This Is The Worst Thing That Has Ever Happened To Me, What Should I Do?
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The pain in his voice. Feel bad for the guy
Yeah so sad. I wish he went more often, even every day, there's plenty of meetings online since the pandemic. Hope he reads this
Dave was very sensitive with this caller and he handled it really well. I don't always agree with his advice but everything here was spot on.
I always knew about gambling addiction I didn't realize how powerful it was until I started working part time doing valet for a casino in my area some years back. People coming out in tears saying they lost the rent, light bill, car payment, fill in the blank. Spouses knocking on the valet and the security office doors showing us pics of them and their car begging us not to allow them inside. It's awful
Wow. That definitely puts a real face on this. Addictions of all types are monsters.
Winning at betting is knowledge. You can't guess. You must know. My specialty is Chicago sports. I win.
@@miketheyunggod2534 I know a few professional gamblers seems like a nightmare as bookies will regularly cancel bets and look for ways out of payouts when they spot regular patterns. They will restrict how much you can place and do everything to restricting payouts. If your a regular loser there is no such restriction.
When you see multi millionaire sports stars lose everything to gambling you realise it's not about the money. There is a high linked to gambling that people are completely hooked on that means there is no limit to what they are willing to spend to get that win. A reason I despise micro transactions on modern. Computer games where they encourage children to spend a lot of money on mystery boxes and mystery players. It should be illegal.
WOW!!! I had no idea!
First step is admitting to oneself that one has a problem. That's a plus to him on seeking a solution. I for one am rooting for him on his recovery. 🙏
The worst things that ever happened to me were, the strongest smartest coolest man in the world ran away from home when I was 12, my dad. I fell in love at 17 to a good person, she was murdered (shot in the head) when I was 19. I fell in love and married my first wife, she died in front of me when I was 34.I never gave up and have been happily married for 21 years now with two children. Never give up!
I was where he is several years ago. its hard, and its still hard even though I haven't gambled in over a year. the thing that helped me the most was finding something to do that filled my time and also helped me make extra money instead of losing the money I was earning with my job. I started a side hustle that grew and grew, and then i started selling stuff on ebay , and just kept filling my time with activities that puled me away from gambling. its hard and its not easy, and there will always be a gambler inside me. but my will to keep him at bay is stronger. because if i let him out i would loose everything.
Back in the day gambling establishments were illegal and there was no internet so online was impossible. It is sad that such a destructive thing is now so readily available. This is not good for society.
Yeah. I live in British Columbia in Canada and sports betting was illegal in my parts for so many years and now it is, especially online.
Anything can be destructive, I mean, if someone is on a mission to destroy their life they will find a way. The fact is, most people can bet on sports responsibly and enjoy it.
@@ryanc9888 why do you say that most people can bet responsibly on sports? Very likely it's most people can't, that's why the bookies and sites make money..lots of it
@@ryanc9888 Agreed. I sports bet, but I do $10-20 here and there. I make sure I can afford to bet and I don’t do massive bets. If I start losing a few bets I will wait awhile because that’s all I can afford to lose. I love to gamble, but I make sure to do it responsibly. I think sports betting should be legal. Alcohol is and you can drink yourself to death or eat McDonald’s every day until you get a heart attack. Got to be responsible, unfortunately some people can’t do that with whatever it is there doing.
@@deepakabraham8831 Most people can bet responsibly, doesn’t mean that automatically makes the casinos or bookies losers. Millions of people bet, obviously they are going to cash in huge revenue or else they wouldn’t be in business.
Tell him to get a old school flip phone lol
Actually its one of the things I did to stop mine but the debts are just there going in cycles
Wife just said that!
Its impossible to get one of those old type phones ive looked lol
@@ruthirwin8222 my hubby has one. He got it from Verizon
@@ruthirwin8222 its not impossible at all what are you talking about
Heard the pain in his voice. Poor guy.
He's not getting over it in one day. It's a good thing he's getting professional help. Hope it works out for this guy and he can stay clean.
Said a prayer for the young man. May he find that power that can do for him what he can't do for himself
My Mom lost everything and is still gambling 🙁 it’s a very sad addiction 20+ years
My life was nearly destroyed!! But JESUS!!!
Perfection
I’ve never seen anything more destructive than gambling.
Gambler at my job destroyed my career for 10 years and destroyed multiple offices. I’ve never seen anything more destructive than gambling.
I sincerely feel for the guy. You can hear it in his voice it’s been a battle. You will get by fella. Benign up front & honest is the best way to begin fixing it.
Me too.
I understand that addictions can be tough. I hope that God blesses this caller and leads him out of his problem.
We're rooting for you. You got this! You can do the work. One minute at a time.
Have friends who gamble on sports. They’re chasing the dopamine high, but it’s deeper than that. They also love the adrenaline high during the competition they’re betting on - it almost doesn’t matter whether they win or lose.
The only guy who has gotten out did so because he was highly analytical and did the math showing he was playing a losing game.
This is great advice. Everything is rigged so the bookies never loose.
Mr Ramsey 👍 So polite ⚘
He could get a wise phone. I’m getting one once my cell phone plan is up. I’m addicted to my phone and getting one to curve my habit.
get a land line for calls, no internet or computers at home. He needs a friend he trusts to babysit him.
Yes exactly. Some people are saying well just turn off your internet, that's not how it works, the addiction will make him go to a friend or neighbors for their internet.
Kevin, sending you love, peace, and healing light. Dave and Rachel, so much compassion and heart felt advice. THIS is why I am a faithful listener.
Thank you Dave Ramsey for bringing up the spiritual side of healing, recovery, and the boundless love of the Holy Father. He will walk by Kevins side through his darkest hours and never leave him. 🙏
That sucks! Literally every streamer and podcaster advertises for a sports betting site.
If you don't have struggles in life how do you grow as a person. I really do feel sorry for this guy as I can hear so much pain in his voice I can almost feel it. I hope he gets the healing he needs.
Well I guess I never grew up because I think struggling is stupid!! Why not have the easy don't have to do anything I don't want to life instead.
@@donaldlyons17 yeah this is naive. Idk what kind of fantasy life you have where you’ve had no struggles
"Casinos aren't built on winners" Grandpa
Lord, strengthen this man and the GA group he's part of as he works to overcome his gambling addiction.
Please break the chain of addiction in his and their lives. In Jesus' Name, Amen.
In Jesus name. Amen.
Call the lord directly 1-800 help line extension Jesus
Yes, we pray for strength and his ability to find healthy options to this addiction, whether it be through friendship connections, exercise, motivational phrases posted around the apartment, willingness to forego technology for a time. It is difficult. Kevin is worthy to be well and whole for his future.
@@sandrab.3538 praying doing nothing you are being delusional! !
Rooting for you buddy. Sending you prayers and strength
At least he has figured out that he has this addiction before he got older and lost everything. Many end up homeless from losing 30 years of what they worked for from gambling. So there is so much hope for him learning so early. I wish him the best to recovery and a prosperous life.
Man I hate gambling. I hate it SO SO much.
I hope this young man gets through this soon! He still has his whole life ahead of him. Call someone when you feel your gonna gamble- please don’t give up! This world needs you
And all these ppl who benefit from people’s illnesses 😢🥺. Poor guy. At least you’ve realized the problem, it may take years to overcome. You got this honey. Take it day by day ♥️
You can do it Kevin!!
This is why you don’t even gamble once
Gambling is fine, but only do it with money you wouldn’t be upset to lose
If you aren’t an addict, you can gamble for entertainment and not have the urge to do it again.
Lol are you not invedted in anything??? Gimme a break
When I gamble I get sick. Some people are just wired differently.
are you aware Rachel gambles lol
Championing you!!! Sending you strength!!!!
Prayers to you brother.
I love the compassion, it is so important to have the heart to help.
Great call, I learned a bit more today, Thank you
a sad part of this is that most GA counselors while trained or taking some classes on it...have no real experience in counseling for gambling because there isn't enough people enrolling for gambling addiction/counseling. It's really hard to find a good therapist to address this.
Pray 🙏🏽. It’s gonna be ok. 😊
Many additions rooted from pain may all be healed and well keep trying it can take months to years we are all different and develop differently. Try not being harsh if you slip we are human pron to mistakes and have weaknesses 💐
It's crazy how people find losing money fun
I lost thousands gambling online and it made me depressed and angry with myself. I decided to get addicted to saving money. I got a second, easy online job and I have so much fun watching the money I earn add up. I look at it every day several times a day. Maybe I'm weird.
At least you can get the first addiction for free…
Seriously, I remember to tragic storyline in The Sopranos that featured a Gambling Addict.. it can wreak your (and others) lives…
So sorry 😢. Don’t give up. You need to make your mind over and this takes time. You need to create new mental scripts and find new friends that support you. Also find a way to replace the “figurative high” with a new healthy options.
I was wondering if just switching to a flip phone could help eliminate this stuff....
Dave and Rachel gave excellent advice to the man! 👍
He thinks he's behind, but the reality is he's learning valuable lessons about life and himself. We will all face hardships, if not from the inside then from the outside. He will carry these lessons on through the rest of his life.
B.REASON
God bless him with complete recovery forever.. So much courage to call in like he did.. I'm so proud of him..!!!
Sending 💗💗💗💗💗 to you young man..!!! You've already shown the courage to take the steps to help yourself. !!! Just remember honey...
One day at a time... One step at a time.. And give thanks and rejoice for every successful step you make... We love you dear !!!
As someone who struggled with alcohol, its just unexplainable how an addiction can take over. And everytime you go to do it you justify it, oh i wont do it that much, or ill stop eventually. I just dont understand the science behind it but an addiction almost becomes a part of you that you cant shed off.
The science behind it is that whatever your addicted too gives you more enjoyment,(dopamine) than everything else you do
@@shakinbottles that's right, it's a brain switch. This guy will need help his whole life probably.
Its shows weak personality
It seems like it's a part of you because there is a demon behind it. Deal with recovery spiritually as well as using conventional methods. You need deliverance.
Step1 get rid of smartphone with any gambling apps
Sometimes there are medical and nutritional balances that are off as well, and those can push toward addictions. Dr. Amen is someone who looks at brain/neurofeedback loops that can also help. Things like ADHD add to impulse control issues as well. Healing frequently comes from lots of directions. If four supports all help 10-15 percent, then you've received 50 percent improvement. TY for the book recommendations. Yes, this is also a spiritual issue. He is brave to step into this battle, and people are there to help.
I wish I could relate but I don't understand the addiction. The thought of losing my hard-earned money is not something that appeals to me
All addictions start and end with pain 💔 😢 😞
I don't understand why online betting was even allowed to happen
He should install and buy a 1 year subscription of gamban and install it on every device with internet connection. It doesn't solve the whole problem but it will block sites in the whole world
Defeated, hopeless = depression. Been there and witnessed it first hand in others. Thing is, having come out the other side, I think one of the only and best things anyone can do is to take accountability for it. It sounds harsh but to not blame yourself is to play the victim and blame it on something or someone else is the wrong way. If you don’t internalize that you messed up, partially or wholly, then you can’t take the necessary steps to fix it.
I see all these DraftKings commercials and it’s so predatory and pisses me off. I have sports betting accounts, and fortunately have lots of self control with it, but I know it’s set up for others to fail. Makes me so angry.
If you don't mind me asking what is different about your account that is not like everyone else's? I have yet to have anyone tell me "you have to gamble" but I have told myself lets gamble today!!
@@donaldlyons17 I don’t understand your point or question?
@@w7855 I think maybe they are asking, how do you handle the self-control while others cannot.
Ah, I see. I guess I don’t really know. I guess I am aligned on what my goals for myself are, and I see it as occasional entertainment instead of a way to make money or to feel the feelings of a win.
Get rid of your computer and phone. It's tough but you got this bro.
unfortunately, as a net winner, thank you for your contribution over the years... that's all I ever say.
10 seconds in and then an AD. Hey kevin welcome to the Ramsay show. Excellent work there Google.
There are millions of different gambling systems in almost every freakin industry in america!! Its sick af!
I should add that the meds need to used in conjunction with therapy or counseling.
Best wishes for Kevin.
FLEE from temptation: anyone that gambles is out of your life, don’t watch sports, don’t hang around guys that talk about sports. Install a content blocker on your home network and your phone. If you live in a community where there is gambling, MOVE. See any source of access to gambling as literal FIRE that will consume you and just like a raging forest fire coming towards you RUN as fast as you can the other direction. Anything less is not taking it seriously.
So true.
I been in his shoes, I was into gambling slots and such and it’s hard to stop and you loose lots of money
And now they're widely legalizing sports gambling and advertising. It's only getting worse.
This shame is holding him down. He needs to find a way to let go of that shame
Kevin if you're reading this, try reading "Awaken the Giant Within" to help create the transformation "Atomic Habits" to create an environment to sustain it.
A heavy mushroom trip with some time for reflection & a journal will help speed that process out :)
I only disagree with the part where she says finding the root cause will help. Sometimes there’s no « emotional root cause », u just have a brain susceptible to a specific addiction and when it takes root, you downregulate your dopamine receptors and not giving in to that addiction feels extremely uncomfortable and miserable. The only way to heal your brain is to abstain forever from it.
Brain susceptibility - you are correct but environment either supports or prevents. This is true for all addictions and mental health.
False. I hate how everyone is pedaling this bs genetic predisposition stuff nowadays. The other guy is correct, yes there are different genes that control different factors of who you are, however environment plays a much larger role in that than genes. Anyone who denies this is out of touch with themselves, as I used to be.
That's already the first step, the realization that they got a problem and that they needed help to overcome it. Doesn't mean that they're a bad person though, they just needed the right people to reach out to them. Hope this young lad can find what he needs.
Yeah but you never know, I have a daughter who is addicted to social media and being inappropriate with it, she says she understands and then backslides. Some of these people will have to go through this their whole lives.
Gambling is the baddest addiction ever. back in my home long time ago, a guy lost all his money and started betting on his WIFE and he lost her .
terrible. wake up ppl. enough is enough.
Living in AZ now and sports betting was legalized about a year ago. I do it for fun, but my bets are small. I am so sick of all the ads they run on the radio. A way to avoid it would be to go back to a flip phone. Remember how simple life was prior to 2007 when the iphone came out?
People, places and things.. I pray you find peace in Christ 🙏🏼
He should cancel his cell and get a landline phone, work at his office and disconnect his home WiFi. I realize everything is easier said than done, but it can be done with determination.
The addict is in pain my ex sponsor used to say
Lord Have Mercy
Poor kid. That's tough.
Hinds feet in high places. Read that several times. Wonderful book. Best gift I ever got!
Wow. Never heard of it
@@PInk77W1 my sister gift it to maby years ago. I'm sure it's on amazon.
@@petracain6794 cool. Thx
@@PInk77W1 most welcome!
All sports betting sites have self exclusion, even the offshore books
After a fair share of trying gambling the first time with my aunt, I did not enjoy one single game of my time being there lol I lost and didn’t lose all of my money but still, a partial went out the door 😂😭
Ever since New York legalized it all I hear are sports betting ads and how you get $250 free play. Terrible
See this is why we stopped our 16 yo son from betting online when we found out. Recently, we found out he was betting his friends he could beat them in games. It wasn’t $5 or $10 bets, it was a $100 bet 😩 we told him ABSOLUTELY NOT! He was telling us he won this game. His friend has yet to pay him and I hope he doesn’t get paid. Maybe it will make him think twice about making these types of bets. My son had a lump sum of money, but that has dwindled down and he isn’t working yet since he plays football. Hopefully he will start working in a couple months bc he has too much extra time on his hands after football practice.
Dave, would you make a comment about this video about your lawsuit? Thanks
No person with a brain comments on an unresolved lawsuit that they are in.
unfortunately it sounds like he has a major problem and he needs to go a step further then ga or therapy. i he needs to be put into a conservatorship or something similiar. i know these get bad raps especially with the entire brittany spears situation but these are the reasons they exist. they should only be used in extreme circumstances but i think he needs it at this point in time
I’ve never been a gambler if I go to a casino which I’ve only been a few times and when I did I would either bring money with me or take money out there but It would be like 50 or 100 bucks and when it’s gone that’s it I don’t take any more money out im not keep taking money out to loose it just makes no sense to me specially it’s widely known that the house always wins. Im glad I never got into gambling some people in my family were big into it. My uncle had to check himself out of the casinos in my area and he actually went back he won a bunch of money and they didn’t give it to him because he checked himself out. He makes 100k per year but spends all his extra cash at the casino. My other uncle grew up in a very wealthy family but gambling and drugs ruined his life he had no reason to gamble the family were multi millionaires no reason to even think about gambling but he did just made no sense to me
Yes, addictions that are really bad don't really make sense to some of us but we just have to accept and try to understand that it's a struggle for others.
Sounds like he bet on the 49ers vs the bears. Glad I didn't buy the Trey Lance dilusion.
The luckiest gambler is the one that never wins. He doesn’t get addicted that way.
I have a hard time understand this. I'm so cheap, there is no way I could ever have a gambling addiction. Mind over matter.
Yes, to you it is probably mind over matter, but please understand that it is different for other people. And if you don't understand it, that's okay you don't have to. But please don't judge them in their struggles.
@@kbanghart Sounds like a cop out to me. I still stand steadfast in mind over matter.
@@truthserum5310 sure bro
On line sports betting is truly dangerous.I would imagine if someone has an attraction to on Iine betting, getting addicted is probably really easy.
If he is serious about quitting gambling at least on the online side he can easily go into any online chat/customer service and say to permanently disable his account.
Join a monastery
I would unplug and go out to the mountains with no service and camp out for a couple of weeks
I was wondering if you have any advice….bet against the Bears
I love watching sports but I just can't bring myself to bet on any game. You're playing a game you can't win when you bet. The bookies aren't necessarily smarter but they have tools at their disposal to win that most people never will.
What helped with my gambling addiction was I got married and started a family. I knew this would be toxic for my family.
See it as theft. If you win something you didn't earn, it is theft.
I don't mean all risk taking is theft. But starting a legit business isn't the same thing.
This guy needs to shut down his email account and open a new one so he won’t get any ads. His account is connected by the bots to keep sending him things that will cause him to go bet again. Opening a new account will shut down this problem.
Number one addiction is food buddy
Up until this point, did he really not think about getting rid of his phone? His work computer probably already blocks gambling sites.
Because it's his lifeline to it. You understand, that if he really does shut down his internet or someone does it for him and even takes away his devices, he will then go to a neighbor or to a friend and ask to use theirs. That's how addictions work. I have a daughter going through the same thing.
We use our phones for everything these days
@@PInk77W1 He needs an old people phone, that isn’t connected to the internet
@@rachelharrison7961 yeap. Very sad.