This video made me subscribe. I watched a few tonight. My house is a wreck and Christmas is in one week. Im watching you instead of getting shit done lol but I will get to it when I can. It made me a little bummed for you when you said “its not quality” cause videos like this are the most relatable I ever see and get the most engagement from me personally. But I definitely get what you mean. You see all these clean with me’s where the chick goes crazy and its done top to bottom in a day. Anyone suspect they just hit pause and wear the same outfit and hairstyle in two weeks to finish the video? No shame! That would be me if I were a creator. I have watched hundreds(maybe thousands) of clean with me’s and possibly commented on two others than yours. Youre doing amazing! 🥰
Thank you so much! You can always pop me in your ear and clean along! I do that with another creature, Acre Homestead. I feel like I’ve trained myself to clean whenever I hear her voice. Yet again I need to do a big clean to get things back to “clean” and it’s my goal to have it done Thursday to go into the holiday weekend with a nice clean home. I bet you and I can get this done!!!
I HATE that - when you're so overwhelmed that you just can't do anything. Your thoughts are just swimming round and round and you can't settle and do anything - so you do nothing, and then you feel guilty!
Loved this video BECAUSE of your courage to show the negative emotions (anxiety, overwhelm) and how they affect your life. Then to watch you struggle to push through your difficulty focusing, making a decision, and then acting, AWESOME! I so related to the fearful and anxious expressions that passed over your face. Like you, I first wondered if pushing yourself to do needed routine cleaning would actually help or if it would reinforce the desire to numbly veg out. I was so impressed that you gained the strength and fortitude from the cleaning to then take on the big garage cleaning job! Truly inspiring! It was your authenticity that sets this video apart from the many young housewife/mother housekeeping videos out there. Please continue making videos that reveal all the different aspects of your (and our) humanness, not just sanitized versions. I learned so much from this video about how to work with my own emotional obstacles.
Only in the last 11 months have I truly appreciated the saying, "Everything has a place and should be put in it's place." It is slowly helping...new habits are hard. I watched you filling the water container. I do not know why, but my patience does not stay long enough for me to fill up my containers. And for some reason I start shutting down. . . . . . . I see so much of me in you. I was raised at a time when denial, for the sake of appearances, was huge. Sad. I am now retired and no longer care what others think... Because "they are going to think what they want to think no matter what I do."
These videos are very helpful and make me realize that I am not alone in feeling overwhelmed often. Thank you for making this video and I hope you have a great day! 😘
Hello from MMC! I am also ADHD. I am very good at ignoring....being overwhelmed....and vegging on TH-cam. 46 years of living stressed out and with depression. I used to be able to push myself thru it. But not any more. I am now 58 and struggling to motivate. I am excellent at picking up an item and placing it 5 feet away. . .🙄. Mack recommended your video. . . And within minutes, I understand why. Thank you!
I’m making my way through your videos and I see you. I see you Washing the dishes, pushing yourself to get through it all, and getting overwhelmed at everything all at once! I feel where you’re at and I’m giving you a hug because, girl, you’re going to get through it. 😊
Hi youtube friend, I always get overwhelmed too and my main issue is procrastination but it’s ok we got this, we are human. I can definitely relate. I suffer from anxiety and depression too and some days it’s really hard to even get out of bed. Thank you for sharing. I enjoyed your video 😊
I have never seen you so vulnerable. You aren’t alone. Some days we all walk around blinking back the tears all day. And we go too many days without taking a shower or even getting out of bed. It’s not all the time, thankfully, but enough. And honestly, I think it’s what attracts a lot of us to cleaning videos. Sometimes it helps us throw that switch that gives a tiny bit of motivation to start. And starting is always the hardest part. It’s so much easier to scroll TH-cam or Instagram or TikTok than it is to actually DO SOMETHING constructive. So you’re preaching to the choir. Life is hard. It just is, some brains are just more prone to sadness even when we don’t know WHY we’re sad. Or we think we shouldn’t be. Because we have a nice house, a nice care, a good man, kids we love. But it’s not tied to that, I don’t think. I think it’s just some brains are missing something. A chemical, a hormone, an ability to self-correct. My mom dealt with depression even as a tiny girl. She didn’t even have the vocabulary to try to explain HOW she felt. She just knew she had an empty pit in her stomach that left her teary-eyed and sad. And I got that from her. I don’t think to the same degree (thankfully)! I think she was even suicidal at times but kept herself alive for me and my sister. But if we wouldn’t have been here, she’d never have made it. I’m so glad you decided to pick up a camera, I really think this is going to be good for you. And for us, because you’re so fun to watch. And listen to. Sending you a big hug!
@@feraltradwife yeah, I think you were just having a bad day. Sometimes, we try to shake that sheet off, and it won’t go. And we have no choice but to give into it and hope for a better day the next day. I was just watching Faith Matini on TH-cam. She also has a cleaning channel. And at the very beginning she’s washing her dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. She said almost the exact same things you say. And was trying to defend herself before everyone came for her in the comments. She said she just cannot put them in the dishwasher without washing them. It feels weird and wrong to her. I told her about you in the comments. She’s very nice. Has twins too. 5 year old boys. It’s right at the beginning of her latest video if you want to watch it.
Oh my goodness..you've already achieved alot..I've been in my pyjama's all day and my bed is constantly unmade as there are so many other things that need doing..I love that you are real..with real issues..❤
I appreciate your candor. Your young son is very sweet. And he is a Ginger!!! I have a loving, awesome ginger in my life. He means everything to me ❤. You are an inspiration to people who have the same struggles as you do. Keep on keepin’ on girl!
First time follower. Your content hits home for me. I’m 69 yrs. Old and my adult ADHD is very hard to control. My depression is from not being able to do a lot due to heart condition. So I understand what you go through. On top of it all I am a spender for things I really don’t need
You just gained a follower. I struggle with depression and anxiety a lot too. Amd wothout going into too much detail my husband and 2 boys and i are in a crisis at the moment and i too am struggling to not spiral. My house looks a lot like yours but you inspired me to get up and just tackle one thing at a time.
Oh my gosh my heart goes out to you. Crisis living is so hard. I am so proud of you for getting up and getting something done. That is huge, no matter how small of an item you tackled was. I hope you let me know how you are doing in the future. I will be thinking of you!
My friend! I'm seven and a half minutes into your video, and I had to pause it to say that I'm so glad you uploaded this video today. You've been on my mind, and I was wondering how you're doing. Your video is so relatable to me. So, bathrooms. I normally love cleaning bathrooms because it is always so satisfying, and I love the results. I can't seem to make myself clean them this week. I know I need to, and I hate that I haven't. I hate it so much that I've literally stressed myself out worrying about the bathrooms. I feel like I need to rest, but I can't rest because my mind can't let it go. So, to hear that you go through something like this makes me not feel alone in my struggles. This content that you feel isn't your greatest, shows that you are a real person that deals with what most of us do. You motivate me because I see you getting this thing done that overwhelms you, so I know I can do it too. ❤
You didn’t make me tear up at all. Nikki thank you. I struggled quite a bit with the idea of posting, I was worried that me struggling wouldn’t be motivational because I’m not upbeat and encouraging. I’m slowed down and a bit lost. And just go clean your bathroom for 2 minutes. Even that small amount will feel like an accomplishment. (Deep down I think we both know you’ll keep going after the 2 min). I have to make myself sleep now, apparently I have a big day tomorrow that I didn’t realize because I stopped looking ahead at my calendar. But I’ll check back in with you tomorrow and see how you are doing.
First of all, Midwest Magic Cleaning sent me. At first, I wasn't sure I was going to stick around. Honestly, the decoration change over video almost put me off because the idea of actually having a wall for seasonal decorations is baffling to me. I'm so glad I stuck it out. The video where you showed the mess for the first time felt very real to me. By the 4th video I began questioning whether you were, like I was, completely oblivious to the very clear depression and anxiety symptoms you are exhibiting. The more I watch, the more I feel like I'm watching myself. Then we get to this video. Two minutes in, I started crying. By 4 minutes in, I had decided to forward this video to my therapist because I feel like I'm watching someone else acting out my thoughts. The little pauses as you're explaining your next step in the process perfectly mimic the way I talk as I struggle to hold on to a thought process long enough to complete it. I'm very new to trying to work on my mental health and I feel like I found you at the perfect time.
@@theturtlemoves9310 oh man. Wait until the video where I explain exactly why I am WELL aware of my anxiety and depression. It’s not great. (Titled broken and it’s me cleaning my makeup brushes)
@@feraltradwife Oh boy. Thanks for the warning. I will make sure I'm in a good headspace before I watch it. I've known I had depression since I was 28 but it wasn't until this summer, at 44, that I realized just how bad it is. All the feelings you express in this video, are things I thought were normal until just recently. I thought other people were just more strong-willed than I was, to fight through the thoughts and exhaustion. I wasn't even here to find reflection for myself. I have been watching cleaning videos because my parents are hoarders and eventually it will be 100% my problem (currently it's about 25%).
@@theturtlemoves9310 I’m so glad you’re finding support (yes?) with me! I think we can get so much better. And while I’m still messy and chaotic, I have found so many amazing people here and feel so supported in our community. ❤️
I watch this video when my anxiety is growling in my face, my cleaning doesn't suffer in fact I clean non stop when I have anxiety and I still feel like it's dirty, but everything else suffers, my appearance, my motivation to cook, or feel productive, home schooling gets overwhelming, everything seems like a waste of time, and I'm completely failing, this week has been that week, but watching this video tells me I'm in good company and that helps
Oh my heart goes out to you soooooo much. I hate that you’re having a week where your anxiety is just simply THRIVING. It’s so so awful. I’m glad that you feel better with me, because I feel better with you. I don’t think you are failing. But it’s so hard for you to hear that over anxiety yelling that you are. I’m 100% here for you babe.
@@feraltradwife One smile from my youngest and I know I'm here for a good reason, his hugs are the best medicine, more water less chocolate from tomorrow, hormones who needs em!🙃
Comment #2 - You're so hard on yourself. I loved this video so much. I do get scattered sometimes, but I tend to hyper fixate on one thing until I get it done. Except when I'm like this, I just can't. I don't know why. But I'm going to make myself go clean these bathrooms because my family and I deserve to have bathrooms that have been freshly cleaned. Good enough is perfect
Ok, back from the first half of my busy day. How are your bathrooms? I'm torn for you because you work so much that you do need to rest, but we also do need clean bathrooms..... I love when I have the hyperfocus. I can get so much done in such a short amount of time. Its usually how I operate. I do nothing for far too long and then I do all of it. But its simply not here. I hope you have an amazing day today and I'll talk to you soon!! xoxo
@@feraltradwife I'm not sure if UIL is a national thing or just a Texas thing, but every year there is an academic competition, and my middle daughter tried out and was chosen out of a lot of kids to compete in Oral Reading where she has to read a poem, use different voices for the characters, and be animated. Yesterday, they read their poems for the Rotary Club. She was called to read hers first and behind her audience in the kitchen area, a girl knocked over a glass of tea, then the girl started running around freaking out about the spilled tea, the principal went to calm her down, she started crying - it sounded like chaos. All this happened while my daughter was trying to read her poem, and the chaos derailed her, and she was chosen to be an alternate instead of a competitor. She was heartbroken, and after she went to bed, started sobbing. So, while I did get the toilet paper restocked, the entire toilet cleaned, the room tidied, and created a basket of feminine hygiene products in the drawer for my oldest daughter, I did not finish because my middle child needed me. I was up til midnight talking to her. So, tonight, I will finish them. After doing what little I did last night, tonight it feels very doable. How was your day?
You did the most important work last night.Your poor daughter! I can imagine that heartbreak, especially because it was beyond her control but it took something away from her anyway. I hope she gets her moment as an alternate. We want to show them that this taste of bitterness with help her taste the sweet when it comes around, but those lessons aren’t for the young. They just get to feel the pain. How are you after all that? My day was so busy. It was a big day for my husband so I was just supporting cast. But it was a lot of running around from the get go. I did lock my keys in the car and had to leave it at one building to get to another building for an event. By the time the event was done all of the people I knew had left and I ended up asking another person for a ride to my car (these are all law enforcement so I felt ok doing this) I asked my husbands bosses bosses bosses bosses bosses boss. So……that’s awesome. Like second in command from DC. Luckily his underling, just my husbands bosses bosses bosses boss was able to take me. Everyone found this beyond hilarious later on. I also discovered onstar can unlock my car remotely, which was fantastic.
@@feraltradwife It's so hard to find the right things to say in these situations. She was right - it wasn't fair to her, but unfortunately, I can't change that, and I can't take her hurt away, but I can sit with her in it, and I can help her learn from it. I'm exhausted, but I'm glad I could be there for her and help her through it. Before the invention of a key fob, I was absolutely horrible about locking my keys in my car. So much so, that my boss at the grocery store I worked at had a copy, then when I went to work full time at another employer, my boss there had a copy, my dad had a copy, my boyfriend (now husband) had a copy, his family had a copy, and I had an extra copy. LOL. I'm glad onstar came to your rescue! That's much better than paying a locksmith. They are so pricey! Congratulations to your hubby's big day! Lol did you know that you were asking such a high authority person for a ride? Or did you find this out later? At least you know they are kind! How are you feeling today?
Lmao. That’s amazing. I had no idea who I was asking. I just saw their lapel pins and thought “nice, same team” and went for it. I’m feeling so much less overwhelmed, the pile of stuff in my yard gets picked up today and it seems like that was the major deadline my brain was worried about. It’s not a big deal in reality, we can always schedule another one if we don’t finish the project. But for some reason I just got stuck on it. I think today will be a pretty chill day with organizing, and then maybe I’ll make some Christmas magic with my kids. I know the twins would love to make cookies together. I hope you have a great day and that maybe some Christmas magic finds you today!
Boy do I hear you, I was just talking to my husband about this today. How I have so many things on my mind to do but I get so overwhelmed that I do nothing! I am 70 , I’ve always had tons of motivation, had an immaculate house, still not bad but I find myself lately just want to sit. How many children do you have?
We have three! Our oldest daughters are quite autistic so its not as easy to disperse chores amongst them, but it is getting better. I am so sad that you are just finding yourself wanting to sit, its such an uncomfortable place to be.
If you still have trouble keeping track of journaling or checking your calendar, give Sweet Potato a treat every single time when it's time to do that. You might forget, but she WILL NOT and it'll help YOU remember what the treat means 💕
I have ADD, that's why I asked. I am 44 and I was diagnosed 2 years ago. You're doing a lot of what experts say to do to help you with it. Like Exercise and Journaling. I am on medication, and it has helped. But you do you 😉😘
I don't know if you're aware of it, but you described ADHD quite well. TH-cam started suggesting ADHD content to me, and as a self-proclaimed nerd who wants to learn about (almost) everything, I watched. Suddenly I had an explanation for my entire life. I suspect you're younger than myself, but little girls "couldn't" have ADHD when I was a kid, and certainly not adults of any gender. So I am on a journey of discovery, and I hope this little bit of information can help you as it has helped me
@feraltradwife I still haven't been tested, but I'm hoping that once I do that, they'll give me resources like cognitive behavioral therapy. I am keenly interested in the medications at this point because I can't remember anything anymore, but I understand that not everyone wants that. Honestly I forget my own address and other simple yet important things, to the point that I feel like a dementia patient, and I'm barely functioning at this point. I don't know if it's gotten worse with age or if it's because I've been living alone for so long now 🤷♀️
Yes, I agree. What’s crazy is that I know for me personally, and maybe with other messy people, is that we know the tricks and tips. It’s the execution we get stuck on. I can’t explain it, but I know what to do…..it’s the doing….. but I’m trying to be better! Send prayers.
This video made me subscribe. I watched a few tonight. My house is a wreck and Christmas is in one week. Im watching you instead of getting shit done lol but I will get to it when I can.
It made me a little bummed for you when you said “its not quality” cause videos like this are the most relatable I ever see and get the most engagement from me personally. But I definitely get what you mean. You see all these clean with me’s where the chick goes crazy and its done top to bottom in a day. Anyone suspect they just hit pause and wear the same outfit and hairstyle in two weeks to finish the video? No shame! That would be me if I were a creator.
I have watched hundreds(maybe thousands) of clean with me’s and possibly commented on two others than yours.
Youre doing amazing! 🥰
Thank you so much! You can always pop me in your ear and clean along! I do that with another creature, Acre Homestead. I feel like I’ve trained myself to clean whenever I hear her voice. Yet again I need to do a big clean to get things back to “clean” and it’s my goal to have it done Thursday to go into the holiday weekend with a nice clean home. I bet you and I can get this done!!!
I HATE that - when you're so overwhelmed that you just can't do anything. Your thoughts are just swimming round and round and you can't settle and do anything - so you do nothing, and then you feel guilty!
Loved this video BECAUSE of your courage to show the negative emotions (anxiety, overwhelm) and how they affect your life. Then to watch you struggle to push through your difficulty focusing, making a decision, and then acting, AWESOME! I so related to the fearful and anxious expressions that passed over your face. Like you, I first wondered if pushing yourself to do needed routine cleaning would actually help or if it would reinforce the desire to numbly veg out. I was so impressed that you gained the strength and fortitude from the cleaning to then take on the big garage cleaning job! Truly inspiring! It was your authenticity that sets this video apart from the many young housewife/mother housekeeping videos out there. Please continue making videos that reveal all the different aspects of your (and our) humanness, not just sanitized versions. I learned so much from this video about how to work with my own emotional obstacles.
This comment touched my heart. Thank you so much for your amazing encouragement. I genuinely appreciate you.
Only in the last 11 months have I truly appreciated the saying, "Everything has a place and should be put in it's place." It is slowly helping...new habits are hard. I watched you filling the water container. I do not know why, but my patience does not stay long enough for me to fill up my containers. And for some reason I start shutting down. . . . . . . I see so much of me in you. I was raised at a time when denial, for the sake of appearances, was huge. Sad. I am now retired and no longer care what others think... Because "they are going to think what they want to think no matter what I do."
These videos are very helpful and make me realize that I am not alone in feeling overwhelmed often. Thank you for making this video and I hope you have a great day! 😘
Thank you so much. It does help to know I'm not alone. I hope you have an amazing day!
Progress not perfection. Great job.🎉
A thousand percent. Thank you!
Hello from MMC! I am also ADHD. I am very good at ignoring....being overwhelmed....and vegging on TH-cam. 46 years of living stressed out and with depression. I used to be able to push myself thru it. But not any more. I am now 58 and struggling to motivate. I am excellent at picking up an item and placing it 5 feet away. . .🙄. Mack recommended your video. . . And within minutes, I understand why. Thank you!
Welcome!!
This was both quality and interesting. Love the honesty. Makes me feel not alone. Thanks!
Thank you so much :)
I’m making my way through your videos and I see you. I see you Washing the dishes, pushing yourself to get through it all, and getting overwhelmed at everything all at once! I feel where you’re at and I’m giving you a hug because, girl, you’re going to get through it. 😊
Thank you Megan!
Hi youtube friend, I always get overwhelmed too and my main issue is procrastination but it’s ok we got this, we are human. I can definitely relate. I suffer from anxiety and depression too and some days it’s really hard to even get out of bed. Thank you for sharing. I enjoyed your video 😊
I really appreciate you telling me you can relate! I feel so alone in my struggle sometime, I love knowing you are out there too doing this with me.
Thank you for these videos. I think you are a brave woman for being so vulnerable and real about your life. ❤❤❤
I have never seen you so vulnerable. You aren’t alone. Some days we all walk around blinking back the tears all day. And we go too many days without taking a shower or even getting out of bed. It’s not all the time, thankfully, but enough. And honestly, I think it’s what attracts a lot of us to cleaning videos. Sometimes it helps us throw that switch that gives a tiny bit of motivation to start. And starting is always the hardest part. It’s so much easier to scroll TH-cam or Instagram or TikTok than it is to actually DO SOMETHING constructive. So you’re preaching to the choir. Life is hard. It just is, some brains are just more prone to sadness even when we don’t know WHY we’re sad. Or we think we shouldn’t be. Because we have a nice house, a nice care, a good man, kids we love. But it’s not tied to that, I don’t think. I think it’s just some brains are missing something. A chemical, a hormone, an ability to self-correct. My mom dealt with depression even as a tiny girl. She didn’t even have the vocabulary to try to explain HOW she felt. She just knew she had an empty pit in her stomach that left her teary-eyed and sad. And I got that from her. I don’t think to the same degree (thankfully)! I think she was even suicidal at times but kept herself alive for me and my sister. But if we wouldn’t have been here, she’d never have made it. I’m so glad you decided to pick up a camera, I really think this is going to be good for you. And for us, because you’re so fun to watch. And listen to. Sending you a big hug!
Ugh. This one was a hard one. I recently went back and watched it.
@@feraltradwife yeah, I think you were just having a bad day. Sometimes, we try to shake that sheet off, and it won’t go. And we have no choice but to give into it and hope for a better day the next day. I was just watching Faith Matini on TH-cam. She also has a cleaning channel. And at the very beginning she’s washing her dishes before putting them in the dishwasher. She said almost the exact same things you say. And was trying to defend herself before everyone came for her in the comments. She said she just cannot put them in the dishwasher without washing them. It feels weird and wrong to her. I told her about you in the comments. She’s very nice. Has twins too. 5 year old boys. It’s right at the beginning of her latest video if you want to watch it.
@@CaliAnimalLover I’ll go check her out! Thanks babe!
Oh my goodness..you've already achieved alot..I've been in my pyjama's all day and my bed is constantly unmade as there are so many other things that need doing..I love that you are real..with real issues..❤
Been there. Sometimes we get overwhelmed and get off track. Don't be hard on yourself and do the best that you can. New subscriber.
Thank you so much.
Please don't apologize. 😢 you're going to make me cry. You did enough. It's enough. ❤
Thank you Rachel ❤️❤️❤️
I relate to you so much. Great job pushing through. Please know you are helping so many people going through the same thing Beth.
Thank you Amy ❤️❤️❤️
I appreciate your candor. Your young son is very sweet. And he is a Ginger!!! I have a loving, awesome ginger in my life. He means everything to me ❤. You are an inspiration to people who have the same struggles as you do. Keep on keepin’ on girl!
Ginger’s are amazing!!!
First time follower. Your content hits home for me. I’m 69 yrs. Old and my adult ADHD is very hard to control. My depression is from not being able to do a lot due to heart condition. So I understand what you go through. On top of it all I am a spender for things I really don’t need
Welcome love! I’m happy to have you
You just gained a follower. I struggle with depression and anxiety a lot too. Amd wothout going into too much detail my husband and 2 boys and i are in a crisis at the moment and i too am struggling to not spiral. My house looks a lot like yours but you inspired me to get up and just tackle one thing at a time.
Oh my gosh my heart goes out to you. Crisis living is so hard. I am so proud of you for getting up and getting something done. That is huge, no matter how small of an item you tackled was. I hope you let me know how you are doing in the future. I will be thinking of you!
Hey, just thinking about you and hope you and your family are pulling out of crisis and into peace!
My friend! I'm seven and a half minutes into your video, and I had to pause it to say that I'm so glad you uploaded this video today. You've been on my mind, and I was wondering how you're doing. Your video is so relatable to me. So, bathrooms. I normally love cleaning bathrooms because it is always so satisfying, and I love the results. I can't seem to make myself clean them this week. I know I need to, and I hate that I haven't. I hate it so much that I've literally stressed myself out worrying about the bathrooms. I feel like I need to rest, but I can't rest because my mind can't let it go. So, to hear that you go through something like this makes me not feel alone in my struggles. This content that you feel isn't your greatest, shows that you are a real person that deals with what most of us do. You motivate me because I see you getting this thing done that overwhelms you, so I know I can do it too. ❤
You didn’t make me tear up at all.
Nikki thank you. I struggled quite a bit with the idea of posting, I was worried that me struggling wouldn’t be motivational because I’m not upbeat and encouraging. I’m slowed down and a bit lost.
And just go clean your bathroom for 2 minutes. Even that small amount will feel like an accomplishment. (Deep down I think we both know you’ll keep going after the 2 min).
I have to make myself sleep now, apparently I have a big day tomorrow that I didn’t realize because I stopped looking ahead at my calendar. But I’ll check back in with you tomorrow and see how you are doing.
First of all, Midwest Magic Cleaning sent me. At first, I wasn't sure I was going to stick around. Honestly, the decoration change over video almost put me off because the idea of actually having a wall for seasonal decorations is baffling to me. I'm so glad I stuck it out.
The video where you showed the mess for the first time felt very real to me. By the 4th video I began questioning whether you were, like I was, completely oblivious to the very clear depression and anxiety symptoms you are exhibiting. The more I watch, the more I feel like I'm watching myself. Then we get to this video. Two minutes in, I started crying. By 4 minutes in, I had decided to forward this video to my therapist because I feel like I'm watching someone else acting out my thoughts. The little pauses as you're explaining your next step in the process perfectly mimic the way I talk as I struggle to hold on to a thought process long enough to complete it.
I'm very new to trying to work on my mental health and I feel like I found you at the perfect time.
@@theturtlemoves9310 oh man. Wait until the video where I explain exactly why I am WELL aware of my anxiety and depression. It’s not great. (Titled broken and it’s me cleaning my makeup brushes)
@@feraltradwife Oh boy. Thanks for the warning. I will make sure I'm in a good headspace before I watch it. I've known I had depression since I was 28 but it wasn't until this summer, at 44, that I realized just how bad it is. All the feelings you express in this video, are things I thought were normal until just recently. I thought other people were just more strong-willed than I was, to fight through the thoughts and exhaustion. I wasn't even here to find reflection for myself. I have been watching cleaning videos because my parents are hoarders and eventually it will be 100% my problem (currently it's about 25%).
@@theturtlemoves9310 I’m so glad you’re finding support (yes?) with me! I think we can get so much better. And while I’m still messy and chaotic, I have found so many amazing people here and feel so supported in our community. ❤️
@@feraltradwife I am absolutely getting support. I even cleaned the shower, toilet, and sink today!
@@theturtlemoves9310 yess!!!! Amazing my love. I’m so proud of you.
Love seeing this. Thank you for this motivation this afternoon while I try to work through fatigue and a huge slump of not doing what I’d say I will.
It’s incredibly hard and I really understand you babe. Good luck!
I feel this way and know I am not alone. Thank you for sharing your feelings ❤
You are so welcome! ❤️❤️❤️
I feel this. Thank you for being real. Hugs.
You’re so welcome!
I watch this video when my anxiety is growling in my face, my cleaning doesn't suffer in fact I clean non stop when I have anxiety and I still feel like it's dirty, but everything else suffers, my appearance, my motivation to cook, or feel productive, home schooling gets overwhelming, everything seems like a waste of time, and I'm completely failing, this week has been that week, but watching this video tells me I'm in good company and that helps
Oh my heart goes out to you soooooo much. I hate that you’re having a week where your anxiety is just simply THRIVING. It’s so so awful. I’m glad that you feel better with me, because I feel better with you.
I don’t think you are failing. But it’s so hard for you to hear that over anxiety yelling that you are. I’m 100% here for you babe.
@@feraltradwife One smile from my youngest and I know I'm here for a good reason, his hugs are the best medicine, more water less chocolate from tomorrow, hormones who needs em!🙃
Comment #2 - You're so hard on yourself. I loved this video so much. I do get scattered sometimes, but I tend to hyper fixate on one thing until I get it done. Except when I'm like this, I just can't. I don't know why. But I'm going to make myself go clean these bathrooms because my family and I deserve to have bathrooms that have been freshly cleaned. Good enough is perfect
Ok, back from the first half of my busy day. How are your bathrooms? I'm torn for you because you work so much that you do need to rest, but we also do need clean bathrooms..... I love when I have the hyperfocus. I can get so much done in such a short amount of time. Its usually how I operate. I do nothing for far too long and then I do all of it. But its simply not here.
I hope you have an amazing day today and I'll talk to you soon!! xoxo
@@feraltradwife I'm not sure if UIL is a national thing or just a Texas thing, but every year there is an academic competition, and my middle daughter tried out and was chosen out of a lot of kids to compete in Oral Reading where she has to read a poem, use different voices for the characters, and be animated. Yesterday, they read their poems for the Rotary Club. She was called to read hers first and behind her audience in the kitchen area, a girl knocked over a glass of tea, then the girl started running around freaking out about the spilled tea, the principal went to calm her down, she started crying - it sounded like chaos. All this happened while my daughter was trying to read her poem, and the chaos derailed her, and she was chosen to be an alternate instead of a competitor. She was heartbroken, and after she went to bed, started sobbing. So, while I did get the toilet paper restocked, the entire toilet cleaned, the room tidied, and created a basket of feminine hygiene products in the drawer for my oldest daughter, I did not finish because my middle child needed me. I was up til midnight talking to her. So, tonight, I will finish them. After doing what little I did last night, tonight it feels very doable. How was your day?
You did the most important work last night.Your poor daughter! I can imagine that heartbreak, especially because it was beyond her control but it took something away from her anyway. I hope she gets her moment as an alternate. We want to show them that this taste of bitterness with help her taste the sweet when it comes around, but those lessons aren’t for the young. They just get to feel the pain. How are you after all that?
My day was so busy. It was a big day for my husband so I was just supporting cast. But it was a lot of running around from the get go. I did lock my keys in the car and had to leave it at one building to get to another building for an event. By the time the event was done all of the people I knew had left and I ended up asking another person for a ride to my car (these are all law enforcement so I felt ok doing this) I asked my husbands bosses bosses bosses bosses bosses boss. So……that’s awesome. Like second in command from DC. Luckily his underling, just my husbands bosses bosses bosses boss was able to take me. Everyone found this beyond hilarious later on. I also discovered onstar can unlock my car remotely, which was fantastic.
@@feraltradwife It's so hard to find the right things to say in these situations. She was right - it wasn't fair to her, but unfortunately, I can't change that, and I can't take her hurt away, but I can sit with her in it, and I can help her learn from it. I'm exhausted, but I'm glad I could be there for her and help her through it.
Before the invention of a key fob, I was absolutely horrible about locking my keys in my car. So much so, that my boss at the grocery store I worked at had a copy, then when I went to work full time at another employer, my boss there had a copy, my dad had a copy, my boyfriend (now husband) had a copy, his family had a copy, and I had an extra copy. LOL. I'm glad onstar came to your rescue! That's much better than paying a locksmith. They are so pricey!
Congratulations to your hubby's big day! Lol did you know that you were asking such a high authority person for a ride? Or did you find this out later? At least you know they are kind! How are you feeling today?
Lmao. That’s amazing.
I had no idea who I was asking. I just saw their lapel pins and thought “nice, same team” and went for it.
I’m feeling so much less overwhelmed, the pile of stuff in my yard gets picked up today and it seems like that was the major deadline my brain was worried about. It’s not a big deal in reality, we can always schedule another one if we don’t finish the project. But for some reason I just got stuck on it. I think today will be a pretty chill day with organizing, and then maybe I’ll make some Christmas magic with my kids. I know the twins would love to make cookies together.
I hope you have a great day and that maybe some Christmas magic finds you today!
I’m in the same boat! It’s so hard, that’s for the honestly.
Thank you! I was scared to be this honest but I think it helped me process exactly what and how I was feeling. I hope you have an amazing day :)
It's real. Thank you.
You’re welcome Sharon ❤️
So relatable.
Shhh We understand 😮💨
Boy do I hear you, I was just talking to my husband about this today. How I have so many things on my mind to do but I get so overwhelmed that I do nothing! I am 70 , I’ve always had tons of motivation, had an immaculate house, still not bad but I find myself lately just want to sit. How many children do you have?
We have three! Our oldest daughters are quite autistic so its not as easy to disperse chores amongst them, but it is getting better. I am so sad that you are just finding yourself wanting to sit, its such an uncomfortable place to be.
I relate so much,im really struggling right now 😢❤
I’m so sorry my love
If you still have trouble keeping track of journaling or checking your calendar, give Sweet Potato a treat every single time when it's time to do that. You might forget, but she WILL NOT and it'll help YOU remember what the treat means 💕
lol!!!! That is the best suggestion ever.
Have you ever been tested for ADD? You're doing great, you're doing the best you can 😊
Lmao. I’m refusing because otherwise I’ll lose my status as the only neurotypical in this house! (But I agree, I feel like I have a lot of the traits)
I have ADD, that's why I asked. I am 44 and I was diagnosed 2 years ago. You're doing a lot of what experts say to do to help you with it. Like Exercise and Journaling. I am on medication, and it has helped. But you do you 😉😘
I don't know if you're aware of it, but you described ADHD quite well. TH-cam started suggesting ADHD content to me, and as a self-proclaimed nerd who wants to learn about (almost) everything, I watched. Suddenly I had an explanation for my entire life. I suspect you're younger than myself, but little girls "couldn't" have ADHD when I was a kid, and certainly not adults of any gender. So I am on a journey of discovery, and I hope this little bit of information can help you as it has helped me
I’m really looking in to hacks and ways to live *as if* I have it, because it can only help. ❤️
@feraltradwife I still haven't been tested, but I'm hoping that once I do that, they'll give me resources like cognitive behavioral therapy. I am keenly interested in the medications at this point because I can't remember anything anymore, but I understand that not everyone wants that. Honestly I forget my own address and other simple yet important things, to the point that I feel like a dementia patient, and I'm barely functioning at this point. I don't know if it's gotten worse with age or if it's because I've been living alone for so long now 🤷♀️
Diddo! I am 58.
Rinse dishes and put in dishwasher right away. Kids too. Honestly no need to double wash.
Yes, I agree. What’s crazy is that I know for me personally, and maybe with other messy people, is that we know the tricks and tips. It’s the execution we get stuck on. I can’t explain it, but I know what to do…..it’s the doing….. but I’m trying to be better! Send prayers.
thats part of depression its called a racing mind. it can make you feel wasted
It is zero percent fun
You may have depression or ADHD or both...
Accurate AF