I think the message is lost on a lot of people here. This is about dressing professionally, speaking properly and presenting yourself in a confident way. Behavior that should be expected in a professional environment.
I could guess the bank account within three dollars of those who made the uber critical comments. Most people are poor because they lack focus. Life is not easy...Learn to compete. Sylvia Ann Hewlett has made millions researching what is truth; if you want to be successful.
I can see a lot of people here have never worked in the corporate world. Usually you have to first get ahead of the game to change it. These tips will help you get there and then you can dress and talk like you want.
This is exactly how it works. And this is the reason why so many posers get into positions they do not deserve. That's why so many managers fail, leave companies to join other ones and repeat their failure. It's all about self-presentation and definitely not about skills! Good luck, world!
Thank god you were able to compromise your individuality to manipulate others into listening to what you say rather than relying on your personal ability! All the while perpetuating elitism in the corporate sector! CONGRATS ON ALL THE TIPS MISS.
Look at all those people who can't handle reality. Sit back and consider how times you dismissed someone out of hand and why you did it. I'm betting their presentation was a deciding factor.
Main thing I took away from this video is have confidence in yourself. For some it may be conforming to how your peers speak and dress, for others it may be enbracing their culture. Either way she changed the way she spoke and dressed in order to have confidence in herself. Nothing wrong with that. Whatever floats your boat or finds your lost remonte
I could guess the bank account within three dollars of those who made the uber critical comments. Most people are poor because they lack focus. Life is not easy...Learn to compete. Sylvia Ann Hewlett has made millions researching what is truth; if you want to be successful.
@@imageadvisorsinternational7935 What a contemptible person you are and you are disgusting thinking poor people are poor because they deserve to be. It isn't a character flaw to be fired at fifty just because you are deemed too old and have to start all over again. Hewlett married a wealthy man who had been married previously. She "worked" as an "economist" in an Ivy League school until she was "denied tenure"-fired-because she in fact "lacked focus." She went into government and didn't really make a "big success" for herself there. She did okay, but she had hubby's income to fall back on "just in case." She wrote books few people read and were infamous for being factually challenged. I doubt she has "made millions." You don't "make millions" pandering to a tiny sector of the working population and have thinly veiled contempt for those who are not in your social class like she does. I personally regard people like you as failures as human beings because of your contempt for the poor.
she made me scared of her creepy smiles occasionally, but her stories are somehow truly inspiring. I have the same problem in verbal communication and I think it goes the same ways as she described. Must try to read her book.
The words Hubris, Ego, Neurotypical, and Homosocial Reproduction (unconscious bias). If I assume best intentions, I don’t think her research reflects the world we want to live, but rather reflects the Western World (chiefly the US) as it is... with our struggle with having a congruent value system that is anything more than ego-centric, and rife with hubris, privilege, unconscious bias, and only promotes convergent thinking from neurotypical persons. I’m sorry... I don’t want to live in a world like that.
I see a lot of people already shooting this video down because of its subliminal elitist notions. And I agree with a lot of them that professionalism is bullshit. The only people who would care about a system like that probably created it or uphold it, for the sake of justifying certain behaviors. But it is also important to remember that certain mannerisms can influence you for the better. Maybe not necessarily being well-spoken or well-dressed, but maybe being well-hearted is what helps you improve. Whatever you do. do it to improve yourself as a person. If being well-spoken and well-dressed is what that means to you, have at it.
Her dishonesty goes way back, when she was trashing the women's movement while benefiting from the real gains in the workplace by that very movement. She has shifted her focus somewhat since she cannot identify at all with any women outside her social class (millionaires, big-shot executives).
I believe that this woman's point of view encourages more homogeneity and narrows opportunity for people of all backgrounds. I for one feel comfortable wearing ripped up jeans and throwing on a plain t shirt. If I show up this way to an interview however I will be seen as a lazy or rebellious person. The truth is I graduated in the top 10% of my school and am on my way to college. I am also an introverted and quiet person. People would think I have no ambitions and that I prefer to be in the background, the truth is I love being on stage, I've been in two bands so far, and I hope to continue making music in college. Don't let people limit you and what you can accomplish. Go be the first electric guitarist with a PHD in Astrophysics... nevermind, Brian May has done that already :)
I attended the same school as this lady - same class in fact - and I can assure you that it was certainly not a "mediochre" school but one of the best grammar schools one could wish for ... indeed you probably couldn't have had a better education if you had been privately educated. Please do not mislead your readers!
It's the anti-feminist crowd. You'll notice the _dislike_ trend on any video that is somewhat positive towards women or highlights a problem women specifically face.
***** are you serious? it's because she says if you want to be a leader, than don't focus on finding solutions to the problems, focus on how you talk and dress to become a leader.
Tha Halcyon X Thats Big Thinks fault not hers. Shes here to talk about executive presence and communication in leadership (which are still important qualities of a leader)
Randall Gyebi That's the impression I got. She came her and gave her expert advice on leadership presentation and its benefits. Plain and simple. She not giving her ideological stance on qualities of leaders.
Forget this conformist video and be yourself. How you look and speak are only decorations. If you have a thick accent then keep it. If you have a distinct personality don't throw it away. These are the characteristics you had when you were getting the experience and knowledge over time which amounted to your skills which are, after all, what count. The business and managerial world is built on delusion because, at the end of the day, managers are not necessary and pretentious behavior is their skill set. Those who build and run the factories are more important and, likewise, a power station worker's attire, accent and boardroom whimsy is not going to get him a job when he has no idea how to stop an arc fault breaker from tripping and causing a hazardous power surge through the electrical system. Likewise a computer programmer's attire and haircut is not going to come into much play when he has to find an error in the thousands of lines of machine code he is compiling into a graphic user interface. The further away your job is to actual work, the more ways there are to fool yourself from how certain actions are meaningless.
Your point is morally valid, if somewhat idealistic. However, when it comes to filling a management position (particularly one that deals directly with customers and/or outside entities), all qualifications being equal, presentation will always be the deciding factor. This speaker isn't talking about presentation INSTEAD OF qualification; she's talking about presentation IN ADDITION TO qualification.
Muon Ray yeah that's definitely true because I think at the end of the day no matter what kind of style one way you present yourself if it's obvious that you're being yourself and being real people are going to respect you even if that isn't there a particular style of comporting themselves they are going to respect you and see you as being just a genuine person
It's actually condescending and I dare say unhelpful to say this when you already speak in a way that wouldn't be marginalized. It would be more effective and authentic to address those that marginalize.
I'm Welsh and am understandably very upset by this video. No person should have to change their accent/identity to prove the validity of their message. The quality of your word and perspective should supersede any distinctions of class, I do not need to adopt a different accent to pronounce any jargon.
The last interesting video you guys had was the one about the self identified psychopath; not because it was sensational but because I Actually Learned Something. Which is something rather difficult to come by on this channel, oddly enough. Unsubscribing.
She's right... but I hate that she's right. We've evolved to be extremely good at pattern recognition, which oftentimes results in stereotyping that can be nearly impossible to overcome with objectivity. One truly does need to be well spoken and presentable to be taken seriously, especially in the professional world. I hope that we'll eventually get over these superficial judgments and follow ideas rather than charisma. Until then, brush up on your grammar and buy a nice suit. (Or say fuck everyone and work for yourself)
I see I am not the only one noticing the strange spasmodic smile and look. This lady probably worked very hard to climb up from her working-class background and it had to leave some marks. The "tension" just streams out of her. It's a pity that what she says is quite true and her forced smile is the proof.
She did not come from a working class background. She attended the best Grammar School in Wales. Her father was a lecturer. She pretends that she had to climb that ladder. This person is economical with the truth.
Some valuable insights into how to get a foot in the door in the corporate world. Once you're in the top job do whatever you want, change whatever you want. This is how you get there.
Do you have serious communication skills? Can you get your ideas across? Can you be heard? Can you ask the same question three different ways? Can you be redundant? Can you repeat yourself? Can you say what you just said only different?
I agree with the well-spoken part, but Gandhi led an entire nation dressed in commoner's clothing. And he's not some extreme example. In fact many other respected leaders choose not to dress in rich attire and admired for their humility whereas those (many politicians) who flaunt their wealth in expensive designer clothing are met with scorn and perceived as egotistical.
TL:DW: It would be nice if everyone could be accepted purely on meritocracy, but people are shallow and take appearance and your accent and other superficial things very seriously.
I suggest rather than practicing fake smile and talking big words and complicated theories.... Be yourself and start from there. being an honest , open and warm personality is what makes you attractive.
Maybe the reason that women often don't make it in the business world is that they aren't seen as equals, don't get taken seriously alot of the time, and are subjected to (subtle) harassments all the time. Or otherwise, toxic masculinity...
so in india we have some thing called " convent schools" and there students learn english early on . I went to a state school. Excelled in math and science. Many of friends who went to convent school got job early on as they could speak " good english" as many consulting indian company wanted that. I took the hard route. Finished my masters . now doing far better job . also i worked on my communication as its really important to be well spoken so that others can understand you. most convent school friends git burnt out working in indian consulting firms and have stopped working now . Just communication will not help you
I dont want to lead anyone and i want no leader either. I want to get control of my life as much as i can. I think im competent enough to face the consequences of my actions. Instead i cant live when others destroy my life every now and then and just raise their hands in the air and say: thats economy mate, sorry. Big think is another tool in the hands of the corporate world.
Being well spoken and well dressed is good if you want to be followed, but not necessarily if you want to lead. Followers can be passive and simply watch you, but if you want to lead, you must have some way of convincing people to change themselves. Helping people change themselves is true leadership. Making a bunch of people follow you without encouraging them to change themselves is false leadership.
I halfway agree. The only reason why I believe she succeeded was because of the confidence she had rounded through her new" high" class accent. If she had this confidence with her accent, she would have still succeeded, truth is truth, no matter the accent.
if i look different from this, people don't accept how i speak either. i'm not enough like you to fit in, and you respond to me trying with fear. i don't want to be like you, and you don't want me to be like you.
It's really unfortunate that our society views certain regional/racial dialects of english as "more sophisticated" than others, and male gendered mannerisms as having "more gravitas" than female mannerisms. I really wish we lived in a world where this video wasn't good advice.
I have a fear of (potentially mad) dogs that could turn on me in an instant. And I seem to value sincerity and comfort - the sort that doesn't need to look handsome or pretty and that doesn't need to fake a smile.
i can't stand this woman more the a minute. the false speech, tone and gestures make her like comic aristocractic cartoon, like cruella devile of some sort. please go away, bad dream.
Great advice: be rich and lucky enough to have not been born with a lisp or a quiet voice. Yea...those are totally things you have control of. *facepalm* Not to mention her blatant sexism ignoring all of the gender inequality issues at play in the topics she relates to. Also what's with that creepy smile she gives after each sentence? It's totally creeping me out and it looks intentional. What happened to you Big Think? You went from making gloriously accurate, progressive, countercultural statements like "Religion is child abuse" to saying backward things like "if you were lucky enough to be born with certain advantages, you'll probably be more successful than those who aren't" Sure, it may be true, but that doesn't make it a good thing that we should be promoting. We should be addressing the real social problems that lead to such inequality rather than pretending that anyone can make it if they just mold themselves enough.
I agree it's good advice, but since the boy's club at the top is well documented as strongly sharing traits with psychopaths, is this really the game we want women to play? I'd much rather see women changing the rules altogether and disrupting the club than becoming female copies.
Sadly enough most of what she says is true in today's world. If you're good looking, well postured, and don't sound like a complete idiot when you open your mouth, you'll most likely get much further ahead than the hard working, dedicated, intelligent, loyal one. If you don't believe me; look around specially if you work in an office. Sit back and observe your surroundings; you probably haven't noticed because you're the hard working one.
Evoletization He didn't say that, he implicates that people get discriminated by looks in sectors where looks shouldn't matter ( in modelling and such it of course does matter). Big think should, in stead of self help videos like this there are other places for these kind of videos, talk about how to resolve the problem of discrimination cause of looks and other factors.
Lieven De Langhe Discrimination of people who happen to be lazy would be quite interesting. It's like being ugly, you can't do much to change that, yet it's seen as a guilt.
I think that it's a shame that someone as intelligent and hardworking as this woman presented herself to be felt the need to change the way she spoke to be taken seriously by a "higher class" of people.
Clothes don't make the leader and action is superior to talking. People might have prejudgments but underestimating and marginalizing workers is fatal.
This is so antiquated. Anyone working in the tech industry knows that this kind of behavior is almost unkown in that industry, and everything works just fine. Ideas lead, personality works on the sales floor.
Utter rubbish. Buying a tailor made suit, speech improvement lessons and learning how to think 3 steps in front of your opponent does not make you a great leader. If you want to lead, you need to concentrate less on your 'self' and more on how you make others feel. This means you have to listen and empathize with them. This is where it gets difficult for most, they are so worried about their own 'self' because they carry so much 'mental baggage' that they are unable to listen 100% to someone else. People don't trust them. It's about authenticity. People want leaders they can trust and this wasn't captured in this video.
denis mv yeah definitely, I cannot believe this lady if it actually spoke at google whatever they paid her to do the seminar she did they got ripped off LOL
Title should be: "Want to lead? Be well spoken and, well, dressed. Just have some clothes on. Even if you're a stripper. Always works better to start out these things with duds on."
This woman represents the stupidity of the most people who want to do / or who r in business because of their egoistic and (not really obvious but it is) soiciopathic behavior. pls create a seperate country 4 such people and get all in there. would make us happy and them probably aswell.
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And always smile strangely after every sentence
You ruined this video for me, lol.
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Studies have shown that smiling activates Mirror Neurons in the listener making your message more palatable to be heard. :)
@bizillich well the dislike ratio and the comments shows her smile didn't make her more palatable.
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I think the message is lost on a lot of people here. This is about dressing professionally, speaking properly and presenting yourself in a confident way. Behavior that should be expected in a professional environment.
I could guess the bank account within three dollars of those who made the uber critical comments. Most people are poor because they lack focus. Life is not easy...Learn to compete. Sylvia Ann Hewlett has made millions researching what is truth; if you want to be successful.
I can see a lot of people here have never worked in the corporate world. Usually you have to first get ahead of the game to change it. These tips will help you get there and then you can dress and talk like you want.
This is exactly how it works. And this is the reason why so many posers get into positions they do not deserve. That's why so many managers fail, leave companies to join other ones and repeat their failure. It's all about self-presentation and definitely not about skills! Good luck, world!
Thank god you were able to compromise your individuality to manipulate others into listening to what you say rather than relying on your personal ability! All the while perpetuating elitism in the corporate sector! CONGRATS ON ALL THE TIPS MISS.
Look at all those people who can't handle reality. Sit back and consider how times you dismissed someone out of hand and why you did it. I'm betting their presentation was a deciding factor.
Main thing I took away from this video is have confidence in yourself. For some it may be conforming to how your peers speak and dress, for others it may be enbracing their culture. Either way she changed the way she spoke and dressed in order to have confidence in herself. Nothing wrong with that. Whatever floats your boat or finds your lost remonte
I could guess the bank account within three dollars of those who made the uber critical comments. Most people are poor because they lack focus. Life is not easy...Learn to compete. Sylvia Ann Hewlett has made millions researching what is truth; if you want to be successful.
@@imageadvisorsinternational7935 What a contemptible person you are and you are disgusting thinking poor people are poor because they deserve to be. It isn't a character flaw to be fired at fifty just because you are deemed too old and have to start all over again. Hewlett married a wealthy man who had been married previously. She "worked" as an "economist" in an Ivy League school until she was "denied tenure"-fired-because she in fact "lacked focus." She went into government and didn't really make a "big success" for herself there. She did okay, but she had hubby's income to fall back on "just in case." She wrote books few people read and were infamous for being factually challenged. I doubt she has "made millions." You don't "make millions" pandering to a tiny sector of the working population and have thinly veiled contempt for those who are not in your social class like she does. I personally regard people like you as failures as human beings because of your contempt for the poor.
okay...I SAID THEY LACK FOCUS...CAN YOU NOT READ OR ARE YOU UNFOCUSED? HAHAHAHAH@@ValleyoftheRogue
Funny how comments just prove her being right.
she made me
scared of her creepy smiles occasionally, but her stories are somehow truly inspiring. I have the same problem in verbal communication and I think it goes the same ways as she described. Must try to read her book.
Stop justifying and perpetuating the idea of class discrimination within higher education.
The words Hubris, Ego, Neurotypical, and Homosocial Reproduction (unconscious bias).
If I assume best intentions, I don’t think her research reflects the world we want to live, but rather reflects the Western World (chiefly the US) as it is... with our struggle with having a congruent value system that is anything more than ego-centric, and rife with hubris, privilege, unconscious bias, and only promotes convergent thinking from neurotypical persons. I’m sorry... I don’t want to live in a world like that.
BE GOOD LOOKING. LOOKS MONEY STATUS
GOOD LOOKING SOCIOPATH > AVERAGE LOOKING GUY WITH GREAT IDEAS AND LEADERSHIP TECHNIQUES.
Welcome to the real world
POWER TO SOCIOPATHS!
That's why I am set in life.
Travis Kraft Because you dress like superman?
If you have such great ideas and strong morals, you'll do what needs to be done. Suit up.
I see a lot of people already shooting this video down because of its subliminal elitist notions. And I agree with a lot of them that professionalism is bullshit. The only people who would care about a system like that probably created it or uphold it, for the sake of justifying certain behaviors. But it is also important to remember that certain mannerisms can influence you for the better. Maybe not necessarily being well-spoken or well-dressed, but maybe being well-hearted is what helps you improve. Whatever you do. do it to improve yourself as a person. If being well-spoken and well-dressed is what that means to you, have at it.
In a perfect world:
Want to Lead? Be a Great Leader.
Unfortunately from politics alone we can deduce that this is not the case...
The dishonesty of her smiles makes her statements superfluous.
Her dishonesty goes way back, when she was trashing the women's movement while benefiting from the real gains in the workplace by that very movement. She has shifted her focus somewhat since she cannot identify at all with any women outside her social class (millionaires, big-shot executives).
Well spoken? Of course, but not because you're just "well spoken", more about what that would mean on a deeper level. Well dressed? Arbitrary.
I believe that this woman's point of view encourages more homogeneity and narrows opportunity for people of all backgrounds. I for one feel comfortable wearing ripped up jeans and throwing on a plain t shirt. If I show up this way to an interview however I will be seen as a lazy or rebellious person. The truth is I graduated in the top 10% of my school and am on my way to college. I am also an introverted and quiet person. People would think I have no ambitions and that I prefer to be in the background, the truth is I love being on stage, I've been in two bands so far, and I hope to continue making music in college. Don't let people limit you and what you can accomplish. Go be the first electric guitarist with a PHD in Astrophysics... nevermind, Brian May has done that already :)
She's sumply telling us how to cheat on a rigged test... why the hate? She's 100% right.
I attended the same school as this lady - same class in fact - and I can assure you that it was certainly not a "mediochre" school but one of the best grammar schools one could wish for ... indeed you probably couldn't have had a better education if you had been privately educated. Please do not mislead your readers!
This works...some of the most powerful sociopaths I know are also the best dressed.
Why so many dislikes?
It's the anti-feminist crowd. You'll notice the _dislike_ trend on any video that is somewhat positive towards women or highlights a problem women specifically face.
***** are you serious? it's because she says if you want to be a leader, than don't focus on finding solutions to the problems, focus on how you talk and dress to become a leader.
Tha Halcyon X Thats Big Thinks fault not hers. Shes here to talk about executive presence and communication in leadership (which are still important qualities of a leader)
Randall Gyebi That's the impression I got. She came her and gave her expert advice on leadership presentation and its benefits. Plain and simple. She not giving her ideological stance on qualities of leaders.
Tha Halcyon X that's actually a true fact in life... not the smart ones will be succesfull; the charismatic ones are the winners
I love how she smiles after every sentence
Thank you for Leadership Lessons.
Forget this conformist video and be yourself. How you look and speak are only decorations. If you have a thick accent then keep it. If you have a distinct personality don't throw it away. These are the characteristics you had when you were getting the experience and knowledge over time which amounted to your skills which are, after all, what count. The business and managerial world is built on delusion because, at the end of the day, managers are not necessary and pretentious behavior is their skill set.
Those who build and run the factories are more important and, likewise, a power station worker's attire, accent and boardroom whimsy is not going to get him a job when he has no idea how to stop an arc fault breaker from tripping and causing a hazardous power surge through the electrical system. Likewise a computer programmer's attire and haircut is not going to come into much play when he has to find an error in the thousands of lines of machine code he is compiling into a graphic user interface.
The further away your job is to actual work, the more ways there are to fool yourself from how certain actions are meaningless.
althought I agree with you, you should know better than to post such a lengthy, thought out comment on a youtube comments thread
mitchelnext1 should? youtube etiquette police?
Your point is morally valid, if somewhat idealistic. However, when it comes to filling a management position (particularly one that deals directly with customers and/or outside entities), all qualifications being equal, presentation will always be the deciding factor. This speaker isn't talking about presentation INSTEAD OF qualification; she's talking about presentation IN ADDITION TO qualification.
Muon Ray yeah that's definitely true because I think at the end of the day no matter what kind of style one way you present yourself if it's obvious that you're being yourself and being real people are going to respect you even if that isn't there a particular style of comporting themselves they are going to respect you and see you as being just a genuine person
It's actually condescending and I dare say unhelpful to say this when you already speak in a way that wouldn't be marginalized. It would be more effective and authentic to address those that marginalize.
I'm Welsh and am understandably very upset by this video. No person should have to change their accent/identity to prove the validity of their message. The quality of your word and perspective should supersede any distinctions of class, I do not need to adopt a different accent to pronounce any jargon.
The video is leaving out one very important piece of information. IF YOU DRESS WELL, YOU LOSE WEIGHT. The logic behind this is sound.
I hope that was irony.
All of what she said is true in the corporate world. It's not ideal but its the truth.
The creepiest human being I've ever seen. Her message distils down into 'conform, bitches'.
The last interesting video you guys had was the one about the self identified psychopath; not because it was sensational but because I Actually Learned Something. Which is something rather difficult to come by on this channel, oddly enough. Unsubscribing.
She's right... but I hate that she's right. We've evolved to be extremely good at pattern recognition, which oftentimes results in stereotyping that can be nearly impossible to overcome with objectivity. One truly does need to be well spoken and presentable to be taken seriously, especially in the professional world. I hope that we'll eventually get over these superficial judgments and follow ideas rather than charisma. Until then, brush up on your grammar and buy a nice suit. (Or say fuck everyone and work for yourself)
I see I am not the only one noticing the strange spasmodic smile and look. This lady probably worked very hard to climb up from her working-class background and it had to leave some marks. The "tension" just streams out of her. It's a pity that what she says is quite true and her forced smile is the proof.
She did not come from a working class background. She attended the best Grammar School in Wales. Her father was a lecturer. She pretends that she had to climb that ladder. This person is economical with the truth.
i feel her new book is underway... "the power of smiling"
Dislikers aren't going to be leaders.
how are basic brainwashy corporate tips something good and worth posting on a channel promoting innovative ideas?
Some valuable insights into how to get a foot in the door in the corporate world. Once you're in the top job do whatever you want, change whatever you want. This is how you get there.
She's got the crazy eyes, and that forced smile. The happy ones are the people who are the creepiest.
I don't think so:
The actually happy ones don't have to fake a smile.
Do you have serious communication skills? Can you get your ideas across? Can you be heard? Can you ask the same question three different ways? Can you be redundant? Can you repeat yourself? Can you say what you just said only different?
I agree with the well-spoken part, but Gandhi led an entire nation dressed in commoner's clothing. And he's not some extreme example. In fact many other respected leaders choose not to dress in rich attire and admired for their humility whereas those (many politicians) who flaunt their wealth in expensive designer clothing are met with scorn and perceived as egotistical.
TL:DW: It would be nice if everyone could be accepted purely on meritocracy, but people are shallow and take appearance and your accent and other superficial things very seriously.
There is no such thing as "merit." That is the sad truth about the workplace and in life.
I suggest rather than practicing fake smile and talking big words and complicated theories....
Be yourself and start from there.
being an honest , open and warm personality is what makes you attractive.
Maybe the reason that women often don't make it in the business world is that they aren't seen as equals, don't get taken seriously alot of the time, and are subjected to (subtle) harassments all the time. Or otherwise, toxic masculinity...
I hate these grown-up games so much... Act fake and you get succesvol.
so in india we have some thing called " convent schools" and there students learn english early on . I went to a state school. Excelled in math and science. Many of friends who went to convent school got job early on as they could speak " good english" as many consulting indian company wanted that. I took the hard route. Finished my masters . now doing far better job . also i worked on my communication as its really important to be well spoken so that others can understand you. most convent school friends git burnt out working in indian consulting firms and have stopped working now . Just communication will not help you
Thanks a lotfor sharing your thoughts and personal experiences!
I can resonate with it
Amazing how many people in this comment section miss the point.
Also you need to have the skill to talk almost 6 minutes without telling anything non-obvious besides trying to sell your book.
I dont want to lead anyone and i want no leader either.
I want to get control of my life as much as i can.
I think im competent enough to face the consequences of my actions.
Instead i cant live when others destroy my life every now and then and just raise their hands in the air and say: thats economy mate, sorry.
Big think is another tool in the hands of the corporate world.
Stopped listening at mid video and started reading comments, at least I'm not the only one who think she is creepy
BIG THINK!!! yea right...
This woman thinks being annoying is good, look at this horrible laugh at the end of sentences, a true face a bad liar.
Its Very useful
Being well spoken and well dressed is good if you want to be followed, but not necessarily if you want to lead. Followers can be passive and simply watch you, but if you want to lead, you must have some way of convincing people to change themselves. Helping people change themselves is true leadership. Making a bunch of people follow you without encouraging them to change themselves is false leadership.
What did her tutor say? "I simply sounded un???..."
I didn't understand that word, can anybody help me?
Uncouth. Her worker twang hurt her tutor's poor sensibilities.
Thank you very much! :-)
uncouth, "lacking good manners, refinement, or grace." - wikipedia
supermonkeywtf09 Thank you, too!
I halfway agree. The only reason why I believe she succeeded was because of the confidence she had rounded through her new" high" class accent. If she had this confidence with her accent, she would have still succeeded, truth is truth, no matter the accent.
if i look different from this, people don't accept how i speak either. i'm not enough like you to fit in, and you respond to me trying with fear. i don't want to be like you, and you don't want me to be like you.
Is this suppose to be a "how many times can you smile in under 6mins" world record videos?
It's really unfortunate that our society views certain regional/racial dialects of english as "more sophisticated" than others, and male gendered mannerisms as having "more gravitas" than female mannerisms. I really wish we lived in a world where this video wasn't good advice.
WTF is wrong with you people? Every woman that talks on this channel gets tons of dislikes. Almost every single woman! Misogyny much?
Wrong woman here. The woman is a blatant misogynist. Her anti-feminism goes way, way, way back.
Yes and always smile broadly for no reason.
This lady cares way too much about how she looks. Bernie does not do any of this and he looks like a great leader.
+KhasAdun Bernie dresses well and is well spoken, but I agree that he doesnt care about looking young and she does
The story behind the matter is what it's most important
I have a fear of (potentially mad) dogs that could turn on me in an instant. And I seem to value sincerity and comfort - the sort that doesn't need to look handsome or pretty and that doesn't need to fake a smile.
i can't stand this woman more the a minute. the false speech, tone and gestures make her like comic aristocractic cartoon, like cruella devile of some sort. please go away, bad dream.
Great advice: be rich and lucky enough to have not been born with a lisp or a quiet voice. Yea...those are totally things you have control of. *facepalm* Not to mention her blatant sexism ignoring all of the gender inequality issues at play in the topics she relates to.
Also what's with that creepy smile she gives after each sentence? It's totally creeping me out and it looks intentional.
What happened to you Big Think? You went from making gloriously accurate, progressive, countercultural statements like "Religion is child abuse" to saying backward things like "if you were lucky enough to be born with certain advantages, you'll probably be more successful than those who aren't" Sure, it may be true, but that doesn't make it a good thing that we should be promoting. We should be addressing the real social problems that lead to such inequality rather than pretending that anyone can make it if they just mold themselves enough.
I think her rules only apply to the field/layer where she works/lives in. And they're very shallow and fake apparently...
If she told me what to do I would immediately ignore it.
Some really idiotic comments. If you've ever worked at executive level in the corporate world, or aspire to, this is gold. Honestly.
People usually squint their eyes to some degree when they smile legitimatley.
I agree it's good advice, but since the boy's club at the top is well documented as strongly sharing traits with psychopaths, is this really the game we want women to play? I'd much rather see women changing the rules altogether and disrupting the club than becoming female copies.
Ray Walker for the win!
Before Sylvia does another video, she needs to look at herself in playback. She violates every single point of her video.
This is only applicable in a domain that prioritizes these as important.
Made me think of how WELL DRESSED GHANDI was.
I was also taught to smile a lot. Fake smile are necessary. I hate faking smiles.
very enjoyable
Sadly enough most of what she says is true in today's world. If you're good looking, well postured, and don't sound like a complete idiot when you open your mouth, you'll most likely get much further ahead than the hard working, dedicated, intelligent, loyal one. If you don't believe me; look around specially if you work in an office. Sit back and observe your surroundings; you probably haven't noticed because you're the hard working one.
Being good looking and well postured doesn't prevent you from working hard.
Evoletization He didn't say that, he implicates that people get discriminated by looks in sectors where looks shouldn't matter ( in modelling and such it of course does matter). Big think should, in stead of self help videos like this there are other places for these kind of videos, talk about how to resolve the problem of discrimination cause of looks and other factors.
Lieven De Langhe Discrimination of people who happen to be lazy would be quite interesting. It's like being ugly, you can't do much to change that, yet it's seen as a guilt.
I think that it's a shame that someone as intelligent and hardworking as this woman presented herself to be felt the need to change the way she spoke to be taken seriously by a "higher class" of people.
I generally don't believe that lizard people live amongst us. But if I did, this would be one of them.
Dat gravitASS.
Everything you said was true..I have experienced it
Clothes don't make the leader and action is superior to talking. People might have prejudgments but underestimating and marginalizing workers is fatal.
What is she talking about? Its obvious why women wasn't becoming bosses, they was called bossy when they was kids.
Smiles hide lies the better than frowns
Isn't it impossible for the regular human( with a regular brain) to fake a smile, since your brain doesn't know the difference?
You can fake a genuine smile with practice.
We talkin bout practice??
I'm suppose to be the franchise player on this team, nd we talkin bout practice
Want to lead? Lead by example.
I just don't want to have to do stuff other people force me to and that gets me into deep shit.
Women aren't lacking EP, these men simply don't want any "rumors" about them and etc. You know what I'm talking about. Example: Bill Clinton
Amaazing!
She's awesome
This is so antiquated. Anyone working in the tech industry knows that this kind of behavior is almost unkown in that industry, and everything works just fine. Ideas lead, personality works on the sales floor.
Utter rubbish. Buying a tailor made suit, speech improvement lessons and learning how to think 3 steps in front of your opponent does not make you a great leader.
If you want to lead, you need to concentrate less on your 'self' and more on how you make others feel. This means you have to listen and empathize with them.
This is where it gets difficult for most, they are so worried about their own 'self' because they carry so much 'mental baggage' that they are unable to listen 100% to someone else. People don't trust them.
It's about authenticity.
People want leaders they can trust and this wasn't captured in this video.
denis mv yeah definitely, I cannot believe this lady if it actually spoke at google whatever they paid her to do the seminar she did they got ripped off LOL
She seems like she should be in straitjacket.
I hope to see a president tatted up and pierced someday...
Title should be: "Want to lead? Be well spoken and, well, dressed. Just have some clothes on. Even if you're a stripper. Always works better to start out these things with duds on."
Alternatively: everyone behave as they see fit, and the world will be a much more human and far less corporate place.
My teacher said i was well spoken :)
Think according to the herd moral etiquette. Bravo.
scribed to hear ideas that break the status quo now idea to fit into the
This woman represents the stupidity of the most people who want to do / or who r in business because of their egoistic and (not really obvious but it is) soiciopathic behavior. pls create a seperate country 4 such people and get all in there. would make us happy and them probably aswell.
It exists... it's called America. That's where all the sociopaths flock to. Makes the rest of the first world much easier to live in.
A good leader doesn't have to follow these bullshit rules because they have good ideas and can work toward seeing them through.
Still waiting to see an intelligent woman CEO in hoodie to prove her wrong/or rather 'to witness the change'
So your advice is to conform. Yeah, thanks.