ reasons I can't do that for you. However, I'm a member of a guild of numerous other _unrelated_ plumbers who would be happy to oblige". We chuckled together over a beer and marveled at the perculiar notion that _KNOWLEDGE_ ceases to work when your bestie is requested to do it. What strange and wonderful world we all inhabit...
I'm not sure what point you're trying to make. Are you comparing that to a therapist/ patient relationship and saying that its not inappropriate?
I had one call me at my parents home while my mom was “leaving us” from cancer. For Months!! She hadn’t seen me as her client for about 4 months. I also just had a newborn on my own. She kept insisting that I get together with her and her partner, (I’m straight, w/ no judgement) for pot lucks w/ her friends, or road trips?! She was doing it so much her partner got mad at me! She blamed it on Me!! It was awful as I really looked up to her while I was seeing her as my therapist for two years through some pretty rough times. Too weak then to really be any kind of firm w/ her, I didn’t have a clue. Still stings. She hates me too-I never would let her come visit or get together...apparently “it’s all my fault.” 😳 Now that time has passed by, it pisses me off. I was so vulnerable.
Lawsuit. Lawsuit.
Is the lady in red a therapist?
No but she is a physician
i need a in home therapist selected and addressed due to I S N. I T C V c c v i(.