I am like that, but not completely, I can’t take criticism well but I take insults (well mostly because I insult the person back) I have a lot of mental disorders and I’m trying to be nicer but I cant :(
@@laurao.o It's fine, at least you are kind! I also think that not being able to take criticism is not gonna make your entire personality (bad😐), What matters is if you are nice or not! :D
Yeah, nice people just don't say that "they're a nice person". Just like how smart people don't say how they're a smart person, they show it with their actions.
For some of these points, i can understand where they're coming from. But what if the story you heard was from the offender and not the victim? You just assume the offender is right just because they told you first. Someone talks bad about the offender, and you jump to conclusions, but you don't know the victim's side. This has been something i went through so much. People assume the other party is right just because they had a bad impression on the victim. Say you talk bad about a person, what if the bad talker had a bad experience with said person? How can you just assume the bad talker isn't a nice person without knowing the whole story? I always saw the good in people no matter what race, age or sexuality. But this is starting to fade away just because some big roleplay hubs say I'm a bad person, just because i dropped contact with a manipulative friend who wouldn't stop picking fights with a 15 year old boy in public. Me and my friend tried to stop it, but in the end we were blamed for it. Mind you, the bully in question is an adult. 18, 21 at best. They run this big server on discord called Dear Diary, but bring other hubs down just because of one person they happen to dislike. I'm not going to name any names, but it's people like that you should worry about, not the shit talkers, people who actually have a worse day than you or those who say they're nice. It's the good first impressions you should worry about. The manipulators. Please be careful, y'all...i don't want the same stalky manipulative shit to happen to any of you. Have a nice day..
The smartest person in my class, talked behind me, my bffs and my 2 other friends backs. She made my second bff cry, and my bff is still bffs with her (my bff has many bffs lol) I dont trust her but i see the good in her. I try not to Think negative, since it Will just make it worse. For example, your friend comes up to you, and say “Ben is very rude” etc, and talk about it often. You Will start to dislike him because you hear so many bad things! Its hard to stay positive, but try your Best. Even if the people makes you want to Oof Them 💀💀
@Sincere those kind of people makes me want to do bad things to Them ;-; i dont wanna explain my Gore and brutal filled mind ^^ I hope you’re doing okay, those kind of people is Best to flush Them Down the toilet as fast as possible
There’s a very fine line between between being nice and being mean, being sarcastic and being rude, being worried and being insensitive, and so on 😔 So instead of thinking of how to balance all that, I just think that if my relationship with someone is starting to become exhausting, then we don’t click. Not to mean that either side is right or wrong, just difference in opinions is all.
People who talk bad about their “best friend” don’t actually consider them their best friend, and probably never wanted to be friends in the first place [i.e. just wanted to use them for something, just pretended for some other reason, or slowly grew to dislike them for no reason]. It does also depend on the context tho, because someone could be talking bad about a friend/someone “close” to them and actually be right instead of just spreading lies for the sake of reputation. Like for example I had a friend who knew someone really toxic (wont state names or what relationship it was) and started to realise, then started trash-talking them to me & ranting because that WAS actually how they were.
When they say things badly about themselves purposefully to get you to say good things about them. All the time. Of course this is also a cry for help in some cases
@@Diamond-rl2on They said "... how you wanna be treated" so even if you hated yourself, I'm pretty sure you'd still want to be treated nicely [atleast I hope so because other wise that's just sad :( ] so just treat people like that
'They always try to shift the blame on someone else' The amount of stories where there's a cheater in it definitely came to mind. Probably because I've been reading about these kinds of stories too much lately. Also off topic but Kyutie always looks gorgeous in all her videos.
Exactly this!!! I was leaving work one day & passed the cleaning woman, she said "Have a good evening". A co-worker's asked if I knew the cleaning woman? Which confused me at first because I told the coworker the cleaning woman worked at the company too. The coworker said she I knew her personally because she [cleaning woman] spoke to me. I responded by telling her [coworker] that I speak to other employees/contractors I see regularly, not just the office staff: janitorial, maintenance, security, etc. She gave me this look that clearly said "WHY?"
People get offended when you exposed their toxic actions. And finding a way to let you down and be a bossy around with you to know they're more powerful than you🙂
The cancer one reminded me of an old friend of my late uncle. When my uncle came to discover he wasn't going to make it through the cancer, he went out of his way to meet up with a bunch of his friends to break the news to them. One friend responded with "Yeah, well, a lot of people I knew died from cancer." It completely destroyed a 20+ year relationship. That friend showed up to my uncle's funeral and had supposedly planned to apologize the week he died. Too little too late. He now has to live knowing that was the last thing he said to my uncle.
Dude wtfffffffffffff. The friend literaly tried to "one up" a dying person that is just next level of "I don't giva crap about you feel bad for ME instead". Yeah what a wanker friend that one. But honestly this kinda happened to me too but not that I was dying. But my brother said he had been suicidal and I was concerned for him talking with him to comfort him and all that. Then a few minutes later I tell him that I had actually attempted suicide like a year back that he didn't know about. He then goes "pff, well you survived didn't you so it wasn't that bad?". Yeah I wish I would have cut him off right then and there cuz that's not okay at all. Too bad my self respect was non existent back then. I gave him so many hours of free therapy over the years and he never gave a single shit about me ever. He couldn't even bring himself to pretend he gave a shit about me, like not even a "awww how terrible" just straight up "fuck you, your problems don't matter".
I was hanging out with a group of friends today and two of them were talking shit about the other two in the group. they didn’t realise I was listening until it was too late, then proceeded to call me gross for doing so. I asked them why they gossip about their friends and their excuse was “if you don’t gossip, you’re just inhuman. you can start a conversation with gossip and get so excited over gossip but you wouldn’t understand.” now I don’t wanna hang out with those 2 anymore.
Not gonna lie, I'm guilty for butting in when someone says they've done something- I go on full story mode when I start talking too... I thought it was a way of letting them know they're not alone- oof I didn't know it was mean- 😞😱 Edit: ooooh... Not the I had a worse day than you not like that, I try to tell them that I understand but ends up telling the entire story- 😓 Edit2 : Now over analyzing everything I did if it's considered rude-
What you do isn't rude, it's probably very endearing to your friends. The type of person described in the video is people who don't allow people to tell their own stories because they're obsessed with just talking about their own experiences. From what you've described, I don't think you're the type of mean person described
I do that too, like, if they describe friendship problems, I mention my own, so I can put myself in their shoes once more, and relive the situation mentally so that I can be more empathetic... I let them continue, of course, but if a person just misunderstood me doing that as me not caring about them, then that would make me really sad 😭
When they constantly say things to bring you down/make themselves seem better. Being critical is one thing, but doing this and insulting someone all the time isn’t cool
1:50 Someone at my school saw me as the Rude Popular girl until I went up to them and asked for their pronouns, we've been friends since then, which is only a few months but its nice to think that kind little gesture I did was the start of a strong friendship,
“Playful “ insults are a form of passive-aggression designed to hurt you, but to still shield themselves from accountability by disguising their aggression against you as “humor.”
Tldr: I'm trying to drift from someone who's physically violent to me, but I've talked bad about them twice Ik I shouldn't have, but I talked bad about one of my friends today with another friend of mine. The friend I talked bad with (A) doesn't like the friend I talked about (B) for various reasons, and I'm starting to dislike her too. I can't tell her I don't want to be friends, or she'll literally kill me. I'm in a dilemma. I've known her since middle school (in hs now), and she's always kinda been violent. Like, she would chase kids around and threaten them. Truthfully, I stayed with her bc 1 she scared me and 2 she's the only person who talked to me (I was also the only person to talk to her). She got picked on a lot, so I always felt pity towards her. That's probably why i let her do some things I shouldn't have. Once, she tried to (still in middle school) get me to be the girlfriend of this 18 year old dude she referred to as her brother. I told her no daily, but eventually agreed to be his friend. She used to call me things like her punching bag and her toy, plus she was dating a jerk and wouldn't listen when I told her he was bad news. She would joke about my weight, my hair, my singing voice, and really made me feel insecure. I made a joke once about her, and she got hella pissed. I don't joke with her anymore. Anyways, now in hs, she told her new bf to scare me (loud noises make me flinch and scream) all the time. She made a diary about what she did with him and made me read it sometimes (I puked). One of my other friends got into a argument with her and A tried to fight them physically in school. She wears spiky boots and kicks me with them hard. She always touches my hair, plays with it, and sometimes yanks at it without permission, but won't let me touch her hair like that. In the school bathroom, she shoved a vape in my face and said, "You wanna be a bad girl, (insert name)?" Over and over in a teasing way. I don't vape. There's countless reasons and things she does that makes me not want to be friends. I'm not an angel, either. I've done stupid things thay could easily make me a nasty person. I've been ignorant and such before, and I'm sure my friends got mad at me too. This has been going on for as long as I've known her though. Honestly, I'm scared one day if I don't try to drift from her thay she'll end up kill me anyways. Then sometimes, she's actually a good friend. While having food thrown at me, she stood up for me. She was an angel at her birthday party, and she truly has good intentions sometimes. She's the type of person who doesn't recognize accomplishments unless they're her own. I have another friend like that, but this isn't about her. Anyways, I've always encouraged A to do what she loves (writing), even though I don't particularly like what she writes. Thing is, I also want to be a writer. Never once has she acknowledged my writing. I got 8th place in a writing competition, and she brushed it off when I told her once. That discouraged me, cause I told her to sign up for it next year saying she'd win. Anyways, I've been trying to drift from her. Friend B has been telling me for a long while that A is a bad influence.
I used to be in this scenario, but (fortunately) I’m in a military setting so everybody moves away eventually.. so did she. The best advice I can give you is try to take all different classes whenever possible if you have any with them. For people like them, yeah, words don’t help. They’d get worse. I’d probably advice you to get somebody to contact their parent about how they are or to report them to an authority figure. I know this can be hard, but it’s almost the last solution most of the time. And you know, talking bad about somebody who’s literally harassing you? That’s totally justified. That’s on them. If they try to use it against you, flip the card. It’s not your fault you feel negative emotions about being physically abused by somebody who should be a considerate friend
"Everything you say you've done, they've done twice." This reminds of a minor character in the cartoon strip Dilbert who is called Topper. Funny in the cartoon and so annoying in real life!
6:37 from what I have noticed throughout the years, the one that talks bad about the their friend is envious(not jealous, that's different) of the friend they're badmouthing but they're either aren't aware of it or they're in denial of it.
This video made me realize that I am a huge jerk... And that my ex-best friend/ neighbor was extremely toxic. I'm sorry everyone I have ever encountered and thank you for not hating me. But also, why never point it out?
4:39 ngl i was kind of like this. i wanted to ruin my ex’s life after he cheated on me but i got over it after 9 months. i still have the mindset that everyone hates me and want revenge on the bad people, but im trying to get better.
back in middle school i had a 'friend' (lets call her sara,) who took my milk and dumped it in my food, i hadnt eaten anything that day so far because i didnt have time so i was really hungry. i got pissed and in the anger of the moment, dumped her milk into her food. and she freaked out crying and ran to tell a teacher. I was the only one who got in trouble for the situation. i did feel guilty because it wasnt something i was likely to do unless i was like really upset, and i didnt like making people feel bad, my friends took my side tho. later i heard from them that sara was trying to convince the others to kick me out of the group, but they didn't budge. sara ended up getting ignored whenever she was with us from then on, and she stopped sitting around us.
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Yeah we don't need those people. Well I wish I would have thought of that before my toxic friends took over my life. like seriously I Wish this video came out sooner cause then I wouldn't have to deal with all of this stuff that's going on in my life
It’s never too late to dump them. I dumped a toxic AF “friend” of mine recently, and we had been friends for over five years. Also, I know it will be hard to get over them, I’m still trying to get over mine, but you can do it!! Your stronger than you know, and you can get past all this, freer and stronger than ever before!!
As a class monitor I would always stay in the class when others left so that I can sanitize the tables, but now with my hand being dry and peeling due to coming in contact with strong chemicals like the sanitizer, now my lovely friends helped me with it and I cherish them so much lol...........anyways yeah when they all go home almost all the boys would never have the tables aligned and chairs tucked it.......it just make my work harder tbh but I did sign up to be the monitor lol
I always say I'm a kind person because I like the word kind to describe others but I use it out loud about me because I am thinking out loud kindof like that pep talk in the mirror 🪞every morning lol
6:45 this is SO TOTALLY my sister. sometimes she would have me harass her friends and then if she got caught, i would tell my parents that it was her idea and she would say “no i didn’t! take some responsibility!” she even once said to me “hey can you tell my friend that you were the one harassing her? i don’t wanna get in trouble.”
So theres about 8 boys in my class, theres mostly girls lol. (Storytime) Very long! I’ve never been this happy- but i was actually called a good friend.. I like Drawing and Reading, and my class sees me as a clever and Nice person. Im not the smartest in class tho So a boy i Think is rlly annoying (he’s always interrups and is that classic annoying kid, we have many of those) lets Call him Ben (not his real name) I was talking about fish filets close to him, and Said to SOMEONE ELSE, “you should see me eat fish filets xD” and for some reason he thought “Hey Ben, wanna go out and get fish filets” and then he started flirting with me for attention and such, and talk to me like i was friends with him. And at this point his friends ALSO STARTED FLIRTING, “wanna go get fish filets?”, “heyyy! Wanna hang out” and then my WHOLE CLASS STARTED SHIPPING ME WITH BEN, and now i luckely Got everyone to stop, not Ben and his friend group though. I feel disrepsected and i never thought it was funny, at this point i would rather be bullied by Them then this.. And i actually do Think its becoming bullying, since one of his friends (one that is as bad as Ben) has pushed me 3 times. And all of this is FOR DUCKING *ATTENTION* WHY, Im not even interested! And im not intesrested in romantic relationships UNTIL im 18-20+ Also after the class stopped shipping, is kinda like a few months ago so its been going on for… 9 months now, and the class stupid after aboug 3 months
I mostly hate when people think they can walk all over me and I'll just let them because I'm "a nice person" 😑 I'm only nice for as long as you're nice to me 🙃
7:55 I've been doing it since secondary school cuz i thought it was a unspoken rule... until i have siblings.... dangg i felt so triggered whenever they forgot to push in the chair 😭😭
one of the people i hang out with can’t take criticism but makes fun of other people. people seem to recognise that but do nothing about it. so i do, and apparently i’m the bad guy whenever she’s being unreasonable toward an innocent person /: many people seem to like her because she’s annoying and all that, even my own friend left me for her lol idk why people are attracted to shitty people, but it’s really awful (shes also everything in this video, its really painful)
3:10 I remember this one day 2 summers ago. My ex's best friend and his buddies came to my work (Dairy Queen) and just made a huge mess on the table, chairs, and the floor. Used napkins everywhere, their half-full cups of pop, etc. When they were done eating they just left everything everywhere. I went over to their table to go start cleaning it up since I didn't have to take anyone's order or anything. They all kinda just looked at me, scratched their heads, and said "yeah...sorry we kinda made a mess. but it's ok because it's your job to clean up" and then they just left. It was so gross
I realize this always too late. But sometimes it makes me wonder if I'm doing nice things because I wanted to be perceived as one? Because eventually, I grew tired of it. Feelings never get reciprocated and I end up being a laughing stock or for even trying. Maybe I am a people pleaser and I should just stop because no matter how nice or kind I can be to others... I don't feel like I get it back in some way... It's like I'm a magnet for hostile people.
3:36 Unfortunately I’m dating one of these guys at the moment.. i remember talking to him and my friends about things I love or am interested in and he immediately compares me to all of his female family members (sisters, mom, grandma, aunt, you name it..) I also remember coming to school a few weeks ago crying because of emotional stress, physical pain and sickness at the same time, my boyfriend instead of helping me feel better, he said and I quote “I’ve been dealing with that since I was 7 years old and I’m dealing with abusive classmates too, I’m sure your feelings aren’t as strong or as visible as mine..” I share 5 out of 7 classes with him and he’s not disrespected at all, and in the classes where I’m not with him, everyone goes up to me after school and tells me what an awesome time they had with him. A few other things he does is lie, call *me* a liar, uses manipulation against me, and bribes me with things.. the one that hurts the most if flirt or act seductively with the girls I sit next to and brushes it off with a kiss on the cheek or a mini pack of smarties to make me forget about it. What really sucks is that he blames it all on his “other sides” or my friends, or even me on rare occasions. Every time I confront him about it, he denies it severely or says that he doesn’t realize what he’s doing wrong. I always end up leaving in a bad mood because of this and tells me to stop overreacting. I tried giving him the silent treatment and what he did was spam my phone with poems ripped straight off of google and the “🥺” emoji. I really want to break things off with him, but it’s too difficult to find out a way on my own. If anyone could please give me some advice I would really appreciate it..
People who use "I tell the truth how it is" as a front to being mean. You don't need to sugarcoat everything under 5 inches of sugar, but tact exists. Also, people who go after the person who their partner cheated with as opposed to their cheating partner. "You tried to steal them!!" ....what?
Ok for the “it’s their job anyway” I saw my sister did not want to go ask for help from a worker to help her find something and I offered to ask and then she said no we can’t bother them but then I said it was no biggie it’s their job anyway and now I’m like was I a jerk for saying that 0-0
No if you ask for help that's not being an asshole, if you genuenly have looked and can't find the item. The "it's their job anyway" is more when people leave trash around when they could have just took a few sec to throw it away for example. Or when you as a customer is being overly lazy in general I guess and it ends up causing too much disruption. Very common to see at fast food restaurants that people just leave a table full of stuff behind and the workers are too busy to go clean tables all the time so then it's an asshole move to do that, unless you are in a hurry. If you leave trash behind in a busy Mcdonalds that's 1(or sometimes multiple) tables where people can't sit now so it fucks it up for the next guest that has nowhere to sit and then people will be complaining and then the already stressed worker gets shat on even tho it's not their fault... Atleast if enough people are asshole like that it can cause some problems.
5:56 my sister is 20 and one day she was talking crap about my bf to her coworkers DURING HER SHIFT while i was shopping with my parents, she was saying “i don’t date twigs, your bf is a twig” blah blah blah and they were all LAUGHING.
So my family members are not nice, and I'm probably not nice too : ( its hard when youre aware how toxic people are and you cant run away because of responsibilities
there was a girl in my class who acted wicked sweet but anytime someone did something to upset her she got wicked weird. One time a kid knocked over her book so she made him get on his knees to apologize. the fuq
0:30 and 4:30 those are what my sis does lol. She goes "im a nice person so ill stop fighting" yet continues fighting. And when she says her side of the story she says I hit (defended) her for no reason. So when its my turn to tell the story I say "ill tell the security camera footage" and ACTUALLY tell my parents why I hit her and why she hit me xD
I will say I’m a somewhat nice person until you hurt a friend which I’m not nice when I talk with Random people not to be mean just cause I’m board but my brain for some reason looks at a persons worst features and or fears by looking at a person’s demeanor when they talk about physical features and as soon as they do the 180 turn I sit there and say every last fear they have about themselves and why most likely most of their friends are fake and or toxic. Yea mean but I had to sit and get bullied for being nice to bad people and gained a lovely skill in psychology
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Not being able to take criticism is one thing, but criticisizing others? Hypocritical people are VERY annoying.
Ikr it's so stupid
I'm kinda feeling that my lady! ; ) Have a wonderful day!
My mom is like this and it makes me so mad. Then she starts playing victim and I always end up feeling guilty af.
I am like that, but not completely, I can’t take criticism well but I take insults (well mostly because I insult the person back) I have a lot of mental disorders and I’m trying to be nicer but I cant :(
@@laurao.o It's fine, at least you are kind! I also think that not being able to take criticism is not gonna make your entire personality (bad😐), What matters is if you are nice or not! :D
Yeah, nice people just don't say that "they're a nice person". Just like how smart people don't say how they're a smart person, they show it with their actions.
"I'm a nice person" is the biggest red flag
For some of these points, i can understand where they're coming from. But what if the story you heard was from the offender and not the victim? You just assume the offender is right just because they told you first. Someone talks bad about the offender, and you jump to conclusions, but you don't know the victim's side. This has been something i went through so much. People assume the other party is right just because they had a bad impression on the victim. Say you talk bad about a person, what if the bad talker had a bad experience with said person? How can you just assume the bad talker isn't a nice person without knowing the whole story? I always saw the good in people no matter what race, age or sexuality. But this is starting to fade away just because some big roleplay hubs say I'm a bad person, just because i dropped contact with a manipulative friend who wouldn't stop picking fights with a 15 year old boy in public. Me and my friend tried to stop it, but in the end we were blamed for it. Mind you, the bully in question is an adult. 18, 21 at best. They run this big server on discord called Dear Diary, but bring other hubs down just because of one person they happen to dislike. I'm not going to name any names, but it's people like that you should worry about, not the shit talkers, people who actually have a worse day than you or those who say they're nice. It's the good first impressions you should worry about. The manipulators.
Please be careful, y'all...i don't want the same stalky manipulative shit to happen to any of you. Have a nice day..
The smartest person in my class, talked behind me, my bffs and my 2 other friends backs. She made my second bff cry, and my bff is still bffs with her (my bff has many bffs lol)
I dont trust her but i see the good in her. I try not to Think negative, since it Will just make it worse.
For example, your friend comes up to you, and say “Ben is very rude” etc, and talk about it often. You Will start to dislike him because you hear so many bad things!
Its hard to stay positive, but try your Best. Even if the people makes you want to Oof Them 💀💀
@Sincere those kind of people makes me want to do bad things to Them ;-; i dont wanna explain my Gore and brutal filled mind ^^
I hope you’re doing okay, those kind of people is Best to flush Them Down the toilet as fast as possible
I love how she has meaningfully intros and not just "subscribe to my channel follow me here like bla bla' nonsense
AND HER INTROS ARE ONLY 10 SECONDS INSTEAD OF 5 MINS
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When someone is always complaining I take that as a red flag
Especially about other people, your friends, your family, etc..
There’s a very fine line between between being nice and being mean, being sarcastic and being rude, being worried and being insensitive, and so on 😔
So instead of thinking of how to balance all that, I just think that if my relationship with someone is starting to become exhausting, then we don’t click. Not to mean that either side is right or wrong, just difference in opinions is all.
People who talk bad about their “best friend” don’t actually consider them their best friend, and probably never wanted to be friends in the first place [i.e. just wanted to use them for something, just pretended for some other reason, or slowly grew to dislike them for no reason].
It does also depend on the context tho, because someone could be talking bad about a friend/someone “close” to them and actually be right instead of just spreading lies for the sake of reputation. Like for example I had a friend who knew someone really toxic (wont state names or what relationship it was) and started to realise, then started trash-talking them to me & ranting because that WAS actually how they were.
When they say things badly about themselves purposefully to get you to say good things about them. All the time. Of course this is also a cry for help in some cases
Just treat others the same way you wanna be treated. How hard is that to do? 🙄
So if you hate your self
@@Diamond-rl2on They said "... how you wanna be treated" so even if you hated yourself, I'm pretty sure you'd still want to be treated nicely [atleast I hope so because other wise that's just sad :( ] so just treat people like that
'They always try to shift the blame on someone else'
The amount of stories where there's a cheater in it definitely came to mind. Probably because I've been reading about these kinds of stories too much lately. Also off topic but Kyutie always looks gorgeous in all her videos.
she’s dressed for a fancy restaurant everytime 🔆❤️🩹
you can learn if a person is a good person or not by the way they treat retail workers and services workers.
Exactly this!!! I was leaving work one day & passed the cleaning woman, she said "Have a good evening". A co-worker's asked if I knew the cleaning woman? Which confused me at first because I told the coworker the cleaning woman worked at the company too. The coworker said she I knew her personally because she [cleaning woman] spoke to me. I responded by telling her [coworker] that I speak to other employees/contractors I see regularly, not just the office staff: janitorial, maintenance, security, etc. She gave me this look that clearly said "WHY?"
@@j.k.4270 and who knows maybe by saying "have a good evening " you may have lifted her spirts up a bit. kind words can go a long way
People get offended when you exposed their toxic actions. And finding a way to let you down and be a bossy around with you to know they're more powerful than you🙂
The cancer one reminded me of an old friend of my late uncle. When my uncle came to discover he wasn't going to make it through the cancer, he went out of his way to meet up with a bunch of his friends to break the news to them. One friend responded with "Yeah, well, a lot of people I knew died from cancer." It completely destroyed a 20+ year relationship. That friend showed up to my uncle's funeral and had supposedly planned to apologize the week he died. Too little too late. He now has to live knowing that was the last thing he said to my uncle.
Dude wtfffffffffffff. The friend literaly tried to "one up" a dying person that is just next level of "I don't giva crap about you feel bad for ME instead". Yeah what a wanker friend that one. But honestly this kinda happened to me too but not that I was dying. But my brother said he had been suicidal and I was concerned for him talking with him to comfort him and all that. Then a few minutes later I tell him that I had actually attempted suicide like a year back that he didn't know about. He then goes "pff, well you survived didn't you so it wasn't that bad?". Yeah I wish I would have cut him off right then and there cuz that's not okay at all. Too bad my self respect was non existent back then. I gave him so many hours of free therapy over the years and he never gave a single shit about me ever. He couldn't even bring himself to pretend he gave a shit about me, like not even a "awww how terrible" just straight up "fuck you, your problems don't matter".
The one upper definitely is a sign!!
I was hanging out with a group of friends today and two of them were talking shit about the other two in the group. they didn’t realise I was listening until it was too late, then proceeded to call me gross for doing so. I asked them why they gossip about their friends and their excuse was
“if you don’t gossip, you’re just inhuman. you can start a conversation with gossip and get so excited over gossip but you wouldn’t understand.”
now I don’t wanna hang out with those 2 anymore.
To be honest nothing is ever my fault when my sis is around it just becomes hers.
Not gonna lie, I'm guilty for butting in when someone says they've done something- I go on full story mode when I start talking too... I thought it was a way of letting them know they're not alone- oof I didn't know it was mean- 😞😱
Edit: ooooh... Not the I had a worse day than you not like that, I try to tell them that I understand but ends up telling the entire story- 😓
Edit2 : Now over analyzing everything I did if it's considered rude-
What you do isn't rude, it's probably very endearing to your friends. The type of person described in the video is people who don't allow people to tell their own stories because they're obsessed with just talking about their own experiences. From what you've described, I don't think you're the type of mean person described
@@thesirensystem oh thank gosh! I've acted like that to almost everyone I'm glad it wasn't rude 😅
I do that too, like, if they describe friendship problems, I mention my own, so I can put myself in their shoes once more, and relive the situation mentally so that I can be more empathetic... I let them continue, of course, but if a person just misunderstood me doing that as me not caring about them, then that would make me really sad 😭
When they constantly say things to bring you down/make themselves seem better. Being critical is one thing, but doing this and insulting someone all the time isn’t cool
and some people are mean because they are unhappy with their own lives and take it out on others to feel better about themselves
When they are more concerned about their part of inheritance after their father died.
1:50
Someone at my school saw me as the Rude Popular girl until I went up to them and asked for their pronouns, we've been friends since then, which is only a few months but its nice to think that kind little gesture I did was the start of a strong friendship,
“Playful “ insults are a form of passive-aggression designed to hurt you, but to still shield themselves from accountability by disguising their aggression against you as “humor.”
I definitely needed this 😭btw thank you for posting!😍
thank you for being here!!
@@Kyutie. Thank you for making awesome videos 😁
Tldr: I'm trying to drift from someone who's physically violent to me, but I've talked bad about them twice
Ik I shouldn't have, but I talked bad about one of my friends today with another friend of mine. The friend I talked bad with (A) doesn't like the friend I talked about (B) for various reasons, and I'm starting to dislike her too. I can't tell her I don't want to be friends, or she'll literally kill me. I'm in a dilemma.
I've known her since middle school (in hs now), and she's always kinda been violent. Like, she would chase kids around and threaten them. Truthfully, I stayed with her bc 1 she scared me and 2 she's the only person who talked to me (I was also the only person to talk to her). She got picked on a lot, so I always felt pity towards her. That's probably why i let her do some things I shouldn't have.
Once, she tried to (still in middle school) get me to be the girlfriend of this 18 year old dude she referred to as her brother. I told her no daily, but eventually agreed to be his friend. She used to call me things like her punching bag and her toy, plus she was dating a jerk and wouldn't listen when I told her he was bad news. She would joke about my weight, my hair, my singing voice, and really made me feel insecure. I made a joke once about her, and she got hella pissed. I don't joke with her anymore.
Anyways, now in hs, she told her new bf to scare me (loud noises make me flinch and scream) all the time. She made a diary about what she did with him and made me read it sometimes (I puked). One of my other friends got into a argument with her and A tried to fight them physically in school.
She wears spiky boots and kicks me with them hard. She always touches my hair, plays with it, and sometimes yanks at it without permission, but won't let me touch her hair like that. In the school bathroom, she shoved a vape in my face and said, "You wanna be a bad girl, (insert name)?" Over and over in a teasing way. I don't vape. There's countless reasons and things she does that makes me not want to be friends. I'm not an angel, either. I've done stupid things thay could easily make me a nasty person. I've been ignorant and such before, and I'm sure my friends got mad at me too. This has been going on for as long as I've known her though. Honestly, I'm scared one day if I don't try to drift from her thay she'll end up kill me anyways.
Then sometimes, she's actually a good friend. While having food thrown at me, she stood up for me. She was an angel at her birthday party, and she truly has good intentions sometimes. She's the type of person who doesn't recognize accomplishments unless they're her own. I have another friend like that, but this isn't about her. Anyways, I've always encouraged A to do what she loves (writing), even though I don't particularly like what she writes. Thing is, I also want to be a writer. Never once has she acknowledged my writing. I got 8th place in a writing competition, and she brushed it off when I told her once. That discouraged me, cause I told her to sign up for it next year saying she'd win. Anyways, I've been trying to drift from her. Friend B has been telling me for a long while that A is a bad influence.
I used to be in this scenario, but (fortunately) I’m in a military setting so everybody moves away eventually.. so did she. The best advice I can give you is try to take all different classes whenever possible if you have any with them. For people like them, yeah, words don’t help. They’d get worse. I’d probably advice you to get somebody to contact their parent about how they are or to report them to an authority figure. I know this can be hard, but it’s almost the last solution most of the time. And you know, talking bad about somebody who’s literally harassing you? That’s totally justified. That’s on them. If they try to use it against you, flip the card. It’s not your fault you feel negative emotions about being physically abused by somebody who should be a considerate friend
Ahh! This is the earliest I’ve ever been! I hope whoever is reading this is having a good day!
"Everything you say you've done, they've done twice." This reminds of a minor character in the cartoon strip Dilbert who is called Topper. Funny in the cartoon and so annoying in real life!
Ah, I love these types of videos
Her reactions are so cute
I love your videos I've been watching since day one 6 years ago
hi kyutie! i love your videos they cheer me up so much when i’m upset you’re so funny and you’re the best
They constantly shove the "nice things" that they do (which you might haven't even asked for) in your face
Ellen you remind of a beautiful puppy 💕💕
HAHAHA thats the best compliment!!! TY
@@Kyutie. omg you are so welcome 💕💕
6:37 from what I have noticed throughout the years, the one that talks bad about the their friend is envious(not jealous, that's different) of the friend they're badmouthing but they're either aren't aware of it or they're in denial of it.
This video made me realize that I am a huge jerk...
And that my ex-best friend/ neighbor was extremely toxic.
I'm sorry everyone I have ever encountered and thank you for not hating me. But also, why never point it out?
4:39 ngl i was kind of like this. i wanted to ruin my ex’s life after he cheated on me but i got over it after 9 months. i still have the mindset that everyone hates me and want revenge on the bad people, but im trying to get better.
all these criteria fit a certain someone i know💀
Lmao same.
Same 😭
You are legit the face of my childhood, like your old try not to cringe, I loved you and I still do ❤️
awww!! made my day!
back in middle school i had a 'friend' (lets call her sara,) who took my milk and dumped it in my food, i hadnt eaten anything that day so far because i didnt have time so i was really hungry. i got pissed and in the anger of the moment, dumped her milk into her food. and she freaked out crying and ran to tell a teacher. I was the only one who got in trouble for the situation. i did feel guilty because it wasnt something i was likely to do unless i was like really upset, and i didnt like making people feel bad, my friends took my side tho. later i heard from them that sara was trying to convince the others to kick me out of the group, but they didn't budge. sara ended up getting ignored whenever she was with us from then on, and she stopped sitting around us.
AAAAAA OMJ HI ELLEN! i think im early. ive been subsribed to you since you were doing the spicy noodle challenge. may i ask if you do more games [preferred if horror games hehe]. i love your gaming videos btw. im not saying i hate your reaction videos but i enjoy your gaming videos a tad bit more :,) i love you xoxo. love from the japan
Yeah we don't need those people. Well I wish I would have thought of that before my toxic friends took over my life. like seriously I Wish this video came out sooner cause then I wouldn't have to deal with all of this stuff that's going on in my life
It’s never too late to dump them. I dumped a toxic AF “friend” of mine recently, and we had been friends for over five years. Also, I know it will be hard to get over them, I’m still trying to get over mine, but you can do it!! Your stronger than you know, and you can get past all this, freer and stronger than ever before!!
Love those earrings! I don't do big, dangly jewelry like that, but I would wear the crap out of those
hey guys, i hope you've had a good day and if not, had one good aspect of your day💛
I don't know what to say but i want to comment to let you know that i exist and love you and ur collection of hats
As a class monitor I would always stay in the class when others left so that I can sanitize the tables, but now with my hand being dry and peeling due to coming in contact with strong chemicals like the sanitizer, now my lovely friends helped me with it and I cherish them so much lol...........anyways yeah when they all go home almost all the boys would never have the tables aligned and chairs tucked it.......it just make my work harder tbh but I did sign up to be the monitor lol
Video suggestion: Ellen's hat collection (Day 13)
I always say I'm a kind person because I like the word kind to describe others but I use it out loud about me because I am thinking out loud kindof like that pep talk in the mirror 🪞every morning lol
7:34
Me, who is usually probably too busy daydreaming to even remember to push in the chair: ... ;-;
6:45 this is SO TOTALLY my sister. sometimes she would have me harass her friends and then if she got caught, i would tell my parents that it was her idea and she would say “no i didn’t! take some responsibility!” she even once said to me “hey can you tell my friend that you were the one harassing her? i don’t wanna get in trouble.”
So theres about 8 boys in my class, theres mostly girls lol. (Storytime) Very long! I’ve never been this happy- but i was actually called a good friend..
I like Drawing and Reading, and my class sees me as a clever and Nice person. Im not the smartest in class tho
So a boy i Think is rlly annoying (he’s always interrups and is that classic annoying kid, we have many of those) lets Call him Ben (not his real name)
I was talking about fish filets close to him, and Said to SOMEONE ELSE, “you should see me eat fish filets xD” and for some reason he thought “Hey Ben, wanna go out and get fish filets” and then he started flirting with me for attention and such, and talk to me like i was friends with him. And at this point his friends ALSO STARTED FLIRTING, “wanna go get fish filets?”, “heyyy! Wanna hang out” and then my WHOLE CLASS STARTED SHIPPING ME WITH BEN, and now i luckely Got everyone to stop, not Ben and his friend group though. I feel disrepsected and i never thought it was funny, at this point i would rather be bullied by Them then this.. And i actually do Think its becoming bullying, since one of his friends (one that is as bad as Ben) has pushed me 3 times. And all of this is FOR DUCKING *ATTENTION* WHY, Im not even interested! And im not intesrested in romantic relationships UNTIL im 18-20+
Also after the class stopped shipping, is kinda like a few months ago so its been going on for… 9 months now, and the class stupid after aboug 3 months
I mostly hate when people think they can walk all over me and I'll just let them because I'm "a nice person" 😑 I'm only nice for as long as you're nice to me 🙃
aaaa i always love your earrings so much! they're so pretty im jealous
I LOVE YOU!!!
Third!
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7:55 I've been doing it since secondary school cuz i thought it was a unspoken rule... until i have siblings.... dangg i felt so triggered whenever they forgot to push in the chair 😭😭
i'm literally surrounded with each and one of the people mentioned. aka my fam, it sucks having to deal with that much toxicity.
one of the people i hang out with can’t take criticism but makes fun of other people. people seem to recognise that but do nothing about it. so i do, and apparently i’m the bad guy whenever she’s being unreasonable toward an innocent person /:
many people seem to like her because she’s annoying and all that, even my own friend left me for her lol
idk why people are attracted to shitty people, but it’s really awful
(shes also everything in this video, its really painful)
3:10 I remember this one day 2 summers ago. My ex's best friend and his buddies came to my work (Dairy Queen) and just made a huge mess on the table, chairs, and the floor. Used napkins everywhere, their half-full cups of pop, etc. When they were done eating they just left everything everywhere. I went over to their table to go start cleaning it up since I didn't have to take anyone's order or anything. They all kinda just looked at me, scratched their heads, and said "yeah...sorry we kinda made a mess. but it's ok because it's your job to clean up" and then they just left. It was so gross
Ellen i hope u’ve had an awesome day! 🫰🏽
thank you!! same goes to you!!
I realize this always too late. But sometimes it makes me wonder if I'm doing nice things because I wanted to be perceived as one? Because eventually, I grew tired of it. Feelings never get reciprocated and I end up being a laughing stock or for even trying. Maybe I am a people pleaser and I should just stop because no matter how nice or kind I can be to others... I don't feel like I get it back in some way... It's like I'm a magnet for hostile people.
early squad >:DD thank you for the upload !!
Hii sorry I'm late but still loved the videooo 💜💜💜
I love ur earrings
I do the reminding them that im a nice person but none of me or my friends are really nice
I wish I could be mean. But when I get mad... You don't wanna make me mad.
3:36
Unfortunately I’m dating one of these guys at the moment.. i remember talking to him and my friends about things I love or am interested in and he immediately compares me to all of his female family members (sisters, mom, grandma, aunt, you name it..) I also remember coming to school a few weeks ago crying because of emotional stress, physical pain and sickness at the same time, my boyfriend instead of helping me feel better, he said and I quote “I’ve been dealing with that since I was 7 years old and I’m dealing with abusive classmates too, I’m sure your feelings aren’t as strong or as visible as mine..” I share 5 out of 7 classes with him and he’s not disrespected at all, and in the classes where I’m not with him, everyone goes up to me after school and tells me what an awesome time they had with him. A few other things he does is lie, call *me* a liar, uses manipulation against me, and bribes me with things.. the one that hurts the most if flirt or act seductively with the girls I sit next to and brushes it off with a kiss on the cheek or a mini pack of smarties to make me forget about it. What really sucks is that he blames it all on his “other sides” or my friends, or even me on rare occasions. Every time I confront him about it, he denies it severely or says that he doesn’t realize what he’s doing wrong. I always end up leaving in a bad mood because of this and tells me to stop overreacting. I tried giving him the silent treatment and what he did was spam my phone with poems ripped straight off of google and the “🥺” emoji. I really want to break things off with him, but it’s too difficult to find out a way on my own. If anyone could please give me some advice I would really appreciate it..
Kyutie really uploads daily 😩✋🥹💕
i tell people i'm evil.. lol
HAHAHAHA
People who use "I tell the truth how it is" as a front to being mean. You don't need to sugarcoat everything under 5 inches of sugar, but tact exists.
Also, people who go after the person who their partner cheated with as opposed to their cheating partner. "You tried to steal them!!" ....what?
Ok for the “it’s their job anyway” I saw my sister did not want to go ask for help from a worker to help her find something and I offered to ask and then she said no we can’t bother them but then I said it was no biggie it’s their job anyway and now I’m like was I a jerk for saying that 0-0
No if you ask for help that's not being an asshole, if you genuenly have looked and can't find the item. The "it's their job anyway" is more when people leave trash around when they could have just took a few sec to throw it away for example. Or when you as a customer is being overly lazy in general I guess and it ends up causing too much disruption. Very common to see at fast food restaurants that people just leave a table full of stuff behind and the workers are too busy to go clean tables all the time so then it's an asshole move to do that, unless you are in a hurry. If you leave trash behind in a busy Mcdonalds that's 1(or sometimes multiple) tables where people can't sit now so it fucks it up for the next guest that has nowhere to sit and then people will be complaining and then the already stressed worker gets shat on even tho it's not their fault... Atleast if enough people are asshole like that it can cause some problems.
This is useful .I learned something more
5:56 my sister is 20 and one day she was talking crap about my bf to her coworkers DURING HER SHIFT while i was shopping with my parents, she was saying “i don’t date twigs, your bf is a twig” blah blah blah and they were all LAUGHING.
I got I trouble for something that was made up. People who gossip
have not else to but talk behind there back.
The first one, if they’re both playfully insulting each other but not about GENUINE insecurities it’s fine I think.
I love your videos, I always watch them before I got to uni
thank u!!
Ellen I love your eyes . SO PRETTY
I realised i push my chair in always. I didn't even know i did it lol
4:32 is literally the situation with my "best friend"
5:04 Yup. My entire school is people like that 💀
So my family members are not nice, and I'm probably not nice too : ( its hard when youre aware how toxic people are and you cant run away because of responsibilities
Your earrings are pretty! Where did you get them from?🥺🥺
"Oh you selfish butthole" 😌
-Kyutie 2022
(I will use this next time hehehe)
The first one was definitely but my mom but if she's full on bullyingbme and I defend myself my dad says I'm out of line
there was a girl in my class who acted wicked sweet but anytime someone did something to upset her she got wicked weird. One time a kid knocked over her book so she made him get on his knees to apologize. the fuq
Oh my god I got here 40 minutes after this was posted.
0:30 and 4:30 those are what my sis does lol. She goes "im a nice person so ill stop fighting" yet continues fighting. And when she says her side of the story she says I hit (defended) her for no reason. So when its my turn to tell the story I say "ill tell the security camera footage" and ACTUALLY tell my parents why I hit her and why she hit me xD
would you consider someone an a##hole for gossiping about someone but the person they gossip about was gossiping about them first?
For the second one i do that a lot in a joking way
0:31 half the messages on r/nice guys lol
i love your videos so much💕
Hey kyuite!
i'm actually the person on the thumbnail, not a flex to be "not nice" that's for sure
Hey Kyutie!Love your videos❤️
I will say I’m a somewhat nice person until you hurt a friend which I’m not nice when I talk with Random people not to be mean just cause I’m board but my brain for some reason looks at a persons worst features and or fears by looking at a person’s demeanor when they talk about physical features and as soon as they do the 180 turn I sit there and say every last fear they have about themselves and why most likely most of their friends are fake and or toxic. Yea mean but I had to sit and get bullied for being nice to bad people and gained a lovely skill in psychology
This video helped me to also do an intrsopection 🤣
HIIIII KYUTIE!!!!!
I'm like the thumbnail but that only because what people think of criticism is what kind of shoes I wear like wtf??
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I see some of these red flags in some of my own friends :((( yikesss
I hope my crush noticed me whenever I pushed my chair in in the library 😂😂😂
Edit: omg Ellen replied 🥺.. I'm seeing this after 10 months
HAHAHAHA
Sorry i'm 2 hours late, i was at school. I just got home