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i accidentally came out to my older brother, and he went through all his old clothes and let me have whatever i wanted. it was the first big cloud of euphoria i had ever felt.
awww idris that's so pure
OMG that is so sweet, shows how much your brother loves and respects you!
Damn it’s almost like a drug huh. Crazy
Wholesome as fuck wish i had a big bro but all i have are sisters and they
wouldnt react as well if they knew
two months ago i cut my hair really short for the first time and i actually cried. i don't even liked the style of it, but the fact that it was short made such a huge chunck of my dysphoria go away.
I finally cut my hair short over Easter break, after wanting it for *years*, and I had such a strong feeling of gender euphoria for days. I'm an agender AFAB person, but I'm not out to anyone, and it felt so good to just cut all my hair off. Just a few weeks ago, my friend told me I've got "a handsome androgynous vibe going on", and that's the best compliment I've ever gotten on my appearance.
Marte Trollsås this is so relatable, I never had the guts (bad argument I know) but then about 1,5 years ago I finally had enough and it's been such a relief for afab enby life like I'm experimenting, which I never knew had the courage for but like it's a thing! Hope you're well!
my 'euphoria' moment was when i gazed at my friend's phone and she was talking about me to another friend and they were calling me my chosen name and he/him pronouns. it was so good and made me so happy because neither of them knew i saw it and it was natural to them. it also helps because i'm not out to very many people.
I LOVE it when we encourage each other to be unique and unapologetically ourselves
I'm working at a special needs school atm and one of the kids turned around and went (jokingly) "yes sir of course sir" and the fact that these specific 7 kids.. 6 of them use correct pronouns and these particular kids see gender so black and white but over the past few weeks I've showed them that the boys can wear princess outfits and girls can play with cars and watching these kids learning so many new things about gender and also about sexuality even just since if been there ... it makes me so happy
I go to a special needs school :)
C0sm0cogs awesome, after spending time helping out, I'm wishing I went to one for my primary years
since top surgery i feel euphoric so often .. it's been 10 months and u know i thought i would get used to it, but i still smile so big whenever i see myself in the mirror after i shower and i still feel a wave of happiness every time i notice myself standing up straight and remember how impossibly lucky i am.
gender euphoria is one of the best things about being trans. our love for ourselves is an active love, because we had to fight for it and we don't take anything for granted.
When I came out as trans to my boyfriend 3 years ago, we came REALLY close to breaking up (we had been together for a year and a half at that point). I can’t quite pin point the exact time period after (I think it was a couple of months or so) he called me his “beautiful man” and I just broke down in tears because it was the first time I had felt affirmed and loved as the gender I truly was 😭❤️
My dad and I were just hanging around in my cousins’ pool earlier today. He was chilling in a floaty thing and I was just laying on my back in the water. I looked down, saw my shirtless chest, and just felt this feeling of contentment - this is what was always meant to happen.
My moments of euphoria I remember most are when my brother first shaved one side of my head for me and then again months later when he did the other side to give me a mohawk. Also the times I've ordered stuff from the men's section of stores and seeing them fit how I hoped they would have been KILLER ✨
I remember the first time I put on my binder. Feeling so fucking good. I remember when I bought this cute button up shirt and I felt super androgynous and feeling so good in body.
I felt Euphoric when I asked my best friend if he could try a different name for me and he said "of course."
It's such a good feeling. I hope everyone of you can feel that way sometimes.
My first euphoric moment
(I'm AFAB non-b)
At prom my mum convinced me to wear a dress and get my hair "done nicely" I felt uncomfortable the while day. But good that I spend that much time on myself.
A week later I cut off all my hair. Up in a ponytail and snip. GONE I had the biggest smile on my face I came out almost in tears from happiness. I couldn't stop touching my bare neck. Washing my hair for the first time short. I didn't know what I was feeling was Gender Euphoria but I felt Vailated.
The second time. I was wearing shorts and got into a lift with my mum. And a person said "excuse young man" and I had this buzz for hours. Of course my mum didn't understand. But my god someone looked at me and thought I was a boy!!!
And standing up for myself. I helped educate several people and opened up to them in the process and this was a sense of Euphoira for me as it meant that I was vaildating myself!! I was accepting myself!
I actually experience Euphoira more than Dysphoria. This and I'm glad that I do. I do gas dysphoria and it can ruin my day. I will cancel plans if it's worse one day than another. But Euphoira is something I experience everyday. And I do it on purpose
Like putting boxers on, sleeping topless, wearing 'mens' clothes, purposely hanging around with people who vailate me, buying something new that's not typically feminine.
This needs to be talked about more.
Wow the hair thing is so similar to me! For my prom I had to wear a dress and my mum curled my hair, then 6 days later I finally got to have it all cut off 😂
Alex Todd
Me and my mum has this "deal"
She helped chose my dress and did my hair. And then after that I could literally anything I wanted regarding my body like hair cut/dye, piercings, and Tattoos
She curled it and put in this messy bun. The entire time all I heard from her mouth was "but look how long and pretty your hair is"
When I had it cut she dropped me off the hair dressers and she couldn't stay and watch so she left. When she came to pick me up she almost cried. But admitted it suited me. My whole family said that I even looked more confident in myself!
It was a huge deal to me and as simple as washing my hair feels amazing without using conditioner and having to brush it every 5 minutes.
I got a haircut yesterday and I always feel euphoric while getting my hair cut. Just thinking back to all those years ago when my hair was so long and I dreaded haircuts because they made me think about my hair so much and knowing how much freer I am now is a very good feeling.
Out of nowhere my partner started calling me "Sai" which I know from my own research is a fictional and gender-neutral alternative to Sir/Ma'am. They also tend to call me "charming" instead of more gendered compliments though sometimes they call me handsome.
For me, my experience of gender euphoria came when I was invited to a stag do by someone who knew me before coming out as trans. It felt like the ultimate acceptance as a guy.
Putting on an actual binder for the first time was amazing. I'd been apprehensive to get one and wasn't sure if it would make me feel any better because I was still sort of denying being transgender, but I put it on and just stood in front of the mirror with the biggest grin on my face. Similar thing happened when I got a proper packer. I messaged my best friend and my sister saying "welp I nearly just cried with happiness over a silicone penis" lmao.
Something that makes me feel so happy as well is when people are surprised to find out I'm trans. I know it's not something you should assume about someone because that's kind of shitty and implies that trans people "look" a certain way and the concept of passing is shitty, but being told by other trans guys (including guys on testosterone) that they thought I was cis/ on testosterone is just the best thing to me. Passing is a lottery, but it feels so goddamn good when it happens.
The only time I felt gender euphoric was when my sister said “I need a masculine point of view” and she looked at me and said “hey bro!” I was sitting there like an idiot staring at her
it's the "firsts" that stand out for me. first time wearing a binder. first time buying a piece of mens clothing. first time packing. the best way i can describe the actual feeling is a feeling of wholeness. in those moments of euphoria, i feel complete.
i've on;y experienced gender euphoria twice - when i first got my binder and looked at myself in the mirror, being proud of what i saw for the first time in years, and when i first got called a boy in a restaurant. i wasn't out at that time yet and my parents were super confused about how smiley and stuff i was for the rest of the day. but those are moments i still hold onto until this day.
I LOVE this! This isn't something I've ever heard of but even before starting the video, just reading the title I new exactly what this was referring to and couldn't believe I didn't already have a word for it. I dont experience a lot of acute dysphoria, what's there is like a background drone for the most part, to the point I didn't even start noticing it till I'd been on this journey for a good while. I just had a vague desire to dress and act more feminine. The thing that convinced me that this wasn't just some odd hobby or "a faze" was the unchecked surge of pure joy I'd feel every now and then when trying on a dress for the first time and it looking good on me. Or trying on makeup, looking in the mirror and seeing a face I'd never seen before but somehow looked more right than the one I was used to. This feeling is so crisp, so bright and so profound that it helped clear the doubts and uncertainties I had about myself. It also allowed me to tell my family when I came out that this thing I I'm doing makes me truly happy. And I think from the reaction I got when I did that some portion of that feeling must have shown on my face because all the wariness they had about what I was telling them stopped and they were just happy for me from then on. Exactly what it is I'm doing, what it is I "am" is still an open question but I know for certain I'm not cis, I'm not just a man. I dont know where I will end up and I still have a lot of worries and hangups to work through but at the core is that feeling leading me onward.
On a physical level - my facial/body hair growth since starting T makes me feel euphoric.
On a social level, hearing my family members call me "they".
I think my first huge euphoric moment was a few years ago when I finally got some basketball shorts that fit me perfectly, put on a loose band tee (since I used to think I had to buy them fitted), and then put all my hair in a snapback. It was the most masc thing I ever put on at that point. It was so incredible! 💖💖💖
I've experienced gender euphoria the first time I wore a binder / got my swim binder, when people use my correct pronouns or directly acknowledge me as nonbinary, and more recently when I've been able to exercise without a binder after top surgery :)
Yesssss!!!! Gender euphoria plays a huge part in my trans experience from day to day. Trans Pride and SITC always give me gender euphoria as I'm surrounded by so many people who're just being themselves and it's so empowering. I also experience gender euphoria when I find myself loving trans people idk how to explain it, but when I see how completely in love I am with all my friends it helps me accept myself and my transness more. 💓
a really cool gender euphoric moment I had was just yesterday. I was coming out the barrier at Brighton station and showed the person my ticket and he said “thank you sir”, and that’s the first time since starting my transition that anyone in the public, without knowing how I identify, has called me sir. It made me so happy, I love Brighton so much and I’m so happy I live here now! 💗 I know I’m gonna have so many more gender euphoric moments and I’m excited ^^
for me euphoria is much more stark and clear than dysphoria- whereas dysphoria feels just like a general unhappiness and dissatisfaction with my gender which will often bleed into my depression, euphoria is like a beacon in the dark. my intrusive thoughts are always about how i'm not really trans and i'm just making it up but every time i think about living my life as the gender i would have liked to be born as i'm just so happy, and for me every time i glimpse in the mirror while i'm binding or wearing baggy clothes it's like i glimpse into that happy future. thank you for this video. it's super hard admitting that i'm trans sometimes but i am and euphoria is one of the things that helps me accepts that
When I wore a packer for the first time. It was a pretty cheap one, but for me it was the biggest relief. I honestly started crying when I saw myself like that. It was just that this whole feeling of being wrong stopped for a moment and I could finally see how it really was supposed to be. It sounds cheesy, I know, but it was such an awesome feeling. This is why I am transitioning.
I got my first real feeling of gender euphoria when I got my new packing boxers 😂 they had a cool pattern and I just felt like this is what I should look like 👍 love ya Jake
personally haven’t experienced this seeing as i’m not out to most people in my life but this is reassuring! thankyou for all your wonderful content! 💖💖
Yes!!! This is so important. Just a couple of days ago my colleague left me a note where they used my chosen name instead of my birth name - and oh boy was the feeling good! Shitty customers meant nothing at that point, because I had butterflies in my stomach and a long-lasting big, dorky smile on my face. Such a good day.
(You are the cause of my euphoria)
Yeesus Is God shhhhhhh
Jake, you don't know me but you've been such a positive role model for me. I know things aren't easy all the time but seeing you be yourself and feeling good about discovering yourself is so damn encouraging.
Hey! You made me cry of joy. Never underestimate power of positive words/thoughts.
I mostly experience gender euphoria when people gender me well or recognize me the way I am (or such as). Like recently, a guy I just know from a friend called me "bro", without I even mention my gender with him (I'm not a men but I'm much more a men than a woman and I still look "like a female"). I have this high feeling every time I wear my binder and I feel like I don't have my breast. First time, I was so happy about that than I cried of joy.
I remember the first time I bought a T-shirt in "man section" and I felt like I was out-of-law ahah But no one cared, and I don't even care myself know. My euphoria was quite intense first time I shave part of my head and I still feel it everytime I look at my haircut. That even happen everytime I feel free to insult myself like "Oh Cailean, stupid!" xD First time I did it, it came by itself and a second later I was almost dancing all over the house, I needed to put out all that intense positive energy ahah
I just can't help smiling right now.
Thanks for your video!
whatever lip product you’re wearing KEEP DOING THAT YOU LOOK INCREDIBLE IT SUITS YOU PERFECTLY
Kate Belcher omfg thank you so much
I had a moment recently when I was doing work experience in a nursery and it was my third day there. It was “carpet time” and I had a child sat on my knee. I’d assumed that all the kids saw me as female but this child just turned round to me and asked me “why are your nails painted? You’re a boy.” (I’d been to a family thing the night before and just not taken them off yet) and it just made me so happy that even though I knew I looked really feminine, at least some of the little kids saw me as a boy.
Hearing people occasionally say "Is that a boy or a girl?" feels pretty awesome :P
Really? For me it's the total opposite. I hate that question with a physical repulsion. I feel that ppl who ask are just trying to "settle their curiosity" by pigeon-holing me. It feels like trying to reduce me from a fully articulated person down to a gender label. Also i hate that the default wording is 'boy or girl'. It's complicated for me to answer that & I don't want to get so personal with strangers. Thank the elder gods that the term non-binary exists but I could have done with it so much sooner.
I just feel objectified by that question, and it's something I've heard literally throughout my entire life. It started as a child and the last time I had it asked to me was less than 2 months ago. I mean, if ppl want to be respectful of me & my gender there are better ways to ask, but it's always strangers who ask, why would they assume I'm comfortable with that?
Anyway my point was supposed to be that it's weird what causes contentment for one person can cause discomfort for another, but I guess I needed to vent a little too. Hope you don't mind.
For me it affirms an androgynous external presentation, "non-binary enough" to confound immediate classification and thereby subversion of expectation of gendered societal norms. For me it means a tiny crack in the wall
Amazing video, Jake!! ❤❤
(i can't be the only one living for Jake's lip colour😍)
I can't thank u more for how calm u made me feel rn cuz I've been very stressed recently and it's hard living as an out trans in a house with a transphobic mother and I could just listen to you talk for ever
Yes this made me so happy to watch. I want that feeling of being able to do more femme things after taking t and it feeling like it just fits :)
Ahhhhhh i'm so friggin excited for pink and blue eek
my girlfriend making the change to start calling me her boyfriend after coming out was very euphoric for me
I have one shirt where I just feel fantastic in, I actually feel like... I don't know my self, and it is so wonderful!!
I love when people call me bro or mate or something like that. It feels so chill 😊
I think I experimented gender euphoria, like, once. We were on a shop with my mom and, my mom doesn't accept me for who I am, she doesn't want to use he/him pronouns. And I saw a woman who was struggling to grab something, so I helped her and she looked at my mom and said "your son is really nice !" and then, she looked at me and said "Thank you, boy." I was the happiest guy in the world that day, that feeling was amazing.
(Oh, and I preordered your album, I can't wait to have it and listen to it !)
I identify as nb and whenever i get a haircut and look at myself and see a masculine/androgynous appearance I feel that bit euphoria. It is amazing to look at myself and for a moment feel comfortable in my skin 😁
it's really generic but when my friend used 'they' for me. I really only use 'he' pronouns but I do also like 'they' occasionally and the way it was used made me really happy. Also when my now boyfriend used my new name and pronouns in the same sentence this one time on the first day of me starting to use them. And just the other day when I was just wearing some black jeans, nail varnish and promise ring and I looked down at myself with my new tattoo (which I see as a part of my transition into the person I want to be, even though they aren't related to gender necessarily) and even though I haven't had top surgery yet I just felt so masculine and so aligned in my own specific gender identity
As a non-binary person, I think one of my biggest moments of euphoria was hearing Kim Boekbinder's song, Fractal, where they said "you're not a boy, you're not a girl," which had me crying a little bit. Also of course there's being referred to as "they," I don't tend to ask people to call me by any specific pronouns but when I hear people call me "they" it gives me this really nice sense of being appreciated and acknowledged as an androgynous person. Just a lot of little things.
Thank you for reminding me to stay hydrated, I'm really thirsty.
Gender euphoria is the best shit, man. It’s like a fucking drug. Like, in my case, it literally works like a fucking drug. It sucks in that sort of way, because I’ve built up a tolerance. The first time I cut my hair short-ish, I was ecstatic. Then I got a binder and it was fucking amazing. Every day I put on a binder was the best feeling ever, but now the excitement dwindles each time. Of course, surprising things still trigger the euphoria to the extreme. Things like cute people gendering me correctly and taking a picture where I look really boyish. I just want it to happen more often because the dysphoria is so fucking constant.
Jake mate I've known you for years and being a bloke it's so weird for me seeing that you have better facial hair than I do 😂 love the video and love the message
Those are the best moments. And I can hold onto them!!
This was so needed!!!
this has nothing to do with the video but I just want you to know that I wish i could go to Brighton trans pride tomorrow, not only for the experience but just because I've been wanting to meet you for over three years and this was my opportunity - but I hecked it up because of not having enough money for travel (still learning financial responsibility since moving out). But I want you to know that I hope you have a great time, you absolutely deserve it after cancelling top surgery - that is such commitment to the community and being true to your own individual transness and happiness and I respect the heck out of that. And to let you know I will be there in hopes of meeting you and having a good old trans time next year... hopefully on testosterone by then :)
Your videos often give me gender euphoria
I get euthoria when i speak lower stand more confidantly. Or work out or when i feel.some peach fuzz on my face especially when i started going by a male name on youtube it all just feels so right and true
That lipstick really suits you!
When I moved schools my junior year of high school and everybody there saw me as a guy. And everybody was using the right pronouns
The biggest gender euphoria moment I have had is when I was gendered correctly in public and they continued to gender me correctly even after I spoke.
The times I’ve felt the most gender euphoric were when I first got my hair cut short (and realised that I’d finally found what I’m supposed to look like) and when I put on a binder for the first time and saw my chest looking flat in the mirror
Damn, that lipstick on them is killer
I felt gender euphoria when I put my first binder for the first time and when I cut my hair. And I currently have a lot of gender euphoria because I like my body and my family and friends call me by my new name and use the correct pronouns to referring to me. I think I have more gender euphoria than gender dysphoria. And it's a great feeling, I wish to all trans people to experiment this.
This is such an important little video, thank you for making it! Gender euphoria is something that I've started to feel more often these days and no matter how bad of a gender dysphoria I have, tiny things like looking more masculine or wearing a baggy shirt and feeling comfortable with the way I look or getting to know some people who get what I identify as brings me such, such huge euphoria!! I feel really lucky that I got to experience it and I hope I get to experience it a bit more. Once again, thank you for talking about it because it's made me smile like an idiot and be proud of who I am. I love you! ❤️🏳️
Love that this video exists! I used to have a lot of dysphoria and obvs still have it sometimes but honestly my main tether to my trans identity these days comes from gender euphoria! It took me a while to realise because I didn’t know that existed, and I thought that maybe I wasn’t actually trans bc I wasn’t feeling so constantly dysphoric anymore, but then I heard about gender euphoria (probs from ash hardell) and was like THAT IS WHAT THIS IS!!!
I felt so gender euphoric when my girlfriend started called me her kjæreste, which basically is a gender neutral term for bf/gf in Norwegian. And like, we’re both British, I’m just obsessed with Skam (the best Norwegian drama ever).
Also just watching your videos or reading your tweets bc you’re so enthusiastic about being whoever the fuck you want to be and it just makes me feel real good about being authentically myself! So thanks, you’re wonderful 💛
Thank you so much for making this video. I experienced for the first gender euphoria when I wore my first packer.
I was so uncomfortable being called with my birth name so I made a whatsapp group to ask my friends to start calling me Marte (Mars in portuguese). They were totally cool with it and when I started seeing them personally and hearing that name, it felt so good and right for me. :)
I feel euphoric after I look back on each monthly update on Testosterone and hear how different my voice is, and how masculine I look.
About 1 to 2 years ago I went to an lgbtq+ camp and it was only for 2 days, but it felt good to be surrounded by people just like me and how people used the correct pronouns and name. I also had this at a party I went to about 2 weeks ago which was also lgbt+ where my friends who I have been with for a couple of years and friends I made that night where using the correct pronouns and name and saw me as completely male and everyone was dancing and having a good time and I even met someone really nice there and we went on a date and it felt like we were two guys going on a date and I haven’t really been on a date with another trans person (I kinda have but not really) so it was nice to be with someone who understood what I was going through and how I felt. Sadly I don’t think we will go into a relationship as we both live far away from each other and we have pretty different interests and are at different points in our lives to each other, but I felt like I was a dude on that date and it was awesome.
Binders used to give me gender euphoria but now they give me almost as much dysphoria as not binding gives me :/
I felt gender euphoria when my dad called me his son for the first time, when my brother called me his brother for the first time and whenever someone actively defends my gender to strangers or hateful people!
Yaaas lipstick come through!
The first time I wore a packer I felt so wonderful and it was definitely a feeling of gender euphoria, yet I don’t wear one that often because whenever I take it out i feel more horrible than I did before putting it on, if anyone has advice dealing with that I’d love to hear it! I feel like I should be more mindful to look for the experiences of gender euphoria because unfortunately I feel like I see those moments of being gendered correctly as making me feel not shitty as opposed to actively euphoric/happy. Any advice would be great on that too
Ah I get the same thing with packing, taking out the packer just seems to highlight that there's something missing. I haven't really figured out how to deal with it properly but for some reason stuff like wearing boxers instead of briefs makes me feel better? I guess because they don't cling as much in the wrong places. Hope this helps, I'm not really sure what to suggest
most memorable experience with gender euphoria: when an Episcopalian priest asked me what my pronouns were. There is hope for the world yet!
I didn't realize I was trans until I cut my hair people started reading me as male and I felt euphoria
I love seeing such positive trans videos ❤️
But can't you only have euphoria when you have dysphoria?
I would love to wake up one morning, go to the mirror, and see a cute girl on the otherside. No makeup, no shaving, no mask, no nothing. people dont even need to do a double take when then see me, they know Im not a girl, or that something is wrong with me, no matter what I wear or put over my face. And I love to be able to just go out, without any effort, and still be seen as a girl, just once. I kinda hate being intersex, because, I have all these gross boyish qualities, even though I have overies, so despite being biologically atleast part female, Im not aloud to be feminine at all. I just want to be myself, but Im not even aloud to fit the binary because boys arent aloud to have periods and girls cant have facial hair...and I hate my own face because of it all
My most euphoric moment was when a classmate accidentally called me he (I’m still in the closet) 🏳️⚧️❤️
I felt gender euphoria before gender dysphoria and I thought I first I had no dysphoria. But, it reared it’s ugly head soon enough.
I did not know what the gender euphoria was, because it was before I knew about trans people really. And I was called “sir” at a restaurant.
And even before that in elementary school I had got my first “boy” shirt. And I told everyone at school. Lol, I don’t know where the shirt went.
As a trans guy myself I personally hate the term gender euphoria. It sounds stupid and It's not gender euphoria, it's feeling normal. It's fixing the DEBILITATING ILLNESS of dysphoria. It's not easy being trans, it's not all rainbows and flower crowns like some people whatever their gender like to make out. Life isn't fun or euphoric if you have bad dysphoria. Sick of people trying to make out that it's not a debilitating illness to be trans and therefore have dysphoria. I can see where it comes from but that's just my opinion.
1) When a teacher used my pronouns to my face for the first time
2) When I cut my hair
0:07-0:08 Shane Dawson vibe ! :-) Tnx for the share .
(weird and probably stupid curius question) but did you put lip stick on your self ?? no becouse its particulary notisable.... anyway did you alredy talk about this becouse the title sounds familiar.
Lots of love for you, you gorgeous specimen
i was watching a twitch stream that is miss and it was SO NICE to hear they/them pronouns being used in reference to me without me being there.
Whenever someone uses they/them pronouns for me I feel gender euphoria 🧒 PS love your new song Jake! ♥️
Jake, what pronouns do you use/prefer nowadays?
Magdalena Sacco they or he!!
40% suicide rate! 😆