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I’m a first time father. This was very insightful cause these hormones are no joke! I wish every other first time father or fathers of a new pregnancy a safe one. We gotta stay strong!🥲
Not all men are as sweet and caring as yours. I was beaten and abused by my child’s father all through out my pregnancy just because he didn’t want a child and resented me for not getting an abortion. I left him when my child was born because he was a danger to both me and my newborn daughter.
My girlfriend is a month pregnant and I’m terrified and so happy at the same time! Video and comment section really helped me feel not alone haha I’m only 19 and I’m going to do the best that I can :)
He was born 8/31/21 at 9:00am a month before his due date. He was really small born 4lbs and immediately hooked up to CPAP. His size was due to Placental Abruption. We were really worried for him, he stayed in the NICU for about a week and a half and needed Extra help breathing and eating. He is now home and is a happy healthy baby boy. He’s doing great, eating and breathing like a champ! He is now 6lbs, he also loves baths and tummy time! It feels just like yesterday I got the news that my fiancé was pregnant. I wasn’t sure how good I was going to be as a dad but I’m learning everyday👶💙
I'm sure you'll be a great dad. Last year during covid lockdown my next door neighbour was pregnant with her first child I was spending time at home getting bored and eating junk food protein shakes I ended up embarrassingly any much more white in seeded throughout the pregnancy
@@Chunk01 congratulations bossman! Just found out 3 days ago that my wife and I are expecting, and I’m going through all the emotions. Just want to be there for her right now. You’re doing a great job
Just found out a week ago. I’m 37 she’s 27, we both have good jobs, we get along really well, both our parents are over the moon. But it hasn’t hit me yet. I’m just doing whatever she wants. This $hit is about to get real AF!!! Great video tho man, really did an excellent job!!!
So…I came home from the 32nd week OBS visit and suddenly, I absolutely love Circle of Life. I performed it five times while practicing solo lullabies for my baby. It’s always been a great song I know, but it never resonated with me personally before today. This is obviously going to be the ride and purpose for my life! Keep on posting, and I will keep on learning.
Sir, you give amazing advice. Thank you. My lovely lady is 4-5 weeks along and her sex drive has been so spotty and I certainty have not known how to deal with it, but I definitely will now! I'm not gonna tell her I watched this cheat code of a video!
Hey dad university I barely started watching your movie and what I can say your videos are already going to help me out to be a first time dad. Thank you so much for your tips and advice for the dad all round the world. I’m definitely subscribed to your channel.
Nah u can’t cuz I’m dealing w it now w my girl. She has 5 months to go and I’ve been doing a horrible job, esp thinking I can go against all that, hormones and mentally; I’ve been failing. I need to step up w this knowledge
Jay Mor just stay strong bro. It’s definitely hard, but once your little one is here you’ll be appreciative of all the changes and emotions she had to go through to bring you a healthy baby
I appreciate that Easy M. How have things been going for you since tour little one has been here; things w your lady and child altogether? I’m looking fwd to what u said I am gonna be so proud of when it’s all done
Her first pregnancy was difficult for her, the second with me was with a lot of distance and I was not involved. Now we are living together and she is pregnant. I am doing my best to enjoy her pregnancy and I listen all of your advices. I even bought a robot to clean the floor while I am working. The most difficult thing is talking. I try to be silent and quiet to avoid any hurt or arguments. Thank you for your advices.
Just found out we are pregnant few days ago so taking all the feelings in...... this will be our first baby. Trying to think about how to get myself ready for it all since I never had a father figure but always wanted to be a dad. I'm nervous excited because of the timing during this covid 19. I'm also trying to find stuff to read to know more about being a better partner during this whole process.
Been with my woman since i was a Teenager im like 36 now. We just found out 2 days ago shes pregnant. i drove too the store and got her 2 tests both were positive. We are both Excited and happy. both of our first Child. im glad we already had our own place, and i got a Steady job in Construction.
sadly i am a drug addict. im 23. but i wanna do right for my child. i love drugs more than the mother or my child tho if we are being honest. thank u for these videos. i didnt grow up with a father. so this gives me good motivation. thank u. much love. i will change
This is a helpful video. This is my first time being a father and I am 40 years old. I guess my biggest concern is making a huge mistake. She keeps saying that I did not do anything wrong but I feel like have.
My wife is currently at 10.5 weeks tomorrow and she is a nervous wreck. Her sister was unable to conceive so she is at a point where she is googling any little thing that pops up. It doesn't help that I am a pretty chill guy, while I understand her concerns I stay positive and optimistic. She says I don't understand her fears but I do. I try to tell her stress can only do harm and I've learned that isn't something I should say. She says that puts even more pressure on her. I'm not sure how to cope with this as I want to be supportive but don't want to fall into the stress and pessimism mentally.
Just passed the 12 weeks. Hormones are a serious force. “Everything will be ok” is something that’s keep being told to me. I hope it’s true. I’ll keep researching. Thanks for the video
First time dad! Don't know where to start or where to end. Alone me and my wife in a country we don't even know the language! This will be one hell of an experience for both of us! Good luck to all first time dads 😊
Me and my "conflictive" fiance watched together. He said "I will win against the hormones and I will not be going out at 3am to get u food" Yeah bet. We will see
Mine thought he'd win..... lol just took once of saying "fine, what do you think makes a good step father?? I'm sure we can find those qualities for Annalisas next dad". He paled, I laughed and got my midnight McDouble.
honest truth, my wife took her birth control as a part of her depression regimen. I am having a hard time dealing with constant mood swings and cooking and cleaning. I feel tired by the tossing and turning at night, working three jobs, and her new heightened senses. Honestly, we are 3 months in and I feel like I am falling apart. The pregnancy has forced her to stop working. So I am at a loss.
Sounds like you may need a little self care. Taking either a small amount of time during the day or every so often to take a break and re-charge. Also both of may consider getting some professional help to talk through some of the things you are feeling and experiencing. You.can do it individually.
Hell This Is My First in august but what ever she wants I want there for im not the bad man "Hey Babe I Want Tacos For Dinner" Me: Ok I was wanting tacos too lolol
I’m not a father but I thought it would be fun to join in on the video session give advice to new fathers on what us pregnant women , want or need. One thing I can say is pregnant women, are very uncomfortable we just want to know that our men think we are beautiful no matter how big we get.
My gut instinct was that this was going to be just complaining about how hard it is being the dad but this was actually a really well made video. I wish the dad got asked how he’s doing more and got more attention though, I will be asking for food at 3am and he deserves credit for putting up with my bs 😂
Absolutely great video. I'm am excited about my son's birth were half way through. Wile I know this video is kinds old. I had to post this anyway. With all of the resent covid epidemic it's to say the least a very worrisome and unenjoyable experience for is both we are still excited for our first child. But the with everything closed it makes it hard for her cravings, we cant enjoy doctors appointments together. We just found out the gender and I couldn't even attend. she didnt get to hear the heart beat she was notified of the gender and that it was healthy no weight or measure ments. This is all things I belive to very important for parents especially mothers with bonding with the new to be child. Our doctors appointments are now canceled and now over the phone. I'm still hanging on to my positivity but I feel the excitement is soon going to drain for her. I would appreciate if you could do an update video. Maby some interview calls with some soon to be fathers and how they are holding up and things they are doing to deal with the situation. maybe some share of knowledge. I appreciate your videos thanks.
Thank you for sharing your experience. The current situation is certainly unique. I'm glad you are focused on the positive. I'll take the suggestions for the video into consideration!
Global pandemic. Difficulty in finding work. Doing freelance and consultancy work but lost projects due to the pandemic = lost possible financial opportunities and earnings. Savings are depleted. Bills are piling up. Now worried about the coming expenses. Still have about 3-months to go. The good things are my wife is healthy & happy, and so is the baby (my soon-to-be first born). Congenital ultrasound is next week so praying we have a healthy normal baby girl.
My wife has miscarriages in the past before she met me .she's only 4 weeks pregnant. Am nervous as if this pregnancy would crush her. I want to everything I can to support and prevent a miscarriage and also as result I am having to hold back my excitement as don't want to pressure her. Got tip by the way
Alright just moved to Cali with my girlfriend, 4 months in she’s now pregnant... 7 weeks today. I have a job that can pay well if I do the work, she doesn’t work we have bills up the wazoo. Finances is what we’re both scared of. We both don’t want to go into crazy debt, nor do we not want to be ready for the baby. What can I do in regards to finances to make this process easier? Every bit of what’s left over goes to our baby savings. And everything is planned out to the tee. We’re just barely scraping by. Do I get a second job? Do I sell my stuff? Do I quit my current job and get a crappier one that pays more?
Im a first time father to be. And ik a parents first grandchild is very important to them. But how should i go about letting my babys mothers mother know that this thete certain things thats is the parent right n responsibility to do. Such as setting up the 1st obgyn appointment and finding a doc to deliver our baby. Were only 8 weeks 2 days so were still early into it. But in my eyes i feel like the mother and myself should pick who delivers our baby. I feel like it should be somebody that her and myself should get to know and trust! Am i wrong?!? I know even tho its our baby we should still value others opinions n i truley do appricate her mom trying to help. But theres a difference between helping and takong control! So how/what is best way to let her mother know?
The family pet would be third and your last has me deaddddd💀😭😭😭 I’m 4 weeks and my bf is excited! It’s 5:00 a.m. and he definitely has to get up to watch this 😭
Man I’m having the worst time so far lol we are in her first trimester and the morning sickness is insane and she is really moody lol but I know it will be worth it in the end
What do i do, when the woman I'm with doesn't show me any affection? She doesn't return any of the love. She's always angry,and threatening me, holding me hostage with the pregnancy. She demands i make multiple changes and refuses to own up to any of her short comings. She circles all of our discussions towards things I've done wrong, completely ignoring my side of the situation. I can't do this...i can't be her punching bag any longer. What do i do?
You need to get some distance. Ive been dealing with the same exact thing. Weve lived together the entire pregnancy and ive done literally everything. Supported her completely all by myself while she has done absolutely nothing. Given her everything shes asked for and served her every beck and call and have seen basically zero apreciation for any of it. She finally got a job that she starts in a couple weeks and were due in july and since then shes acted like i havent done a single thing lol like somehow someone or something else has paid for everything and done everything. My biggest problem is that i take things too personally so i get really upset after this nagging goes on for like 3 or 4 days straight while ive politely and calmy put up with it and i just lose it and we have another fight. Well i cant take it anymore. Im a very understanding and communicative person and she has virtually 0 communication skills so getting through to hear is nearly impossible. I made her go stay back with her mother for now otherwise im afraid i might literally snap and do something theres no turning back from. Ive got alot of self control but this woman is something else. Well anyways were not around each other 24/7 anymore and i think not having it so good has kind of opened her eyes a little to how good she had it and now we see each other every couple of days and things have gotten so much better. I didnt have a clue it would work this way either i thought we were done but finally getting space from each other has done wonders and i think everything might be okay now. Im no professional but this is my experience with an exceptionally difficult woman lol
The way i see it. Her "want" to see you has to be stronger than her urge to complain about something miniscule. And dont stay together for any periods long enough for her to "get her fill" of your time and start looking at anything to go off about. Make your time together precious so that she learns to appreciate it and not feel like you will just always be there no matter what she does. Its also very tricky though if you dont do it just right you could very well set her off by trying this and push her away too much making your problem worse or lose her all together. I guess it just comes down to how much youve had. Because like i said i was done it was over as far as i was concearned and then splitting up changed things. Maybe she realized she didnt want to lose me who knows. But if you're not prepared to lose her you might not want to take my advice
If you wanna know more about my particular situation please feel free to contact me directly. It sounds like youve been in a pretty similar situation. I dont know you or your woman but mine is particularly complex. She has alot of past trauma making causing her to have issues. Maybe you can relate... Idk. But ppl like to joke about their pregnant wives and act like they've been through the same shit but i assure you they have not lol my situation is far from normal. Shes been through a whole lot in her life and is dealing with it the best she can and hasnt had the privilege to experience certain things to teach her healthy coping mechanisms ect. Shes had virtually no good role models her entire life no one to teach her how to be an adult mentally and emotionally
Im also extremely curious to hear someone with more knowledge' reply. I doubt my methods are anywhere near a good option but i did the only thing i could to protect both of us and while its probably not even remotely the best choice it just so happened to be more progressive than not so idk. Just whatever you do dont be one sided about it. Stay strong stay positive be compassionate and dont be a dick because even though she might be ruthless she is still pregnant and the woman you (im assuming) fell in love with. Its going to be completely up to you to figure out how to finesse the situation just right and be the bigger person no matter what happens. Try to understand that its not her fault. Dont put blame anywhere. She needs your help now more than ever and theres a very thin line between pushing her away and pulling her closer with every little thing said or done
Try to reach her empathy. Let her know that you want to give her everything she wants and needs from you but you're just struggling to do so exactly how she wants it. Try to come to some agreements. Show her you're making an effort and ask her to bare with you. Explain to her that you know you're not perfect but you really do want to be. After all she is just human like yourself and the rest of us.
Hi I'm a 32year old pregnant woman.. i know this video is for men but I need help from anyone at this point. i'm 16 weeks pregnant with my second child. My husband and and I each have 1 child a piece that we had in our early adulthood so we don't remember much about this process... lately we have been bumping heads because he feels like i'm not very nice to him.. it's been a constant argument since I got pregnant but i'm really trying..i truly feel like im doing my best to give him the love and affection he needs but it seems like it isn't enough... i'm just not in the mood to joke around like he's ALWAYS doing.. he gets on my nervous and i feel like im not getting the kind of affection I would like so it pushes me away. i was on your page trying to get a better understanding of what men may be going through to find help, any suggestions?
You are both going through stuff. It sounds like you both need to be more empathetic towards the other person. If your relationship is strong except for during the pregnancy then ok. But I'm guessing there are underlying issues. I may suggest you seek a local counselor who can dig a little deeper. Also see if your husband is willing to watch some of these videos. Maybe you can watch them together and then have respectful conversation about it
Any other new father here have their significant other become like distant? Idk just weird vibes now and just doing what I can to make sure she’s comfortable and stress free. Any words of advice I’d be grateful
My fiancee's pregnant with our first, I just keep getting accused of all-sorts, not-caring, being insensitive, being selfish etc...........but the thing is, she's about 17 / 18 weeks now..........at what point does it start getting better ? Mood swings !!!!!!!!!!!!!
My wife hasnt worked in 3 years. She had brain surgury and had brain damage. She doesnt like mt family and her family doesnt help or do anythinf but make things harder. Trying to take care of her was hard enough. Now that shes pregnant, shes found a way to do even less. I was already past burnt out.
Me and my ex found out she was pregnant after we broke up. The relationship between her and I wasn’t healthy at all and now that we’re not together I am completely lost as to how to even be involved or include myself other than doctors appointments. Any advice would help. Thank you.
Drs appointments are a good start. You may also discuss with her if there is anything she would want from you during this time. The major thing will be once the baby is born.
I live an hour away from my pregnant gf and just got out of the marines straight to amazon. Im so tired after work and just want to lay down and pass out. Apperantly I have fallen out of love and dont want to talk to her. I screenshotted the whole convo and sent it to my close friends group chat. They all (even the ladies) reassured im a really good guy and she isn't seeing what im doing. One of my friends told me its just her hormones. Another told me it was just the distance... this video helps clear my confusion... stress anger and anxiety just a little... thanks..
My girlfriend is pregnant she doesn’t wanna give me any say in the baby’s name? Is that normal this is both our first time being parent but the conversation always ends in “I’m the one carrying the baby” aside from that she was always a sloppy person not very neat at all but since she found out she was pregnant she wants me to do all the work (cooking,cleaning packing all our stuff because we are moving) not that I have a problem doing the physical part but I’d like her to be more productive and supportive then just being bossy and mean all the time
Can you PLEASEEE tell me what’s wrong... my girlfriend is 17 weeks and around 13 weeks she had got super distant with me. We’re not even flirty anymore. Anytime I say she’s beautiful or I miss you, she just kind of shrugs it off. And before it was sunshine and butterflies. So wtf?? We’ve only been dating 5 months as well.. I’m scared of losing her :(
@@DadUniversity she just blamed her hormones 100% but it’s so clear to anyone that she’s just not interested anymore and it’s making me feel really used. Idk how to get out of my head and just calm down about it. I’m trying to be strong and be ready for my son to be born but it’s hard to deal with this and I don’t know what to do...
@@angelherrera9358 Hormones are pretty powerful. But also use some empathy and imagine being in her place. She probably doesn't really understand what is going on with her either. Ask her what you can do to support her. You may need to back off and give her some distance if that is what she needs.
6 months in and she is way more pleasant lol... rough start sick and tired. Now I just gotta make sure there's ice cream in the freezer. Ice cream and snacks were exclusively mine. She eat her fruits and yogurts... then outta the blue, pints of Ben and Jerry's would go missing over night lol... "Did you eat all 3 pints"? ""No the baby ate half"" lol... now I just make sure our freezer has plenty of the flavors she likes that I dont care for... hoping that my chocolate therapy or brownie batter survive the night... most times they don't :(
Could you do a video on mothers who tend to exclude the fathers efforts or help and or saying it’s only her pregnancy and leaving fathers feeling left out and worthless and how although mothers are going through a lot of changed and sacrifices it’s important they at times let the father know it’s not how they really feel it’s just a mood swing or what not cause for me it’s hard to tell especially being a new relationship to tell if that’s how she really feels or if it’s a mood swing. Also I don’t wanna complain but how do you communicate feeling felt out and not even treated like their loving support system and appreciative of it . With out sounding like your complaining because I find it hard to support when your constantly bein told how you do nothing how bad you are but your doing everything and more you could think of…. Or man I asking to much ?
I would say that our Dave Ramsey debt snowball has to come to a hault until baby comes...(May) My wife nor i really like the field we are in...i would like to get involved in rental property investing so eventually she and i can get out of the hospital... i will be a "Mr. Mom"... everytime i try and make a 5-10 year plan to benefit my family... i feel my pregnant wife unintentionally tends to "rain on that parade" with a comment like "i dont know what you expect... we have no money for a down payment and we have to save for baby...." I look at paying off her car and student loan is freeing up >$700 a month... a nice stream of excess cash for baby... She looks at a pile of cash in savings as more of a security.... Same goal... two means of accomplishing it
I would bring her to a doctor and see exactly what is causing the pain. It could be extra weight, her posture, or other issues. It's best to have a doctor evaluate it. As for foods, same thing. Have a nutritionist or specialist help create a meal plan.
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I’m a first time father. This was very insightful cause these hormones are no joke! I wish every other first time father or fathers of a new pregnancy a safe one. We gotta stay strong!🥲
Thank you bro, I appreciate the motivation
If you're watching videos like this, you 110% better off than most!
Actidad lol I’m watching it for myself as it’s looking like I’ll have to be the dad my SELF
Seem your comment and recently found out I will be a 1st time dad. These videos have some great pointers. Helpful so far.
I thank God for men.. as a woman, what would we do without them?! Especially for sweet caring husbands/dads. On behalf of all women THANK YOU
yes thank you for making this video
Not all men are as sweet and caring as yours. I was beaten and abused by my child’s father all through out my pregnancy just because he didn’t want a child and resented me for not getting an abortion. I left him when my child was born because he was a danger to both me and my newborn daughter.
@@evitas9443 I'm sorry to hear about that 😔💔 I hope you are safe now , and may God bless you and your child
@@evitas9443should've left when he started beating you wtf
My girlfriend is a month pregnant and I’m terrified and so happy at the same time! Video and comment section really helped me feel not alone haha I’m only 19 and I’m going to do the best that I can :)
You’re going to be great! I’m 19 and I can’t even imagine being a parent, the fact that you’re preparing for it with an open mind is so inspiring ❤️
Dude exactly me
He was born 8/31/21 at 9:00am a month before his due date. He was really small born 4lbs and immediately hooked up to CPAP. His size was due to Placental Abruption. We were really worried for him, he stayed in the NICU for about a week and a half and needed Extra help breathing and eating. He is now home and is a happy healthy baby boy. He’s doing great, eating and breathing like a champ! He is now 6lbs, he also loves baths and tummy time! It feels just like yesterday I got the news that my fiancé was pregnant. I wasn’t sure how good I was going to be as a dad but I’m learning everyday👶💙
I'm sure you'll be a great dad. Last year during covid lockdown my next door neighbour was pregnant with her first child I was spending time at home getting bored and eating junk food protein shakes I ended up embarrassingly any much more white in seeded throughout the pregnancy
@@Chunk01 congratulations bossman! Just found out 3 days ago that my wife and I are expecting, and I’m going through all the emotions. Just want to be there for her right now. You’re doing a great job
Week 20 now and she's asking for EVERYTHING. Thanks for this, im motivated now..
You're gonna be awesome Glenn! Are you excited or nervous for fatherhood?
First trimester was a rollercoaster of emotions. Great to get support from other dads and these videos. Please keep it going! We're now on week 19 :-)
Congrats! And thanks for supporting us by watching the videos. We will continue to make them as long as people are getting value from them.
Going through it. 1st trimester a beast
Just found out a week ago. I’m 37 she’s 27, we both have good jobs, we get along really well, both our parents are over the moon. But it hasn’t hit me yet. I’m just doing whatever she wants. This $hit is about to get real AF!!! Great video tho man, really did an excellent job!!!
We in the same boat man. Its about to go down
Why didn't they just use a pregnant women to kill thanos , like I know im not tripping
Thanos Probably has a mother, and she would smack some sense into him
My first time. I’ve watched like 6 of these so far. 5 weeks into the first 9 months . 🧢
Congrats on being a first time dad and glad you are enjoying the videos!
Me too bro she 4 weeks
4 weeks
Me too. 5 weeks.
Hey same here! 5 weeks! Confirmed today.
So…I came home from the 32nd week OBS visit and suddenly, I absolutely love Circle of Life. I performed it five times while practicing solo lullabies for my baby. It’s always been a great song I know, but it never resonated with me personally before today. This is obviously going to be the ride and purpose for my life! Keep on posting, and I will keep on learning.
Sir, you give amazing advice. Thank you. My lovely lady is 4-5 weeks along and her sex drive has been so spotty and I certainty have not known how to deal with it, but I definitely will now! I'm not gonna tell her I watched this cheat code of a video!
Hey dad university I barely started watching your movie and what I can say your videos are already going to help me out to be a first time dad. Thank you so much for your tips and advice for the dad all round the world. I’m definitely subscribed to your channel.
"You can't win against hormones"
I have learned this a long time ago even before my wife got pregnant
I’m just learning this and man this is hard
Idk my girlfriend may or may not be pregnant me I'm just trying to be as prepared as possible so I can be ready
I wish I came across these videos earlier on during the pregnancy. You really can’t win against the hormones. 😂🤦🏽♂️
EasyMoney LITERALLY!!!
Man that's what I'm scared of! 😲
Nah u can’t cuz I’m dealing w it now w my girl. She has 5 months to go and I’ve been doing a horrible job, esp thinking I can go against all that, hormones and mentally; I’ve been failing. I need to step up w this knowledge
Jay Mor just stay strong bro. It’s definitely hard, but once your little one is here you’ll be appreciative of all the changes and emotions she had to go through to bring you a healthy baby
I appreciate that Easy M. How have things been going for you since tour little one has been here; things w your lady and child altogether? I’m looking fwd to what u said I am gonna be so proud of when it’s all done
Keep it up buddy! You don't know how much you are helping us!
Her first pregnancy was difficult for her, the second with me was with a lot of distance and I was not involved. Now we are living together and she is pregnant. I am doing my best to enjoy her pregnancy and I listen all of your advices. I even bought a robot to clean the floor while I am working.
The most difficult thing is talking. I try to be silent and quiet to avoid any hurt or arguments.
Thank you for your advices.
Just found out we are pregnant few days ago so taking all the feelings in...... this will be our first baby. Trying to think about how to get myself ready for it all since I never had a father figure but always wanted to be a dad. I'm nervous excited because of the timing during this covid 19. I'm also trying to find stuff to read to know more about being a better partner during this whole process.
Welcome to the community.
He got to tip 3 & i was ready to turn the video off cause i didn’t wanna hear it but he’s 100% right 😂
Been with my woman since i was a Teenager im like 36 now. We just found out 2 days ago shes pregnant. i drove too the store and got her 2 tests both were positive. We are both Excited and happy. both of our first Child. im glad we already had our own place, and i got a Steady job in Construction.
Bless you and thank you for explaining this to my husband.
First time dad and I am excited and scared at the same time. I only wish for excellent health for my baby and wife.
Congrats! When is the baby due?
Dad University August 11, 2020!! Feels like an eternity.
Not a first time dad, but a first timer dealing with pregnancy with my soon to be wife. Thank you for all the tips.
sadly i am a drug addict. im 23. but i wanna do right for my child. i love drugs more than the mother or my child tho if we are being honest. thank u for these videos. i didnt grow up with a father. so this gives me good motivation. thank u. much love. i will change
This is a helpful video. This is my first time being a father and I am 40 years old. I guess my biggest concern is making a huge mistake. She keeps saying that I did not do anything wrong but I feel like have.
We all make mistakes. It's part of parenting. Just learn from your mistakes and continue to make effort. You will be great.
That hormone things are no joke. We are in 18th weeks now, and glad her mood became better.
yes hormones are powerful!
My wife is currently at 10.5 weeks tomorrow and she is a nervous wreck. Her sister was unable to conceive so she is at a point where she is googling any little thing that pops up. It doesn't help that I am a pretty chill guy, while I understand her concerns I stay positive and optimistic. She says I don't understand her fears but I do. I try to tell her stress can only do harm and I've learned that isn't something I should say. She says that puts even more pressure on her. I'm not sure how to cope with this as I want to be supportive but don't want to fall into the stress and pessimism mentally.
Learn empathy as much as you can and practice it every day.
Just passed the 12 weeks. Hormones are a serious force. “Everything will be ok” is something that’s keep being told to me. I hope it’s true. I’ll keep researching. Thanks for the video
Thanks for the advice am in the boat....
First time dad! Don't know where to start or where to end. Alone me and my wife in a country we don't even know the language! This will be one hell of an experience for both of us! Good luck to all first time dads 😊
I'm just glad I'm already doing all of this, thank you buddy.
Dude I found out last night at like 8 pm this is the second video of his I have watched in a row
Me and my "conflictive" fiance watched together.
He said "I will win against the hormones and I will not be going out at 3am to get u food"
Yeah bet. We will see
Oh bouy
Let me know how that went
Mine is young minded and easily irritated. Always has to have the last word
Mine thought he'd win..... lol just took once of saying "fine, what do you think makes a good step father?? I'm sure we can find those qualities for Annalisas next dad". He paled, I laughed and got my midnight McDouble.
honest truth, my wife took her birth control as a part of her depression regimen. I am having a hard time dealing with constant mood swings and cooking and cleaning. I feel tired by the tossing and turning at night, working three jobs, and her new heightened senses. Honestly, we are 3 months in and I feel like I am falling apart. The pregnancy has forced her to stop working. So I am at a loss.
Sounds like you may need a little self care. Taking either a small amount of time during the day or every so often to take a break and re-charge. Also both of may consider getting some professional help to talk through some of the things you are feeling and experiencing. You.can do it individually.
Hell This Is My First in august but what ever she wants I want there for im not the bad man "Hey Babe I Want Tacos For Dinner" Me: Ok I was wanting tacos too lolol
You have learned the secret quick my friend. A happy wife is a happy life!
Amazing video ! All these videos help out a lot ! I appreciate it a lot thank you !
I’m not a father but I thought it would be fun to join in on the video session give advice to new fathers on what us pregnant women , want or need. One thing I can say is pregnant women, are very uncomfortable we just want to know that our men think we are beautiful no matter how big we get.
I just found out my wife is pregnant. I need to watch all these videos. They do make me feel better
Congrats! ....and we are so happy these videos help.
It's so much easier to say than do. I have a headache daily.😣 I'm going to have figure something out .
1st trimester has been crazy but is going well
just found your channel and its good for my journey to became a new dad. Keep up the good work!
Wish you the best on your journey big dawg
@@tonetoni8110 thanks my G
3rd tip is gold! Thanks for the video!
Thank you for the tips
1 week dad here 😊 feeling excited 😃
I had so much to ask an you answered half in one video love this guy thank you
My gut instinct was that this was going to be just complaining about how hard it is being the dad but this was actually a really well made video. I wish the dad got asked how he’s doing more and got more attention though, I will be asking for food at 3am and he deserves credit for putting up with my bs 😂
Absolutely great video. I'm am excited about my son's birth were half way through. Wile I know this video is kinds old. I had to post this anyway. With all of the resent covid epidemic it's to say the least a very worrisome and unenjoyable experience for is both we are still excited for our first child. But the with everything closed it makes it hard for her cravings, we cant enjoy doctors appointments together. We just found out the gender and I couldn't even attend. she didnt get to hear the heart beat she was notified of the gender and that it was healthy no weight or measure ments. This is all things I belive to very important for parents especially mothers with bonding with the new to be child. Our doctors appointments are now canceled and now over the phone. I'm still hanging on to my positivity but I feel the excitement is soon going to drain for her. I would appreciate if you could do an update video. Maby some interview calls with some soon to be fathers and how they are holding up and things they are doing to deal with the situation. maybe some share of knowledge. I appreciate your videos thanks.
Thank you for sharing your experience. The current situation is certainly unique. I'm glad you are focused on the positive. I'll take the suggestions for the video into consideration!
Global pandemic. Difficulty in finding work. Doing freelance and consultancy work but lost projects due to the pandemic = lost possible financial opportunities and earnings. Savings are depleted. Bills are piling up. Now worried about the coming expenses. Still have about 3-months to go. The good things are my wife is healthy & happy, and so is the baby (my soon-to-be first born). Congenital ultrasound is next week so praying we have a healthy normal baby girl.
I'm in my second year of college and just found out my wife is pregnant a couple days ago. Time to buckle down.
You will be awesome!
This is really good advice thank you! You can’t win against hormones even if you try!! :-)
Truth! Be respectful and listen brother. You're gonna be great!
Wow this was awesome bro I definitely subscribed to your channel
Glad you enjoyed it. Welcome to the community!
Going to keep watching these videos.... helps me calm down a little bit 🤣 week 12 first trimester is almost over and we survived
Awesome to hear the videos are helping. You will be great!
Almost 2 years later and my toddler is smart as a whip!
My wife has miscarriages in the past before she met me .she's only 4 weeks pregnant. Am nervous as if this pregnancy would crush her. I want to everything I can to support and prevent a miscarriage and also as result I am having to hold back my excitement as don't want to pressure her.
Got tip by the way
This guy is hilarious, great info and a good laugh!
Thanks for the comments!
Alright just moved to Cali with my girlfriend, 4 months in she’s now pregnant... 7 weeks today. I have a job that can pay well if I do the work, she doesn’t work we have bills up the wazoo. Finances is what we’re both scared of. We both don’t want to go into crazy debt, nor do we not want to be ready for the baby. What can I do in regards to finances to make this process easier? Every bit of what’s left over goes to our baby savings. And everything is planned out to the tee. We’re just barely scraping by. Do I get a second job? Do I sell my stuff? Do I quit my current job and get a crappier one that pays more?
Any advice would be great, thanks!
Look up Dave Ramsey and learn his teachings.
Thanks for this.
I needed some advice as a future soon to be father 🙏🏽
Im a first time father to be. And ik a parents first grandchild is very important to them. But how should i go about letting my babys mothers mother know that this thete certain things thats is the parent right n responsibility to do. Such as setting up the 1st obgyn appointment and finding a doc to deliver our baby. Were only 8 weeks 2 days so were still early into it. But in my eyes i feel like the mother and myself should pick who delivers our baby. I feel like it should be somebody that her and myself should get to know and trust! Am i wrong?!? I know even tho its our baby we should still value others opinions n i truley do appricate her mom trying to help. But theres a difference between helping and takong control! So how/what is best way to let her mother know?
Let her talk with her mother. You shouldn't get involved directly.
thanks for the tips
This is great, really great
Tip number 1: dont buy a pet dog. Be number 3 not number 4. 😆 where can i buy one of those cool dad university hoodies? Id like a xxl or 3xl
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The family pet would be third and your last has me deaddddd💀😭😭😭 I’m 4 weeks and my bf is excited! It’s 5:00 a.m. and he definitely has to get up to watch this 😭
Man I’m having the worst time so far lol we are in her first trimester and the morning sickness is insane and she is really moody lol but I know it will be worth it in the end
I'm with you
Ooooh my this helps a lot thank you so much
Glad it helped!
Just had a baby girl yesterday. Thank you for your videos, they've been really insightful
Them hormones are no joke. 😅
I overthink a lot while shes pregnant like how to handle her moods or if I'll be a good father
Yes overthinking is common. You will be great.
Let’s see what happen great tips
What do i do, when the woman I'm with doesn't show me any affection? She doesn't return any of the love. She's always angry,and threatening me, holding me hostage with the pregnancy. She demands i make multiple changes and refuses to own up to any of her short comings. She circles all of our discussions towards things I've done wrong, completely ignoring my side of the situation. I can't do this...i can't be her punching bag any longer. What do i do?
You need to get some distance. Ive been dealing with the same exact thing. Weve lived together the entire pregnancy and ive done literally everything. Supported her completely all by myself while she has done absolutely nothing. Given her everything shes asked for and served her every beck and call and have seen basically zero apreciation for any of it. She finally got a job that she starts in a couple weeks and were due in july and since then shes acted like i havent done a single thing lol like somehow someone or something else has paid for everything and done everything. My biggest problem is that i take things too personally so i get really upset after this nagging goes on for like 3 or 4 days straight while ive politely and calmy put up with it and i just lose it and we have another fight. Well i cant take it anymore. Im a very understanding and communicative person and she has virtually 0 communication skills so getting through to hear is nearly impossible. I made her go stay back with her mother for now otherwise im afraid i might literally snap and do something theres no turning back from. Ive got alot of self control but this woman is something else. Well anyways were not around each other 24/7 anymore and i think not having it so good has kind of opened her eyes a little to how good she had it and now we see each other every couple of days and things have gotten so much better. I didnt have a clue it would work this way either i thought we were done but finally getting space from each other has done wonders and i think everything might be okay now. Im no professional but this is my experience with an exceptionally difficult woman lol
The way i see it. Her "want" to see you has to be stronger than her urge to complain about something miniscule. And dont stay together for any periods long enough for her to "get her fill" of your time and start looking at anything to go off about. Make your time together precious so that she learns to appreciate it and not feel like you will just always be there no matter what she does. Its also very tricky though if you dont do it just right you could very well set her off by trying this and push her away too much making your problem worse or lose her all together. I guess it just comes down to how much youve had. Because like i said i was done it was over as far as i was concearned and then splitting up changed things. Maybe she realized she didnt want to lose me who knows. But if you're not prepared to lose her you might not want to take my advice
If you wanna know more about my particular situation please feel free to contact me directly. It sounds like youve been in a pretty similar situation. I dont know you or your woman but mine is particularly complex. She has alot of past trauma making causing her to have issues. Maybe you can relate... Idk. But ppl like to joke about their pregnant wives and act like they've been through the same shit but i assure you they have not lol my situation is far from normal. Shes been through a whole lot in her life and is dealing with it the best she can and hasnt had the privilege to experience certain things to teach her healthy coping mechanisms ect. Shes had virtually no good role models her entire life no one to teach her how to be an adult mentally and emotionally
Im also extremely curious to hear someone with more knowledge' reply. I doubt my methods are anywhere near a good option but i did the only thing i could to protect both of us and while its probably not even remotely the best choice it just so happened to be more progressive than not so idk. Just whatever you do dont be one sided about it. Stay strong stay positive be compassionate and dont be a dick because even though she might be ruthless she is still pregnant and the woman you (im assuming) fell in love with. Its going to be completely up to you to figure out how to finesse the situation just right and be the bigger person no matter what happens. Try to understand that its not her fault. Dont put blame anywhere. She needs your help now more than ever and theres a very thin line between pushing her away and pulling her closer with every little thing said or done
Try to reach her empathy. Let her know that you want to give her everything she wants and needs from you but you're just struggling to do so exactly how she wants it. Try to come to some agreements. Show her you're making an effort and ask her to bare with you. Explain to her that you know you're not perfect but you really do want to be. After all she is just human like yourself and the rest of us.
Just found out yesterday and im terrified
everything will be ok
Hahaha so good!!!
Hi I'm a 32year old pregnant woman.. i know this video is for men but I need help from anyone at this point. i'm 16 weeks pregnant with my second child. My husband and and I each have 1 child a piece that we had in our early adulthood so we don't remember much about this process... lately we have been bumping heads because he feels like i'm not very nice to him.. it's been a constant argument since I got pregnant but i'm really trying..i truly feel like im doing my best to give him the love and affection he needs but it seems like it isn't enough... i'm just not in the mood to joke around like he's ALWAYS doing.. he gets on my nervous and i feel like im not getting the kind of affection I would like so it pushes me away. i was on your page trying to get a better understanding of what men may be going through to find help, any suggestions?
You are both going through stuff. It sounds like you both need to be more empathetic towards the other person. If your relationship is strong except for during the pregnancy then ok. But I'm guessing there are underlying issues. I may suggest you seek a local counselor who can dig a little deeper. Also see if your husband is willing to watch some of these videos. Maybe you can watch them together and then have respectful conversation about it
We’ve got our first on the way in 6months. What do I need to buy and learn????
Had my first real life example of don’t battle hormones.... DO NOT BATTLE HORMONES!!
Thank you so much just figured out im having a little girl. Due date is April 6th 3 days before my birthday
Congrats! Glad you are enjoying the videos!
Thank you
well, im 19, unemployed and my girlfriend is pregnant
i find the experience both scary and exciting
It can be both scary and exciting. I hope everything goes well.
Better step it up
I mean all of these rules are applied to marriage/relationships in general
Thankfully I survived the majority of the pregnancy by just thinking before I acted. I still don’t know how I’m gonna be a dad though.
You will be great. Just love that child with everything you got and love them unconditionally.
Everyone I know keeps telling me that, I just can’t wrap my head around it.
Any other new father here have their significant other become like distant? Idk just weird vibes now and just doing what I can to make sure she’s comfortable and stress free. Any words of advice I’d be grateful
Have you talked to her about it? Don't blame, but ask her what she is feeling
My fiancee's pregnant with our first, I just keep getting accused of all-sorts, not-caring, being insensitive, being selfish etc...........but the thing is, she's about 17 / 18 weeks now..........at what point does it start getting better ? Mood swings !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Was she like that before getting pregnant?
I’m going on deployment, trying to figure out how I can be there for my wife even though I am not physically there for her?
My wife hasnt worked in 3 years. She had brain surgury and had brain damage. She doesnt like mt family and her family doesnt help or do anythinf but make things harder. Trying to take care of her was hard enough. Now that shes pregnant, shes found a way to do even less. I was already past burnt out.
I'm sorry that you are going through that. It sounds like a difficult situation.
Me and my ex found out she was pregnant after we broke up. The relationship between her and I wasn’t healthy at all and now that we’re not together I am completely lost as to how to even be involved or include myself other than doctors appointments. Any advice would help. Thank you.
Drs appointments are a good start. You may also discuss with her if there is anything she would want from you during this time. The major thing will be once the baby is born.
I live an hour away from my pregnant gf and just got out of the marines straight to amazon. Im so tired after work and just want to lay down and pass out. Apperantly I have fallen out of love and dont want to talk to her. I screenshotted the whole convo and sent it to my close friends group chat. They all (even the ladies) reassured im a really good guy and she isn't seeing what im doing. One of my friends told me its just her hormones. Another told me it was just the distance... this video helps clear my confusion... stress anger and anxiety just a little... thanks..
My girlfriend is pregnant she doesn’t wanna give me any say in the baby’s name? Is that normal this is both our first time being parent but the conversation always ends in “I’m the one carrying the baby” aside from that she was always a sloppy person not very neat at all but since she found out she was pregnant she wants me to do all the work (cooking,cleaning packing all our stuff because we are moving) not that I have a problem doing the physical part but I’d like her to be more productive and supportive then just being bossy and mean all the time
I just got yelled at for how I read a letter…
Yep
Can you PLEASEEE tell me what’s wrong... my girlfriend is 17 weeks and around 13 weeks she had got super distant with me. We’re not even flirty anymore. Anytime I say she’s beautiful or I miss you, she just kind of shrugs it off. And before it was sunshine and butterflies. So wtf?? We’ve only been dating 5 months as well.. I’m scared of losing her :(
What does she say when you ask her to explain what she is feeling?
@@DadUniversity she just blamed her hormones 100% but it’s so clear to anyone that she’s just not interested anymore and it’s making me feel really used. Idk how to get out of my head and just calm down about it. I’m trying to be strong and be ready for my son to be born but it’s hard to deal with this and I don’t know what to do...
@@angelherrera9358 Hormones are pretty powerful. But also use some empathy and imagine being in her place. She probably doesn't really understand what is going on with her either. Ask her what you can do to support her. You may need to back off and give her some distance if that is what she needs.
@@DadUniversity I did exactly that and it’s been going great so far. Thank you so much!!
6 months in and she is way more pleasant lol... rough start sick and tired. Now I just gotta make sure there's ice cream in the freezer. Ice cream and snacks were exclusively mine. She eat her fruits and yogurts... then outta the blue, pints of Ben and Jerry's would go missing over night lol... "Did you eat all 3 pints"? ""No the baby ate half"" lol... now I just make sure our freezer has plenty of the flavors she likes that I dont care for... hoping that my chocolate therapy or brownie batter survive the night... most times they don't :(
Can you please upload some videos how dad face pregnant wife but its nice for the dad? Because my wife saw this and blame me over everything...
Let's Gooooooooo
I’m struggling to quit smoking. When I do, I get easily irritated and obsviously she’s pregnant so it’s like clashing steel on steel.
My wife is being so feisty. It’s becoming so frustrating
3:42 I would rebuttal by saying that the baby needs vitamins and nutrients from fruits and vegetables, not a steak burrito from Taco Bell. 😭🤦🏽♂️
Could you do a video on mothers who tend to exclude the fathers efforts or help and or saying it’s only her pregnancy and leaving fathers feeling left out and worthless and how although mothers are going through a lot of changed and sacrifices it’s important they at times let the father know it’s not how they really feel it’s just a mood swing or what not cause for me it’s hard to tell especially being a new relationship to tell if that’s how she really feels or if it’s a mood swing. Also I don’t wanna complain but how do you communicate feeling felt out and not even treated like their loving support system and appreciative of it . With out sounding like your complaining because I find it hard to support when your constantly bein told how you do nothing how bad you are but your doing everything and more you could think of…. Or man I asking to much ?
Have you specifically asked what her expectations & needs are of you during this time?
Me and My Girlfriend Had A Bad Argument And A Few Weeks Later She Lets Me Know She’s Pregnant How Can We Come Back From It
Solve the argument. Stop blaming each other if you are doing that.
I would say that our Dave Ramsey debt snowball has to come to a hault until baby comes...(May)
My wife nor i really like the field we are in...i would like to get involved in rental property investing so eventually she and i can get out of the hospital... i will be a "Mr. Mom"... everytime i try and make a 5-10 year plan to benefit my family... i feel my pregnant wife unintentionally tends to "rain on that parade" with a comment like "i dont know what you expect... we have no money for a down payment and we have to save for baby...."
I look at paying off her car and student loan is freeing up >$700 a month... a nice stream of excess cash for baby...
She looks at a pile of cash in savings as more of a security....
Same goal... two means of accomplishing it
It's common for people to look at things in different ways. Hopefully it all works out.
You look like a dad.
Mine wasn’t there.
I’m going to be one.
How can i help my wife with her back pain if she is in her first trimester???? and restricted to other Foods???
I got my wife a PharMeDoc pregnancy pillow from Amazon, based on a friend’s recommendation and sleeping with that has really helped her back pain
I would bring her to a doctor and see exactly what is causing the pain. It could be extra weight, her posture, or other issues. It's best to have a doctor evaluate it. As for foods, same thing. Have a nutritionist or specialist help create a meal plan.
Thanks will look in to it 👍😁
brb sending this to him